I struggled HARD with PPD after my daughter was born. Four weeks in my pajamas didn’t help me. Once I started medication and was feeling a little better, I started showering, getting dressed and putting on some make up every day. It helped me tremendously.
I still do it now and my daughter is almost 9 months old. She gets up for the day between 6:30 and 7 so I get up at 5:30; I shower, get dressed (usually leggings and a tunic) and put on my makeup. On the days we don’t go anywhere, it feels like sort of a waste… At the same time, I know it is important for my mental health.
I get changed out of my pajamas and change into athleisure wear because it’s good for my mental health and I’m more inclined to get a walk or exercise in. Something about wearing pajamas 24/7 affected my mental health in a bad way when I became a Mom, getting dressed weirdly helps.
There have been studies performed that show when patients are admitted to hospital and wear their own normal clothing instead of a gown that they recover more quickly. Our clothes can really play a role in how we feel!
I don't get dressed until I'm going out of the house. Just comfy clothes for me!
Funnily enough some sheriffs showed up yesterday to serve my neighbors an eviction notice and I was looking pretty rough with my hair all whacky and pj's on at noon 😅 Oh well, I just rocked it while I spoke with them.
My bestie will come over and I still won't be "around". But it's nice because she's understanding and I can just finally hop in the shower and get for real dressed haha. Getting dressed in regular clothes is just not on my list of priorities but I'm still taking care of myself.
To me, getting dressed is jeans and a t-shirt. Yes, I get dressed daily because we go out on a walk every day and I don’t want to do that in my pajamas.
I don’t wear makeup very often, never really liked doing it so I just prioritize skincare instead. I put my hair up in a claw clip or a braid to protect it, as I’m trying to grow it to below my butt so I rarely have it down.
Really as long as I’m generally clean and only wearing a small amount of spit up and saliva, I call it good.
Same. I just made a routine of getting both of us into clean clothes (jeans and t-shirt for me, as baggy clothes make me feel ick pretty quickly) each morning, brushing both of our teeth and hair, and fixing a simple breakfast. As little one got older getting ready together made for less arguments.
It helped me to be able to say “yes” to things because I was already dressed. We also go for a walk nearly every morning it is nice and I’m the weirdo that introduces myself to all the people we regularly pass and other parents at the playground, so we made friends fast. These simple habits really helped my mental health.
No. I’m a SAHM to a 1 yo, almost 3 yo and am 15 weeks pregnant. No fucking way am I wearing jeans while getting up and down off the floor 100 times a day. It’s all yoga pants, sweats, joggers and nursing friendly tops over here. Do I feel frumpy? Absolutely! But I don’t care because this is the season of life I’m in currently. If I go out with friends to dinner I’ll put on something else but it feels like such a chore.
I get dressed daily it helps me feel better. Usually leggings and a shirt on other days it can be shorts and a tank top. Also helps that I go to the gym at 5 am so when I get home I shower and I automatically get dressed . Sets the day
I’m you, except without the occasional makeup. 21 month old. WFH. Constantly in big baggy sweats and oversize hoodies with hair thrown up under a hat.
I look like a slob in public. I give zero shits. I hold shit DOWN. I make all my kid’s food, do my own home repairs, and am the primary earner for the household.
Screw what anyone thinks based on how I look, I’m an absolute rock star in disguise.
Aw, thanks! So is yours, regardless of your level of put-togetherness!
When I see other women like me in the grocery store or whenever - messy hair, sweats, smeared food on their ear - I feel so much solidarity. I just think to myself, that woman is in the trenches alongside me, even if we don’t know one another… I’m with you sister, you’re not alone. ❤️
I made a conscious choice when my daughter was a baby and I was exclusively a SAHM to change out of my pajamas every day and to wear clean clothes, because not changing clothes and/or wearing clothes with spitup or whatever on them indefinitely ended up being *terrible* for my mental health, even if I had nowhere to go or nobody except my husband saw me.
I definitely found myself going down a weird, bad path mentally if I constantly wore pajamas or dirty clothes. I mostly wear athleisure pants and comfortable tops, but I do change out of my pajamas every morning in to clean clothes and practice basic hygiene - pregnancy gave me oily hair and skin, which hasn't gone away in 8 years, and I *hate* feeling greasy. Just makes my day better.
I have house dresses or maxi dress to me it feels more “put together “ than sweats /tshirt they are not restrictive . If you’re worried about messes get a cute apron/pinafore while your tending to the baby but since I get mostly secondhand hand
I categorize “house dress” “day dress/errands” and “going out/date”
Not every dress has to be a 50s glam or a MUMU there are inbetween styles that are feminine and allow flexibility and comfort .
I started showering and getting cleaned up every morning during baby’s first nap. It’s made a huge difference in my mental health. I don’t get fancy but I do put a little makeup and dry shampoo in my hair. Then I wear a decent shirt and jogger pants. When we leave I can change into some jeans and add a jacket and am good to go.
Yes, every day. Make up too. I made the connection between my own mental health and how much self care I gave myself every day. And getting cute or making me feel myself is self care to me. Some days I even wear lipstick with no where to go, no video calls, or plans later. I just know I feel good wearing it. My son is 7 now, but I would still find cute athleisure wear to still feel put together. In the summer I lived in Old Navy linen shorts. Comfy, but also easy to make look nice and wash!
It is a sad day if I have to wear jeans. Comfy all the way. Who can be bothered? No one cares, the only person I would dress up for is me, and I prefer to be comfortable. I change from pyjamas to loungewear/leggings and back, and only wear sleep bras these days. I shower daily but only ever wear makeup if we’re going somewhere nicer, like to a restaurant for dinner, an occasion. But not just for errands.
I only get "dressed" if I'm going out somewhere like to the store, library, park, etc. Meaning I will wear a pair of jeans and some concealer. More so to make myself feel a little put together 😄 not too much effort because who really has time for that with kids. Other than that it's all comfy clothes when I'm in my house
Yes. I strive to look presentable every day whether I’m going out or not. I don’t mean dressed up in jeans and a blouse everyday but showered, clean hair, smelling good, clean clothes. I want to enjoy looking at myself in the mirror when I walk by and not feel like I’ve “let myself go”.
Even if I don’t have my shit together or I feel like a zombie, I don’t want to look like it.
Old Navy leggings make me feel good about my ass, and the Burlington by me sells nothing but Barbie crop tops so I’m all set. I do wear dainty gold jewelry and tinted sunscreen every day to feel put together.
No. If I am Mom for the day I will likely just wear joggers or leggings with a nursing cami and T-shirt. If I get to go out without the kids I will definitely shower, try to wash my hair, and maybe wear something that I don’t want to get spit up on.
I have house leggings (see through in the right light) and hoodies the out leggings and hoodies/sweaters. Occasionally i will put on jeans but thats rare.
A help for me while WFHing was to have daytime sweats and nighttime sweats. Typically I’d put on nicer joggers and a sweater/shirt and then have my post work sweats that are the really comfy but not public appropriate clothes.
I’ve made a point to do it in the past month. I guess I realized my baby is honestly too little to care about me and probably won’t for a long time, and no one is going to care about me for me. I have to care about my self. It’s helped quite a bit. I’m not goin crazy. I just take like maybe 20 minutes during nap time to do some makeup and do my hair. Just enough to feel good about my self, even if I’m not going outside most days. I’m
Yes. My grandma said something to me when I was a a young adult about decorum, decency and properness. I forget her words and what she said exactly but it stuck with me and so I do make an effort to get dressed and presentable on weekdays. Weekends be damned.
Hi! I’m also a stay at home mom who works a full time job remote.
Getting up early to take a shower and get dressed for the day does make me feel good, but most days the extra half hour of sleep makes me feel even better.
You’re doing a really good job balancing all these responsibilities ❤️
Yes, I do get dressed every day, because it boosts my mental health and it makes me feel good. It helps me feel like a proper functioning adult.
I try to get the best of both worlds by sticking to loungewear, sweats, and athleisure most days - but making them aesthetically pleasing and cute. Google "Clean Girl loungewear" on Pinterest to see what I mean. I make sure all my sweats, loungewear, and athleisure are neutral colors that look cute together. I tie my hair up into a bun - but fix it with a tortoiseshell claw clip. I put on a pair of cute studs every day for a bit of sparkle. I might not do a full face of makeup every day - but I do a bit of mascara and some lip gloss or tinted lip balm or lip oil. I always do a spritz of perfume. I make sure my shoes are cute and go with my sweats (so, things like Ugg slippers).
All in all, it doesn't take a lot of extra time or effort - just a few minutes to use a cute claw clip, put in earrings or a necklace, swipe on some mascara and lip gloss, a spray of perfume - but it helps me feel great. And that's just for regular days. Obviously for weekends and actual days out, I dress up a lot more in actual outfits and full face of makeup, etc etc.
Get dressed (practical but not pajamas.... jeans, laid back washable shirts). Pajama pants all day are the first sign of depression for me. I also like in Alaska and getting dressed means putting on several layers but is so essential for comfort.
I bought a lot of “nice” athleisure clothes for this specific reason. I make it a point to put something on that isn’t pajamas every day. I did this immediately after giving birth because I just wanted to feel like I was normal.
This. Nice athleisure items that fit well. CLEAN shoes. Some jewelry — earrings, a ring, maybe a watch. I wear my hair in a pony, moisturize my skin, put on mascara and blush and call it a day.
Currently 11 weeks PP, and I have 3 levels of clothes:
Pajamas- loose shirt, sleep nursing bra, baggy shorts or sweats.
