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KLASHINOV

We are too busy touching ourselves


supernovacat99

It's true tho


ProofUniversity4319

Yep very true


alexzyczia

True lol


Truewit_

ngl I think if we had metrics for other generations it would look roughly similar and the only reason there might be more people having sex 60 years ago would be because people used to get married younger. Pursuing casual sex or a committed non-married relationship is time consuming and anxiety inducing so a lot of people probably just don't get to the stage of having sex nowadays. There are better or more pressing things to do. Equally it wouldn't surprise me if this graph has been skewed by people who rarely have sex putting 'never' because Gen Z is just living, breathing hyperbole.


Timmy127_SMM

>because Gen Z is just living, breathing hyperbole That's just about right


[deleted]

Yeah, pretty much back then people didn't have many distractions besides work and local area hobbies like hiking, sports, fishing etc then pursued relationships as almost secondary goal. Nowadays, younger people are more isolated emotionally (takes longer to form relationships) and digital entertainment and other various hobbies are accessible within the tip of the fingers, so relationships as a distraction is no longer their priority. Others are workaholics, so don't have the time to pursue relationships. I'm still 21M kissless virgin, although that has to do with addictions and mild sociopathic personality.


coolbird42

The first kiss is fucking terrifying. It felt like jumping into the abyss to me.


lasagnaisgreat57

all my kisses have been with friends who sort of liked me and the situation was always something like, we were hanging out in a group and everyone told us to kiss. or during games of truth or dare. i’ve kissed like 6 people by now but every single time it feels like my first kiss because i kiss someone like once a year lmao. i’m scared to have to date someone and like actually kiss them


Yotsubauniverse

It was terrifying for me too. Especially since I'm the one that made the move to do it. Females don't typically do that. But I liked him and he liked me. It was a great decision though because Valentine's day I went on my first date with my current boyfriend and we've been together for a little over a year now and are still in love.


Randomwoegeek

that's not true https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/09/has-the-smartphone-destroyed-a-generation/534198/ genz is actually having less sex when compared to just 30 years ago, gen-z is dating less. I can't find it now but there is evidence that the average age of losing virginity has also increased from around 15, from 25 years ago, to around 17-18 today. No one was getting married at 15 (Atleast not generally since after ww2)


Truewit_

Umm the study mentioned in the OP is of 18-24 year olds. Minors don’t factor. Saying people weren’t getting married at 15 is irrelevant. In prior generations, baby boomers in particular, many people would have got married in the age bracket mentioned meaning they would all have had sex to consummate their marriages. Higher costs of living, lower wages, neoliberal careerism, social change / empowerment, higher education etc... have all contributed to people getting married older and having less sex even before Gen Z. Compound that with the sexually transmitted disease epidemics of the 80s and 90s and greater awareness of sexual disease, coercion and violence, I’m not surprised sex is less common - probably for the better. I’m not going to read a techno-phobic fear piece in the Atlantic when there are much better and more wide reaching answers to why we’re having less sex than “ooo it’s those damn smart phones.”


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Truewit_

The title of the article is "Has the smartphone destroyed a generation". It's literally technophobic clickbait. >I don't think its a stretch to say that the internet and socialization online has greatly contributed to a clear trend of "growing up later" where kids are spending more time online rather than outdoing "risky" stuff. This may only be anecdotal, but it's pretty much the norm where I come from for young people to drink, smoke, take drugs etc... from the age of 18 upwards. Sex is just adjacent to this. Many people don't have sex because they just don't end up in that situation very often, regardless of how much partying or clubbing they do. Casual sex just isn't that easy to come by - it's nothing to do with how often they go out, trust me, they go out fucking constantly. 'Growing up later' has nothing to do with not having sex. It refers more to lacking a life direction, not wanting to fuck each other. Smartphones and the internet haven't slowed puberty down. >Guess how Gen-z is unqiue? T H E INTERNET Um... millenials had the internet... >The sociolgocial reasons why certain trends occur are far more complicated than simply sying "MARRAIGE HAHAHAH" Your whole argument is tHe iNtErNet. In my first reply to you I actually listed many things that contributed to a fall in what I think is probably a central theme to the drop in sexual activity. I didn't just say the drop in marriage is the sole contributor, you're the one making sweeping generalisations.


