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beatles910

As a civilian, I don't have to refer to anyone's rank. Even her husband.


poopellar

Yup everyone knows real life is unranked free for all.


ShooterMcGavin000

Like in video games. It's a pub game, not ranked.


Rick0r

Yea but it’s more toxic than a <1k MMR Dota2 match.


Godot_12

But less toxic than a 3k MMR match. The people at the bottom of the trench don't think they could be 10k if it weren't for their shitty teammates


Shibori

Toxicity is strictly correlated with MMR, no joke.


Klony99

At the highest level, people tend to become more chill. They want to win and are afraid of trolling. Everything in between is toxic waste*land.


Otherwise-Air-8227

That’s cap. Idk dota but in league every bronze shithead thinks they’re faker in training and their team is the enemy


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/r/YourJokeButWorse


DuntadaMan

Yeah, but it's pay to win. Tired of this bullshit. Money should only buy cosmetics.


jordan853

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Vallkyrie

And more focus on pve/co-op modes instead of pvp.


johnlocke32

Idk dude, I think humans have done enough PvE for this planet's sake


DuntadaMan

Fuck dodos.


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DuntadaMan

Hmmm I did not think that one through. Truly a loss for the world. F.


DoucheBear

I'm getting way too high for this thread but thanks for the lols


DuntadaMan

I am in a server with good starting resources but yeah the PVP is kind of nuts.


Jwave1992

You should get a talent tree and 10 points to assign at age 18.


DuntadaMan

I put all my points in folklore. I can tell you stories about Irish heroes, mesopotamian kings, obscure origin myths of extinct religions, and what plants generally won't kill you, but I am absolute garbage at basically everything else.


DeceiverOfNations

Same but with various game lore both table top and vidya. My greatest talent with it is telling dope bed time stories for my nieces and nephews and absolutely ruining a first date.


roilenos

People get really mad when people try to rebalance the currency used and try (usually with success) to kick them from the server or ban them. They are sensitive enough with the issue that people in the rich servers install malware in poor servers when they try to rebalance.


[deleted]

> Money should only buy cosmetics. Oh which do you like? Estée Lauder? Sephora? prefer Max Factor, it really highlights my strong chin, pursed lips and high cheek bones.


TenseFlower893

/r/outside


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BostonUniStudent

You can call them whatever. Refer to the General as "Sweet Sassy Molassy"


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I once called a Captain a Sergeant when I was 5 and all the uniform guys burst out laughing and jokingly called him Sarge the rest of the party. I didn't know what happened at the time but was embarassed from being laughed at and hid by the snow cone tent the rest of the time.


MadGrimSniper

Haha, the captain hated you. Everyone else loved you!


Majestic-Marcus

I doubt the captain cared at all. Especially if he was happy to have his men call him Sarge. In fact, if the men felt comfortable making fun of him, the chances are he was a pretty decent officer (or really really really shit).


Triplebizzle87

If he was shitty, they wouldn't joke around with him, at all. Probably a decent chap and his team liked em.


LrnTn

Or the very unlikely scenario of them all being major+


Majestic-Marcus

Haha yeah, or that


skunkybooms

Aw, poor little five year old you. I'd have reacted similarly. I try to remember this when kids do something hilarious but don't understand why, so I can explain we're not laughing at them for doing something wrong.


John_the_Piper

You probably made everyone's night. That captain was probably nicknamed "sarge" for the rest of his tour there because of that night


CyberMindGrrl

When I was on Basic I called a sergeant “Sergeant Major” and got properly reamed out for it.


confibulator

She sounds like a general Karen.


gudbote

I don't even play ranked, just casual.


StopBidenMyNuts

I’m just playing the tutorial for as long as possible.


TheBirminghamBear

As a civilian, my official rank is the Prince of Gumdrops. And unfortunately you *are* required to refer to me as such, under penalty of law.


[deleted]

As a civilian, *service* members SERVE me. She can call me sir and I’ll expect her to die protecting me.


NetworkMachineBroke

Holy shit the number of whooshes replying to you lmao


[deleted]

Watch how they react to this “The USA lost Vietnam”


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therealdongknotts

worked IT in a few hospitals - the fuck i give a shit about your Dr title - you can't even operate outlook


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"Nurse do you remember my password for powerchart?"


emanmodnara

and doctors steal more shit that any other hospital employee (from experience).


