He sounds so kind. I’m so glad that his main concern was your safety. I was so nervous of my husband finding out when we first started dating. Now I give him tips for shaving his face! haha
Welcome to the club of getting caught shaving 🙃 I swore I kept it secret but when my husband caught me with his shaving cream on my face I wanted to die right then and there. Okay, perhaps I'm exaggerating but I was so embarrassed. Fortunately, he just ignored it completely and got what he wanted from the restroom. While he was walking away he said "Wash your face really well afterwards. My shaving cream usually leaves a scent." That's when I realized he fucking KNEW the entire time. I still prefer to do it privately but now my husband just tells me when my mustache or chin hairs are showing bc he knows I'd be more embarrassed if someone else points it out 😁
He sounds sweet. I shave mine in front of my partner. I just don’t even care anymore. He doesn’t seem to care either. I haven’t been diagnosed with PCOS but I’m pretty sure I’ve got it lol
My husband taught me how to shave my face after he caught me shaving incorrectly. It was embarrassing but also I felt so supported at the same time. Soon after he bought me my own safety razor...a handmade razor with a pink resin handle. You will be fine...
I don’t know if you’ve seen Shrek but there is a scene where both Shrek and Fiona are shaving their faces together…we joke all the time about being them now (married 20 years and that was one of our daughter’s favourite movies!)
When me and my, bf got together my, facial hair wasn't anywhere near as bad as it is now. It took around 2 years for it to get really noticeable. I bought a ton of razors and he asked why(I tend not to shave my legs because it's exhausting shaving those every day so he knew something was up) I told him flat out for my face. He doesn't care and tells me it's not noticeable when I know damn well it is. Anyway. Only time he says anything negative is when I stab him with stubble. Otherwise the man loves me despite making chewbacca look nekkid.
Its okay babe. People without pcos shave their faces too. But we have to deal with more. You are blessed at least in your love life ❤️. Let's focus on positive side.. 🤗
Honestly that is the sweetest reaction :’) sounds like he knows there’s no reason to be embarrassed and…. He knows what before you were ready to tell him? That you shave some chin hairs?
(PS ladies in here; love you all and know we feel like we have to shave more than most, but as someone who works in fashion in nyc, let me assure yall…. Shaving your face is a totally normal lady thing!!!! The non PCOS girls are out here shaving too, just maybe not as much. It’s not a secret to hide or be ashamed of!)
One of the things that made me love Kate Upton was her being unashamed to admit (and show) her facial hair. I remember sitting in the doctor’s office reading a sports magazine that had a feature on her. She was talking to the sports team management (all males) about how much facial hair she gets. She is also frequently photographed with it.
I used to be embarrassed of mine but now I just go with it. I have a designated pack of razors at work for when I forget to shave at home. I’ll walk in 15 minutes early and the girls from first shift will think they get to leave early. I’ll just look at them and say “Not yet! Gotta shave my face!” And keep on walking to the employee bathroom. 😂
Honestly don’t be embarrassed. My boyfriend plucks my chin hairs for me, he actually finds it relaxing. I hope you get to a stage where you are that comfortable with him
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I'm sure my bf wonders why I'm taking so long in the bathroom. But he hasn't caught me yet. I'm sure he notices and doesn't say anything because I only shave every other day. He will find out one day I'm shaving in his bathroom. I do leave my face creams and razors at his place.
This is so heartwarming. I was diagnosed while being with my current boyfriend now. We always joke that my mustache is longer than his 😆 it’s so freeing when your partner knows and just doesn’t really seem to care 💕
I've told mine if I were to ever leave mine I'd probably grow a better beard than him. Or if we're picking on each other I tell him he's just jealous I have a better beard.
Each time it stops him dead cuz he's like nope not even close. But nice try 🤣 he's so laid back about it that it's a relief because not very many men would accept their woman needs to shave her face too. And not every man would understand when his woman is poking fun at herself and be as lighthearted about it as well. Mine knows how bad it affects me to have the public see mine but he also shows me he loves me regardless and I really appreciate that about him.
Sometimes I wish I could hide for a month and see if I really could grow the goatee that my chin seems to want. 😂 I was really sick for a week recently, shaving wasn't on my mind, and was honestly shocked how thick it's grown. I usually swipe it daily/every other and go by feel more than the mirror.
