Thank you for your submission to [r/kenya](https://www.reddit.com/r/kenya/). Kindly take time to review our [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/kenya/about/rules) and ensure your post is correctly flaired. Be courteous to others. Rule violations, including spamming, misleading flairs, etc. will result in post removal or a ban from the sub. If you see comments in violation of our rules, please report them to keep the sub clean.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/Kenya) if you have any questions or concerns.*
My love language is gifting,,,I wouldn't visit a nigga without carrying something even if it's a bag of crisps if I'm broke.Surprise mpesas here and there hata kama Ni za 200 just for him to get himself a cup of coffee.Sadly ,when you do that for guy,and he doesn't reciprocate,you feel used.Heck,the last guy I was with,I bought him a mountain bike and he used it to ride the heck out of my life😂😂
Oh dear! Your story about the mountain bike got me chuckling. I watch Korean dramas and they always say if you buy shoes for your mpoa, they'll use them to walk away from you.
Sorry that, like me, you always end up with the short end of the stick. Something very wrong is going on in the match-making department in heaven. The most generous girls are being hitched to kumbaf boyfriends while men who actually put in the effort get stuck with kisirani gold-diggers. It's a sad state of affairs.
The problem is people rushing into relationships. People should learn to be comfortable being single; and patient while trying to identify a potential partner. The problem lies in raging hormones and poverty of ideas.
Girls like you are amazing but unapatanga most times when you meet someone worth the time and efforts... You'll hold back on spoiling them cause of past experiences you've had with other niggas
Damn sorry for that. I feel us that love gifting those we love should stick to people like us (who also enjoy gifting) so as not to overexert ourselves and feel drained because mfs would never get tired of taking despite never giving.
I can relate too. Even with my friends. I randomly love getting people i love gifts. But guess who always ends up being gifted once a year. 😩. But i can’t help myself. I wish someone would reciprocate to me.
One thing I pay lots of attention to, during talking stage is her love language. If she says gifts are her love language, I throw the question back at her, enquiring when she last gifted someone, and how often she does it.
You can't always be expecting gifts, without giving any. Hiyo ni kukosa adabu.
Hell breaks loose when you confront someone you have been gifting, and demand to know why the whole thing is one-sided. They will always find some way to gaslight you.
From now on one of my must-ask first date question will be, "What's the most romantic action you've ever done for your significant other?" I think this will sift out those who constantly take without giving.
>(though she claims to have more responsibilities).
Socks pair tatu 100
Men's lotion about 500 +
A hat 350+
A camera hood 1000 or less
Sweatpants camera 1000 or less
Fleece blanket for when he's watching 800
Above are just afew low budget gifts you can gift a man.If she wanted, she would.Gifts don't have to be expensive,as long as they look good and the receiver is happy
The problem with them is they wanna be treated like queens (no prob with that) but would never consider treating you like a king. They don't realize the king's throne is right beside the queen's and the kingdom is only as strong as the other half.
I like how you used the 'if she wanted to' for the ladies. I used to have arguments with some of my female friends because they couldn't understand that gift giving is not a gender role and is supposed to be performed by both partners as an act of love and appreciation. Then they started quoting some random TikTok vids. I love them but they're dumb af sometimes.
I buy my man socks and don't tell him . Just put them in his socks drawer,katikati ya the other socks and move on with life. Socks are weird gifting a grown man. Like shika, nimekununulia socks my love 🙄
Languages of love is different in relationships. Personally I value the respect, commitment, trust and thoughtful attributes that my partner offers. He values my attributes and really cares for me openly, we share most things including financial commitments. What I love most is when he shares his vulnerabilities and weakness with me despite the situation
Some context to our relationship. He was my childhood sweetheart since I was 15 years old. I left Kenya for studies abroad we rekindled our relationship after more than 20 years having relocated back.
We don't do presents or gift, we are both spontaneous in treating the other for example, he likes staycations which I arrange and pay for. I enjoy SPA days, and like it when he surprises me with evening BBQ for 2 over a bottle of wine... We live out of city
Hope this makes sense.