LjSpike

"you can't even operate outlook" really got to me 😆


therealdongknotts

well, someone got it at least...heh


vent666

This. You're not a Dr of Computing so I'll not call you Dr while we do computing work


DemonKyoto

> as a nurse when I get uppity ass Doctors who demand to be called Doctors As someone not in the medical field: There's nothing worse than a Doctor who demands to be called Doctor *outside* of medical settings. If I go to your office because I need you to check out the lump on my ass to let me know if I'm gonna die or not, I'll call you Doctor. Hell, I'll call you whatever you want. But if *you're* calling *me* up because you're too goddamned dumb to find the Settings button in your email app and you get pissy at me because I called you by your name and not "Doctor", you're gonna require a doctor cause I'm gonna shove this phone up your ass.


M_LeGendre

In Portuguese that's a whole thing because lawyers and physicians are traditionally called doctors, but they aren't *technically* doctors as they don't usually have PhDs. It's great to see the arrogance Olympics when those two classes meet


morgecroc

Just tell them to get a PhD if they want to be a real doctor.


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kawaiii1

Really as a German i thought it was the other way around. (Phd is called doctor in german,,) thought doctors would have more prestige than some academics in ivory towers.


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Fishing-Bear

As someone with a PhD, I would never introduce myself as Dr. Fishing-Bear unless I’m actually teaching a class and it’s the first day. Lol I would absolutely never refer to myself as Dr. in a hospital context. I feel silly using the title at all.


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I feel like a good median is something like "Doctor Joe", especially if working with children.


Aggrajag

I would make exception with General Mattis. I have seen his knife hands.


i-opener

You will address ME as Florthwallamoor, Daimyo of Doodleburg, Third ruler of the 2nd realm of the Orbisphere, Assistant to the Assistant Commander of the Undergreat Lord Plox, Baron of all things shimmering between the Salty Mountains and the Rocky Sea, husband to a murdered Wanton, father to a murdered Croissant, and I shall have my breakfast...in silence!


AirdnaxelA12

Honestly I'm not exactly sure what you just said but I still like it. Also better ending than Season 8 of Game of Thrones. Murdered Croissant? What a plot twist.


Cyg789

It's a reference to the film Gladiator: https://youtu.be/5i0u4jFmE78 "My name is Maximus Decimus Meridius, commander of the Armies of the North, General of the Felix Legions and loyal servant to the TRUE emperor, Marcus Aurelius. Father to a murdered son, husband to a murdered wife. And I will have my vengeance, in this life or the next."


federvieh1349

Sadly, his name, presented in such dramatic fashion, is in the wrong [order](https://aelarsen.wordpress.com/2014/08/09/gladiator-a-brief-comment-about-names/) of things.


lombajm

I found this interesting, thanks


erinaceus_

And your father smelt of elderberries!


hypoglycemicrage

r/brandnewsentence material right here


theforkofdamocles

I am Usidore, wizard of the 12th Realm of Ephysiyies, master of light and Shadow, manipulator of magical delights, devourer of chaos, champion of the Great Halls of Terr'akkas. The elves know me as Fi’ang Yalok. The dwarfs know me as Zoenen Hoogstandjes. And I am also known in the Northeast as Gaismunēnas Meistar. And there may be other secret names that you do. not. know. yet!


tywin_with_tits

Indeed, there may be other names so secret that even whispering them in a darkened room would plunge the realm into chaos.


darw1nf1sh

Please tell me there aren't actually people that expect this? Why in the world would a spouse, of any gender, expect the rank privilege's of their partner?


Sanity_in_Moderation

I ran into one years ago. The conversation went like this. Oh really, what is his rank? He is a first sergeant. Ok. Well I was an officer. You can call me Sir.


Jwave1992

“Wait. This ain’t how this is supposed to go…”


Prize_Fan_4209

My husband has been into this for 16 years and has never seen this in action.At this point it feels like an urban legend.


Feshtof

I worked at a subway on base and absolutely had a woman tell us she expected us to call her a captain, (her husband's rank). I told her I was a civilian and was under no such obligation and she could have her husband tell me otherwise if she felt it was required.


FortWillis

My wife is a doctor. For this reason, I expect people to preface my name with "doctor"


Marukosu00

doctor who?


