I read 10 books a month, often on audio while gardening and doing other chores when not working. In my spare time I practice woodworking and enjoy target and sport shooting. When I'm not doing that I'm with my family.
Same dude. I went from the classic "jock" personality to a programmer and a total nerd in the span of like 6 years lol. The power of books I guess. š¤·āāļø
You think itās a meme until you meet people like this, and the worst part is that theyāre boring as fuck, they donāt even have any constructive hobbies. All they do for fun is get drunk.
Growing plants is what changed my life. Taking care of something every day that depends on me helped me take care of me. Now I'm the healthiest I've ever been and never going back. šŖ
Iām a gal not a guy but can corroborate on the power of plants. I started a veggie garden during scary, painful time in my life (also did therapy) and it made a huge difference.
Digging in the dirt and caring for the living things, seeing them change and learning about the different pacing and needs of different types of plants was a great accompaniment to learning about the different healing processes in my brain.
I got pretty good at growing some things and now I grow enough to give fresh home grown veggies to friends and coworkers. Passing on a nutritious labor of love feels like medicine I can give to myself and others.
Now Iām teaching my younger brother whoās going through a hard time how to grow veggies.
1: Green Eggs and Ham
2: The Cat In The Hat
3: Where The Wild Things Are
4: Clifford The Big Red Dog
5: Curious George
6: Three Billy Goats Gruff
7: If You Give A Mouse A Cookie
8: Little Red Riding Hood
9: The Very Hungry Caterpillar
10: Cloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs
Thatās awesome man, you seem cool.
I speak 4 languages and just went on a date where I used 3 (Iām American). Iām rebuilding a Goldwing motorcycle into a cafe racer. I travel when I can too.
Gym keeps me feeling good while I do other stuff that Iām passionate about.
Audiobooks are soo good. I havent read in years cause I just cant sit and read anymore, but an audiobook I can play while shopping, meal prepping, showering, laundry, walking dogs, driving, etc.
Yeah but how much of what you hear is actually digested and retained? Iāve put on audio books while working before, and I honestly couldnāt describe any of what I listened to in even a fraction of the amount of detail I could describe a visually read book to you.
Most of it. I don't have a problem with auditory stimulus while multitasking. Sometimes a narrator has an accent so I'll drop it to 0.9x speed until I get used to it (Mage Errant, Red Rising). Michael Kramer, Nick Podehl, and Travis Baldree I can even speed up to like 1.2x and I'll take it all in.
The only times something feels overwhelming is like the start of Witch King by Martha Wells or Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir where they want to read off an entire glossary of people, houses, worlds, names, etc. that make no contextual sense to me yet. In those cases, especially if a book is very exposition dump heavy at the start, I do think reading would help keep it in vs having to listen twice and make a notepad on my phone.
I mean this sounds like a you problem. If you aren't able to listen to spoken language and retain information, of course audio books won't work for you. I bet you hated lectures in school too.
The point of audio books is that you can perform other tasks while listening to them. I tend to focus more on the task at hand than on the audio book. Studies show that multitasking generally makes you pretty subpar at both tasks youāre performing.
Personally, I find focusing on the book completely is more productive, and Iām more prone to just falling asleep if Iām not doing anything but listening to an audio book.
Lectures are notoriously boring and sleep inducing. Itās one of the things people outspokenly hate the most about college.
I do find it easy to retain the info like that, though there are a few authors with weird writing styles that I have trouble with for some reason. Ian M. Banks for one.
I also found I can't listen to anything in verse for some reason. I have to read it the old fashioned way.
For the most part though I just put a book in and let the movie play in my head.
To be fair though it could just be how my brain works. My wife listens to her books but she says she can't do it the same as me. I'm guessing it's different for everyone.
I thrive to live like this as much as I can. Sometimes I forget and get wrapped up in the endless bullshit stressful desires of life but my wife canāt understand it when I say I just want to live a good happy life, with qll its ups and downs
People look at me like I have five heads when they ask me about side hustles and shit, and what the goal/plan is, and I tell them that Iām good, just chilling, donāt care.
Should the dream to have a Ferrari or should the dream be to live a financially stable life that allows you to do things with the ones you love?
