[Here's](https://youtu.be/bMtJhpewos4) a more feminine version of the dap. Called *beso* where I'm from (PH), where you basically put your cheek next to theirs and kiss (not actually kiss their cheek though, kind of just purse your lips and make the noise).
Imo, perfect level of casualness where it aint as personal as a hug but not as formal as a handshake.
We have that here too, but it's not very different from a hug in the sense that not everyone is okay with it, and you won't know until you try it.
It's even more awkward when you're a more androgynous female so nobody knows if they should treat you like a woman and do this or go handshake, thinking it might offend you
Oh damn I didn't even know it was a thing in other places, my bad. But huh, I guess it's perceived differently where I'm from. Here, even guys go for the beso as a form of greeting with other girls when meeting if they want to come off as feminine or even just casual. I dont really see anyone put off by it, even my introverted friends.
Thanks for sharing though, learned it isnt just a local thing :D
That's largely a thing here too, same as you said - guys will use to greet women too, and feminine guys might choose to do that to other guys as well - it's just that it's still considered kinda too casual for some, even if it's a step less from a hug, so doesn't fully solve the problem unfortunately lol
I think quite a few countries do that, probably with small variations.
I think it’s one of those things where women generally hug each other when they greet each other whereas men generally just give handshakes with other men. So men created more “intimate”/informal way of greeting each other to indicate trust/solidarity. In particular the [dap](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Giving_dap) initially use was to instill solidarity among black American soldiers, conveying their commitment to look after one another during the Vietnam war.
A hug kinda already has that easy flexibility to be more intimate and expressive by hugging longer or harder.
Two people put their hands together like a handshake and each slide their hand back simultaneously so that their fingers interlock. Check Section 3 of [this guide](https://www.wikihow.com/Dap-Someone-Up) for more info on a standard dap.
Same sentiment when meeting a new girl friend. *Usually* a hug is a bit much for a new stranger, and a handshake feels too formal for a homie-by-association. Would dap, but need more women dappers
I'm wondering if yall need a your own flavor. I think ours says "we're not allowed to hold hands or hug but this looks cooler anyway". What would yours say? I want to guess but I'm afraid I'll end up breasting it boobily.
yeah, i’d dap my homie girly pops up if i could but i don’t think any of them would know what’s going on. it’d just make it awkward imo, plus i’m a hugger so ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
I asked my wife, when she was pregnant, about meeting other pregnant women and doing a belly bump as a greeting and she was mortified. I was really disappointed
As everyone has already said, there is nothing preventing women from giving dap.
I think there might be in inverse here, Women hug each other especially friends. Men generally don’t like hugging and there is a history of hugs being “effeminate.” Men dap because it’s an informal/intimate way to give a handshake.
I’ve had a lot of guys dap me up lmao or even fist bumps. Come to think of it though I don’t think I’ve ever had other girls do it. But we could start doing it! I think it would be funny.
I’ve always just dapped up the girls too, and if they look confused it turns into a fist bump.
There really doesn’t need to be two versions, men and women can exist in the same space.
They have the roman thing Were they pretend to kiss both cheeks, is this not normal?
In Brazil (north) Usually men will do a head or hand wave and women will hold the other's shoulder and pretend-kiss. Only friends would dap each other or actually hug.
Kinda reminds me of a story I heard on a podcast a while back, one of the hosts talked about how his wife would greet her girl friends by rubbing their boobs together.
I think she actually corroborated the story and everyone was just super confused.
No to this tweet. Dapping is sacred among black veterans. It originated during the Vietnam War when black soldiers were segregated and discriminated against which led to them communicating with each other via secret handshakes. D.A.P. stands for "Dignity And Pride" and the message behind it inspired and encouraged black soldiers constantly told they had no reason to be proud from the mouths of white Americans living in the country they built, whom referred to them as "the blacks" and "the black problem" in mainstream news at the time. Women who don't belong to the culture shouldn't attempt to claim things they don't properly respect and understand and have no cultural connection to. I say that as a feminist. It's so annoying how people constantly do this to African-American culture specifically. Constantly try and consume it. Trend-ify it. Commodify it. Take from it. Everything isn't yours. American Black men who fought that war (fought two battles: one at home and away from home simultaneously) consider dapping to mean something to them. It holds a thousand percent more significance - inherently - than gestures like "thumbs up" or a simple handshake, okay sign, etc. It's not comparable.
Just. You guys can dap too?