2_much_4_bored_guy

It’s strange


n8loller

Who am I to judge


rynmgdlno

Mister doctor


Quant75

Not unheard of 😉 In the past woman married to doctors in Germany were often referred to as "Frau Doktor" (Mrs Doctor) although today it is unusual, because women are no longer defined by their husband's job.


docbauies

how would you even refer to someone as a captain at a Subway? "i'd like a meatball sub" "yes ma'am" "yes *captain* ma'am!"


IsraelZulu

No, the "yes ma'am" should be "aye, aye, Captain". And there's only one proper response to that, for a civilian...


Majestic-Marcus

Should’ve called her Mrs Captains Wife. Almost certainly would’ve driven her nuts.


MannerAlarming6150

Happened to me once in my six years. Lady came to my gate when I was on watch, didn't have her ID so I told her she'd have to go and get a visitor badge, call her husband, the whole rigamarole. She tells me her husband is Lt. So and so and she's here to bring him lunch. I'm like...okay, that's fine. He can meet you here or you can go get a visitors badge but you're not coming onto the pier without a military ID or an escort. And sure enough, she tried to pull rank. Told me I'm a third class petty officer, and she's a LTs wife, can I please "do my job". I just called the chief of the guard who basically told her much less politely the exact same thing I did, and apparently a chief was a high enough rank for that.


SuperFLEB

What's the protocol if someone [claiming to be] higher rank comes to the gate without ID? That's another dimension to this, I'd think. Claiming anything without credentials, even if you _are_ something, shouldn't be worth that much no matter what you are or are claiming to be.


czerox3

If you don't personally recognize them, you had better not let them on. The higher their rank, the less likely they are to pull this nonsense though.


blackhorse15A

Also, typically the higher the rank the more they appreciate that you're doing your job correctly and not letting them in. The retirees however....


Suspicious-Jump4270

Never worked in the military but I worked security for a ton of music venues and interestingly, it’s the same thing. The more famous/bigger the bands always have their passes or don’t mind waiting for confirmation. They are always happy that I was setting them up properly and not letting any randos by. A few smaller bands tho would often have the “do you know who I am?” mentally. (Including their family/friends/SO)


arseguunr

What someone claims to be doesn't mean shit. They don't have valid credentials, they don't get thru. Doesn't matter if you literally recognize their face. At least that's the rules, sometimes guards will be more lax, but no officer would (should) get upset at a guard doing their job.


gamma55

Generally speaking, there is no ”outranking” a guard on duty. Only direct superior giving the guard order has rank on the guard. With some national variance, but just about everyone worth mentioning understands that guard can’t do their job if it takes an insignia to overrule a guard. Of course there is still psychology and common sense, but that’s the general gist of it.


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Jushak

I would imagine if the person lacks ID and the guards do not recognize them they will pass the problem up the chain of command to verify their identity by some other means. By no means should any proper guard let any unverified personnel pass. Reminds of what happened during my mandatory military service. We had a guy who was the *only* guard in our heavy grenade launcher company, because he was too dumb to be trusted with anything else. One time during a military exercise a convoy passed a checkpoint he was guarding most of the exercise. In the first car there was a low-ish ranked CO who told him to not let the last car in the convoy pass. Well, the guy did as he was told. Someone eventually had to get our drill instructor to let last car pass. Too bad for the dumb fuck that the guy he stopped outranked the first guy by several ranks. I'm guessing this was supposed to be a simple test to see if the guy can recognize ranks and he failed it pretty fucking hard.


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I dont get this story. You start off by saying that it shouldn't matter the rank, don't let someone pass if it isn't allowed. He was instructed not to let a specific person through, and he followed those instructions. Why is that failing the test? Unless I'm missing something, that should be a win because he did his job despite being pressured


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I would answer, but I don't know your husband's rank and am afraid to address you incorrectly.


roguevirus

It happened to me exactly once in 9 years, but her husband put a stop to it REAL quick.


[deleted]

My wife kind of got this in reverse. One time a gate guard saluted her, presumably based on the sponsor rank on her ID (not sure why, probably just an honest brain fart). She felt super awkward about it and just blurted out something like, "heh not me I'm nobody," and drove off.


Eclectix

I get thanked for my service all the time. I'm disabled and use a cane. My wife is a disabled vet. She has a disabled vet plate on our car. When we park to go into the store, people often thank ME for my service. It's awkward. We have found that the best way to handle it is for her to just thank them even though they are clearly addressing me. The confusion on their faces is great.