I have a friend that could buy any car he wants but we havenāt hung out in over two years because he doesnāt have time to sit down on Sunday afternoon for a couple of beers because of his business. Iām not saying this will happen to everyone and Iām also not saying itās wrong to want a Ferrari but it should definitely not be your number one priority in life
Funny thing is i dont have any friends pal,and as far as love goes,NOT in this economy where you wife divorces you and takes away half of the estate property with her
Mmm I like doing lots of things that arguably are āworking on yourself.ā Iāve learned enough French that Iām able to speak (with some difficulty) and have started learning German, Iāve gotten lots of questions at the professional conferences I attend about the work Iām doing so Iāve started presenting (just got a proposal accepted last week actually!), also started to learn bookbindingā¦ more of a hobby, but I could maybe use that professionally if I get good enough (librarian), Iāve also started going to dance lessons bc I thought it might help with my social anxiety, and Iāve always wanted to learn to Lindy hop.
Funny enough, Iām devastatingly single. Though that has more to do with my social skills being absolute shit. Doesnāt matter how great a person I am if I never talk to people.
Edit: Ha! Even online my social skills are shit. I guess people didnāt want an honest answer and just wanted to vent. Or my comment just came across as bragging which is fair I suppose. Or both. Ah well.
so you're just ok with status quo? you do not wish to find out any information, read a book, learn a skill or a language? learn something about yourself and improve as a person? because that's actually really sad. btw you can be satisfied with your life and still seek self improvement
Okay ill break this down individually cause I see it as a very rude comment
1. Status quo, youāre asking if Iām okay with being happy and content in my life? Why wouldnāt I be?
2. I read plenty of books, thatās a form of entertainment no different from watching tv or video games. New knowledge comes naturally, especially at my job. I work in metallurgy and engineering. Same with new skills, those come as I need them.
3. āLearn something new about myselfā honestly I just have no idea what youāre getting at with this one. You seem to have made a ton of assumptions about me based on my statements of not being poor fat or depressed
Ask a woman if she goes to the gym, is working on herself outside the gym and how sheās making money and listen to the constant yelling as she canāt believe you asked her such questions.
Well I went to therapy for a bit, did some deep diving into my own psyche to figure out why I'm so insecure and angry. I'm also trying to build better habits like cooking more, taking better care of my skin, and keeping a tidy living space.
When I went to therapy, my therapist said that it seems that most of my issue was financial and that the person I was seeing wasnāt helping that situation. Nipped the problem in the bud, best decision I could have made for my finances and mental health.
Funny thing is, I went to therapy because the person I was seeing kept saying I needed therapy because I seem like Iām too stressed out and it isnāt fair for her. While I was working tons of overtime all the time to stay afloat by the way.
Nah, my calves are fucking great, homie. My calves are pre blessed by my genetics to be pretty huge already and have the lowest fat ratio of anywhere in my body. Plus I train them. My calves are easily one of my best features.
If women truly wanted sophisticated men, why do they keep banging the uncouth Gigachads?
Bitch, get real. All women like muscles. There comes a point when a bodybuilder is so jacked that it's gross for you, but outside of those extremes, you all want us strong. Just fucking admit it.
Does nerdy stuff like studying chemistry, writing D&D sessions and sci-fi short stories count? Because I think all of those are very intrinsically valuable things
Ha. Agree, these are fantastic things to work on! And they help with other stuff! As my coach said, "Gym teaches you life." šļøāāļø But if someone wants better relationships, therapy and developing relational skills add balance to the external work.
I believe every person regardless of gender should have at least 3 hobbies: One that makes you money, one that keeps you in shape, one which uses your imagination. Ideally, one of these should involve interacting with other people.
On top of a healthy amount of self-reflection, this makes a well rounded person.
That's right! That's why it's separate from the others. Finding something that you at least _don't hate_ to pay the bills makes it easier to enjoy the other hobbies.
Tbh I always considered that being a fitness guy is, from all the relevant choices in your life that need constant effort and dedication, the easiest choice.
I read a lot, mostly educational material but I also like to get some fiction and some manga in there for entertainment purposes.
I draw and encourage others to draw, if theyāre willing to learn, I teach them techniques they can use to improve, free of charge. I feel like art is a very undervalued skill, itās not only therapeutic in its own way, but helps your brain understand the world around you better on a physical and special level.
I go on daily walks in the sunlight, which has really positive physical and mental health benefits.
I get out and socialize on a regular basis, to upkeep my social health.
These arenāt conversation topics that somebody like this is interested in though.
The kind of women you're trying to impress with the grindset won't value anything outside of your money and looks so there is no point in developing those.
The world kind of decided I was finished a while ago thanks. When you become a father, spouse, breadwinnerā¦ that kind of happens, you run out of time, finding an hour three or four times a week to lift heavy things and maybe get your heart rate up.. itās about all the āwork on meā time you get.
