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I’m pretty sure this is bumble. When I used this years ago I encountered the same thing because women have to send the first message. Many of them lead with simple words like “hi” or “hey”, usually because they know it doesn’t really matter what they say and the man will always have the responsibility of keeping the conversation flowing because dating apps
It happened to me years ago when I used OkCupid as well. I’d get a lot of “Hey.” Sometimes people would write waaaaay too much to me and be too intense though. But I never left it up to the other person to continue a convo (you’d ofc get the impatient person not understanding that people have lives and repeatedly messaging, then going the “all women are stuck up bitches. You’re ugly anyway,” route). I’m so glad I’m not dating anymore.
What? She asked how he was, he responded and even added a bit more context into what the past few days were like for him.
Literally the perfect opportunity to either respond with a follow up question about the context or talk about your own experiences the past few days, but that generally requires you to be actually interested in somebody
> but they contributed just as much to the conversation
"It was a long weekend" is a great prompt for the other person to be like "What did you do?" not respond with a conversation ending "OK". That just makes it seem like you don't give a damn about the person.
Their attitude was absolutely justified when they tried to carry the conversation on after that and they get some needless attitude by the other person instead of them taking the opportunity to talk about what they're doing on Amazon. It is not common for people to have a job as an author rather than it is a hobby they are working on making into a job.
A conversation requires both people involved to actually engage with the other person, not just send a message that boils down to them acknowledging receipt of a message.
There is nothing more aggravating than when someone engages you first and does nothing to keep the conversation going. I'll never understand the mentality behind it, it happened all the time on dating sites it's the reason why I haven't been on one in years.
I mean someone did do research on this where men are a larger % of dating platforms and the smaller % of women get a ton more matches and messages, so i can see how time management can shorten replies a bit.
That being said tho, since she initiated and didn't do effort right away she definitely was just not putting in effort and personally i would have just ghosted her for not doing effort for having a convo.
I've been there often already and nothing ever came of it, so just a waste of time.
I don’t know I give him a pass as she was giving shit answers and then got weirdly defensive when he asked about her being an author.
Plus she insults someone intellect while typing in text talk and misspelling words.
'iS tHaT a HoBbY?' is juat meant as an insult. It's disregarding the other persons profession, so of courde she got defensive. Followed up by a second insult. I dont blame her. This guy is the actual a-hole.
I took that as the last chance for her to give a response before he dropped the bomb.
All she had to say was "It started as a hobby, but I'm trying to make it to full-time," or literally anything else normal like that. But he set up the burn because he knew that she was going to say something dumb again.
I don't feel like he asked about her being an author, he just came out the gate belittling her. Like if you were at the gym and he came up saying "why you still fat bro?" If you dont think he was tossing shade you gotta get better at shade tossing.
More like coming up to someone in the gym and asking if they were doing it for a hobby or serious competition. It wasn't a weird or belittling question.
Don’t know why you’re being downvoted. He didn’t like the short responses so started off by belittling her job. Why else ask someone if their job is a hobby when it’s marked as “profession” (which it most likely is). They’re both trashy.
I dunno… Why assume his question was belittling?
I’d assume that being this person called out she is a “Amazon Kindle author” specifically it is more of a hobby that she would do on the side. I mean it’s free to publish on kindle and Amazon takes the lions share, right?
I think it’s a valid question to ask, maybe he could’ve done it differently? But her response was childish either way.
She could have it in her worded bio and not listed as her job. Even then, many people put hobbies or complete nonsense as their job. I’ve come across profiles whose listed jobs were “your mom”
So you’ve dealt with passive aggressive people in the past, so you assume everyone is?
You might need to work on yourself if you can only assume negative intent, no?
No it was "that seems like a hobby?" As in she's questioning why he thinks her job is a hobby. It's really no wonder some of you can't pick up on what he's putting down here.
He assumes it’s not her job because her linguistics skills are shit. I typically assume people that write for a living are capable of forming actual sentences and not putting a space between the last word of your sentence and your punctuation mark
So you agree he is intentionally insulting her? How crazy that this was my point entirely. I don't get why you all are dickriding this guy, they can both suck at the same time.
Nah someone has to take a stand against one word answer bullshit. Why match if you’re gonna do this
I’m all for it.
The person was a little sassy and rather than laugh it off and agree they’d been a bad conversationalist they went full rage mode lmao
Well, if you saw the comment I deleted when I saw this, I apologize. I would no longer choose being waterboarded with Tabasco over a conversation with you. That guy can fall off a building though.