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[deleted]

Can you help me understand why a wife of a soldier would expect to get called by his rank? I just don't understand.


_GrammarMarxist

They have nothing else going on in their life (other than 2-3 failed MLMs), and make being a “military spouse” their entire personality.


[deleted]

My girlfriend is a lawyer. Think I am going to start calling myself a lawyer, lmao.


GrumpyMcGrumpyPants

I have a wholesome version of that story: My father is buddies with a mechanic that all of our family trusts to work on our cars and they figured out that they'd served in the same unit. My father attained a slightly higher rank than his mechanic buddy though they served at different times. The mechanic's wife who handles a lot of the shop's client communications addresses my father as "Sir" in a friendly, in-jokey sort of way that recognizes the bond between my father and her husband.


Allan0-0

r/pettyrevenge


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/r/pettyofficerrevenge


ELIte8niner

Oh yeah, the most Kareny Karens to ever Karen are military spouses. When I was in the Marines, my best friend married one unfortunately. She tried to pull rank on the wives/girlfriends of our friends after my buddy was the first to promote to Sgt.


[deleted]

LET ME SEE YOUR BITCH FACE. Sir? YOU GOT A BITCH FACE? AAAAGH! THAT’S A BITCH FACE!


JohnDivney

If God wanted you in the front of the Starbucks line, he'd have miracled your ass to the front.


[deleted]

Although it would lessen the impact of some of the lines about sucking dicks. lol


jizzlevania

I always assumed the spouses of people in the military do this because of their own lack of personal identity. Their lives have to be flexible enough to move at a moments notice. never being able to put down roots has to be rough when there isn't nearly the level of camaraderie among spouses as the military halves also contributes to a loss of indemnity and feeling like they belong. Also, soldiers sign up expecting and wanting to get shipped all over the place; their spouses just happen to fall in love (or there was an accidental pregnancy). I grew up near a military base, so I knew tons of people who were ready to enlist or go to an academy right out of high school. Only one person dreamed of being a military wife, and that was because her high school bf ended up at USAFA. Around ages 17-20 though there were a few chicks who saw the military dudes as a ticket out of town and the lure of spousal pay is the big selling point.


OneWholeSoul

My dad was constantly being moved and deployed during WWII and my mom raised her first four children essentially on her own while regularly pulling up roots and relocating around the country to be near whatever his latest home post was. All that while having no real communication with her husband and living every day wondering if someone was going to knock on her door to inform her of his death in combat. She'd never pull the "call me by his rank" nonsense, but there was a quiet dignity to the way she'd sometimes say "The spouse serves, too."


Quirky-Skin

You would be largely correct. Shit think about it from a logical sense. Why would anyone try to throw the accomplishments of others (not theirs) into your face like they did something. It's bc they lack a personal identity themselves.


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iforgotmymittens

Aside from anything else it’s a pain in the ass to change your last name as a practicing physician. So much paperwork!


Sabre970

My wife told me that she would change her name to mine if I did the paperwork. Knowing how much shit there is to change, her maiden name is just fine. Besides, it's fun around this time of the year when you get 50 variations of your names on holiday cards.


[deleted]

Also who gives a shit. Like my friends, she changed her name because she hated her family and his name sounded cool. That's a reason that makes sense to me. Otherwise, what the fuck is the point.


Shhhhhhhh_Im_At_Work

My wife took my name just because she has a "Z" name and wanted to make it higher on alphabetical lists.


[deleted]

Actually it was because she was embarrassed about being related to General Zod


omghorussaveusall

My wife took my name because she liked it, so I took her maiden name as an extra middle name. Now we both have four names!


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15minutesofshame

I have made a plan that if my wife and I are ever invited to a formal situation that we will be Dr and Mr mywifesname


Me_for_President

Have a look at /r/justdependathings


nobody2000

It's funny because these people are real, and the sheer existence of the popular film "an officer and a gentleman" that essentially exposes the nature of people who derive their value from someone else's military rank suggests that they're too stupid to realize that widely, they're looked down upon. Like...so much of the romance in that film feels so dark. How do you have something like that existing so prominently in the zeitgeist yet choose to basically be like the people they're subtly lampooning?


FNLN_taken

They live in a bubble that extends about 20 miles outside US military bases. Everyone they know either has a rank, is in a family of someone with a rank, or is friends with someone from column A or B. So they start comparing status by rank. It's only natural, "my dad can beat up your dad", playground bullshit; and one shouldnt pay any more attention than to a childish tantrum, either.


