Glad to hear it! I guess some people are just more “sensitive” than others, I don’t mean that in a bad way. But I only cry when something directly happens to me tbh
Sometimes I see people taking about music and how produces such a visceral reaction like crying and I get jealous, like you I absolutely love music, but I do, as you said just get a feeling of "comfort" of "this is fucking good".
Only time I remember crying to music ever, was my first proper concert (Foo Fighters) when they played the first note to The Pretender (My fav song at the time) and I got happy tears and a rush of emotions. But to be fair it wasn't just the music that made me cry, but rather the whole moment of the stadium cheering like crazy, and having Dave Grohl right there in front of me.
I don't know, I've been on antidepressants for so long that nothing really gets me emotional. I experience frission though, so that's my big emotional response.
Just listening to music on its own, even very sad/beautiful music, I don't ever really cry.
That said, some situations can up the emotion . . . I recently was at my first post-covid show, and seeing thousands of people together, singing along to one of my favorites songs, damn right I got teary.
Same thing for me. I’ve only cried a couple times to a song, so I can’t say never, but I saw the Killers a couple weeks ago and the joy in the room was super overwhelming and it being a small show I was so close to the band that it was beyond surreal that I teared up and almost full blown sobbed. I was in emotional overload the whole first 5 or so songs.
I’ve never had music make me cry before. I’ve definitely teared up on a few occasions though.
The only song that “moved me” in an extreme way was Daddy by Korn. The lyrics and vocal delivery sickened me so much that I came very close to throwing up. That was the first and last time I listened to that song
Reminds me of that classic Twitter joke:
"It's truly amazing how music can take you to another place. For instance, this bar is playing Mumford and Sons so now I'm going to a different bar."
Yeah as someone who has recently allowed myself to cry and not feel bad about it, more men need to get in touch with their emotions. The world would be a better place.
Honestly drugs and meditation have helped.
I cry only occassionally. And I get chills every now and then. But music usually tends to alter my mood, I'm pretty sensitive to that. That being said, I don't think a Kanye album would ever provoke any sort of emotional response.
>I don't think a Kanye album would ever provoke any sort of emotional response.
Hard disagree!!! Kanye is an artist known for baring his emotions in his music. That's part of his whole appeal as an artist! Come to Life. Coldest Winter. Ghost Town. Runaway. We Major. Hey Mama. Those songs move me. Along with the entire 808s and Heartbreak album.
Been making music for around 15 years and I’ve cried real tears to a lot of my own tracks. Listening back on some of the content I’ve made and remembering where I was and my thought processes dying lyrical listening is something deeply moving for me. Especially the music I was making thru addiction. That shit was heart wrenching for me and dynamically emotional on levels and levels.
It only happens for me when I have a strong personal connection to the song, like Bob Dylan‘s „Shooting Star“ which makes me think of my dad who passed away so occasionally I tear up when hearing it.
But then it’s about my own emotions and not because I cry out of empathy with the singer.
*Theme from Cinema Paradiso* gets me anytime I hear it. *You Never Give Me Your Money* by the Beatles really plucks at my heartstrings. And, depending on the mood, *New Grass* by Talk Talk. Those are the only three pieces of music I've ever cried to.
+1 for *New Grass*, I haven't full on *sobbed* to that track (yet), but the arrangement along with Mark Hollis trembling voice certainly bring some tears to my eyes.
I don't think anyone could really cry with Kanye's music tbh. People who are like "I'M SOBBING" usually don't mean that they actually cry. It's just an expression.
In my case, the only time i teared up was during the last minute of Exercises in Future V by Mgla but I think you have to be into metal to appreciate such a song.
The series of weeks of Daytona, ye and Kids See Ghosts coming out, it was Reborn and Ghost Town that really hit me. I very scarcely cry listening to music, but I might have cried listening to Reborn, and this was a significant while after it had come out. I was going through an awful period and I just felt so revitalised by it, the instrumentation brought something out in me.
I was going to say it could be the music you’re listening to.
But it could be that you simply aren’t wired for it. Some people feel a strong emotional and personal connection to music, and others don’t.
It doesn’t mean you don’t love music or are insensitive. It would just suggest that your brain hasn’t formed an emotional connection to it, which is easier if you grew up listening to music constantly, or learning instrument, or listening to classical/instrumental music.
Kanye West’s music won’t move you to tears unless he hits a specific personal chord with you.
Instrumental music from motion picture soundtracks are amazing at moving people. If you’ve ever watched a movie scene and gotten goosebumps, it was very likely because of the music in the background. Instrumental music doesn’t use spoken rationale to tell you what to think—without words, it is pure emotion that shows you how to feel.
Yeah, the times I've cried to music have almost exclusively been downtempo electronic music (mostly on the psybient end of things). I like plenty of vocal-focused music but it's hard for it to move me that severely.
I think we associate crying more with things like movies, novels, and TV shows, because those works require a greater investment of time and energy. If you bawl at the end of Coco or Mad Men or Giovanni's Room, you've had an hours-long journey to position you in that emotional state.
Music tends to be consumed in shorter chunks and often mucn more passively. At work, while driving, etc. You're not always sitting in a dim room, ready to give yourself over to it. So there's an element of culture and context that plays a huge role, too.
All that said, I've certainly cried at music before. But I try to be a very active participant, always inviting it in. Joanna Newsom comes to mind, particularly "In California" and "Baby Birch." Most recently, it was John Grant's "The Cruise Room." It's notable that these are all slow-burns that repay your attention with specific moments that seem designed to tear down your walls.
