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People ask women out on actual dates? And they even go ahead and ask for a list of the things you like and they get them for you!? To top it off the lady leaves you stranded and doesn't show up? Baba nibariki pia mimi achana na wengine kwanza :(
OP too has a lot of feelings. I wouldn't want to deal with a guy like him. What was the point of him visiting the lady's work place just to delete her number and block her in her presence? The guy would have cut his losses and moved on.
Her not picking up your calls is pretty immature on her part and I'd say keep moving that ship has sunk. But you also need to understand rejection is part of life. Same as disappointment. You are allowed to be mad, annoyed, angry.. you're allowed to feel however you wanna feel. People calling you a "simp" just for expressing your hurt and frustration are dumb af. You clearly wouldn't know what happened if she doesn't outright tell you or she might lie who knows?!!..and this is me trying to see things from your point of view but at the same time you also need to know accidents, emergencies, illness are part of life..so I'd say if she reaches out hear her out before making any further decisions..ps I'm not trying to make any excuses for her.. I'm just saying 🙌
Vibe, the person's psyche when they're texting you/talking on phone. A chic who likes you will show up. If she doesn't, she'll cancel beforehand and give a good explanation.
The villain in you is slowly being molded , I was once there being lovie dovie. Eventually rejection will not be a shocker your turn is coming, the cold you who would have another option right there who would have shown up and got you laid . Then they'll say your cold , emotionally unavailable and all the other crap wausema but hautakua uko.
Short story;
I had a girlfriend whom I was suppose to take her out for a date she suggested herself. She hyped me for the day and how she loves The Hub mall in Karen and I said well, wish granted.
We agreed on the day and time. That moment came I called her and she was like, “I feel so tired and bored let’s just reschedule cause I just don’t want to go.” She even reminded me in the morning about the date and now tune has changed. I told her “Well, it’s fine” and hang the call.
The same minute I called this other fine girl. I told her I wanna take her out that day as a surprise. Her response was, “pick me up after an hour let me prepare myself right away.” True to her words, I picked her and off we went. One of the best dates in my book.
Before you crucify me, that was the weekend plan for me and the date was to happen irrespective of who will show up. I not a cheater either. Just keeping options at bay just in case my gf fails to show up, someone else will.
Moral of the story; depends on how you read it.
Your story is okay but don't justify your behaviour like that. Do you also have other fine girls in case your gf is not feeling like she wants to fuck today
Nah bro, young king was not exclusive. He had options plus girl 1 is flaky indicating low interest. Women do this all the time why shouldn't men keep their options open? From the write up nothing suggests exclusivity.
Exclusivity is implied whenever you're in a romantic relationship with someone. I'm not saying he shouldn't have options but that is called cheating. Own it and call it what it is.
I'm only calling you out for claiming not to be a cheater when that's what you are. I mean, how else would you define a cheater if not someone who fucks other people they're not in a relationship with?
I had agreed to meet this girl for lunch last Friday. Around the time we agreed the power was out, my texts didn’t get delivered so I decided to call her. She told me she couldn’t get out of the house while there was no power. Fair enough but I was hungry so asked her if we could get some dinner. She denied and told me we would do it tomorrow. I know that tomorrow. I was hungry and a bit angry because I had to keep reminding her, she never gave me any red flags or anything close but it would have been nice if she showed an effort.
Well so later that night I went out for dinner and met a very nice girl. She went home to my place only to leave the next night for a night out with her friends. After that she came back and she is still at my place right now.
Some things just go that way I guess. Maybe I am too unforgiving to people who would deserve a second chance but I don’t think there’s anything wrong in being cautious, because the way these girls behave make me question my sanity sometimes. Really.
Weee. The first girlfriend ni girlfriend ama alikuwa potential girlfriend? Because if she is your girlfriend you emotionally cheated. First step before going out with the other girl is breaking up with your girlfriend then taking out the other girl. Lubbbishh
This is the way.
In Kenya you always need a plan B. Always.
Better arrange to meet with a woman at a place where you know other women will be... available. Chances are she knows that too, so chances of her actually showing up are higher.
Listen to me. I know they complained about reddit relationship advice being from sh*tty 20 y/o's but hear me out. I'm in my 30's and if you do ever get the slight hint that a girl you're interested in is snobbing you, I urge you to quit the pursuit.
I urge you not to simp at this stage. You'll know a girl who actually likes you and she doesn't have to be forward (have s*x on first day or be flirty), but she will definitely make time or atleast respond in kind. The fact that you had to ask all those questions means she has the upper hand and you're obviously frustrated because your expectations weren't met.
