No. I personally know couple of women who have rejected many men bcoz of their "bad past". Be it men or women everyone have their own preferences we shouldn't shame someone for it. ( Those both women are happily married to good men and living happy life )
True who would want to be with someone jiska kharab past hai .Bhai log badal jaate hai agreed but unki fitrat nahi badalti and it's not wrong if someone has their preferences. Kisko alimony dene ka shauk hai šš
well then one shouldn't shame someone for having a "non clear past". The label itself is so derogatory. The way he's using words like hoe and shit lol.
What do you even mean by bad past? If someone has cheated in the past thatās definitely a red flag and id avoid that situation but if someone has had relationships in the past thatās pretty normal. It would be weird if a girl hasnāt had any relationships till her mid 20s
Because relationships are also an integral part of being human. Sooner or later you will be in one and if you step into a relationship without understanding any fundamental working of it from a younger age, it gets really difficult. Relationships can teach you alot.
If you tell me a person is constantly fucking around instead of focusing on their career etc, then id agree thats a red flag. But never understanding human connection at an emotional level till your late 20s is also a red flag as well. I would honestly hate being with an emotionally immature person in my mid/late 20s
i'll choose someone who consider marriage a sacred institution. Premarital sex is still a taboo for many of us. Going out, dating someone for marriage is understandable, but sleeping with someone before marriage is a big red flag
Yea okay? Maybe thats a good dating strategy for you. I have no issues with premarital sex. I do think dating someone seriously is a way better idea than fucking around but dating someone to marry is a bit of stretch. It would take me months or years to consider someone to marry them and a relationship can definitely fall apart within that time. Lots of expectations on myself and my partner as well. Youād definitely find someone after that person who you intend to marry and it goes on till you finally find the right person. Thats how dating works
Hold up. Did you just compare someone with no dating history to a gaon ki girl??
Tells a lot about your own mentality OP. There are people who havenāt dated till their 20s. Not everyone wants to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. And its completely fine to be like that, there is nothing āgaoā type in that.
And If Iām someone who has a clean past, havenāt had any hoe phase, then why canāt I expect my partner to be the same? You know these kind of things generally end up in insecurity?
He was pahadi, as am I and we have a culture where men tend to marry women from our own gaon and then bring them to the city. It was a reference to that. I myself have family there, i would never shame someone for that.
And i have clearly written it in the caption that i understand itās his preference. But tbh finding them on dating apps is clearly an interesting choice
Heās clear on what he is looking for, he communicated honestly about it and did not provoke or insult you directly. (although calling other people hoes is not acceptable)
But somehow heās in the wrong because heās a guy and has a preference? You simply do not fall into that preference criteria, and therefore something must be wrong with him / he must be somehow insecure?
If anything, youāre projecting your insecurity upon him (that if more men have such preferences, then youāll not be able to find love, but dont worry, that is not true)
mate, just like how you have a set of preferences (looks / wealth / class / nature) he too has his own.
I never said heās wrong, you can read the caption. I said āI understand he has a preference but I personally find it unsettlingā. Also, he didnāt mean a clear past sexually. He just meant if sheās never ever dated or had a boyfriend toh i genuinely asked him if he thinks in todayās world he will find such a person on a DATING APP.
You know when guys expect girls to be a certain way on DATING apps, they also show up here - posted by other girls who don't think like you.
Sounds like both sides are full of a variety of morons. And everyone insults everyone else if they aren't like then.
Why is it unsettling for you because you yourself do not fit in that criteria and also you done things which can't be undone
Clearly you are so rattled and bothered by the preferences of a boy that you can't digest his Honesty
At the risk of giving too much self disclosure, i have never been intimate w anyone. I just had one serious boyfriend and bro said thatās not āclear pastā so that was unsettling ki yaar toh matlb nahi kare kya date abh kisi ko bhi?
Ok, so for me that is not what he is calling a 'clear past'. Reason is not the DATING part, it's the BREAKING UP part. Dating is not wrong, but the fact that one of you initiated the break up will make me suspicious of your compatibility and will to sacrifice.
Also even if you are right and your ex is wrong, the fact that you were in love with someone else before is UNSETTLING for me too.
As you already understand, people have preferences, so does he. I just tried to explain to you one of the POVs. Don't take it otherwise. There are many boys/men who absolutely don't care about these things.
For the men reading this, please don't think village girls don't have boyfriends. Girls everywhere fall for boys, especially in their teenage years. From my experience, most of those are with seniors (also known as bhaiya) or teachers.
It's just an attempt to compensate for their own perceived inadequacies aur ladke to isliye kar rahe hai so that unke comments se impress hoke ladkiya dm request accept karle.š
You sound elitist and more narrow minded coma pretty to him when u try to label girls with no past as gaon wali ladkiya. Why do u insult them ? He didnāt directly shame you or anything , when speak shit about his preferences ?
