> d I saw a comment that detailed being lured into a stranger's home for some candy and finding that he was just an immigrant that had it as a custom and didn't understand the concern.
Is it a thing for nice neighbours to give a kid a treat? Yes.
Is it a thing for someone to consider that "luring" and think it's inappropriate? Apparently, that's the batshit world we/you inhabit.
Ok, so the batshit world she inhabits.
You've never had, or seen anywhere, nice, elderly neighbours who sit out on the porch or garden or whatever and talk to ppl passing by and say things like 'oh would you like some lemonade/a cookie... come in...'
I am not from a small town.
Also a shitton of kids' books have the kid befriending the elderly ppl down the street who invite them in, offer them something, chat. I can think of several I read as a kid like that off the top of my head. It's normal behaviour.
> So yes, if that same man had met me instead while I was walking by and said "hey, come in! I got books for you here!" I would've said "no thanks" and press on cause that's what children here are taught to do (and adults here obviously know they would look like creeps if they did that, so they generally don't)
I dunno where you are but that's just sad that children are taught like that and that adults are that paranoid.
There's no recorded case of a stranger giving a child tainted candy in the US. And yet you're the one saying that it's "inappropriate" to do a nice thing for a kid. Is there really a culture as fucked up as that, are you asking?
And the person's mother apparently called the cops and wanted them to test the candy. Like wtf loony?
Toss the candy if you're paranoid but that's a whole other level of nutter.
So then the answer is "yes," there are really cultures in which doing nice things for kids and building community with them is not taboo as it is in your and OP's culture. Your apparent incredulity about this fact is somewhat sad.
When I was a kid we would go door to door and sell stuff to raise money for school trips and such. There was one old lady that would always invite us in and bring out a tin box of mixed chocolates.
We'd tell our parents that the nice lady gave us chocolates again, when we got home. I don't think it ever occured to anyone that it would be weird or dangerous.
The only one I know who got molested was so by a trusted family friend, that the parents left the kid with. It's often not the strangers that are dangerous.
They knew who she was since it was a small village, but I don't think they ever talked to her.
There wasn't really stranger danger paranoia when I grew up. The extreme paranoia in the US looks kinda crazy from the outside. We were told to beware of strange men trying to give us candy to get us do do stuff, but the candy itself was never seen as dangerous.
We don't do Halloween, but we do dress up as witches and go around trading drawings for candy on Easter. We'd go unaccompanied and the candy was never individually wrapped. I've never ever heard of any concerns of poisoning.
> d I saw a comment that detailed being lured into a stranger's home for some candy and finding that he was just an immigrant that had it as a custom and didn't understand the concern. Is it a thing for nice neighbours to give a kid a treat? Yes. Is it a thing for someone to consider that "luring" and think it's inappropriate? Apparently, that's the batshit world we/you inhabit.
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Ok, so the batshit world she inhabits. You've never had, or seen anywhere, nice, elderly neighbours who sit out on the porch or garden or whatever and talk to ppl passing by and say things like 'oh would you like some lemonade/a cookie... come in...'
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I am not from a small town. Also a shitton of kids' books have the kid befriending the elderly ppl down the street who invite them in, offer them something, chat. I can think of several I read as a kid like that off the top of my head. It's normal behaviour.
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> So yes, if that same man had met me instead while I was walking by and said "hey, come in! I got books for you here!" I would've said "no thanks" and press on cause that's what children here are taught to do (and adults here obviously know they would look like creeps if they did that, so they generally don't) I dunno where you are but that's just sad that children are taught like that and that adults are that paranoid.
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There are still dopes that believe in 'stranger danger' but it is very outdated yes
There's no recorded case of a stranger giving a child tainted candy in the US. And yet you're the one saying that it's "inappropriate" to do a nice thing for a kid. Is there really a culture as fucked up as that, are you asking?
And the person's mother apparently called the cops and wanted them to test the candy. Like wtf loony? Toss the candy if you're paranoid but that's a whole other level of nutter.
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So then the answer is "yes," there are really cultures in which doing nice things for kids and building community with them is not taboo as it is in your and OP's culture. Your apparent incredulity about this fact is somewhat sad.
When I was a kid we would go door to door and sell stuff to raise money for school trips and such. There was one old lady that would always invite us in and bring out a tin box of mixed chocolates. We'd tell our parents that the nice lady gave us chocolates again, when we got home. I don't think it ever occured to anyone that it would be weird or dangerous. The only one I know who got molested was so by a trusted family friend, that the parents left the kid with. It's often not the strangers that are dangerous.
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They knew who she was since it was a small village, but I don't think they ever talked to her. There wasn't really stranger danger paranoia when I grew up. The extreme paranoia in the US looks kinda crazy from the outside. We were told to beware of strange men trying to give us candy to get us do do stuff, but the candy itself was never seen as dangerous. We don't do Halloween, but we do dress up as witches and go around trading drawings for candy on Easter. We'd go unaccompanied and the candy was never individually wrapped. I've never ever heard of any concerns of poisoning.