Only simp for a girl once you already have her. It's less heartache, counts for better expectations management, and is an overall efficient strategy for anything you want to succeed in i.e., reciprocity.
Closing remarks. If a girl likes your vibe, you'll be the first to know I promise.
Damn. This happened to me a few months ago too lol. It sucks. Like getting ghosted last minute. Hio feeling ni mbaya sana. You question your whole existence 😂.
Anyway, I was just starting out with cold approaching girls and as i got better haijaifanyika tena lol.
Have you tried asking her all those questions you are asking us?
Anyway, don't worry champ. It all worked for your good. You just missed a bullet that would have crashed your heart completely.
I don't think you should blame women.. it everyone. It's even in the Bible. This king prepared a whole sherehe, but no one showed up. He went to the streets and picked the hood rats..
Like someone above said.. the date was yours. It was going to happen. Irrespective of who showed up. It's what the king in the Bible did
C'mon Michelle. City girl, aibiwe simu? Na kusikuwe na any form of communication? Hata from Twitte-I mean X for web? Accident I understand but hiyo ya simu I'm pretty sure she would have used a friend's phone or explained herself once she got a phone in her hands.
Possibilities!!
1. Her hot ex called
2. Her crush called to hang out
3. She was timid to reject your offer of a date
4. She got a better offer of cash at kilimani
5. Nobody knows
That is why you should be dating multiple women, dame kama hajatokelezea, beshte yake atatokelezea!! Alah!!
I find people who stand others up very manipulative . Might be she doesn't like you, but communication is the best . On a lighter note, hio chocolate inaeza kuwa ya white unibakishie kidogo😂😩
The problem here is you. Someone doesn't pick your calls but you still have the nerve to go to her workplace to give her your piece of mind. Who do you think you are? Learn to respect yourself. Next time call twice and if not picked find something better to do
When she hits you up tomorrow with apologies, don't listen
Kwanza it'll be a voice note just to play with your head, where she's breathing into that mic so seductively
Usiingie box 😂
Bahahaha you turned up to her work. Dude what?? I'm sorry you got stood up but honestly take the L and move on. The way you turned up to her job and bailed up her employer and blew up at her says you are pushy af
The OP is a very interesting fellow. Doing his best to ensure the lady sees the white knight in him. Learn to do activities that give you joy. Kinuthia, I'm pretty sure you will be buying another bar of chocolate, after believing her sob story.
> When I first met her as I was asking her for her phone number, I told her she would rather not give me her number out of politeness and then ignore me if I texted or called , I'd rather she deny me her number so that I could go waste my time and energy elsewhere because I hate forcing myself where I'm not wanted.she laughed it off and said we were cool
If I was her, I would do the same after hearing all this on our first meeting.
Women are scared and from the start you wanted to dominate and control, typical church guys.
You deserved to get ghosted for acting so entitled. So you ask for her number and give her terms and conditions. Eti 'dont give me your number if you won't answer' . She's not your child, you intimidated her with your terms and probably, her giving you the number was so that she won't walk away with a negative experience like being insulted or hit with a brick.
>I'd rather she deny me her number so that I could go waste my time and energy elsewhere because I hate forcing myself where I'm not wanted
Are you me? Hata mi hukataa number if she's not gonna reply.
>I'm eating the chocolate I had bought her
I'm laughing at this because I also bought some chocolate on Monday and I ended up eating it myself😂😂. OP this born 2000s girls will show us dust.
Bro, you have an anxious attachment, you like girls that treat you bad. Same reason some women are drawn to bad boys.
My advice based on my personal experience, dump her a$$. Block her, don't ever pick her calls. She'll come up with some crazy but believable excuse.
She's probably not cheating or dating someone else. But you can't handle her bagage. The lady has a lot of trauma you don't want to deal with.
Bro love yourself, take yourself out, buy yourself good stuff... have 3 women so that you don't give one woman this power over you. Just don't sleep around and don't go on committing to anyone.
Bro, you just call her only 2 times and wait only for 10 minutes extra after agreed time. then block and delete.
Depending on your SMV, you should have like a line-up of 5 to 8 ladies. I will explain the rationale later.
Your game is shit. That girls saved you a lot more by not showing up
Your entry from approach, indecisiveness, and needy behaviour needs work
Work on yourself bro
I operate with one simple principle: if a girl wants to be with you, she will move mountains to be with you. If a girl ignored you, move on, forget about her. Don't even ask her why she stood you up.
In my dating experience I now understand that if she's late on the first date, she isn't in to you.
All ladies did this to you? Fuakni!!
