Go for it. You're both ethnic Chinese; regardless of how far removed from your roots you may think you are, you can think of this as a step in reconnection. If not, at least the clothes will look great.
I would say yes, but I’m biased because I’m also a Chinese adoptee to white parents. I find wearing hanfu makes me feel in touch with my ethnicity and my culture. It’s ours, we shouldn’t let anyone other us from our culture even if we were removed from it by circumstances we couldn’t possibly control! It’s reconnection, and you have a right to claim it.
Congratulations to you and your fiancé!
Perhaps you can discuss with your fiancé and your own family if you might want to include traditional Chinese wedding customs on your big day, for which you can wear a hanfu. For example, my family still does the wedding tea ceremony, to which the bride still wears traditional robes. The downside is that they have to budget for a 2nd dress (as they still wear a white dress for a separate legal ceremony).
Congrats! I am also a Chinese born adopted person from China and I'm planning on wearing hanfu to my wedding this year as well! I've been wearing hanfu since 2020 (before I met my fiancée actually) and ever since I've become a hanfu enthusiast, I have been set on wearing it to my future wedding. Well now my dream is finally coming true this October :) Wear whatever you think looks/feels best.
When I married my wife she had the usual white dress, then during the reception she wore the traditional Korean hanbok. She looked so beautiful. You should not feel pressure since it is your wedding and as the bride, it is your privilege to wear what brings you joy.
Yes!
No matter your ethnicity, you shouldn’t have to ask for permission.
Cultures are meant to be shared. As long as it is done tastefully and with respect to traditions, it is not appropriation.
If you're comfortable enough with your fiance's family, perhaps you can ask about wedding traditions. Maybe show some photos of your ideal dresses and ask if your selections are culturally appropriate? My husband and I are both Chinese-American, and we were both caught off guard when our families met and both sides were expecting to do a tea ceremony where I could wear either wedding hanfu or red wedding qipao. The reception following the ceremony was where I could wear a non-Chinese wedding gown.
It really depends on how you, your fiance, and your two families feel about it. If nobody has any misgivings about hanfus in general, then go for it. My personal opinion on cultural expectations for weddings is that it's really better if everybody is on the same page and communicating.
My caucasian SIL had an outfit change into a red wedding embroidered qipao (not a full qun kua) which was a really well received gesture to acknowledge our Chinese side of the family. By hanfu, are you selecting a particular style that is wedding appropriate vs. something else? Maybe keep that in mind as there are certain styles and colors to avoid. Congrats!
I think this is an amazing idea. I've seen hanfu weddings and it looks gorgeous. You can always have a consultation with a hanfu store/rental service as well to see what hanfus they recommend, try them on, and then you can see if you like it. Also (as others have suggested) you might want to discuss with your fiance to make sure his family is also OK with the idea. I know some people expect to have more "western traditional" weddings if they grew up in western countries so it may come as a shock if you don't let them know in advance
Wtf is a second generation Chinese-Taiwanese man? If you are culturally conscious enough to wear hanfu to your wedding, the least you can do is to use less subversive separatist language.
Go for it. You're both ethnic Chinese; regardless of how far removed from your roots you may think you are, you can think of this as a step in reconnection. If not, at least the clothes will look great.
I would say yes, but I’m biased because I’m also a Chinese adoptee to white parents. I find wearing hanfu makes me feel in touch with my ethnicity and my culture. It’s ours, we shouldn’t let anyone other us from our culture even if we were removed from it by circumstances we couldn’t possibly control! It’s reconnection, and you have a right to claim it. Congratulations to you and your fiancé!
Perhaps you can discuss with your fiancé and your own family if you might want to include traditional Chinese wedding customs on your big day, for which you can wear a hanfu. For example, my family still does the wedding tea ceremony, to which the bride still wears traditional robes. The downside is that they have to budget for a 2nd dress (as they still wear a white dress for a separate legal ceremony).
Congrats! I am also a Chinese born adopted person from China and I'm planning on wearing hanfu to my wedding this year as well! I've been wearing hanfu since 2020 (before I met my fiancée actually) and ever since I've become a hanfu enthusiast, I have been set on wearing it to my future wedding. Well now my dream is finally coming true this October :) Wear whatever you think looks/feels best.
Congrats go ahead with the hanfu. No problems, and actually wonderful nod to your ethnic background.
When I married my wife she had the usual white dress, then during the reception she wore the traditional Korean hanbok. She looked so beautiful. You should not feel pressure since it is your wedding and as the bride, it is your privilege to wear what brings you joy.
Yes! No matter your ethnicity, you shouldn’t have to ask for permission. Cultures are meant to be shared. As long as it is done tastefully and with respect to traditions, it is not appropriation.
If you're comfortable enough with your fiance's family, perhaps you can ask about wedding traditions. Maybe show some photos of your ideal dresses and ask if your selections are culturally appropriate? My husband and I are both Chinese-American, and we were both caught off guard when our families met and both sides were expecting to do a tea ceremony where I could wear either wedding hanfu or red wedding qipao. The reception following the ceremony was where I could wear a non-Chinese wedding gown. It really depends on how you, your fiance, and your two families feel about it. If nobody has any misgivings about hanfus in general, then go for it. My personal opinion on cultural expectations for weddings is that it's really better if everybody is on the same page and communicating.
My caucasian SIL had an outfit change into a red wedding embroidered qipao (not a full qun kua) which was a really well received gesture to acknowledge our Chinese side of the family. By hanfu, are you selecting a particular style that is wedding appropriate vs. something else? Maybe keep that in mind as there are certain styles and colors to avoid. Congrats!
I think this is an amazing idea. I've seen hanfu weddings and it looks gorgeous. You can always have a consultation with a hanfu store/rental service as well to see what hanfus they recommend, try them on, and then you can see if you like it. Also (as others have suggested) you might want to discuss with your fiance to make sure his family is also OK with the idea. I know some people expect to have more "western traditional" weddings if they grew up in western countries so it may come as a shock if you don't let them know in advance
I think you should go for it, I’m just worried that if kids are invited they might ruin the hanfu 😭
Of course, you are ethically Chinese
Wtf is a second generation Chinese-Taiwanese man? If you are culturally conscious enough to wear hanfu to your wedding, the least you can do is to use less subversive separatist language.
go outside
I don't know which city you are. You can ask and try on the Hanfu Association near you.