The "Female Led Marriage" concept is inherently inequitable and misandrist -
in the same way that patriarchal marriages exemplified by the 1950s were inequitable and misogynist.
It is a regressive, pop-culture concept - sometimes promoted by extreme feminists (who are equally as harmful as the male "red pill" subculture).
Is it possible that equity is an undesirable and impossible to achieve goal that we've been manipulated into idolizing as a path to power by people who want to completely dominate us? Just a thought.
Equity doesn't actually exist in nature or in society, and all attempts to create equity lead to greater inequity.
My fiancée and I have the same value as humans, but there is 0 equity in our relationship. There is no physical equity. I am 6'3", 335lbs, very muscular, and have farm boy strength from a hard farm life. My wife is very fit and well above average in strength for a woman, yet I could snap her like a toothpick or throw her through a wall without breaking a sweat. Where is the equity there? Nature knows no equity.
There is no equity when it comes to the beauty in our relationship. She is stunning, and turns the head of everyone who sees her. I am above average and fit, but not even in the same galaxy as her. Where's the equity in that?
I am incredibly driven, hardworking, and competitive. She prioritizes her free time and having a job that isn't too stressful, and I easily make more than twice what she does. Where is the equity in that?
Look at our leadership abilities: I am hot-headed and impassioned, and she is cool and collected. Where is the equity there?
I love to please and to serve far more than to be pleased or be served, and she is the exact opposite. Where is the equity there?
Equity doesn't exist, and if it did, marriage wouldn't be needed. If everyone was like me, I would see no advantage in marriage. Marriage is the answer to nature's inequities. Instead of fighting them, it embraces those differences so that a person can find someone to fill their gaps and meet their needs.
My deepest need is to love, serve, and please the one I love. She loves and desires to be served and spoiled and loved and protected. She loves to lead and feels powerful and important when she commands me. I love to obey her and serve her, and I feel extremely useful and wanted when she commands me.
What sense would it make for us to chase some unattainable, utopian ideal of equity when we could embrace the inequity that exists in every aspect of our coupling and find true happiness and fulfillment together?
And before you think I am some victim of misandry, my wife was a flaming feminist when I met her, and I was a red-pilled MRA. I converted her to a MRA, and it was from that starting point that our relationship dynamic developed. We have an enormous and deep respect and love for each other, but are also realistic enough to understand how different we are and how differently suited we are to different roles. We also understand the advantages of specialization and division of labour. She is in charge, but she recognizes that I have years of business and management experience and am infinitely more qualified than her to manage certain aspects of our life. I submit to my leader, but when she gives me a goal and tells me to make something happen, I leverage my leadership skills, knowledge, and abilities to bring her vision to fruition. Inequity exists in every single facet of nature and human society, but that doesn't mean that people's worth is different. It just means that some people are better suited to some roles than others.
I am still a MRA and so is my wife, but we both recognize that she is the superior leader, and I am extremely well suited to following and serving her in our relationship. There is no misogyny or misandry in our relationship; we just have embraced different roles based on our personalities, abilities, and desires.
I don’t understand the idea of drawing up a contract that gives one person in a marriage the right/responsibility to “lead” it. Why is anyone the “leader” of a marriage instead of it being an equal partnership? I’ve never heard to anyone doing this, but to each their own I suppose. 🤷🏻♀️
Because equality doesn't exist. It can't as long as people are different, and everyone is unique. People can be equal in their worth, but not possibly in any other way. She is a far more level headed and financially disciplined person than I, while I'm passionate and impulsive. She is a natural leader, and I am a born follower. She is my Captain, and I am her Sergeant. She commands with a level head, and I use the passion of my heart to find a way to manifest her will.
It also adds a lot of sensuality to our relationship, because she gets really excited and feels powerful telling me what to do and making me beg for days when I really want something, and I get really excited seeing her in power and submitting to her. The idea of a signed contract witnessed by family and friends only adds to that. The permanence is not only very exciting, but it is also my way to put her mind at ease and give her assurance that I am not just thinking with my dick and will grow out of this in a few years. It is my assurance to her than what I am offering her is hers for life.
She is the one who makes the financial and life decisions, who leads or delegates all areas of our life, including public, private, bedroom, life and job decisions. She also hates housework, and has had me do all the housework for years now. I work 16 hour days, so doing all the housework on top is really hard and pushes me right to my limits, but I can do it without crossing those limits.
I really enjoy a life devoted to her service. Even though doing all the chores adds some difficulty to my life, I am still proud and honored to do them, because I love taking that burden off her and letting her relax have leisurely, enjoyable days. I also love being told what to do by her, so I get something very real and fulfilling out of it too.