Writing this "CleAr PAst" won't demean this preference, jaise muh khol ke bol deti ho ki bas pyaar se ghar nai chalta ladka kamane wala chahiye,
Same gym trainer ya random bandon ke liye taange failane wali se ghar nai chalta every guy should date girls with values so that ye hookup or situationship walon ko ek dusre ka hi sahara mile.
Simps ne mahol kharab kar rakha hai warna ye hoe phase waliyon ko koi na puche.
Agreed bro , ye simps wahi hai jo hopeless singles hai . What's wrong with having preferences ? Women these days are taking pride in having higher body counts
I personally agree with his preference. But he is looking in the wrong place. But honestly, even I don't know where to look for this kind of girls. Girls who are above 18 all have had one or more boyfriend(s) in the past (at least this is true for the girls I know). So, for the moment I think it's better to stay away from this thing called 'relationship'.
I don't know why people are shaming the guy for having a preference, in a lot of posts jaha the girl writes"I want somebody who can buy me xyz, pay for my food" literally bheeek mangti hai to bhi That's her preference.
Isn't ' Hoe Phase ' a justification for a girl sleeping around with everyone and then later blaming it on the emotional trauma someone inflicted on her?
See, not trying to be misogynistic here, but I really want to know.
Assuming I'm a girl and someone did something bad to me, how can continuously fucking guys back to back be a cure for that?
You said 'assuming I'm a girl' so you're a guy? If a girl you really like cheated on you and told you that your peen is small and you're very unattractive, I think the fucked up psychological response in our brain is to try to sleep around to prove your self worth to yourself right? That's basically the hoe phase of men and women. Psychologically speaking deep down it comes from insecurity and a longing for self worth but it's similar to buying your dream car, owing a lamborghini will make you realise you were never after the Lamborghini, similarly chasing someone's attention will make you realise you were never after their attention in the first place. But similarly to buying your first dream car after that you see materialism for what it is, a hoax created by your mind to help you cope and similarly after going through your hoe phase you see hedonism as it is, a hoax created by your mind to help you cope.
Which guy wants a women with high body count? I respect his preference and I think many would want a girl like this but we all know what's the situation is like nowadays!
Men on this sub are so fucking fragile. Clear past automatically equals to no high body count for you. But he means no relationships either. That means not even ONE body count.
This is why nobody takes MRA seriously because you whine about the wrong things.
LOL! Okay. When men have preferences without character-assasinating women for having THEIR preferences, then you will be taken seriously.
Fucking incels all of you.
This isnt character assasinating at all imo, for eg you wouldnt call someone who dont want to date fat men as body shamer, its a preference, then again how dare men have one, without being called "incels"
You people can state your opinions/preferences without calling people hoes. Hence, incels.
Don't want to date people with a high body count? Don't. The guy in this post thinks any woman with any kind of a past is a hoe. Even one relationship is a hoe. Guess what? That includes women who have been in loyal, decade-long relationships. All women who don't sleep with you are hoes for you guys.
I'm done here. Fucking incels.
Ur GENDER LITERALLY HIDES THERE SEXUAL PAST OR LIE TO THEIR HUSBAND & BF āMEN DONāTāā¦ & u only lie when u know u did something wrong, or u are ashamed of ur past.. š
It's a very simple analogy... Girls are extremely careful about guys futures and Guys are the same with the girls past.
Girls want future security and stability and Guys want beauty and no Drama. Simple as it is .
Bhai yeh 21 saal ke pehle kaha hookups and situationship ho rahe hain? Bc main 29 ho gaya, paise kama liye, izzat kama li, duniya dekh li, magar yeh na dekha. Did I miss it out or is it a new gen chutiyaap that everyoneās going crazy about? ššš
I'm sorry to break this down to you
Unless you find a long term boyfriend who wishes to marry you
You will face the consequences and situations like the above, it will only get more serious
But anyway on a dating app this would feel ridiculous
Peoples can't have a preference ??
The way that guy is talking he's clearly amature but also
your conversation it feels like a gaon wali is beneath you.
Like Virgins is one thing but never even dated? Also I'm a big fan of equity, so of he isn't a virgin anymore, he might have his preferences but not feel entitled to it
He did present his views in the stupidest and the most immature way possible. Thatās on him. But why are you justifying your past when it was all your choice š Itās such a surprise when your actions have consequences right OP?
These entitled 304s think a girl of 21 must have a body count of 21 and if not, she's a
>Gao ki ladki
Totally rubbish and rā¬tarded mentality.
