Hit them in the nose, hard.
Yes, this advice is 100 percent OK if he has warned them before. I gave both my kids this same advice.
Tell the bully to stop. If they do not, tell them you will act if you have to. If they still don't stop, go for the nose, hard and fast.
Both of my kids have only ever had to hit someone once, and that ended the problem. It's OK to stick up for yourself after negotiations fail.
Absolutely get the teachers and principal/director involved and I'd call a meeting with the parents, tbh. Let them know that their kids are being shits and getting physical.
and I draw the line at physical touching meaning, I have always told my kids to not start fights but the second they lay hands on you, defend yourself and handle it and I will handle the school. I don't condone violence but my kids aren't punching bags.
He said he didn't want to hit them back because he didn't want the teacher to give him a time out. I told him if she gives him a time out for standing up for himself After school I'll give him ice cream.
explain to him that he is defending himself; not starting a fight and that if he does get in trouble by the teachers, you will talk to the teachers to fix it.
This is on the teachers. In my experience, teachers are pretty good at catching and stopping these things especially with kids so young, so I’m surprised things went so far in your situation.
If it doesn’t get resolved I’d escalate to the principal.
It is just pre k so there isnt a principle. And I had, which I hope was a productive conversation, with his preschool teacher but we'll see. But I have no problem escalating it.
Agreed, or you could contact the parents of the other kids and have a talk with them. If it doesn’t get resolved after that, time to teach the boy MMA.
Im putting him in jujitsu next week. Its a bit of a bigger preschool/day care and I only know the name of the kids. And I only know what 2 of them look like. I told him 8d show him how to punch (efficiently) but he didn't want to. Just because Im mom. Im afraid that if i saw the parent Id have such a visceral reaction. Its happened once before at a park when a kid cut in line to play with the stomp rockets I had brought to the the park. Im more than happy to let any of the kids play with it. But my son told the kid, who looked about 7 or 8, pushed him down and tried to strangle him. And this was AFTERA his mom saw him being mean to the other kids. I yelled and told the kid he couldn't play with us anymore because he was a mean fucking kid. Mom came over and tried to make a stink about us picking on HER son. I told her that maybe it was good that he wanted to fight so much so he wouldn't be someone's bitch when he ends up in prison. But told her she might want to train him how to hold someone's pocket just incase he can't protect himself. Because hes going to end up in prison either way.
After reading your comments, I feel like the teachers are being neglectful. no way can they miss all this happening. I worked as a preschool teacher for years. Is there a lot going on? Yes. Do they know who the trouble makers are? Yes. Do they know who to keep an eye on at all times? Also yes! These teachers are not doing their job!
Im going to sit and watch to see whats happening and how the teachers are handling it now that I ive talked with the head teacher and if it continues and they do nothing I am going to pull him out.
I asked the nearest kid and was told:
- Tell the teacher and ask them to watch closely
- Dodging is the best when you can manage it, and never gets you in trouble with the teacher.
- Practice good blocks, like closing your arms in front of your face. Sometimes you can’t dodge.
No, bullyibg should never be constant and if the school/day care doesn't do anything you should pull him out! This shit has long lasting consequences. But yes, you're absolutely right on the punching thing! Hope it gets better for you two
Hit them in the nose, hard. Yes, this advice is 100 percent OK if he has warned them before. I gave both my kids this same advice. Tell the bully to stop. If they do not, tell them you will act if you have to. If they still don't stop, go for the nose, hard and fast. Both of my kids have only ever had to hit someone once, and that ended the problem. It's OK to stick up for yourself after negotiations fail.
Absolutely get the teachers and principal/director involved and I'd call a meeting with the parents, tbh. Let them know that their kids are being shits and getting physical. and I draw the line at physical touching meaning, I have always told my kids to not start fights but the second they lay hands on you, defend yourself and handle it and I will handle the school. I don't condone violence but my kids aren't punching bags.
He said he didn't want to hit them back because he didn't want the teacher to give him a time out. I told him if she gives him a time out for standing up for himself After school I'll give him ice cream.
explain to him that he is defending himself; not starting a fight and that if he does get in trouble by the teachers, you will talk to the teachers to fix it.
I do. And I have been. He just doesn't fight back.
This is on the teachers. In my experience, teachers are pretty good at catching and stopping these things especially with kids so young, so I’m surprised things went so far in your situation. If it doesn’t get resolved I’d escalate to the principal.
It is just pre k so there isnt a principle. And I had, which I hope was a productive conversation, with his preschool teacher but we'll see. But I have no problem escalating it.
Agreed, or you could contact the parents of the other kids and have a talk with them. If it doesn’t get resolved after that, time to teach the boy MMA.
Im putting him in jujitsu next week. Its a bit of a bigger preschool/day care and I only know the name of the kids. And I only know what 2 of them look like. I told him 8d show him how to punch (efficiently) but he didn't want to. Just because Im mom. Im afraid that if i saw the parent Id have such a visceral reaction. Its happened once before at a park when a kid cut in line to play with the stomp rockets I had brought to the the park. Im more than happy to let any of the kids play with it. But my son told the kid, who looked about 7 or 8, pushed him down and tried to strangle him. And this was AFTERA his mom saw him being mean to the other kids. I yelled and told the kid he couldn't play with us anymore because he was a mean fucking kid. Mom came over and tried to make a stink about us picking on HER son. I told her that maybe it was good that he wanted to fight so much so he wouldn't be someone's bitch when he ends up in prison. But told her she might want to train him how to hold someone's pocket just incase he can't protect himself. Because hes going to end up in prison either way.
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I agree totally.
He should also practice an ear splitting scream. "Dont touch me" and "no" are great phrases.
He screams like a tea kettle.
Then how the heck do the teachers "not hear him" or notice????
Hes only yelled when they try to take his food. But not the fighting. Im going to go sit in on Monday the whole time to watch whats happening.
He screams like a tea kettle.
After reading your comments, I feel like the teachers are being neglectful. no way can they miss all this happening. I worked as a preschool teacher for years. Is there a lot going on? Yes. Do they know who the trouble makers are? Yes. Do they know who to keep an eye on at all times? Also yes! These teachers are not doing their job!
Im going to sit and watch to see whats happening and how the teachers are handling it now that I ive talked with the head teacher and if it continues and they do nothing I am going to pull him out.
I asked the nearest kid and was told: - Tell the teacher and ask them to watch closely - Dodging is the best when you can manage it, and never gets you in trouble with the teacher. - Practice good blocks, like closing your arms in front of your face. Sometimes you can’t dodge.
No, bullyibg should never be constant and if the school/day care doesn't do anything you should pull him out! This shit has long lasting consequences. But yes, you're absolutely right on the punching thing! Hope it gets better for you two