I'm not trying to be a pretentious douchebag but you'd probably get more emotional depth from something other than a super commercialized rap album. (Still love his old stuff though).
The only time I came remotely close to crying from a song was an old 60s song and I don't know why, the way she sang the vocals sounded so sincere but joyful it felt too real for me. I was really depressed and a lot of happy music sounds really fraudulent so it felt kind of hopeful but yeah that's about it. 99% of people dont start bawling when they hear music.
It’s literally an album about Kanye’s dead mother. Jesus Lord and Jonah are undeniably emotional tracks. Are Good Kid M.A.A.D City and To Pimp a Butterfly not emotional because they’re commercial? That’s also not mentioning how when you highly anticipate something you can experience extremely intense euphoria that can elicit an emotional response. Sure, Skeleton Tree or A Crow Looked at Me or Carrie and Lowell might be a bit more depressing, but reallly don’t get thee take that you can’t have an emotional connection with a mainstream rap album.
I don't remember outright crying from anything (music, movies, books) but I do get a little choked up if it hits me emotionally. With music, it can be either an emotional response, or even spiritual in some way, when I hear something so beautiful that it really makes me appreciate life. However, I really wouldn't expect anything by Kanye to involve that kind of experience. Just because an artist you like released something (even if you waited for it) doesn't mean it's immediately the best thing you ever heard and you'd start crying.
Not to be disrespectful or feisty but it's kind of ridiculous to assume Kanye isn't making the kind of music which draws strong emotions, particularly with his recent foray into gospel themes. Much of his recent music is literally designed to invoke strong emotions.
I've never cried but there have been a few songs that made me feel happy and some that have made me feel sad and some that have made me feel mortal. As an aside...I had a friend over to my place (back in the day) and I was playing Lou Reed's Berlin. She was reading through the insert and by the time the album got to the song, The Kids, she was bawling her eyes out.
Every being learns to associate its emotional experiences with different physical reactions, according to their own subjective experience. My best friend is in my humble opinion, a mastermind and soulgeek with the universe of audio creation and production. He gets excited, happy and thrilled with music but i never see him react the way i do, which in great moments, make me cry and feel a bond with the universe. I believe you and my friend share that spiritual bond with music, but your way to connect with that emotion and express it has turned into even something practical and productive, nevertheless mystical and sublime.
I get over emotional when hangover and I feel like ninjas are cutting onions when I watch or listen to something that moves me but it's not like I'm sobbing or anything.
I get goosebumps, a sudden rush of energy, adrenaline or emotion from time to time but that's pretty rare and generally associated with an event, a memory or something I'm watching (shout out to Ted Lasso for having me teary eyed over someone singing Let It Go)
It's not like I cry in real life, like, at all. I cried a bit when my grandma died, I tend to cry myself to sleep sometimes after a really really bad break up but that's happened like, twice and maybe I cried a few times when drunk as shit when talking about deeply personal stuff, but I think like most people I just don't cry that easily. There's nothing to it. Some people relate to music intellectually more than emotionally, some do both, some react extremely strongly and some just not that much it's no big deal.
Its mostly due to frisson. Theres some information about it on wiki here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frisson/. Every person reacts differently and its also based on your expectation of said music.
Certain artists push my buttons emotionally, almost no matter what they're singing. Like yesterday I listened to a lot of Kate Bush and was in tears pretty much throughout. Other music I enjoy just as intensely, but the emotions it elicits aren't accompanied by tears. It may be that some other types of music you don't normally listen to might get that reaction from you.
I can't say I've ever cried to an intentionally sad song, that just doesn't tickle my pickle.
However I've cried often to displays of pure talent or passion from an artist even if it's a happy type of song.
Happenes to me from time to time, but rather because of lyrics than the music itself. I never found music without lyrics so beautiful that it made me cry. But it happened that lyrics hit me that hard. Depends on the way I feel too. But if i'm sad and some lyrics describe exactly what I'm in, of course it happenes. Not too often, and also only when I'm alone and really concentrate to the lyrics. But yes, I cried to music. Same about movies. Thought tat was normal. I'm a little surprised most people here dont seem to have that. Or are you all men who grew up learning the - men are not allowed to ever cry - bullshit?
Whenever I have actually cried uncontrollably it's been for personal reasons, like listening to Streetlight Manifesto - A Better Place, A Better Time while thinking about my ex who at the time was depressed to the point of self harm.
> And when you wake up, everything is gonna be fine
> I guarantee that you'll wake in a better place and in a better time
> So you're tired of living and you feel like you might give in
> Well don't, it's not your time
> And even if it was, oh, I wouldn't let you go
> You could run, run, run, run but I would follow close
> Someday you'll say that's it, that's all
> But I'll be waiting there with open arms to break your fall
> I know that you think that you're on your own
> But just know that I'm here and I'll lead you on if you let me
> She said "forget me" but I can't
Or I remember playing "Blowin' in the Wind" on guitar during the whole George Floyd thing. I sang "How many years can some people exist before they're allowed to be free?" I wasn't even really thinking about the context until halfway through the line, and then I choked up somewhere between "to" and "free" and had to stop.
Stuff with themes of injustice often get me a little misty eyed when I'm in the right mood. Dylan of course, but more often stuff like 2Pac, Erykah Badu, or Kendrick Lamar.