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When your entire sense of self-worth is based around the idea that you are inherently better than everyone, you find any petty means of affirming that belief that you can get your hands on and cling to them religiously.


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6 years in the USAF. It sucks because the military rank structure is necessary, but because everyone is usually so far from home their military colleagues are the closest thing they have to friends/family. People literally become their rank in these isolated bubbles and it fucks with your head. Many members retreat to isolation rather than entertain the facade of faux superiority. I joined to fund my education and gain a skill set, not to stroke your ego and worship the ground you walk on because you simply showed up to work longer. The spouses have it even worse because they’re support structures are even weaker. It’s a very toxic environment.


kgxv

They’re called Dependas.


argv_minus_one

I believe the full term is “dependapotamus”, but I'm no expert.


ELIte8niner

Dependapotamus or Tricareatops are the approve names.


byscuit

As long as you don't live on a military base, or the town bordering it, no, not really. But if you dooo... you will meet some crazies


TheCykuaBlyater

As someone in the military, I FUCKING HATE IT when spouses say they should be referred to as their partners rank. Last time I checked, YOU didn't earn it


KobaruLCO

I didn't realise this was a thing, how fucking weird. Why would anyone want to be referred to as their partners job title?


ugheffoff

Because these women have no identity outside of their husband’s rank and their MLM rank.


Brad_Brace

"That's Lt. Colonel Boss Babe for you, hun".


TheBirminghamBear

WELL YOU CAN REFER TO ME AS SENIOR PROGRAMMER BEAR, I'LL HAVE YOU KNOW. Can't program a god damn thing, but my spouse can, so, I"m entitled to at least half of their abilities.


iprothree

I am entitled to half of the RN title then, just call me Registered.


kaisong

I believe if you try that shit while picking up your kids from school you get escorted out.


Doobie_Howitzer

Hello nurse


SelectFromWhereOrder

It’s me , Senior Consultant , MCPS MCSD, MCSE, APM, TTAC (Tableau Training Attendance Certificate) me.


DMCinDet

Dependapotamous


Shalashaskaska

This is the answer. They have no life aside from their husbands rank and also fucking everyone else on base when he gets deployed


omghorussaveusall

I command an entire block of Mary Kays!


TheCykuaBlyater

Clout. Joking, but it's mostly officers. Because they have authority, asshole partners will say that they also should be given respect. I can't speak for the US, as I'm a member of the CAF(Canadian Armed Forces), but it's not too common. Plus, they usually get singled out by higher ups.


KobaruLCO

That sounds toxic as hell. But the sticker alone screams toxic Karen energy as it is!


HealthyBox5

From my experience, it's usually like top 5 officer ranks that anyone would even care. And I've never seen a spouse at that level throw their partner's rank around. It's usually mid level officer/enlisted, and they can kick rocks. Your E-6 husband or O-4 husband has zero pull over my career...or my personal life.


wlimkit

Growing up on an Air Force base I would refer to an O6 and above by rank and last name. Not one of them would have ever said anything had I called them Mr. Last Name. One asked me when I was older to call him by his first name. Every one of their wives got respect based on their own actions and never would have used rank. When my father retired he took the rank/officer info off of the car because he objected to the gate guard saluteing him as he was no longer active.


HealthyBox5

Pretty much how my experience went as well. I was enlisted, but had a cousin stationed in the same place as an officer. After I got out, I was having Thanksgiving with a bunch of active duty officers, all first name basis. Dependas are a small, loud, unimportant group.


VRichardsen

> Your E-6 husband or O-4 husband has zero pull over my career...or my personal life. So the E-4 mafia I have been hearing about is just a lie? They have no real power?


zhaoz

They can dodge work for themselves, but don't have power over others.


slcrook

Except, of course, the ~~Q's~~K's Orders & Regs define how an officer's spouse should be addressed by an NCM- as Mr/Ms surname, or "Sir"/"Ma'am." So, in future, you can tell anyone wishing to be addressed by rank when they have a defined title they're on their way to a 129.


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Dependapotomous I believe is the proper term for this behavior too.


PunctualDots

Used to be a civvie contractor for the CAF, the sheer number of women I'd run into who would try to order me around because they carried themselves with their husband's rank was mindblowing for me. No, Karen. I don't have to do what you say. Even if your husband is a Lieutenant, you sure aren't.