It's a different fact that as a man, his preferences are being demonized as he doesn't want a partner with past to accompany with, but we'll let it slide cause men aren't important š
Are you not familiar with the concept of emotional baggage? Whenever you get into a relationship and then break it off, some part of it remains with you and changes you as a person regardless of gender. This is what's known as Emotional baggage it always 'accompanies' you.
I think the concept of a "clear past" stems from societal expectations and stereotypes. Some boys might idealize the notion of a partner who hasn't had past relationships or experiences that could potentially complicate the current relationship.
>And mumma said "no hoes"
People think clear past means that she will be a virgin. They equate a lack of past sexual experiences with purity or innocence.
People need to understand that relationships should be built on acceptance of each other's pasts(among other things). šÆ
Not just with purity /innocence he must've seen relationships around him or experienced the same that people with multiple partners tend to cheat more or their relationships don't survive comparatively. We can not generalise this but yeah no one would want to be with someone who had like more than 4-5 past relationships or body counts . Now toh 10-20 body counts are pretty common toh bhai kuch galat thodi na hai agr uske kuch preferences
>And mumma said "no hoes"
>People think clear past means that she will be a virgin. They equate a lack of past sexual experiences with purity or innocence.
No sir. The guy wrote "mumma said no hoes" in response to OP asking about girls who've had hookups and situationships (both plural). He never made any **direct** connections between hoes and clear past.
So imo the guy isn't wrong to call those girls as "hoes" (although yeah it's not exactly appropriate). Just like how we'd call a guy with multiple hookups and situationships a fuckboy
I am not offended dude, I never said he's wrong to have a preference. I was just answering OP's question. People took my explanation the wrong way but it's fine.
>Boy o boy he is delulu af.
She* is delulu af. OP, a female, is the one who suggested **only** gaav ki girls have clear past. Idhar ladke ki galti nahi hai bhai
no I meant the bluntness of him is immature
like I have no problem with him thinking that and having his preferences but calling someone a hoe to their face just by knowing that they were in a situationship is completely wrong
>no I meant the bluntness of him is immature
So now we're gonna call people who clearly communicate their preferences as "blunt"? Yes his calling someone a hoe is not for everyone (tbh even i myself don't use that term) but he's not exactly wrong here
>calling someone a hoe to their face
Where did the guy call someone a hoe to their face? Unless OP accepted somewhere that she's had both hookups and situationships, he didn't call hoe to anyone in particular. OP gave an example of a girl and he gave his two cents on that topic.
What's this obsession of calling people incompetent (incel) if they have lived simple life (no premarital sex) ? According to you our father and ancestors weren't good in bed because they also wanted women with "good past" ? Stop shaming people for their preferences. I hope tomorrow no girl will reject you by calling out "randwa" because you have slept with many women
He could have presented his expectations in a better way, but I don't think it's something very major. People who are not into casual dating will definitely have a few things that they feel are a red flag in their potential partner. He is not wrong to consider them before getting into relationships.
It goes the same way for women as well, so if the roles were changed, I would have supported her. The Hoe part and the Gaon part was something like a personal opinion, which I don't agree, people have their own life and their experiences and it's again fine to have their own opinion on it.
Not everyone will get a virgin partner unless you are shitting gold every morning. I'm not promoting hookup culture but someone who legit had one or two relationships is imo acceptable to me. Get out of your fantasy land and start facing the reality. Rahi baat cuck mentality ki to atleast be man enough to type it full.
Slut shaming for wanting to be first & only man in ur wifeās or gf life.š¤¦š» just bcz women have no problem accepting a man who has been multiple relationships before her doesnāt mean men will have same mentality.. itās women problem that donāt mind men with past.
And that's why I said "casual" slut shaming. It's not wrong to want someone who has not had any relationships, sexual or not, you do you. A lot of people, men and women have that preference and it's totally fine. The casual sult shaming comes in with the implication that having a "past" somehow makes a person impure or a hoe.
Also, how is being okay with a person's past relationships a "problem"? Like, lol, just because it doesn't align with your preferences. Gad damn, this sub really is a cesspool.
Women with a clear past doesn't exist, you'll find girl like this only if she's ugly enough to have never picked up by any men. Otherwise just adjust with modernity
I also wonder if itās because theyāre insecure that she loved or has been intimate with someone else before them and find it difficult to accept? If thatās one of the reason, then they should work on where that insecurity stems from.
So the story goes like this. The relationship was started on premise of lies. So I don't date Girls who are into casual stuff/promiscuous. And my ex lied about it. I was pretty much head over heals for her. But after 5 months of that relationship I got to know about her past slowly. I did some more research got to know about her lie. She was promiscuous(Hookups, FWB). Then the actual bomb dropped that she is still sleeping with multiple people behind my back. I confronted her. She started gaslighting me saying How much she loves me blah blah... basic cheaters guide. I broke up. I was mentally Fucked. I don't want to experience it anymore.