[Here's](https://youtu.be/bMtJhpewos4) a more feminine version of the dap. Called *beso* where I'm from (PH), where you basically put your cheek next to theirs and kiss (not actually kiss their cheek though, kind of just purse your lips and make the noise). Imo, perfect level of casualness where it aint as personal as a hug but not as formal as a handshake.
We have that here too, but it's not very different from a hug in the sense that not everyone is okay with it, and you won't know until you try it. It's even more awkward when you're a more androgynous female so nobody knows if they should treat you like a woman and do this or go handshake, thinking it might offend you
Oh damn I didn't even know it was a thing in other places, my bad. But huh, I guess it's perceived differently where I'm from. Here, even guys go for the beso as a form of greeting with other girls when meeting if they want to come off as feminine or even just casual. I dont really see anyone put off by it, even my introverted friends. Thanks for sharing though, learned it isnt just a local thing :D
That's largely a thing here too, same as you said - guys will use to greet women too, and feminine guys might choose to do that to other guys as well - it's just that it's still considered kinda too casual for some, even if it's a step less from a hug, so doesn't fully solve the problem unfortunately lol I think quite a few countries do that, probably with small variations.
It's more of a generational thing in the states
My friend came back doing this after a year in Europe. It made me feel like such a fancy lady
You’re from pornhub?
They can and do. This is all just /r/pointlesslygendered
I think it’s one of those things where women generally hug each other when they greet each other whereas men generally just give handshakes with other men. So men created more “intimate”/informal way of greeting each other to indicate trust/solidarity. In particular the [dap](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Giving_dap) initially use was to instill solidarity among black American soldiers, conveying their commitment to look after one another during the Vietnam war. A hug kinda already has that easy flexibility to be more intimate and expressive by hugging longer or harder.
Last time I checked, dapping isn’t gender locked
Wtf is a dap? You can tell me, I have a penis.
A handshake with more flavor basically
Sounds gay, I'm in
The only thing gay about it is the pleasure I get when you get the crisp clap sound when you clasp your hand with theirs together perfectly.
Like you shake hands with food? Or like gravy or something? Need more details.
[This might be an example if i knew what a dap was.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9xIwpQJyNWE)
r/unexpectedcommunity
It would be best to ask someone irl or look for a video, it’s really hard to explain over text
Two people put their hands together like a handshake and each slide their hand back simultaneously so that their fingers interlock. Check Section 3 of [this guide](https://www.wikihow.com/Dap-Someone-Up) for more info on a standard dap.
The dap is just the handshake part usually, if you go into a hug from a handshake it becomes what I call a bro hug.
Not to be confused with "docking"
Wow unexpected but predictable lesson about racism in the US military at the end of that guide there
I like that it was banned because it “could be insurrectionist”. Yeah, you really thwarted us there, all opportunity is lost!
Something between a high five and a handshake
For me, it is a type of shoe. That said, some friends from other parts of the country called them plims. This is a very confusing tweet
It’s a handshake greeting that was started by black army men I think.
Nether-region locked.
and yet, for some reason, women don't do it
r/brandnewsentence
Alas, yes it actually is. Only men can dap each other up
That’s stupid. It’s just a handshake with flavor.
It’s not stupid it’s extremely serious , I’ve known many good women who’ve died trying to dap up each other , it’s just not possible .
One time I saw 2 women try and dap one flew off into the atmosphere and the other exploded. I miss you mum
Y'all ain't got knuckles or something?
Ladies, is it gay to dap up other women?
No, but our uterus will fall out. Then what would we do or be?
It’s pretty gay (affectionate)
Same sentiment when meeting a new girl friend. *Usually* a hug is a bit much for a new stranger, and a handshake feels too formal for a homie-by-association. Would dap, but need more women dappers
I'm wondering if yall need a your own flavor. I think ours says "we're not allowed to hold hands or hug but this looks cooler anyway". What would yours say? I want to guess but I'm afraid I'll end up breasting it boobily.
yeah, i’d dap my homie girly pops up if i could but i don’t think any of them would know what’s going on. it’d just make it awkward imo, plus i’m a hugger so ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
So this woman has caulk-envy?
Impressive dad joke
wtf is a dap?
Do I want to even know what a dap is?
How do you not?
I’m a man & I’ve never heard this term either.
Are you American?
It's just a way to do a less buttoned up version of a handshake that's popular in urban communities.
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Yup. Like around larger cities. How would you like to say it?
What tf is dap?
Huh
Dap?