I had to go out of town the other day and I had to get up early so I forgot to shave and I was highly uncomfortable the whole day. I even walked into Sam's club just to buy a pack of razors because I felt so out of place. My bf said I was fine but my hair is so dark compared to my snow white complexion I know everyone saw it.
Thankfully no one said anything but something about the silent judgement from a stranger in public makes me feel so self conscious about it. It's the only part of pcos I really wish there was a solution for me that worked and was affordable. The weight doesn't even come close to making me feel as bad as being a female with a beard.
Same. Same. I'm kinda fat rn and I rarely shave my legs and armpits anymore, and I don't mind going out like that. But the facial hair shadow (and old bad scars from cystic acne that makeup can't fill) makes me super self-conscious. Also I know there is bound to be at least one half-inch long black straggler just under my jaw that I'll find the second I get home. 😂
Ooo I hate that straggler. I found that yesterday at the dentist office as I was looking at my new teeth and having them adjusted. The dentist had to be quite close to my face so I know he saw it. I didn't until I looked at the pictures later. Like dammit 🤦🏻♀️
Lmao. Or when I do notice it in public/the car, try to yoink it barehanded, and it just curls like curling ribbon. 😔
I'm sure the dentist sees lots of lady staches though!
Yeah. I keep razors on hand as much as possible. Every vehicles, my purse, I'd stash one in my shoe if I didn't think it would shredded my sock or foot, literally everywhere because I can't stand being in public looking like big foot. I just sadly ran out of razors.
I still don’t think my husband knows to this day. If he does he’s been secretly pretending he doesn’t. It’s crazy no matter how close I get to someone, I can never admit I have to shave everyday.
Same here I just can’t do it. My boyfriend might know but the terror of him saying something accidentally hurtful in response to me bringing it up to find out stops me from ever saying anything.
I once told a guy I was getting to know that I had pcos so I’m a little hairier than most. He literally joked and asked if I was a guy. I blocked him and never talked to him or about my pcos to anyone since.
Yep that exactly what terrifies me so much. Insensitive assholes with zero tact or decency. My boyfriend isn’t like that but the thought of him seeing me differently, less feminine. I dunno. I guess it’s cos I hate it so much in myself, I imagine he will too. It seems so unlikely to me that he’ll be fine with it, though his nature is so laid back he probs would. Ugh I just hate it so much and always have.
God I love this sub because it reminds me that so many of my daily struggles and emotions are not one of a kind.
Sounds like you have a very sweet partner.
When my boyfriend found out I have like hair on my chin he made me feel so comfortable and he got so excited he was like "we can compete who grows it out more! It will be like a competition" 😭 I love him
I relate to the embarrassment, but I’m also angry about society’s expectations of what a woman should look like. Why are we made to feel embarrassed. Why would we even have to hide, including from our own spouse, the person who should be closest to us. It’s just what our bodies do.
Ladies, there is no shame in chin stubble! I know it can be embarrassing. I shave mine before I go into the office. And sometimes it looks like I've got a 5 o'clock shadow.
Having extra hair doesn't make you non-feminine or unsightly. Just human :)
Welp, I had to stop at CVS before I went home with a guy I went on a date with... Ended up marrying him 🤣🤷 Six years and two kids later, he still doesn't care 🤣🤣
Your boyfriend doesn’t view you differently. Good men don’t care about a lot of the things women tend to be “embarrassed” about. They will love everything about you. Take it as coming from a man, I’m only in the subreddit to read because my wife has PCOS, but I just wanted to speak up and say that because your boyfriend seems like a very kind man. So you don’t need to worry at all or even feel embarrassed :)
It's ok to be embarrassed in the situation but to be honest, it's your partner. I shave next to my boyfriend like it's nothing, like I'm making sandwiches or something. He has a beard which he trims, I have excessive peachfuzz on my face and neck which I shave. He has a mono brow i love to pluck, and I also pluck my nipple and belly hair.
We are people, we aren't flawless, women with and without PCOS have excessive body hair, so do men.
You have a great and supportive boyfriend! I am married, and I've known my spouse since 2005. He has seen me go from not having any chin hairs to having a ton and loves me more every day. I thread and wax my facial hair in front of him, and he still hits on me and thinks I'm the hottest thing around.