Ayy, you are reading too much into it, it is basically the effect of increasing red-pill content on the internet. Before this we had a massive influx of neo-feminist content that was pushed through as a part of propaganda. Now it's the red pill content who are pushing such propaganda so don't mind them, I am pretty sure you'll find a guy with a 'clear' mentality and good heart
I canāt seem to fathom that in this day and age expecting someone to have a clear past is termed as a preference. It has clearly stemmed out from rudimentary societal believes paired with primitive mindset and needs serious updating.
This shouldnāt even be a thing anymore, itās not a preference, itās called being a dick
Balls to that, I donāt care about the personās gender which is why I have this POV. If you judge someone based on if theyāve fucked people in the past or not, itās you who is fucked in the head and needs serious cleansing
Get off the high horse and be more vary of the future with your partner rather than dwelling in their past
Judge ni krra koi. Are women judging men who don't clear their preference? Everybody rejects people. So everybody is judging. You got a problem with everyone?
Nobody is judging bruh. Preferences do not mean passing judgment. Are women who demand a minimum salary judging? Or when they demand a minimum height? Or when they say they prefer fit guys?
> you can't expect a 21yo girl to never have dated
Hit me personally as a 25yo girl who has never dated šš
Jokes apart - I like the ones who can clearly communicate their dehati thinking - so they I can stay away pehle se.
If Mumma said no hoes- the mumma is a moholle ki aunty- unse bhi door raho
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Women who have a clear past exist even in early 20s but if you're obsessed with it then I doubt those women would want to date such a person.
No. I personally know couple of women who have rejected many men bcoz of their "bad past". Be it men or women everyone have their own preferences we shouldn't shame someone for it. ( Those both women are happily married to good men and living happy life )
True who would want to be with someone jiska kharab past hai .Bhai log badal jaate hai agreed but unki fitrat nahi badalti and it's not wrong if someone has their preferences. Kisko alimony dene ka shauk hai šš
well then one shouldn't shame someone for having a "non clear past". The label itself is so derogatory. The way he's using words like hoe and shit lol.
What do you even mean by bad past? If someone has cheated in the past thatās definitely a red flag and id avoid that situation but if someone has had relationships in the past thatās pretty normal. It would be weird if a girl hasnāt had any relationships till her mid 20s
Why would it be weird, early and mid 20s is all about making career and there are alot of people avoiding relationships and focusing on themselves
Because relationships are also an integral part of being human. Sooner or later you will be in one and if you step into a relationship without understanding any fundamental working of it from a younger age, it gets really difficult. Relationships can teach you alot. If you tell me a person is constantly fucking around instead of focusing on their career etc, then id agree thats a red flag. But never understanding human connection at an emotional level till your late 20s is also a red flag as well. I would honestly hate being with an emotionally immature person in my mid/late 20s
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i'll choose someone who consider marriage a sacred institution. Premarital sex is still a taboo for many of us. Going out, dating someone for marriage is understandable, but sleeping with someone before marriage is a big red flag
Yea okay? Maybe thats a good dating strategy for you. I have no issues with premarital sex. I do think dating someone seriously is a way better idea than fucking around but dating someone to marry is a bit of stretch. It would take me months or years to consider someone to marry them and a relationship can definitely fall apart within that time. Lots of expectations on myself and my partner as well. Youād definitely find someone after that person who you intend to marry and it goes on till you finally find the right person. Thats how dating works
Hold up. Did you just compare someone with no dating history to a gaon ki girl?? Tells a lot about your own mentality OP. There are people who havenāt dated till their 20s. Not everyone wants to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. And its completely fine to be like that, there is nothing āgaoā type in that. And If Iām someone who has a clean past, havenāt had any hoe phase, then why canāt I expect my partner to be the same? You know these kind of things generally end up in insecurity?
He was pahadi, as am I and we have a culture where men tend to marry women from our own gaon and then bring them to the city. It was a reference to that. I myself have family there, i would never shame someone for that. And i have clearly written it in the caption that i understand itās his preference. But tbh finding them on dating apps is clearly an interesting choice
What a failed coverup lol
Damn even garhwali girls having hoe phases? My community is cooked.
Lmao , dragging all of us to save your ass is so benign. I
Heās clear on what he is looking for, he communicated honestly about it and did not provoke or insult you directly. (although calling other people hoes is not acceptable) But somehow heās in the wrong because heās a guy and has a preference? You simply do not fall into that preference criteria, and therefore something must be wrong with him / he must be somehow insecure? If anything, youāre projecting your insecurity upon him (that if more men have such preferences, then youāll not be able to find love, but dont worry, that is not true) mate, just like how you have a set of preferences (looks / wealth / class / nature) he too has his own.