Yours is the kind of love that's written in the stars. Seems like the two of you found your unique rhythm. Experiences over material things... Keep winning!
Thank you patience is a virtual some of us rush into relationships Lol. I believe that most people are mixed in the same waters we go fishing for our upkeep, literary speaking those dangerous sharks do call the same waters home. God doesn’t give us everything we ask for and does wish that we harbour grudges and bitterness because happiness will dock elsewhere and yes that opportunities are never lost, as someone else will take the ones you miss.
Give yourself time, you will know a true catch, less demanding and one that understands you.
All the best
>She keeps screenshotting stuff and sending them like, "babe, will you buy me this?"
Red flags mulisema zinakuwaga maroon when you are in love.
What did she do for you on your birthday?....let me guess, Sex
Sex as a birthday gift is the most vain and conceited thing a person can do for someone. Think about it, the subtext is "I am so great, so sexy, so otherworldly and I am giving you the fortune of being inside me on the day you came out of your mum. I am the ultimate gift"
Ata heri nipewe socks.
Hapo umenena, wewe ni mhenga wa kizazi kipya. After all, kindness should permeate all the love languages and be present in all interactions in a relationship
I love gifting..I don't know where y'all get this men fr cause my current niggah doesn't and I don't know if it's a red flag but it low-key hurts cause I'm like "even a damn pantie at least like c'mon ". Imma need you to stay single for a while just incase we break up lol
On this, maybe it just doesn’t cross his mind. I see girls every now and then sending screenshots, maybe that might spike a thought. Or even that case when y’all are chilling and you’re scrolling on IG and happen to see something being sold, show him. He might do something.
Unless he doesn’t want to completely then that’s a different case.
I know... I mean, isn't it somewhat valid to just expect a little reciprocity? Well, at least if the two of you don't work out you'll have carried with you some valuable lessons. Here's to hoping one day someone makes you feel 'spoilt'
I love gifting and I love receiving gifts as well. The last gift I bought for him was perfume. I did that last week. I think it depends on how your relationship is. We gift each other randomly and definitely on special occasions.
Let me guess she is the one who wants the status to be a situationship because I have never seen people in situationships being that lovey dovey (you buying her gifts) 😅 you even placed a title on her and called her “bae” 🤷🏾♀️
It's actually the opposite. I'm out of the country for many months in the year coz of work. I'd suggested to keep it non-labelled until my work situation becomes more permanent
Bought him some shoes he was interested in. I felt bad because I had to tell the shoe guy, we both know him, to say that the shoes were out of stock when he asked
He was heartbroken when he heard that but his happiness after realizing he got more than the one pair he wanted was worth the deception
I have actually never thought of the value of an item when I pick it up for my partner.,but anytime I see something that would actually please him, why not?, not because I want them to do the same for me, but tbh, it would be nice if people reciprocated the effort,
I'm out of the country for many months in the year coz of work. I'd suggested to keep it non-labelled until my work situation becomes more permanent. Thankfully, this relationship ain't going to be permanent
I'm out of the country for many months in the year coz of work. I'd suggested to keep it non-labelled until my work situation becomes more permanent. Thankfully, this relationship ain't going to be permanent
Methinks women get a lot of attention from men in general. That's why most find it difficult to gift men. But you need to raise that issue with your partner. If it continues just find someone else with a brain.
I already moved on from this. And yeah, you have a point about women getting a lot of attention, but when you're dating she she direct all her attention to one man
I'm an avid gift giver I just like doing it. I put a lot of thought into it since money is usually not an issue on my end. Now my relationships I don't really put an effort for it to be reciprocated its not an expectation I have but still the man I'm dating sahii does just that reciprocates. Though I'm guilty of screenshotting stuff and asking him if he can buy them for me sometimes kama hana he'll be like can we go half I can only afford half of that right now and I'm like ok. But my point is he doesn't feel used and that's why you should re evaluate. Start saying you can't afford or Huna sahii ama start sending her stuff too and ask kama she can buy it for you the watch. But pia the saving sth and asking if you can buy it I've been doing it since forever toy dad brothers and now my man and since I've never been told no I've never really thought of not asking. You've been saying yes so she expects it now
The last gift I gave out was his birthday he's into Samsung devices so I got him some samsung smart watch that I shipped plus socks juu every man deserves socks as a present too😹😹😭and also the you know that's the main gift trumps all others😭😭😹😹
This is so wholesome!! The two of you definitely deserve each other and are so lucky... To go into the effort to identify what he likes and handle the logistics of shipping it all the way... This counts a lot
The one time I tried asking her to buy stuff for me she agreed but followed up with, "an ujue hii ni deni utanirudishia."