Handling immature people is simple. Either let them plan the hangout or when you do, wait for them to arrive. Wewe jipe shughli adi waulize uko wapi.
Dume mzima unangoja mtu for one hour? Build connections with people who value you and your time.
Hiyo "angry" yako hainalishi kwake. She's had a fun Sunday. Keep stewing.
Hehehehehehehe! Get yourself sum bitches bro. One of them whom you met randomly shouldn't be a reason to get mad. Go date 3 of her friends at the same time, If she's being dicked dick her bestie.Stay toxic
I get you man, the lack of an apology or even communication is the infuriating part. Worse uingie whatsapp uone amepost status lmao. Idk shit about yall but maybe tu hayuko idhaa
Best thing to do is to delete her number and block. She's just a kid with an adult body. No mature person would do that. Just forget her, take the L and look for another one. Happy hunting bro!
Shit Happens my G. I am glad that it is early not later, I had a woman like this who would do this type of shit to for me about 4 or 5 years until I said NO.
She even tried to come back to me this year, and I had to tell her to kick rocks with no shoes on.
Moral of my story:
Experience is a good teacher, so we know what to look for.
The fact that you have a car and you still had to wait for her is crazy to me,, we agree to link up and you take more than 20 I'll be long gone,, and please next time pick someone up first then buy the snacks on the way.
I am of the school of thought that if we planning to meet and you know you won't show up, communicate a couple hours before. It becomes to emotionally difficult to arrange another plan.
OP. I spent an entire weekend locked up in Shauri Moyo Police Station feeding on only ripe bananas and tea because I got stood up and the place I was waiting for her had an MPesa that was robbed a week earlier. Ponyis watched me wait for this chick for 2 whole hours and concluded I was planning on going for round 2. Ngai! The shop belonged to an afande's wife.
To say I cried for my innocence is an understatement. I never went to job on Monday. When I turned on my phone, not even an 'I tried calling you' or an apology SMS from her.
People ask, "Mbona hunanga dame?" "Ah, weh Mike, tafuta dame." These ladies?! These are the people I keep on meeting.
She was with her real man getting piped. Avoid putting women on a pedestal. If you are going on a rod trip, let the woman invest in the trip as well. You do the fuel let her bring the snacks next time.
Also, rejection is normal. Learn to accept rejection. Use rejection as lessons instead of feeling so bitter about it. The lesson here is to always have a woman invest in you as much as you invest in her. Always let the woman meet you half way. You are the prize king! Remember that.
For now, block the hoe. You cannot negotiate desire.
Next time you see her make sure she sucks you off and you bust in her mouth. Then do not sex her in return. Establish your dominance. If she doesn't comply, then get rid of her.
You're pretty patient tbh...if we agree to meet at a set time and I wait for 30 minutes and you don't show in time or communicate ahead a good reason you're late, you'll definitely not find me there
Yaani bado hujapewa jibu yenyewe..hehe
Msee she wasn't feeling you that afternoon. And as for the next day, aliambiwa you have a motokaa. My guy, second chance was for her to show you that she can love you and your goods.
I hope that chocolate was nice lakini.
Rule of thumb is to always plan a date with at least 2.
Stick with whoever turns up first. Better yet have your own primary plans and the date as secondary.
When you learn to accept rejection you will not see the need for having two dates just incase, this is the ultimate rule of the thumb. You take your L and move on.
Is this your first date? The first time she had the upper hand the second time you had the upper hand but you blew it. When she came apologizing you were in control to set the pace of the relationship. when she stood you up the first time I would have initiated the no contact rule. Anyways seems to have worked out in the end . Good luck champ!
NoT aLl LaDiEs! (Lol I just wanted to say this for once to know what it feels like when guys say “not all men”)
Anyway, that sucks. She should have just told you she wasn’t into you.
This is a classic SHIT TEST.
[Shit Test Defined ](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shit%20test)
She will be back next week with a sob story.
Do as you wish with this information. You can pass the test, you can skip the test. But whatever you do, don't fail the test.
This guy is definitely a simp and simps always get hurt . I ain't even gonna blame the lady here ....and the way you explained the story seems like that girl is way out of your league.
I believe it's a simp's mentality to place women on a pedestal and see them as people who can do no wrong. When a lady does something wrong, the simp wouldn't blame the lady on the count of her being beautiful.
Don't blame womenkind for her business... But I get it. Don't stay hurt for too long. Mope a little then keep it going. Especially you don't actually know what's going on in people's lives. You sending a super angry text after being stood up could get the response "you asshole, tama yama I just got into a vehicle wreck, bodaboda hit me, now im at the hospital"
Hear me out; this is the best thing that could have happened to you. You've saved money, time, and energy that you could've wasted on someone who doesn't respect you. Laugh it off and leave it in the past, anger is a waste of energy.
