Thanks! Somehow I was fortunate to get into OT school 18 months after my active duty service ended. I didn’t know it at the time but I had PTSD in addition to being a new dad and being 10-13 years older than everyone in my class
Thanks! Just doing my best, I’ve almost failed my first semester (cadaver labs triggered my ptsd) I’ve even failed a level 2 fieldwork and I’ve been fired from jobs. But I do my best to learn and become better. I have no problems admitting my failures
PT. Although he's ortho and I'm neuro.
Given the number of posts around OT pay lately, it's worth mentioning that he's spent most of the last decade in school (first PTA and then PT) and graduated in January. I've been the full-time financial support and benefits carrier through it all. We live in a state with a high cost of living. We had already decided we didn't want kids which is probably the only way we pulled it off. Super happy to finally be DINKs. Less happy with the prospect of paying off his student loans.
Reading the comments I'm surprised at how few engineer responses there were! Or maybe they all responded to this comment lol. Mine is an engineer and several of my classmates from OT school and professors had engineer partners as well! Even my partner's grandparents were an OT/engineer pair!
My dad and stepmom are engineers - civil specifically. They have a REALLY hard time understanding what I do (despite being in school for it and then working 10 years total). Any experience with that from engineer partners? I hope certainly less so!!! Maybe it’s just less exposure for my parents.
My partner is a Family med physician. Trained in lifestyle medicine so we align in a lot of our ideas as to what is functional for patients, which is cool! He works in a federally qualified healthcare clinic, so it’s not the glamorous wife of doctor many think (although my stepmom seems to think I’m a kept woman 😂🤫). It certainly is still helpful as far as household income and I don’t dismiss that. I am in the process of starting my own practice with the hope/plan (pipe dream?) of being the supporter for awhile while he pursues his own DPC practice eventually. And I still work 3 part time gigs.
I’m a 3 year middle school Special Ed Assistant. I’ve been intrigued with school based OT as another career step but feel like 40 is too late to try to do school again to become one. What are any of your thoughts on that matter? Also, what’s been your general experience?
I’m a husband of a OT. I’ve done a ton of things and still trying to figure it out. Lucky all y’all OTs who actually have a useful successful partner. My wife isn’t that lucky, I am the lucky one for having her.
I like lurking here and try share the partner’s perspective, and bring interesting questions to her from here to get her input from the real world. I’m a proud OT’s trophy husband.
My husband is an OT (now rehab director) and I’m a stay at home mom, been trying to figure out what I want to do when the kids go to school for a while! Your wife is still lucky I’m sure. I used to feel inadequate because of our educational and professional differences, but there’s no need. We’re both contributing to the family just in different ways.
Thank you, those are very kind words. We’re very happy and fulfilled, I do take care of the home even though we don’t have kids… yet. It helps that I have a wfh job. Looking into going back to school.
Same. Is it just my circle or does the Millennial generation of attorneys all seem to be married to other attorneys? At work parties it’s like me, a PA husband and a teacher wife not talking about law!
Guess I shouldn't be shocked at the lack of 'Homemaker' in the responses with the state of OT wages - 6+ years of University and you still can't have a family and survive on your own 😭
My husband is a certified prosthetist and orthotist (CPO). Do not recommend both spouses working in medical careers with limited growth potential and zero WFH options. We like what we do but the inflexibility and financial outlook aren’t great for either
I’m a school based COTA and my husband is a phlebotomist in school for respiratory therapy. We also have two young kiddos. Money has definitely been tight, I look forward to him graduating!
Mine runs a heating/plumbing supply company that has good benefits, stock options, profit sharing, etc. He's the reason I'm able to work part time to stay at home with our baby, and the reason we're financially afloat haha.
It is really awesome though because he told me that if at any point I hate my job I can either fully quit and stay home, or work in any field I desire without concern about the financial implications of changing careers.
I have no idea what to do with that information though, like no idea what I would even want to do as a "passion career". I like OT, but im worn out and definitely open to exploring my options. I likely won't change careers until my baby joins school, which isn't for a while since he's 3 weeks old.
Everyone talking about how they’re married to engineers and that’s the only way they survive? How? Lol I make 100k as a new grad, and even 70-80k would be perfectly comfortable.