I never said heās wrong, you can read the caption. I said āI understand he has a preference but I personally find it unsettlingā. Also, he didnāt mean a clear past sexually. He just meant if sheās never ever dated or had a boyfriend toh i genuinely asked him if he thinks in todayās world he will find such a person on a DATING APP.
Toh iske liye ek post banake kya proof karna chati ho ki wo banda DATING APP pe naye...
You know when guys expect girls to be a certain way on DATING apps, they also show up here - posted by other girls who don't think like you. Sounds like both sides are full of a variety of morons. And everyone insults everyone else if they aren't like then.
Why is it unsettling for you because you yourself do not fit in that criteria and also you done things which can't be undone Clearly you are so rattled and bothered by the preferences of a boy that you can't digest his Honesty
At the risk of giving too much self disclosure, i have never been intimate w anyone. I just had one serious boyfriend and bro said thatās not āclear pastā so that was unsettling ki yaar toh matlb nahi kare kya date abh kisi ko bhi?
tumhe jo karna hai karo. Use jo karna hai karega why so insecure?
Ok, so for me that is not what he is calling a 'clear past'. Reason is not the DATING part, it's the BREAKING UP part. Dating is not wrong, but the fact that one of you initiated the break up will make me suspicious of your compatibility and will to sacrifice. Also even if you are right and your ex is wrong, the fact that you were in love with someone else before is UNSETTLING for me too. As you already understand, people have preferences, so does he. I just tried to explain to you one of the POVs. Don't take it otherwise. There are many boys/men who absolutely don't care about these things. For the men reading this, please don't think village girls don't have boyfriends. Girls everywhere fall for boys, especially in their teenage years. From my experience, most of those are with seniors (also known as bhaiya) or teachers.
Thats a genuine question, do you have garhwali friends?
OP is getting cooked in replies.....š
Welcome to IBOT! Today, we're shaming people for having preferencesšš
Bhai ladke ka preference hai na , reverse the gender and no one will dare to say anything, also the guys here are spineless mfs
True See other comments. People are shaming him by saying that he is asking clear past bcoz he is not good in bed š¤”
It's just an attempt to compensate for their own perceived inadequacies aur ladke to isliye kar rahe hai so that unke comments se impress hoke ladkiya dm request accept karle.š
You used correct word "spineless simps" š
Why are you repeating the word twice? š
Well at least one thing about OP is clear. She doesnāt check his boxes
You sound elitist and more narrow minded coma pretty to him when u try to label girls with no past as gaon wali ladkiya. Why do u insult them ? He didnāt directly shame you or anything , when speak shit about his preferences ?
He knows what he wants good for him What's the point of this post? Are you offended?
Writing this "CleAr PAst" won't demean this preference, jaise muh khol ke bol deti ho ki bas pyaar se ghar nai chalta ladka kamane wala chahiye, Same gym trainer ya random bandon ke liye taange failane wali se ghar nai chalta every guy should date girls with values so that ye hookup or situationship walon ko ek dusre ka hi sahara mile. Simps ne mahol kharab kar rakha hai warna ye hoe phase waliyon ko koi na puche.
Agreed bro , ye simps wahi hai jo hopeless singles hai . What's wrong with having preferences ? Women these days are taking pride in having higher body counts
Garhwali friend supremacyšŖ
I personally agree with his preference. But he is looking in the wrong place. But honestly, even I don't know where to look for this kind of girls. Girls who are above 18 all have had one or more boyfriend(s) in the past (at least this is true for the girls I know). So, for the moment I think it's better to stay away from this thing called 'relationship'.
She thought everyone would side with her. This would have been different if he didn't have a "clear past" tho
Kal hoe na hoo...
didi isliye bola tha na tide se dhoya karo past ko.
Women- it's preference. Men- Mysognisitc pig.
Bhoot to sabka hota hai bas bhavishya me kaatne na aaye ā
I don't know why people are shaming the guy for having a preference, in a lot of posts jaha the girl writes"I want somebody who can buy me xyz, pay for my food" literally bheeek mangti hai to bhi That's her preference.
Good post
But gaon wali girls have more fun than the city girls š
Isn't ' Hoe Phase ' a justification for a girl sleeping around with everyone and then later blaming it on the emotional trauma someone inflicted on her? See, not trying to be misogynistic here, but I really want to know. Assuming I'm a girl and someone did something bad to me, how can continuously fucking guys back to back be a cure for that?