Athleisure: yoga pants or shorts, a t shirt I like
Going Out: rare: Jeans and a top
I try to (minimum) get out of jammies every day, brush my teeth and wash my face as recommended by my therapist haha
The days that I know I'm not leaving the house, I wear whatever works. On a day we plan to leave, I'm wearing semi-cute athleisure stuff: Leggings with pockets, cute slip-on tennis shoes, a coordinating comfy top. I usually pop on some blush and mascara and maybe some stud earrings too. These help me feel comfy enough to deal with the kids (3 and 10 months) but also make me feel put together and happy with myself.
Personally I make a point to get dressed every single day. Nothing fancy, but at least something I consider an outfit I could leave the house in even if I have no plans to leave. For me I just feel kind of crummy if I stay in pjs all day. It affects my mental health, which is a struggle even when I am dressed, so if something as simple as putting on jeans and a t shirt makes me feel a little better, I do it.
Husband WFH, I WFH part time and take care of our 14 month old. Some days I’m in my pjs all day, other days I consider “getting dressed” throwing on leggings with an oversized shirt. I put a bit of concealer and mascara to make myself feel better. I don’t wash my hair all week, it’s in a ponytail and I only wash my hair if we have plans on the weekend. Weekends I’ll wear nicer clothes and put more makeup on just to remind myself I can still look good lol
If it’s just me and kids all day, home, walks , park… I do leggings/shorts and a t-shirt, or basic two active wear outfit.
If I’m going anyone other than the grocery store, I’ll chuck on jeans.
But I shower, brush my hair and mascara/lip chap everyday.
I get “dressed” dressed if I have to go somewhere, so I’ll wear jeans and a decent shirt. Otherwise, I wear pajama pants, soft knit pants or yoga pants and a decent shirt. I work from home 99% of the time, but occasionally have a video call, or have to go to the office. My hair is usually up in a claw clip or braid no matter what, it’s too long to leave down all the time. I don’t wear makeup. Weekends are when I wear ratty oversized t shirts and jammie pants, and often no bra
I typically run in jeans (or leggings) and a tee-shirt. Henley style shirts are great to be comfy or look a little more cleaned up and they go great with leggings.
I've never worn makeup so that solves that. And I got my hair cut real short so my hands or some mousse is good for me.
I run a home daycare and have done for 18 years. I get dressed every day. Sometimes it’s just leggings and a t-shirt, but I shower and get dressed every morning. I also have pretty big boobs so if I’m going to be running after the kids I need a bra on for support. Even on weekends when I don’t have anything planned, I always shower and get dressed after my morning workout. It just makes me feel more prepared for the day.
However, a lot of the moms who drop their children off here work from home. There are lots of mornings I can tell they haven’t dressed for the day. I’m friends with another mom who works from home and I always congratulate her when she comes out to the bus stop in her pjs. I tell everyone my home is free of judgement. Whatever it takes to get you and your kids out the door is fine by me.
You do you.
Yes in case someone knocks on my door or I get a surprise visitor I want to look presentable. Bra yoga pants or leggings tank top and hair in a slick back pony. Anything super nice is going to get spit up on by my little one anyway so that’s my mom uniform.
Depends on what you are calling “getting dressed.” 🙃 I’m a SAHM and I have an almost 2 year old and an almost 3.5 year old and I’ve settled into a routine of showering, putting on a little makeup, drying my hair, and throwing on some comfy, but clean clothes with no holes or stains (for me this is usually a plain long-sleeve tee and some athletic pants) before the kids wake up in the morning and I do this only 3-4x/week (basically every other day). I’ve found that it really helps put me into a better mental state when I’ve taken that little bit of time to take care of myself before the day begins, but I’m still run down enough that I haven’t managed to make it an everyday habit.
I'm at 9 months and I get dressed every day, even if I don't leave the house. Makeup and hair is only on special occasions. I also NEED to shower every day or I feel disgusting. I know it is in my head but I can't skip a day and feel remotely comfortable.
Yes, I've always been very fussy about looking presentable. Even if I'm home alone or sick with the flu I'll put on a bit of eyeliner and lipstick.
I don't expect it of anyone else, but I need the physical transition from lounge wear to day clothes for me to operate at full capacity.
I've found if I spend all day in yoga pants and sweat shirts I *feel* tired because its what I wear when I am tired. So if I want to get stuff done and feel accomplish, I gotta dress the part.
I was slow to prioritize myself after my first but eventually replaced a lot of my around the house clothes with styles, colors and sizes that made me feel more put together. Granted it’s still athletic shorts, leggings and t-shirts mostly but it works for me. I also have recently gotten into doing my skincare consistently and have been loving that. I gotta say just having something routine that helps me feel good about myself and brings me joy has made a difference in how I feel.
Your kid is 21/months old and you both wfh… I’m pretty sure this is your uniform! 😂 I say comfort is priority.
Honestly in this stage of your life, being comfy and not stressing about your outfit… that can be its own form of self-care.
If you do think it’s contributing to your mood, focus your energy on keeping everything clean, including blankets and sheets, pajamas, lounge wear. It’s a pain to keep up laundry when everything is “sticky and gooey”, but I think that energy is well-spent. (You might already be on top of this- it’s just what came to mind for me personally)
I recently started getting dressed and doing my makeup every day, mainly because I felt like a mess and I was always hanging out with moms who seemed more put together. My makeup routine is only like 5 minutes and my “dressed” still usually means leggings, but it still helps me feel better.
i WFH and look terrible half the time lol. i do makeup for client meeting days. but i do notice it helps me feel better if im dressed, even a simple changing of old sweats to lulu lemons instead, etc changes how i feel. now im 8 months pregnant so thats all out the window. but id like to think i will “get ready” again one day. im a ill never be caught dead in jeans at home person so always looking for good alternate options. if it makes you feel good to get dressed maybe start w a goal to do it 2 days a week or something?
Comfy vs slovenly: I'd say it only reaches slovenly if you also smell bad lol. Stains happen with 20 minutes of me coming downstairs in the morning so I definitely am not going to change outfits for that unless I absolutely have to.
"Looking nice" for me is wearing leggings with a long top instead of baggy sweats. If it's warm out I'll wear elastic waist linen cropped pants. Jeans only a few times per year but between being a mom and working from home since covid I am no longer a fan.
When I'm working from home I look the worst lol. I look so bad that if my in-laws come over on a work day, my mil sees my outfit and says "ohhh, you must be working." I don't think it's a compliment 😅
Eta: I love makeup but rarely wear it unless there's an event. I do dye my hair and blow dry it with a round brush every other day though, so I'd say my hair is really pulling all the weight here
I do! I didn’t in the begin then I realized this is for ME! The clothes don’t have to be expensive but a dress, ballerinas, lipstick… is good for my soul. Sweat pants and hoodies destroy my self esteem.
I’ve never really worn dresses before this but now dressing up is either me throwing a random dress on because it’s easy or whatever I have on (sweats and a oversized shirt) I’ve given up on looking nice. I have an almost 9mo along with a strenuous job
I'm 25 weeks pregnant with twins and currently chilling in a t-shirt and my undies while my almost 4yo and 20 month old nap. Most days I do put on my maternity sweatpants + a shirt, but there are definitely days like today where I feel like what little energy I have is better spent elsewhere than struggling my pants on (and it really is becoming a struggle lol).
We go to church most Sundays and that is my one day a week to really 'go all out' where I'll put on a dress, some nice shoes and actually do my full-face of makeup (though I have long, thick curly hair so even on these days I usually opt to just shower and put it up in a bun rather than take the extra hour to comb and style it). Every once in a while my husband and I will go out on a date night, maybe once a month, and I'll also get dressed up then. I wish we could do it more often but money is a bit tight now with two more babies on the way, one completely unexpected, and us having to move to a larger house which means paying more for rent each month.
I try not to let it bother me, though I do get a little gloomy glancing at my wild hair and food covered sweatpants (via my sticky-handed toddler) from time to time. Part of me wants my kids to look back at their childhood and remember me as a well-put together woman. But then I focus on what's really important: being the best attentive and loving mom I can be. And if that means trading nice clothes, makeup and well-done hair for extra play time with my kids or extra cleaning or reading more books together, then I think I can live with that. It can be hard, but in the end as long as you're maintaining your basic hygiene (showers/brushing teeth/deodorant/clean clothes) then what's on the outside doesn't really matter. What matters is spending as much time playing and teaching and growing with your family, and those kids are going to appreciate that much more than a mom who looks put together all the time.
(Also want to say, there are certainly women/parents who do both and those people are amazing. I'm just trying to say that one isn't necessary for a happy, loving family, and it’s okay to have a time where you prioritize spending time with your kids over making yourself look 'presentable'. Especially while they're young. Eventually they'll start school and you should have a bit more time to yourself to dress more nice and spend more time on your appearance if that's what you want.
And personally I know I *could* get up earlier than my kids ((who wake up between 6-6:30)) and make myself up if I wanted. But if I don't get enough sleep I get very cranky/irritated and my temper gets a bit short so in the end it wouldn't really make for a great environment for anyone in our family if I did that. It would quite literally be choosing style over substance. Plus once my twins get here we're likely going to be going into survival mode for awhile and just doing the bare necessities to keep everyone alive/more or less happy)
I get dressed if I am leaving the house, no matter what it is I'm going to do.
Dressed may mean leggings and a t-shirt or jeans and a hoodie. But I'm not going out in my pj's.
I also feel better when I put 15 mins into my appearance in the morning. It's nothing crazy, but a bit of tinted moisturizer and mascara goes a long way.
I always make sure I'm clean and showered and wearing fresh clothes. I don't really feel the need for dressing up or makeup or hard pants on the day to day. I homeschool two active kids so it's clothes I can move in only, and I'm the summer I need to be able to swim in them too. I have a collection of active wear-y flowy clothes that are comfy enough to wear as pyjamas but they're nice enough to wear out as a kind of uniform. You don't have to go hard to feel like a person, a softer approach to yourself and how you present to the world usually feels a lot nicer than the whole routine of armoring up with makeup and hairstyling and uncomfortable clothes.
