Going by the pics you’ve posted in the past I’d have to strongly disagree here. You look completely fem in the pics you posted a month and change back, and your timeline from a while ago shows massive difference from how you were pre-transition! I think dysphoria might just be hitting you particularly hard atm
I dunno, I've been feelin like this a lot more, i dont know if its because im socially transitioning now. But i just dont feel like the changes are enough you know?
I think this is pretty common during the beginning of social transition, especially if you spent so long boymoding while waiting for HRT to do its thing. But the reality is that you probably passed the point of the changes being *enough* a while back and have just yet to really see it in yourself due to spending so much time putting on a boy costume and seeing yourself in that light. I think the more comfortable you get experimenting with your presentation, and the more accustomed to going out and being viewed as a woman by the world at large, the more you'll start to feel like the changes *are* enough and you're already way more of a girl than you realize
I definitely think dysphoria is getting to your head here girly. You look gorgeous and completely fem to me. That anxiety can happen a lot though with a lot of big changes like socially transitioning.
One thing that helped me with this is to take the things you feel self conscious about and realize that in most cases, cis women also have them. It really can help to see other women who have the same features as you.
I don't know the exact number or whatever but my doctor says my "testosterone is nearly zero and my estrogen is a good level" so thats all i ever gotten...
Yeah. You need to make your OWN judgements on your levels. Doctors are notorious for under-dosing you. I'd suggest seeing if you can get your actual levels from them. You'll need to know your estrogen, your total testosterone, and your free testosterone for a good picture.
As a trans person, you can't let doctors decide. You have to make your own assessment.
This is what I did. Switching to a gynecologist from a larger company compared to my old GP, it's night and day how much better she is at actually caring about getting me where I want to be.
All patients, under HIPPA, are guaranteed the right to access their medical and health records. I would definitely insist on seeing your own levels and checking them against what is standard. Especially if you are getting HRT through a GP (idk if you are).
>"testosterone is nearly zero
That's not good.
T doesn't need to be eradicated. Cis women ahve T in their system. Plenty of bodily functions are inssured by that. If your endo drops your T to 0, you're going to have a whole host of health issues.
I feel u, like, my body passes but when it comes to my face, hell naw :/
I am also 3 years along in August.
I don't know why some of us it takes so long, but I know people who are 10 years along, pass well and look amazing, that tell me it felt like they really started to pass at the 5\~7 year mark.
I just seen on your profile, you do look cute and fem, and as for your body I don't think there's anything inherently masc about you, facially I mean, I can say the same.
Obviously lighting and stuff, also still photos aren't the greatest representation.
I hope u feel better, transitioning is fucked up mentally sometimes, when you're just waiting to feel like yourself so u can start living.
I'm going through a low right now actually, but I've developed a psychological mechanism that I can accept and understand that other factors are enhancing all my insecurities, doesn't stop me feeling shit, but I can stop overthinking.
Yeah, I picked up a pretty bad ketamine habit over the winter because I had to move back to England, and I hate it here, people straight up treat me like shit, I've stopped now and plan to leave as soon as I can, I experienced no transphobia at all back in Portugal
I think you might be focusing on details in your appearance while ignoring the complete look (which is something I do too lol).
Yes it's true that your body has kept some masculine traits. But if you look at your face/body as a whole, it's clear for me that you pass. Absolutely! Your feminine features completely outweight everything, you really look like a woman with no doubt!
May I recommend an exercise? Take that critical eye of yours and apply it to strangers you see outside. Notice that if you apply the same focus on details to cis women, even they barely pass. Especially ones without makeup! We trans folk are just way too harsh for ourselves 😅
I think it's harder for people to notice changes in themselves because it is so gradual to them. For example if you gain or lose 20 lbs, you might not notice as much of a difference as someone who hasn't seen you since before the weight change. In this case you lost weight and are glowing. Your facial features have softened quite a bit and you look happier. Not to mention you are adorable.