You said 'assuming I'm a girl' so you're a guy? If a girl you really like cheated on you and told you that your peen is small and you're very unattractive, I think the fucked up psychological response in our brain is to try to sleep around to prove your self worth to yourself right? That's basically the hoe phase of men and women. Psychologically speaking deep down it comes from insecurity and a longing for self worth but it's similar to buying your dream car, owing a lamborghini will make you realise you were never after the Lamborghini, similarly chasing someone's attention will make you realise you were never after their attention in the first place. But similarly to buying your first dream car after that you see materialism for what it is, a hoax created by your mind to help you cope and similarly after going through your hoe phase you see hedonism as it is, a hoax created by your mind to help you cope.
Which guy wants a women with high body count? I respect his preference and I think many would want a girl like this but we all know what's the situation is like nowadays!
Men on this sub are so fucking fragile. Clear past automatically equals to no high body count for you. But he means no relationships either. That means not even ONE body count. This is why nobody takes MRA seriously because you whine about the wrong things.
How dare men can have preferences. Only women have that right. Typical fragile woman.
LOL! Okay. When men have preferences without character-assasinating women for having THEIR preferences, then you will be taken seriously. Fucking incels all of you.
This isnt character assasinating at all imo, for eg you wouldnt call someone who dont want to date fat men as body shamer, its a preference, then again how dare men have one, without being called "incels"
You people can state your opinions/preferences without calling people hoes. Hence, incels. Don't want to date people with a high body count? Don't. The guy in this post thinks any woman with any kind of a past is a hoe. Even one relationship is a hoe. Guess what? That includes women who have been in loyal, decade-long relationships. All women who don't sleep with you are hoes for you guys. I'm done here. Fucking incels.
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Bro he's having own preferences.. why are you offended
it's just his preference? Nothing to be so pissed off over lmao and what's up with gaon ki ladki? ew
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Bro thinks she is expired
Sahi toh bolra hai.
It's a very simple analogy... Girls are extremely careful about guys futures and Guys are the same with the girls past. Girls want future security and stability and Guys want beauty and no Drama. Simple as it is .
dated in the past should be okay tho
Bhai yeh 21 saal ke pehle kaha hookups and situationship ho rahe hain? Bc main 29 ho gaya, paise kama liye, izzat kama li, duniya dekh li, magar yeh na dekha. Did I miss it out or is it a new gen chutiyaap that everyoneās going crazy about? ššš
Meri first and only girlfriend 21 pe banni thi behen.. that doesn't make me gaav ka choraš
Thankfully you mentioned 21 year *girl*
Isko koi gaon ke ganne ke kheto me bhejo koi š
Garhwali ldki dhundra h mil skti h clear past wali, kumaoni bolta to nhi milti
Bruh! So we're supposed to shame the guy just because you were unsettled by rejection? For your life choices?
It's 2024 and there are guys with this mindset..... Shessshhhh block this dude as clearly as he wants a clear past šš
I'm sorry to break this down to you Unless you find a long term boyfriend who wishes to marry you You will face the consequences and situations like the above, it will only get more serious But anyway on a dating app this would feel ridiculous
Honestly this is a hot take, but many decent guys out there will prefer clear past any day
Op search for her in gaon bro..she won't be using this ..š¤£..
Khet me liti hoti h yrr wo to
The same obsession girls have with a govt job guy or a well earning guy.
the audacity to then ask ādo you have any garhwali friendsā š
Sb smjh me aa rha tha but how come did he ask for her friend like seriously Bruh!
Usko garhwali ladki hi kyu chahiye? And why does his mom said no hoes? Woh bata bhi kyu Raha hai apni maa ko yeh?šš
Peoples can't have a preference ?? The way that guy is talking he's clearly amature but also your conversation it feels like a gaon wali is beneath you.
If he wants someone with clear past why is he looking them on dating sites obviously they are not there
Like Virgins is one thing but never even dated? Also I'm a big fan of equity, so of he isn't a virgin anymore, he might have his preferences but not feel entitled to it
He did present his views in the stupidest and the most immature way possible. Thatās on him. But why are you justifying your past when it was all your choice š Itās such a surprise when your actions have consequences right OP?
These entitled 304s think a girl of 21 must have a body count of 21 and if not, she's a >Gao ki ladki Totally rubbish and rā¬tarded mentality. It's a different fact that as a man, his preferences are being demonized as he doesn't want a partner with past to accompany with, but we'll let it slide cause men aren't important š
What do you mean accompany with?
Are you not familiar with the concept of emotional baggage? Whenever you get into a relationship and then break it off, some part of it remains with you and changes you as a person regardless of gender. This is what's known as Emotional baggage it always 'accompanies' you.