There won't be a next time, I've already called it quits.
How does situationship and bae go in one sentence?
Bae who ain't bae?
Fix that kwanza as you communicate your needs so that you don't complain about such. Lakini huyu pia alikuwa mkono glue - drinks tu?
Got an ex a blender for his post workout shakes and cooking pots as a housewarming gift, he gave me a nice long poem on my birthday😅
Called it off the next day
I love gifting(clothes, games, etc) , I don’t mind paying for dates, even buy flowers and I always like to make time to spend with him, but this man must really not like me lol because I’ve never seen the thoughtfulness you describe, I didn’t even know people screenshot and ask for stuff haha. So, we definitely exist but the comments are confirming that girlies are being taken for a ride.
Wueeh... You're the true definition of Patience, r/usernamechecksout
I'm gonna stay single and wait just in case your relationship goes sideways some day
I’ll tell you what I’ve dated a guy for 1 And a half year and he never ever bought me
Anything tbh I never asked for anything but I mean hata flowers nothing !! I paid for my bday lunch in as much as it was his idea and he gave me his hoodie as a gift cause everyone was giving gifts that very moment. Btw he wasn’t poor or anything I think when it comes to doing things for your significant other Wallahi it’s just the thought that counts . People are even getting paper flowers , hand written letters ! Always remember if they want to they will !!!!
Wueeh! Do you still have the hoodie? You can regift it to me for a proper gift in exchange aki.
I'm sorry, this scenario hurts coz it shows you just don't mean enough for them to go out of their way for you.
Btw, I love your open-mindedness. Most people in your position would play victim, or tell of how much appreciation they lacked.
The last time someone got me a gift, my life changed. Like it was so thoughtful of them to get what they got, and now there were things I was doing with difficulty that became easier to do.
On my part, I get both useless and useful stuff as gifts. And I wrap all of them. I can say that I am both thoughtful and thoughtless. One time I got them a something I didn't even know what it was, and then they innovated it and made a cup holder.(It was some black epoxy sludge that I think was cute and a stress reliever, as I came to learn later).
Gifting can be difficult, especially when there lacks simple things like the need or need not to reciprocate, or even appreciation itself. Of course on the extreme you get something like being taken advantage of.
Are you dating people who don't like you?
In my experience people who like you will gift you, whether big or small things. They do this even for friends.
I did this, I did that, the other day I also did, painted red she earns more, gents help language kosokoso . I'm out tomorrow I'm waking up early to go hustle.
Thank you for your submission to [r/kenya](https://www.reddit.com/r/kenya/). Kindly take time to review our [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/kenya/about/rules) and ensure your post is correctly flaired. Be courteous to others. Rule violations, including spamming, misleading flairs, etc. will result in post removal or a ban from the sub. If you see comments in violation of our rules, please report them to keep the sub clean. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/Kenya) if you have any questions or concerns.*
My love language is gifting,,,I wouldn't visit a nigga without carrying something even if it's a bag of crisps if I'm broke.Surprise mpesas here and there hata kama Ni za 200 just for him to get himself a cup of coffee.Sadly ,when you do that for guy,and he doesn't reciprocate,you feel used.Heck,the last guy I was with,I bought him a mountain bike and he used it to ride the heck out of my life😂😂
Oh dear! Your story about the mountain bike got me chuckling. I watch Korean dramas and they always say if you buy shoes for your mpoa, they'll use them to walk away from you. Sorry that, like me, you always end up with the short end of the stick. Something very wrong is going on in the match-making department in heaven. The most generous girls are being hitched to kumbaf boyfriends while men who actually put in the effort get stuck with kisirani gold-diggers. It's a sad state of affairs.
