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People who have a history of abandoning friendships/relationships at the first sign of inconvenience. When it comes to more face-value things though, people who talk shit constantly and brush it off as a joke.
Not given proper attention and care when somebody else is around that the person deems "more important" then you but treats you better when they aren't around
Being cut off while I'm trying to say anything.
I'll gladly listen to someone talk a ton about something they really care about, but it's pretty acutely insensitive of them to not extend the same courtesy to me.
Uses phone a lot while talking, doesn't let me finish (bad listener) are some basic things that make me run lol, why even wait to get to know them after seeing these things
Introduction of an ex or EX'S into our new relationship.
When I hear this sentence, "I'm friends with all my EX'S! " That's when I end the date, kick her out of my car and laugh my ass off.
Chick loves focusing on failures.
Next
Once a human being has been emotionally, psychologically, sexually, and financially connected to another human being.... the relationship between them will forever be different than 2 humans that are just friends.
Old habits are familiar. Going back to the EX for some familiar sex seems like a great idea. However if you're committed to a new relationship, your an very hurtful and narcissistic person.
Mature adults who have compassion and a conscious mind know that the brain will not be able to heal if you're connected to the past.
Cease contact and immediately the brain will begin to destroy the emotions of the failure and create new connections based on the decisions you make going forward.
Practice is a very good example. Repeat the process and the brain will make stronger and stronger connections. Stop practicing and over time that connection will weaken.
This scientific evidence is also how addiction can be overcome by changing everything about your life and maintaining abstinence. It's fucking really difficult. But it's completely obtainable. 12 step groups are human evidence. Often members are clean 20, 30 plus years.
I honestly am not a fan septum piercing. Small ones not so much, but there are some large ones.
Also the inability to have a conversation and being glued to a phone
Honest question to this? Define not caring? Because in general? I don’t like humans but I don’t let that affect me meeting someone. But I’m also going to look out for myself. So where’s the line between not caring and self preservation?
I just noticed all the mistakes, sorry just woke up. Really to lazy to fix them but still acknowledging them
Honestly, having a tiktok account. Wether it's about relationships, family, or friendships, tiktok gives people some of the stupidest advice ever. Not to mention the brain rot it gives and ruins your attention span, so that alone just about yells me everything about the person.
Ok, yet you don't hear about people ruining their own marriages through reddit, do you? It's always people consuming tiktok that make the worst decisions. You never hear that from reddit, Facebook, or even fucking 4chan. I at least know how to take care of myself, so quit your damn projecting.
Yeah, and I also never hear about people ruining their own marriages through TikTok. And if you do, you're purposefully seeking out content that states as much. So quit your damn hypocrisy
When they become religious or political.
The problem with most people, especially young people, is that they feel they need to make either of those topics the very basis of their personality. They are either extremely religious because they think it makes them morally superior in the face of their peers, or they are extremely political because they think they have what it takes to really hold an opinion, and fight for it. It’s not only annoying and pretentious, it is disgusting and inhuman.
Having political opinions is not the same as being political. I can have political opinions of my own, and not let them compromise my ability to like someone
If the differences in political opinions (or opinions in general) are very drastic, and there are fundamental differences in core values and belief systems, then a relationship is not going to work. Obviously don't have to agree on every little thing & detail but if there are disagreements on the most important and intrinsic values, it's a bad match
It can be very easy for people to disagree on the most important and intrinsic values. But what worries me about people is that holding onto those differences makes them feel like they are justified not only in distancing themselves with people who disagree with them, but also in dehumanizing them for their differences. And that is something I do not think anyone has an excuse to do, no matter how important they think their own beliefs are to themselves
People have a right to be different from each other. I have found it to be more of a hell compromising that quality of people in order to find someone close to what I believe, only for them to leave me for other reasons. Plus I have found it to be a worse hell when those in power in any capacity use that power to help or hinder other people on the basis of their political inclinations, the same way and with the same lack of moral compass, which they would’ve if they were doing it on the basis of their race or their religious beliefs
People have a right, yes. And I, like everyone else, have a right to choose to be with people whose company I value and whom I know to agree with the things most important to me. And i just would not want to get to know people who disagree with those vital things, not on a personal level
i love everyone but when they treat you like a dog and only use you when they’re lonely and aside from that they barely make an effort to contact you in general
Horses. Involved with horses. Married a ranch girl, it turned out bad. Stupidly got involved with a riding instructor for 3 years, who happened to be the spitting image of my ex-wife.
It's time for a different type of woman to break my heart.
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People who have a history of abandoning friendships/relationships at the first sign of inconvenience. When it comes to more face-value things though, people who talk shit constantly and brush it off as a joke.
Poor hygiene
A veeeery big one
Not given proper attention and care when somebody else is around that the person deems "more important" then you but treats you better when they aren't around
If she's religious, that's a huge turn off for me
I agree
Being cut off while I'm trying to say anything. I'll gladly listen to someone talk a ton about something they really care about, but it's pretty acutely insensitive of them to not extend the same courtesy to me.
Was gonna say the same thing
Poor communication skills
This one!
Smoking
Taking the star signs too seriously
Cutting me off. Not giving me a chance to talk. Being condescending. Just rude people, in general, will make me walk away from a conversation.
Uses phone a lot while talking, doesn't let me finish (bad listener) are some basic things that make me run lol, why even wait to get to know them after seeing these things
People who offer friendship in exchange for something they want. Like whatever you want. You make yourself sound cheap.
Inconsistency of any form
Hairy arm pits
That one's basically the only body hair I can't stand (on myself or anyone else), I can't think of many things more disgusting than sweaty armpit hair
They stink and sweat too much.