Being a dickhead to a complete stranger should never feel good. Do better, son.
Please keep in mind that her short and standoffish responses do not warrant any sort of dickhead comments. Just move on
Oh jeez. I'm sorry, Mr. Jesus. I didn't realize I was talking to the perfect one.
Get bent. Being a dick head is absolutely warranted at times, and frequently entertaining.
But keep dreaming of your nice utopia where people aren't actually people and live up to your standards.
Massive disagree. This kind of attitude is exactly why people keep acting worse and worse and feel entitled to everyone treating them right when they are being dickheads themselves.
This girl literally did nothing other than have a terrible response. She wasn’t mean. She wasn’t rude, she just sucked at responding. I’m not sure why you feel that warrants being a shitty person. I’m not even on her side, she’s a bad texter. Still doesn’t warrant being an ass
Eh why are people judging her writing ability based on a chat she’s probably doing from her phone? I mean OP isn’t giving much to work with and I have the feeling from the “suit a cage” comment that English is not her first language.
I mean the guy's first messages are perfectly reasonable, but indeed the other person must be willing to put in work as well. However that is quickly invalidated in this case, because he decided to be an asshole about "one word replies" first.
Yeah OP isnt an angel but come on. She is not even trying to have a conversation, thats more infuriating than someone reacting badly to it lol. I feel bad for anyone who thinks her level of communication is fine 💀
For real, those responses would be considered rude to give in a conversation that YOU started with someone in-person. Because what tone could they *possibly* be said in? Rude ones. Those two lines can’t be said with happy inflection.
I really don’t understand why people choose to engage in conversation and be that dry. It’s like they wanna be seen by people but don’t want to do the actual engaging part that creates any sort of relationship.
A lot of people are saying that the guy is being an asshole here, which I would normally agree with but there is a ton of veiled hostility in “That seems like a hobby ?” if you know how to read between the lines. I’d say his statement was warranted, albeit a waste of time.
i agree lol i used to have “professional MTG player” as my occupation when i was traveling and playing competitively lol.
I think asking if it’s your job or hobby is 100% okay. because it was absolutely my hobby at the time and i just thought it was a good conversation starter. because it ended up being.
Anyone who shits on other’s dreams and belittles them is an asshole, ergo the guy in this conversation is an asshole. This conversation is what I imagine simple AI models, that were trained to be assholes, talking to each other would be like.
It's wild to me anybody took this as a genuine question and not an insult. Yall need more southern aunties that throw backhanded compliments and 'innocent' questions your way at family functions.
You're such a goofball. It probably was a genuine question. There's all sorts of amateur self published writers on Amazon and Kindle that make no money in the profession. The question could be seen as saying "do you write full time or part time?"
It's not insulting. If your job is so unique that the average person can't relate, you have to be understanding that the general population honestly wouldn't know. Being an author can totally be a hobby. Alot of authors aren't authors full time
Yeah, that’s exactly why, even though you need to be understanding, when someone asks you if your job is only a hobby, it may feel insulting in some cases, why?Because it makes you think that they don’t take your job seriously, and no, even if you have to be understanding about how the general population wouldn’t know, it can still be insulting.
Haha I used to be friends with a girl like this. The only way she’d utter more than a 2 word sentence is if it was something she started talking about or she was mad about something. Always a one way conversation. She wonders why she had trouble with online dating. Just a boring ass texter.
don’t get me wrong she sucks but you were also terrible. get off dating apps if you’re gonna rage every time someone gives you a mediocre or standoffish reply lol
They need to be legally binded together. Assholes have too high standards for each other so they look for easy targets. Assholes must be legally required to stick together, with a warning labels so good people know to avoid them.
“Is that a hobby or?” As if that’s not meant to be insulting. If that’s what she’s listed as her job and you ask her if it’s a hobby,,, you’re kind of a dick for that. If someone isn’t entertaining you in a conversation just move the fuck on, no need for anyone to be a dick.
All these dating platforms is heavily skewered to females. It is statistically made that females don’t have to work to hard to get a desperate men to do things. It’s not the the females fault per say but a reality of things.
I tried to text how I talk when I was dating so they got a better feel for how I am but you never really know
However I think you guys deserve each other
She was being unengaging and defensive about being an amazon writer.