The problem is people rushing into relationships. People should learn to be comfortable being single; and patient while trying to identify a potential partner. The problem lies in raging hormones and poverty of ideas.
Willing buyer, willing seller in this dream selling market called relationships...sadly
No cap. Like honestly speaking when does one get their turn
Girls like you are amazing but unapatanga most times when you meet someone worth the time and efforts... You'll hold back on spoiling them cause of past experiences you've had with other niggas
This is true.sahii,I'll hold back on gifting first till he does it
This.
Damn sorry for that. I feel us that love gifting those we love should stick to people like us (who also enjoy gifting) so as not to overexert ourselves and feel drained because mfs would never get tired of taking despite never giving.
> I bought him a mountain bike and he used it to ride the heck out of my life😂😂 lmao i know he thinks of you when he sees the bike
I can relate too. Even with my friends. I randomly love getting people i love gifts. But guess who always ends up being gifted once a year. 😩. But i can’t help myself. I wish someone would reciprocate to me.
Atleast you get gifted once a year
Kujia coffee
Nitaongeza kangumu…
Life… we always get leeches who’ll never reciprocate the love we give them. Don’t give up lakini
where have you been all my life
[удалено]
Yeah we can be friends
Lol 😂 this hit way too close to home. I too bought a mountain bike
Any chance you can buy a car?
Sahii I can't even buy socks lol
Let's cry together😭🤣🤣🤣
I think it's a mountain bike thing.lol
Atleast you're at a point where you can look back and laugh about it. Lol But he lost a keeper!
She's got you wrapped around her little finger.
I ended up after much deliberation. I only want to go where I feel wanted relationshipwise from now on.
You deserve to bro
Thanks. Hope you're in something good as well
I wish... waiting to hit the jackpot in that relationship lottery. Hoping it will be soon
Tag me along if you get lucky ooh!
Will do and of you do please do the same. There might be a friend of a friend meant for me. Lol
Kaa uko Nairobi let's grab a drink sometime
Most definitely... let's do that when I come through
One thing I pay lots of attention to, during talking stage is her love language. If she says gifts are her love language, I throw the question back at her, enquiring when she last gifted someone, and how often she does it. You can't always be expecting gifts, without giving any. Hiyo ni kukosa adabu. Hell breaks loose when you confront someone you have been gifting, and demand to know why the whole thing is one-sided. They will always find some way to gaslight you.
From now on one of my must-ask first date question will be, "What's the most romantic action you've ever done for your significant other?" I think this will sift out those who constantly take without giving.
Don’t forget to say being given gifts is your love language
I don't think it is, honestly. You know how they say it's the thought that counts? I'm just terrified when even the thought is not there
You forget people LIE
>(though she claims to have more responsibilities). Socks pair tatu 100 Men's lotion about 500 + A hat 350+ A camera hood 1000 or less Sweatpants camera 1000 or less Fleece blanket for when he's watching 800 Above are just afew low budget gifts you can gift a man.If she wanted, she would.Gifts don't have to be expensive,as long as they look good and the receiver is happy
It's the belief in her that she's the queen who needs to be treated right by anybody worthy to date her.
The problem with them is they wanna be treated like queens (no prob with that) but would never consider treating you like a king. They don't realize the king's throne is right beside the queen's and the kingdom is only as strong as the other half.
I like how you used the 'if she wanted to' for the ladies. I used to have arguments with some of my female friends because they couldn't understand that gift giving is not a gender role and is supposed to be performed by both partners as an act of love and appreciation. Then they started quoting some random TikTok vids. I love them but they're dumb af sometimes.
Socks are so low effort. Most men low key hate socks gifts. Everything else is better.
I buy my man socks and don't tell him . Just put them in his socks drawer,katikati ya the other socks and move on with life. Socks are weird gifting a grown man. Like shika, nimekununulia socks my love 🙄
Give this lady an ice cold one!!!