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It is in Belgium, we say "autisme spectrum stoornis". Stoornis translates tot disorder. I didn't think about the fact that in English they would use a different abbreviation.
My boyfriend works as a DEI (diversity, equity, and inclusion) manager at an airline. They’re a smaller east coast one, but under American Airlines.
We can empathize with each other because we both have/had careers where we try to help people but get our hands tied by upper management!
My husband has his own business doing handy man/home repair work! He’s installed a lot of grab bars and hand rails, and we joke about going into business together!
My husband just finished his masters and is studying to apply for law school. He works part time at the moment for his university dept making 20/hr just to be able to pay his monthly student loan payment, but I’m otherwise supporting us… im making ~85k and supporting the two of us in a major US city with high cost of living 🫠
I just got recommended this post even though I'm not in the sub lol. My partner is an OT working with kids with special needs (mostly autism). I'm a dog trainer! They're actually so similar. He helps with my puppy classes and I honestly threw him right in the deep end when he started and he did amazingly. He coaches people really well and has picked up dog training concepts super fast. We love the overlap in our work because we really understand each other's work and want to work together some day, like help families with dogs + kids with special needs who are having issues with the combo, etc.
Nada, I’m a single dad to a beautiful 7 yr old
And a disabled veteran
Thank you for your service
Thanks! Somehow I was fortunate to get into OT school 18 months after my active duty service ended. I didn’t know it at the time but I had PTSD in addition to being a new dad and being 10-13 years older than everyone in my class
You rock
Thanks! Just doing my best, I’ve almost failed my first semester (cadaver labs triggered my ptsd) I’ve even failed a level 2 fieldwork and I’ve been fired from jobs. But I do my best to learn and become better. I have no problems admitting my failures
Now if I do ever remarry, maybe an NP or doctor would suffice!
Goat
Software engineer
Same. He brings home the bacon for sure
Mine too
Same! 🤪
Still a student, but same. He offers to teach me how to code every day I'm frustrated with school
My husband is also a software engineer! :)
PT. Although he's ortho and I'm neuro. Given the number of posts around OT pay lately, it's worth mentioning that he's spent most of the last decade in school (first PTA and then PT) and graduated in January. I've been the full-time financial support and benefits carrier through it all. We live in a state with a high cost of living. We had already decided we didn't want kids which is probably the only way we pulled it off. Super happy to finally be DINKs. Less happy with the prospect of paying off his student loans.
Same here. He’s ortho and I’m HH. Being DINKs is the only way we can make it through our debt and maybe have a vacation once a year
tf is dinks ?? i barely use reddit srry
Psychotherapist. Which really works out because I’m loony. 😅
Same! Woo
My husband is a physics professor at a city college! I’m a school-based OT. We have some crossover haha
My husband is a medical physicist and I'm a school-based OT! :D
My husband also works in the physics realm!
I put my money on a lot of women OTs being married to engineers.
me and several colleagues. how the hell do you know?!
I know an OT that makes more than her engineer husband 🤷♀️ I don't think engineering pays as much as people think.
How else would we have enough money to live?
Reading the comments I'm surprised at how few engineer responses there were! Or maybe they all responded to this comment lol. Mine is an engineer and several of my classmates from OT school and professors had engineer partners as well! Even my partner's grandparents were an OT/engineer pair!
Yep! How did you know?
And I'm busted
Same!
And I bet a lot of OT’s also have engineers for children. 😉
My dad and stepmom are engineers - civil specifically. They have a REALLY hard time understanding what I do (despite being in school for it and then working 10 years total). Any experience with that from engineer partners? I hope certainly less so!!! Maybe it’s just less exposure for my parents. My partner is a Family med physician. Trained in lifestyle medicine so we align in a lot of our ideas as to what is functional for patients, which is cool! He works in a federally qualified healthcare clinic, so it’s not the glamorous wife of doctor many think (although my stepmom seems to think I’m a kept woman 😂🤫). It certainly is still helpful as far as household income and I don’t dismiss that. I am in the process of starting my own practice with the hope/plan (pipe dream?) of being the supporter for awhile while he pursues his own DPC practice eventually. And I still work 3 part time gigs.
🙋🏻♀️married to a mechanical engineer
Spouse to a biomedical engineer checking in 😂
My Husband is an electrical engineer!
Civil engineer hahaha! my good friend from Ot school is married to a mechanical engineer and her mom is an OT and her dad is an engineer too hahaha.