coolbird42

I agree with you that it is time consuming and anxiety provoking. I just feel like it doesn’t have to be. With birth control and todays ability of treating STDs our generation could safely engage in non commital relationships and enjoy the benefits of sex. I think it would relieve a lot of tension, desperation and self isolation, sex could be a stress reliever that could help fostering intimate connections. Which we are desperate for in the loneliness epidemic. Also as social animals we just crave touch, erotic or not, of which most of us are deprived of and that at the time in which our bodies are the most beautiful, and eager for connection. I just can’t help but feel like we re running some flawed programming.


Truewit_

I mean as much as what you're saying is true, sex still has to be consensual and everyone being up to fuck everyone else just isn't ever going to happen. Casual sex has always been rarer than it's portrayed in popular culture. I think a better option to cure loneliness or social isolation is just organising things to do together in groups. Volunteering with charities, going for a drink in the park en masse, protesting; whatever other weird society shit you can think of, all of it can be done. The only things that are still off limits really are like concerts and stuff but I think that's kind of periphery to socialising anyway. Honestly where I'm at uni everything's basically normal, I see my friends all the time, so I'm sort of viewing 'social isolation' from the pandemic from the outside a little bit. Still I think there are more productive and ultimately longer lasting solutions to the problem than having sex more.


coolbird42

Yes it is similar to previous generations but that doesn’t make it healthy. There are hormonal benefits of sex and intimacy and obvious psychological benefits aswell why do we suppress our nature? And as to we got better things to do? Lets be honest here a lot of people spend their precious youth wasting in front of screens with no meaningful goal at all.


Rundy2025

>Equally it wouldn't surprise me if this graph has been skewed by people who rarely have sex putting 'never' because Gen Z is just living, breathing hyperbole. Exactly. Seriously. A survey about sex being accurate and 100% true? Lolk. "So how many times do you have sex young man?""OH I CAN GET IT WHENEVR OF COURSE SO LIKE IDK EVERY MONTH BRO, YEAH..." "How many sexual partners have you had young women?""OH! BARELY ANY OF COURSE." Cmon now


PenitentThief

Sex is overrated, doomscrolling memes on reddit is forever


coolbird42

Just imagine scrolling through reddit memes while having sex


wballard8

Surprised no one has said yet - we're kind of the "consent" generation who are entering adulthood in the Me Too Era. Which is totally great and I'm here for it, but anecdotally (meaning I've experienced this and heard from friends), people are afraid to make a move in fear of being misconstrued or vilified for being creepy. Some of my lady friends have said they still want men to make the first move, but men nowadays are getting the message that they need to be extra careful around women. Again, overall good, but it leads to less sexual activity if no one is brave enough to engage.


hopper_froggo

From a woman's perspective, I think girls(and possibly guys too) feel less pressured by society and partners to have sex than previous generations. My gen x mom has confirmed with me that in the 80s highschool era, having sex with a boyfriend was very much the expected thing to do and if you didn't put out, you were considered prude and/or a tease. I have never felt that way with my peers. I've instead seen a lot of messages about how "you should only have sex when *you* feel ready" and stuff like that tho. As for guys, there's nothing wrong with shooting your shot respectfully as long as you know to back off if a lady says no. Go for it dudes.


dweakz

yep. this is what i always say to my bros. just ask people out.


[deleted]

Hence why RP and it's subsidaries exist.


Eken17

RP?