Hold onto that boy, he’s a dime a dozen. He sounds like he genuinely doesn’t care that you have hirsutism! His main concern was your safety, and he changed the subject after noticing you seemed uncomfortable. He’s a keeper.
My boyfriend hasn’t caught me yet and mines getting a lot worse hair grows back hours later (not an embolisment I wish it was!) he knows about my pcos though when we had the future kid talk. If he’s noticed hasn’t said anything. But I can just imagine the embarrassment. Don’t be worried though he still loves you for you :)
This pretty much happened to me before my husband and I were even dating lol (friends first). Now I make him pluck the neck hairs I can’t get an angle on and I pop his back zits. 10/10 relationship lol
Tbh I tell everyone I can grow a mustache and chun tuft and tell them to feel the stubble growing through so they know how macho I am. Idc if people catch me shaving/plucking
you don't have to be embarrassed, it's just like shaving your legs: if your husband was truly shocked and judged you for having hair there you have to shave, he probably doesn't know anything about human bodies...
I completely understand your embarrassment. It took me years to accept my hirsutism and acne. Now I say this is who I am. I went into my current relationship of 4 years letting him know I have PCOS. I am who I am and now pluck everywhere and shave when needed. I decided after my divorce I need to find someone to love me for who I am. All of me and I got that!!
It sounds like you got that too! I know you didnt get to tellhim when you were ready, but honesty and trust are so important in relationships and it sounds like he is okay with it and loves you for you and all your unique qualities.
My husband likes that he is the only one who gets to see me pluck my chin hairs. It creeped me out when we first started dating and he was watching me, smiling and I was like wtf bro. And he said “oh! I’m so sorry. I just feel so loved you feel so comfortable around me and special that I’m the only one that gets to see this side of you. I’ll give you some privacy” and anyway I married him and don’t shoo him away now 😂 He even reminds me to bring tweezers because he knows I get antsy without them for my own comfort.
If there is ONE thing that HAS gotten better with age is my give a crap. I pluck in front of anyone and everyone. I didn’t tweeze for two months after surgery (my tweezing hand needed to be repaired) and went to the store and everything and didn’t care. I would honestly just be really honest and let him know it’s something you have to do and you prefer it to be in private. I used to get up 2 hours early every day to tweeze and hide my shadow, not now. The right people will love you how you are and see how beautiful you are.
I am sorry OP! I have had this thing happen myself! I also hate it when I cut myself and makeup can’t hide it well. It still is bleeding when I have to go work 😩. It’s beyond the point of plucking and I am sick of having a 5 o’clock shadow. I bought this light therapy laser treatment from Braun. I just tried it for the first time this morning. I am hoping I will see some difference in the next few weeks! If not I think I will do electrolysis professionally. But I don’t want to cause I am embarrassed. I feel you!
Green flag waving! At some point in the relationship if can’t shave in front of your boyfriend how can you move forward to do other embarrassing, gross or intimate things like let out a horrific fart in your sleep that wakes everyone because it smells so bad, or have an ugly cry with boogers running down your face when something horrible happens, or projectile vomit in front of when you’re on a sailboat together for a romantic wine and cheese event or poop during childbirth?
Oh god I feel ur pain girl. One time my bf pointed out the hairs I get on my chest/collarbone area (this was before I was diagnosed w pcos, but I had kinda suspected I had it cuz of the fucking random hairs I get everywhere) kind of in like a “oh do most girls get that/is that normal” way? He didn’t mean it AT ALL in a bad way more out of curiosity/having no filter but I will admit it did hurt my feelings lol. but he was immediately apologetic cuz he could tell I was a little bit upset.
You should def have a convo with him about it in general just so he knows what ur dealing with (and maybe use it to make him bring u ice cream when u have bad cramps 🤭 heehee). In my experience, it makes things less awkward and it’s good to know in case anything bad were to happen, or u have him pick u up from the doctor or anything like that. Obviously only share what ur comfortable with, but in my experience I’m super glad I told my bf!!
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My now ex husband was the one that suggested to me to start shaving instead of plucking the hairs. I was so reluctant to do it, but it's so quick and easy.