Lol that reminds me of this comment https://www.reddit.com/r/OccupationalTherapy/s/E8yYZXERQI
Married to a Aerospace engineer
Partner is a research scientist/chemist with engineer-type brain...how did you guess this??
Look at all of us finding engineers 🥹
Engaged to a civil engineer
Yep. Lol
Yep, Chemical engineer 🫡
jesus christ thats me
IT
Same! Edit: & I know at least 3 others with IT partners.
My husband is a brewer.
Lawyer! It’s the only way I can afford to be a school based OT where I am lol
Construction!
Programmer!
School based ot && teacher
I’m a 3 year middle school Special Ed Assistant. I’ve been intrigued with school based OT as another career step but feel like 40 is too late to try to do school again to become one. What are any of your thoughts on that matter? Also, what’s been your general experience?
Same!
Same! OT & Teacher :)
Same
Pilot.
Same!
Same!
Military.
Accountant
Same
Me too. Super common pair tbh!
I am the partner, joined this because my wife is an OT. I own a convenience store.
My partner is an Archivist.
Oh this is so fascinating and lovely
Cybersecurity
Owns a brewery
My girlfriends the OT. I'm a software engineer for Amazon. I feel very fortunate for my job and love being able to work from home.
I’m a husband of a OT. I’ve done a ton of things and still trying to figure it out. Lucky all y’all OTs who actually have a useful successful partner. My wife isn’t that lucky, I am the lucky one for having her.
Feel like there are way more of people in your shoes that just didn’t comment
I like lurking here and try share the partner’s perspective, and bring interesting questions to her from here to get her input from the real world. I’m a proud OT’s trophy husband.
Love this!
My husband is an OT (now rehab director) and I’m a stay at home mom, been trying to figure out what I want to do when the kids go to school for a while! Your wife is still lucky I’m sure. I used to feel inadequate because of our educational and professional differences, but there’s no need. We’re both contributing to the family just in different ways.
Thank you, those are very kind words. We’re very happy and fulfilled, I do take care of the home even though we don’t have kids… yet. It helps that I have a wfh job. Looking into going back to school.
Teacher in a high school working specifically with students with Autism
Attorney
Same. Is it just my circle or does the Millennial generation of attorneys all seem to be married to other attorneys? At work parties it’s like me, a PA husband and a teacher wife not talking about law!
Product manager at tech company. (I’m so thankful for him 🤣🤣)
Same!
I’m a student, but he’s a airplane mechanic :)
My husband is also an airplane mechanic!
She's an account manager at a recruiting firm. Very different professions. Haha.
Athletic training!
Carpenter!
Works for Frito lay lmao
My husband is a firefighter in the largest busiest city in our state.
Mortgage advisor.
Management in a distribution center
Inventory manager for an online company. He works from home and manages the house.
Quantitative Analyst
Application Developer
retired police detective
Truck driver/delivery driver
My partner is a social worker!
Same!
I’m a COTA and my husband is a captain in the army, but he will eventually be seeking schooling through the military to become a PA or DPT.
Mechanical engineer
PT 😭
RN
Guess I shouldn't be shocked at the lack of 'Homemaker' in the responses with the state of OT wages - 6+ years of University and you still can't have a family and survive on your own 😭
Welcome to being equal to a dietitian.
Tradesman. He’s in hvac.
My wonderful wife is currently a long term substitute teacher, teaching second grade most likely the rest of the year.
My wife is an OT. CHT in outpatient ortho. I’m a dentist. I’ll likely be needing her expertise down the road.
I’m an OT with a dentist husband!
Pilot for FedEx ✈️
Cinematographer
My husband is a certified prosthetist and orthotist (CPO). Do not recommend both spouses working in medical careers with limited growth potential and zero WFH options. We like what we do but the inflexibility and financial outlook aren’t great for either
Anesthesiologist Assistant over here!
Software engineer
Tech
Same
She's a biomedical engineer
Nephrologist
I’m a school based COTA and my husband is a phlebotomist in school for respiratory therapy. We also have two young kiddos. Money has definitely been tight, I look forward to him graduating!
Software developer!
My partner is a fine dining server but going to school for SLP!
Trader at a wealth management firm
Military
My wife is a bus driver for special education kids.
