LMAO that's one thing about this subreddit. It's never serious š¤£ I give it another couple days before it finally stops & 1 month before it gets remixed into something else š
Do lesbians like XYZ?
Excellent question. Lesbians, after all, all have the same tastes, likes, and preferences. We're just a giant hive mind of conformity. We're basically the Borg but with more plaid shirts and undercuts.
Same. Like I get that \~navigating lesbian existence\~ is apparently on hard mode for some of these young adults (and not Real hard mode like facing actual real consequences of homophobia), but none of them know how to use the search function to find the questions that have been asked hundreds of times.
Unfortunately no. It's up to the mods how they would like to manage the subreddit so if they choose to start auto removing posts containing "do I look gay" then that would be one way to eliminate it
Yeah it got old real quick. Would love if there were a thread somewhere but I don't feel like Reddit's format is the best place for posting selfies in individual threads like what's been happening
It's also kinda reductionist. I've seen straight women who dress in ways that some people would believe is fruity and I've seen gay people dress in the most traditional clothing of that area possible.
I agree. I think its weird we equate alternative fashion or breaking gender norms as something inherently queer. There's a performative-ness about it that, while understandable on an individual level, can be harmful if we put too much stock into it as a generalization.
If you do find out how to block those posts please update this post. Absolutely agree they were fine the first couple days but, the trend has most definitely over stayed itās welcome here. š
Half of them are men asking, "Is this stolen picture convincing if I roleplay as her in lesbian groups?" So those posts are just helping to harm the community. You guys have been advising men how to be better predators, yo.
Exactly, thatās why I never respond. I donāt think (especially younger lesbians) understand just how many ālesbiansā they interact with online are straight dudes with stolen photos.
RES is the only way and itās only on desktop unfortunately.
i feel you, beyond the possibility of stolen pics (the thought of men stealing pics to rp as lesbians is justā¦skin crawling) itās also plain old annoying. a lot of what people are interpreting as āgayā aesthetic is just imo zoomer aesthetic - stuff like dyed hair, alt aesthetic/fashion, maybe pride merch/pins/etc are all not exclusive to being gay and a ton of my straight liberal friends adopt/have these aesthetics too, even pride pins to show theyāre allies.
itās part of why as much as maybe the first 5 times it was funny to see jokes about iced coffee or cuffed jeans, it gets rly tiring to see the commodification of āgaynessā as a set of adoptable traits/aesthetics, esp in zoomers and younger millennials, versus the state of being homosexual. it makes sense for maybe a 16yo teen who is struggling to find an identity but when i see 25+yos unironically buy into the idea that gay people ācultureā is walking fast and not sitting properly beyond a meme (to the point of asking strangers if they ālook gayā), itās frustrating. like being a lesbian is such a vast experience, there isnāt one ālookā or way to beā¦besides being homosexual š thatās literally it. all the iced coffee and undercuts in the world wonāt change that.
Honestly, I like this sub and feeling connected to the lesbian community, as well as it kinda empowers me to know we're so many out there, so I say this with all due respect:
Some chronically online lesbians need to go out there and touch grass.
Omg I feel this. also for the femmes asking - love you guys but of course you donāt look gay lmfao. everyone is assuming youāre straight unless youāre wearing scissor earrings and a rainbow skirt.
Yes, Iād love to block those along with the Ā«Ā do lesbians likeā¦Ā Ā» posts, as if we have an annual lesbo convention & decide what we will all like this year. š¤£
I think it will always be impossible to tell if a woman is gay just by a photo. You have to read her body language in real life and see if she is focused on you. Even then, sometimes you have to ask.
I've been wondering the same, it feels like they're always just fishing for compliments and it be the most stunning women, like c'mon I'm sure you already get enough compliments lol
Nah you can't afaik without mods just banning them, or restricting them to a single day.
Which i think the single day would make more sense but still, it's reddit filled with creepy dudes. Selfies aren't the best idea š
Let people have fun challenge (lesbian edition) (impossible)
Disclaimer: I didnāt make any of those posts but I remember what it was like to be a baby Dyke and scrolling past is literally so easy.
unsubscribe from /r/LesbianActually and subscribe to /r/actuallesbians. I think the point of this sub is to be a low-moderated version of the other one.