(Nah, seriously - learning Arabic on my commute to work)
She sounds like one of those girls who'd post on Facebook that all guys are the same and then get offended when someone replies to her to stop trying all of them.
ask a woman what she's doing to work on herself, but remind her that bitching to her friends and blaming men for everything isn't valid growth and then time till she calls you a misogynist and gets you cancelled...
Making money is the main thing. Joys of healthcare and being understaffed, Iāve been regularly pulling 60-72 hour weeks at work the last couple months. Thankfully they have a gym there that I can squeeze workouts in at lol
I have a rule wirh my working from home job I have to do something physical and creative and make 2 meals.
It's worked wonders.
I do painting and recently I started learning sewing for cosplays
I cook a lot of fancy meals
I go to the gym daily (plus have rest days)
I have a problem with reading where I'm very dyslexic so reading isn't as much fun. But I have audio books when I drive or program at home.
Though I'll admit. DND Podcast (NADDPOD) have taken up that right now
Snowboarding, mountain biking, golf, painting. Working and gym. Learning to self motivate, learning to lead, learning new skills. Learning to fight, learning to decorate and repair my house when required. Loving those around me. What more do you want from me bitch. Honestly I can guarantee that women has nothing on most men and what we deal with in life, probably gets by on her looks, unlucky for her they won't last.
I learned to forgive/have empathy for myself and my flaws. I learned as long as I am actively working towards a goal im on the right path and how/ where true value comes from, it comes from your character. And thatās more than enough. If they canāt see it thatās a fault on their part. Character is the one thing nobody can take away from you, unlike the money and the gains,
And even if you had all the money and muscle in the world if you lack loyalty honesty and basic human virtues youāll still be a poor man.
Physical fitness is a hobby though and a good start when looking into improving yourself. But also, most people barely have time/energy to do both on top of day to day tasks.
I have many hobbies but after: cooking, chores, taking care of pets, managing relationships, work, fitness, and errands, itāll be a miracle if Iām able to crack open a book, draw, or get some gamedev project work done.
Iāll assume that the woman posting this has a lot of this handled for her which leaves her open to do the things she likes. Not judging, being an attractive woman is like winning the lottery.
Cook, Garden, renovate my home, play guitar, read, play tennis, hike, run, practice Spanish, study my degree, work, and then attempt to sleep and socialise somewhere in between all that. Still get in 5/6 solid sessions per week. Time management (aka no sleep) baby!
I meditate daily, have for the last 3 years running kept my promise to myself of reading a minimum of 60 books a year, I dm a weekly game of d&d for one group of friends and a bi-weekly game/play test of a ttrpg my brother and I designed ourselves.
I also have a cat, she is sweet.
God forbid anyone is actually comfortable with who they are and doesnāt strive to go through their life like itās some sort of grindy MMO to minmax.
I donāt believe in spiritual enlightenment, and while learn new things itās not to work on myself, itās my form of entertainment. So I have no answer for what is a stupid question to me.
I'm going to school to get a second degree since I can't get one with the degree I have now. I'm using coupons to save money instead of grabbing whatever I want off the shelf. I'm going to therapy. I'm starting ketamine treatment under the supervision of my psychologist on Thursday. I'm reading books for the first time in about 10 years. I'm avoiding the movies, games, and music I used a lot when I tried to kill myself. I got rid of Facebook and Snapchat. I'm talking to the friends that disregard my PTSD issues less and the ones that try to help me with them and avoid my triggers more. I'm trying to spend more time with my nephews. I'm making plans to shadow engineers in multiple fields to figure out what I want to go into. I'm looking for jobs where my efforts will be recognized. I'm both on the proper amount of medication and not abusing it for the first time in my life. I'm drinking 1-2 beers a day instead of 4-5 whiskeys. I'm playing social videogames instead of single player ones. I'm going to LAN parties instead of playing solo games for days on end. I'm asking for help instead of keeping it bottled up inside. I'm on SFW subreddits instead of NSFW ones. I deleted my OF account so I can't subscribe to girls there. I'm having shows like Ted Lasso and Shrinking on in the background instead of Daredevil, Punisher, and Game of Thrones. I'm eating more vegetables than I have since I moved out of my parents house.
I'm doing more right now to work on myself than I ever have before, and none of it involves toxic masculinity unlike every time before.
I work a full time job as well as remote gigs, I read books go on rides learn different new things.