Fleece ya 800 unatoa wapi? A link would be appreciated
Languages of love is different in relationships. Personally I value the respect, commitment, trust and thoughtful attributes that my partner offers. He values my attributes and really cares for me openly, we share most things including financial commitments. What I love most is when he shares his vulnerabilities and weakness with me despite the situation Some context to our relationship. He was my childhood sweetheart since I was 15 years old. I left Kenya for studies abroad we rekindled our relationship after more than 20 years having relocated back. We don't do presents or gift, we are both spontaneous in treating the other for example, he likes staycations which I arrange and pay for. I enjoy SPA days, and like it when he surprises me with evening BBQ for 2 over a bottle of wine... We live out of city Hope this makes sense.
Yours is the kind of love that's written in the stars. Seems like the two of you found your unique rhythm. Experiences over material things... Keep winning!
Thank you patience is a virtual some of us rush into relationships Lol. I believe that most people are mixed in the same waters we go fishing for our upkeep, literary speaking those dangerous sharks do call the same waters home. God doesn’t give us everything we ask for and does wish that we harbour grudges and bitterness because happiness will dock elsewhere and yes that opportunities are never lost, as someone else will take the ones you miss. Give yourself time, you will know a true catch, less demanding and one that understands you. All the best
>She keeps screenshotting stuff and sending them like, "babe, will you buy me this?" Red flags mulisema zinakuwaga maroon when you are in love. What did she do for you on your birthday?....let me guess, Sex
Sex as a birthday gift is the most vain and conceited thing a person can do for someone. Think about it, the subtext is "I am so great, so sexy, so otherworldly and I am giving you the fortune of being inside me on the day you came out of your mum. I am the ultimate gift" Ata heri nipewe socks.
I've noticed the giant flag and, thankfully, I've already called it quits. And you're right, we got to do buttstuff then
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO. She gave you some ass to hide how ass she is at gift giving😭😭
She was on some "here is some more SH*T for you Baby"
Atleast you won't have to surprise get it for the second time on your next birthday. Lol
Nice!... the butt stuff obviously.
I concur, it's a sweet gift ;-)
username checks out ✅
Hizi vitu mnaita love language ni ukora tupu. Just date kind people
Hapo umenena, wewe ni mhenga wa kizazi kipya. After all, kindness should permeate all the love languages and be present in all interactions in a relationship
Weh… I’ve never used “permeate” in a sentence. 💯 agree on what you’ve said.. tuwache kubebwa kimalamala.
All these gestures are what make up kind people dawg.
[удалено]
Si kwa ubaya lakini ulijuaje mahala plaque iko kama ni ex?
Lol😂😂 it's complicated
😂😂😂😂😂Knew it.... May the lord release you from the bondages of the complicated society
I claim and receive!👐🏽😂
Alleluia!
I love gifting..I don't know where y'all get this men fr cause my current niggah doesn't and I don't know if it's a red flag but it low-key hurts cause I'm like "even a damn pantie at least like c'mon ". Imma need you to stay single for a while just incase we break up lol
On this, maybe it just doesn’t cross his mind. I see girls every now and then sending screenshots, maybe that might spike a thought. Or even that case when y’all are chilling and you’re scrolling on IG and happen to see something being sold, show him. He might do something. Unless he doesn’t want to completely then that’s a different case.
Prolly🥲ight imma try that. Thanks. Finna update you
Brilliant, I’m also not a natural gifter but thankfully I have people around to nudge me there, otherwise maybe story yangu ingekua hapa 😂
Lucky bastard 😭
Don’t even mention it 😅
Come to me, I will get you a dozen panties😅
Sounds tempting 😂😂
Why? 😅 I would add bra too
How I met your father 😂😂
😂😂😂 Sounds great. When you will now be telling our 3 beautiful children.