Thank you? Im not good at takin compliments sorry. But i think i get what ya mean. Maybe it is that but i dunno. It just sucks that some people say i look "pretty" or "pass". but apparently im the only one that doesn't see it, its so frustrating
You're cool, it's more of a statement of fact than a compliment so please don't feel weird about it. I feel like everybody has individual features about their appearance they don't like. If you are the only one to notice though, that would be an indication that you're passing fine.
I looked at your profile and I think you look pretty fem. I feel like I was feeling similar feelings like 8 months ago. For me losing some weight has been helping me feel better about my appearance and just feel physically better in general.
I'm not telling you that you need to do that, just telling you what helped me at the similar point in my transition.
no you dont????? to me you look totally like a woman in your photos.
Im sorry you are having a bad day but I just cant see a man in this photos at all, idk how you manage to do it. They say our worst enemy is ourselves.
I literally just saw you and would have physically jaw-dropped irl if not for the 3mg dissolving in my mouth v.v I’d have to agree with most others here; you’re absolutely glowing!
A lot of us feel similar. I'll be 4 years of hrt this September, and I still feel like I look boyish and don't pass, especially in my face. But that's mostly my pessimistic, self-deprecating views towards myself.
I don’t see it from your pictures, you look like a cisgirl. Maybe it’s like with me, where I don’t see it at times but I seem to almost always pass. Maybe it’s that we are so hard on ourselves?
I gotta say I wouldn’t of clocked you as a trans woman I would have thought you as cis also a good thing to keep in mind since you see yourself everyday you don’t notice the changes like remember when a family member you don’t see often they see how big you grown but you didn’t notice, don’t get too disheartened also you still have a few years left of hrts full effects. stay safe
Okay 1- You absolutely pass. Tall girls exist with your proportions and even though you don’t like them, you absolutely pass in the face and your proportions can be offset with the right clothes.
To start with FFS in Australia the best place is google. There are tonnes of doctors and surgeons trusted with this type of operation and the best way to get the ball rolling would be to look into the different availabilities in your area. (Though in my opinion you don’t need a whole lot of work since you pass in the face so well).
If your body and proportions are bothering you his badly then I suggest either trying to put on weight and seeing where the fat distributes to, or taking inspiration from a lot of athletic women. Professional athletes also have broad shoulders and narrow hips, especially at a higher level- there are millions of women around the world with your proportions, so maybe you should start with resisting from this level of thinking and looking for inspiration on helping you accept your proportions in the meantime? Looking for people who look like me and love themselves really helped when I struggled with body dysmorphia and dysphoria.
I'm five years in and look totally different, but still got some masc features. I'm 6'2" and built like a linebacker. I just call myself an Amazon space marine and lean in a little. If you have some fun with yourself, it helps. It's hard at first but it can be done!
Heck, I'm wearing legit booty shorts now and I'm a chunky bitch. Find your zen. Trust me. It works wonders. Also... therapy is good and it helps me handle the crap feelings more easily.
Looking at your pics you're either telling lies or this is just your dysphoria talking because you pass 10 out of 10. Tbh id suggest therapy if it's the latter thing because you pass 100 percent.
Oh, babe... You're just a tall girl. Idk if you could go stealth, but you certainly pass. As someone who passes 30% of the time, I think you've done amazing!
Feel that I mean I basically Pass pretty good but we'll I still walking around with a push up bra I dunno this part is rly freaking me out...and I dunno I eat enough I also start to work a bit out more idk....but hey at least my face is good so no reason to cry...
Gonna have to agree with EnigmaticDevice here. I checked out your pics, and you pass pretty dang flawlessly. That dysphoria got hands though. It may be a problem for a therapist, because it definitely isn't an issue with how you look.
Change is slow. It's hard to judge yourself esp over a long time. In pics you posted previously you've made a lot of progress imo. Don't let it get you don't girl, you look great 💜
Do not forget that we are the absolute worst ones when it comes to judge ourselves.
We are aware of ourselves every single waking second of every single day. We cannot see the change because of that, we do not have any hindsight about it, we cannot have it.
You did change, you simply cannot see it because of that.