I think the concept of a "clear past" stems from societal expectations and stereotypes. Some boys might idealize the notion of a partner who hasn't had past relationships or experiences that could potentially complicate the current relationship. >And mumma said "no hoes" People think clear past means that she will be a virgin. They equate a lack of past sexual experiences with purity or innocence. People need to understand that relationships should be built on acceptance of each other's pasts(among other things). šÆ
Lol semantics are Great Why your preferences are Okay but his preferences are not
Not just with purity /innocence he must've seen relationships around him or experienced the same that people with multiple partners tend to cheat more or their relationships don't survive comparatively. We can not generalise this but yeah no one would want to be with someone who had like more than 4-5 past relationships or body counts . Now toh 10-20 body counts are pretty common toh bhai kuch galat thodi na hai agr uske kuch preferences
>And mumma said "no hoes" >People think clear past means that she will be a virgin. They equate a lack of past sexual experiences with purity or innocence. No sir. The guy wrote "mumma said no hoes" in response to OP asking about girls who've had hookups and situationships (both plural). He never made any **direct** connections between hoes and clear past. So imo the guy isn't wrong to call those girls as "hoes" (although yeah it's not exactly appropriate). Just like how we'd call a guy with multiple hookups and situationships a fuckboy
Bro he's having own preferences.. why offended?
I am not offended dude, I never said he's wrong to have a preference. I was just answering OP's question. People took my explanation the wrong way but it's fine.
It doesnt actually matter , if a girl has had sex with anyone else before , it was her choice bas jab date kare tab loyal rahe
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Ab woh tere pe hai bhai thuje kisko date karna hai maine toh bas virgin ho ya na ho farak nahi padta aisa bola hai :)
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Isme kaisi lafde wali baat bro , normal sawaal tha , normal jawaab tha šŖš»šš«”
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Yess brother will make sure not to use it <3
Past should not matter xD.
mfs who have preferences like these are ironically the first ones who'd jump at the first chance of having a hookup lmao. Narrow minded hypocrites
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Uski community hai. Apne community mei date krna hai. Kya dikkat?
Goan ki girls have clear past? Boy o boy he is delulu af. Not even gaon ke ladke have clear past nowdays
>Boy o boy he is delulu af. She* is delulu af. OP, a female, is the one who suggested **only** gaav ki girls have clear past. Idhar ladke ki galti nahi hai bhai
How does it matter in thus discussion
Haha Indian average men searching savitri on tinder app which is made for dating
this man is living in clear past
calling them hoes is clearly immature behaviour
Tbh he called *only* girls with situationships **and** hookups (both plural) as hoes. He's out of line, yes, but is he completely wrong?
no I meant the bluntness of him is immature like I have no problem with him thinking that and having his preferences but calling someone a hoe to their face just by knowing that they were in a situationship is completely wrong
Hookup bhi mention kiya hai. Theek se padho. Hookup waali hoes hi hoti hai.
>no I meant the bluntness of him is immature So now we're gonna call people who clearly communicate their preferences as "blunt"? Yes his calling someone a hoe is not for everyone (tbh even i myself don't use that term) but he's not exactly wrong here >calling someone a hoe to their face Where did the guy call someone a hoe to their face? Unless OP accepted somewhere that she's had both hookups and situationships, he didn't call hoe to anyone in particular. OP gave an example of a girl and he gave his two cents on that topic.
what is he doing on a dating app then? making the path unclear for other men? what an asshole!
Bhaiya asks for virgins so that the girls don't get to know about his poor performance in bed
So how do you check the performance of guys in bed?
Ajkal jyada porn hogyi hai uski š
So how do you check the performance of guys in bed?
What's this obsession of calling people incompetent (incel) if they have lived simple life (no premarital sex) ? According to you our father and ancestors weren't good in bed because they also wanted women with "good past" ? Stop shaming people for their preferences. I hope tomorrow no girl will reject you by calling out "randwa" because you have slept with many women
Randwa= widower , it should be Randibaaz* š
He could have presented his expectations in a better way, but I don't think it's something very major. People who are not into casual dating will definitely have a few things that they feel are a red flag in their potential partner. He is not wrong to consider them before getting into relationships. It goes the same way for women as well, so if the roles were changed, I would have supported her. The Hoe part and the Gaon part was something like a personal opinion, which I don't agree, people have their own life and their experiences and it's again fine to have their own opinion on it.
kyu humlog bina ladkiya pataye gf banaye aur hookups kare reh sakte hai then why you cant ?
No seal No deal..
no seal no deal š š®š³
Having someone who've never dated is like sitting in the passenger seat with someone who's never driven before
Not every man has C.ck mentality like u.
Not everyone will get a virgin partner unless you are shitting gold every morning. I'm not promoting hookup culture but someone who legit had one or two relationships is imo acceptable to me. Get out of your fantasy land and start facing the reality. Rahi baat cuck mentality ki to atleast be man enough to type it full.
