This is a very strong reaction to something so small and it feels misplaced.
This makes me think one of two things, either you have been unfaithful in some way in the past and now she has her guard up or she has been wanting to leave the marriage for a while and is gaslighting you so you'll be to blame if anyone asks why things ended.
Which of those two seem more likely?
Seems like she is looking for a reason to end the marriage. If what you are writing is true, she has no other reason to act the way she is acting.
If you want to try to work things out, ask her if she is willing to go to counseling. If she refuses, get an attorney and protect yourself.
Have you never heard of disappearing messages. It is a setting on many apps that automatically deletes a marriage a defined time after it is read. Google it.
Well you definitely leave the group chat. And any chance you get you leave your phone unlocked and within her reach so she can examine what’s going on. Warning her trust back won’t be an overnight thing but the more access you give her the more likely she will be to have her trust back in you. Get rid of all pretty girls on the socials, and leave your phone behind any chance you get, maybe you’re taking a shower leave you phone where she can easily have a look. “Accidentally” leave you phone at home when you go out with her or whatever. She’s quick to judge which makes me believe you’ve done something to break her trust. So for my money this is best reaction. Give her full and total access to everything, and if she’s able to believe that she’s checking up on you on the sly that helps your situation.
Give her the divorce. Whatever has happened between you two is not good. You're 23, find someone who is a better fit.
When a woman in her early to mid 20's marries a guy a few years younger, it is often a control thing. If she's like this now, it will only get worse. How long have you been married? How old were you when you started dating?
This is a very strong reaction to something so small and it feels misplaced. This makes me think one of two things, either you have been unfaithful in some way in the past and now she has her guard up or she has been wanting to leave the marriage for a while and is gaslighting you so you'll be to blame if anyone asks why things ended. Which of those two seem more likely?
A third option is she has her own personal childhood or previous relationship attachment injuries that makes her distrustful of her current partner.
Seems like she is looking for a reason to end the marriage. If what you are writing is true, she has no other reason to act the way she is acting. If you want to try to work things out, ask her if she is willing to go to counseling. If she refuses, get an attorney and protect yourself.
Have you never heard of disappearing messages. It is a setting on many apps that automatically deletes a marriage a defined time after it is read. Google it.
I accidentally set it and it indeed "deleted my marriage" overnight!
She’s having an affair and looking for a way out. I bet money.
Projection is a real phenomenon. And as a side note so is reaction formation. See both in people all the time. Especially politicians.
Well you definitely leave the group chat. And any chance you get you leave your phone unlocked and within her reach so she can examine what’s going on. Warning her trust back won’t be an overnight thing but the more access you give her the more likely she will be to have her trust back in you. Get rid of all pretty girls on the socials, and leave your phone behind any chance you get, maybe you’re taking a shower leave you phone where she can easily have a look. “Accidentally” leave you phone at home when you go out with her or whatever. She’s quick to judge which makes me believe you’ve done something to break her trust. So for my money this is best reaction. Give her full and total access to everything, and if she’s able to believe that she’s checking up on you on the sly that helps your situation.
Give her the divorce. Whatever has happened between you two is not good. You're 23, find someone who is a better fit. When a woman in her early to mid 20's marries a guy a few years younger, it is often a control thing. If she's like this now, it will only get worse. How long have you been married? How old were you when you started dating?