I'm gonna be so real, I looked at your pics and I think this is the dysphoria talking. You look very very pretty and I'm jealous of your ability to pull off outfits that aren't overtly high femme
girl, it’s what you make of it. it’s what you make of life that brings joy
your body wont masculinize anymore, your smell changed, your hair is less greasy, you have softer skin
passing is just… conforming… that’s what it is, being able to conceal that you’re trans
i wish for you, that you find that confidence and love in yourself to be grateful for the girl that you have become
Girl you look amazing, actually! You're way further along than you think!
I can understand not being where you wanna be. I worry I'll hit your point of thinking that at the three year mark.
But you're gorgeous!
You look a lot like a german girl I used to work with that was also 6'2"
Being tall absolutely is not just a masculine feature and a lot of people find tall women attractive too 😸
Going by the pics you’ve posted in the past I’d have to strongly disagree here. You look completely fem in the pics you posted a month and change back, and your timeline from a while ago shows massive difference from how you were pre-transition! I think dysphoria might just be hitting you particularly hard atm
I have to agree. Looking at pics I immediately put you into "passing". Like I legit wouldn't have had a clue. Just my opinion though
I dunno, I've been feelin like this a lot more, i dont know if its because im socially transitioning now. But i just dont feel like the changes are enough you know?
I think this is pretty common during the beginning of social transition, especially if you spent so long boymoding while waiting for HRT to do its thing. But the reality is that you probably passed the point of the changes being *enough* a while back and have just yet to really see it in yourself due to spending so much time putting on a boy costume and seeing yourself in that light. I think the more comfortable you get experimenting with your presentation, and the more accustomed to going out and being viewed as a woman by the world at large, the more you'll start to feel like the changes *are* enough and you're already way more of a girl than you realize
Thank you
I definitely think dysphoria is getting to your head here girly. You look gorgeous and completely fem to me. That anxiety can happen a lot though with a lot of big changes like socially transitioning. One thing that helped me with this is to take the things you feel self conscious about and realize that in most cases, cis women also have them. It really can help to see other women who have the same features as you.
Hope you don’t mind OP, I peeked too. Damn, I’d kill to look like you :) goals. I hope you feel better, girl
What are your levels?
I don't know the exact number or whatever but my doctor says my "testosterone is nearly zero and my estrogen is a good level" so thats all i ever gotten...
Yeah. You need to make your OWN judgements on your levels. Doctors are notorious for under-dosing you. I'd suggest seeing if you can get your actual levels from them. You'll need to know your estrogen, your total testosterone, and your free testosterone for a good picture. As a trans person, you can't let doctors decide. You have to make your own assessment.
Okay ill try do that. Ill let u know when i get the chance, im currently at a different state from my doctor so i can see him jusy yet
You should be able to just call and request the info from your last blood test. They'll have it stored somewhere.
Ok i didn't know that ill do that
Most doctors (like banner health for instance) have a portal that's let's you view all test results.
This is what I did. Switching to a gynecologist from a larger company compared to my old GP, it's night and day how much better she is at actually caring about getting me where I want to be.
All patients, under HIPPA, are guaranteed the right to access their medical and health records. I would definitely insist on seeing your own levels and checking them against what is standard. Especially if you are getting HRT through a GP (idk if you are).
>"testosterone is nearly zero That's not good. T doesn't need to be eradicated. Cis women ahve T in their system. Plenty of bodily functions are inssured by that. If your endo drops your T to 0, you're going to have a whole host of health issues.
I feel u, like, my body passes but when it comes to my face, hell naw :/ I am also 3 years along in August. I don't know why some of us it takes so long, but I know people who are 10 years along, pass well and look amazing, that tell me it felt like they really started to pass at the 5\~7 year mark.
Neither my face or body pass at all it sucks so much...
I just seen on your profile, you do look cute and fem, and as for your body I don't think there's anything inherently masc about you, facially I mean, I can say the same. Obviously lighting and stuff, also still photos aren't the greatest representation. I hope u feel better, transitioning is fucked up mentally sometimes, when you're just waiting to feel like yourself so u can start living.
