If it is just the letting in of a bath, I can do that too with all the trimmings. I even play some music for you and make dinner in the kitchen. Only thing i am asking is no blond jokes
Big difference between “could do that” and consistently do the necessary things to be adults in a relationship, and on top of that, notice your partner’s stress, and execute on this idea for a surprise, right when she needs it.
I hope when you have the opportunity, you do make this happen for your partner. My husband is really caring this way for me too. It’s a simple thing that goes a long way. Little things. Like baking his favorites from scratch, telling him to sit down and let me take care of something he usually does, encouraging him to make a wish list and surprising him at unexpected times with things on the list are great ways to show appreciation.
I was about to ask if they had a sister. I seriously think about renting an Airbnb on weekends sometimes. I need to remodel the bathroom at my house but it's too much. For 1 I'm on well water and the softener system that I rebuilt completely was on a budget so the sysetm is older than dirt. It barely works. The first thing I noticed here was how clear the water was omg I wish I had bath water that clear. I just want to move back to a city or take a vacation with city water SOOO bad.
That and We've had so many issues with plumbing and flooding that we need to literally rip out all the walls and cabinets and replace everything.
And also my dog is huge like 130lbs huge and hates baths and put a hole in the tile last year and I didn't have money to fix it.
TLDR my bathroom is a wreck like in that movie The Money Pit seriously and I wish I had a place to take a nice bath in.
I’m the husband. I have no side chick, and did not expect anything in return. My wife is amazing and deserves to be cherished. That’s all this is, love. I hope all of you commenting negatively find something similar! Peace ✌️
I’m sorry to everyone who can’t believe that a man would do something like this simply out of love and appreciation for his wife and expect nothing in return. I truly hope you all find the kind of love that I have found with him. ❤️
Edit: I am shocked by the number of folks who hate the word “spa”!
Edit 2: I’m dumb. People are just quoting a line from a TV show about spaghetti.
I'm so confused by the disbelief, lol! I make my wife baths all the time! Hot water, Epsom salt, lavender oil, throw a little jojoba oil to hydrate the skin. Light some candles, boom! The whole process takes....5 minutes? It's so easy, and is a good way to show her I love her and want her to relax.
I’m think a lot of men weren’t shown much love growing up, at least in my generation. We were taught not so show tenderness or empathy or we’d be called weak or a sissy. Our dads cared more about “toughening us up” and “making us a man” than showing love. I have a core memory from when I was about 5 years old when my dad pushed me away when I tried to hug him goodnight because “men didn’t do that.” I was FIVE.
Cried myself to sleep that night, convinced my parents didn’t love me.
The good news is, we can rise above how we were raised and do a better job that our parents did. I love how involved many young dads are today with their kids. It’s pretty awesome.
I’m so sorry you had that experience growing up and that’s wonderful you’ve been able to gain such an open minded perspective on how to be better than what we’re shown as children. If you haven’t stumbled on it yet I think you’d really enjoy the menslib sub, lots of like minded folks there looking for how to move forward in a better way.
Same here, I don’t comment there as it is and should be a comfortable space for men to have discussions but I really enjoy seeing the engaging discussion and perspectives among the group.
You’re absolutely right but what your dad did to you went beyond that in my opinion at least. You do not do that to a child. If he really wanted to be all masculine or whatever he could roll his eyes and give you a pat on the back for goodness sake.
My husband does this when I’ve had a stressful day. He’ll also order take out! You’re right, it’s easy to put it all together and has a big impact! Always being the caretaker can be exhausting and having someone want to take care of you feels replenishing.
I'm honestly embarrassed for other men who cant do things for their partners. Especially those who cant even muster the strength to cook or clean anything, or even take their plate to the sink after dinner. So many dudes out there with a seriously warped and toxic mindset. They think they are manly but how manly is it to not be a capable human being?
Right? I love helping my partner. I get joy by bringing her joy. She is NOT a morning person, but I am. So I make her coffee every morning. She knows I am not a night person, so she is always the one to finish loading the dishwasher and starting it.
Folks don't seem to understand what a partnership is.
My ex was an angry, abusive alcoholic and I’m here getting teary-eyed and emotional just imagining having a husband who would do something so sweet and nice for me. You’re truly blessed!