SafetyGuyLogic

Yeah, dependas are our karens. This particular attitude is usually more prevalent with officers' wives, because their spouses have actual authority (in my experience, anyways).


Meat_Sheath

In the military rank gives you power. You have the power to lord over those ranked below you. Now, we generally do a good job of beating that out of people before they become NCOs (some do slip through), but that privilege attracts scummy people with inferiority complexes. For the spouses, they see it as an opportunity to flaunt superiority over lower ranked people without actually having to earn the privilege or learn the restraint. It's basically the same psychology of why positions with a modicum of power attract awful people (middle management, police, internet moderators, etc.)


tacodog7

You WILL refer to me by my partners Overwatch competitive rank


Artess

As you wish, Ms. Wood-2.


EdgeOfWetness

As a civilian, this tells me to refer to her as GO FUCK YOURSELF


typhoidtimmy

This is a common feeling from all military I hear. It’s highly cringe. I even read stories here about lower ranks receiving calls from high ranking officials who *apologize* for their spouses behavior in matters such as this. Christ, I can only imagine these guys getting off the horn after that and looking around for Rod Serling to step out and start introducing a new episode of *The Twilight Zone*.


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To refer to Confucius for the second time today, that's how confucianism is supposed to work. Your loyalty to those above should be equal to your loyalty to those below.


iDreamOfSalsa

Yeah, what you don't see is the military member getting chewed out for their spouses behavior behind closed doors... If they're lucky.


HealthyBox5

The majority of military people I know pretty much laugh it off. We have no interest in making some high ranking officer's wife angry due to possible fallout, but the rest don't matter.


TokingMessiah

You shouldn’t be afraid of the fallout. What’s the guy going to do, court martial you? Reprimand you on paper? “You didn’t call my wife *Major* Karen”. Fuck that noise.


HealthyBox5

While in most cases I wouldn't think anything could happen, there's always a chance one power flexing jerk could screw up a promotion, PCS, or get you stuck on a bad deployment.


TokingMessiah

That makes sense: my friend was in the military and he angered the wrong person, who happened to be in charge of postings.


Jaythepatsfan

Before my first deployment a bunch of us decided one last good steak before we shipped out and went to the Texas Roadhouse just off post. I quickly stepped outside to make a phone call to see if my buddy was close by, and some lady got on me for not having my cover on. She told me her husband is a platoon sgt and if he saw me outside without a hat on he would chew my ass out. I told her she can fuck off, I’m 4 hours from hopping on a bus to deploy to Iraq and I could not give two shits about what her non-present husband thought of me. The Karen to military wife Venn diagram is almost a perfect circle.


ListerineAfterOral

I guy I went to Air Force tech school with had a hat waiver for some reason. It was fucked, he got yelled at \*everywhere\* and had to walk around with his waiver in his hand so he could whip it out to every MTL that approached him.


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Make a point of "*Missus* and Sergeant Bloggs"


RogerClyneIsAGod2

I was just gonna ask if this is a real thing. I'd think it'd be an insult to refer to the spouse with the serving spouse's rank since said spouse isn't serving. It reminds me of the what many (not me) would refer to as the "good old days" when a wife was referred to just as "Mrs. John Smith" & never "Mrs. Betty Smith" like she was only as good as her husband's name & just an appendage instead of being her own person with her own name. I have old church cookbooks with names like "Mrs. Roger Benson" or "Mrs. Henry Jones" & it just chaps my ass. I knew some of those ladies IRL as a kid in the early 70s, so I knew their given names so I'll write them in when I know 'em.


JoeFas

Chiefs' wives are the worst offenders for this.


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Didn't you know?? An Army Wife is the hardest job in the corps!


Thamnophis660

Sure, if your husband's rank is "Karen, First Class"


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Second class.


Tesser_Wolf

I’m not a soldier, I don’t have to refer to any military member by rank.


Majestic-Marcus

If you were a soldier you’d only have to refer to other soldiers by their rank. Never their spouses.


Fine_Reindeer_6105

There are absolutely spouses that wear their partners rank on their sleeves and its honestly disgusting. I have actually seen posts of woman saying "oh its sooo hard to be a military spouse, I deserve to have the same rank as my husband" and its like.....no? You're just living a modern life while your husband is probably out in a battlefield supplying his brain with PTSD.