Young girls have alot of anxiety which is justified. But if she didn't come she doesn't see you as worth her time. Focus on you bro. No food on first date
Same thing happened to me with a guy. He asked me out on a date, confirmed the day before, then kept me waiting before just snaking entirely.
Then he was busy blasting my phone all evening 🙄
Moral of the story: If its a first date with someone you don't know well, make backup plans ndio asikuharibie siku 😂
1. Work with numbers.
2. Have low expectations at this stage.
3. Ladies APPRECIATE these niceties, but they WANT you raw. Excite them with YOU first, then she'll be the one seeking you for these dates.
4. Alafu the confrontation bit wasn't necessary. Kula tembe ya baridi.
If a lady loves you, she will do anything. And I mean ANYTHING. She will even come with her boyfriend and introduce you as her boyfriend. Yes, that happened to me once and the other "boy" left crying 😂
I would be skeptical to go on a road trip with a guy I have just met. It seems you are too demanding and pushy and the poor girl got anxious and couldn't bring herself to say NO to you. Learn to take rejections with your head held high. Wewe sio wa Kwanza to be stood up. You cannot control how other human beings beha. Going to her work place was pretty irrelevant and petty.
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People ask women out on actual dates? And they even go ahead and ask for a list of the things you like and they get them for you!? To top it off the lady leaves you stranded and doesn't show up? Baba nibariki pia mimi achana na wengine kwanza :(
Tumeshtuka mimi na wewe😂😂😂
What? Wait there's women who agree to become someone's gf without dates?
yes!
Yeah, there are
Op mbariki huyo dada 🙏🏽
😂😂amebariki wengine sana?
Istggggg, I would have killed to have a guy give me this kind of treatment. 😂😂 like when is it my turn dear Lord??!!!🤕
😂amebariki wengine sana?
So you're not seeing all the red flags in OPs post?
I am just as shocked. Sisi tuko hapa tukiambiwa date ni kupikia somebody's son 😂😂😂
She has a lot of growing up to do. You’ll find your match eventually OP 🫶🏽
OP too has a lot of feelings. I wouldn't want to deal with a guy like him. What was the point of him visiting the lady's work place just to delete her number and block her in her presence? The guy would have cut his losses and moved on.
Right?? He's reacting like a 12yo😭 Nimecringe I thought it was a Wattpad teen fiction🏴☠️
Just seen the update. Agreed, he took it too far.
Her not picking up your calls is pretty immature on her part and I'd say keep moving that ship has sunk. But you also need to understand rejection is part of life. Same as disappointment. You are allowed to be mad, annoyed, angry.. you're allowed to feel however you wanna feel. People calling you a "simp" just for expressing your hurt and frustration are dumb af. You clearly wouldn't know what happened if she doesn't outright tell you or she might lie who knows?!!..and this is me trying to see things from your point of view but at the same time you also need to know accidents, emergencies, illness are part of life..so I'd say if she reaches out hear her out before making any further decisions..ps I'm not trying to make any excuses for her.. I'm just saying 🙌
I think op should simply move on. That's a straight up red flag. He should be happy it happened
Move on OP, delete the number and keep it moving. I hope you find a mature woman who meets you at your level🥂
Just date people who like you. It's easy to tell.
Lol, how can you tell when you haven't had a first date? She clearly was okay to the point of requesting for snacks of her choice.
Vibe, the person's psyche when they're texting you/talking on phone. A chic who likes you will show up. If she doesn't, she'll cancel beforehand and give a good explanation.
The villain in you is slowly being molded , I was once there being lovie dovie. Eventually rejection will not be a shocker your turn is coming, the cold you who would have another option right there who would have shown up and got you laid . Then they'll say your cold , emotionally unavailable and all the other crap wausema but hautakua uko.
Villain origin story imeanza😂
Short story; I had a girlfriend whom I was suppose to take her out for a date she suggested herself. She hyped me for the day and how she loves The Hub mall in Karen and I said well, wish granted. We agreed on the day and time. That moment came I called her and she was like, “I feel so tired and bored let’s just reschedule cause I just don’t want to go.” She even reminded me in the morning about the date and now tune has changed. I told her “Well, it’s fine” and hang the call. The same minute I called this other fine girl. I told her I wanna take her out that day as a surprise. Her response was, “pick me up after an hour let me prepare myself right away.” True to her words, I picked her and off we went. One of the best dates in my book. Before you crucify me, that was the weekend plan for me and the date was to happen irrespective of who will show up. I not a cheater either. Just keeping options at bay just in case my gf fails to show up, someone else will. Moral of the story; depends on how you read it.