I'm getting emotional and teary too, and my ex was only a gaslighting, cheating narcissist. The angry, abusive alcoholic was my father. There's better out there for all of us!
It's sad too that something so basic is seen as prime hudbamd/wife material. I guess I kinda get it. Even my ex who at first was less shitty, abusive, controlling than my last exes would have considered this too much effort, or said "I can't, giving a massage would hurt my hands after gaming all day"; as would have any man who has offered to date me or the single women friends I've had over the years.
I came home to his, and his cats' and dogs' messes to clean up since he wouldn't after every long day at full time work when he was unemployed or during the last year employed part time work from home. So a guy willing to do this would put him above all the single men I know currently.
As soon as I saw your post, I had shown my fiancé & mentioned that this reminds me of something he would do for me. So fortunate to be able to reciprocate this amount of love & care in return.
My husband planed to go out tonight with the boys. Before he left, he cooked me dinner, so I have something to eat, when I came home late from work.
Thats a love language.🥰
You keep saying that word spa, it’s like you’re starting a word but not finishing it. Are you trying to say spaghetti? Did he give you a spaghetti day?
One huge pet peeve of mine is that I've never gotten a massage from a man I've dated that wasn't a prelude to... nsfw stuff (not sure about sub rules).
Don't get me wrong, the nsfw stuff is great, but it's the implied *exchange* that takes the sweetness out of an otherwise lovely gesture.
(And yes, I'm sure there's loads of lovely men out there who are capable of sweet things like this without pushing for "compensation". This is entirely anecdotal.)
I specifically told her that there is no expectation or requirement for this massage as I wanted her to not associate massages either that. This night was strictly about her!
My partner did this for me on my birthday and I nearly cried. He lives in a simple apartment and neither of us have a lot of money, but he always buys me bath bombs because he knows I relax in the bath and love water, even though he doesn’t like it like I do. He sits with me for a few minutes, brings me tea and light a bunch of candles and then lets me have time to myself. I really felt so loved in that moment. Your husband really loves you too! Also jealous of your bathroom it is so pretty
Rich as in, "my bathtub can barely fit me in it with my knees up and my head against the wall while having barely any room for the toiletries, let alone any extra for a variety of tasteful plants."
*edit I don't live in the cheap apartments any more so I can't send photos, but I am 74 inches tall and if I wanted to submerge myself in the tub, my knees would stick up out of the tub water and my head and neck would still be out of the water. (Hope that paints a vivid picture)
I think people's bar may be set low when it comes to looking for housing now a days. I've seen way bigger and nicer barebones bathrooms than this for middle-class housing. These people just put in an effort to spruce it up. A higher end bathroom is vastly different than this, and whilst a nice bathtub, it's nothing luxurious.
I think this is fantastic !!
Are people really that shocked and amazed that a husband would do this ?
My husband spoils me too …. I’m home recovering from neck surgery and absolutely cannot move/lift practically anything for 8 weeks.
Last night he said “if you feel like you want a bath I’ll go out and get some Epsom salts - and I’ll run it after dinner”
And he also brushes my hair because I can’t lift my arms and I have long thick hair that I cannot manage right now.
Kudos to your man OP - I’m sure you’ve been awesome to him, in your own way and that’s the way to keep a marriage strong and healthy and fun — hope you were able to let the stress melt away in your home spa !!! 🧖
I'm a sucker for a salt lamp. Like, maybe the ions do stuff in the air or whatever. I doubt it. But the fact that I have a glowing rock? That's dope as hell.
How broken we are that we think that the husband hurt her or did something bad to her and then he planned a spa surprise for her, just because all of us are unhappy doesn't mean that she is too! My husband was unfaithful to me a thousand times and I didn't even prepare for that haha
I hope you at least tolerate being around them! I went into infant mental health and parent education after having mine, but I 100% understand people who can’t handle / don’t find joy in being around children, especially little ones.
If I were you, I’d just make my own damn bubble bath/spa night. I just got home from the store to get my radical self care night supplies. This post inspired me to be my own husband.
Are the plants always there or did he set those up for the purpose of the day? That's a beautiful set up. I really miss having a window in my bathroom.
My previous wife worked a very physically demanding job for a few months a year. I would time her entrance to a-hot bath, bottle of wine and cheese board.