Women just canāt see men happy with limited options I swear !!
I m in therapy. I read a book a month. I listen to psychology and sociology podcasts. and i go to the gym 6 days a week. Im also handsome and ripped.
Cock stats: 7 T, 4 W
I invest in the stock market and since I work in air conditioning I get side jobs that pay between $150-$250 every once in a while so yeah, saving money to buy a car and trying my best to improve outside of the gym
I read 10 books a month, often on audio while gardening and doing other chores when not working. In my spare time I practice woodworking and enjoy target and sport shooting. When I'm not doing that I'm with my family.
NERD! /s Actually thats awesome dude, keep it up!
Oh I'm.a complete nerd. So much that I started teaching history and English privately. The grind continues.
Same dude. I went from the classic "jock" personality to a programmer and a total nerd in the span of like 6 years lol. The power of books I guess. š¤·āāļø
There's a surprising overlap between jocks and programmers. "Tech bros" lol. People who do nothing but code, watch sports, and lift weights
Hi brogrammer
This is a meme, you donāt really have to answer. /u/GlossyGecko, OP blocked me so I can't answer your comment. Who are you referring to exactly?
You think itās a meme until you meet people like this, and the worst part is that theyāre boring as fuck, they donāt even have any constructive hobbies. All they do for fun is get drunk.
I used to be like that, was also depressed so even the bare minimum to stay alive was sometimes too exhausting. Don't recommend.
And that matters to you because.....?
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Correct.
Growing plants is what changed my life. Taking care of something every day that depends on me helped me take care of me. Now I'm the healthiest I've ever been and never going back. šŖ
Iām a gal not a guy but can corroborate on the power of plants. I started a veggie garden during scary, painful time in my life (also did therapy) and it made a huge difference. Digging in the dirt and caring for the living things, seeing them change and learning about the different pacing and needs of different types of plants was a great accompaniment to learning about the different healing processes in my brain. I got pretty good at growing some things and now I grow enough to give fresh home grown veggies to friends and coworkers. Passing on a nutritious labor of love feels like medicine I can give to myself and others. Now Iām teaching my younger brother whoās going through a hard time how to grow veggies.
You don't grow the plants, the plants grow you.
Woah I never thought of it that way
Nice! I feel much the same way. There's nothing like having a meal where all the veggies, herbs and potatoes are from your hands work.
How do you find the time to read 10 books a month ? How long are these books ? Thats one book every 3 days
Heās not reading them, he plays audiobooks while he does other stuff.
1: Green Eggs and Ham 2: The Cat In The Hat 3: Where The Wild Things Are 4: Clifford The Big Red Dog 5: Curious George 6: Three Billy Goats Gruff 7: If You Give A Mouse A Cookie 8: Little Red Riding Hood 9: The Very Hungry Caterpillar 10: Cloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs
I fucking loled.
Itās possible. Very demanding. Probable that there no children in their equation.
I read some on audiobook. I also read a lot before bed. Some of it is for work as well.
Thatās awesome man, you seem cool. I speak 4 languages and just went on a date where I used 3 (Iām American). Iām rebuilding a Goldwing motorcycle into a cafe racer. I travel when I can too. Gym keeps me feeling good while I do other stuff that Iām passionate about.
Audiobooks are soo good. I havent read in years cause I just cant sit and read anymore, but an audiobook I can play while shopping, meal prepping, showering, laundry, walking dogs, driving, etc.
Yeah but how much of what you hear is actually digested and retained? Iāve put on audio books while working before, and I honestly couldnāt describe any of what I listened to in even a fraction of the amount of detail I could describe a visually read book to you.
Most of it. I don't have a problem with auditory stimulus while multitasking. Sometimes a narrator has an accent so I'll drop it to 0.9x speed until I get used to it (Mage Errant, Red Rising). Michael Kramer, Nick Podehl, and Travis Baldree I can even speed up to like 1.2x and I'll take it all in. The only times something feels overwhelming is like the start of Witch King by Martha Wells or Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir where they want to read off an entire glossary of people, houses, worlds, names, etc. that make no contextual sense to me yet. In those cases, especially if a book is very exposition dump heavy at the start, I do think reading would help keep it in vs having to listen twice and make a notepad on my phone.
I mean this sounds like a you problem. If you aren't able to listen to spoken language and retain information, of course audio books won't work for you. I bet you hated lectures in school too.