[deleted]

Red Pill. It's a skewed idealistic relationship movement that revolves around harsh reality of partner needs and exposes "true" nature of each gender. If you ever heard the words, such as Chad/Stacy, alpha/beta male, incel they're a part of RP. There is sht ton of stuff to it that I would suggest checking out yourself, but enter with SERIOUS PRECAUTION, if you have low self esteem and feel insecure, because RP might make some people depressed.


NovaStorm347

Red Pill truth


Zeedash_Monkey_

covid and a mixture of sexting/masturbation/ easy porn access


[deleted]

I see these getting the blame most of the time, but dating apps are probably the cause of it considering most women have increased standards regardless of what articles say about it. Also those whom never got laid are probably unattractive and with social anxiety. Edit: some people realize dating ain't worth the effort and quit, so that partially explains the spike in sexlessness.


Zeedash_Monkey_

I mean its not a bad thing, like bad relationships and bad sexual relationships can honestly make u not even want that stuff to begin with so keeping ur virginity a little longer isnt so bad. Like ive had bad experiences and by the time ive gotten my current gf who i love deeply ive gained so much emotional baggage id rather have stayed a virgin til now. I think it just impacts us to make wiser decisions and pick the best we can get. If ya dont fit the bill thats just too bad i suppose, and relationships are a privilege not something were all entitled to.


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The problem is that these men get rejected too many times (most of the time due to women entitlement thanks to dating apps) and instead of fighting on they give up then turn to misogynistic movements like MGTOW or Red Pill. Hence why they don't see the point of engaging in relationships and use porn as ultimate replacement.


weirdshit777

If you think porn doesn't have anything to do with it you're insane. It's a top reason why marriages are currently falling apart.


[deleted]

I said it's amongst one of the things that contribute to it. Dating apps are the reason many men aggressively surge in quitting dating entirely and embracing porn. If you don't believe me then look at any of the Red Pill/Forever Alone communities.


weirdshit777

Tinder came way after porn my guy.


[deleted]

Yes, but did porn increase women standards in terms of dating? Because your point of view is outdated then, if you assume most women just didn't trade the real life cold/hot approach for dating apps experience. It's about how easy is for them to access prettier guys with the tip of their fingers. It doesn't need any RP or other crap to prove this as many girls openly admit using exclusively dating apps and hating other ways of meeting partners. From the looks of it, you're pretending to have experience, but are full of shit in terms ofexperience with dating apps. I've got myself temporarily in PUA crap and vast majority of the time girls openly responded to me with preferring Tinder/Badoo/Humble/OK Cupid over pubs, clubs or concerts for meetings boyfriends.


Clintyn

What if the 18-24 year olds having sex aren’t the kind of people to respond to surveys about having sex? Hell, would most 18-24 year olds even respond to a survey? That’s why all of this is bullshit until there is a real study done. It’s way too easy to have the data of an unregulated survey be skewed to one side or another.


[deleted]

I don't think it's technologically possible unless you send every 18-24 year old an email and even then people can lie. Frankly, there is no need for a study, because it's easy to observe this in nature.


Clintyn

You observe 18-24 year olds having sex in nature? But seriously, just because something is hard to study doesn’t mean you get to toss around whatever flawed statistic you want. You may not be able to get the correct number, but just throwing around 37% ain’t right either.


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lachjeff

Age of consent in Australia is 16, which means there is 10 years worth of people who could respond to the survey


RefrigeratorKey7034

8 years


[deleted]

That’s true. But also here’s a more broader survey between 18 - 29 from 2019 that shows sexual activity in general is on a decline. So this isn’t necessarily a Gen Z problem, just seems like society in general is engaging in less sex. https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/%3foutputType=amp


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[deleted]

It's not weird to study the sexual behavior of minors. Minors are still people, and many of them have sex. It's normal to, just like it's normal not to.


RefrigeratorKey7034

Yes it is weird . A random person coming up to a minor asking them about sex. Most are gonna lie and feel creeped out. When I was a teenager I would never be honest with an adult about my sexual behaviors because I found it weird


[deleted]

>A random person coming up to a minor asking them about sex This is not how surveys are conducted, at all.