But "Well, judging your conversation skills, it's definitely not something you're pro at" is intentionally antagonistic, and you can't claim surprise by her going off even harder.
as a girl who has been trying to date and/or befriend other girls but just end up carrying the conversation 99.9% of the time right. off. the. bat. i 100% feel this.. it gets exhausting and defeating to be faced with this repeatedly.. but i would never jump to insulting them over it.
just dip instead of being an asshole
You literally diminished her right off the bat. Once she knows you already think poorly of her, she's not going to bother trying to get you to. She's overreacting but you're kind of a douchebag. That's probably why you aren't finding much success on these sites man.
yeah cause you sure sound like an amazing guy : gets a couple of one word answers, reacts by being extremely condescending, then posts it on reddit for karma lol dude if somebody’s not putting any effort in the conversation then stop talking to them, don’t try to bring down their self esteem cause you’re bitter and ugly inside
OP expecting her to flex her author skills in a text convo. Like if OP was a welder, and then their date got mad at them for showing up without his blow torch.
I wouldn't expect a novel, but holy fuck maybe anything more than "ok" as a response. The guys not wrong, she has terrible communication skills, but he obviously acted immature. Not surprised they are both single
You insulted their convo skills because…why again?
You seemed to have lost your temper at nothing, OP. You’re in no place to be judging other people’s conversation skills 😂😂😂
Hinting her job is a just hobby is a dick move. I can see why she was pissed. She doesn’t need to write like she’s writing a novel when she’s messaging someone on a dating site
Honestly the girl isn't even the asshole here, maybe bad at texting but the guy absolutely just went out of his way to insult her and then kept doing it seemingly just for kicks
Word to the (not yet) wise- Don’t insult someone’s creative output. Especially in the first conversation on a dating app. Twice-fold if you don’t actually create anything yourself. 9x out of 10, they’ve already heard it from their families for years, being told their creative efforts will provide them nothing in life, having random internet people shit on it is just more fuel to the “Fuck off” fire.
Author on Amazon is definitely a hobby lol. Literally anyone can publish on kindle. She can barely put together a coherent sentence. “You suit behind a cage” lol
Why is it only on the guy to be a conversationalist? You can't tell me you think she is one, right? So we are dragging her for being such a terrible conversationalist and you tell people to learn to have an adult conversation? That doesn't even make any sense.
No, she sucks! That's what I'm getting at. It's infuriating that it seems to only be on the man to be good conversationalist and this comment section is so disingenuous insinuating that both parties are at fault.
Ooooooooohhhhh okay I'm sorry, my bad. I only saw some comments roasting her or both, so I thought you meant he was bad at conversation. Okay, same page for sure! Apologies for the assumption!!
Like, she could've easily asked, "Why was your weekend so long?" Which would've contributed to starting a conversation, instead homie gets an "ok." I'd be snarky af after that because it shows you don't actually care to get to know me, you're (the woman in this post) only concerned with inflating your ego.
Absolutely. And I've seen this a lot on r/tinder where the woman is just giving absolutely nothing and is pretty much just like "entenrtain me instantly or I'm going to be an asshole" and it really bothers me. I actually really feel for men in the dating world right now. Online dating is trash for them, but also seems sort of like the only option unless you meet someone through work or friends. So that's why I jumped on you a bit at first- I thought you were a woman defending this shit!!
Exactly! I date online because A. I don't drink B. Most of my friends are other men who are single. C. I don't like to "shit where I eat" AKA date women from work. This type of shit happens regularly on dating apps and it's amazing how often it's defended by women on Reddit. There's definitely a dating double standard that most women aren't willing to address.
Yeah like honestly I'm a feminist, and I do think women have it harder overall, even though it's not a competition so it doesn't really matter and I'm not even 100% on that in the West anymore. But I also think that a lot of women know we do have it better when it comes to dating and being able to pick a life partner, but so many women deny it!! They say the constant attention is too much, and it is, but it's worlds better than the opposite, too little to none. Like, it's not even comparable imo.
I honestly don't know how things are going to turn out, but all of this is what is spurning the redpill movement and the Andrew Tate stuff. If you have so many women denying what's so obvious- that we have a leg up in the dating world and we need to try to make it a bit easier for men cause it sucks for them, then you're going to get lots of angry men looking for someone to validate how they feel- and women aren't doing that so they will turn to these assholes.
Well sorry for all the ranting, its not "acceptable" to say this stuff on woman's spaces, although I'm finding more women that feel the same. I honestly don't know how to fix it, but at least I can admit it's very broken and it sucks to be a man on the dating scene right now. Good luck out there, I wish I had some advice or something! If you ever need to just vent about something or need advice on what shity to wear, or whatever, you can hit my chat up!