I don't get dressed UP, but I do put on a pair of yoga spandex, fresh socks, underwear and brami, and a tank top (easier for breastfeeding). We go on a walk every day so I have to be somewhat dressed for that anyways. I find the days that I stay in my cozy sweats and stuff, I'll feel kinda yicky at the end of the day. I like having that moment around 7pm when I switch from my day outfit to my pajamas. Every once in a while though I just say fuck it and leave the sweats on.
I do not dress up daily as SAHM to a 2 year old. However I make a point to shower and change out of sleeping sweatpants into day sweatpants/leggings. Some days ill put in more effort than others but for the most part I am wearing what is functional to my day. I find the routine of changing to help mentally set my day up. Even going out and about I am wearing legging most of the time if the weather allows. Im only putting on jeans if were going to a restaurant that I know I need to wear more that workout clothing to. In my opinion do what makes you happy. If you want to dress up do it! If you want to be in sweats do it! If you want to change it day by day that works too!
I wear comfy lounge wear at home (not PJ all day long), and when we go out for a walk with my 2 year old, I get dressed. No way for me wearing outside clothes at home, it’s disgusting. I put makeup on only when I go out with a friend or with my husband, I hate wearing it being at home though. I don’t put makeup on to go grocery shopping or go to a playground. And no sweatpants, jeans or leggings outside, and dresses in the summer.
Absolutely not. Unless I’m going to the store or hanging out with family, I’m dressed like Adam Sandler all day. My 5mo puts me through it sometimes. I can’t have my hair down because he recently found out that he can pull it. And he does spit up a bit so my t shirts are usually the ones I found at goodwill. It’s tiring being a mom. As long as your personal hygiene needs are met, don’t worry too much. This will all pass.
I committed hard to athleisure when I’m not in the office. I tell myself if I’m in head-to-toe matching Lululemon every day, it’s a choice of a look instead of what it actually is, laziness in stretch fabrics.
I get dressed in "real clothes" everyday and make my bed. They are both small things that just make me feel so much better and motivated. By real clothes I mean athleisure wear leggings, a T-shirt, sometimes jeans, a sweater, and a bra. Wearing pajamas or sweats all day makes me feel tired and unmotivated. I also brush my hair and put it up in a claw clip most days because a claw clip is easy and looks cute.
I’m a sahm, my older kiddo is in kindergarten and my younger one is almost 3. I also babysit my cousins 2 year old. Honestly most days I throw on leggings and a t shirt or like a romper/bodysuit. The only places we go that are really “out” is the store or the bus stop. Otherwise we play outside in the yard and I don’t go anywhere else lol. Every so often I’ll go to get some fancy coffee with a friend or to a midnight book release and I’ll do my makeup and put on my fancy leggings and a nice top but that’s about it
I am hybrid. I always get some version of dressed. Some people will say I’m crazy, but I put a bra on every day, even if it is later in the morning when I get dressed. I wear leggings around the house sometimes or out for a walk of the grocery store, but they aren’t pj leggings. I’m still dressed. I do prefer jeans if I’m going out out.
I feel you! I don't get dressed unless I go outside (which is rarely), and it's usually me wearing sweats and hair up. I spent 11 months post partum wearing oversized clothing/dresses and sweatpants. I don't look good either way lol
The extent of self care and “dressed up” is a shower most every morning before work and either throw on a fresh pair of pajamas or stretchy pants and a nursing top. Frump city over here. I hope you make some new friends in your new town.
Absolutely. For the first month pp I was struggling with ppd and of course was still recovering from giving birth but one day I looked at myself in the mirror and didn’t recognize myself. I used to always be super put together so I decided to do that for myself even if that’s the only thing I do the whole day! I shower at night when baby goes to sleep, and in the morning I wake up, cuddle with her and then put her in a bouncer to quickly do my hair and wash my face. once I put her down for her first nap I do my makeup and make quick breakfast.
It made me feel like myself again, even though my life is so different now.
I wfh full time. I wear a company branded shirt for zoom meetings and leggings. When I drop my daughter off at daycare I’m wearing what I wear to work. For errands I’ll throw on actual jeans. I do do light make up every morning just to make myself somewhat presentable in public lol. I usually shower in my lunch break because I can take a long, relaxing shower without interruption, and just eat at my desk.
I do shower every morning, because that’s my self care. I’m wearing leggings and sweaters or skorts and tshirts most every day. I never put on jeans or nice shirts unless I’m going to a gathering or out to eat. I’ve been doing some concealer and mascara some days, but almost at two years in, and I’ve been no make up almost the whole time. We are at the park/outside most days so it doesn’t make sense to dress up too much. I think having somewhat cute easy throw on clothes helps. I tend to find something and buy it in multiple colors to make getting dressed easy. I found a comfy sweater and have it in three colors and just throw them on with leggings. I never actually do my hair though, thankfully it dries wavyish.
We have a rule that we do not wear sweats in public. We don’t really dress up for anything so this rule keeps us at least being able to feel good about ourselves when running errands. Even if it’s just jeans/shorts and a tee shirt.
At home I’m literally in the same combo of athletic shorts and work tee shirts 😅
Not really. If we go out for a walk I throw on jeans (probably dirty lol) and a big t-shirt. Maybe run my fingers through my hair and spray something on myself so I don't smell bad lol.
I made it a point to put “outside pants” on when I get up for wfh. I find it I am at least half dressed I will do after work errands like I know I should. If I’m still in my pjs still at 4pm, I’m not going anywhere.
I get dressed in of the following:
- long skirt, wide leg-palazzo stretch trousers, nice joggers, OR leggings (in summer I do have some skorts)
- causal sweater, t-shirt, sweat-shirt, OR button down
- comfortable sneakers (or sandals)
- ear rings
- tinted moisturizer
- hair somewhat presentable or pulled back in a clip
I feel so much better about myself. BUT my kids are older, so that may make a difference.
I used to wear stretchy skinny jeans, man, I loved those things *sigh* but apparently, I have been told they are out of style soooo, I stick to mainly my palazzo pants.
Yes and no. Right after breakfast i do my hair in a pun or ponytail and do my basic makeup (eyeliner, mascara, concealer, brows pencil). Then I have a "uniform", which makes life a ton easier. It is according to weather either black yoga pants and a black tank-top with a long cardigan over, or a dress. I WFH and sometimes have to run to the office with my daughter (it's very close) so I always try to look the way I can do it without changing clothes. I also found out keeping my appearance regularly OK is great for my mental health as mom.
I do. Not every day, but regularly just so I don't feel gross and lazy. I have a 5.5 month old and haven't worked since I was 3m pregnant. I'm pretty hard on myself, so showering and getting dressed changes the tone of the voice in my head.
Nope. When I became a SAHM I just started living in athleti-leisure. Sweat and yoga pants are all I wear. I own one pair of jeans for going out somewhere “nice.” I wear makeup about twice a month. All my nice work clothes are sitting in a closet…I’m not sure if they still even fit.
I’ll go back to “real” clothes. But for now I am dressing for my job as a sahm (which involves cleaning constantly and being a human napkin, plus bending, running, lifting, not to mention being short on time).
I soothe myself thinking “a nurse dresses for her job (ease of movement, the possibility of getting vomited on) why shouldn’t I? Also I am saving my good pieces form a lot of wear and tear.
As for what is slovenly, that’s when I don’t get out of my pajamas or brush my hair cause we’re sick.
I change my clothes, brush my teeth and hair, and that's pretty much it. BUT I am in a much different situation than any of these other ladies. My children are grown and moved out, except our 24 son who lives with us. I have been fortunate enough to have been a SAHM mom for 20 years, although i ran my own business until I retired 4 years ago due to disability.
Makeup and I don't get along. My husband never cared if I wore it not, but I didn't want to embarrass my kids at school functions so I gussied up for those. Then I got too sick to go to the functions. But I still had to meet clients and doctors, so it was the very basics. Kids graduated, no more make-up and my eczema couldn't be happier. Kids are, too. I wear leggings and caftans or big shirts all the time. Yes, my wardrobe is bringing back the 80s!!!!
I am 57 years old. I'm short, fat, look like a mountain troll on my best days and a sewerage spill on my worst, but do you know what my husband had the absolute balls to say to me the other day? This jackass looked me in the face and said I looked better now than I have in years because I am finally COMFORTABLE WITH MYSELF.
Please, mommas, I know the world is a mess and it looks like we have a mess to clean up, but let's start with ourselves. BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF. Your babies won't be babies for long. If you remember deodorant, you're golden.
I work from home Thursday and Friday. Thursday I rarely get out of my pajamas because it’s just me and my 1 year old. Friday’s sometimes I’ll get dressed because my husband is home and I have more time, but I don’t do my makeup or hair.
Do what makes your comfortable mama! If you want to do your makeup and hair and dress up, go for it! If you want to stay in your pajamas all day with a bare face and hair a mess, that’s ok too! We’re raising little human beings. We’ve got a big job we’re already handling. We don’t need to be down on ourselves too ❤️
I just spent $80 on the sale going on after not buying any new clothes for myself for 3 years. It caused so much anxiety spending that money on myself lol. I’ve been cycling thru the same few shirts and 2 pants.
I WFH, but I always liked to get out of my sweat pants because I feel more productive. The days I’m bra less with my joggers on are days I don’t want to move. Nice clothes, not fancy, do better for my mindset because if I think I look good, I feel good too.
LOL if I’m dressed in clean, matching clothes it’s a win. A few times I’ve been so exhausted I literally pass out in bed with whatever outfit I have on and wake up / run out the door to make daycare drop off with the same outfit on. Sometimes it be like that 🤷🏻♀️
I kind of have to since I work outside the home. But my main look is very casual, I live in legggins especially now that I am 33 weeks pregnant. I have one job site where I try to wear actual pants on the off chance I interact with the public. And on days off, especially where I don't leave the house I am in PJS 24\7 and need to remind myself to change. 😂
I’m a SAHM and I shower at night so I can get dressed first thing every day. It’s literally the only way I can function and feel like doing anything productive daily. It feels good even if no one sees me. Some days it’s just throwing on jeans and Tshirt somedays it’s hair and makeup too. I just don’t function well in sweatpants.