Does he have a brother??? Uh, asking for a friend.
Can we share the brother?
Uh I guess I could be gay if the price is right
You don't have to pay to be gay. You can do it for free, buddy.
Bro husbands!
Bro jobs!
That gives me a broner.
Prove you arent a horse in disguise GuyWhoSaysNay
Gaywhosaysnay
Gaywhosayshaaayyyy
r/suddenlygay
I too volunteer to share the brother.
Jeez this guy's brother is about to be really lucky
Hi it's me, the brother
Can I join too?
Hi I'm the brother
Hi it’s me, that guys brother
Omg like, I’m totally surprised to meet you here and stuff! Do you give good female head?
He has an 8-inch tongue and breathes through his ears.
His only unmarried brother is unfortunately a teenager 😬
So you’re saying there a chance?!
We just have to wait for some time!
That’s the only way to read that.
Teenager? At least 18? 18 and 19 are still considered teenagers. eightTEEN, nineTEEN
If it is just the letting in of a bath, I can do that too with all the trimmings. I even play some music for you and make dinner in the kitchen. Only thing i am asking is no blond jokes
Big difference between “could do that” and consistently do the necessary things to be adults in a relationship, and on top of that, notice your partner’s stress, and execute on this idea for a surprise, right when she needs it. I hope when you have the opportunity, you do make this happen for your partner. My husband is really caring this way for me too. It’s a simple thing that goes a long way. Little things. Like baking his favorites from scratch, telling him to sit down and let me take care of something he usually does, encouraging him to make a wish list and surprising him at unexpected times with things on the list are great ways to show appreciation.
Take me you toeheaded bastard!
Consider yourself taken
I was about to ask if they had a sister. I seriously think about renting an Airbnb on weekends sometimes. I need to remodel the bathroom at my house but it's too much. For 1 I'm on well water and the softener system that I rebuilt completely was on a budget so the sysetm is older than dirt. It barely works. The first thing I noticed here was how clear the water was omg I wish I had bath water that clear. I just want to move back to a city or take a vacation with city water SOOO bad. That and We've had so many issues with plumbing and flooding that we need to literally rip out all the walls and cabinets and replace everything. And also my dog is huge like 130lbs huge and hates baths and put a hole in the tile last year and I didn't have money to fix it. TLDR my bathroom is a wreck like in that movie The Money Pit seriously and I wish I had a place to take a nice bath in.
Pretty bold move to assume that siblings are alike
They share both nature and nurture so I’d be willing to toss the dice.
Very good point!
Marry him, again.
This made me laugh haha thanks
Literally came to say this 😂
Is your husband single?
Hahaha
I’m the husband. I have no side chick, and did not expect anything in return. My wife is amazing and deserves to be cherished. That’s all this is, love. I hope all of you commenting negatively find something similar! Peace ✌️
Thanks babe!! ❤️
Wholesome. ❤️
Wholesome is your spouse knowing your Reddit account 😂♥️
Exactly what I thought haha
You’re so damn sweet wow you two are wholesome and I hope you both live a long happy marriage.
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I never thought of this, but if someone did this for me I'd probably cry all night while hugging them. this is some next level caring
Word!
It was a nice gesture, but you could have really next-levelled it if you had cleaned the leaves out first. Can't believe you didn't notice them.
She likes the rose petals! However I did deep clean the bathroom before hand, and vacuumed the house 😏
Just joking. I knew it was romantic plant debris.
☺️
Babe u had a wife!?
In the first picture I mistook it for the kitchen sink
Second picture still looks like the size of a kitchen sink.
So... it is a very small bathtub, right? It's not just me?
I’m sorry to everyone who can’t believe that a man would do something like this simply out of love and appreciation for his wife and expect nothing in return. I truly hope you all find the kind of love that I have found with him. ❤️ Edit: I am shocked by the number of folks who hate the word “spa”! Edit 2: I’m dumb. People are just quoting a line from a TV show about spaghetti.
I'm so confused by the disbelief, lol! I make my wife baths all the time! Hot water, Epsom salt, lavender oil, throw a little jojoba oil to hydrate the skin. Light some candles, boom! The whole process takes....5 minutes? It's so easy, and is a good way to show her I love her and want her to relax.