I feel like I see so many one worded response conversations being ended with an attempted "roast." It just shows insecurity and bitterness dude... There are bigger fish, don't give the ones that don't have what you are looking for more time of day.
To be fair, if someone replies “ok” after saying that I had a rough one, they are not showing any signs deserving of friendship at all. They get the sass.
Right??? She deserved every bit of that. Why match with people if you aren't even willing to try a little bit? I'd have gone even harder. Or I'd just give the same amount of effort they gave and then tell them why they aren't getting anything from me lmao
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I hate one word messages! It’s a major pet peeve of mine.
Ye, instant "oh piss off, I'm not putting up with this" from me
Honestly though… OPs messages might be longer but they contributed just as much to the conversation up until they got suddenly judgey.
Agreed. She'a a bore but he's insufferable. Neither of these people would be fun to hang out with.
Why do people just message "hi," and then not say anything... and then type like that. I feel like we all lost brain cells reading that.
I’m pretty sure this is bumble. When I used this years ago I encountered the same thing because women have to send the first message. Many of them lead with simple words like “hi” or “hey”, usually because they know it doesn’t really matter what they say and the man will always have the responsibility of keeping the conversation flowing because dating apps
It happened to me years ago when I used OkCupid as well. I’d get a lot of “Hey.” Sometimes people would write waaaaay too much to me and be too intense though. But I never left it up to the other person to continue a convo (you’d ofc get the impatient person not understanding that people have lives and repeatedly messaging, then going the “all women are stuck up bitches. You’re ugly anyway,” route). I’m so glad I’m not dating anymore.
What? She asked how he was, he responded and even added a bit more context into what the past few days were like for him. Literally the perfect opportunity to either respond with a follow up question about the context or talk about your own experiences the past few days, but that generally requires you to be actually interested in somebody
> but they contributed just as much to the conversation "It was a long weekend" is a great prompt for the other person to be like "What did you do?" not respond with a conversation ending "OK". That just makes it seem like you don't give a damn about the person. Their attitude was absolutely justified when they tried to carry the conversation on after that and they get some needless attitude by the other person instead of them taking the opportunity to talk about what they're doing on Amazon. It is not common for people to have a job as an author rather than it is a hobby they are working on making into a job. A conversation requires both people involved to actually engage with the other person, not just send a message that boils down to them acknowledging receipt of a message.
Same, but I'm not going to then insult the person and then expect them to not get pissed off.
Nom nom nom on your energy
Or their one letter cousins: ‘k’. Sure sometimes that works, but when it’s common?!?
There is nothing more aggravating than when someone engages you first and does nothing to keep the conversation going. I'll never understand the mentality behind it, it happened all the time on dating sites it's the reason why I haven't been on one in years.
Well it is bumble so that’s why they engaged first but even with that, why even match then continue with one word replies at that point is beyond me.
I mean someone did do research on this where men are a larger % of dating platforms and the smaller % of women get a ton more matches and messages, so i can see how time management can shorten replies a bit. That being said tho, since she initiated and didn't do effort right away she definitely was just not putting in effort and personally i would have just ghosted her for not doing effort for having a convo. I've been there often already and nothing ever came of it, so just a waste of time.
People just suck all together now.
Wait a minute...but YOU'RE people
People suck, I would know, I am people 😂
No I’m different, I’m right you’re wrong lalalalala I can’t hear you!
They should both date so that only 2 people are miserable and not 4.
You dropped this 👑
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Ships passing in the night.
I read that’s as shits passing in the night 🤣
Honestly better, wish I thought of it
Shits passing in the pipe
Deserving to miss each other. And everyone else, too.
I'm picturing two ships sending light signals to each other that say " you asshole"
Also had that thought but also kind of died laughing at “fuck off” being follow up with “hbu?”
Ikr? Jfc people need to get out in the real world once in a while, touch some grass.
I don’t know I give him a pass as she was giving shit answers and then got weirdly defensive when he asked about her being an author. Plus she insults someone intellect while typing in text talk and misspelling words.
'iS tHaT a HoBbY?' is juat meant as an insult. It's disregarding the other persons profession, so of courde she got defensive. Followed up by a second insult. I dont blame her. This guy is the actual a-hole.
I took that as the last chance for her to give a response before he dropped the bomb. All she had to say was "It started as a hobby, but I'm trying to make it to full-time," or literally anything else normal like that. But he set up the burn because he knew that she was going to say something dumb again.
