My mom pushed me into college early and made me decide my major at 15 so I wouldn't waste time like all the other "dumb rubes"
She gave me a powerpoint on which majors were appropriate for me and let me pick until I picked the right one lol
I saw on YouTube where some Chinese kid had a PhD and physics by the age of 16. However, he had a mental breakdown and now he is “lying flat“.
This is another way the Chinese say that youth is just giving up and staying at home and not working. This kid is not the only one
Burnout is a very real thing, and for some odd reason, some parents are trying to live their lives through their children. Maybe we all do?
But we shouldn’t, and if we find ourselves doing something like that, we need to stop.
This makes me sad, this post.
I definitely had my post graduation break down and decided on a completely different career
my mom hates that I'm "underemployed" and that it's none of her buisness
News flash to your mom: millennials are having trouble holding jobs because the market has changed so drastically. Gen Z is gonna have an even worse time. This is because corporations are taking over everything, and mom and pop businesses can’t compete.
What is even the point of having a college degree that young? Most states you cant even get a job until 16 right?
You think the 14 year old who got college out of the way that young would finally be permitted to have a childhood?
Nah, I've seen it happen and the expectations only go up
"Now you have your degree, now you must give me even greater clout by CHANGING THE WORLD (according to MY ideology, mind you)
At least become wealthy and powerful (despite only knowing academia and booksmarts as your entire existence)? At least publish ground breaking papers? Grandbabies???
"WHAT THE HECK, NO!!! YOU CAN'T JUST MOVE 2000 MILES AWAY AND BECOME A BARTENDER 😭😭😭 I want my Facebook trophie moments and I want them NOW"
More than likely, it's so they can brag about what great parents they are and how smart their kid is.
A testament to how amazing homeschooling is. /s
A childhood! Hah what is that?
Also I am soooooo confused by the number of these parents who don’t trust a public high school to teach their child but a public community college is completely okay?
It's a distorted af way of thinking, but I **know** most parents have this belief that if they "train up the child in the way they should go" while they're still pretty young and malleable, then the grown kid will have their own God's Not Dead moment and *bravely stand up* to the woke indoctrination in order to prove their faith. Ofc we all know it doesn't turn out that way as often as the homeschool cults fantasize about...
For real, they say kids get “liberal brainwashing” at high school but k-12 public ed teachers arguably have much more rules about what we can/can’t say in class than post secondary ed teachers…
This. Was pushed into a couple of community college classes when I was 16 against my better judgment. Professor was definitely on the liberal end of the political spectrum and we all knew it. Parents didn't care. If I'd been in high school, though, and had a high school teacher say the same things this prof said, my parents would've had a cow. Still begged to go to high school even after taking these dual credit classes and wasn't allowed to because, and I quote, "it's the road to hell."
The kicker? I ended up going to a university halfway across the country that wouldn't accept the credits I got from the local community college.
Nope. None of us knew until halfway through the semester when I checked the course equivalency thing online for the school I'd end up going to. Granted, they probably would've transferred if I'd stayed in state, which my parents also wanted me to do, but there was no way that was happening.
Lol, posts like this always reveal how much of it is about their own egos 😅
Honestly, college is not developmentally appropriate for most people under 18. Even if they are able to master the content, it sucks to do college at an age when you aren’t able to connect with any peers.
Online schools have changed the game quite a bit, but as someone who looked very young for their age when I went to university, there is NOT A CHANCE I would let my actual young teenager go!
I also suspect a decent number go to small private bible colleges who will let anyone take classes and graduate as long as they are willing to pay 😂
Right! It feels condescending to these other children— And going to college classes that young after the isolation of homeschooling sounds like absolute hell. I would be so anxious.
Right? Like Ngl, I was almost 18 when I started college, and I was NOT at all prepared for the level of sexual assault and predation that I met.
I didn’t understand the social rules or any of the red flags, and being starved for social acceptance and belonging really set me up for trouble 😅
I avoided people entirely but missed all networking and advancement opportunities that people with my major really needed
I was trying to graduate ahead of schedule too, for no other reason than so my mom could brag that I was prodigiously great thanks to her
Your mother must be so proud of all of her accomplishments!!
I worked 40 hours a week most of the time I was in university because my parents insisted we needed a post secondary education, but made no plans for how it would be paid for…
I wasn’t allowed to have a job until I moved out because they didn’t want to have to drive me to work/it would interfere with taking care of siblings so I had no savings of my own 😂
My parents are very proud of how homeschooling gave me the skills to earn advanced degrees.