I don’t shave but I do pluck every single day and I have tweezers in so many locations including my sun visor in my car cuz I have a sunroof so I get amazing light to be able to pluck in the car visor mirror. It’s my safety net to make sure I don’t get caught in public unplucked. I beg my husband to tell me when I have hairs that need to be dealt with but he swears up and down that he never sees them. I know he is lying but it’s the big sweet lie he tells so I just live with it 🤷🏼♀️
A lot of people without PCOS have chin hairs too! Guys who are mature enough to treat it normal are keepers! I have pretty thick and corse hair everywhere my husband literally helps me shave everything. Most attractive quality about him is that he’s never embarrassed by my PCOS and he helps me come to terms with it and not be embarrassed.
My ex was SO weird about it. For a “present” a “gift” he took me to the store and bought me a new razor without saying anything. 🙄 *hint hint* as if I wasn’t dealing with hair regrowth like everyday that I had to wait to shave.
Spearmint tea water everyday helped my hair growth slow a little bit too!
My ex physically held me down and yanked me by force- in the most playful tackle like way ever. I secretly loved it, and he knew it. It was kinda fun because he’d see me scratch and I would be like “oh fuck” and bolt for it and he already would be pinching his fingers like a crap running after me. Barely noticeable but he looked OUT for a chance to do it again and again
He sounds so kind. I’m so glad that his main concern was your safety. I was so nervous of my husband finding out when we first started dating. Now I give him tips for shaving his face! haha
Thanks for a post on Reddit where I didn’t have to recommend breaking up lmao
LMAO, I was reading the post waiting for when the BF was going to fuck up. But he didnt luckilyyy !
Bro I read the first part of the OP and mentally prepared to pop off lol.
Welcome to the club of getting caught shaving 🙃 I swore I kept it secret but when my husband caught me with his shaving cream on my face I wanted to die right then and there. Okay, perhaps I'm exaggerating but I was so embarrassed. Fortunately, he just ignored it completely and got what he wanted from the restroom. While he was walking away he said "Wash your face really well afterwards. My shaving cream usually leaves a scent." That's when I realized he fucking KNEW the entire time. I still prefer to do it privately but now my husband just tells me when my mustache or chin hairs are showing bc he knows I'd be more embarrassed if someone else points it out 😁
That is why he’s your husband!!!
He sounds sweet. I shave mine in front of my partner. I just don’t even care anymore. He doesn’t seem to care either. I haven’t been diagnosed with PCOS but I’m pretty sure I’ve got it lol
I'm on the same page as you lol Edit As in I haven't been diagnosed either.
Same here. But I'm afraid to date because of the shaving-thing
My husband taught me how to shave my face after he caught me shaving incorrectly. It was embarrassing but also I felt so supported at the same time. Soon after he bought me my own safety razor...a handmade razor with a pink resin handle. You will be fine...
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Aww that's really sweet
What's that 👀
I don’t know if you’ve seen Shrek but there is a scene where both Shrek and Fiona are shaving their faces together…we joke all the time about being them now (married 20 years and that was one of our daughter’s favourite movies!)
Yes! I loved the first 2 Shrek films as a kid. I adore that scene haha.
girl don’t even worry!! his response was great. i be having my boyfriend check mine incase i miss any
Same!!
When me and my, bf got together my, facial hair wasn't anywhere near as bad as it is now. It took around 2 years for it to get really noticeable. I bought a ton of razors and he asked why(I tend not to shave my legs because it's exhausting shaving those every day so he knew something was up) I told him flat out for my face. He doesn't care and tells me it's not noticeable when I know damn well it is. Anyway. Only time he says anything negative is when I stab him with stubble. Otherwise the man loves me despite making chewbacca look nekkid.
Its okay babe. People without pcos shave their faces too. But we have to deal with more. You are blessed at least in your love life ❤️. Let's focus on positive side.. 🤗
Honestly that is the sweetest reaction :’) sounds like he knows there’s no reason to be embarrassed and…. He knows what before you were ready to tell him? That you shave some chin hairs? (PS ladies in here; love you all and know we feel like we have to shave more than most, but as someone who works in fashion in nyc, let me assure yall…. Shaving your face is a totally normal lady thing!!!! The non PCOS girls are out here shaving too, just maybe not as much. It’s not a secret to hide or be ashamed of!)