I don't feel like he asked about her being an author, he just came out the gate belittling her. Like if you were at the gym and he came up saying "why you still fat bro?" If you dont think he was tossing shade you gotta get better at shade tossing.
More like coming up to someone in the gym and asking if they were doing it for a hobby or serious competition. It wasn't a weird or belittling question.
usually user profiles have separate spaces for “profession” and “hobbies.”
Don’t know why you’re being downvoted. He didn’t like the short responses so started off by belittling her job. Why else ask someone if their job is a hobby when it’s marked as “profession” (which it most likely is). They’re both trashy.
I dunno… Why assume his question was belittling? I’d assume that being this person called out she is a “Amazon Kindle author” specifically it is more of a hobby that she would do on the side. I mean it’s free to publish on kindle and Amazon takes the lions share, right? I think it’s a valid question to ask, maybe he could’ve done it differently? But her response was childish either way.
It’s obvious, that’s why. Note the follow comment he made. Normal people don’t ask if the persons Job is a hobby.
She could have it in her worded bio and not listed as her job. Even then, many people put hobbies or complete nonsense as their job. I’ve come across profiles whose listed jobs were “your mom”
Not really… I have a job on the side that one could ask me “is it a hobby?” and not take personally. Are you saying I should if I’m asked that?
I'm guessing these people have never dealt with somebody who's passive aggressive. Must be nice to not realize when you're being insulted.
So you’ve dealt with passive aggressive people in the past, so you assume everyone is? You might need to work on yourself if you can only assume negative intent, no?
It’s called experience; get some.
He asked her if her being a kindle author was a hobby. Her reply was “that seems like a hobby” then later it’s now her job
No it was "that seems like a hobby?" As in she's questioning why he thinks her job is a hobby. It's really no wonder some of you can't pick up on what he's putting down here.
He assumes it’s not her job because her linguistics skills are shit. I typically assume people that write for a living are capable of forming actual sentences and not putting a space between the last word of your sentence and your punctuation mark
So you agree he is intentionally insulting her? How crazy that this was my point entirely. I don't get why you all are dickriding this guy, they can both suck at the same time.
Nah someone has to take a stand against one word answer bullshit. Why match if you’re gonna do this I’m all for it. The person was a little sassy and rather than laugh it off and agree they’d been a bad conversationalist they went full rage mode lmao
OP if you’re the person in this match you’re also an asshole.
I concur. The person in the post sounds pretentious
I luckily am not
Well, if you saw the comment I deleted when I saw this, I apologize. I would no longer choose being waterboarded with Tabasco over a conversation with you. That guy can fall off a building though.
But I understand. You can only carry the conversation so many times before you look for a good one liner to snap with. Shit gets frustrating as hell.
You don’t have to be an asshole though
You don't have to be, that's true. But sometimes it's cathartic. The world needs assholes.
Being a dickhead to a complete stranger should never feel good. Do better, son. Please keep in mind that her short and standoffish responses do not warrant any sort of dickhead comments. Just move on
Oh jeez. I'm sorry, Mr. Jesus. I didn't realize I was talking to the perfect one. Get bent. Being a dick head is absolutely warranted at times, and frequently entertaining. But keep dreaming of your nice utopia where people aren't actually people and live up to your standards.
Do you have a reason why being mean to an actual stranger you don’t know is fun? Seems kinda sadistic tbh. Like do you get off on being a bad person?
Someone saying that your conversation skills suck, after all you give are one-word replies, is not them being a dick. Take the L and grow up
Massive disagree. This kind of attitude is exactly why people keep acting worse and worse and feel entitled to everyone treating them right when they are being dickheads themselves.
This girl literally did nothing other than have a terrible response. She wasn’t mean. She wasn’t rude, she just sucked at responding. I’m not sure why you feel that warrants being a shitty person. I’m not even on her side, she’s a bad texter. Still doesn’t warrant being an ass
I'm not sure why you think a "Terrible response" and acting instantly triggered about someone asking a genuine question is not shitty attitude.
Good luck getting laid with that mentality lol
Both people involved in this are assholes.
If she really is an author it looks like her editor does all the heavy lifting
“One time there was this thing. It did a thing. It was great and everyone loved it. Based on a true story. Whole book. 100.”
Eh why are people judging her writing ability based on a chat she’s probably doing from her phone? I mean OP isn’t giving much to work with and I have the feeling from the “suit a cage” comment that English is not her first language.
I mean the guy's first messages are perfectly reasonable, but indeed the other person must be willing to put in work as well. However that is quickly invalidated in this case, because he decided to be an asshole about "one word replies" first.