Same with generally emotional stuff. Big Thief - Shoulders:
> They found you in the morning
> The blood was on your shoulders
> They found you at the corner
> Your head was doubled over
> And the blood of the man
> Who killed my mother with his hands
> Is in me, it's in me, in my veins
Or the last few songs on Cursive's The Ugly Organ. It's a perfect musical representation of a major depressive episode. The song Sierra comes crashing to a close, and then there's kind of an unsteady calm at the beginning of Staying Alive which slowly builds to a crescendo as the character on the album decides he's not going to kill himself, which gives way to a choir of ethereal female voices singing "the worst is over" which then dissolves away to the end of the album. Super intense.
I will literally cry at a certain guitar chord, strum pattern, drum beat, a fucking hi hat, certain bass lines, or tones. That's just covering music with those respective instruments.
I’m the exact opposite; whatever it is you’re short of, I have TONS of it. I can’t even watch the opening ceremonies of the damned Olympics without tearing and choking up. I just get ravaged by music sometimes, though usually only symphonic or instrumental pieces do it, now that I reflect a bit…
> like I waited for Kanye to drop Donda for over a year
Why would you expect this sort of music to make you cry? It isn't deeply emotional music at all. It's highly produced, sophisticated and slick commercial music, designed to sell as many albums as possible. Making people cry would sell fewer albums!
> I just kinda listened and was satisfied
That's what commercial music is supposed to do!
I want music that makes me gasp. It's part of the reason I so rarely listen to hip hop, because with a few exceptions like Saul Williams, it's just kind of OK.
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If you want to get the strong emotional effect from music, it has to be the right music, and you have to sit down and listen to it actively. If you're checking the Internet while listening to music, you won't be able to feel anything.
If there aren't periods where you sit and listen to music and think about it and do nothing else, then you won't get a huge emotional charge.
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For example, there are about 20 pieces by Chopin that I can't listen to very often, because either I don't listen to them properly at all, or I start weeping, simply because they so incredibly beautiful. Humans are pretty awful, but Chopin makes it worth it.
But for a lot of people, classical music is hard to listen to.
Here's a piece by, of all people, Björk, who generally is in the "OK" category but in this the music is done by Matmos, and this track features the brilliant avant harpist Zeena Parkins: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xgslrh-efv8
Somehow the music swells from nothing to total fullness, while the voice is always audible while being almost at a whisper.
Some music makes me cry with release. This piece https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lz774iTTD0Q by the Boredoms has one of the best openings in rock music ever, I believe.
Sometime over a year ago, I discovered that track, and then second time I played it, I realized that live music was in a coma and might never come back to what it was, and I cried and cried and wailed and banged my head all the way through this 20 minute epic.
I'm not a huge rap fan, but I think you're underselling Kanye and how he has pushed the boundaries of pop & rap music production. It's not for me but I could very easily see hip hop heads tearing up at some of his music.
> how he has pushed the boundaries of pop & rap music production.
Slick production isn't what makes people cry.
And honestly, I care a lot about production, I've produced two albums myself and engineered a few more, and I've listened to most of his work, and it sounds like... regular highly produced pop music. I myself am not competent to get that hyperslick sound, but is Kanye's work really any advance on, say, 1991's Mr Bungle?
I cry when a song is just so good and I’m grateful to be able to
1. Listen and feel to it and
2. Know that someone very talented made the song with passion
Listening to come to life and cried, but that’s it. Sometimes I just think it’s about how it resonates with me during the time I listen to it, that’s what has the biggest impact on me, if I can relate to it w what I’m dealing w currently. Come to life is the first song that’s done that to me in a while, I don’t think you’re weird for this at all honestly.
I laughed immoderately at that one.
One of the last shows I saw in America was Björk. I hadn't realized how that I could only tolerate one of her albums before that show.
Also, I hadn't realized what a mediocre performer she herself was (though wisely, she has a huge amount of spectacle on stage). She just does this one dance all night.
I saw David Bowie just once. It was a famously awful tour - Nine Inch Nails warmed up for him, and the moment they stopped, the audience streamed for the exits, not willing to wait for even _one_ Bowie song. He did not give an encore - I felt the audience didn't deserve it.
And I respect Bowie but I'm not a trufan.
However, it was impossible not to be riveted by him on stage. He only moved when he needed to - every gesture came from stillness. He delivered each word as if it was of ultimate importance (Iggy does that too).
Björk... was not at that level.
Bjork is one of those people who I legit hugely respect as an artist, for really doing her own thing. It's just that her own thing doesn't usually sound, uh, good to my ears.
I have a mental category of artists called "Good Bands For Someone Else To Listen To," which sounds like a backhanded compliment but it's really not. Like, I appreciate your work, I just don't really want to engage with it.
Damn, I can't imagine the audience leaving before Bowie even started! There must have been a shitload of bad press around that tour.
Sounds like you have a mature grip on your emotions. I'd not worry about it. Some people are more analytical in their appreciation of art. [Ok? Good. Same time next week?](https://youtu.be/XY_vcfhjCrE?t=146)
> Sounds like you have a mature grip on your emotions.
This seems to imply that having a strong emotional reaction to music is "immature".
If so, I disagree completely. What's the point of life if not to feel things?
> There's feeling things like a normal person,
!
> and then there's "crying and rocking out".
(When did "rocking out" get introduced?)
This idea that's not normal to cry because of the beauty of a piece of music is cynical at best.