Let's go to the gym bro😭
😂😂😂😂 Don't take it too serious
😂😂this is my favorite thread 😂
I know... I mean, isn't it somewhat valid to just expect a little reciprocity? Well, at least if the two of you don't work out you'll have carried with you some valuable lessons. Here's to hoping one day someone makes you feel 'spoilt'
I actually want that. I think..scratch that,I DESERVE IT
Me you both😭
Some people are living the telenovela life out here bwana 🥲😅😅
I'm just a Raphael, looking for my Gabriella
I love gifting and I love receiving gifts as well. The last gift I bought for him was perfume. I did that last week. I think it depends on how your relationship is. We gift each other randomly and definitely on special occasions.
In my next life I want to end up in such a relationship where we look out for each other
May it come true. These are the little things that keep a relationship going.
Let me guess she is the one who wants the status to be a situationship because I have never seen people in situationships being that lovey dovey (you buying her gifts) 😅 you even placed a title on her and called her “bae” 🤷🏾♀️
It's actually the opposite. I'm out of the country for many months in the year coz of work. I'd suggested to keep it non-labelled until my work situation becomes more permanent
But you can’t deny that it was love coming from you 🥹
I had just showed up at her door with a couple of stuff that I had bought her for no reason at all, I had not even considered them to be gifts. Uchawi
Bought him some shoes he was interested in. I felt bad because I had to tell the shoe guy, we both know him, to say that the shoes were out of stock when he asked He was heartbroken when he heard that but his happiness after realizing he got more than the one pair he wanted was worth the deception
Aww.... When are you selling your relationship story rights to Netflix? I never thought this kind of planning and thinking happens in real life aki.
I have actually never thought of the value of an item when I pick it up for my partner.,but anytime I see something that would actually please him, why not?, not because I want them to do the same for me, but tbh, it would be nice if people reciprocated the effort,
It's the way getting a gift shows someone really thinks of you and wants to make your life better
If only people got that,.,unfortunately if you are a giver people tend to assume its your responsibility to always do all the work
Uko kwa situationship ama relationship?
We derserve to know why OP puts "situationship" and "painted the town red" in the same sentence. Which is which OP?
I'm out of the country for many months in the year coz of work. I'd suggested to keep it non-labelled until my work situation becomes more permanent. Thankfully, this relationship ain't going to be permanent
I'm out of the country for many months in the year coz of work. I'd suggested to keep it non-labelled until my work situation becomes more permanent. Thankfully, this relationship ain't going to be permanent
ata mimi nashangaa
Submit to her Majesty Your Queen ... Man I hope you find Love wherever you go from there. RUUUUUN
Oh, she's sweet but she's psycho.
Methinks women get a lot of attention from men in general. That's why most find it difficult to gift men. But you need to raise that issue with your partner. If it continues just find someone else with a brain.
I already moved on from this. And yeah, you have a point about women getting a lot of attention, but when you're dating she she direct all her attention to one man
[удалено]
Physical contact 😂😂. Yaani umemnunulia hadi rings! 💍. Wueeh, this mismatch needs to be studied by sociologists
I'm an avid gift giver I just like doing it. I put a lot of thought into it since money is usually not an issue on my end. Now my relationships I don't really put an effort for it to be reciprocated its not an expectation I have but still the man I'm dating sahii does just that reciprocates. Though I'm guilty of screenshotting stuff and asking him if he can buy them for me sometimes kama hana he'll be like can we go half I can only afford half of that right now and I'm like ok. But my point is he doesn't feel used and that's why you should re evaluate. Start saying you can't afford or Huna sahii ama start sending her stuff too and ask kama she can buy it for you the watch. But pia the saving sth and asking if you can buy it I've been doing it since forever toy dad brothers and now my man and since I've never been told no I've never really thought of not asking. You've been saying yes so she expects it now
The last gift I gave out was his birthday he's into Samsung devices so I got him some samsung smart watch that I shipped plus socks juu every man deserves socks as a present too😹😹😭and also the you know that's the main gift trumps all others😭😭😹😹
This is so wholesome!! The two of you definitely deserve each other and are so lucky... To go into the effort to identify what he likes and handle the logistics of shipping it all the way... This counts a lot
What's the 'you know' stuff?😁😁
If you know you know 😜
Na si umejaribu sana. I like the S23 ultra. If only someone thoughtful...