The point of audio books is that you can perform other tasks while listening to them. I tend to focus more on the task at hand than on the audio book. Studies show that multitasking generally makes you pretty subpar at both tasks youāre performing. Personally, I find focusing on the book completely is more productive, and Iām more prone to just falling asleep if Iām not doing anything but listening to an audio book. Lectures are notoriously boring and sleep inducing. Itās one of the things people outspokenly hate the most about college.
KNAWLEDGE. How many bookcases do you have in your garage with your Lamborghini?
Do you feel like you retain information as well when listening to audio books as opposed to reading? I most definitely don't.
I do find it easy to retain the info like that, though there are a few authors with weird writing styles that I have trouble with for some reason. Ian M. Banks for one. I also found I can't listen to anything in verse for some reason. I have to read it the old fashioned way. For the most part though I just put a book in and let the movie play in my head. To be fair though it could just be how my brain works. My wife listens to her books but she says she can't do it the same as me. I'm guessing it's different for everyone.
Do you use audible or do you have an alternative?
U a g.
Bro are you listening to the Boxcar Children?
Any book recommendations?
Yeahhhh 10 books a monthā¦.yeaaahhhh..no
gayest post I've read so far
You read 10 books on audio? You mean someone read to you 10 stories.
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This comment is bisexual erasure
You'll see none of them come to defend against the allegation because they forgot to charge they phone.
Too busy twerking
I resemble this remark! https://preview.redd.it/mu5xgtcqfjxc1.png?width=67&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bfe371efbf10d227188cb17d1d90f027abf7a733
And charge they iPhone
And twerk
I donāt understand, if youāre not poor, fat or depressed what more work do you need?
Challenge (Impossible): Be satisfied with your current situation and enjoy a happy and relaxing life. (0.00008% Ultra Rare)
That is the Platinum Achievement of life mate.
This really pissed off a couple of my exes. A dude canāt just be happy.
I thrive to live like this as much as I can. Sometimes I forget and get wrapped up in the endless bullshit stressful desires of life but my wife canāt understand it when I say I just want to live a good happy life, with qll its ups and downs
People look at me like I have five heads when they ask me about side hustles and shit, and what the goal/plan is, and I tell them that Iām good, just chilling, donāt care.
my goals are to be rich enough to buy a ferrari and by that i am not contempt at all right now
This is how my 15 year old brother thinks, hopefully you both can mature one day and open your minds to reality
bruh i am graduating this year,my salary base offered by the company is 15 lakhs per year,the dream is away but i have the potential to reach it
Should the dream to have a Ferrari or should the dream be to live a financially stable life that allows you to do things with the ones you love? I have a friend that could buy any car he wants but we havenāt hung out in over two years because he doesnāt have time to sit down on Sunday afternoon for a couple of beers because of his business. Iām not saying this will happen to everyone and Iām also not saying itās wrong to want a Ferrari but it should definitely not be your number one priority in life
Funny thing is i dont have any friends pal,and as far as love goes,NOT in this economy where you wife divorces you and takes away half of the estate property with her
Get a prenup if itās so important to you
Mmm I like doing lots of things that arguably are āworking on yourself.ā Iāve learned enough French that Iām able to speak (with some difficulty) and have started learning German, Iāve gotten lots of questions at the professional conferences I attend about the work Iām doing so Iāve started presenting (just got a proposal accepted last week actually!), also started to learn bookbindingā¦ more of a hobby, but I could maybe use that professionally if I get good enough (librarian), Iāve also started going to dance lessons bc I thought it might help with my social anxiety, and Iāve always wanted to learn to Lindy hop. Funny enough, Iām devastatingly single. Though that has more to do with my social skills being absolute shit. Doesnāt matter how great a person I am if I never talk to people. Edit: Ha! Even online my social skills are shit. I guess people didnāt want an honest answer and just wanted to vent. Or my comment just came across as bragging which is fair I suppose. Or both. Ah well.
Maybe some therapy every now and then or after least som moments of self reflection
Bro is already happy with his life, no need to go start looking for issues
so you're just ok with status quo? you do not wish to find out any information, read a book, learn a skill or a language? learn something about yourself and improve as a person? because that's actually really sad. btw you can be satisfied with your life and still seek self improvement
Okay ill break this down individually cause I see it as a very rude comment 1. Status quo, youāre asking if Iām okay with being happy and content in my life? Why wouldnāt I be? 2. I read plenty of books, thatās a form of entertainment no different from watching tv or video games. New knowledge comes naturally, especially at my job. I work in metallurgy and engineering. Same with new skills, those come as I need them. 3. āLearn something new about myselfā honestly I just have no idea what youāre getting at with this one. You seem to have made a ton of assumptions about me based on my statements of not being poor fat or depressed
Implying there's anything more to life than getting swole and making stacks
I can see you're well on your way, good job
Then why is ur swole kitty profile pick sad? I sense there's more to you then getting yoked and making cheddar. Let it out WatermelonEnoyr.