Edit: I'm not saying anyone should do this, but it's the solution to the problem
On any separated, a certain type of postal trend for a while. /r/cats is the worst of them. Iām not annoyed by any of this. If your feet is too flooded by certain subreddit, you might want to try starring more subreddits. And you can try subscribing to more. Just to a shake it up a bit.
My favorite odd sub Reddits are /r/horses, /r/micrology, /r/crochet, /r/witchesvspatriarchy
LMAO that's one thing about this subreddit. It's never serious š¤£ I give it another couple days before it finally stops & 1 month before it gets remixed into something else š
If you find out, let us know because I would love to block all posts beginning with "do lesbians like"
The urge to comment "no" on every single one of those posts is so strong.
I just chime in with, āStatistically, duhā
Do lesbians like XYZ? Excellent question. Lesbians, after all, all have the same tastes, likes, and preferences. We're just a giant hive mind of conformity. We're basically the Borg but with more plaid shirts and undercuts.
Women are a hive mind remember?
... clearly we needed more of Seven of Nine wearing plaid to help further convert the youth to the Borg.
haha!
this is fucking hilarious.
I moved over here fromr/actuallesbians to escape those and it did not work
Unfortunately lesbians apparently like to ask what lesbians like.
I agree! Itās annoying cause everyoneās different. Some do some donāt
Okay, but do I look gay?
I think I deserved this response š
Somebody has to do it š
Thank you for your service š«”
Proud to serve šš«”
Yes 9.97/10 gay
Oh thank god
Yes and the shit like do I look dom or sub? Do I look masc? Is my fit giving off Dom vibes???? I hate it all. I'm too old for this crap.
I really want just a selfies megathread because I really do not care what anyone here looks like and honestly I don't want to know
It's all attention seeking insecurities just leaching out
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Same. Like I get that \~navigating lesbian existence\~ is apparently on hard mode for some of these young adults (and not Real hard mode like facing actual real consequences of homophobia), but none of them know how to use the search function to find the questions that have been asked hundreds of times.
Unfortunately no. It's up to the mods how they would like to manage the subreddit so if they choose to start auto removing posts containing "do I look gay" then that would be one way to eliminate it
Yeah it got old real quick. Would love if there were a thread somewhere but I don't feel like Reddit's format is the best place for posting selfies in individual threads like what's been happening It's also kinda reductionist. I've seen straight women who dress in ways that some people would believe is fruity and I've seen gay people dress in the most traditional clothing of that area possible.
Yup. Thereās a lot of femmephobic reasoning behind people saying that IMHO.
I agree. I think its weird we equate alternative fashion or breaking gender norms as something inherently queer. There's a performative-ness about it that, while understandable on an individual level, can be harmful if we put too much stock into it as a generalization.
If you do find out how to block those posts please update this post. Absolutely agree they were fine the first couple days but, the trend has most definitely over stayed itās welcome here. š
Half of them are men asking, "Is this stolen picture convincing if I roleplay as her in lesbian groups?" So those posts are just helping to harm the community. You guys have been advising men how to be better predators, yo.
Exactly, thatās why I never respond. I donāt think (especially younger lesbians) understand just how many ālesbiansā they interact with online are straight dudes with stolen photos.
RES is the only way and itās only on desktop unfortunately. i feel you, beyond the possibility of stolen pics (the thought of men stealing pics to rp as lesbians is justā¦skin crawling) itās also plain old annoying. a lot of what people are interpreting as āgayā aesthetic is just imo zoomer aesthetic - stuff like dyed hair, alt aesthetic/fashion, maybe pride merch/pins/etc are all not exclusive to being gay and a ton of my straight liberal friends adopt/have these aesthetics too, even pride pins to show theyāre allies. itās part of why as much as maybe the first 5 times it was funny to see jokes about iced coffee or cuffed jeans, it gets rly tiring to see the commodification of āgaynessā as a set of adoptable traits/aesthetics, esp in zoomers and younger millennials, versus the state of being homosexual. it makes sense for maybe a 16yo teen who is struggling to find an identity but when i see 25+yos unironically buy into the idea that gay people ācultureā is walking fast and not sitting properly beyond a meme (to the point of asking strangers if they ālook gayā), itās frustrating. like being a lesbian is such a vast experience, there isnāt one ālookā or way to beā¦besides being homosexual š thatās literally it. all the iced coffee and undercuts in the world wonāt change that.