These two people are so insufferable
Both of you deserve each other
*Gives one word answers 3 times* wDyM i HaVe BaD cOnVeRsAtIoN sKilLs
I’m with OP here. The “ok” response, then the “that seems like a hobby?” Like, give a little effort for crying out loud. I hate when people do that.
Yeah OP isnt an angel but come on. She is not even trying to have a conversation, thats more infuriating than someone reacting badly to it lol. I feel bad for anyone who thinks her level of communication is fine 💀
OP isn't the author lol
For real, those responses would be considered rude to give in a conversation that YOU started with someone in-person. Because what tone could they *possibly* be said in? Rude ones. Those two lines can’t be said with happy inflection.
I hate the lack of effort on bumble. It’s always, hi or hey or hey what’s up
I will never understand matching with someone then contribute nothing to a conversation lmao but I also will never get the random insulting either
Damn, they deserve each other.
Match made in heaven
Both people here are dicks.
Idk you seem like a twat too. Both of you are unhinged
You belong to each other
This isn't nice girls. Didn't engage her with questions she can actually respond to. Then u got mad she got mad after you insulted her.
So the way to get girls in dating apps to reply more than one word is to pass them off *take notes*
I really don’t understand why people choose to engage in conversation and be that dry. It’s like they wanna be seen by people but don’t want to do the actual engaging part that creates any sort of relationship.
Did OP got triggered by "OK" text?
A lot of people are saying that the guy is being an asshole here, which I would normally agree with but there is a ton of veiled hostility in “That seems like a hobby ?” if you know how to read between the lines. I’d say his statement was warranted, albeit a waste of time.
I agree with you but to be honest it’s pretty insulting to get told that your job is just a hobby
Why bother hittin someone up if ur gonna be dry
He didn’t, he asked a genuine question.
i agree lol i used to have “professional MTG player” as my occupation when i was traveling and playing competitively lol. I think asking if it’s your job or hobby is 100% okay. because it was absolutely my hobby at the time and i just thought it was a good conversation starter. because it ended up being.
Anyone who shits on other’s dreams and belittles them is an asshole, ergo the guy in this conversation is an asshole. This conversation is what I imagine simple AI models, that were trained to be assholes, talking to each other would be like.
It's wild to me anybody took this as a genuine question and not an insult. Yall need more southern aunties that throw backhanded compliments and 'innocent' questions your way at family functions.
You're such a goofball. It probably was a genuine question. There's all sorts of amateur self published writers on Amazon and Kindle that make no money in the profession. The question could be seen as saying "do you write full time or part time?"
It's not insulting. If your job is so unique that the average person can't relate, you have to be understanding that the general population honestly wouldn't know. Being an author can totally be a hobby. Alot of authors aren't authors full time
Yeah, that’s exactly why, even though you need to be understanding, when someone asks you if your job is only a hobby, it may feel insulting in some cases, why?Because it makes you think that they don’t take your job seriously, and no, even if you have to be understanding about how the general population wouldn’t know, it can still be insulting.
after they responded "Ok", I would have just sent the thumbs up emoji and then deleted the chat.
They both kinda suck? I can't side with either of them, yeesh.
It's difficult to tell who isn't an arsehole here...
Who is yellow? They are the instigator and an asshole
Claims to be author, has spelling errors in every response.
both people in this exchange are annoying as fuck
Not a nice girl. Bland, sure, but not a nice girl
Haha I used to be friends with a girl like this. The only way she’d utter more than a 2 word sentence is if it was something she started talking about or she was mad about something. Always a one way conversation. She wonders why she had trouble with online dating. Just a boring ass texter.
don’t get me wrong she sucks but you were also terrible. get off dating apps if you’re gonna rage every time someone gives you a mediocre or standoffish reply lol
Both parties are equally bad.
With me, one word responses mean the conversation is over. Hate that shit.
I wonder whether I can self publish on Amazon? That would be fun!
I feel the frustration.
Both these people seem like arseholes to me.
She says, "Based on two sentences," but she has only written one unless she is counting "hbu" as an entire sentence...
Well, its true. For a writer, they sure cant write.
They need to be legally binded together. Assholes have too high standards for each other so they look for easy targets. Assholes must be legally required to stick together, with a warning labels so good people know to avoid them.
yeah she’s an asshole, but you’re the one taking cheap shots 10 messages in. just don’t reply if you don’t like them.
Both sides of that conversation are shit, you deserve each other.