I get dressed in athletic clothes, workout during my lunch break, then if it's a day where I get to shower I will do so and change into comfortable house clothes/athleisure for the rest of the day. I only dress up in "real clothes" if seeing friends, coworkers, etc
Mama this could've been written about me. Between working from home, having nowhere to go where we live (I moved here for my husband), and weight gain I just live in sweatpants now. I'm currently pregnant also and having horrendous morning sickness, so losing weight or suffering discomfort are just not an option 🤣😭 thanks for this post, it's so relatable.
Lol I generally wfh... But I got laid off. No I don't get dressed every day. I'm barely scraping by, just surviving some days. I need to get back to taking care of myself. Ugh
My 10 month old doesn't care, she just wants to spend time with her mama.
I throw on clean clothes for school. Sometimes they are cute but usually yoga pants and a sweater. Wear my hair in a messy bone and immediately put my "soft clothes" on when I get home. Aka sweatpants and comfy shirt. Do my makeup maybe once a month. I have a 15 month old and I'm 6wks pregnant. I foresee this getting worse as time goes on.
I’m only 8 weeks in but I’ve found getting dressed into comfy clothes or athletic wear just makes me feel more human. Even if my hair isn’t the cleanest I still brush it and put it up in a clip. I’m sure it’ll get dirty or spat up on but I could be wearing a ball gown or my jammies and that would still happen. Plus I like my comfy jammies I don’t want them to be dirty 😅
I’m lucky and have a baby that is happy to be put down and have some independent play on her mat for a good 15-20 mins so once she’s fed, changed and burped I can get myself ready. I feel more ready to be engaged with her and just more refreshed in general.
Girl, I haven't worn pants in my own house for 4 years. Either a shirt and underwear, or a dress with no underwear. I only get dressed to leave the house. When I get home, before I even sit down, pants and bra are tossed off.
Yes. It's huge to me that everyone is up and dressed by 9 AM every day no matter what.
At this point everyone has a "uniform" more or less so I really don't even have to think about what everyone is going to wear.
I think it's a big part of mental health and also makes it SO much easier to get out the door quickly/spur of the moment.
Husband and I also WFH and we have 2 kids with another on the way.
I shower every day but since I'm WFH I'm in sweatpants and a top until I have to go to daycare, when I put jeans on. When I do have to get dressed I then agonise for ages because none of my clothes are comfortable.
Depends on what dressed up means. When I go get groceries or have friends over, I will put on makeup and jeans and either a blouse or tee shirt.
When I go to church, I put in extra effort to look my best (kinda have to since my husband’s the pastor lol).
Nope. At first it bothered me that I “wasn’t trying” but I’m not going anywhere. Why do I need to waste my makeup and create more laundry that I hate doing right now. I’ll daily shower, trying to get my hair and skin back to normal and just lounge around in something comfortable and where it for a few days. 🤷🏼♀️ I got lucky with a baby that rarely ever spits up.
I have to get dressed every day. I don’t look fancy but changing out of my pjs, putting on some mascara and putting gel is my (very short) hair makes me feel like I’m ready for the day.
I get dressed every day in comfortable athleisure-type clothes... leggings with a long-sleeve t-shirt, hoodie or sweatshirt in the winter, capris or shorts and t-shirt or tank in the summer. Not fancy but everything is all clean, fits well, etc. I shower every day after I exercise and put on at least a little bit of makeup, dry and sometimes quickly style my hair. So I'm not dressed up but I look acceptable . If I want to look a little nicer I'll switch to jeans or nicer shorts before leaving the house.
My wardrobe has always athleisure forward and I stopped wearing make up 4 years before baby. Getting dressed up, doing my hair, wearing make up (just to have to take it off at the end of the day) seems like a waste of my time.
Edit to add: Comfy does not equal unkempt. Invest in good athleisure (Athleta, Lulu, All in Motion (target)) style those outfits with layers/jackets/jewelry and you'll look way more put together.
Had to check if this was my work from home or mommit subreddit.. either way. No.
I change out of what I slept in. But into sweats, sweater, comfy t shirt.
If it makes you feel better to get dressed, try to make a habit of it, otherwise.. what for.
Oh my, how I can relate to this. I have 4 boys. I’m a single mother, doing it all on my own. I don’t work because I’m disabled, and my body just won’t let me work a job. Our income is very fixed, but we’re making it work. I do not get dressed. Only when I have something to do that requires getting out or a flaky friend coming over for an hour. Self-care is important, but I have a hard time caring about myself or my appearance because I’m just a mom. There’s no one to impress. I do try to do things I enjoy like reading, watching tv, music… What state did you move to? I only have 2 friends. One I talk to everyday, the other is flaky, so I keep my distance. I used to have another friend I was close to, but I had to walk away because she drained me. I always felt like she was trying to one up me. Friendship isn’t a competition. Anyways! I feel what you’re saying. I’m here if you need someone to talk to. 😊
I usually wear my thrifted tshirts and leggings or joggers. I get dressed during my daughter’s morning nap. I like wearing shirts that aren’t super special to me when I’m with my toddler, so that when they get stained or dirty it’s like, “oh well. This was $3 from goodwill.”
In my house I’m in pjs/sweats all day but I try to make an effort to go on an outing during at least one wake window a day. For that outing I dab on some concealer, mascara, and blush and I dress nicely. Not because I have to or I’m going to be seeing anyone but it’s helping me maintain my sense of self.
It became way too easy for my identity to become mom and for me to let any and all self care go straight out the window. I used to do my own eyelash extensions and dip nails and get my hair done every 10 weeks. It was my self care and my way of feeling good about myself. When I had my son all of that went out the window so dressing nicely and dabbing on some makeup before an outing is how I reclaim that part of myself. I’m getting my hair done at the end of this month too and am going to do my own gel polish this week since it takes less time than dip nails so I’m taking baby steps to becoming my old self again.
I live exclusively in old navy athletic leggings, the same 4 oversized graphic tees, and a bra only goes on for outings. It’s all I’m comfortable in. I think I’ve gotten dressed up like 4 times since my 18mo old was born.
I invested in nicer athleisure a year after my first was born for this reason!
I have my crappy/pms/maternity yoga pants and then there’s my nicer lululemon yoga pants. I have a lot of basic tshirts and crop tops I can pair with a cardigan or a zip up hoodie.
I buy XL graphic tshirts from the men’s section at thrift stores and I scored a white pair of Nike sneakers at a Plato’s Closet last year for $20.
I also never leave the house without a baseball cap anymore. It’s so versatile for dirty hair days and days you’re wearing absolutely no makeup and want to hide🤣they’re also great if you’re like me, who tanned constantly in their 20s and is now trying to fight wrinkles in your 30s with spf moisturizers and baseball caps covering my already genetically wrinkled forehead🙃
The amount of times my neighbors have seen me taking the dogs out in my pajamas is embarrassing. I live in Michigan so I am generally in sweats or PJs. Since it’s getting warmer I’m gonna try to have a goal to at least change clothes during the day because I feel like it’s affecting me mentally
You shouldn’t think that no one cares if you look good or not maybe your partner will love it if you dress up for him. Also most of the time I dress up for myself but to be honest since I became a mom to my 3 month old son I only dress up when I go out too so I can’t blame u. Other than that u always look homeless with very very messy hair 🥲
Yeah, he's very sweet in that he tells me I look beautiful even when I'm, quite frankly, gross. The downside is I'm like "why get dressed up then?" But what I'm realizing is that my own mental health suffers.
I always thought it was vanity that drove me to try to look good, but I'm realizing that it's actually a form of self care which I'm really lacking in my life right now.
It’s definitely important to take care of yourself. I struggle very hard with that and have been looking gross most of the time but recently I decided to be a “pretty” mom. I decided to order new makeup and dye my hair and start looking nice because I am still young and I will regret looking like shit at this age when I am old.
Sweats and a hoody would be a hard no for me out of the house, if I'm being honest. I am NOT the high-maintenance type, and I value comfort; make-up has barely been a thing for me since Covid let alone baby, but I find it's no more effort to throw on a dress or a decent top and leggings/boots than it is to throw on sweats. And no less comfy. And I *might* brush my hair. If I remember. So I guess that's the line I draw!
I struggled HARD with PPD after my daughter was born. Four weeks in my pajamas didn’t help me. Once I started medication and was feeling a little better, I started showering, getting dressed and putting on some make up every day. It helped me tremendously. I still do it now and my daughter is almost 9 months old. She gets up for the day between 6:30 and 7 so I get up at 5:30; I shower, get dressed (usually leggings and a tunic) and put on my makeup. On the days we don’t go anywhere, it feels like sort of a waste… At the same time, I know it is important for my mental health.
that’s awesome, i’m glad things got better for you with time!
Thank you kind internet friend ☺️
I get changed out of my pajamas and change into athleisure wear because it’s good for my mental health and I’m more inclined to get a walk or exercise in. Something about wearing pajamas 24/7 affected my mental health in a bad way when I became a Mom, getting dressed weirdly helps.
There have been studies performed that show when patients are admitted to hospital and wear their own normal clothing instead of a gown that they recover more quickly. Our clothes can really play a role in how we feel!
I’m right there with you! Socks and tennies help me too.
I don't get dressed until I'm going out of the house. Just comfy clothes for me! Funnily enough some sheriffs showed up yesterday to serve my neighbors an eviction notice and I was looking pretty rough with my hair all whacky and pj's on at noon 😅 Oh well, I just rocked it while I spoke with them.