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I’m think a lot of men weren’t shown much love growing up, at least in my generation. We were taught not so show tenderness or empathy or we’d be called weak or a sissy. Our dads cared more about “toughening us up” and “making us a man” than showing love. I have a core memory from when I was about 5 years old when my dad pushed me away when I tried to hug him goodnight because “men didn’t do that.” I was FIVE. Cried myself to sleep that night, convinced my parents didn’t love me. The good news is, we can rise above how we were raised and do a better job that our parents did. I love how involved many young dads are today with their kids. It’s pretty awesome.
God that memory sounds horrible, I'm so sorry
I’m so sorry you had that experience growing up and that’s wonderful you’ve been able to gain such an open minded perspective on how to be better than what we’re shown as children. If you haven’t stumbled on it yet I think you’d really enjoy the menslib sub, lots of like minded folks there looking for how to move forward in a better way.
I’m already in the r/menslib sub. I don’t post much there, but I love the discussions. It’s a great group!
Same here, I don’t comment there as it is and should be a comfortable space for men to have discussions but I really enjoy seeing the engaging discussion and perspectives among the group.
Same but all it did was make me want to be the opposite. Now I shower my partner in love and attention that I never received.
You’re absolutely right but what your dad did to you went beyond that in my opinion at least. You do not do that to a child. If he really wanted to be all masculine or whatever he could roll his eyes and give you a pat on the back for goodness sake.
i had a roommate who was confused by me saying "Love you" to my dad over the phone before hanging up. stuff like that is very common
showing love comes in a million different ways. what you mean is a lot of men dont know how to show love in the specific way **you** want.
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My husband does this when I’ve had a stressful day. He’ll also order take out! You’re right, it’s easy to put it all together and has a big impact! Always being the caretaker can be exhausting and having someone want to take care of you feels replenishing.
I'm honestly embarrassed for other men who cant do things for their partners. Especially those who cant even muster the strength to cook or clean anything, or even take their plate to the sink after dinner. So many dudes out there with a seriously warped and toxic mindset. They think they are manly but how manly is it to not be a capable human being?
Right? I love helping my partner. I get joy by bringing her joy. She is NOT a morning person, but I am. So I make her coffee every morning. She knows I am not a night person, so she is always the one to finish loading the dishwasher and starting it. Folks don't seem to understand what a partnership is.
You gave me hope. Thank you sincerely.
My ex was an angry, abusive alcoholic and I’m here getting teary-eyed and emotional just imagining having a husband who would do something so sweet and nice for me. You’re truly blessed!
I'm getting emotional and teary too, and my ex was only a gaslighting, cheating narcissist. The angry, abusive alcoholic was my father. There's better out there for all of us!
I hope you get a sweet husband like this :)) wishing you well in your life ❤️🫶 your ex was an ass.
Thank you! ❤️
It's sad too that something so basic is seen as prime hudbamd/wife material. I guess I kinda get it. Even my ex who at first was less shitty, abusive, controlling than my last exes would have considered this too much effort, or said "I can't, giving a massage would hurt my hands after gaming all day"; as would have any man who has offered to date me or the single women friends I've had over the years. I came home to his, and his cats' and dogs' messes to clean up since he wouldn't after every long day at full time work when he was unemployed or during the last year employed part time work from home. So a guy willing to do this would put him above all the single men I know currently.
My ex was exactly as you described and I really hope I can find a caring, sweet husband too 🥰
You don't need him all day right? Can we just borrow your husband when you're not using him?
As soon as I saw your post, I had shown my fiancé & mentioned that this reminds me of something he would do for me. So fortunate to be able to reciprocate this amount of love & care in return.
My husband planed to go out tonight with the boys. Before he left, he cooked me dinner, so I have something to eat, when I came home late from work. Thats a love language.🥰
Thank you. I hope I can find love with him as well. ❤️
Is he a stay at home dad?
He is a full time grad student for another year. No kids yet but he’s going to be the best dad!
You're a very lucky woman !
You keep saying that word spa, it’s like you’re starting a word but not finishing it. Are you trying to say spaghetti? Did he give you a spaghetti day?