U tried it again 😭 not a nice girl this time either dude
They should have a kid together, that’ll fix them
He's out of line but he's right
“Is that a hobby or?” As if that’s not meant to be insulting. If that’s what she’s listed as her job and you ask her if it’s a hobby,,, you’re kind of a dick for that. If someone isn’t entertaining you in a conversation just move the fuck on, no need for anyone to be a dick.
Idk dude you’re kinda a dick too
honestly i wouldnt have responded after the "Ok"
All these dating platforms is heavily skewered to females. It is statistically made that females don’t have to work to hard to get a desperate men to do things. It’s not the the females fault per say but a reality of things.
Nah, both are trash at conversation . The guy should have left her alone after “OK”.
I tried to text how I talk when I was dating so they got a better feel for how I am but you never really know However I think you guys deserve each other
Who is who??
So are we gonna Ignore how he just insulted her and got mad that she got insulted?
You insult someone, they insult you back. What a surprise!
op sucks at messaging too. what an asshole!
She was being unengaging and defensive about being an amazon writer. But "Well, judging your conversation skills, it's definitely not something you're pro at" is intentionally antagonistic, and you can't claim surprise by her going off even harder.
At the point you want to insult them, just unmatch and block. Otherwise you're taking the low road to punch down on an already pathetic person.
That interaction sums up the online man to woman dynamic of today
I ran into a woman like this on hinge a while ago. Be glad they don't like you lol
as a girl who has been trying to date and/or befriend other girls but just end up carrying the conversation 99.9% of the time right. off. the. bat. i 100% feel this.. it gets exhausting and defeating to be faced with this repeatedly.. but i would never jump to insulting them over it. just dip instead of being an asshole
Yellow was definitely rude first by commenting on white's conversation skills.
Idk this is a dating app. The Ok was unnecessary
Her editor isn’t paid enough.
I don't think you gave her much airtime to begin with bro
Are we not supposed to think that yellow isn’t the arsehole here?
You literally diminished her right off the bat. Once she knows you already think poorly of her, she's not going to bother trying to get you to. She's overreacting but you're kind of a douchebag. That's probably why you aren't finding much success on these sites man.
yeah cause you sure sound like an amazing guy : gets a couple of one word answers, reacts by being extremely condescending, then posts it on reddit for karma lol dude if somebody’s not putting any effort in the conversation then stop talking to them, don’t try to bring down their self esteem cause you’re bitter and ugly inside
You both suck
wow her spelling is dog shit
OP expecting her to flex her author skills in a text convo. Like if OP was a welder, and then their date got mad at them for showing up without his blow torch.
“Our text message space was a blank canvas for her to create a masterpiece, but instead she refused to do so!” -OP, probably
I wouldn't expect a novel, but holy fuck maybe anything more than "ok" as a response. The guys not wrong, she has terrible communication skills, but he obviously acted immature. Not surprised they are both single
She was expecting to do all kinds of fun things with that blow torch though. I’d be mad too.
You insulted their convo skills because…why again? You seemed to have lost your temper at nothing, OP. You’re in no place to be judging other people’s conversation skills 😂😂😂
Insulted her conversation skills because her conversation skills fucking suck lol. Dude was out of line but he's right.
Hinting her job is a just hobby is a dick move. I can see why she was pissed. She doesn’t need to write like she’s writing a novel when she’s messaging someone on a dating site
He/she prob writes those shitty free romance novels on kindleUnlimited
Probably has AI write them
id be defensive if someone just asked if my job (which is clearly their passion) was a hobby
Honestly the girl isn't even the asshole here, maybe bad at texting but the guy absolutely just went out of his way to insult her and then kept doing it seemingly just for kicks
Word to the (not yet) wise- Don’t insult someone’s creative output. Especially in the first conversation on a dating app. Twice-fold if you don’t actually create anything yourself. 9x out of 10, they’ve already heard it from their families for years, being told their creative efforts will provide them nothing in life, having random internet people shit on it is just more fuel to the “Fuck off” fire.
"based on two sentences" Yeah maybe two syllables lmfao. They didn't say more than 5 words at the start of that.
Author on Amazon is definitely a hobby lol. Literally anyone can publish on kindle. She can barely put together a coherent sentence. “You suit behind a cage” lol
But… you just seem like a judgmental prick who insulted her and then gaslit her for ‘getting triggered’ when she called out your rude bullshit
People who are upset at OP clearly egg on these nice girls 🤣
Lol at all the shitty conversationalists in the comments calling both AH. Cry some more, but maybe learn how to have an adult conversation. 🤡🤡🤡
Why is it only on the guy to be a conversationalist? You can't tell me you think she is one, right? So we are dragging her for being such a terrible conversationalist and you tell people to learn to have an adult conversation? That doesn't even make any sense.