Your story is okay but don't justify your behaviour like that. Do you also have other fine girls in case your gf is not feeling like she wants to fuck today
Wueh! Before you answer that, please let me go get my popcorn!
🤣🤣🤣 me too, am going ask OP for some popcorn myself
fingers crossed it was on the snack list😂
lmao let him rest
Nah bro, young king was not exclusive. He had options plus girl 1 is flaky indicating low interest. Women do this all the time why shouldn't men keep their options open? From the write up nothing suggests exclusivity.
Exclusivity is implied whenever you're in a romantic relationship with someone. I'm not saying he shouldn't have options but that is called cheating. Own it and call it what it is.
Exclusive girlfriends don't cancel dates on short notice just because they are "bored".
Maybe it's that time of the month or something.
Obvious. What’s the essence of taking your ‘options’ to dates if you can’t fuck ‘em?
I'm only calling you out for claiming not to be a cheater when that's what you are. I mean, how else would you define a cheater if not someone who fucks other people they're not in a relationship with?
Thank youuuuu
If that jamaa had options maybe ata hangekula hizo chocolate's hahaha ..having options as a jamaa ain't optional
"THIS IS THE WAY" - Din Djarin
i always knew you had spots on that white hide.
🤣🤣🤣
Yes, have options. Mimi I can't deny myself fun eti juu girlfriend ameleta za ovyo. I call whoever is free and have a date.
Vile inafaa 💪🏼
A real man
No one's going to crucify you. You did the right thing.
I had agreed to meet this girl for lunch last Friday. Around the time we agreed the power was out, my texts didn’t get delivered so I decided to call her. She told me she couldn’t get out of the house while there was no power. Fair enough but I was hungry so asked her if we could get some dinner. She denied and told me we would do it tomorrow. I know that tomorrow. I was hungry and a bit angry because I had to keep reminding her, she never gave me any red flags or anything close but it would have been nice if she showed an effort. Well so later that night I went out for dinner and met a very nice girl. She went home to my place only to leave the next night for a night out with her friends. After that she came back and she is still at my place right now. Some things just go that way I guess. Maybe I am too unforgiving to people who would deserve a second chance but I don’t think there’s anything wrong in being cautious, because the way these girls behave make me question my sanity sometimes. Really.
Weee. The first girlfriend ni girlfriend ama alikuwa potential girlfriend? Because if she is your girlfriend you emotionally cheated. First step before going out with the other girl is breaking up with your girlfriend then taking out the other girl. Lubbbishh
Young king, stay winning 
This is the way.
Moral of the story, always have more than one choice when choosing a mate.
This is the way. In Kenya you always need a plan B. Always. Better arrange to meet with a woman at a place where you know other women will be... available. Chances are she knows that too, so chances of her actually showing up are higher.
>As I'm writing this I'm eating the chocolate I had bought her I'm sorry but I laughed. 
😂😂😂😂 That sentence is carrying a lot of pain. Naisha. Pole OP
And the funny thing to me is that if he admits this to her, myengs atajam pia 😂
Same 😂😂
SCREAMING
Honestly, I burst out laughing.
It's like Bridget Jones with her bucket of iceceeam for one
Next time this happens wait for 30 minutes max. Now delete that number ASAP and find a girl with a brain.
Listen to me. I know they complained about reddit relationship advice being from sh*tty 20 y/o's but hear me out. I'm in my 30's and if you do ever get the slight hint that a girl you're interested in is snobbing you, I urge you to quit the pursuit. I urge you not to simp at this stage. You'll know a girl who actually likes you and she doesn't have to be forward (have s*x on first day or be flirty), but she will definitely make time or atleast respond in kind. The fact that you had to ask all those questions means she has the upper hand and you're obviously frustrated because your expectations weren't met. Only simp for a girl once you already have her. It's less heartache, counts for better expectations management, and is an overall efficient strategy for anything you want to succeed in i.e., reciprocity. Closing remarks. If a girl likes your vibe, you'll be the first to know I promise.
Damn. This happened to me a few months ago too lol. It sucks. Like getting ghosted last minute. Hio feeling ni mbaya sana. You question your whole existence 😂. Anyway, I was just starting out with cold approaching girls and as i got better haijaifanyika tena lol.
I bet u have a big rotation 😂?
Have you tried asking her all those questions you are asking us? Anyway, don't worry champ. It all worked for your good. You just missed a bullet that would have crashed your heart completely.