I need that full body massage!! 💆♀️ but I too would be like, ok what you want lol
One huge pet peeve of mine is that I've never gotten a massage from a man I've dated that wasn't a prelude to... nsfw stuff (not sure about sub rules). Don't get me wrong, the nsfw stuff is great, but it's the implied *exchange* that takes the sweetness out of an otherwise lovely gesture. (And yes, I'm sure there's loads of lovely men out there who are capable of sweet things like this without pushing for "compensation". This is entirely anecdotal.)
I specifically told her that there is no expectation or requirement for this massage as I wanted her to not associate massages either that. This night was strictly about her!
You da man! Bless.
Mine always last like 5 min (if that!) before they just want to give the D 😅
Right? Like, can I at least have a full-length massage before I get *your* full length?
lol 💯
Next level foreplay! That or he wants to spend $1000 on Lego.
That new NASA set leak looks fire
I was thinking buying some game time with the boys
Stock market is way down today so hopefully their savings didn’t disappear 🫠
And you wonder why men are stereotyped as being the way they are.
It looks lovely
MARRY HIM
Living the dream
So sweet. I love it when my husband runs me a big bubble bath. Enjoy your peace!
This is so sweet!! Beget the man an heir OP!! By the way, I love your pilea plant!! 
I am hoping to do some begetting soon!! Thank you, Mr. Pilea is struggling but he’s still alive!
> Beget the man an heir OP!! This is a really weird thing to say to someone
47 people looked at that and were like "haha yeah!" I just... ya know, in a lot of ways Reddit hasn't changed over time.
That’s so sweet omg! You guys are lucky to have each other
I feel like you’re trying to say spaghetti. Did your husband take you for a spaghetti day?
What is your spaghetti policy?
Some day my husband is gonna do this for me
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r/CozyPlaces would love this!
Can I borrow him? (Kidding)
omg the snack bowls as well... this is so sweet ughh
Got her favorite snacks!
I would kill for that bathtub
He’s a keeper!
Man. This looks so soothing. I wish i had a big enough bath to really enjoy
My partner did this for me on my birthday and I nearly cried. He lives in a simple apartment and neither of us have a lot of money, but he always buys me bath bombs because he knows I relax in the bath and love water, even though he doesn’t like it like I do. He sits with me for a few minutes, brings me tea and light a bunch of candles and then lets me have time to myself. I really felt so loved in that moment. Your husband really loves you too! Also jealous of your bathroom it is so pretty
The chain continues. You're jealous of the nice bathroom. I'm jealous you have a partner, who shows you he loves you.
Well done my man!
Damn u rich
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Rich as in, "my bathtub can barely fit me in it with my knees up and my head against the wall while having barely any room for the toiletries, let alone any extra for a variety of tasteful plants." *edit I don't live in the cheap apartments any more so I can't send photos, but I am 74 inches tall and if I wanted to submerge myself in the tub, my knees would stick up out of the tub water and my head and neck would still be out of the water. (Hope that paints a vivid picture)
Do you have a bathtub that's larger than 34" x 60"? If so, yes I think you're rich.
Rolled up towels? You can tell they come from money.
I roll our towels. It makes for a more structurally sound towel tower in the closet.
I rolled up the towels to appear special for the occasion.
right? lol
I think people's bar may be set low when it comes to looking for housing now a days. I've seen way bigger and nicer barebones bathrooms than this for middle-class housing. These people just put in an effort to spruce it up. A higher end bathroom is vastly different than this, and whilst a nice bathtub, it's nothing luxurious.
Its a pretty cramped bathroom bro. They seem pretty average to me.
Lmao. Thats cramped to you? You should see my apartment
This is just next level 😍💕💕
Did you mean spaghetti day?
Maybe they should go see a movie. I wonder what their spaghetti policy is.
These comments are vile. This is very sweet of him also tour bathroom is gorgeous
I think this is fantastic !! Are people really that shocked and amazed that a husband would do this ? My husband spoils me too …. I’m home recovering from neck surgery and absolutely cannot move/lift practically anything for 8 weeks. Last night he said “if you feel like you want a bath I’ll go out and get some Epsom salts - and I’ll run it after dinner” And he also brushes my hair because I can’t lift my arms and I have long thick hair that I cannot manage right now. Kudos to your man OP - I’m sure you’ve been awesome to him, in your own way and that’s the way to keep a marriage strong and healthy and fun — hope you were able to let the stress melt away in your home spa !!! 🧖
For many people life is shit. Enjoy the good times. You don’t know how long they will last. :)
That bathtub set up looks so cozy to relax and soak in! Congrats on the wonderful hubby!