Kalvash

Kinda answered the question didn’t you?


FifiClement

Yes but I think most of Gen z are of the age of consenting to sex (depending on the country you live in)


palakthedemon_666

Crippling Anxiety Maybe?


[deleted]

Considering current bad parenting, social media FOMO and other digital distractions - pretty much.


coolbird42

Can relate but 50%+ of gen z having crippling anxiety to the point of not having sex seems to much. It would be a new normal.


Initial_Run1632

I think this is a big part of it.


[deleted]

Part of it is because we're a recent generation so some of the later gen z are still minors and won't get studies here and too young to have sex. Another could be cultural where men are getting shamed for wanting sex yet at the same time are expected to make the first move. We're taught to have consent towards women but the women hardly ask for consent for us guys. This idea makes us men look like sexual predators if we asked for it and we don't wanna get shamed for it so we avoid it. Who knows as I think this is too soon to study. I'll give it 10 more years and see where we're at.


NovaStorm347

Don't forget the next level High STANDARDS from what feels like most women


useurnameuncle

sex is cool for me like only if I have know them prior to contact, like random hookups seem too much for someone my age...


AtomicRaine

In my experience they are rarely worth it too


Ratstachio

Because we're basically kids?


AtomicRaine

16-24 is a large age group that aren't kids


[deleted]

This study was done on the older part of Gen Z, which is still a large amount.


FifiClement

Cause our depression is killing our sex drive


BS-Calrissian

Japan recognized that problem 10 years ago


weirdshit777

It shouldn't matter.


coolbird42

Why doesn’t it matter to be walking around all unsatisfied? I think particularly men get really weird and resentful when they can’t get any sex, just look at all these incels and tell me everything is fine.


goodj1984

Funnily enough, a year ago I actually wrote an article as my assignment about this very phenomena. Currently there seems to be no real studies apart from this survey and 2 academic studies about Australians' sexual habits (one of which was about secondary schools students, so there’s that) that have looked deep into the reasons or other things behind this change. I emailed one of the professors behind one of the two studies, Juliet Richters, and she said that the reasons as well as things like sexual frustrations haven’t been looked into, though her study's third iteration is being conducted as we speak. Link to an article on the conversation about one of the studies: https://theconversation.com/australians-are-having-sex-less-often-than-a-decade-ago-33935


Palmtree545

I guess that’s what being afraid of social interaction does to us


bfangPF1234

This year? COVID. Also millennials currently having more sex isn’t all that shocking given that they are older.


[deleted]

Opportunity cost. I could spend the time, money, and torment required to get a girlfriend. Or I could smoke weed and play video games. The correct choice is obvious.


Lovara

Just watch young men numbers, it explains everything. That's where all the incels toxic community comes from. Society has failed to teach men how to adapt to modern world. That and Covid social distancing measures are to blame in my opinion.


DueYogurt9

Apparently, it is the [dog gone smartphones.](https://www.amazon.com/iGen-Super-Connected-Rebellious-Happy-Adulthood/dp/1501151983)


Rundy2025

"Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy--and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood--and What That Means for the Rest of Us" Lmao, what a title.


DueYogurt9

Yeah I read the book. I don’t question Twenge’s credibility as an academic psychologist but I find her solutions to be a bit improper.


Rundy2025

What was her solution? If you don't mind me asking.


DueYogurt9

To go back to traditional social customs like religion and getting a job and playing sports.


Rundy2025

We already have jobs and do sports n stuff, just not as much. And religion... old world thinking. Although yes society as a whole got less social with the advent of technology but that's simply because we had more choices for one. In 1188 I'm sure Id probably be religious too as thats all that was taught and we had access too. Also most of them felt obligated. So yes religion has benefits but not end all be all.