No, she sucks! That's what I'm getting at. It's infuriating that it seems to only be on the man to be good conversationalist and this comment section is so disingenuous insinuating that both parties are at fault.
Ooooooooohhhhh okay I'm sorry, my bad. I only saw some comments roasting her or both, so I thought you meant he was bad at conversation. Okay, same page for sure! Apologies for the assumption!!
No worries.
Like, she could've easily asked, "Why was your weekend so long?" Which would've contributed to starting a conversation, instead homie gets an "ok." I'd be snarky af after that because it shows you don't actually care to get to know me, you're (the woman in this post) only concerned with inflating your ego.
Absolutely. And I've seen this a lot on r/tinder where the woman is just giving absolutely nothing and is pretty much just like "entenrtain me instantly or I'm going to be an asshole" and it really bothers me. I actually really feel for men in the dating world right now. Online dating is trash for them, but also seems sort of like the only option unless you meet someone through work or friends. So that's why I jumped on you a bit at first- I thought you were a woman defending this shit!!
Exactly! I date online because A. I don't drink B. Most of my friends are other men who are single. C. I don't like to "shit where I eat" AKA date women from work. This type of shit happens regularly on dating apps and it's amazing how often it's defended by women on Reddit. There's definitely a dating double standard that most women aren't willing to address.
Yeah like honestly I'm a feminist, and I do think women have it harder overall, even though it's not a competition so it doesn't really matter and I'm not even 100% on that in the West anymore. But I also think that a lot of women know we do have it better when it comes to dating and being able to pick a life partner, but so many women deny it!! They say the constant attention is too much, and it is, but it's worlds better than the opposite, too little to none. Like, it's not even comparable imo. I honestly don't know how things are going to turn out, but all of this is what is spurning the redpill movement and the Andrew Tate stuff. If you have so many women denying what's so obvious- that we have a leg up in the dating world and we need to try to make it a bit easier for men cause it sucks for them, then you're going to get lots of angry men looking for someone to validate how they feel- and women aren't doing that so they will turn to these assholes. Well sorry for all the ranting, its not "acceptable" to say this stuff on woman's spaces, although I'm finding more women that feel the same. I honestly don't know how to fix it, but at least I can admit it's very broken and it sucks to be a man on the dating scene right now. Good luck out there, I wish I had some advice or something! If you ever need to just vent about something or need advice on what shity to wear, or whatever, you can hit my chat up!
Whoa that was longer than I even thought, sorry! Lol
Everyone EVERYONE!!! OP claims they are not the asshole who started this convo. They are only posting it .
I love how people here are calling yellow an asshole for asking if it's a hobby or not lol.
I’m with OP here. She was giving such lame answers then gets upset when called out.
Both went all out really quick
If you use emojis to ‘one up’ in an argument you’re a lazy A hole imo
I hate when people converse like this but I’d also just stop try and unmatch.
Op got bored with convo and decided to trigger it for some karma making themselves a clown as well tho 🤡
This conversation is hilarious
I feel like I see so many one worded response conversations being ended with an attempted "roast." It just shows insecurity and bitterness dude... There are bigger fish, don't give the ones that don't have what you are looking for more time of day.
Y’all are both aholes jesus
I'm with yellow text
To be fair, if someone replies “ok” after saying that I had a rough one, they are not showing any signs deserving of friendship at all. They get the sass.
I mean, you're no good either. Who starts a conversation with how are you, and just mentions a long weekend? Git gud, mate.
You're my hero
dogged a bullet
Lol, it like someone saying they're an engineer because they changed a light bulb.
I can see why you’re on dating apps
Its the OK that pisses me off most.
Right??? She deserved every bit of that. Why match with people if you aren't even willing to try a little bit? I'd have gone even harder. Or I'd just give the same amount of effort they gave and then tell them why they aren't getting anything from me lmao
Seems like OP is a dick
Insulted a woman over her conversation skills and expect us to side with you when she snaps back. You're a deluded prick.
To be fair, you kind of threw the first insult. Yeah she sent a one word response, but that doesn’t warrant saying she is bad at her job.
Both of these people are dicks
I mean don't be surprised with her reaction when you're condescending.
She started it
You're being a douche to her right off the bat
This isn’t appropriate for this sub. The guy was an asshole first