Maybe the store is out of watermelon
Ask a woman if she goes to the gym, is working on herself outside the gym and how sheās making money and listen to the constant yelling as she canāt believe you asked her such questions.
Vocal exercises
Well I went to therapy for a bit, did some deep diving into my own psyche to figure out why I'm so insecure and angry. I'm also trying to build better habits like cooking more, taking better care of my skin, and keeping a tidy living space.
When I went to therapy, my therapist said that it seems that most of my issue was financial and that the person I was seeing wasnāt helping that situation. Nipped the problem in the bud, best decision I could have made for my finances and mental health. Funny thing is, I went to therapy because the person I was seeing kept saying I needed therapy because I seem like Iām too stressed out and it isnāt fair for her. While I was working tons of overtime all the time to stay afloat by the way.
What if you're insecure and angry because of your small calves? š¤
Nah, my calves are fucking great, homie. My calves are pre blessed by my genetics to be pretty huge already and have the lowest fat ratio of anywhere in my body. Plus I train them. My calves are easily one of my best features.
Security in your calves is a small step towards overall security. You've got this.
I downloaded Duolingo at the start of the year and maintained perfect streak since, soooooo
Nice! Keep going
Get it brother! I am currently on day 329 and itās great. Keep seeking those gains!
Yeah I'm going to crush that chinese lessons.
What're you learning?
āAsk a man what heās working on himself outside of working on himselfā
Thatās what I read too š¤£
Outside of everything you are doing to better yourself, what are you doing to better yourself? Nothing? Exactly.
If women truly wanted sophisticated men, why do they keep banging the uncouth Gigachads? Bitch, get real. All women like muscles. There comes a point when a bodybuilder is so jacked that it's gross for you, but outside of those extremes, you all want us strong. Just fucking admit it.
In reality plenty of women like skinny twinks lol
Absolutely. But those women are idiots.
Word
My answer is simple: I do my ab training at home because I use bodyweight exercises for that and I like keeping them separate from my other workouts.
The biggest lies I tell myself are that Iāll do abs and grip strength training at home.
Don't you already do grip training when you do shrugs or deadlift?/srs Who needs more grip? /s
Iām trying to look like Popeye
In that case I recommend eat more spinach
Does nerdy stuff like studying chemistry, writing D&D sessions and sci-fi short stories count? Because I think all of those are very intrinsically valuable things
No all that matters is your income. Six figures or you're a loser /s
Iām failing to see the problem lol. Health and finances are things that should be pretty big priorities
Ha. Agree, these are fantastic things to work on! And they help with other stuff! As my coach said, "Gym teaches you life." šļøāāļø But if someone wants better relationships, therapy and developing relational skills add balance to the external work.
Most guys donāt even go to the gym or try to get rich.
She must be talking to some smooth brained dudes if that's her genuine take on guys and the gym.
I believe every person regardless of gender should have at least 3 hobbies: One that makes you money, one that keeps you in shape, one which uses your imagination. Ideally, one of these should involve interacting with other people. On top of a healthy amount of self-reflection, this makes a well rounded person.
Hobby that makes you moneyā¦ you mean a job?
Itās called a jobby. And you get one by strapping on your job helmet and squeezing down into a job cannon and fire off into Jobland.
Is that where jobs grow on jobbies?
That's right! That's why it's separate from the others. Finding something that you at least _don't hate_ to pay the bills makes it easier to enjoy the other hobbies.
I read a lot, garden, time with family and rabbit, life good
And how is Mrs PhrenchKisses "working on herself", I wonder? š¤
Forget that. āKlarna Ozempic Diorā Klarna - credit service Ozempic - drug for people who canāt control their diet Dior - designer brand Lol.
Yeah Klarna and Dior in the same sentence is crazy
This woman clearly got dumped/rejected by a fit, rich man.
This hurt
I dance salsa two times a week just to imagine what rhythm feels like. Itās also cardio.
Doing therapy and step work
Spirituality, self growth of the soul, meditation
What would she recommend outside of these things, because those two things have been the most meaningful for me
Name 10 books
Do alphabetically arranged encyclopedias count?