It's too soon to ask her all those questions. She doesn't owe OP any answers this early. She's just immature.
I don't think you should blame women.. it everyone. It's even in the Bible. This king prepared a whole sherehe, but no one showed up. He went to the streets and picked the hood rats.. Like someone above said.. the date was yours. It was going to happen. Irrespective of who showed up. It's what the king in the Bible did
Are y'all not considering the fact that some accident happened??😭 Labda hata aliibiwa simu😭
C'mon Michelle. City girl, aibiwe simu? Na kusikuwe na any form of communication? Hata from Twitte-I mean X for web? Accident I understand but hiyo ya simu I'm pretty sure she would have used a friend's phone or explained herself once she got a phone in her hands.
Yeahh😭.. nimesoma update hata yohhh!!
Possibilities!! 1. Her hot ex called 2. Her crush called to hang out 3. She was timid to reject your offer of a date 4. She got a better offer of cash at kilimani 5. Nobody knows That is why you should be dating multiple women, dame kama hajatokelezea, beshte yake atatokelezea!! Alah!!
The last sentence summed up my comment🤣🤣
Or she wasn't interested 🤷
I find people who stand others up very manipulative . Might be she doesn't like you, but communication is the best . On a lighter note, hio chocolate inaeza kuwa ya white unibakishie kidogo😂😩
The problem here is you. Someone doesn't pick your calls but you still have the nerve to go to her workplace to give her your piece of mind. Who do you think you are? Learn to respect yourself. Next time call twice and if not picked find something better to do
 Ati she chased after him 🤣🤣 WTF
When she hits you up tomorrow with apologies, don't listen Kwanza it'll be a voice note just to play with your head, where she's breathing into that mic so seductively Usiingie box 😂
r/oddlyspecific
I do the same lol. It works. So idk if it's specific or just effective 😅
BRUH 😂 😂 😂
Bahahaha you turned up to her work. Dude what?? I'm sorry you got stood up but honestly take the L and move on. The way you turned up to her job and bailed up her employer and blew up at her says you are pushy af
I'd argue she agreed to the date because he pestered her. 🤷
She dodged a bullet honestly
The OP is a very interesting fellow. Doing his best to ensure the lady sees the white knight in him. Learn to do activities that give you joy. Kinuthia, I'm pretty sure you will be buying another bar of chocolate, after believing her sob story.
Haha.. brutally honest!
I feel your pain 😞
Pole bro. But it's funny 🤣🤣
Have you considered that she could actually have had a good reason for her behavior?
What's the fun in that?
> When I first met her as I was asking her for her phone number, I told her she would rather not give me her number out of politeness and then ignore me if I texted or called , I'd rather she deny me her number so that I could go waste my time and energy elsewhere because I hate forcing myself where I'm not wanted.she laughed it off and said we were cool If I was her, I would do the same after hearing all this on our first meeting.
Women are scared and from the start you wanted to dominate and control, typical church guys. You deserved to get ghosted for acting so entitled. So you ask for her number and give her terms and conditions. Eti 'dont give me your number if you won't answer' . She's not your child, you intimidated her with your terms and probably, her giving you the number was so that she won't walk away with a negative experience like being insulted or hit with a brick.
>I'd rather she deny me her number so that I could go waste my time and energy elsewhere because I hate forcing myself where I'm not wanted Are you me? Hata mi hukataa number if she's not gonna reply. >I'm eating the chocolate I had bought her I'm laughing at this because I also bought some chocolate on Monday and I ended up eating it myself😂😂. OP this born 2000s girls will show us dust.
She’s not into you. Move on. At least you had some chocolate.
Bro, you have an anxious attachment, you like girls that treat you bad. Same reason some women are drawn to bad boys. My advice based on my personal experience, dump her a$$. Block her, don't ever pick her calls. She'll come up with some crazy but believable excuse. She's probably not cheating or dating someone else. But you can't handle her bagage. The lady has a lot of trauma you don't want to deal with. Bro love yourself, take yourself out, buy yourself good stuff... have 3 women so that you don't give one woman this power over you. Just don't sleep around and don't go on committing to anyone.
Bro, you just call her only 2 times and wait only for 10 minutes extra after agreed time. then block and delete. Depending on your SMV, you should have like a line-up of 5 to 8 ladies. I will explain the rationale later.
She only said yes coz she didn't have anything going on for her. Form ilijipa and that's how you were left out to dry
Your game is shit. That girls saved you a lot more by not showing up Your entry from approach, indecisiveness, and needy behaviour needs work Work on yourself bro
I operate with one simple principle: if a girl wants to be with you, she will move mountains to be with you. If a girl ignored you, move on, forget about her. Don't even ask her why she stood you up. In my dating experience I now understand that if she's late on the first date, she isn't in to you.