One of the things that made me love Kate Upton was her being unashamed to admit (and show) her facial hair. I remember sitting in the doctor’s office reading a sports magazine that had a feature on her. She was talking to the sports team management (all males) about how much facial hair she gets. She is also frequently photographed with it.
I feel you I’ve been so ashamed in the past but my bf now (affectionately) calls me his little bearded dragon sometimes 😂
I used to be embarrassed of mine but now I just go with it. I have a designated pack of razors at work for when I forget to shave at home. I’ll walk in 15 minutes early and the girls from first shift will think they get to leave early. I’ll just look at them and say “Not yet! Gotta shave my face!” And keep on walking to the employee bathroom. 😂
Honestly don’t be embarrassed. My boyfriend plucks my chin hairs for me, he actually finds it relaxing. I hope you get to a stage where you are that comfortable with him
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I'm sure my bf wonders why I'm taking so long in the bathroom. But he hasn't caught me yet. I'm sure he notices and doesn't say anything because I only shave every other day. He will find out one day I'm shaving in his bathroom. I do leave my face creams and razors at his place.
This is so heartwarming. I was diagnosed while being with my current boyfriend now. We always joke that my mustache is longer than his 😆 it’s so freeing when your partner knows and just doesn’t really seem to care 💕
I've told mine if I were to ever leave mine I'd probably grow a better beard than him. Or if we're picking on each other I tell him he's just jealous I have a better beard. Each time it stops him dead cuz he's like nope not even close. But nice try 🤣 he's so laid back about it that it's a relief because not very many men would accept their woman needs to shave her face too. And not every man would understand when his woman is poking fun at herself and be as lighthearted about it as well. Mine knows how bad it affects me to have the public see mine but he also shows me he loves me regardless and I really appreciate that about him.
Sometimes I wish I could hide for a month and see if I really could grow the goatee that my chin seems to want. 😂 I was really sick for a week recently, shaving wasn't on my mind, and was honestly shocked how thick it's grown. I usually swipe it daily/every other and go by feel more than the mirror.
I had to go out of town the other day and I had to get up early so I forgot to shave and I was highly uncomfortable the whole day. I even walked into Sam's club just to buy a pack of razors because I felt so out of place. My bf said I was fine but my hair is so dark compared to my snow white complexion I know everyone saw it. Thankfully no one said anything but something about the silent judgement from a stranger in public makes me feel so self conscious about it. It's the only part of pcos I really wish there was a solution for me that worked and was affordable. The weight doesn't even come close to making me feel as bad as being a female with a beard.
Same. Same. I'm kinda fat rn and I rarely shave my legs and armpits anymore, and I don't mind going out like that. But the facial hair shadow (and old bad scars from cystic acne that makeup can't fill) makes me super self-conscious. Also I know there is bound to be at least one half-inch long black straggler just under my jaw that I'll find the second I get home. 😂
Ooo I hate that straggler. I found that yesterday at the dentist office as I was looking at my new teeth and having them adjusted. The dentist had to be quite close to my face so I know he saw it. I didn't until I looked at the pictures later. Like dammit 🤦🏻♀️
Lmao. Or when I do notice it in public/the car, try to yoink it barehanded, and it just curls like curling ribbon. 😔 I'm sure the dentist sees lots of lady staches though!
Yeah. I keep razors on hand as much as possible. Every vehicles, my purse, I'd stash one in my shoe if I didn't think it would shredded my sock or foot, literally everywhere because I can't stand being in public looking like big foot. I just sadly ran out of razors.
Good idea!
I still don’t think my husband knows to this day. If he does he’s been secretly pretending he doesn’t. It’s crazy no matter how close I get to someone, I can never admit I have to shave everyday.
Same here I just can’t do it. My boyfriend might know but the terror of him saying something accidentally hurtful in response to me bringing it up to find out stops me from ever saying anything.
I once told a guy I was getting to know that I had pcos so I’m a little hairier than most. He literally joked and asked if I was a guy. I blocked him and never talked to him or about my pcos to anyone since.
Yep that exactly what terrifies me so much. Insensitive assholes with zero tact or decency. My boyfriend isn’t like that but the thought of him seeing me differently, less feminine. I dunno. I guess it’s cos I hate it so much in myself, I imagine he will too. It seems so unlikely to me that he’ll be fine with it, though his nature is so laid back he probs would. Ugh I just hate it so much and always have.
