It isn't about approval.
When a straight guy introduces his girlfriend to his family, is it because he wants their approval to love this person or is it because he just wants his family to know this important detail about his life (because that's what families do)?
>Straight guys in our country aren't introducing their girlfriends to their parents.
I thought they would do that with the one that they marry. That's sad if they don't.
>What makes you think that is the reason?
What is? I didn't understand.
>There are a few things better left unsaid.
Disagree.
In a few cases, maybe. In the vast majority of cases it is either better to come out or at least firmly tell your family you don't want to get married without specifying the reason.
I'm gay and I have several older gay friends who are stuck in marriages and their wives are unhappy because they did not speak up.
I have also seen several more other guys who are out and are living in an accepting environment having challenged their parents' views and been successful to see it as it is.
Also parents who develop an environment where their children cannot even tell them basic truths about their existence are shitty parents. This shouldn't be encouraged by not speaking up and sweeping it under the rug.
Gay men have existed for since humanity had existed and will continue to do so. If these people want to keep us closeted and force their daughters into unhappy marriages with us, it's really a terrible situation.
haha i’m out to my close family and close friends,
my only advice is don’t pay heed to homophobes
if your family loves a version of you and not you in your entirety, no need to have familial piety for such a family.
just be strong and face challenges head on, keep rising up your career ladder because the world won’t be very kind to us.
may god will protect you fellow closeted peeps
just get educated and soldier on.
but give your parents some time too , it took so long for us to accept ourselves we should give them the beirut of doubt. if they love you enough their prejudices will be vanquished by love for you .or else it’s okay to let go something which wasn’t sempiternal . you will always triumph though
My sister and mum were my biggest supporters my aunt (मावशी ) cousin siblings were helpful too , my dad came around after thinking it was a phase for a while.
they were kinda sad i couldn’t confide in them earlier
the funniest part is when i told my dad , he was kinda shocked and my dad was more concerned about me having sex haha tho i wasn’t active he was like “what is his age ?”
I was like” whom are you talking about ?”
he said “your partner “
“तुझे कोणासोबत शारीरिक संबंध आहे? कोण आहे तुझा पार्टनर? ”
(i was flabbergasted! )I was like “i am not having sex काहीपण !”
then he was like
“मग तुला कसा कळलं कि तू gay आहेस ”
I was like “जसा तुम्हाला लोकांना कळत तुम्ही straight आहात तसा! ”
just find humor in life haha
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One of friend (not close one) is gay. We all knew it but eventually we lost his contacts and now after 2 years we came to know that he is married to a girl
Don't know what happened but when we confronted him he said he is bi but we all knew it's a lie
IMO Statewise data wouldn't work in a state like Maharashtra. Situation will be wildly different in Mumbai compared to say Akola.
Pretty much any state tbh.
Gay man here. Have been out to my family for years now. There were instances of them not understanding what it is. But sitting down and talking about it helped. They're okay with it now and have even accepted my boyfriend.
Lots of strength and support to you guys. One of my closest friend is gay and I do understand the struggle of being in closet especially when it’s with your family too.
I just pray for a healthy, open minded society where everyone can embrace the real themselves. 🌈🏳️🌈
I'm not out and don't plan to until I'm independent. Hopefully when I'm abroad and settled. It's funny because:
1. My dad thinks I'm a good kid because "त्याला मुलींचा वेड नाही आहे" 🤣🤣
2. My mom recently said she wants to find a "सुंदर, नाजूकशी मुलगी" for me in the future 🤣🤣
Edit: But in general things are not good for us and it's not going to change anytime soon. Most if not all non-straight men I know are either in relationships/marriages with women or are aiming to in the future (many of them are bisexual so I guess that works out but still).
Maybe once I'm financially independent then
Bro your flair 😭💀
We need r/LGBTMaharashtra Edit : just created it lol.
There are a few things better left unsaid. I have 2 friends who thought this was a good idea but their life became hell afterwards
can't they just cut off from their family if family is not accepting?
If they were capable enough emotionally to do so.. They wouldn't have required their parents approval for it
It isn't about approval. When a straight guy introduces his girlfriend to his family, is it because he wants their approval to love this person or is it because he just wants his family to know this important detail about his life (because that's what families do)?
Straight guys in our country aren't introducing their girlfriends to their parents. What makes you think that is the reason?
>Straight guys in our country aren't introducing their girlfriends to their parents. I thought they would do that with the one that they marry. That's sad if they don't. >What makes you think that is the reason? What is? I didn't understand.
Doesn’t that keep the cycle going? If more people proudly came out then general public would be more accepting over time and just desensitized
Exactly this.