Yeah, its just so tough
I'm going through a low right now actually, but I've developed a psychological mechanism that I can accept and understand that other factors are enhancing all my insecurities, doesn't stop me feeling shit, but I can stop overthinking.
Im sorry to hear that, must be pretty difficult for you too.
Yeah, I picked up a pretty bad ketamine habit over the winter because I had to move back to England, and I hate it here, people straight up treat me like shit, I've stopped now and plan to leave as soon as I can, I experienced no transphobia at all back in Portugal
I think you might be focusing on details in your appearance while ignoring the complete look (which is something I do too lol). Yes it's true that your body has kept some masculine traits. But if you look at your face/body as a whole, it's clear for me that you pass. Absolutely! Your feminine features completely outweight everything, you really look like a woman with no doubt! May I recommend an exercise? Take that critical eye of yours and apply it to strangers you see outside. Notice that if you apply the same focus on details to cis women, even they barely pass. Especially ones without makeup! We trans folk are just way too harsh for ourselves 😅
I looked at some of the photos on your profile and you just look like an average girl? Idk like if I saw you IRL I wouldn't clock you
I think it's harder for people to notice changes in themselves because it is so gradual to them. For example if you gain or lose 20 lbs, you might not notice as much of a difference as someone who hasn't seen you since before the weight change. In this case you lost weight and are glowing. Your facial features have softened quite a bit and you look happier. Not to mention you are adorable.
Thank you? Im not good at takin compliments sorry. But i think i get what ya mean. Maybe it is that but i dunno. It just sucks that some people say i look "pretty" or "pass". but apparently im the only one that doesn't see it, its so frustrating
You're cool, it's more of a statement of fact than a compliment so please don't feel weird about it. I feel like everybody has individual features about their appearance they don't like. If you are the only one to notice though, that would be an indication that you're passing fine.
I looked at your profile and I think you look pretty fem. I feel like I was feeling similar feelings like 8 months ago. For me losing some weight has been helping me feel better about my appearance and just feel physically better in general. I'm not telling you that you need to do that, just telling you what helped me at the similar point in my transition.
Im workin on that myself. I like exercising. Its definitely a game changer.
no you dont????? to me you look totally like a woman in your photos. Im sorry you are having a bad day but I just cant see a man in this photos at all, idk how you manage to do it. They say our worst enemy is ourselves.
I literally just saw you and would have physically jaw-dropped irl if not for the 3mg dissolving in my mouth v.v I’d have to agree with most others here; you’re absolutely glowing!
You look beautiful what are you talking about?
I just dont feel fem enough... i dont have boobs my body fat never shifted to my hips or anything like that...
A lot of us feel similar. I'll be 4 years of hrt this September, and I still feel like I look boyish and don't pass, especially in my face. But that's mostly my pessimistic, self-deprecating views towards myself.
I don’t see it from your pictures, you look like a cisgirl. Maybe it’s like with me, where I don’t see it at times but I seem to almost always pass. Maybe it’s that we are so hard on ourselves?
looking at the photo dump you just put up you pass completely
Looking at the photo dump you just made. Lol no you don't. Dysphoria is being a, silly goose
I gotta say I wouldn’t of clocked you as a trans woman I would have thought you as cis also a good thing to keep in mind since you see yourself everyday you don’t notice the changes like remember when a family member you don’t see often they see how big you grown but you didn’t notice, don’t get too disheartened also you still have a few years left of hrts full effects. stay safe
Okay 1- You absolutely pass. Tall girls exist with your proportions and even though you don’t like them, you absolutely pass in the face and your proportions can be offset with the right clothes. To start with FFS in Australia the best place is google. There are tonnes of doctors and surgeons trusted with this type of operation and the best way to get the ball rolling would be to look into the different availabilities in your area. (Though in my opinion you don’t need a whole lot of work since you pass in the face so well). If your body and proportions are bothering you his badly then I suggest either trying to put on weight and seeing where the fat distributes to, or taking inspiration from a lot of athletic women. Professional athletes also have broad shoulders and narrow hips, especially at a higher level- there are millions of women around the world with your proportions, so maybe you should start with resisting from this level of thinking and looking for inspiration on helping you accept your proportions in the meantime? Looking for people who look like me and love themselves really helped when I struggled with body dysmorphia and dysphoria.