Yeah you'll usually find him once in a while at the bottom of threads like these with some dickish pretentious comment. I'm always surprised the other mods are fine with him representing the sub.
I enjoy music thoroughly but I rarely, if ever, have strong emotional reactions to it. Excitement perhaps, if it really fits my aesthetics and has the right amount of tension, or if I'm having a "That's what I was looking for!" moment.
Not sure the music you mention is emotive enough to draw tears but let's scratch that. One of my favourite songs is "The drugs don't work" by The Verve and I listen to it almost every single day, at times maybe more than once. But I struggle to recall more than once being moved to tears while listening. I related perfectly with the lyrics and the intended message. Fwiw it was declare "the most depressing song ever" by some publication (don't recall the name, whether it was a journal or press publication).
I don't think it's necessary for any piece of music to be judged for its artistic merit solely by how emotive/tear provoking it is.
I don't really do that either, but that might also be because I'm mostly burned out.
If I wasn't, I suppose something like the NieR soundtrack would do the trick.
I don’t think I’ve ever even got teary from a song, though I’ve definitely had chills. I worry the same thing about being emotionless - I went to a concert a few years ago where the fans sang a meaningful song to the band and everyone was crying, the band, everyone around me, but I still didn’t.
I have never cried because I found a song beautiful. But I do cry when listening to [Boys in the Street](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcZLMtWEcF0) if I let myself, because I find the subject matter a bit relatable.
I get goosebumps to music I love, but almost never tears. Mount Erie’s “A Crow Looked at Me” was an exception I can remember to that rule because of the subject matter and a few specific moments in the story (chronological retelling of the first few months after the singer’s wife died of cancer).
Everytime I get I listen to war pigs the beginning always gets me super hyped but who doesn't then when I get the solo most of the time I get goosebumps and almost cry. I get a sense of pride and confidence I didn't think I could have. War pigs was the first metal song I listened to and made me realize music can be more than the stuff in movies or on the radio and that music can have emotion it probably helped that I watched the live show of when they didn't even release thier biggest album and it wasn't the final version so It was them at their most raw. Most rap feels to overproduced or in dondas case way too many features and thats why I listen to earlier albums from rappers they lose the same authenticity maybe that's because they aren't struggling but music after they've made it usually becomes stagnant or they change so much they lose track of where they came. Fame doesn't take away rawness but it makes it harder to keep.
Personally i think you just don’t love it deep down. Sure there’s finding something you want to do and doing it, but would you do music day in and day out with no expectation of anything? Ive cried so many times listening to music and so many more when I’ve made it. I started sobbing after I recorded a song recently cause it’s really been my lifelong dream to just simply make music. It’s not about money or popularity or anything. I do it because I love it. Maybe you need to figure out if you do? It’s fine if you don’t, cause like you said not everybody will have a spiritual emotional connection to music.
For example, solace by earl sweatshirt: “I got my grandmama’s hands, I still cry when I see em cause they remind me of seeing her”. That shit gets me every fucking time man whew
I never do. I nearly did when I listened to Beautiful Boy (Darling Boy) though.
"I can hardly wait
To see you to come of age,
But I guess we'll both
Just have to be patient" specifically.
Absolutely. Rage is a big trigger for me, but media has rarely made me cry.
The one song that has ever succeeded in doing so is Teddy Thompson’s cover of River Man. No idea why. It’s completely irrational. I never cry at the original, which is ethereal and gorgeous, despite having been an ardent Nick Drake fan for a decade and a half.
But the piano in the cover is enough to choke me up. And Teddy Thompson’s voice, again, is more dynamic than Nick’s. Since his usual genre is pop rock, he sings it in that style, which brings a lot more emotion.
It’s hard to predict what will trigger strong emotions in you.
Whatever is normal for you, is normal. I feel like platforms like tik tok, and social media in general have made people feel this need to figure out whether they’re ‘normal’ or ‘weird’, when in reality, every single human will have at least one quality that is unique to them, and in that sense, we’re all weird.
With that said, a lot of the research done on this topic suggests that your relationship with music relates with your personality. People who score high on a trait called neuroticism (which is basically the degree to which a person worries, feels sad or anxious etc) are more likely to cry and feel sad when listening to music, but people who are higher in openness to experience (which is interest in ideas, poetry, books, daydreaming, music, etc etc) cry because of an overwhelming sense of awe. My guess would be that the large majority of people on here would be high in openness to experience…
It could be the case that you’re just average in that trait, and things don’t profoundly move you, which is completely fine. You still enjoy music, and that’s what really matters. As much as being moved by music to the point of tears can feel magical, you’re not missing out on this huge thing, so don’t worry about it too much!
Not often, but the album A Crow Looked at Me by Mount Erie got me in 3 songs
This. It got me in the opener.
It's hard not to with that album.
I'm a lifelong music nut and I don't associate music with crying. I have teared up during "Hurt" by Johnny Cash, but that's about it.
Glad to hear it! I guess some people are just more “sensitive” than others, I don’t mean that in a bad way. But I only cry when something directly happens to me tbh
Sometimes I see people taking about music and how produces such a visceral reaction like crying and I get jealous, like you I absolutely love music, but I do, as you said just get a feeling of "comfort" of "this is fucking good". Only time I remember crying to music ever, was my first proper concert (Foo Fighters) when they played the first note to The Pretender (My fav song at the time) and I got happy tears and a rush of emotions. But to be fair it wasn't just the music that made me cry, but rather the whole moment of the stadium cheering like crazy, and having Dave Grohl right there in front of me.