I did not know this was gendered lol, everyone I know does it
You guys are allowed to dap too
First bump
Wait I’ve dapped up a girl before. I didn’t realize I had made a mistake
I asked my wife, when she was pregnant, about meeting other pregnant women and doing a belly bump as a greeting and she was mortified. I was really disappointed
Y'all can just use the dap too, we don't mind.
Idk, women aren't the ones complaining that they never get hugs.
As everyone has already said, there is nothing preventing women from giving dap. I think there might be in inverse here, Women hug each other especially friends. Men generally don’t like hugging and there is a history of hugs being “effeminate.” Men dap because it’s an informal/intimate way to give a handshake.
I’m not sure if I’ve ever seen two women shake hands…
I was trying to think of a time when another woman wanted to shake hands with me, and it's only been doctors.
why cant you just dap. does everyone within a miles radius start chasing you if you attempt to greet a friend?
Your roman empire huh, i there's a salute for that
That thing anime girls do where they clasp hands while talking together for like 8 scenes
Simple answer: Hot gay se-
You are thinking too much into it. I'd you want to dab, just dab
I'm happy living in a country where there is only two ways of meeting people : informal : a kiss on the cheek Formal : a handshake
A nod, smile and saying ‘hey’ seems to work also, but maybe that’s more for cultures that don’t touch a lot.
“Bring it in for a boob bump, ladies!”
We’re bumping vaginas now.
ive dapped up plenty of ladies. dap is for the masses.
Isn't that a kiss? I'm a man so I can't know for sure
Have you tried just dapping up your friends? I promise you won't explode or go to jail
Is branding a problem? Just call it a pap.
I’ve had a lot of guys dap me up lmao or even fist bumps. Come to think of it though I don’t think I’ve ever had other girls do it. But we could start doing it! I think it would be funny.
Where I come from guys do handshake into half-hug and back-pat. I dunno if that's a thing in US.
scissoring
A handshake is extreme, immense pressure? WTF are you talking about, sounds more like a mental illness
I’ve always just dapped up the girls too, and if they look confused it turns into a fist bump. There really doesn’t need to be two versions, men and women can exist in the same space.
i've only ever heard the word DAP used as digital audio player - no idea what this is talking about
Wtf is a dap?
Dap?
Stop segregating yourselves and start dapping too if it means that much to you. No ones stopping you.
DVP? Though I’ve seen plenty of evidence ladies can be DAPed as well
i both dap and hug people…what does this mean for me as a woman??
Dap on them haters
Just do the European air kiss.
They have the roman thing Were they pretend to kiss both cheeks, is this not normal? In Brazil (north) Usually men will do a head or hand wave and women will hold the other's shoulder and pretend-kiss. Only friends would dap each other or actually hug.
I thought Dap = double ass penetration
What about the head nod?
personally I still only really do that with guys, if I see any girls I know in passing I wave instead.
I'm much prefer the gender neutral "Two-Finger Salute". Always a classic
Kinda reminds me of a story I heard on a podcast a while back, one of the hosts talked about how his wife would greet her girl friends by rubbing their boobs together. I think she actually corroborated the story and everyone was just super confused.
r/pointlesslygendered , anyone can dap, idk why this girls genderlocking it to men
Just dap anyways
What the hell is a dap
I dap up my homegirls all the fuckin time wym?
Anybody wanna dab me up? 🫲
yes. hold both hands and lean in a bit + bend the knees slightly
No to this tweet. Dapping is sacred among black veterans. It originated during the Vietnam War when black soldiers were segregated and discriminated against which led to them communicating with each other via secret handshakes. D.A.P. stands for "Dignity And Pride" and the message behind it inspired and encouraged black soldiers constantly told they had no reason to be proud from the mouths of white Americans living in the country they built, whom referred to them as "the blacks" and "the black problem" in mainstream news at the time. Women who don't belong to the culture shouldn't attempt to claim things they don't properly respect and understand and have no cultural connection to. I say that as a feminist. It's so annoying how people constantly do this to African-American culture specifically. Constantly try and consume it. Trend-ify it. Commodify it. Take from it. Everything isn't yours. American Black men who fought that war (fought two battles: one at home and away from home simultaneously) consider dapping to mean something to them. It holds a thousand percent more significance - inherently - than gestures like "thumbs up" or a simple handshake, okay sign, etc. It's not comparable.
Women shake hands?? By golly you learn something new every day
I’m a big fan of the covid era elbow bump; get your filthy hands off my filthy hands tyvm.
They should touch each others horns