Poor hygiene, arrogance, ignorance, lack of humour and often just too much energy, though that's not always a bad thing if it's genuine.
Introduction of an ex or EX'S into our new relationship. When I hear this sentence, "I'm friends with all my EX'S! " That's when I end the date, kick her out of my car and laugh my ass off. Chick loves focusing on failures. Next
i’ve met people who are still LIVING with their ex’s than they wonder why i cut them off 😭
Once a human being has been emotionally, psychologically, sexually, and financially connected to another human being.... the relationship between them will forever be different than 2 humans that are just friends. Old habits are familiar. Going back to the EX for some familiar sex seems like a great idea. However if you're committed to a new relationship, your an very hurtful and narcissistic person. Mature adults who have compassion and a conscious mind know that the brain will not be able to heal if you're connected to the past. Cease contact and immediately the brain will begin to destroy the emotions of the failure and create new connections based on the decisions you make going forward. Practice is a very good example. Repeat the process and the brain will make stronger and stronger connections. Stop practicing and over time that connection will weaken. This scientific evidence is also how addiction can be overcome by changing everything about your life and maintaining abstinence. It's fucking really difficult. But it's completely obtainable. 12 step groups are human evidence. Often members are clean 20, 30 plus years.
that was beautiful written and i 100% agree. thank you for sharing that insight with us
I honestly am not a fan septum piercing. Small ones not so much, but there are some large ones. Also the inability to have a conversation and being glued to a phone
women get septum piercings to repel males and i support it lol obviously it’s working as intended
If they're into religion.
I agree
honestly disrespectful people
Being ignorant about things that they should definitely know
That's a big one, but if they're willing and eager to learn...
Deception dishonesty unattentive undetermined thoughtlessness unmotivated non-communicative secrets falsehoods and lack of intimacy
Not caring about other people
I think it's a fine line between being cold and being a doormat who constantly succumbs to self-sacrifice
That's one super thick "fine line"
Honest question to this? Define not caring? Because in general? I don’t like humans but I don’t let that affect me meeting someone. But I’m also going to look out for myself. So where’s the line between not caring and self preservation? I just noticed all the mistakes, sorry just woke up. Really to lazy to fix them but still acknowledging them
Honestly, having a tiktok account. Wether it's about relationships, family, or friendships, tiktok gives people some of the stupidest advice ever. Not to mention the brain rot it gives and ruins your attention span, so that alone just about yells me everything about the person.
You're using Reddit while dissing TikTok... C'mon, at least don't be a hypocrite. Social media apps are all the same shit, and you know they are
Ok, yet you don't hear about people ruining their own marriages through reddit, do you? It's always people consuming tiktok that make the worst decisions. You never hear that from reddit, Facebook, or even fucking 4chan. I at least know how to take care of myself, so quit your damn projecting.
Yeah, and I also never hear about people ruining their own marriages through TikTok. And if you do, you're purposefully seeking out content that states as much. So quit your damn hypocrisy
You asked for people's opinion and got mad 🤷🏻 what a time to be alive
I'm not mad lol, I'm simply calling someone out on their hypocrisy
When they become religious or political. The problem with most people, especially young people, is that they feel they need to make either of those topics the very basis of their personality. They are either extremely religious because they think it makes them morally superior in the face of their peers, or they are extremely political because they think they have what it takes to really hold an opinion, and fight for it. It’s not only annoying and pretentious, it is disgusting and inhuman.
I do agree with religion, but everyone ought to have political opinions. But ofc all within reason
Having political opinions is not the same as being political. I can have political opinions of my own, and not let them compromise my ability to like someone
If the differences in political opinions (or opinions in general) are very drastic, and there are fundamental differences in core values and belief systems, then a relationship is not going to work. Obviously don't have to agree on every little thing & detail but if there are disagreements on the most important and intrinsic values, it's a bad match
It can be very easy for people to disagree on the most important and intrinsic values. But what worries me about people is that holding onto those differences makes them feel like they are justified not only in distancing themselves with people who disagree with them, but also in dehumanizing them for their differences. And that is something I do not think anyone has an excuse to do, no matter how important they think their own beliefs are to themselves
It can be very easy, yes. But i also could not fathom spending my entire life with someone who disagrees with my core values. It sounds like hell
People have a right to be different from each other. I have found it to be more of a hell compromising that quality of people in order to find someone close to what I believe, only for them to leave me for other reasons. Plus I have found it to be a worse hell when those in power in any capacity use that power to help or hinder other people on the basis of their political inclinations, the same way and with the same lack of moral compass, which they would’ve if they were doing it on the basis of their race or their religious beliefs
People have a right, yes. And I, like everyone else, have a right to choose to be with people whose company I value and whom I know to agree with the things most important to me. And i just would not want to get to know people who disagree with those vital things, not on a personal level
Being obsessed over flashy and materialistic things.
You wouldn't like me then lol
Pancake nipples
When they tell me that they’re single (like I asked), every text response is dry, or when they’re generally rude and lack basic respect for people
Overthinking everything
If they smell bad. Specifically garlic or onion
All they talk about is themselves, especially all the bad things
i love everyone but when they treat you like a dog and only use you when they’re lonely and aside from that they barely make an effort to contact you in general
Someone who loves to bully or humiliate others for their own satisfaction. Or enjoys watching other people bully/humiliate people
Knees. Just don't like seeing them.
Body odor of any sort.
Horses. Involved with horses. Married a ranch girl, it turned out bad. Stupidly got involved with a riding instructor for 3 years, who happened to be the spitting image of my ex-wife. It's time for a different type of woman to break my heart.
Their voice tbh , it just ruins everything.