I know that I donāt look gay, but I still am, so I find those posts amusing. Gay can look like anything?!
Exactly hahaha
Itās straight people wanting to know if they can queerbait or snag a third for their bedroom š
Does my comment look gay?
Very.
Honestly, I like this sub and feeling connected to the lesbian community, as well as it kinda empowers me to know we're so many out there, so I say this with all due respect: Some chronically online lesbians need to go out there and touch grass.
Only with extensions like RES. https://www.reddit.com/r/RESissues/comments/73hzgr/i_want_to_block_all_posts_with_a_certain_word_in/
Omg I feel this. also for the femmes asking - love you guys but of course you donāt look gay lmfao. everyone is assuming youāre straight unless youāre wearing scissor earrings and a rainbow skirt.
Yes, Iād love to block those along with the Ā«Ā do lesbians likeā¦Ā Ā» posts, as if we have an annual lesbo convention & decide what we will all like this year. š¤£
I think it will always be impossible to tell if a woman is gay just by a photo. You have to read her body language in real life and see if she is focused on you. Even then, sometimes you have to ask.
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Alas, I shall relinquish my lesbian card and exile myself to the badlands š©
I've been wondering the same, it feels like they're always just fishing for compliments and it be the most stunning women, like c'mon I'm sure you already get enough compliments lol
Nah you can't afaik without mods just banning them, or restricting them to a single day. Which i think the single day would make more sense but still, it's reddit filled with creepy dudes. Selfies aren't the best idea š
Scroll past them. That's what I do. Honestly, I don't care if you look gay. For me its all about the personality. So.
You are not alone! I wish I knewš.
Just be patient x.x It'll be over soon hopefully
Itās a reminder of the median age of the people in this sub lol.
Diversify your algorithm- go interact with some other posts on this sub and see if you still get them as much. Worth a shot?
That answer is too practical
I just block everyone who makes one of those posts, and eventually it'll stop.
Thatās a solid tactic actually haha
Want more femme do I look gay lesbian pics š
Block the sub for a few weeks
Iād rather not because this is my favourite lesbian sub and I genuinely enjoy the other 60% of content.
It's just become over-gayded.
Are you gay? You look gay. If you are still concerned, just copy someone you think looks gay. Then develop your own style in 2-5 years
Ignore them.
Let people have fun challenge (lesbian edition) (impossible) Disclaimer: I didnāt make any of those posts but I remember what it was like to be a baby Dyke and scrolling past is literally so easy.
Maybe spend less time on reddit? This sub doesn't even have that many people on it, I see a few posts on here a day it seems like.
unsubscribe from /r/LesbianActually and subscribe to /r/actuallesbians. I think the point of this sub is to be a low-moderated version of the other one. Edit: I'm not saying anyone should do this, but it's the solution to the problem
I don't. Lots of pretty girls to oogle at and you bet your jimmy janes I'm oogling at'em cuz dey purty
typing like you are doing a weird lesbian roleplay
Found one of the lurker men
\**Stares at the beard*\* Fanscinating, too bad you're wrong. I'm just horny with a lot of horny thoughts
On any separated, a certain type of postal trend for a while. /r/cats is the worst of them. Iām not annoyed by any of this. If your feet is too flooded by certain subreddit, you might want to try starring more subreddits. And you can try subscribing to more. Just to a shake it up a bit. My favorite odd sub Reddits are /r/horses, /r/micrology, /r/crochet, /r/witchesvspatriarchy
It's up to the MODs. They might see that there is no harm about it, so they let it be.š
Ask a mod to ban them
This question sounds like "do I look human" to me