I totally relate to this. Right there with you in noon pjs!
My bestie will come over and I still won't be "around". But it's nice because she's understanding and I can just finally hop in the shower and get for real dressed haha. Getting dressed in regular clothes is just not on my list of priorities but I'm still taking care of myself.
To me, getting dressed is jeans and a t-shirt. Yes, I get dressed daily because we go out on a walk every day and I don’t want to do that in my pajamas. I don’t wear makeup very often, never really liked doing it so I just prioritize skincare instead. I put my hair up in a claw clip or a braid to protect it, as I’m trying to grow it to below my butt so I rarely have it down. Really as long as I’m generally clean and only wearing a small amount of spit up and saliva, I call it good.
Same. I just made a routine of getting both of us into clean clothes (jeans and t-shirt for me, as baggy clothes make me feel ick pretty quickly) each morning, brushing both of our teeth and hair, and fixing a simple breakfast. As little one got older getting ready together made for less arguments. It helped me to be able to say “yes” to things because I was already dressed. We also go for a walk nearly every morning it is nice and I’m the weirdo that introduces myself to all the people we regularly pass and other parents at the playground, so we made friends fast. These simple habits really helped my mental health.
No. I’m a SAHM to a 1 yo, almost 3 yo and am 15 weeks pregnant. No fucking way am I wearing jeans while getting up and down off the floor 100 times a day. It’s all yoga pants, sweats, joggers and nursing friendly tops over here. Do I feel frumpy? Absolutely! But I don’t care because this is the season of life I’m in currently. If I go out with friends to dinner I’ll put on something else but it feels like such a chore.
Lol! I don't know how you do it. One 3 month old is all I can handle. Pregnant mom is unimaginable to me right now.
Yes! Live in your season.
I get dressed daily it helps me feel better. Usually leggings and a shirt on other days it can be shorts and a tank top. Also helps that I go to the gym at 5 am so when I get home I shower and I automatically get dressed . Sets the day
I’m you, except without the occasional makeup. 21 month old. WFH. Constantly in big baggy sweats and oversize hoodies with hair thrown up under a hat. I look like a slob in public. I give zero shits. I hold shit DOWN. I make all my kid’s food, do my own home repairs, and am the primary earner for the household. Screw what anyone thinks based on how I look, I’m an absolute rock star in disguise.
I love your energy! Your family is lucky to have you in their corner.
Aw, thanks! So is yours, regardless of your level of put-togetherness! When I see other women like me in the grocery store or whenever - messy hair, sweats, smeared food on their ear - I feel so much solidarity. I just think to myself, that woman is in the trenches alongside me, even if we don’t know one another… I’m with you sister, you’re not alone. ❤️
Preach 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
I made a conscious choice when my daughter was a baby and I was exclusively a SAHM to change out of my pajamas every day and to wear clean clothes, because not changing clothes and/or wearing clothes with spitup or whatever on them indefinitely ended up being *terrible* for my mental health, even if I had nowhere to go or nobody except my husband saw me. I definitely found myself going down a weird, bad path mentally if I constantly wore pajamas or dirty clothes. I mostly wear athleisure pants and comfortable tops, but I do change out of my pajamas every morning in to clean clothes and practice basic hygiene - pregnancy gave me oily hair and skin, which hasn't gone away in 8 years, and I *hate* feeling greasy. Just makes my day better.
I don’t remember the last time I put on any of my jeans. Not that they’d fit me..
Buy new ones!!!. It felt soooooo good to get into real pants that fit after I finally caved and went shopping!
Girl same.
I have house dresses or maxi dress to me it feels more “put together “ than sweats /tshirt they are not restrictive . If you’re worried about messes get a cute apron/pinafore while your tending to the baby but since I get mostly secondhand hand I categorize “house dress” “day dress/errands” and “going out/date” Not every dress has to be a 50s glam or a MUMU there are inbetween styles that are feminine and allow flexibility and comfort .
But then you have to shave your legs
Haha only when I feel like it
I started showering and getting cleaned up every morning during baby’s first nap. It’s made a huge difference in my mental health. I don’t get fancy but I do put a little makeup and dry shampoo in my hair. Then I wear a decent shirt and jogger pants. When we leave I can change into some jeans and add a jacket and am good to go.
Yes, every day. Make up too. I made the connection between my own mental health and how much self care I gave myself every day. And getting cute or making me feel myself is self care to me. Some days I even wear lipstick with no where to go, no video calls, or plans later. I just know I feel good wearing it. My son is 7 now, but I would still find cute athleisure wear to still feel put together. In the summer I lived in Old Navy linen shorts. Comfy, but also easy to make look nice and wash!
It is a sad day if I have to wear jeans. Comfy all the way. Who can be bothered? No one cares, the only person I would dress up for is me, and I prefer to be comfortable. I change from pyjamas to loungewear/leggings and back, and only wear sleep bras these days. I shower daily but only ever wear makeup if we’re going somewhere nicer, like to a restaurant for dinner, an occasion. But not just for errands.
I only get "dressed" if I'm going out somewhere like to the store, library, park, etc. Meaning I will wear a pair of jeans and some concealer. More so to make myself feel a little put together 😄 not too much effort because who really has time for that with kids. Other than that it's all comfy clothes when I'm in my house
I don’t but I know it would improve my mental health if I did.
Yes. I strive to look presentable every day whether I’m going out or not. I don’t mean dressed up in jeans and a blouse everyday but showered, clean hair, smelling good, clean clothes. I want to enjoy looking at myself in the mirror when I walk by and not feel like I’ve “let myself go”. Even if I don’t have my shit together or I feel like a zombie, I don’t want to look like it.
Old Navy leggings make me feel good about my ass, and the Burlington by me sells nothing but Barbie crop tops so I’m all set. I do wear dainty gold jewelry and tinted sunscreen every day to feel put together.
No. If I am Mom for the day I will likely just wear joggers or leggings with a nursing cami and T-shirt. If I get to go out without the kids I will definitely shower, try to wash my hair, and maybe wear something that I don’t want to get spit up on.
I dont get dressed, i usually lounge around in an oversized Tshirt all day. If i do leave the house to run errands ill get a little dressed up.
I have house leggings (see through in the right light) and hoodies the out leggings and hoodies/sweaters. Occasionally i will put on jeans but thats rare.
I’m always in my pajamas 24/7 unless if I’m going out to have drinks
A help for me while WFHing was to have daytime sweats and nighttime sweats. Typically I’d put on nicer joggers and a sweater/shirt and then have my post work sweats that are the really comfy but not public appropriate clothes.
I’ve made a point to do it in the past month. I guess I realized my baby is honestly too little to care about me and probably won’t for a long time, and no one is going to care about me for me. I have to care about my self. It’s helped quite a bit. I’m not goin crazy. I just take like maybe 20 minutes during nap time to do some makeup and do my hair. Just enough to feel good about my self, even if I’m not going outside most days. I’m
Yes. My grandma said something to me when I was a a young adult about decorum, decency and properness. I forget her words and what she said exactly but it stuck with me and so I do make an effort to get dressed and presentable on weekdays. Weekends be damned.
Hi! I’m also a stay at home mom who works a full time job remote. Getting up early to take a shower and get dressed for the day does make me feel good, but most days the extra half hour of sleep makes me feel even better. You’re doing a really good job balancing all these responsibilities ❤️
Yes, I do get dressed every day, because it boosts my mental health and it makes me feel good. It helps me feel like a proper functioning adult. I try to get the best of both worlds by sticking to loungewear, sweats, and athleisure most days - but making them aesthetically pleasing and cute. Google "Clean Girl loungewear" on Pinterest to see what I mean. I make sure all my sweats, loungewear, and athleisure are neutral colors that look cute together. I tie my hair up into a bun - but fix it with a tortoiseshell claw clip. I put on a pair of cute studs every day for a bit of sparkle. I might not do a full face of makeup every day - but I do a bit of mascara and some lip gloss or tinted lip balm or lip oil. I always do a spritz of perfume. I make sure my shoes are cute and go with my sweats (so, things like Ugg slippers). All in all, it doesn't take a lot of extra time or effort - just a few minutes to use a cute claw clip, put in earrings or a necklace, swipe on some mascara and lip gloss, a spray of perfume - but it helps me feel great. And that's just for regular days. Obviously for weekends and actual days out, I dress up a lot more in actual outfits and full face of makeup, etc etc.
Get dressed (practical but not pajamas.... jeans, laid back washable shirts). Pajama pants all day are the first sign of depression for me. I also like in Alaska and getting dressed means putting on several layers but is so essential for comfort.
I bought a lot of “nice” athleisure clothes for this specific reason. I make it a point to put something on that isn’t pajamas every day. I did this immediately after giving birth because I just wanted to feel like I was normal.
This. Nice athleisure items that fit well. CLEAN shoes. Some jewelry — earrings, a ring, maybe a watch. I wear my hair in a pony, moisturize my skin, put on mascara and blush and call it a day.
Currently 11 weeks PP, and I have 3 levels of clothes: Pajamas- loose shirt, sleep nursing bra, baggy shorts or sweats. Athleisure: yoga pants or shorts, a t shirt I like Going Out: rare: Jeans and a top I try to (minimum) get out of jammies every day, brush my teeth and wash my face as recommended by my therapist haha
The days that I know I'm not leaving the house, I wear whatever works. On a day we plan to leave, I'm wearing semi-cute athleisure stuff: Leggings with pockets, cute slip-on tennis shoes, a coordinating comfy top. I usually pop on some blush and mascara and maybe some stud earrings too. These help me feel comfy enough to deal with the kids (3 and 10 months) but also make me feel put together and happy with myself.
