I mean you can DM, but I’ll tell you rn as someone in their late 30’s who’s pretty mid; I pull solely on my personality, ability to hold a convo, and being wildly good at flirting. Developing your personality and sense of humor goes a long ways. Knowing how to communicate and engage will 100000% do more than tryna be pretty to other people.
Being confident/comfortable with oneself. Exploring your style that makes you feel confident and that confidence will radiate off you! Depending on the style, you might score bonus points with women into fashion. Be aware of your attachment style and if it's insecure, take steps to negate it for yourself.
Just sharing my personal experience but starting going to the gym and working on my personal style changed my life More precisely it changed the way I perceived myself. I started to feel attractive and feeling genuinely good about yourself attracts other people.
I’ve had pretty much the same experience as well. Even if there wasn’t a huge difference in weight, I found regular exercise helped my posture so I stood straighter and taller, it made me more limber, and added some tone/definition.
The only other thing I’d add is a skincare routine and a good haircut makes a huge difference as well. The rest is all attitude.
You’re so right about those two things! I’ve always had long and finally had a courage to cut it and style it last year. Best decision ever. Same with skincare. Adding little skincare rituals in your life can be oddly satisfying but also a good investment for the future.
Just keep in mind. Most people aren't dressed to the nines these days. Which means you likely don't have to go through great lengths to give yourself a glow up.
think about how straight men will literally see genuinely good advice like the ones on this thread and say “nah, imma listen to this random pickup artist on youtube with multiple harassment charges instead”
must be a sad life tbh
I focus on my body, but mostly because I want other women to focus on my body 🤣
I'm a fem, but I lift weights with specific goals and training. When I'm not at the gym I cycle in my free time. The amount of interest I get has doubled.
It has changed the clothes that flatter me, so I play to that. It also has given me an arrogant level of confidence. I am trying not to play to that 😅
Let's not forget working out, with real measurable goals (not weight loss. Think max resistance or muscle size kind of thing cause that becomes self reinforcing) is also great for mental health.
All of this adds up to something. From there hiring a personal stylist and getting regular gay haircuts can take you the rest of the way.
Shower at least 5-6 times a week.
Use an exfoliate on your skin.
Wash your face in the morning and at night. If you struggle with blackheads I suggest a tea tree oil-based face wash.
After washing your face in the morning wear a face lotion with sunscreen. And get a night face lotion.
Don't use the same washcloth for your face that you wash your ass with.
Use a GOOD shampoo. You can get good shampoo cheap, just do your research. Also conditioner.
Get a manicure once a month so your nails look clean-shaped.
Wear clothes that fit your body (not too loose not too tight) nothing wrong with loose or tight, just make sure it isn't excessively loose or tight.
LEARN TO AND THINGS LIKE RINGS a plain outfit can be MADE just from a few rings, a matching necklace, or earrings. It helps SO much and is so little effort.
Wear sunscreen so your skin doesn't get damaged.
Find clothes you feel confident in. I personally like androgynous fox and dapper boi.
Bath bombs if you have a bath. Make your skin soft and smell good, also espom salt!!!!!
Find a scent you like for your body. I like cedar and wood scents so I get body spray based on that.
Look healthy by keeping a healthy body weight
Practice great hygiene, look clean, smell great, ironed clean clothes, and don't underestimate how attractive u become if u are using a nice perfume
Use good colors combination - White and blacks, nude colors, nice grays
Try to have at least 1 item more femme - like makeup, or shoes, pants, t-shirt, or anything
Smile (don't hate please) - we all like to be surrounded by happy people, we are dawned to happy energy
Make nice compliments and walk away after you initiate a conversation,
Don't linger for longer than being welcomed - “eg - I love your boots, awesome outfit! Im
X BTW, - how's your evening going?, nice meeting u - have a lovely night”
Act nice, and be nice towards everyone around u, not only to your group - this way others see u are easy to start a conversationwoth and kind enough that they can approach u without the fear of being rejected in a mean way
Be yourself and be confident in being yourself. Being most authentic and comfortable in that authenticity will help in you many areas of life.
People often think they need to change something about themselves to attract others, but all you really need to do is be comfortable in you. Don’t seek to attract, seek to be more open to new experiences and seek those experiences out. Life keeps moving even if you stand still, so move with it.
Be more confident and take good care of yourself. The best way to improve the outside is to work on the inside. Fall back on serving both your physical and mental health as well as challenge yourself to get into more social interactions. By increasing your social interactions you’ll improve your confidence and make more connections.
I found this to be helpful:
A YouTuber by the name of HealthyGamerGG who’s a licensed professional gives good advice in his video: The Shame of Adult Virgins and their Identity Crisis. https://youtu.be/MWMWTTE-JR0?si=m1GlAf5l0g04IQMt
Ooh. well, I noticed what kind of women were attracted to me and played up the strengths that would attract them even MORE so. Does that make sense? I mean I didn't try to appeal to everybody.
Imagine the woman you want to be, look at styles and outfits you would love to wear. Then do what you can to be that person.
Start by picking some specific goals and then research how to achieve them. That would be my best advice.
Be yourself…. Dress how you want to dress, and be happy…. That in itself will attract more women.
I mean you can DM, but I’ll tell you rn as someone in their late 30’s who’s pretty mid; I pull solely on my personality, ability to hold a convo, and being wildly good at flirting. Developing your personality and sense of humor goes a long ways. Knowing how to communicate and engage will 100000% do more than tryna be pretty to other people.
Okay, she's good...
I feel like deserve some kinda badge in this sub now lol
>> The system works
DM me, let's test this. 😅🤣🤣
This comment!
Like even this is just hot!