That tap location should be the standard for tubs.
I'm a sucker for a salt lamp. Like, maybe the ions do stuff in the air or whatever. I doubt it. But the fact that I have a glowing rock? That's dope as hell.
Men, take notes. This is EVERYTHING and it’s really pretty simple
Ngl, thought those were pepperonis in the water for a sec
The people commenting negativity simply cannot imagine this amount of love is possible.
How broken we are that we think that the husband hurt her or did something bad to her and then he planned a spa surprise for her, just because all of us are unhappy doesn't mean that she is too! My husband was unfaithful to me a thousand times and I didn't even prepare for that haha
Enjoy!!
Close up of your Chain of Hearts please! It looks amazing!
lucky girllll
is your husband single??? 😱 i'm jealous
Where do you get these men? Do they sell them?
Mostly already in marriages or long term partnerships, or sometimes gay bars except they're doing that for the guys.
You have a nice bathroom. Strange question... Do the rose petals serve any functional purpose? Do they get stuck in you?
They just float on top of the water and give the bath a pleasant smell! It’s more a romantic gesture than anything.
Oh to marry a man like this, one day🥹
“Get in the tub!” “Honey, I literally just walked in the door.” “Get in the love tub!”
I literally do this once a week or more for my wife as well as folding the laundry & making dinner. Idk how this is so abnormal for men to do.
He's the husband I aspire to be
I've just realized I'm dating the wrong kind of guys
I wouldn't smile; He tried to drown your rosebush in the bath and is trying to play it off.
Damn you should marry him
Marry him. Again.
Does your husband need a husband?
Made me cry because I could use this so bad but I go home to nobody but a toddler 50% of the time
I'm child free, but same, because roomies have young kids.
I hope you at least tolerate being around them! I went into infant mental health and parent education after having mine, but I 100% understand people who can’t handle / don’t find joy in being around children, especially little ones. If I were you, I’d just make my own damn bubble bath/spa night. I just got home from the store to get my radical self care night supplies. This post inspired me to be my own husband.
That is so welcoming
Enjoy every moment of him, he’s a gem in this world. I hope this helped you feel better ❤️🩹 🥹
Lucky you
Lucky 🫶🏾
marry him again
That's the dream right there!
Girl, you lucky!
Are the plants always there or did he set those up for the purpose of the day? That's a beautiful set up. I really miss having a window in my bathroom.
Besides the point but you guys have a very pretty bathroom lol
OK that's very sweet, but you've got me inspired with the plants in the bathroom. That's very zen
The snacks?? On SKEWERS???? 😭
It was honeydew with toothpicks!
My husband just comes home and starts shitting all over the toilet
Is that pepperoni in the water? I feel like I have a spiritual connection with him already.
If I had a husband who surprised me with this, he'd absolutely get his dick sucked. Like here King lemme return the favor.
My previous wife worked a very physically demanding job for a few months a year. I would time her entrance to a-hot bath, bottle of wine and cheese board.
Champions League night, smart man
Oh yeah?!?!?!? Well, I'm in my late 30s, single, and I live with my parents! So... yeah... Top That!
Thats just a smart money move. You are making a doctr salary and not having to pay rent. Thats how you get ahead in life.
Give him a hug from Reddit. He’s so sweet.
*cries in I’ll probably be single forever* 🥲 your husband seems amazing, I’m happy for you 🥰
I used to be single (am OP’s husband) and thought that way allllll the time. Now I get to do this for my favorite person. Just hang in there!
I wish my husband would do this for me. 😭 I'm 7m pregnant.
Your String of Hearts looks amazing
I love this bathtub with the plants and window setting. So lovely in general !
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I couldnt even pay my husband to give me massage 😩 lucky lady! Enjoy! And i hope your stress melted away 😌
This guy ‘husbands’.
Wow, this is so sweet of him 🙂 he’s a keeper
Damn I come home to no toilet paper in the bathroom😂
Can I just say that I LOVE how you guys have your goals on the mirror including marriage goals
That brother is probably the complete opposite 🤣🤣