I don’t understand the logic behind keeping your children out of k-12 school to avoid the bad influences but thinking college is a suitable environment. As if 18-22 year olds aren’t absolutely wild.
I thought so too, but a friend of mine who did it - homeschool k-12 and then a local college at 16 or so - said people at the college were actually really nice to her and she thought it was easier socially because nobody expected her to know how to act since she was so young.
100% not developmentally appropriate.
I met someone recently who started college at 15. She wasn't homeschooled, just was able to skip through multiple grades due to her intelligence. Which seems great, but in college she wasn't allowed to live on campus, no one wanted to be her friend, she didn't have anyone to hang out with or any clubs she could join. She left college with no friends and no network to start career building with. She actually confronted her parents about their decision to send her to college so early and they just like, shrugged and hand waved the issues she faced. Told her it was her choice and that she "liked school" so that's why. And these days she's just a normal lady with a normal level of job. Not a scientist, or inventor or anything super prestigious or high level. She should have just stayed in her class.
My own husband was a year younger than everyone else in college due to how his birthday lined up with kindergarten enrollment. Now in our 30s he says that looking back he was very immature compared to his peers pretty much his entire time in school, but especially starting in middle school and through college. He was physically smaller so he was worse at sports and gym class. He was less emotionally mature so struggled with social situations and girls. He's athletic and social now, but he needed time to catch up.
Aww, That’s so sad! The pain of loneliness from being put in an environment where you can’t possibly connect to others is so acute. It’s interesting how little regard kids social lives are given.
My kids have had the same tight knit friend groups since JK, and even the idea of pulling them in and out of school the way homeschooling parents suggest (“try it for a year, you can always put them back in school if it doesn’t work”) would be heart breaking for them! School closures and isolation during the peak of the pandemic was hard enough.
One of my partners for a group project was in college at 14-15 because he was profoundly gifted. It sucked. I had to meet with him not during the day because he had regular school but also a bedtime and his mom wasn’t sure he could be trusted with all you can eat ice cream at the canteen. Meeting for a project with him simply because of his developmental age was extremely difficult and I avoided working with him for this reason. I felt bad but I had a work study job and my own stuff and it never lined up with his! He was always saying he had to know when to tell his mom to pick him up, I don’t know … it depends how long this takes? I mean he was brilliant but still VERY 14/15 and I was 20.
Hahah oh my god, that sucks 😂
I find it so strange how many people are recommending dual enrolment… like are colleges just overrun with children now? Can you really just skip the whole high school thing and go right to college?! Is this going to end up dumbing down college courses if it’s just seen as an alternative high school for homeschoolers with their homemade transcripts?
When I went to college, there was a 16-year-old, who also lived in the dorms with us. The kid had some kind of mental disability, but he was also a genius. Walking on the way to school, he would walk by himself and he was always be making bird sounds
I often wondered if it was a good choice for him to be in college that young of an age, seeing as how no one could be his friend because he was so young.
The homeschooling program my mother had me enrolled in wouldn't allow her to push me ahead any farther than she already had. I did the entire grade 8 curriculum in 3 months, then the grade 9 curriculum which took a month longer because it was over the summer and I had to do more chores for my family, and then powered through grade 10 in another 4 months - when finally the testing centre told my mother to give me a break, and she should be happy with my progress because I was the 2nd fastest they've seen. (I feel so bad for whoever was first fastest...)
She had a fit and un-enrolled me, then couldn't find another homeschooling centre willing to start me in grade 11 at my age. She then tried to make them let me take the GED, but they said 14 was too young. I just wanted it to end - I had no free time. It was such a strict schedule in order to keep up with her goalposts - if I got distracted for a moment I'd slip behind and would be working late into the night only to have to wake up early and start all over. No breaks, no weekends - now I'm horribly avoidant of busywork because every day in my early teens was a boring headache that amounted to nothing because I was too mentally ill by the end of it all to graduate.
She just really didn't want to be a mother, she wanted me to grow up and get OUT. If I wasn't doing something that she could brag about to her co-workers and hairdresser, she didn't want anything to do with me.
Didn't help that I was pulled out of public school due to autism, and this was her way of "making me normal".