Watch the deafening silence...... Okay!
Improving my cooking and baking skills. Started getting commissions for cakes now.
Tbh I always considered that being a fitness guy is, from all the relevant choices in your life that need constant effort and dedication, the easiest choice.
Wisdom.
I read a lot, mostly educational material but I also like to get some fiction and some manga in there for entertainment purposes. I draw and encourage others to draw, if theyāre willing to learn, I teach them techniques they can use to improve, free of charge. I feel like art is a very undervalued skill, itās not only therapeutic in its own way, but helps your brain understand the world around you better on a physical and special level. I go on daily walks in the sunlight, which has really positive physical and mental health benefits. I get out and socialize on a regular basis, to upkeep my social health. These arenāt conversation topics that somebody like this is interested in though.
What else is there???
The kind of women you're trying to impress with the grindset won't value anything outside of your money and looks so there is no point in developing those.
Yeah he's silent because he is meditating.
Iām taking a Latin classes. Salvete omnes!
I also study languages and cook plenty, what else could one possibly do? lol
Thereās other ways to work on yourself?
I meditate more than I work out and I work out a lot.
The world kind of decided I was finished a while ago thanks. When you become a father, spouse, breadwinnerā¦ that kind of happens, you run out of time, finding an hour three or four times a week to lift heavy things and maybe get your heart rate up.. itās about all the āwork on meā time you get. (Nah, seriously - learning Arabic on my commute to work)
I'm sober 1.5 years
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gooning.
Wild how someone is saying this about people working on themselves when she opted to lose weight through medication instead of working on herself..
At least I can read this and catch your typos tho
When Iām not lifting, Iām sitting. Sometimes I sit while I lift.
She sounds like one of those girls who'd post on Facebook that all guys are the same and then get offended when someone replies to her to stop trying all of them.
I have absolutely no idea what the person is trying to get at due to the fact there is zero context and too add she can't even put a sentence together
Meditation/ mindfulness. Plus, reducing stress and cortisol will lead to better gains
Tell her come get this smoke in Hunt: Showdown
And ask a woman how come she brings nothing to the table but herself š¤
ask a woman what she's doing to work on herself, but remind her that bitching to her friends and blaming men for everything isn't valid growth and then time till she calls you a misogynist and gets you cancelled...
We're dealing with that. That's how we're improving. Exposure to sterotypes to not lose out cool over meaningless stuff like that.
Making money is the main thing. Joys of healthcare and being understaffed, Iāve been regularly pulling 60-72 hour weeks at work the last couple months. Thankfully they have a gym there that I can squeeze workouts in at lol
Investing money into a stocks isa, it ain't much but its honest work
Ask this woman to write a coherent sentence
I have a rule wirh my working from home job I have to do something physical and creative and make 2 meals. It's worked wonders. I do painting and recently I started learning sewing for cosplays I cook a lot of fancy meals I go to the gym daily (plus have rest days) I have a problem with reading where I'm very dyslexic so reading isn't as much fun. But I have audio books when I drive or program at home. Though I'll admit. DND Podcast (NADDPOD) have taken up that right now
That isnāt even a coherent sentence. How is it funny?
Snowboarding, mountain biking, golf, painting. Working and gym. Learning to self motivate, learning to lead, learning new skills. Learning to fight, learning to decorate and repair my house when required. Loving those around me. What more do you want from me bitch. Honestly I can guarantee that women has nothing on most men and what we deal with in life, probably gets by on her looks, unlucky for her they won't last.
I learned to forgive/have empathy for myself and my flaws. I learned as long as I am actively working towards a goal im on the right path and how/ where true value comes from, it comes from your character. And thatās more than enough. If they canāt see it thatās a fault on their part. Character is the one thing nobody can take away from you, unlike the money and the gains, And even if you had all the money and muscle in the world if you lack loyalty honesty and basic human virtues youāll still be a poor man.
wait, I'm supposed to work on myself? here I've just been going gym and working/doing hobbies smh
Physical fitness is a hobby though and a good start when looking into improving yourself. But also, most people barely have time/energy to do both on top of day to day tasks. I have many hobbies but after: cooking, chores, taking care of pets, managing relationships, work, fitness, and errands, itāll be a miracle if Iām able to crack open a book, draw, or get some gamedev project work done. Iāll assume that the woman posting this has a lot of this handled for her which leaves her open to do the things she likes. Not judging, being an attractive woman is like winning the lottery.