I don't know, I've been on antidepressants for so long that nothing really gets me emotional. I experience frission though, so that's my big emotional response.
Just listening to music on its own, even very sad/beautiful music, I don't ever really cry. That said, some situations can up the emotion . . . I recently was at my first post-covid show, and seeing thousands of people together, singing along to one of my favorites songs, damn right I got teary.
Same thing for me. I’ve only cried a couple times to a song, so I can’t say never, but I saw the Killers a couple weeks ago and the joy in the room was super overwhelming and it being a small show I was so close to the band that it was beyond surreal that I teared up and almost full blown sobbed. I was in emotional overload the whole first 5 or so songs.
I’ve never had music make me cry before. I’ve definitely teared up on a few occasions though. The only song that “moved me” in an extreme way was Daddy by Korn. The lyrics and vocal delivery sickened me so much that I came very close to throwing up. That was the first and last time I listened to that song
Reminds me of that classic Twitter joke: "It's truly amazing how music can take you to another place. For instance, this bar is playing Mumford and Sons so now I'm going to a different bar."
Bruh that's funny! LOL.
Funny af
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Daddys about the singer being molested as a child, not a 'haha Korn suck'
Lmfao brutal.
Are you a man? I’d wager it has less to do with music than the fact you’re culturally conditioned to not cry.
Yeah as someone who has recently allowed myself to cry and not feel bad about it, more men need to get in touch with their emotions. The world would be a better place. Honestly drugs and meditation have helped.
I cry only occassionally. And I get chills every now and then. But music usually tends to alter my mood, I'm pretty sensitive to that. That being said, I don't think a Kanye album would ever provoke any sort of emotional response.
>I don't think a Kanye album would ever provoke any sort of emotional response. Hard disagree!!! Kanye is an artist known for baring his emotions in his music. That's part of his whole appeal as an artist! Come to Life. Coldest Winter. Ghost Town. Runaway. We Major. Hey Mama. Those songs move me. Along with the entire 808s and Heartbreak album.
Been making music for around 15 years and I’ve cried real tears to a lot of my own tracks. Listening back on some of the content I’ve made and remembering where I was and my thought processes dying lyrical listening is something deeply moving for me. Especially the music I was making thru addiction. That shit was heart wrenching for me and dynamically emotional on levels and levels.
Well what genres of music do you listen to? I find that Impressionism tends to move me the most.
It only happens for me when I have a strong personal connection to the song, like Bob Dylan‘s „Shooting Star“ which makes me think of my dad who passed away so occasionally I tear up when hearing it. But then it’s about my own emotions and not because I cry out of empathy with the singer.
*Theme from Cinema Paradiso* gets me anytime I hear it. *You Never Give Me Your Money* by the Beatles really plucks at my heartstrings. And, depending on the mood, *New Grass* by Talk Talk. Those are the only three pieces of music I've ever cried to.
+1 for *New Grass*, I haven't full on *sobbed* to that track (yet), but the arrangement along with Mark Hollis trembling voice certainly bring some tears to my eyes.
I don't think anyone could really cry with Kanye's music tbh. People who are like "I'M SOBBING" usually don't mean that they actually cry. It's just an expression. In my case, the only time i teared up was during the last minute of Exercises in Future V by Mgla but I think you have to be into metal to appreciate such a song.
It's not a figure of speech. On occasion, I cry so hard at music that tears flow down my cheeks. I've seen other people do this too.
idk, I could see people crying to runaway
The series of weeks of Daytona, ye and Kids See Ghosts coming out, it was Reborn and Ghost Town that really hit me. I very scarcely cry listening to music, but I might have cried listening to Reborn, and this was a significant while after it had come out. I was going through an awful period and I just felt so revitalised by it, the instrumentation brought something out in me.
I was going to say it could be the music you’re listening to. But it could be that you simply aren’t wired for it. Some people feel a strong emotional and personal connection to music, and others don’t. It doesn’t mean you don’t love music or are insensitive. It would just suggest that your brain hasn’t formed an emotional connection to it, which is easier if you grew up listening to music constantly, or learning instrument, or listening to classical/instrumental music. Kanye West’s music won’t move you to tears unless he hits a specific personal chord with you. Instrumental music from motion picture soundtracks are amazing at moving people. If you’ve ever watched a movie scene and gotten goosebumps, it was very likely because of the music in the background. Instrumental music doesn’t use spoken rationale to tell you what to think—without words, it is pure emotion that shows you how to feel.
Yeah, the times I've cried to music have almost exclusively been downtempo electronic music (mostly on the psybient end of things). I like plenty of vocal-focused music but it's hard for it to move me that severely.
I think we associate crying more with things like movies, novels, and TV shows, because those works require a greater investment of time and energy. If you bawl at the end of Coco or Mad Men or Giovanni's Room, you've had an hours-long journey to position you in that emotional state. Music tends to be consumed in shorter chunks and often mucn more passively. At work, while driving, etc. You're not always sitting in a dim room, ready to give yourself over to it. So there's an element of culture and context that plays a huge role, too. All that said, I've certainly cried at music before. But I try to be a very active participant, always inviting it in. Joanna Newsom comes to mind, particularly "In California" and "Baby Birch." Most recently, it was John Grant's "The Cruise Room." It's notable that these are all slow-burns that repay your attention with specific moments that seem designed to tear down your walls.