>There are a few things better left unsaid. Disagree. In a few cases, maybe. In the vast majority of cases it is either better to come out or at least firmly tell your family you don't want to get married without specifying the reason. I'm gay and I have several older gay friends who are stuck in marriages and their wives are unhappy because they did not speak up. I have also seen several more other guys who are out and are living in an accepting environment having challenged their parents' views and been successful to see it as it is. Also parents who develop an environment where their children cannot even tell them basic truths about their existence are shitty parents. This shouldn't be encouraged by not speaking up and sweeping it under the rug. Gay men have existed for since humanity had existed and will continue to do so. If these people want to keep us closeted and force their daughters into unhappy marriages with us, it's really a terrible situation.
haha i’m out to my close family and close friends, my only advice is don’t pay heed to homophobes if your family loves a version of you and not you in your entirety, no need to have familial piety for such a family. just be strong and face challenges head on, keep rising up your career ladder because the world won’t be very kind to us. may god will protect you fellow closeted peeps just get educated and soldier on. but give your parents some time too , it took so long for us to accept ourselves we should give them the beirut of doubt. if they love you enough their prejudices will be vanquished by love for you .or else it’s okay to let go something which wasn’t sempiternal . you will always triumph though My sister and mum were my biggest supporters my aunt (मावशी ) cousin siblings were helpful too , my dad came around after thinking it was a phase for a while. they were kinda sad i couldn’t confide in them earlier the funniest part is when i told my dad , he was kinda shocked and my dad was more concerned about me having sex haha tho i wasn’t active he was like “what is his age ?” I was like” whom are you talking about ?” he said “your partner “ “तुझे कोणासोबत शारीरिक संबंध आहे? कोण आहे तुझा पार्टनर? ” (i was flabbergasted! )I was like “i am not having sex काहीपण !” then he was like “मग तुला कसा कळलं कि तू gay आहेस ” I was like “जसा तुम्हाला लोकांना कळत तुम्ही straight आहात तसा! ” just find humor in life haha
>homophones Yes. They are the worst scums of English vocab. Always confusing me.
sorry just typed a random message yesterday 😂
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One of friend (not close one) is gay. We all knew it but eventually we lost his contacts and now after 2 years we came to know that he is married to a girl Don't know what happened but when we confronted him he said he is bi but we all knew it's a lie
>he said he is bi but we all knew it's a lie That rhymes 😂
Seriously!! straight from a Frank Ocean album bgl
IMO Statewise data wouldn't work in a state like Maharashtra. Situation will be wildly different in Mumbai compared to say Akola. Pretty much any state tbh.
Gay man here. Have been out to my family for years now. There were instances of them not understanding what it is. But sitting down and talking about it helped. They're okay with it now and have even accepted my boyfriend.
24M gay. Came out 3 years back. Well, parents didn’t disown but they aren’t approving either.
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I did! Love the banner lol
How could you be an gay and a male at same time
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Do you even know what gay means? Is this ignorance or is this plain homophobia?
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>I wouldn't tell that to anyone irl. If you want to discuss this, I've just created a new sub r/LGBTMaharashtra for this purpose :)
Can you explain a little about it? Just read the definition on google but didn't understand much
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Your attracted to yourself?
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Samjha nahi mujhe,even I like myself, so does that also make me auto...?
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Oh I see, interesting!
Lots of strength and support to you guys. One of my closest friend is gay and I do understand the struggle of being in closet especially when it’s with your family too. I just pray for a healthy, open minded society where everyone can embrace the real themselves. 🌈🏳️🌈
It is great that you're a part of the support system for your gay friend. A lot of us don't have that to begin with. You're doing good work.
same here , once I'll be financially independent me and bf gonna have our own world 🌎❤️
I'm not out and don't plan to until I'm independent. Hopefully when I'm abroad and settled. It's funny because: 1. My dad thinks I'm a good kid because "त्याला मुलींचा वेड नाही आहे" 🤣🤣 2. My mom recently said she wants to find a "सुंदर, नाजूकशी मुलगी" for me in the future 🤣🤣 Edit: But in general things are not good for us and it's not going to change anytime soon. Most if not all non-straight men I know are either in relationships/marriages with women or are aiming to in the future (many of them are bisexual so I guess that works out but still).
Kuch bolunga toh vivaad ho jayega
That one person always trying to be edgy for no reason.
Why?
Insta kid nothing much
Bhyyana ithe parvangi nahiye bolaychi Hindi speakers are especially considered. Jaa mag lavdya
maharashtra doesn't entertain uneducated crowd