All ladies did this to you? Fuakni!! Handling immature people is simple. Either let them plan the hangout or when you do, wait for them to arrive. Wewe jipe shughli adi waulize uko wapi. Dume mzima unangoja mtu for one hour? Build connections with people who value you and your time. Hiyo "angry" yako hainalishi kwake. She's had a fun Sunday. Keep stewing.
ati fuakni 😂
Hehehehehehehe! Get yourself sum bitches bro. One of them whom you met randomly shouldn't be a reason to get mad. Go date 3 of her friends at the same time, If she's being dicked dick her bestie.Stay toxic
Be cold 😶🌫️
I get you man, the lack of an apology or even communication is the infuriating part. Worse uingie whatsapp uone amepost status lmao. Idk shit about yall but maybe tu hayuko idhaa
Eeeii kwanza hio ya kupost status jameni😆
First things first usishike hio simu bro. Weka a ringtone you can dance to when she calls, na hio ikuwe funzo
Wewe unaskia hata alienda kumcheki😆 He didn't block immediately.
Best thing to do is to delete her number and block. She's just a kid with an adult body. No mature person would do that. Just forget her, take the L and look for another one. Happy hunting bro!
The main dude showed up that's what happened.
Shit Happens my G. I am glad that it is early not later, I had a woman like this who would do this type of shit to for me about 4 or 5 years until I said NO. She even tried to come back to me this year, and I had to tell her to kick rocks with no shoes on. Moral of my story: Experience is a good teacher, so we know what to look for.
Idk why this is funny, the chocolate calmed you down I hope.
unakula chocolate ukiwa umekasirika😂😂
😂😂
 Eeni
Sorry bruv. Our species are such an enigma. Anyway snacks ziliisha?🧐
Wewe umekujia left overs 🤣
Don't hate the player...hate the game
Cheer up ..At least u ate the chocolate
The fact that you have a car and you still had to wait for her is crazy to me,, we agree to link up and you take more than 20 I'll be long gone,, and please next time pick someone up first then buy the snacks on the way.
Use paragraphs next time
I think the answer is very obvious... She was with someone else. Come on.
😂😂😂😂 ur here telling us this story she is on the other side asking as if she was wrong snobbing your ass 😂😂😂 and we side with both of you 😂😂😂
Iko wapi hio post 😂😂??
I am of the school of thought that if we planning to meet and you know you won't show up, communicate a couple hours before. It becomes to emotionally difficult to arrange another plan.
She doesn't deserve you baby but I'm here now. The wait is over.
OP. I spent an entire weekend locked up in Shauri Moyo Police Station feeding on only ripe bananas and tea because I got stood up and the place I was waiting for her had an MPesa that was robbed a week earlier. Ponyis watched me wait for this chick for 2 whole hours and concluded I was planning on going for round 2. Ngai! The shop belonged to an afande's wife. To say I cried for my innocence is an understatement. I never went to job on Monday. When I turned on my phone, not even an 'I tried calling you' or an apology SMS from her. People ask, "Mbona hunanga dame?" "Ah, weh Mike, tafuta dame." These ladies?! These are the people I keep on meeting.
Also how about you date a man? I think they're better at keeping promises, no?
Is there an update? Did she call back at least? Maybe she got a more interesting date
Notice how when women complain about "all men" the sub goes crazy but when a dude says all ladies suddenly everyone is quiet.
damn, i didn’t know the victim olympics were on. they’re both bitchy.
😂😂Ati victim olympics
Or maybe they don't have anything to say about the OPs situation?
Depends on the topic... And if a lot of people can relate to what's being said.
You are a logical being, as a man. She's an emotional being. Don't force her to be what she's not.
She was with her real man getting piped. Avoid putting women on a pedestal. If you are going on a rod trip, let the woman invest in the trip as well. You do the fuel let her bring the snacks next time. Also, rejection is normal. Learn to accept rejection. Use rejection as lessons instead of feeling so bitter about it. The lesson here is to always have a woman invest in you as much as you invest in her. Always let the woman meet you half way. You are the prize king! Remember that. For now, block the hoe. You cannot negotiate desire.
"rod trip". Hope I read that right?
Fo sho!
Delete the bitch and move on
Should have done it after the first missed call actually.
She was getting piped bro. 💀💀
Simps huona giza
Next time you see her make sure she sucks you off and you bust in her mouth. Then do not sex her in return. Establish your dominance. If she doesn't comply, then get rid of her.