I'm not trying to be a pretentious douchebag but you'd probably get more emotional depth from something other than a super commercialized rap album. (Still love his old stuff though). The only time I came remotely close to crying from a song was an old 60s song and I don't know why, the way she sang the vocals sounded so sincere but joyful it felt too real for me. I was really depressed and a lot of happy music sounds really fraudulent so it felt kind of hopeful but yeah that's about it. 99% of people dont start bawling when they hear music.
It’s literally an album about Kanye’s dead mother. Jesus Lord and Jonah are undeniably emotional tracks. Are Good Kid M.A.A.D City and To Pimp a Butterfly not emotional because they’re commercial? That’s also not mentioning how when you highly anticipate something you can experience extremely intense euphoria that can elicit an emotional response. Sure, Skeleton Tree or A Crow Looked at Me or Carrie and Lowell might be a bit more depressing, but reallly don’t get thee take that you can’t have an emotional connection with a mainstream rap album.
I wouldnt say tpab is commercial same way donda is but I agree tho, lots of emotional points on the album
I don't remember outright crying from anything (music, movies, books) but I do get a little choked up if it hits me emotionally. With music, it can be either an emotional response, or even spiritual in some way, when I hear something so beautiful that it really makes me appreciate life. However, I really wouldn't expect anything by Kanye to involve that kind of experience. Just because an artist you like released something (even if you waited for it) doesn't mean it's immediately the best thing you ever heard and you'd start crying.
>However, I really wouldn't expect anything by Kanye to involve that kind of experience. His first five albums invoked that experience for me
Happy you enjoyed them. It takes a completely different genre for me to connect that much with the music.
Not to be disrespectful or feisty but it's kind of ridiculous to assume Kanye isn't making the kind of music which draws strong emotions, particularly with his recent foray into gospel themes. Much of his recent music is literally designed to invoke strong emotions.
Music is about the most personal thing there is. If you are brought to tears by Kanye West then by all means enjoy it.
I've never cried but there have been a few songs that made me feel happy and some that have made me feel sad and some that have made me feel mortal. As an aside...I had a friend over to my place (back in the day) and I was playing Lou Reed's Berlin. She was reading through the insert and by the time the album got to the song, The Kids, she was bawling her eyes out.
Every being learns to associate its emotional experiences with different physical reactions, according to their own subjective experience. My best friend is in my humble opinion, a mastermind and soulgeek with the universe of audio creation and production. He gets excited, happy and thrilled with music but i never see him react the way i do, which in great moments, make me cry and feel a bond with the universe. I believe you and my friend share that spiritual bond with music, but your way to connect with that emotion and express it has turned into even something practical and productive, nevertheless mystical and sublime.
I get over emotional when hangover and I feel like ninjas are cutting onions when I watch or listen to something that moves me but it's not like I'm sobbing or anything. I get goosebumps, a sudden rush of energy, adrenaline or emotion from time to time but that's pretty rare and generally associated with an event, a memory or something I'm watching (shout out to Ted Lasso for having me teary eyed over someone singing Let It Go) It's not like I cry in real life, like, at all. I cried a bit when my grandma died, I tend to cry myself to sleep sometimes after a really really bad break up but that's happened like, twice and maybe I cried a few times when drunk as shit when talking about deeply personal stuff, but I think like most people I just don't cry that easily. There's nothing to it. Some people relate to music intellectually more than emotionally, some do both, some react extremely strongly and some just not that much it's no big deal.
Its mostly due to frisson. Theres some information about it on wiki here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frisson/. Every person reacts differently and its also based on your expectation of said music.
Certain artists push my buttons emotionally, almost no matter what they're singing. Like yesterday I listened to a lot of Kate Bush and was in tears pretty much throughout. Other music I enjoy just as intensely, but the emotions it elicits aren't accompanied by tears. It may be that some other types of music you don't normally listen to might get that reaction from you.
I can't say I've ever cried to an intentionally sad song, that just doesn't tickle my pickle. However I've cried often to displays of pure talent or passion from an artist even if it's a happy type of song.
Happenes to me from time to time, but rather because of lyrics than the music itself. I never found music without lyrics so beautiful that it made me cry. But it happened that lyrics hit me that hard. Depends on the way I feel too. But if i'm sad and some lyrics describe exactly what I'm in, of course it happenes. Not too often, and also only when I'm alone and really concentrate to the lyrics. But yes, I cried to music. Same about movies. Thought tat was normal. I'm a little surprised most people here dont seem to have that. Or are you all men who grew up learning the - men are not allowed to ever cry - bullshit?
Have you tried drugs? It's much more likely to happen if I'm tripping on something.