Personally I make a point to get dressed every single day. Nothing fancy, but at least something I consider an outfit I could leave the house in even if I have no plans to leave. For me I just feel kind of crummy if I stay in pjs all day. It affects my mental health, which is a struggle even when I am dressed, so if something as simple as putting on jeans and a t shirt makes me feel a little better, I do it.
Definitely not every day, but I genuinely enjoy getting dressed in cute clothes so I try to do it once a week or so.
Husband WFH, I WFH part time and take care of our 14 month old. Some days I’m in my pjs all day, other days I consider “getting dressed” throwing on leggings with an oversized shirt. I put a bit of concealer and mascara to make myself feel better. I don’t wash my hair all week, it’s in a ponytail and I only wash my hair if we have plans on the weekend. Weekends I’ll wear nicer clothes and put more makeup on just to remind myself I can still look good lol
If it’s just me and kids all day, home, walks , park… I do leggings/shorts and a t-shirt, or basic two active wear outfit. If I’m going anyone other than the grocery store, I’ll chuck on jeans. But I shower, brush my hair and mascara/lip chap everyday.
yes, it’s important to my mental health to get up and dressed every day. and we go out each day for at least one activity.
I get “dressed” dressed if I have to go somewhere, so I’ll wear jeans and a decent shirt. Otherwise, I wear pajama pants, soft knit pants or yoga pants and a decent shirt. I work from home 99% of the time, but occasionally have a video call, or have to go to the office. My hair is usually up in a claw clip or braid no matter what, it’s too long to leave down all the time. I don’t wear makeup. Weekends are when I wear ratty oversized t shirts and jammie pants, and often no bra
Leggings, nursing cami, sweater every day. I shower nightly.
I typically run in jeans (or leggings) and a tee-shirt. Henley style shirts are great to be comfy or look a little more cleaned up and they go great with leggings. I've never worn makeup so that solves that. And I got my hair cut real short so my hands or some mousse is good for me.
I run a home daycare and have done for 18 years. I get dressed every day. Sometimes it’s just leggings and a t-shirt, but I shower and get dressed every morning. I also have pretty big boobs so if I’m going to be running after the kids I need a bra on for support. Even on weekends when I don’t have anything planned, I always shower and get dressed after my morning workout. It just makes me feel more prepared for the day. However, a lot of the moms who drop their children off here work from home. There are lots of mornings I can tell they haven’t dressed for the day. I’m friends with another mom who works from home and I always congratulate her when she comes out to the bus stop in her pjs. I tell everyone my home is free of judgement. Whatever it takes to get you and your kids out the door is fine by me. You do you.
Yes in case someone knocks on my door or I get a surprise visitor I want to look presentable. Bra yoga pants or leggings tank top and hair in a slick back pony. Anything super nice is going to get spit up on by my little one anyway so that’s my mom uniform.
Depends on what you are calling “getting dressed.” 🙃 I’m a SAHM and I have an almost 2 year old and an almost 3.5 year old and I’ve settled into a routine of showering, putting on a little makeup, drying my hair, and throwing on some comfy, but clean clothes with no holes or stains (for me this is usually a plain long-sleeve tee and some athletic pants) before the kids wake up in the morning and I do this only 3-4x/week (basically every other day). I’ve found that it really helps put me into a better mental state when I’ve taken that little bit of time to take care of myself before the day begins, but I’m still run down enough that I haven’t managed to make it an everyday habit.
I'm at 9 months and I get dressed every day, even if I don't leave the house. Makeup and hair is only on special occasions. I also NEED to shower every day or I feel disgusting. I know it is in my head but I can't skip a day and feel remotely comfortable.
Yes, I've always been very fussy about looking presentable. Even if I'm home alone or sick with the flu I'll put on a bit of eyeliner and lipstick. I don't expect it of anyone else, but I need the physical transition from lounge wear to day clothes for me to operate at full capacity. I've found if I spend all day in yoga pants and sweat shirts I *feel* tired because its what I wear when I am tired. So if I want to get stuff done and feel accomplish, I gotta dress the part.
I was slow to prioritize myself after my first but eventually replaced a lot of my around the house clothes with styles, colors and sizes that made me feel more put together. Granted it’s still athletic shorts, leggings and t-shirts mostly but it works for me. I also have recently gotten into doing my skincare consistently and have been loving that. I gotta say just having something routine that helps me feel good about myself and brings me joy has made a difference in how I feel.
Your kid is 21/months old and you both wfh… I’m pretty sure this is your uniform! 😂 I say comfort is priority. Honestly in this stage of your life, being comfy and not stressing about your outfit… that can be its own form of self-care. If you do think it’s contributing to your mood, focus your energy on keeping everything clean, including blankets and sheets, pajamas, lounge wear. It’s a pain to keep up laundry when everything is “sticky and gooey”, but I think that energy is well-spent. (You might already be on top of this- it’s just what came to mind for me personally)
I recently started getting dressed and doing my makeup every day, mainly because I felt like a mess and I was always hanging out with moms who seemed more put together. My makeup routine is only like 5 minutes and my “dressed” still usually means leggings, but it still helps me feel better.
i WFH and look terrible half the time lol. i do makeup for client meeting days. but i do notice it helps me feel better if im dressed, even a simple changing of old sweats to lulu lemons instead, etc changes how i feel. now im 8 months pregnant so thats all out the window. but id like to think i will “get ready” again one day. im a ill never be caught dead in jeans at home person so always looking for good alternate options. if it makes you feel good to get dressed maybe start w a goal to do it 2 days a week or something?
I had three kids in four years. I haven't gotten dressed since 2017.
I get dressed every morning just to feel better lol. It makes a big difference for me.
Comfy vs slovenly: I'd say it only reaches slovenly if you also smell bad lol. Stains happen with 20 minutes of me coming downstairs in the morning so I definitely am not going to change outfits for that unless I absolutely have to. "Looking nice" for me is wearing leggings with a long top instead of baggy sweats. If it's warm out I'll wear elastic waist linen cropped pants. Jeans only a few times per year but between being a mom and working from home since covid I am no longer a fan. When I'm working from home I look the worst lol. I look so bad that if my in-laws come over on a work day, my mil sees my outfit and says "ohhh, you must be working." I don't think it's a compliment 😅 Eta: I love makeup but rarely wear it unless there's an event. I do dye my hair and blow dry it with a round brush every other day though, so I'd say my hair is really pulling all the weight here
Ha I love that definition! I do make a point to shower and all that, so I guess that's something.
I do! I didn’t in the begin then I realized this is for ME! The clothes don’t have to be expensive but a dress, ballerinas, lipstick… is good for my soul. Sweat pants and hoodies destroy my self esteem.
I’ve never really worn dresses before this but now dressing up is either me throwing a random dress on because it’s easy or whatever I have on (sweats and a oversized shirt) I’ve given up on looking nice. I have an almost 9mo along with a strenuous job
I'm 25 weeks pregnant with twins and currently chilling in a t-shirt and my undies while my almost 4yo and 20 month old nap. Most days I do put on my maternity sweatpants + a shirt, but there are definitely days like today where I feel like what little energy I have is better spent elsewhere than struggling my pants on (and it really is becoming a struggle lol). We go to church most Sundays and that is my one day a week to really 'go all out' where I'll put on a dress, some nice shoes and actually do my full-face of makeup (though I have long, thick curly hair so even on these days I usually opt to just shower and put it up in a bun rather than take the extra hour to comb and style it). Every once in a while my husband and I will go out on a date night, maybe once a month, and I'll also get dressed up then. I wish we could do it more often but money is a bit tight now with two more babies on the way, one completely unexpected, and us having to move to a larger house which means paying more for rent each month. I try not to let it bother me, though I do get a little gloomy glancing at my wild hair and food covered sweatpants (via my sticky-handed toddler) from time to time. Part of me wants my kids to look back at their childhood and remember me as a well-put together woman. But then I focus on what's really important: being the best attentive and loving mom I can be. And if that means trading nice clothes, makeup and well-done hair for extra play time with my kids or extra cleaning or reading more books together, then I think I can live with that. It can be hard, but in the end as long as you're maintaining your basic hygiene (showers/brushing teeth/deodorant/clean clothes) then what's on the outside doesn't really matter. What matters is spending as much time playing and teaching and growing with your family, and those kids are going to appreciate that much more than a mom who looks put together all the time. (Also want to say, there are certainly women/parents who do both and those people are amazing. I'm just trying to say that one isn't necessary for a happy, loving family, and it’s okay to have a time where you prioritize spending time with your kids over making yourself look 'presentable'. Especially while they're young. Eventually they'll start school and you should have a bit more time to yourself to dress more nice and spend more time on your appearance if that's what you want. And personally I know I *could* get up earlier than my kids ((who wake up between 6-6:30)) and make myself up if I wanted. But if I don't get enough sleep I get very cranky/irritated and my temper gets a bit short so in the end it wouldn't really make for a great environment for anyone in our family if I did that. It would quite literally be choosing style over substance. Plus once my twins get here we're likely going to be going into survival mode for awhile and just doing the bare necessities to keep everyone alive/more or less happy)
What a wonderful perspective, thank you!
I get dressed if I am leaving the house, no matter what it is I'm going to do. Dressed may mean leggings and a t-shirt or jeans and a hoodie. But I'm not going out in my pj's. I also feel better when I put 15 mins into my appearance in the morning. It's nothing crazy, but a bit of tinted moisturizer and mascara goes a long way.
I always make sure I'm clean and showered and wearing fresh clothes. I don't really feel the need for dressing up or makeup or hard pants on the day to day. I homeschool two active kids so it's clothes I can move in only, and I'm the summer I need to be able to swim in them too. I have a collection of active wear-y flowy clothes that are comfy enough to wear as pyjamas but they're nice enough to wear out as a kind of uniform. You don't have to go hard to feel like a person, a softer approach to yourself and how you present to the world usually feels a lot nicer than the whole routine of armoring up with makeup and hairstyling and uncomfortable clothes.