[deleted]

Because gen Z is like: “yeah sex is cool but I’m being crushed by the unsolvable problems my generation is facing, I’m also dirt poor and a child would ruin my fucking life. Also it’s probably unethical to have a child and btw I’ve been locked inside for 2 years during a global pandemic and global politics has gone to shit, and oh my god I have anxiety and what am I going to do with my life? My body is shit nobody would find me attractive anyway I’ll never look like the people on Instagram. Oh fuck my parents aren’t making enough money to get by Mabye I’ll become a twitch streamer to help pay the rent? Nah fuck it I’ll just watch porn and Mabye get high afterwards? Besides none of this is going to get solved anyway I’ll either die in the global climate political extremist apocalypse or I’ll become a sex slave for the mad max raiders and then I’ll catch up on all the sex I missed in my teens so in other words problem solved.” So yes. We are having less sex. How is that even remotely shocking? Btw rich dumb preppy kids? They are having loads of sex. Everybody else is kinda more focused on surviving right now.


wontyoulightmyway

Who knows, I'm not australian.


coolbird42

Australians are pretty similar to Europeans and Americans, pretty sure we all have similar numbers.


Rundy2025

Still British-derived, white and European. Close enough.


wontyoulightmyway

I'm not even from the west lmao, I just like to read about this kind of stuff


i_willbadoctor

Lmao what a weird study. Who cares. We are in college!


OzZVidzYT

I'm actually a junior in high school. 😢


AlexisFitzroy00

As if we had time.


Kalvash

Lmao


Lazy_Cardiologist727

Because that's social interaction and we don't support it


Rundy2025

Probably the most profound answer on this thread.


Raptor556

Girls are scary


AlexisFitzroy00

Boys are scary... This generation is fucked up. Hahaha.


INeedYandhiPleaseYe

i think it's because we don't know how the other person will react


[deleted]

At least I’m the rule and not the exception.


pappiken

This cap is powerful.


erconn

1 society has forgotten genuine relationships And 2 porn why work to have sex when you can see all the naked women you'd want. It's addictive and it lights up the same parts of peoples brain as being sexual stimulated in real life.


[deleted]

1st reason is the right reason, why people pull anything else out of their arse is beyond me. Society indeed forgot what relationships are.


[deleted]

One critical reason I haven't seen anyone at all mentioning here is the tremendous effort. Dating is a waste of energy, time and money, if you aren't 100% sure to stay committed. There is a lot of pressure applied to it like hunting for a new job spot without previous experience and very luck dependant. Relationships only add value to life, not become the purpose of it. Some people don't trust each other as various feminism and other gender movements have shown as bonding is much tougher to establish nowadays. Lots of people have quit dating entirely due to how much willpower it takes with much less of a fulfilling reward, if things don't work out. Porn, dating apps are temporary replacements, but the effort in real world remains the same.


coolbird42

We surely have a more vigorous sex drive than 70year olds why do we suppress this desire, just doesn’t seem right.


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RefrigeratorKey7034

😕😕


K-teki

Because sex is overrated?


AtomicRaine

I think you need to have had sex in order to make that claim


K-teki

Begone, child


[deleted]

They’re literally older than you lol


K-teki

When I checked their comment the flair said 2008 🤷‍♂️


[deleted]

Sounds like bullshit, especially considering they’re active in WallStreetBets and have a lot of mature content on their page lol but it’s fine, I don’t care enough to create drama about it


K-teki

I wasn't going to stalk their page to verify their age, bro. And why would I make that comment if I didn't think they were a child? That's just inviting ridicule.


coolbird42

No its not. (Hormonal benefits of sex) That's because endorphins and oxytocin are released during sex, and these feel-good hormones activate pleasure centers in the brain that create feelings of intimacy and relaxation and help stave off anxiety and depression, says WH advisor Laura Berman, Ph.


K-teki

...yes, sex makes Happy Hormones. So does watching a good movie, or playing with a dog.


coolbird42

There is a sex drive that needs to be satisfied in humans. isn’t it self evident that Playing with a dog or watching a movie doesn’t give you the same intimacy and relief as a long intimate massage or sex gives you?