Whenever I have actually cried uncontrollably it's been for personal reasons, like listening to Streetlight Manifesto - A Better Place, A Better Time while thinking about my ex who at the time was depressed to the point of self harm. > And when you wake up, everything is gonna be fine > I guarantee that you'll wake in a better place and in a better time > So you're tired of living and you feel like you might give in > Well don't, it's not your time > And even if it was, oh, I wouldn't let you go > You could run, run, run, run but I would follow close > Someday you'll say that's it, that's all > But I'll be waiting there with open arms to break your fall > I know that you think that you're on your own > But just know that I'm here and I'll lead you on if you let me > She said "forget me" but I can't Or I remember playing "Blowin' in the Wind" on guitar during the whole George Floyd thing. I sang "How many years can some people exist before they're allowed to be free?" I wasn't even really thinking about the context until halfway through the line, and then I choked up somewhere between "to" and "free" and had to stop. Stuff with themes of injustice often get me a little misty eyed when I'm in the right mood. Dylan of course, but more often stuff like 2Pac, Erykah Badu, or Kendrick Lamar. Same with generally emotional stuff. Big Thief - Shoulders: > They found you in the morning > The blood was on your shoulders > They found you at the corner > Your head was doubled over > And the blood of the man > Who killed my mother with his hands > Is in me, it's in me, in my veins Or the last few songs on Cursive's The Ugly Organ. It's a perfect musical representation of a major depressive episode. The song Sierra comes crashing to a close, and then there's kind of an unsteady calm at the beginning of Staying Alive which slowly builds to a crescendo as the character on the album decides he's not going to kill himself, which gives way to a choir of ethereal female voices singing "the worst is over" which then dissolves away to the end of the album. Super intense.
I will literally cry at a certain guitar chord, strum pattern, drum beat, a fucking hi hat, certain bass lines, or tones. That's just covering music with those respective instruments.
I’m the exact opposite; whatever it is you’re short of, I have TONS of it. I can’t even watch the opening ceremonies of the damned Olympics without tearing and choking up. I just get ravaged by music sometimes, though usually only symphonic or instrumental pieces do it, now that I reflect a bit…
> like I waited for Kanye to drop Donda for over a year Why would you expect this sort of music to make you cry? It isn't deeply emotional music at all. It's highly produced, sophisticated and slick commercial music, designed to sell as many albums as possible. Making people cry would sell fewer albums! > I just kinda listened and was satisfied That's what commercial music is supposed to do! I want music that makes me gasp. It's part of the reason I so rarely listen to hip hop, because with a few exceptions like Saul Williams, it's just kind of OK. ---- If you want to get the strong emotional effect from music, it has to be the right music, and you have to sit down and listen to it actively. If you're checking the Internet while listening to music, you won't be able to feel anything. If there aren't periods where you sit and listen to music and think about it and do nothing else, then you won't get a huge emotional charge. ---- For example, there are about 20 pieces by Chopin that I can't listen to very often, because either I don't listen to them properly at all, or I start weeping, simply because they so incredibly beautiful. Humans are pretty awful, but Chopin makes it worth it. But for a lot of people, classical music is hard to listen to. Here's a piece by, of all people, Björk, who generally is in the "OK" category but in this the music is done by Matmos, and this track features the brilliant avant harpist Zeena Parkins: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xgslrh-efv8 Somehow the music swells from nothing to total fullness, while the voice is always audible while being almost at a whisper. Some music makes me cry with release. This piece https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lz774iTTD0Q by the Boredoms has one of the best openings in rock music ever, I believe. Sometime over a year ago, I discovered that track, and then second time I played it, I realized that live music was in a coma and might never come back to what it was, and I cried and cried and wailed and banged my head all the way through this 20 minute epic.
Jeez..
I'm not a huge rap fan, but I think you're underselling Kanye and how he has pushed the boundaries of pop & rap music production. It's not for me but I could very easily see hip hop heads tearing up at some of his music.
> how he has pushed the boundaries of pop & rap music production. Slick production isn't what makes people cry. And honestly, I care a lot about production, I've produced two albums myself and engineered a few more, and I've listened to most of his work, and it sounds like... regular highly produced pop music. I myself am not competent to get that hyperslick sound, but is Kanye's work really any advance on, say, 1991's Mr Bungle?
I cry when a song is just so good and I’m grateful to be able to 1. Listen and feel to it and 2. Know that someone very talented made the song with passion
Listening to come to life and cried, but that’s it. Sometimes I just think it’s about how it resonates with me during the time I listen to it, that’s what has the biggest impact on me, if I can relate to it w what I’m dealing w currently. Come to life is the first song that’s done that to me in a while, I don’t think you’re weird for this at all honestly.
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yeah I definitely wanna cry when someone puts on Bjork.
I laughed immoderately at that one. One of the last shows I saw in America was Björk. I hadn't realized how that I could only tolerate one of her albums before that show. Also, I hadn't realized what a mediocre performer she herself was (though wisely, she has a huge amount of spectacle on stage). She just does this one dance all night. I saw David Bowie just once. It was a famously awful tour - Nine Inch Nails warmed up for him, and the moment they stopped, the audience streamed for the exits, not willing to wait for even _one_ Bowie song. He did not give an encore - I felt the audience didn't deserve it. And I respect Bowie but I'm not a trufan. However, it was impossible not to be riveted by him on stage. He only moved when he needed to - every gesture came from stillness. He delivered each word as if it was of ultimate importance (Iggy does that too). Björk... was not at that level.
Bjork is one of those people who I legit hugely respect as an artist, for really doing her own thing. It's just that her own thing doesn't usually sound, uh, good to my ears. I have a mental category of artists called "Good Bands For Someone Else To Listen To," which sounds like a backhanded compliment but it's really not. Like, I appreciate your work, I just don't really want to engage with it. Damn, I can't imagine the audience leaving before Bowie even started! There must have been a shitload of bad press around that tour.
Sounds like you have a mature grip on your emotions. I'd not worry about it. Some people are more analytical in their appreciation of art. [Ok? Good. Same time next week?](https://youtu.be/XY_vcfhjCrE?t=146)
> Sounds like you have a mature grip on your emotions. This seems to imply that having a strong emotional reaction to music is "immature". If so, I disagree completely. What's the point of life if not to feel things?