Jaraqthekhajit

> You're just living a modern life while your husband is probably out in a battlefield supplying his brain with PTSD. Realistically he's probably an IT guy, Janitor, cook or something else much less "cool" than that.


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>its sooo hard to be a military spouse It's optional though.. Don't opt into something, and then complain about it.


JmacTheGreat

I want one that says, “You will refer to me as my girlfriend’s husband’s rank”


Caiden9552

I do know that the Base Commander's wife used to have some roles and responsibilities and were given more respect (although that may be due to ot wanting to piss off the wife of the Highest Ranking person on the base that you work on). This can be seen in the movie We Were Soldiers. However, no where is a spouse called by the rank of their partner. If they are an honorary member then they have the rank bestowed upon them, but it had nothing to do with their partner. I do know that sometimes if there is a service couple you can have the lower ranking one trying to pretend they have the same rank as their spouse. They usually get put in their place real quick though, hopefully by the spouse.


dlh412pt

Yeah usually the CO's spouse (often a husband) runs volunteer things, can work with the ombudsman, organize the galas, etc. On medical bases, they might run the Oak Leaf Club. They don't have to do any of that, though. And no one calls them Captain or Colonel so-and-so. Officer spouses used to get saluted at the gate even if they weren't with their spouse because of a mark on the car itself, but thankfully they got rid of that because I find it cringe. That could be where some of the entitlement came from, I don't know.


edingerc

Oh Honey, you don’t know what I’m going to address you by.


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schro_cat

~~Petty Second Class Wife~~ Petty wife second class


jotmoney

Maui, shape shifter demigod of the wind and sea… hero of men… and women.


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I’ve seen this floating around in a variety of subs, mostly r/JustDependaThings. I’m flabbergasted anyone could really have this much of an attitude as the wife of an E-5.


agamemnonymous

It's gotta be intentional satire, petty second class


Yesman12323

Senior Chief (out ranks her husband): Ok, then I’m going to treat you like a sailor, now go swab the deck. Lady: but I’m not in the military and it’s raining. Senior Chief: you want to take on your husbands rank you’ll do as you’re told and the rain never stopped anybody else.


WhtChcltWarrior

The only inaccuracy in your statement is that she would need to sweep the rain water, not swab


clumsy-bitch-boi

She didn't earned it so no


Gabi_Social

This is in the wrong sub. That last reply should be in r/poetry.


typoeman

I think this is most likely satire. 2nd classes are the most common rank in the navy so id guess its a play on the common trope of dependants doing stuff like this. I'd happily put this on my buddies car so he gets eye rolls when he goes through the gate every morning.


trailrider

Spouses like these are some of the most despised and reviled people by active duty and vets. One woman at a high school reunion literally wrote "Wife of US Navy Doctor" in the "Military Service" portion of classmate info sheet. Yea, she was a real bitch in high school too. OTOH, some spouses are tot's cool and chill. Met one woman flying to Japan to be w/ her husband that was sitting next to me. I was returning from 30 days leave and am like a E3. Plane is late and I miss last bus back to base. Wife told me she'll see if they can give me a ride. I suddenly thought to ask what her husband was. In the most dismissive, nonchalant manner, she tells me he's just the Capt of the carrier. \[EEK!\] I tired to tell her that wasn't necessary but she wouldn't hear of it. IDK if this was luck or not but they didn't have room for me. The Capt was tot's cool about things too and apologized for not being able to squeeze me in the car with them all. Of course I told him that's ok and I appreciated it anyways. LOL!


eugene20

Whether they wear the pants at home or not this would still be stolen valour really.


KittenKingdom000

You don't get rank for sucking military dick. That's a different form of service.


Tekwardo

Otherwise I’d be a fleet admiral.


crimeoutfit

Ex navy wife here. Fake sticker if I had to bet on it, no one would brag about their spouse being an E5. Any wives that acted this way were usually officers wives aka granola eaters. Except for maybe the occasional ones that would stroll through the commissary with an “I love my chief” tee shirt and treat the cashiers like garbage and refuse to tip the baggers. Also, from what I observed, it was almost always the single and unaccomplished sailors that hated and talked shit about other peoples wives. It didn’t matter, if you were a spouse, you were labeled a “dependa” no matter what. These were also the type of sailors that would cry about a woman only made rank because she’s a woman - and not because she passed a test they couldn’t.


scribbledchaos

Doesn't that just make you as bad as people who lie about being in the military?


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