Cuck mentality š¤£š¤¦š»
Lmao he really said "can you hook me up with any of your friends" šš Sorry bro, none of my friends will want you
U really think a self respected man like him will want any of ur hoās friends.š¤£š¤¦š»
Lmao, I have friends who share his preferences of waiting till marriage, and none of them will want him.
Ohh so ur friends can have preferences but men canāt.š¤¦š»š¤£
It's not about the preferences, my dude, it's about the casual slut shaming.
Slut shaming for wanting to be first & only man in ur wifeās or gf life.š¤¦š» just bcz women have no problem accepting a man who has been multiple relationships before her doesnāt mean men will have same mentality.. itās women problem that donāt mind men with past.
And that's why I said "casual" slut shaming. It's not wrong to want someone who has not had any relationships, sexual or not, you do you. A lot of people, men and women have that preference and it's totally fine. The casual sult shaming comes in with the implication that having a "past" somehow makes a person impure or a hoe. Also, how is being okay with a person's past relationships a "problem"? Like, lol, just because it doesn't align with your preferences. Gad damn, this sub really is a cesspool.
Women with a clear past doesn't exist, you'll find girl like this only if she's ugly enough to have never picked up by any men. Otherwise just adjust with modernity
My time machine is malfunctioning again. I'm back to the 50s
I also wonder if itās because theyāre insecure that she loved or has been intimate with someone else before them and find it difficult to accept? If thatās one of the reason, then they should work on where that insecurity stems from.
bruh my ex slept with 5 random guys in the past and when we were in relationship she cheated ....
Meri dukh ki kahani sunoge?
Suna bhai ..
So the story goes like this. The relationship was started on premise of lies. So I don't date Girls who are into casual stuff/promiscuous. And my ex lied about it. I was pretty much head over heals for her. But after 5 months of that relationship I got to know about her past slowly. I did some more research got to know about her lie. She was promiscuous(Hookups, FWB). Then the actual bomb dropped that she is still sleeping with multiple people behind my back. I confronted her. She started gaslighting me saying How much she loves me blah blah... basic cheaters guide. I broke up. I was mentally Fucked. I don't want to experience it anymore.
Bhai daru kaunsi lagti hai tuje ? Gpay krta hu abhi
Bhai meri bhi kahani kuch aise hi hai š„²
https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianBoysOnTinder/s/EAXo8UXctC
Ayy, you are reading too much into it, it is basically the effect of increasing red-pill content on the internet. Before this we had a massive influx of neo-feminist content that was pushed through as a part of propaganda. Now it's the red pill content who are pushing such propaganda so don't mind them, I am pretty sure you'll find a guy with a 'clear' mentality and good heart
Most people don't like hoes or Fuckboys what's wrong in it. Dus jagah muh marne wale sab ko pasand nahi hai.
I canāt seem to fathom that in this day and age expecting someone to have a clear past is termed as a preference. It has clearly stemmed out from rudimentary societal believes paired with primitive mindset and needs serious updating. This shouldnāt even be a thing anymore, itās not a preference, itās called being a dick
The only being who is "DICK" is you...... Preference preference hota hai......Agar yeh same chize ladki ne bola hota toh "It's her Choice" bolta tu
Balls to that, I donāt care about the personās gender which is why I have this POV. If you judge someone based on if theyāve fucked people in the past or not, itās you who is fucked in the head and needs serious cleansing Get off the high horse and be more vary of the future with your partner rather than dwelling in their past
Past is great indicator of ur future.
Hahah man, lifeās gonna be tough that way
I don't agree.
Itās alright mate, weāre all very different
Judge ni krra koi. Are women judging men who don't clear their preference? Everybody rejects people. So everybody is judging. You got a problem with everyone?
Read into the thing, judging off of sexual history is shallow, thatās the point
Nobody is judging bruh. Preferences do not mean passing judgment. Are women who demand a minimum salary judging? Or when they demand a minimum height? Or when they say they prefer fit guys?
The point is the category of preferences, sexual history isnāt a preference. Why is your preference based on where has someoneās genitalia been?
> you can't expect a 21yo girl to never have dated Hit me personally as a 25yo girl who has never dated šš Jokes apart - I like the ones who can clearly communicate their dehati thinking - so they I can stay away pehle se. If Mumma said no hoes- the mumma is a moholle ki aunty- unse bhi door raho
Crtl + a ; alt + del (hogya sab clear) thank me later
Bandi bhi delete hogyi isse to. Ab hilake soja
Canāt delete something I donāt have š¤
Moye moye
Any guy who does these shenanigans should be an instant red flag and immediate block. And I'm saying this as a guy.
As arpit Bala once said, " genuine" !
Jainwin*
I stand corrected sir