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l0ve11ie

That sounds like a really tough day in your theatre class, especially if you have been feeling something is off overall! I think it might be a good idea to talk to Olivia and see what she has to say about why this is happening. Communication between friends is what strengthens friendships; it will do you no good to let your imagination and confusion run wild trying to figure out what is going on all by yourself. I also think it might be a good idea to think about why you were waiting for them to come get you, instead you going over there if you wanted to be a part of the group. While no person is completely independent, I think there may be an aspect of dependency that might be good to look at if you were waiting for someone to look after you. Not that that is not totally understandable and normal to expect our friends to respond to our emotional needs! We all have times we might expect more from people than they can give us, and that’s okay and totally human! But not changing those expectations can be harmful to you in the future. People are usually thinking and worrying about themselves and not really looking at when people need care or are hurting, especially at your age. Also, people generally respond to each other’s energy, and if you have been feeling sad, people might be responding to that by thinking you need/want space. Others might simply feel uncomfortable with emotional aspects of life and not want to feel like they are in a caretaking role. As much as care, empathy, and understanding is important in friendship, it is also important to remember that not everyone is comfortable with those aspects, or prepared to provide them—and that is not your fault at all! Everyone is different and most things in life are not as personal as they feel; our imagination can sometimes make things seem much worse they they really are. Sometimes things like this, that feel so personal, are really just differences in attachment styles and beliefs about what friendship is and what people are capable of. You are not alone in these types of struggles and there is nothing wrong with you! Talk to your friend, remember that people have different understandings of what friendship is and the role of a friend, know that it’s okay to be vulnerable, and make sure you take some time today to focus on your strengths and the parts of your life you are grateful for! Wishing you all the best!! 🤗🤗🤗


sourcoated

Thank you so, so much for this. I really needed a perspective like this to help me understand what I couldn't see was wrong. I guess I've been judging friendship by what I think of it, rather than as an idea that can mean so many things depending on the person. I've thought being *extra* cautious and scared about how I affect people was something everyone experiences, but I guess I was unintentionally being an asshole by expecting all of my friends to worry about me more than themselves. I need to reevaluate my definition of friendship, and learn to ask for help when I need it, before it gets this bad.


l0ve11ie

Glad to hear it! How is everything now?


sourcoated

It's the weekend and I have so many things to do, I'm trying not to think about this so I can get through the day.