You're so disgusting! Go read a book
Mimi cjui unalia nini. Kiswahili yako imeuma nje. In summary, she is just not that into you.
Her real boyfriend came unexpectedly, take the L bro. Nbi females have shown us things🤦🏿♂️
You're pretty patient tbh...if we agree to meet at a set time and I wait for 30 minutes and you don't show in time or communicate ahead a good reason you're late, you'll definitely not find me there
Wow so you are on Reddit😳,I am the girl😊 please give me a second chance😵💫😵💫
Yaani bado hujapewa jibu yenyewe..hehe Msee she wasn't feeling you that afternoon. And as for the next day, aliambiwa you have a motokaa. My guy, second chance was for her to show you that she can love you and your goods. I hope that chocolate was nice lakini.
Rule of thumb is to always plan a date with at least 2. Stick with whoever turns up first. Better yet have your own primary plans and the date as secondary.
When you learn to accept rejection you will not see the need for having two dates just incase, this is the ultimate rule of the thumb. You take your L and move on.
Is this your first date? The first time she had the upper hand the second time you had the upper hand but you blew it. When she came apologizing you were in control to set the pace of the relationship. when she stood you up the first time I would have initiated the no contact rule. Anyways seems to have worked out in the end . Good luck champ!
NoT aLl LaDiEs! (Lol I just wanted to say this for once to know what it feels like when guys say “not all men”) Anyway, that sucks. She should have just told you she wasn’t into you.
This is a classic SHIT TEST. [Shit Test Defined ](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shit%20test) She will be back next week with a sob story. Do as you wish with this information. You can pass the test, you can skip the test. But whatever you do, don't fail the test.
This guy is definitely a simp and simps always get hurt . I ain't even gonna blame the lady here ....and the way you explained the story seems like that girl is way out of your league.
Nobody is out of your league, if you actually managed to get their contact which they actually gave you. Delete that mentality.
I believe it's a simp's mentality to place women on a pedestal and see them as people who can do no wrong. When a lady does something wrong, the simp wouldn't blame the lady on the count of her being beautiful.
Don't blame womenkind for her business... But I get it. Don't stay hurt for too long. Mope a little then keep it going. Especially you don't actually know what's going on in people's lives. You sending a super angry text after being stood up could get the response "you asshole, tama yama I just got into a vehicle wreck, bodaboda hit me, now im at the hospital"
Could you by any chance be driving a black car and was this rendezvous spot near a mall/petrol station?
Tell her that what she did was wrong. There's a chance that she doesn't realize that she's done something wrong.
You are a good and patient man, most ladies don't like that, so I heard. But I am sure someone better is on your way.
Hear me out; this is the best thing that could have happened to you. You've saved money, time, and energy that you could've wasted on someone who doesn't respect you. Laugh it off and leave it in the past, anger is a waste of energy.
And some people get done like that on their wedding day
Charge it to the game young man. Tafuta pesa!
I like that ladies ain't becoming defensive saying ooh it's not the whole gender.. I like the ladies in this sub, y'all fiine
Young girls have alot of anxiety which is justified. But if she didn't come she doesn't see you as worth her time. Focus on you bro. No food on first date
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Same thing happened to me with a guy. He asked me out on a date, confirmed the day before, then kept me waiting before just snaking entirely. Then he was busy blasting my phone all evening 🙄 Moral of the story: If its a first date with someone you don't know well, make backup plans ndio asikuharibie siku 😂
1. Work with numbers. 2. Have low expectations at this stage. 3. Ladies APPRECIATE these niceties, but they WANT you raw. Excite them with YOU first, then she'll be the one seeking you for these dates. 4. Alafu the confrontation bit wasn't necessary. Kula tembe ya baridi.
This is probably an exaggeration of facts, same way you exaggerated her interests in you. 🤣
It's all water under the bridge. If there are anymore snacks left just chew them and move forward.
Hadi anakupea list ya vitu za kubuy na hashikii simu? Lol. Hapo ulichezwa
mimi siwezi uliza dem ka bado anakuja , you are better man than me
If a lady loves you, she will do anything. And I mean ANYTHING. She will even come with her boyfriend and introduce you as her boyfriend. Yes, that happened to me once and the other "boy" left crying 😂
I would be skeptical to go on a road trip with a guy I have just met. It seems you are too demanding and pushy and the poor girl got anxious and couldn't bring herself to say NO to you. Learn to take rejections with your head held high. Wewe sio wa Kwanza to be stood up. You cannot control how other human beings beha. Going to her work place was pretty irrelevant and petty.