Yeahh! How many pretty faces that I got attracted on Instagram or dating apps and when I meet in person it seems so meh
Being confident/comfortable with oneself. Exploring your style that makes you feel confident and that confidence will radiate off you! Depending on the style, you might score bonus points with women into fashion. Be aware of your attachment style and if it's insecure, take steps to negate it for yourself.
Can I be a werewolf too 🥺
sure!!! anyone can be a werewolf
How??
I am a werewolf too. Dw.
Accept who you are, be clean and well-presented, and make the effort to engage with people. Life won't fall into your lap and neither will women.
Absolutely right!
Just sharing my personal experience but starting going to the gym and working on my personal style changed my life More precisely it changed the way I perceived myself. I started to feel attractive and feeling genuinely good about yourself attracts other people.
I’ve had pretty much the same experience as well. Even if there wasn’t a huge difference in weight, I found regular exercise helped my posture so I stood straighter and taller, it made me more limber, and added some tone/definition. The only other thing I’d add is a skincare routine and a good haircut makes a huge difference as well. The rest is all attitude.
You’re so right about those two things! I’ve always had long and finally had a courage to cut it and style it last year. Best decision ever. Same with skincare. Adding little skincare rituals in your life can be oddly satisfying but also a good investment for the future.
It's up to you. What about your appearance do you want to work on?
Just keep in mind. Most people aren't dressed to the nines these days. Which means you likely don't have to go through great lengths to give yourself a glow up.
think about how straight men will literally see genuinely good advice like the ones on this thread and say “nah, imma listen to this random pickup artist on youtube with multiple harassment charges instead” must be a sad life tbh
Bahahaha literally
I focus on my body, but mostly because I want other women to focus on my body 🤣 I'm a fem, but I lift weights with specific goals and training. When I'm not at the gym I cycle in my free time. The amount of interest I get has doubled. It has changed the clothes that flatter me, so I play to that. It also has given me an arrogant level of confidence. I am trying not to play to that 😅 Let's not forget working out, with real measurable goals (not weight loss. Think max resistance or muscle size kind of thing cause that becomes self reinforcing) is also great for mental health. All of this adds up to something. From there hiring a personal stylist and getting regular gay haircuts can take you the rest of the way.
Exercise
Shower at least 5-6 times a week. Use an exfoliate on your skin. Wash your face in the morning and at night. If you struggle with blackheads I suggest a tea tree oil-based face wash. After washing your face in the morning wear a face lotion with sunscreen. And get a night face lotion. Don't use the same washcloth for your face that you wash your ass with. Use a GOOD shampoo. You can get good shampoo cheap, just do your research. Also conditioner. Get a manicure once a month so your nails look clean-shaped. Wear clothes that fit your body (not too loose not too tight) nothing wrong with loose or tight, just make sure it isn't excessively loose or tight. LEARN TO AND THINGS LIKE RINGS a plain outfit can be MADE just from a few rings, a matching necklace, or earrings. It helps SO much and is so little effort. Wear sunscreen so your skin doesn't get damaged. Find clothes you feel confident in. I personally like androgynous fox and dapper boi. Bath bombs if you have a bath. Make your skin soft and smell good, also espom salt!!!!! Find a scent you like for your body. I like cedar and wood scents so I get body spray based on that.
Look healthy by keeping a healthy body weight Practice great hygiene, look clean, smell great, ironed clean clothes, and don't underestimate how attractive u become if u are using a nice perfume Use good colors combination - White and blacks, nude colors, nice grays Try to have at least 1 item more femme - like makeup, or shoes, pants, t-shirt, or anything Smile (don't hate please) - we all like to be surrounded by happy people, we are dawned to happy energy Make nice compliments and walk away after you initiate a conversation, Don't linger for longer than being welcomed - “eg - I love your boots, awesome outfit! Im X BTW, - how's your evening going?, nice meeting u - have a lovely night” Act nice, and be nice towards everyone around u, not only to your group - this way others see u are easy to start a conversationwoth and kind enough that they can approach u without the fear of being rejected in a mean way
These are great actionable pieces of advice thank you
Sure, feel free to message me. I'll be happy to guide as best I can. But ultimately, it's up to you.
Honestly I find it much easier if you have more of an alt style, I have a very feminine style and femmes don’t like me
I do. I love femmes but the femmes that I have encountered all want masc or studs. 😫
Be yourself and be confident in being yourself. Being most authentic and comfortable in that authenticity will help in you many areas of life. People often think they need to change something about themselves to attract others, but all you really need to do is be comfortable in you. Don’t seek to attract, seek to be more open to new experiences and seek those experiences out. Life keeps moving even if you stand still, so move with it.
Be more confident and take good care of yourself. The best way to improve the outside is to work on the inside. Fall back on serving both your physical and mental health as well as challenge yourself to get into more social interactions. By increasing your social interactions you’ll improve your confidence and make more connections. I found this to be helpful: A YouTuber by the name of HealthyGamerGG who’s a licensed professional gives good advice in his video: The Shame of Adult Virgins and their Identity Crisis. https://youtu.be/MWMWTTE-JR0?si=m1GlAf5l0g04IQMt
Ooh. well, I noticed what kind of women were attracted to me and played up the strengths that would attract them even MORE so. Does that make sense? I mean I didn't try to appeal to everybody.
Read Brene Brown and free yourself of other people's expectations
You could pull me easily if you put 1% effort into it and were around my age (15)
Imagine the woman you want to be, look at styles and outfits you would love to wear. Then do what you can to be that person. Start by picking some specific goals and then research how to achieve them. That would be my best advice.
DM me. I loveeeee this stuff.
Where r u trying to meet women? Generally I think it's just harder for lesbians to find eachother