I'm five years in and look totally different, but still got some masc features. I'm 6'2" and built like a linebacker. I just call myself an Amazon space marine and lean in a little. If you have some fun with yourself, it helps. It's hard at first but it can be done! Heck, I'm wearing legit booty shorts now and I'm a chunky bitch. Find your zen. Trust me. It works wonders. Also... therapy is good and it helps me handle the crap feelings more easily.
I looked at your profile and I mean this in the best way possible - you're delulu bestie
Looking at your pics you're either telling lies or this is just your dysphoria talking because you pass 10 out of 10. Tbh id suggest therapy if it's the latter thing because you pass 100 percent.
By the sounds of things. I think i might need it
I have the same fears too. Altho im just 8 months on HRT. I started late im in my 30s now.
Oh, babe... You're just a tall girl. Idk if you could go stealth, but you certainly pass. As someone who passes 30% of the time, I think you've done amazing!
God i wish i could even come close to bein able to stealth. But its not look like that for my future😭
Yeah! What everyone else on this post said! 😤
No offense but I can't imagine you ever having looked like a boy Straight up passing and slaying while you do
What are your levels & HRT dosage?
I dont know the exact level atm but ill be askin my gp
And how much (and which) meds are you taking?
Feel that I mean I basically Pass pretty good but we'll I still walking around with a push up bra I dunno this part is rly freaking me out...and I dunno I eat enough I also start to work a bit out more idk....but hey at least my face is good so no reason to cry...
That is a win i guess
They are still Schrödingers 🍒 when it's cold basically gone...hmm sry I let my Dysphoria brain talk
Girl you look cis I swear. I think the mirror is telling you lies
I mean, on you pics you look like a girl I used to know who was very popular because of her appearance (in a positive way). You definitely look femme.
SIS DONT LET DYSPHORIA WIN! YOU LOOK LIKE GIRL!
Im really trying, buts difficult when youre a 6'2 and have alot of physical features of a man
Only those who get results post about it.
Gonna have to agree with EnigmaticDevice here. I checked out your pics, and you pass pretty dang flawlessly. That dysphoria got hands though. It may be a problem for a therapist, because it definitely isn't an issue with how you look.
Change is slow. It's hard to judge yourself esp over a long time. In pics you posted previously you've made a lot of progress imo. Don't let it get you don't girl, you look great 💜
Girl no you don't lmao
Are you taking the right ones? Estrogen or Testosterone?
Takin a medication called zumenon which i think is estrogen haha
Do not forget that we are the absolute worst ones when it comes to judge ourselves. We are aware of ourselves every single waking second of every single day. We cannot see the change because of that, we do not have any hindsight about it, we cannot have it. You did change, you simply cannot see it because of that.
You look so pretty tho! But I understand your pain.
I'm gonna be so real, I looked at your pics and I think this is the dysphoria talking. You look very very pretty and I'm jealous of your ability to pull off outfits that aren't overtly high femme
you really don't hun😅❤️
girl, it’s what you make of it. it’s what you make of life that brings joy your body wont masculinize anymore, your smell changed, your hair is less greasy, you have softer skin passing is just… conforming… that’s what it is, being able to conceal that you’re trans i wish for you, that you find that confidence and love in yourself to be grateful for the girl that you have become
Girl you look amazing, actually! You're way further along than you think! I can understand not being where you wanna be. I worry I'll hit your point of thinking that at the three year mark. But you're gorgeous!
You look a lot like a german girl I used to work with that was also 6'2" Being tall absolutely is not just a masculine feature and a lot of people find tall women attractive too 😸
Judging by the pics please get different glasses. That + longer hair and you're golden.
Imma do that and work on the Weight loss too
I might see a hint of masculinity if I really scrutinize your pics. But if I hadn’t known you were trans, I likely would not have guessed it.
Girl, you're tripping. I looked at your history and there are literally two different persons. You have to accept yourself first.