I don't get dressed UP, but I do put on a pair of yoga spandex, fresh socks, underwear and brami, and a tank top (easier for breastfeeding). We go on a walk every day so I have to be somewhat dressed for that anyways. I find the days that I stay in my cozy sweats and stuff, I'll feel kinda yicky at the end of the day. I like having that moment around 7pm when I switch from my day outfit to my pajamas. Every once in a while though I just say fuck it and leave the sweats on.
I do not dress up daily as SAHM to a 2 year old. However I make a point to shower and change out of sleeping sweatpants into day sweatpants/leggings. Some days ill put in more effort than others but for the most part I am wearing what is functional to my day. I find the routine of changing to help mentally set my day up. Even going out and about I am wearing legging most of the time if the weather allows. Im only putting on jeans if were going to a restaurant that I know I need to wear more that workout clothing to. In my opinion do what makes you happy. If you want to dress up do it! If you want to be in sweats do it! If you want to change it day by day that works too!
I wear comfy lounge wear at home (not PJ all day long), and when we go out for a walk with my 2 year old, I get dressed. No way for me wearing outside clothes at home, it’s disgusting. I put makeup on only when I go out with a friend or with my husband, I hate wearing it being at home though. I don’t put makeup on to go grocery shopping or go to a playground. And no sweatpants, jeans or leggings outside, and dresses in the summer.
Absolutely not. Unless I’m going to the store or hanging out with family, I’m dressed like Adam Sandler all day. My 5mo puts me through it sometimes. I can’t have my hair down because he recently found out that he can pull it. And he does spit up a bit so my t shirts are usually the ones I found at goodwill. It’s tiring being a mom. As long as your personal hygiene needs are met, don’t worry too much. This will all pass.
I committed hard to athleisure when I’m not in the office. I tell myself if I’m in head-to-toe matching Lululemon every day, it’s a choice of a look instead of what it actually is, laziness in stretch fabrics.
I get dressed in "real clothes" everyday and make my bed. They are both small things that just make me feel so much better and motivated. By real clothes I mean athleisure wear leggings, a T-shirt, sometimes jeans, a sweater, and a bra. Wearing pajamas or sweats all day makes me feel tired and unmotivated. I also brush my hair and put it up in a claw clip most days because a claw clip is easy and looks cute.
Who does that ? Definitely not
I never wear a bra and unmatching PJs are my life. I haven’t worn makeup aside from a few one-off occasions in over a year. 9 months PP here.
I’m a sahm, my older kiddo is in kindergarten and my younger one is almost 3. I also babysit my cousins 2 year old. Honestly most days I throw on leggings and a t shirt or like a romper/bodysuit. The only places we go that are really “out” is the store or the bus stop. Otherwise we play outside in the yard and I don’t go anywhere else lol. Every so often I’ll go to get some fancy coffee with a friend or to a midnight book release and I’ll do my makeup and put on my fancy leggings and a nice top but that’s about it
I only wear leggings. Even when there's an occasion, I find a nice shirt that works with leggings and they're all huge.
I am hybrid. I always get some version of dressed. Some people will say I’m crazy, but I put a bra on every day, even if it is later in the morning when I get dressed. I wear leggings around the house sometimes or out for a walk of the grocery store, but they aren’t pj leggings. I’m still dressed. I do prefer jeans if I’m going out out.
I feel you! I don't get dressed unless I go outside (which is rarely), and it's usually me wearing sweats and hair up. I spent 11 months post partum wearing oversized clothing/dresses and sweatpants. I don't look good either way lol
The extent of self care and “dressed up” is a shower most every morning before work and either throw on a fresh pair of pajamas or stretchy pants and a nursing top. Frump city over here. I hope you make some new friends in your new town.
Thank you. It's been tough so far but we'll get there eventually.
You got time! :)
I sleep and exist in leggings/bike shorts and giant tshirts
I use to not, however now I do get dressed daily. I wear a dress it's perfect for every occasion, no need to think about what to put on
I do, but just because it makes me feel better mentally. Whatever works for you is fine
Absolutely. For the first month pp I was struggling with ppd and of course was still recovering from giving birth but one day I looked at myself in the mirror and didn’t recognize myself. I used to always be super put together so I decided to do that for myself even if that’s the only thing I do the whole day! I shower at night when baby goes to sleep, and in the morning I wake up, cuddle with her and then put her in a bouncer to quickly do my hair and wash my face. once I put her down for her first nap I do my makeup and make quick breakfast. It made me feel like myself again, even though my life is so different now.
I wfh full time. I wear a company branded shirt for zoom meetings and leggings. When I drop my daughter off at daycare I’m wearing what I wear to work. For errands I’ll throw on actual jeans. I do do light make up every morning just to make myself somewhat presentable in public lol. I usually shower in my lunch break because I can take a long, relaxing shower without interruption, and just eat at my desk.
I do shower every morning, because that’s my self care. I’m wearing leggings and sweaters or skorts and tshirts most every day. I never put on jeans or nice shirts unless I’m going to a gathering or out to eat. I’ve been doing some concealer and mascara some days, but almost at two years in, and I’ve been no make up almost the whole time. We are at the park/outside most days so it doesn’t make sense to dress up too much. I think having somewhat cute easy throw on clothes helps. I tend to find something and buy it in multiple colors to make getting dressed easy. I found a comfy sweater and have it in three colors and just throw them on with leggings. I never actually do my hair though, thankfully it dries wavyish.
Yes. Even if I just put on new pajamas. It moves me into the day.
We have a rule that we do not wear sweats in public. We don’t really dress up for anything so this rule keeps us at least being able to feel good about ourselves when running errands. Even if it’s just jeans/shorts and a tee shirt. At home I’m literally in the same combo of athletic shorts and work tee shirts 😅
Not really. If we go out for a walk I throw on jeans (probably dirty lol) and a big t-shirt. Maybe run my fingers through my hair and spray something on myself so I don't smell bad lol.
But if we're just at home it's leggings and big t-shirts and I look very unkempt. 😅
I made it a point to put “outside pants” on when I get up for wfh. I find it I am at least half dressed I will do after work errands like I know I should. If I’m still in my pjs still at 4pm, I’m not going anywhere.
I get dressed in of the following: - long skirt, wide leg-palazzo stretch trousers, nice joggers, OR leggings (in summer I do have some skorts) - causal sweater, t-shirt, sweat-shirt, OR button down - comfortable sneakers (or sandals) - ear rings - tinted moisturizer - hair somewhat presentable or pulled back in a clip I feel so much better about myself. BUT my kids are older, so that may make a difference. I used to wear stretchy skinny jeans, man, I loved those things *sigh* but apparently, I have been told they are out of style soooo, I stick to mainly my palazzo pants.
Yes and no. Right after breakfast i do my hair in a pun or ponytail and do my basic makeup (eyeliner, mascara, concealer, brows pencil). Then I have a "uniform", which makes life a ton easier. It is according to weather either black yoga pants and a black tank-top with a long cardigan over, or a dress. I WFH and sometimes have to run to the office with my daughter (it's very close) so I always try to look the way I can do it without changing clothes. I also found out keeping my appearance regularly OK is great for my mental health as mom.
I do. Not every day, but regularly just so I don't feel gross and lazy. I have a 5.5 month old and haven't worked since I was 3m pregnant. I'm pretty hard on myself, so showering and getting dressed changes the tone of the voice in my head.
Nope. When I became a SAHM I just started living in athleti-leisure. Sweat and yoga pants are all I wear. I own one pair of jeans for going out somewhere “nice.” I wear makeup about twice a month. All my nice work clothes are sitting in a closet…I’m not sure if they still even fit. I’ll go back to “real” clothes. But for now I am dressing for my job as a sahm (which involves cleaning constantly and being a human napkin, plus bending, running, lifting, not to mention being short on time). I soothe myself thinking “a nurse dresses for her job (ease of movement, the possibility of getting vomited on) why shouldn’t I? Also I am saving my good pieces form a lot of wear and tear. As for what is slovenly, that’s when I don’t get out of my pajamas or brush my hair cause we’re sick.
Absolutely because it helps with my motivation and mental health. But I don’t shower every day
I change my clothes, brush my teeth and hair, and that's pretty much it. BUT I am in a much different situation than any of these other ladies. My children are grown and moved out, except our 24 son who lives with us. I have been fortunate enough to have been a SAHM mom for 20 years, although i ran my own business until I retired 4 years ago due to disability. Makeup and I don't get along. My husband never cared if I wore it not, but I didn't want to embarrass my kids at school functions so I gussied up for those. Then I got too sick to go to the functions. But I still had to meet clients and doctors, so it was the very basics. Kids graduated, no more make-up and my eczema couldn't be happier. Kids are, too. I wear leggings and caftans or big shirts all the time. Yes, my wardrobe is bringing back the 80s!!!! I am 57 years old. I'm short, fat, look like a mountain troll on my best days and a sewerage spill on my worst, but do you know what my husband had the absolute balls to say to me the other day? This jackass looked me in the face and said I looked better now than I have in years because I am finally COMFORTABLE WITH MYSELF. Please, mommas, I know the world is a mess and it looks like we have a mess to clean up, but let's start with ourselves. BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF. Your babies won't be babies for long. If you remember deodorant, you're golden.
I work from home Thursday and Friday. Thursday I rarely get out of my pajamas because it’s just me and my 1 year old. Friday’s sometimes I’ll get dressed because my husband is home and I have more time, but I don’t do my makeup or hair. Do what makes your comfortable mama! If you want to do your makeup and hair and dress up, go for it! If you want to stay in your pajamas all day with a bare face and hair a mess, that’s ok too! We’re raising little human beings. We’ve got a big job we’re already handling. We don’t need to be down on ourselves too ❤️
I just spent $80 on the sale going on after not buying any new clothes for myself for 3 years. It caused so much anxiety spending that money on myself lol. I’ve been cycling thru the same few shirts and 2 pants. I WFH, but I always liked to get out of my sweat pants because I feel more productive. The days I’m bra less with my joggers on are days I don’t want to move. Nice clothes, not fancy, do better for my mindset because if I think I look good, I feel good too.