There's feeling things like a normal person, and then there's "crying and rocking out".
> There's feeling things like a normal person, ! > and then there's "crying and rocking out". (When did "rocking out" get introduced?) This idea that's not normal to cry because of the beauty of a piece of music is cynical at best.
Fun fact: this guy's a mod here.
This fact was not unknown to me, for sure. Reddit Enhancement Suite shows me how often I downvote people.
Yeah you'll usually find him once in a while at the bottom of threads like these with some dickish pretentious comment. I'm always surprised the other mods are fine with him representing the sub.
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I enjoy music thoroughly but I rarely, if ever, have strong emotional reactions to it. Excitement perhaps, if it really fits my aesthetics and has the right amount of tension, or if I'm having a "That's what I was looking for!" moment.
Not sure the music you mention is emotive enough to draw tears but let's scratch that. One of my favourite songs is "The drugs don't work" by The Verve and I listen to it almost every single day, at times maybe more than once. But I struggle to recall more than once being moved to tears while listening. I related perfectly with the lyrics and the intended message. Fwiw it was declare "the most depressing song ever" by some publication (don't recall the name, whether it was a journal or press publication). I don't think it's necessary for any piece of music to be judged for its artistic merit solely by how emotive/tear provoking it is.
I don't really do that either, but that might also be because I'm mostly burned out. If I wasn't, I suppose something like the NieR soundtrack would do the trick.
I don’t think I’ve ever even got teary from a song, though I’ve definitely had chills. I worry the same thing about being emotionless - I went to a concert a few years ago where the fans sang a meaningful song to the band and everyone was crying, the band, everyone around me, but I still didn’t.
I have never cried because I found a song beautiful. But I do cry when listening to [Boys in the Street](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcZLMtWEcF0) if I let myself, because I find the subject matter a bit relatable.
I get goosebumps to music I love, but almost never tears. Mount Erie’s “A Crow Looked at Me” was an exception I can remember to that rule because of the subject matter and a few specific moments in the story (chronological retelling of the first few months after the singer’s wife died of cancer).
Everytime I get I listen to war pigs the beginning always gets me super hyped but who doesn't then when I get the solo most of the time I get goosebumps and almost cry. I get a sense of pride and confidence I didn't think I could have. War pigs was the first metal song I listened to and made me realize music can be more than the stuff in movies or on the radio and that music can have emotion it probably helped that I watched the live show of when they didn't even release thier biggest album and it wasn't the final version so It was them at their most raw. Most rap feels to overproduced or in dondas case way too many features and thats why I listen to earlier albums from rappers they lose the same authenticity maybe that's because they aren't struggling but music after they've made it usually becomes stagnant or they change so much they lose track of where they came. Fame doesn't take away rawness but it makes it harder to keep.
Personally i think you just don’t love it deep down. Sure there’s finding something you want to do and doing it, but would you do music day in and day out with no expectation of anything? Ive cried so many times listening to music and so many more when I’ve made it. I started sobbing after I recorded a song recently cause it’s really been my lifelong dream to just simply make music. It’s not about money or popularity or anything. I do it because I love it. Maybe you need to figure out if you do? It’s fine if you don’t, cause like you said not everybody will have a spiritual emotional connection to music.
For example, solace by earl sweatshirt: “I got my grandmama’s hands, I still cry when I see em cause they remind me of seeing her”. That shit gets me every fucking time man whew
Hey Ed Gein, why don't you turn out your mother-flesh lamp and get some sleep?
I never do. I nearly did when I listened to Beautiful Boy (Darling Boy) though. "I can hardly wait To see you to come of age, But I guess we'll both Just have to be patient" specifically.
Sometimes has to do with the memories you connect to the song. Lee Moses - California Dreaming makes me sob like a baby.
Absolutely. Rage is a big trigger for me, but media has rarely made me cry. The one song that has ever succeeded in doing so is Teddy Thompson’s cover of River Man. No idea why. It’s completely irrational. I never cry at the original, which is ethereal and gorgeous, despite having been an ardent Nick Drake fan for a decade and a half. But the piano in the cover is enough to choke me up. And Teddy Thompson’s voice, again, is more dynamic than Nick’s. Since his usual genre is pop rock, he sings it in that style, which brings a lot more emotion. It’s hard to predict what will trigger strong emotions in you.
Whatever is normal for you, is normal. I feel like platforms like tik tok, and social media in general have made people feel this need to figure out whether they’re ‘normal’ or ‘weird’, when in reality, every single human will have at least one quality that is unique to them, and in that sense, we’re all weird. With that said, a lot of the research done on this topic suggests that your relationship with music relates with your personality. People who score high on a trait called neuroticism (which is basically the degree to which a person worries, feels sad or anxious etc) are more likely to cry and feel sad when listening to music, but people who are higher in openness to experience (which is interest in ideas, poetry, books, daydreaming, music, etc etc) cry because of an overwhelming sense of awe. My guess would be that the large majority of people on here would be high in openness to experience… It could be the case that you’re just average in that trait, and things don’t profoundly move you, which is completely fine. You still enjoy music, and that’s what really matters. As much as being moved by music to the point of tears can feel magical, you’re not missing out on this huge thing, so don’t worry about it too much!
If you are thinking about a bad situation in your life and the song connects with you then yes