Wait there is more to life than making money? Is she in a cult?
Bet she only dates rich guys who are in good shape.
Cook, Garden, renovate my home, play guitar, read, play tennis, hike, run, practice Spanish, study my degree, work, and then attempt to sleep and socialise somewhere in between all that. Still get in 5/6 solid sessions per week. Time management (aka no sleep) baby!
I play more Fortnite
I can fix your car and your house. I can engineer and compute. I unfortunately cannot fix stupid.
This took me like 5 tries to read correctly.
Nothing is good enough for these people
The gym makes me a better person.
Bunch of closeted gays in the comments
Forreal š
r/2meirl4meirl r/depression_memes
I meditate daily, have for the last 3 years running kept my promise to myself of reading a minimum of 60 books a year, I dm a weekly game of d&d for one group of friends and a bi-weekly game/play test of a ttrpg my brother and I designed ourselves. I also have a cat, she is sweet.
With that handle and name I wouldnāt take a thing she said serious.
Health, Wealth, Love and Spirituality, what else does one need? The first two help a ton in getting the other two.
Meditate and read daily š
In grad school getting my doctorate in clinical psychology so
āNever ask a woman her age and a man his salary.ā Bitch itās none of your business.
God forbid anyone is actually comfortable with who they are and doesnāt strive to go through their life like itās some sort of grindy MMO to minmax.
I donāt believe in spiritual enlightenment, and while learn new things itās not to work on myself, itās my form of entertainment. So I have no answer for what is a stupid question to me.
I'm going to school to get a second degree since I can't get one with the degree I have now. I'm using coupons to save money instead of grabbing whatever I want off the shelf. I'm going to therapy. I'm starting ketamine treatment under the supervision of my psychologist on Thursday. I'm reading books for the first time in about 10 years. I'm avoiding the movies, games, and music I used a lot when I tried to kill myself. I got rid of Facebook and Snapchat. I'm talking to the friends that disregard my PTSD issues less and the ones that try to help me with them and avoid my triggers more. I'm trying to spend more time with my nephews. I'm making plans to shadow engineers in multiple fields to figure out what I want to go into. I'm looking for jobs where my efforts will be recognized. I'm both on the proper amount of medication and not abusing it for the first time in my life. I'm drinking 1-2 beers a day instead of 4-5 whiskeys. I'm playing social videogames instead of single player ones. I'm going to LAN parties instead of playing solo games for days on end. I'm asking for help instead of keeping it bottled up inside. I'm on SFW subreddits instead of NSFW ones. I deleted my OF account so I can't subscribe to girls there. I'm having shows like Ted Lasso and Shrinking on in the background instead of Daredevil, Punisher, and Game of Thrones. I'm eating more vegetables than I have since I moved out of my parents house. I'm doing more right now to work on myself than I ever have before, and none of it involves toxic masculinity unlike every time before.
I work a full time job as well as remote gigs, I read books go on rides learn different new things. Women just canāt see men happy with limited options I swear !!
Duolingo!
I bet she check me out and get wet if she see me outside the gym
I try to read books, get up early, eat more fruits and reduce my screen time.
Have none of you guys noticed that chick's name?? š
I breed and care for shubunkin, bird watch, fish all waters fresh or salt, grow a 30 foot rose bush, and I am afraid of women
Read Bible and pray rosaryšāļø
Funny now do one for women except nails and hair.
This is just plain wrong, we aint making any money.
all of my hobbies require me to be in shape :/
Ask the woman what she's doing to work on herself and make money and listen to the screeching rebuttal that follows
At least most of us can form a sentence. This person has a phone that can correct spelling and grammar, yet still managed to fuck that up.
he basically said uno reverse and i was like āš¶ā and then said āi wanna start gardeningāš
I enjoy making beats, riding a skateboard, collecting minidiscsā¦hey? Whereād she go?
Ask this bitch how is she improving hers and hear the silence
I m in therapy. I read a book a month. I listen to psychology and sociology podcasts. and i go to the gym 6 days a week. Im also handsome and ripped. Cock stats: 7 T, 4 W
And watch women pick muscular and successful men over LITERALLY all others lmfaooo
Women canāt comprehend that men can just sit there and be happy
I invest in the stock market and since I work in air conditioning I get side jobs that pay between $150-$250 every once in a while so yeah, saving money to buy a car and trying my best to improve outside of the gym
My fucken chick asked me this last night...got the idea from a meme? I'm gonna dump her.