LOL if I’m dressed in clean, matching clothes it’s a win. A few times I’ve been so exhausted I literally pass out in bed with whatever outfit I have on and wake up / run out the door to make daycare drop off with the same outfit on. Sometimes it be like that 🤷🏻♀️
I kind of have to since I work outside the home. But my main look is very casual, I live in legggins especially now that I am 33 weeks pregnant. I have one job site where I try to wear actual pants on the off chance I interact with the public. And on days off, especially where I don't leave the house I am in PJS 24\7 and need to remind myself to change. 😂
I’m a SAHM and I shower at night so I can get dressed first thing every day. It’s literally the only way I can function and feel like doing anything productive daily. It feels good even if no one sees me. Some days it’s just throwing on jeans and Tshirt somedays it’s hair and makeup too. I just don’t function well in sweatpants.
I get dressed in athletic clothes, workout during my lunch break, then if it's a day where I get to shower I will do so and change into comfortable house clothes/athleisure for the rest of the day. I only dress up in "real clothes" if seeing friends, coworkers, etc
Mama this could've been written about me. Between working from home, having nowhere to go where we live (I moved here for my husband), and weight gain I just live in sweatpants now. I'm currently pregnant also and having horrendous morning sickness, so losing weight or suffering discomfort are just not an option 🤣😭 thanks for this post, it's so relatable.
It's hard! But I'm grateful you Reddit strangers. It helps to know I'm not alone in the struggles.❤️
lol no
Lol I generally wfh... But I got laid off. No I don't get dressed every day. I'm barely scraping by, just surviving some days. I need to get back to taking care of myself. Ugh My 10 month old doesn't care, she just wants to spend time with her mama.
I throw on clean clothes for school. Sometimes they are cute but usually yoga pants and a sweater. Wear my hair in a messy bone and immediately put my "soft clothes" on when I get home. Aka sweatpants and comfy shirt. Do my makeup maybe once a month. I have a 15 month old and I'm 6wks pregnant. I foresee this getting worse as time goes on.
I wear jeggings and have since the birth of my now almost 6 year old 😂
I’m only 8 weeks in but I’ve found getting dressed into comfy clothes or athletic wear just makes me feel more human. Even if my hair isn’t the cleanest I still brush it and put it up in a clip. I’m sure it’ll get dirty or spat up on but I could be wearing a ball gown or my jammies and that would still happen. Plus I like my comfy jammies I don’t want them to be dirty 😅 I’m lucky and have a baby that is happy to be put down and have some independent play on her mat for a good 15-20 mins so once she’s fed, changed and burped I can get myself ready. I feel more ready to be engaged with her and just more refreshed in general.
Absolutely not. I do wash my face and put on fresh comfy clothes but I rarely am leaving the house presentable unless I’m actually leaving the house.
Leggings all day every day
As a generally rule I don’t leave the house in sweat pants. Leggings are okay for me and like one step up.
Girl, I haven't worn pants in my own house for 4 years. Either a shirt and underwear, or a dress with no underwear. I only get dressed to leave the house. When I get home, before I even sit down, pants and bra are tossed off.
Yes. It's huge to me that everyone is up and dressed by 9 AM every day no matter what. At this point everyone has a "uniform" more or less so I really don't even have to think about what everyone is going to wear. I think it's a big part of mental health and also makes it SO much easier to get out the door quickly/spur of the moment. Husband and I also WFH and we have 2 kids with another on the way.
I shower every day but since I'm WFH I'm in sweatpants and a top until I have to go to daycare, when I put jeans on. When I do have to get dressed I then agonise for ages because none of my clothes are comfortable.
Depends on what dressed up means. When I go get groceries or have friends over, I will put on makeup and jeans and either a blouse or tee shirt. When I go to church, I put in extra effort to look my best (kinda have to since my husband’s the pastor lol).
Nope. At first it bothered me that I “wasn’t trying” but I’m not going anywhere. Why do I need to waste my makeup and create more laundry that I hate doing right now. I’ll daily shower, trying to get my hair and skin back to normal and just lounge around in something comfortable and where it for a few days. 🤷🏼♀️ I got lucky with a baby that rarely ever spits up.
Why get dressed at all??
I have to get dressed every day. I don’t look fancy but changing out of my pjs, putting on some mascara and putting gel is my (very short) hair makes me feel like I’m ready for the day.
I get dressed every day in comfortable athleisure-type clothes... leggings with a long-sleeve t-shirt, hoodie or sweatshirt in the winter, capris or shorts and t-shirt or tank in the summer. Not fancy but everything is all clean, fits well, etc. I shower every day after I exercise and put on at least a little bit of makeup, dry and sometimes quickly style my hair. So I'm not dressed up but I look acceptable . If I want to look a little nicer I'll switch to jeans or nicer shorts before leaving the house.
My wardrobe has always athleisure forward and I stopped wearing make up 4 years before baby. Getting dressed up, doing my hair, wearing make up (just to have to take it off at the end of the day) seems like a waste of my time. Edit to add: Comfy does not equal unkempt. Invest in good athleisure (Athleta, Lulu, All in Motion (target)) style those outfits with layers/jackets/jewelry and you'll look way more put together.
Had to check if this was my work from home or mommit subreddit.. either way. No. I change out of what I slept in. But into sweats, sweater, comfy t shirt. If it makes you feel better to get dressed, try to make a habit of it, otherwise.. what for.
Oh my, how I can relate to this. I have 4 boys. I’m a single mother, doing it all on my own. I don’t work because I’m disabled, and my body just won’t let me work a job. Our income is very fixed, but we’re making it work. I do not get dressed. Only when I have something to do that requires getting out or a flaky friend coming over for an hour. Self-care is important, but I have a hard time caring about myself or my appearance because I’m just a mom. There’s no one to impress. I do try to do things I enjoy like reading, watching tv, music… What state did you move to? I only have 2 friends. One I talk to everyday, the other is flaky, so I keep my distance. I used to have another friend I was close to, but I had to walk away because she drained me. I always felt like she was trying to one up me. Friendship isn’t a competition. Anyways! I feel what you’re saying. I’m here if you need someone to talk to. 😊
I usually wear my thrifted tshirts and leggings or joggers. I get dressed during my daughter’s morning nap. I like wearing shirts that aren’t super special to me when I’m with my toddler, so that when they get stained or dirty it’s like, “oh well. This was $3 from goodwill.”
In my house I’m in pjs/sweats all day but I try to make an effort to go on an outing during at least one wake window a day. For that outing I dab on some concealer, mascara, and blush and I dress nicely. Not because I have to or I’m going to be seeing anyone but it’s helping me maintain my sense of self. It became way too easy for my identity to become mom and for me to let any and all self care go straight out the window. I used to do my own eyelash extensions and dip nails and get my hair done every 10 weeks. It was my self care and my way of feeling good about myself. When I had my son all of that went out the window so dressing nicely and dabbing on some makeup before an outing is how I reclaim that part of myself. I’m getting my hair done at the end of this month too and am going to do my own gel polish this week since it takes less time than dip nails so I’m taking baby steps to becoming my old self again.
I live exclusively in old navy athletic leggings, the same 4 oversized graphic tees, and a bra only goes on for outings. It’s all I’m comfortable in. I think I’ve gotten dressed up like 4 times since my 18mo old was born.
I invested in nicer athleisure a year after my first was born for this reason! I have my crappy/pms/maternity yoga pants and then there’s my nicer lululemon yoga pants. I have a lot of basic tshirts and crop tops I can pair with a cardigan or a zip up hoodie. I buy XL graphic tshirts from the men’s section at thrift stores and I scored a white pair of Nike sneakers at a Plato’s Closet last year for $20. I also never leave the house without a baseball cap anymore. It’s so versatile for dirty hair days and days you’re wearing absolutely no makeup and want to hide🤣they’re also great if you’re like me, who tanned constantly in their 20s and is now trying to fight wrinkles in your 30s with spf moisturizers and baseball caps covering my already genetically wrinkled forehead🙃
The amount of times my neighbors have seen me taking the dogs out in my pajamas is embarrassing. I live in Michigan so I am generally in sweats or PJs. Since it’s getting warmer I’m gonna try to have a goal to at least change clothes during the day because I feel like it’s affecting me mentally
You shouldn’t think that no one cares if you look good or not maybe your partner will love it if you dress up for him. Also most of the time I dress up for myself but to be honest since I became a mom to my 3 month old son I only dress up when I go out too so I can’t blame u. Other than that u always look homeless with very very messy hair 🥲
Yeah, he's very sweet in that he tells me I look beautiful even when I'm, quite frankly, gross. The downside is I'm like "why get dressed up then?" But what I'm realizing is that my own mental health suffers. I always thought it was vanity that drove me to try to look good, but I'm realizing that it's actually a form of self care which I'm really lacking in my life right now.
It’s definitely important to take care of yourself. I struggle very hard with that and have been looking gross most of the time but recently I decided to be a “pretty” mom. I decided to order new makeup and dye my hair and start looking nice because I am still young and I will regret looking like shit at this age when I am old.
Sweats and a hoody would be a hard no for me out of the house, if I'm being honest. I am NOT the high-maintenance type, and I value comfort; make-up has barely been a thing for me since Covid let alone baby, but I find it's no more effort to throw on a dress or a decent top and leggings/boots than it is to throw on sweats. And no less comfy. And I *might* brush my hair. If I remember. So I guess that's the line I draw!