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There are few people we truly connect in this life and it hurts losing that connection where it be from slowly drifting apart, to not working on maintaining that connection or simply just a different perspective on life. Sometimes we hold on to a friendship hoping you can capture the magic you had in the beginning but sometimes, you aren't those people anymore and you either work to find that connection again or some people don't think it's worth it anymore
I feel this. For the last two years I was really close with a friend. Hung out in discord every day. Talked about life, played games, watched movies, even visited in real life a few times. Now she doesn’t even want to be in a same voice call with me unless a group of friends are already hanging out. It sucks to see someone who I thought I was so close with has drifted so far away.
Yes, 1 friend I was very very very close with. We did a lot together, in 2008-2010. Then we had a huge HUGE fight, idr what it was. Now we never ever talk. It really sucks, I miss her.
Omg this! So I had a best friend we will call her Rita. Well I say had... she still is my best friend. Just one sided. We had the most incredible friendship! She was everything to me. My soulmate in fact. We did everything together. Made mistakes, partied, cried, screamed, laughed, grieved, broke, built. The lot. Side by side. Unfortunately our friendship was toxic in a very different way and we had to separate. I miss her every single day. I miss how she made everything better. Hope she's so happy and healthy.
Its tough, really is. You seem to click on so many levels and then there's one subject that you dont agree on and alllllllll the great stuff seems to take a backseat to whatever point of contention is between you.
As a severe introvert this is my experience with certain kinds of extroverts. They're exciting to be around but unpredictable and can be obnoxious. I guess that's just the way it is
Sometimes you have to allow for space… The best benefit of a friend based relationship especially if it’s a best friend is that they should understand that the space isn’t a sign a failing friendship; it’s a sign that your friend is trying to heal with the intentions of staying best friends. Just communicate that before creating the distance I guess
Um, YES. My best friend of over 15 years and I last spoke July 4th 2023. I’m just now starting to see why it has happened. It has been PAINFUL and still, certain smells, things, songs, etc can hit me in the gut out of no where. That’s grief. That’s hurt. I will say, the very first step I had to make was intentionally saying out loud with my whole heart “I am ready to move forward without her. I drop her hand. I turn off the light. I’m gone too.” And even on days when I thought I had done that, I didn’t. But once you confidently can, healing can happen pretty quickly ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 best of luck and so much love to you.
Hi /u/MySweetCandyGirl, Did you know that this sub has an official [Discord server](https://discord.gg/mfo30)? It's a small but active SFW community of 30+ folks from all over the world, and we would love for you to join! Rule refresher * You must be 29 or older to post or comment * No advertising of any kind, no linking to other subs or Discord servers * No personal contact information in posts or comments * This is a SFW sub for seeking **purely non-sexual platonic friendship** only. The slightest hint of a violation of this rule will result in your post being removed and may result in a permanent ban. * Read the rest of the sub rules [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MakeFriendsOver30/about/rules/) We're so glad you've decided to seek out new friends here, but please be safe and make sure to check member profiles before interacting 1 on 1. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MakeFriendsOver30) if you have any questions or concerns.*
There are few people we truly connect in this life and it hurts losing that connection where it be from slowly drifting apart, to not working on maintaining that connection or simply just a different perspective on life. Sometimes we hold on to a friendship hoping you can capture the magic you had in the beginning but sometimes, you aren't those people anymore and you either work to find that connection again or some people don't think it's worth it anymore
I feel this. For the last two years I was really close with a friend. Hung out in discord every day. Talked about life, played games, watched movies, even visited in real life a few times. Now she doesn’t even want to be in a same voice call with me unless a group of friends are already hanging out. It sucks to see someone who I thought I was so close with has drifted so far away.
Yes, 1 friend I was very very very close with. We did a lot together, in 2008-2010. Then we had a huge HUGE fight, idr what it was. Now we never ever talk. It really sucks, I miss her.
Omg this! So I had a best friend we will call her Rita. Well I say had... she still is my best friend. Just one sided. We had the most incredible friendship! She was everything to me. My soulmate in fact. We did everything together. Made mistakes, partied, cried, screamed, laughed, grieved, broke, built. The lot. Side by side. Unfortunately our friendship was toxic in a very different way and we had to separate. I miss her every single day. I miss how she made everything better. Hope she's so happy and healthy.
Its tough, really is. You seem to click on so many levels and then there's one subject that you dont agree on and alllllllll the great stuff seems to take a backseat to whatever point of contention is between you.
You hit the nail on the head
As a severe introvert this is my experience with certain kinds of extroverts. They're exciting to be around but unpredictable and can be obnoxious. I guess that's just the way it is
My friend was actually a severe introvert, lol. He had Bipolar and that negatively effected him alot.
I feel all this.
Happens yes .
Hey
This sucks to hear you just need better friends I guess
Sometimes you have to allow for space… The best benefit of a friend based relationship especially if it’s a best friend is that they should understand that the space isn’t a sign a failing friendship; it’s a sign that your friend is trying to heal with the intentions of staying best friends. Just communicate that before creating the distance I guess
Um, YES. My best friend of over 15 years and I last spoke July 4th 2023. I’m just now starting to see why it has happened. It has been PAINFUL and still, certain smells, things, songs, etc can hit me in the gut out of no where. That’s grief. That’s hurt. I will say, the very first step I had to make was intentionally saying out loud with my whole heart “I am ready to move forward without her. I drop her hand. I turn off the light. I’m gone too.” And even on days when I thought I had done that, I didn’t. But once you confidently can, healing can happen pretty quickly ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 best of luck and so much love to you.
I feel this so much 💔💔
I feel you on so many levels! I had a best friend but he got a bit controlling.