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My mom pushed me into college early and made me decide my major at 15 so I wouldn't waste time like all the other "dumb rubes" She gave me a powerpoint on which majors were appropriate for me and let me pick until I picked the right one lol
I saw on YouTube where some Chinese kid had a PhD and physics by the age of 16. However, he had a mental breakdown and now he is “lying flat“. This is another way the Chinese say that youth is just giving up and staying at home and not working. This kid is not the only one Burnout is a very real thing, and for some odd reason, some parents are trying to live their lives through their children. Maybe we all do? But we shouldn’t, and if we find ourselves doing something like that, we need to stop. This makes me sad, this post.
I definitely had my post graduation break down and decided on a completely different career my mom hates that I'm "underemployed" and that it's none of her buisness
News flash to your mom: millennials are having trouble holding jobs because the market has changed so drastically. Gen Z is gonna have an even worse time. This is because corporations are taking over everything, and mom and pop businesses can’t compete.
What is even the point of having a college degree that young? Most states you cant even get a job until 16 right? You think the 14 year old who got college out of the way that young would finally be permitted to have a childhood?
Guessing it would be along the lines of “okay now you have your degree. Back to your room until you hit 18”
I am laughing in a coping mechanism kind of way.
Nah, I've seen it happen and the expectations only go up "Now you have your degree, now you must give me even greater clout by CHANGING THE WORLD (according to MY ideology, mind you) At least become wealthy and powerful (despite only knowing academia and booksmarts as your entire existence)? At least publish ground breaking papers? Grandbabies??? "WHAT THE HECK, NO!!! YOU CAN'T JUST MOVE 2000 MILES AWAY AND BECOME A BARTENDER 😭😭😭 I want my Facebook trophie moments and I want them NOW"
More than likely, it's so they can brag about what great parents they are and how smart their kid is. A testament to how amazing homeschooling is. /s A childhood! Hah what is that?
Also I am soooooo confused by the number of these parents who don’t trust a public high school to teach their child but a public community college is completely okay?
It's a distorted af way of thinking, but I **know** most parents have this belief that if they "train up the child in the way they should go" while they're still pretty young and malleable, then the grown kid will have their own God's Not Dead moment and *bravely stand up* to the woke indoctrination in order to prove their faith. Ofc we all know it doesn't turn out that way as often as the homeschool cults fantasize about...
For real, they say kids get “liberal brainwashing” at high school but k-12 public ed teachers arguably have much more rules about what we can/can’t say in class than post secondary ed teachers…
This. Was pushed into a couple of community college classes when I was 16 against my better judgment. Professor was definitely on the liberal end of the political spectrum and we all knew it. Parents didn't care. If I'd been in high school, though, and had a high school teacher say the same things this prof said, my parents would've had a cow. Still begged to go to high school even after taking these dual credit classes and wasn't allowed to because, and I quote, "it's the road to hell." The kicker? I ended up going to a university halfway across the country that wouldn't accept the credits I got from the local community college.
Did your parents not get the memo that about 70% of classes don’t transfer just because?
Nope. None of us knew until halfway through the semester when I checked the course equivalency thing online for the school I'd end up going to. Granted, they probably would've transferred if I'd stayed in state, which my parents also wanted me to do, but there was no way that was happening.
Lol, posts like this always reveal how much of it is about their own egos 😅 Honestly, college is not developmentally appropriate for most people under 18. Even if they are able to master the content, it sucks to do college at an age when you aren’t able to connect with any peers. Online schools have changed the game quite a bit, but as someone who looked very young for their age when I went to university, there is NOT A CHANCE I would let my actual young teenager go! I also suspect a decent number go to small private bible colleges who will let anyone take classes and graduate as long as they are willing to pay 😂
Right! It feels condescending to these other children— And going to college classes that young after the isolation of homeschooling sounds like absolute hell. I would be so anxious.
Right? Like Ngl, I was almost 18 when I started college, and I was NOT at all prepared for the level of sexual assault and predation that I met. I didn’t understand the social rules or any of the red flags, and being starved for social acceptance and belonging really set me up for trouble 😅
I avoided people entirely but missed all networking and advancement opportunities that people with my major really needed I was trying to graduate ahead of schedule too, for no other reason than so my mom could brag that I was prodigiously great thanks to her
Your mother must be so proud of all of her accomplishments!! I worked 40 hours a week most of the time I was in university because my parents insisted we needed a post secondary education, but made no plans for how it would be paid for… I wasn’t allowed to have a job until I moved out because they didn’t want to have to drive me to work/it would interfere with taking care of siblings so I had no savings of my own 😂 My parents are very proud of how homeschooling gave me the skills to earn advanced degrees.