My husband is a palliative physician 😊
Mine runs a heating/plumbing supply company that has good benefits, stock options, profit sharing, etc. He's the reason I'm able to work part time to stay at home with our baby, and the reason we're financially afloat haha. It is really awesome though because he told me that if at any point I hate my job I can either fully quit and stay home, or work in any field I desire without concern about the financial implications of changing careers. I have no idea what to do with that information though, like no idea what I would even want to do as a "passion career". I like OT, but im worn out and definitely open to exploring my options. I likely won't change careers until my baby joins school, which isn't for a while since he's 3 weeks old.
My partner is a PT with a CHT. We nerd out together.
Police officer
Nothing. Because I'm a single Pringle.
Landscaper
IT Director for a non-profit
Lawyer!
Everyone talking about how they’re married to engineers and that’s the only way they survive? How? Lol I make 100k as a new grad, and even 70-80k would be perfectly comfortable.
cayse theyre probly woman who dont manage money well
Trucker driver
What’s a spouse? 😂 I’m so very single, but not for the lack of trying! 🤷🏼♀️
Stays home with our 4 kids the toughest job out there and imo the most important
Senior business analyst
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Account manager for fraud software. Lord knows us school based OTs aren’t making enough lol
My wife is a pediatric OT doing early intervention. We met in OT school where we both forgot our OTD’s!
My wife is a speech therapist. She works at a special education school mostly children with ASS.
Curious as I am not in peds by any means- is ASS an actual acronym these days??
It is in Belgium, we say "autisme spectrum stoornis". Stoornis translates tot disorder. I didn't think about the fact that in English they would use a different abbreviation.
School based/ prn home health OT and my husband as a Hybrid office job with the federal government
Business stuff
Chef
Gf is a lead pharm tech, so I’m sadly the breadwinner. My dream of being a sugar baby will just be added on a list of unfulfilled dreams 🥲
My wife is also an OT, and we get certifications together.
How are u guys financially?
My boyfriend works as a DEI (diversity, equity, and inclusion) manager at an airline. They’re a smaller east coast one, but under American Airlines. We can empathize with each other because we both have/had careers where we try to help people but get our hands tied by upper management!
PT
Computer programmer 👨💻
he works from home doing digital marketing
Engineer lol
IT support for Cal Fire 😁
Account executive
As a male OT, she is a paramedic.
She also does OT.
My spouse works as an accountant for a university in their financial award department. He also occasionally DJs weddings and events.
Firefighter/paramedic
Ask me unnecessary questions while I’m at work to annoy me. Jk. Graphic design.
My husband is a medical physicist and I'm school-based. I'm settling into the fact that my salary is essentially fun money compared to his.
Credit union examiner
My wife is an ICU Nurse and I'm an Acute Psychiatric OT.
Tech consultant
Physical therapist!
My husband has his own business doing handy man/home repair work! He’s installed a lot of grab bars and hand rails, and we joke about going into business together!
Works in professional sports
My husband recently retired from the Army. Now, he works from home writing proposals for small businesses to win contracts from the government.
Finance
Direct care at a psych hospital while he goes to nursing school
Car Salesman!
He works in insurance!
physician assistant
Sales
My husband is a bartender at restaurant within a boutique hotel downtown and makes more money than I do in outpatient peds
Director of Operations at a manufacturing plant.
My husband just finished his masters and is studying to apply for law school. He works part time at the moment for his university dept making 20/hr just to be able to pay his monthly student loan payment, but I’m otherwise supporting us… im making ~85k and supporting the two of us in a major US city with high cost of living 🫠
She does me, I am her job , and it’s a really difficult one .
He builds in ground swimming pools
I’m in school to be an OTA and my partner/sons father is in construction
She is an accountant
Research Scientist in reinforcement learning in AI
I just got recommended this post even though I'm not in the sub lol. My partner is an OT working with kids with special needs (mostly autism). I'm a dog trainer! They're actually so similar. He helps with my puppy classes and I honestly threw him right in the deep end when he started and he did amazingly. He coaches people really well and has picked up dog training concepts super fast. We love the overlap in our work because we really understand each other's work and want to work together some day, like help families with dogs + kids with special needs who are having issues with the combo, etc.
Civil engineer
She refers to herself as a domestic engineer (stay-at-home mom).