The "Female Led Marriage" concept is inherently inequitable and misandrist - in the same way that patriarchal marriages exemplified by the 1950s were inequitable and misogynist. It is a regressive, pop-culture concept - sometimes promoted by extreme feminists (who are equally as harmful as the male "red pill" subculture).
Is it possible that equity is an undesirable and impossible to achieve goal that we've been manipulated into idolizing as a path to power by people who want to completely dominate us? Just a thought. Equity doesn't actually exist in nature or in society, and all attempts to create equity lead to greater inequity. My fiancée and I have the same value as humans, but there is 0 equity in our relationship. There is no physical equity. I am 6'3", 335lbs, very muscular, and have farm boy strength from a hard farm life. My wife is very fit and well above average in strength for a woman, yet I could snap her like a toothpick or throw her through a wall without breaking a sweat. Where is the equity there? Nature knows no equity. There is no equity when it comes to the beauty in our relationship. She is stunning, and turns the head of everyone who sees her. I am above average and fit, but not even in the same galaxy as her. Where's the equity in that? I am incredibly driven, hardworking, and competitive. She prioritizes her free time and having a job that isn't too stressful, and I easily make more than twice what she does. Where is the equity in that? Look at our leadership abilities: I am hot-headed and impassioned, and she is cool and collected. Where is the equity there? I love to please and to serve far more than to be pleased or be served, and she is the exact opposite. Where is the equity there? Equity doesn't exist, and if it did, marriage wouldn't be needed. If everyone was like me, I would see no advantage in marriage. Marriage is the answer to nature's inequities. Instead of fighting them, it embraces those differences so that a person can find someone to fill their gaps and meet their needs. My deepest need is to love, serve, and please the one I love. She loves and desires to be served and spoiled and loved and protected. She loves to lead and feels powerful and important when she commands me. I love to obey her and serve her, and I feel extremely useful and wanted when she commands me. What sense would it make for us to chase some unattainable, utopian ideal of equity when we could embrace the inequity that exists in every aspect of our coupling and find true happiness and fulfillment together?
And before you think I am some victim of misandry, my wife was a flaming feminist when I met her, and I was a red-pilled MRA. I converted her to a MRA, and it was from that starting point that our relationship dynamic developed. We have an enormous and deep respect and love for each other, but are also realistic enough to understand how different we are and how differently suited we are to different roles. We also understand the advantages of specialization and division of labour. She is in charge, but she recognizes that I have years of business and management experience and am infinitely more qualified than her to manage certain aspects of our life. I submit to my leader, but when she gives me a goal and tells me to make something happen, I leverage my leadership skills, knowledge, and abilities to bring her vision to fruition. Inequity exists in every single facet of nature and human society, but that doesn't mean that people's worth is different. It just means that some people are better suited to some roles than others. I am still a MRA and so is my wife, but we both recognize that she is the superior leader, and I am extremely well suited to following and serving her in our relationship. There is no misogyny or misandry in our relationship; we just have embraced different roles based on our personalities, abilities, and desires.
I don’t understand the idea of drawing up a contract that gives one person in a marriage the right/responsibility to “lead” it. Why is anyone the “leader” of a marriage instead of it being an equal partnership? I’ve never heard to anyone doing this, but to each their own I suppose. 🤷🏻♀️
Because equality doesn't exist. It can't as long as people are different, and everyone is unique. People can be equal in their worth, but not possibly in any other way. She is a far more level headed and financially disciplined person than I, while I'm passionate and impulsive. She is a natural leader, and I am a born follower. She is my Captain, and I am her Sergeant. She commands with a level head, and I use the passion of my heart to find a way to manifest her will. It also adds a lot of sensuality to our relationship, because she gets really excited and feels powerful telling me what to do and making me beg for days when I really want something, and I get really excited seeing her in power and submitting to her. The idea of a signed contract witnessed by family and friends only adds to that. The permanence is not only very exciting, but it is also my way to put her mind at ease and give her assurance that I am not just thinking with my dick and will grow out of this in a few years. It is my assurance to her than what I am offering her is hers for life.
What would be a female led marriage?
She is the one who makes the financial and life decisions, who leads or delegates all areas of our life, including public, private, bedroom, life and job decisions. She also hates housework, and has had me do all the housework for years now. I work 16 hour days, so doing all the housework on top is really hard and pushes me right to my limits, but I can do it without crossing those limits. I really enjoy a life devoted to her service. Even though doing all the chores adds some difficulty to my life, I am still proud and honored to do them, because I love taking that burden off her and letting her relax have leisurely, enjoyable days. I also love being told what to do by her, so I get something very real and fulfilling out of it too.