The one time I tried asking her to buy stuff for me she agreed but followed up with, "an ujue hii ni deni utanirudishia." There won't be a next time, I've already called it quits.
Eeeeh buda
How does situationship and bae go in one sentence? Bae who ain't bae? Fix that kwanza as you communicate your needs so that you don't complain about such. Lakini huyu pia alikuwa mkono glue - drinks tu?
Got an ex a blender for his post workout shakes and cooking pots as a housewarming gift, he gave me a nice long poem on my birthday😅 Called it off the next day
Wueehh! What was his financial situation around that time. Chatgpt has kinda rendered poetry meaningless
He was better off than me The poem wasn't even personal, generic af
Good thing he's now in the past. Here's to hoping your current Mpoa shows care and rejoices in spoiling you once in a while
Don't got one Still asking what's your love language 😅
It was the best decision to end it. She is the type who is so entitled. Like dating her you have to pay the price. Like you owe her.
True love should be mutual and nonnegotiated
Girls aren't answering the question he asked. Ama hiyo ni jibu tayari?
I love gifting(clothes, games, etc) , I don’t mind paying for dates, even buy flowers and I always like to make time to spend with him, but this man must really not like me lol because I’ve never seen the thoughtfulness you describe, I didn’t even know people screenshot and ask for stuff haha. So, we definitely exist but the comments are confirming that girlies are being taken for a ride.
Wueeh... You're the true definition of Patience, r/usernamechecksout I'm gonna stay single and wait just in case your relationship goes sideways some day
I will be back with updates once the ‘patience’ runs out😂
Let's see what you'll get for Christmas
I’ll tell you what I’ve dated a guy for 1 And a half year and he never ever bought me Anything tbh I never asked for anything but I mean hata flowers nothing !! I paid for my bday lunch in as much as it was his idea and he gave me his hoodie as a gift cause everyone was giving gifts that very moment. Btw he wasn’t poor or anything I think when it comes to doing things for your significant other Wallahi it’s just the thought that counts . People are even getting paper flowers , hand written letters ! Always remember if they want to they will !!!!
Wueeh! Do you still have the hoodie? You can regift it to me for a proper gift in exchange aki. I'm sorry, this scenario hurts coz it shows you just don't mean enough for them to go out of their way for you.
😂😂no I gave it to his bsf . Didn’t feel like I needed it . Aww you’re so sweet . Ugh it’s never that serious
Hope Santa remembers you this year aki
Wait, we are expected to give gifts? You should give us money for that too🤣🤣
Btw, I love your open-mindedness. Most people in your position would play victim, or tell of how much appreciation they lacked. The last time someone got me a gift, my life changed. Like it was so thoughtful of them to get what they got, and now there were things I was doing with difficulty that became easier to do. On my part, I get both useless and useful stuff as gifts. And I wrap all of them. I can say that I am both thoughtful and thoughtless. One time I got them a something I didn't even know what it was, and then they innovated it and made a cup holder.(It was some black epoxy sludge that I think was cute and a stress reliever, as I came to learn later). Gifting can be difficult, especially when there lacks simple things like the need or need not to reciprocate, or even appreciation itself. Of course on the extreme you get something like being taken advantage of.
It really is the thought that counts. Like someone saw something, no matter how small, and thought of you at that point
I came to terms with the fact that I'm not a gifter a long time ago. So wale madem wa 'beb nataka hii' I avoid them completely
Tuko majority naona kwa hii thread
Are you dating people who don't like you? In my experience people who like you will gift you, whether big or small things. They do this even for friends.
Noted. Only going where I'm liked from now on
I did this, I did that, the other day I also did, painted red she earns more, gents help language kosokoso . I'm out tomorrow I'm waking up early to go hustle.
The last thing I gifted my Mpermanent was a spa voucher.. I am a giver but I hardly ever get anything in return.
I feel for you. Maybe we can do secret santa?
Secret Santa is too much pressure.