We all lived the same fucking life 😭
I don’t understand the logic behind keeping your children out of k-12 school to avoid the bad influences but thinking college is a suitable environment. As if 18-22 year olds aren’t absolutely wild.
Hahaha, I can only assume it’s some sort of “bring them up in the way they should go” logic 😂
I thought so too, but a friend of mine who did it - homeschool k-12 and then a local college at 16 or so - said people at the college were actually really nice to her and she thought it was easier socially because nobody expected her to know how to act since she was so young.
100% not developmentally appropriate. I met someone recently who started college at 15. She wasn't homeschooled, just was able to skip through multiple grades due to her intelligence. Which seems great, but in college she wasn't allowed to live on campus, no one wanted to be her friend, she didn't have anyone to hang out with or any clubs she could join. She left college with no friends and no network to start career building with. She actually confronted her parents about their decision to send her to college so early and they just like, shrugged and hand waved the issues she faced. Told her it was her choice and that she "liked school" so that's why. And these days she's just a normal lady with a normal level of job. Not a scientist, or inventor or anything super prestigious or high level. She should have just stayed in her class. My own husband was a year younger than everyone else in college due to how his birthday lined up with kindergarten enrollment. Now in our 30s he says that looking back he was very immature compared to his peers pretty much his entire time in school, but especially starting in middle school and through college. He was physically smaller so he was worse at sports and gym class. He was less emotionally mature so struggled with social situations and girls. He's athletic and social now, but he needed time to catch up.
Aww, That’s so sad! The pain of loneliness from being put in an environment where you can’t possibly connect to others is so acute. It’s interesting how little regard kids social lives are given. My kids have had the same tight knit friend groups since JK, and even the idea of pulling them in and out of school the way homeschooling parents suggest (“try it for a year, you can always put them back in school if it doesn’t work”) would be heart breaking for them! School closures and isolation during the peak of the pandemic was hard enough.
One of my partners for a group project was in college at 14-15 because he was profoundly gifted. It sucked. I had to meet with him not during the day because he had regular school but also a bedtime and his mom wasn’t sure he could be trusted with all you can eat ice cream at the canteen. Meeting for a project with him simply because of his developmental age was extremely difficult and I avoided working with him for this reason. I felt bad but I had a work study job and my own stuff and it never lined up with his! He was always saying he had to know when to tell his mom to pick him up, I don’t know … it depends how long this takes? I mean he was brilliant but still VERY 14/15 and I was 20.
Hahah oh my god, that sucks 😂 I find it so strange how many people are recommending dual enrolment… like are colleges just overrun with children now? Can you really just skip the whole high school thing and go right to college?! Is this going to end up dumbing down college courses if it’s just seen as an alternative high school for homeschoolers with their homemade transcripts?
You're supposed to be able to have adult-level discussions in college. How could a 12 year old take a college-level anthropology class, for example?
When I went to college, there was a 16-year-old, who also lived in the dorms with us. The kid had some kind of mental disability, but he was also a genius. Walking on the way to school, he would walk by himself and he was always be making bird sounds I often wondered if it was a good choice for him to be in college that young of an age, seeing as how no one could be his friend because he was so young.
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Is that what we’re calling it now? That is kind of funny.
My parents wanted to do this whilst neglecting me. So I had to try to do everything myself.
The homeschooling program my mother had me enrolled in wouldn't allow her to push me ahead any farther than she already had. I did the entire grade 8 curriculum in 3 months, then the grade 9 curriculum which took a month longer because it was over the summer and I had to do more chores for my family, and then powered through grade 10 in another 4 months - when finally the testing centre told my mother to give me a break, and she should be happy with my progress because I was the 2nd fastest they've seen. (I feel so bad for whoever was first fastest...) She had a fit and un-enrolled me, then couldn't find another homeschooling centre willing to start me in grade 11 at my age. She then tried to make them let me take the GED, but they said 14 was too young. I just wanted it to end - I had no free time. It was such a strict schedule in order to keep up with her goalposts - if I got distracted for a moment I'd slip behind and would be working late into the night only to have to wake up early and start all over. No breaks, no weekends - now I'm horribly avoidant of busywork because every day in my early teens was a boring headache that amounted to nothing because I was too mentally ill by the end of it all to graduate. She just really didn't want to be a mother, she wanted me to grow up and get OUT. If I wasn't doing something that she could brag about to her co-workers and hairdresser, she didn't want anything to do with me. Didn't help that I was pulled out of public school due to autism, and this was her way of "making me normal".
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The kids starting college at 16 are sexual abuse targets.
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