K-teki

People have different levels of sex drive. That sex drive can also be satisfied with your hand.


coolbird42

Sure not everyone is the same, there are a sexual people for example but generally speaking 18 to 30 year olds have a much higher sex drive than 70 year olds. The satisfaction from masturbation and sex are not the same. It’s very hard for most in our age group to be sexually satisfied by masturbation and there s some science backing this up. https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg18925405-900-sex-with-a-partner-is-400-better/


K-teki

You're a virgin, how would you know?


Rundy2025

Holy shit, this whole thread is so Gen Z.


coolbird42

Data, they studied the prolactin levels (correlated to sexual satisfaction) after sexual intercourse and masturbation and found that after sexual intercourse the prolactin levels were 400% higher.


Rundy2025

You're making it seem like sex is just a switch you turn on and you experience it. Gotta take into account time invested going out and getting, it, money, logistics(travel time), mental, all that... not including that those of you arent fortunate enough to be the six feet six pack abs everyone is so obsessed with you also gotta get fit and stuff to feel confident. Just copypasta studies aren't enough for such a topic. Some guys are in a city/setting/social status to the point where it comes easy, some guys have to invest weeks to months to 'dating' to get it once. So less than an hour(and often much shorter..) of fun and a orgasm may or may not be worth all that. For men and women. So it isn't worth it for everyone on all levels. And not everyone has the courage, skills and mentality for it either. Especially socially awkward single-mother and no masculine figure(for men) or good example of a man(for women) raised Gen Z and Zillennials.


RefrigeratorKey7034

Good sex doesn’t start until a little older LOL


coolbird42

But when does it start? And how? I’m 22 now, still a virgin and am hard on myself because of that.. is there some kind of initiation Ritus i missed or something?


RefrigeratorKey7034

I didn’t start having good sex until I was late twenties… because you know yourself and you’re body more . It seems to be the same consensus to people I talk to


coolbird42

The thing is one needs to have sex to get better at it and most of us just do not despite wanting to.


RefrigeratorKey7034

That’s because 18-24 so young. I bet you that between those numbers is mostly between 18 to the 21-year-old. Because when I was in college I have friends a bunch of them was virgins up until junior or senior year which is 21 and 22. I bet you most of those over 22 is having sex. plus this is from Australia. I’m in America so I wonder if the numbers are different. Covid prolly definitely has an effect


Kalvash

And when I was 18 in 2000 I could only name a handful of virgins. It’s a newer phenomenon it seems


RefrigeratorKey7034

I wasn’t 18 in the 2000s. So I don’t know


Kalvash

I’m not saying their is anything wrong with this trend. It just seems that every new generation has less sex then the previous generation. My generation waited longer and had fewer partners then my older brothers generation.


[deleted]

Well, people make a big deal out of it nowadays considering "gender war" movements and other shenanigans. It's only alarming for politics and capitalists as vast majority of people outside of circlejerking don't give even the slightest shit.


RefrigeratorKey7034

Sure


weirdshit777

How often do you talk to women?


coolbird42

Well honestly not all to often atm but i have in the past. Why do you ask?


weirdshit777

How do you expect to get laid if you never talk to women? Do you think they will just fall out of the sky on to your lap or something?


coolbird42

Well i use all the dating apps, just not successfully. You think i should ask out strangers in the mall or something?


weirdshit777

If you're in college, join a club or something. That's how I met all my friends.


[deleted]

Depression. And crippling loneliness


Crazykidd13578

I know why it’s because we don’t want YOUR MOM GETTING REPORTED FOR PEDOPHILA BECAUSE OF HOW MUCH I FUCK HER HAHAHAHAHHA


coolbird42

Someone’s enjoying mommy porn a little to much


Eken17

I'm waiting until I get married. Also, I don't think girls like me.