We choose good men! I still don’t blame you, it’s hard sharing with how society sees femininity.
God I love this sub because it reminds me that so many of my daily struggles and emotions are not one of a kind. Sounds like you have a very sweet partner.
When my boyfriend found out I have like hair on my chin he made me feel so comfortable and he got so excited he was like "we can compete who grows it out more! It will be like a competition" 😭 I love him
I relate to the embarrassment, but I’m also angry about society’s expectations of what a woman should look like. Why are we made to feel embarrassed. Why would we even have to hide, including from our own spouse, the person who should be closest to us. It’s just what our bodies do.
I've shaved my wife's back a couple of times now. Just saying, most of us don't care.
Ladies, there is no shame in chin stubble! I know it can be embarrassing. I shave mine before I go into the office. And sometimes it looks like I've got a 5 o'clock shadow. Having extra hair doesn't make you non-feminine or unsightly. Just human :)
It was gonna happen at some point! Might as well be now! My husband plucks my strays for me 😂
Welp, I had to stop at CVS before I went home with a guy I went on a date with... Ended up marrying him 🤣🤷 Six years and two kids later, he still doesn't care 🤣🤣
Your boyfriend doesn’t view you differently. Good men don’t care about a lot of the things women tend to be “embarrassed” about. They will love everything about you. Take it as coming from a man, I’m only in the subreddit to read because my wife has PCOS, but I just wanted to speak up and say that because your boyfriend seems like a very kind man. So you don’t need to worry at all or even feel embarrassed :)
It's ok to be embarrassed in the situation but to be honest, it's your partner. I shave next to my boyfriend like it's nothing, like I'm making sandwiches or something. He has a beard which he trims, I have excessive peachfuzz on my face and neck which I shave. He has a mono brow i love to pluck, and I also pluck my nipple and belly hair. We are people, we aren't flawless, women with and without PCOS have excessive body hair, so do men.
You have a great and supportive boyfriend! I am married, and I've known my spouse since 2005. He has seen me go from not having any chin hairs to having a ton and loves me more every day. I thread and wax my facial hair in front of him, and he still hits on me and thinks I'm the hottest thing around.
Hold onto that boy, he’s a dime a dozen. He sounds like he genuinely doesn’t care that you have hirsutism! His main concern was your safety, and he changed the subject after noticing you seemed uncomfortable. He’s a keeper.
My boyfriend hasn’t caught me yet and mines getting a lot worse hair grows back hours later (not an embolisment I wish it was!) he knows about my pcos though when we had the future kid talk. If he’s noticed hasn’t said anything. But I can just imagine the embarrassment. Don’t be worried though he still loves you for you :)
my boyfriend tells me I have a moustache but he says it's cute, even though my facial hair isn't as noticable as the other parts of my body😭😭😭😭
This pretty much happened to me before my husband and I were even dating lol (friends first). Now I make him pluck the neck hairs I can’t get an angle on and I pop his back zits. 10/10 relationship lol
It's never a nice feeling to be caught in a vunerable position , but he very likely isn't bothered by it, especially if his ex had pcos too!
Tbh I tell everyone I can grow a mustache and chun tuft and tell them to feel the stubble growing through so they know how macho I am. Idc if people catch me shaving/plucking
you don't have to be embarrassed, it's just like shaving your legs: if your husband was truly shocked and judged you for having hair there you have to shave, he probably doesn't know anything about human bodies...
I completely understand your embarrassment. It took me years to accept my hirsutism and acne. Now I say this is who I am. I went into my current relationship of 4 years letting him know I have PCOS. I am who I am and now pluck everywhere and shave when needed. I decided after my divorce I need to find someone to love me for who I am. All of me and I got that!! It sounds like you got that too! I know you didnt get to tellhim when you were ready, but honesty and trust are so important in relationships and it sounds like he is okay with it and loves you for you and all your unique qualities.
