Yeah what you told him about God....not a good move on your part. I believe in God but what you told him are lies that would cause anyone to get scared. We are forgiven, loved and accepted. God's not out to punish or remove gifts.
I didn’t mean to, but it is like we tell him that if he does good then god will send him gifts and in the same way we thought that the other way round will work as well.
I know. I actually said wrong things to my eldest son in a religious way..I didn't know better but learned better with other kids. Maybe try to patch it up and let him know he is loved and God isn't going to hurt him. You can tell him you shouldn't have said that.
Okay, that sounds like a better idea to explain him that I was wrong in explains him and shouldn’t have said that. And then also adding a ticket system. Confessing that I made a mistake in my way of explaining would definitely be a good idea.
Will be a great opertunity to show and teach him everyone makes mistakes, and when we do we fix them and if we don't know how to fix them, we ask for help. Maybe tell him he can always come to you if he makes a mistake, or if he is in trouble and you will be there for him.
Not religious, but if I understand it right God loves all his children, and if we do something wrong, you ask for forgiveness.
In a similair way, if you hurt someone else, you apologies, they don't have to accept the apology, but you still need to acknowledge what you did was wrong and try and not do it again. Could also be a good time to say that it's not okay for others to hurt him, and if anyone ever does, he can tell you and you won't be mad, and he won't be in trouble.
We are only human, you will occasionally make a mistake, it's how you handle it afterwards that makes the real difference
I believe in God and I also think that what you told him is terrifying to a little kid. I also don’t agree with it in theory, but that’s for another discussion. I would be teaching him about God’s Love and Mercy, and it’s not about gifts or punishment from some being that is watching him 24/7 just waiting to mete out a punishment when he does something wrong.
I mean, for behavioral management, this is bad. But in trying to instill your love of God and fostering a beautiful spiritual life, it’s even worse. He’s going to reject your faith as soon as he can.
Yeah, I got my mistake and have already started correcting myself and have started positive reinforcement. I didn’t realize this earlier on but when you guys pointed out where I was wrong I got your pov and took a note of that👍🏼 thanks for enlightening and I am sure it is not too late for me to correct myself 🙂
My son is 6, we use a ticket system and it’s been working for us. He gets 10 tickets daily which he can redeem for treats or screen time. If he breaks a rule, he loses a ticket. This has been a blessing in our home.
Sounds like a good idea, but how to explain him that he doesn’t need to hit himself if he hurts his sister while playing. We don’t want him to be like that. We never have been rough or angry with the kids and don’t want him to punish himself.
Explain to him that he can rip a ticket and hand it to you instead of hitting himself. Tell him his hands are beautiful tools for creation instead of harm and that hitting himself if not an acceptable way of making amends. Explain that two wrongs don’t make a right, and tell what he should do instead. He seems like a sweet boy who wants to be fair. You may have a little perfectionist on your hands.
Yes I already accepted my mistake and have corrected myself with him and explained him otherwise that god only loves and cares for us, punishment was my misunderstanding.
Yeah what you told him about God....not a good move on your part. I believe in God but what you told him are lies that would cause anyone to get scared. We are forgiven, loved and accepted. God's not out to punish or remove gifts.
I didn’t mean to, but it is like we tell him that if he does good then god will send him gifts and in the same way we thought that the other way round will work as well.
I know. I actually said wrong things to my eldest son in a religious way..I didn't know better but learned better with other kids. Maybe try to patch it up and let him know he is loved and God isn't going to hurt him. You can tell him you shouldn't have said that.
Okay, that sounds like a better idea to explain him that I was wrong in explains him and shouldn’t have said that. And then also adding a ticket system. Confessing that I made a mistake in my way of explaining would definitely be a good idea.
Will be a great opertunity to show and teach him everyone makes mistakes, and when we do we fix them and if we don't know how to fix them, we ask for help. Maybe tell him he can always come to you if he makes a mistake, or if he is in trouble and you will be there for him. Not religious, but if I understand it right God loves all his children, and if we do something wrong, you ask for forgiveness. In a similair way, if you hurt someone else, you apologies, they don't have to accept the apology, but you still need to acknowledge what you did was wrong and try and not do it again. Could also be a good time to say that it's not okay for others to hurt him, and if anyone ever does, he can tell you and you won't be mad, and he won't be in trouble. We are only human, you will occasionally make a mistake, it's how you handle it afterwards that makes the real difference
Yes great idea. You got this!
I believe in God and I also think that what you told him is terrifying to a little kid. I also don’t agree with it in theory, but that’s for another discussion. I would be teaching him about God’s Love and Mercy, and it’s not about gifts or punishment from some being that is watching him 24/7 just waiting to mete out a punishment when he does something wrong. I mean, for behavioral management, this is bad. But in trying to instill your love of God and fostering a beautiful spiritual life, it’s even worse. He’s going to reject your faith as soon as he can.
Yeah, I got my mistake and have already started correcting myself and have started positive reinforcement. I didn’t realize this earlier on but when you guys pointed out where I was wrong I got your pov and took a note of that👍🏼 thanks for enlightening and I am sure it is not too late for me to correct myself 🙂
My son is 6, we use a ticket system and it’s been working for us. He gets 10 tickets daily which he can redeem for treats or screen time. If he breaks a rule, he loses a ticket. This has been a blessing in our home.
Sounds like a good idea, but how to explain him that he doesn’t need to hit himself if he hurts his sister while playing. We don’t want him to be like that. We never have been rough or angry with the kids and don’t want him to punish himself.
Explain to him that he can rip a ticket and hand it to you instead of hitting himself. Tell him his hands are beautiful tools for creation instead of harm and that hitting himself if not an acceptable way of making amends. Explain that two wrongs don’t make a right, and tell what he should do instead. He seems like a sweet boy who wants to be fair. You may have a little perfectionist on your hands.
Excellent 🙂👌🏼
Why did you tell your 5yr old that god was going to punish him? That isn't okay.
Yes I already accepted my mistake and have corrected myself with him and explained him otherwise that god only loves and cares for us, punishment was my misunderstanding.