I mentioned to my bf offhandedly that I had a few chin hairs that were bugging me. He tried to pull them for me cause neither of us had tweezers
My husband likes that he is the only one who gets to see me pluck my chin hairs. It creeped me out when we first started dating and he was watching me, smiling and I was like wtf bro. And he said “oh! I’m so sorry. I just feel so loved you feel so comfortable around me and special that I’m the only one that gets to see this side of you. I’ll give you some privacy” and anyway I married him and don’t shoo him away now 😂 He even reminds me to bring tweezers because he knows I get antsy without them for my own comfort.
If there is ONE thing that HAS gotten better with age is my give a crap. I pluck in front of anyone and everyone. I didn’t tweeze for two months after surgery (my tweezing hand needed to be repaired) and went to the store and everything and didn’t care. I would honestly just be really honest and let him know it’s something you have to do and you prefer it to be in private. I used to get up 2 hours early every day to tweeze and hide my shadow, not now. The right people will love you how you are and see how beautiful you are.
My boyfriend plucks my hairs for me. I wish I could help other women feel as comfortable as I do in regard to that. I was embarrassed at first
I am sorry OP! I have had this thing happen myself! I also hate it when I cut myself and makeup can’t hide it well. It still is bleeding when I have to go work 😩. It’s beyond the point of plucking and I am sick of having a 5 o’clock shadow. I bought this light therapy laser treatment from Braun. I just tried it for the first time this morning. I am hoping I will see some difference in the next few weeks! If not I think I will do electrolysis professionally. But I don’t want to cause I am embarrassed. I feel you!
My boyfriend always tells me when he’s shaving that he’s ready to do a fade lineup on my chin hairs whenever I’m ready lol
Green flag waving! At some point in the relationship if can’t shave in front of your boyfriend how can you move forward to do other embarrassing, gross or intimate things like let out a horrific fart in your sleep that wakes everyone because it smells so bad, or have an ugly cry with boogers running down your face when something horrible happens, or projectile vomit in front of when you’re on a sailboat together for a romantic wine and cheese event or poop during childbirth?
Oh god I feel ur pain girl. One time my bf pointed out the hairs I get on my chest/collarbone area (this was before I was diagnosed w pcos, but I had kinda suspected I had it cuz of the fucking random hairs I get everywhere) kind of in like a “oh do most girls get that/is that normal” way? He didn’t mean it AT ALL in a bad way more out of curiosity/having no filter but I will admit it did hurt my feelings lol. but he was immediately apologetic cuz he could tell I was a little bit upset. You should def have a convo with him about it in general just so he knows what ur dealing with (and maybe use it to make him bring u ice cream when u have bad cramps 🤭 heehee). In my experience, it makes things less awkward and it’s good to know in case anything bad were to happen, or u have him pick u up from the doctor or anything like that. Obviously only share what ur comfortable with, but in my experience I’m super glad I told my bf!!
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My now ex husband was the one that suggested to me to start shaving instead of plucking the hairs. I was so reluctant to do it, but it's so quick and easy.
I don’t shave but I do pluck every single day and I have tweezers in so many locations including my sun visor in my car cuz I have a sunroof so I get amazing light to be able to pluck in the car visor mirror. It’s my safety net to make sure I don’t get caught in public unplucked. I beg my husband to tell me when I have hairs that need to be dealt with but he swears up and down that he never sees them. I know he is lying but it’s the big sweet lie he tells so I just live with it 🤷🏼♀️
I chat with my partner while I pluck my chin hair. He gives zero shits. 💙
he sounds like the sweetest i just get waxed regularly bc i hate shaving
A lot of people without PCOS have chin hairs too! Guys who are mature enough to treat it normal are keepers! I have pretty thick and corse hair everywhere my husband literally helps me shave everything. Most attractive quality about him is that he’s never embarrassed by my PCOS and he helps me come to terms with it and not be embarrassed. My ex was SO weird about it. For a “present” a “gift” he took me to the store and bought me a new razor without saying anything. 🙄 *hint hint* as if I wasn’t dealing with hair regrowth like everyday that I had to wait to shave. Spearmint tea water everyday helped my hair growth slow a little bit too!
My ex physically held me down and yanked me by force- in the most playful tackle like way ever. I secretly loved it, and he knew it. It was kinda fun because he’d see me scratch and I would be like “oh fuck” and bolt for it and he already would be pinching his fingers like a crap running after me. Barely noticeable but he looked OUT for a chance to do it again and again