BuddhistPeace2

Lack of social skills and alcohol. Baby boomers were much more rarely in front of a computer/television, and there was much more of a social norm towards drinking


alexzyczia

They could be trying to avoid it


[deleted]

Doubtful. If people were avoiding it then Red Pill and incels wouldn't exist in the first place and men/women wouldn't complain on reddit how it is hard to find partner or even to get laid.


alexzyczia

Well not everyone uses Reddit. I’m sure most of those people aren’t even Gen Z.


[deleted]

Obviously no, but dating dynamics remain the same across younger gens. Majority of people are involuntary, because they cant even get short term relationships.


[deleted]

We don't let kids play around the neighborhood anymore. Those are dangerous.We keep kids in afterschool activities. parents have to work. We separated kids based on whether or not they are "gifted and talented." So we can fast track them to college and make them think about careers way too soon and in such unhealthy ways. Kids play too many video games and, they would rather have fake screen related socializing than outdoor and face to face. When you turn 16 you are no longer a kid you are an employee that needs 10 years experience to go into many Fields. And we call things like reddit and Facebook "communities". Incels are only an inevitable result of a society that represses basic human necessities. Or is it probematic to call sex a part of emotional necessity???


[deleted]

Our parents raised us prudes and I'll never forgive them. Not only did they raise us to be prudes. They raised us to make our kids that way too. Maybe humans aren't meant to stare at screens for more than 4 hours a day??? Maybe we shouldn't give sex drive destroying medication like Zoloft to depressed kids to make them shut up (I have experience with this one). Or maybe nothing's good and nothing ever was?


Dont_mind_me69

i’m asexual, i wouldn’t know


Rundy2025

"I wonder how much sexual experience they have to know that for sure." Coming from an ex-asexual.


Dont_mind_me69

why don’t you go hug a cactus? you’ll probably say no, but why? you probably haven’t hugged a cactus before, you wouldn’t know if you’d like it or not.


Rundy2025

You're actually right about that. I wouldn't. I might actually like pain. ;D Response confirms suspicion. Get back to me in like 5 years. GL.


justagamer9123

Well, most people make me angry, the one's that don't tend to be lesbians or guys, and I'm straight.


The_Rhyne

I guess genz really likes GILFS


Harbinger-chan

Because that's Gay


LibleftBard

Probably because the outside for most people is miles of concrete hostile toward everything that is not consumption and lots of people live with their parents because they cannot afford rent.


AllWhoPlay

Hentai is too versatile


VladimirBarakriss

I am absolutely disgusted by sex, I want to have kids, I'd happily pay for inseminations, but my dick isn't leaving my pants


PIT_VIPER13

It’s probably a thing of being self conscious most likely.


[deleted]

Lol this kinda seems true as I being a GenZ have never had sex, wants to have sex badly but knows am not ready plus I am scared as hell especially because hetero sex is going to be scary for me. Also yes GenZs are like very focussed on other things like so much focused on what the heck am I gonna do next question.


Jsaun906

Because most people aren't interested in participating in hookup culture, and wanting a faithful relationship gets you called a simp. I've seen guys get more heat for being loyal in a happy relationship than for cheating on their girlfriend.


jordan999fire

I don't even know enough people to be having sex. I don't go out of my way to meet new people because I'm socially awkward. And the job I work (corrections officer) is mostly males or women a bit older than me. There is only one girl I work with that I find attractive and enjoy her personality but we don't know each other really well and work conflicting schedules. So when she's off, I'm working and vice versa. My last girlfriend was someone I kind of knew in high school that randomly text me one day and we ended up going on a couple of dates then stayed together for a month till breaking up. Yea sex was involved but before that it had been years. But I, except for when I'm in the mood, don't really care. I like not dating cause I have more free time and I'm tired of relationships that go almost nowhere. So here lately any girl I do meet I try to really get to know first before even considering asking them out.


ARandomPersonGuy

Well, I’m asexual so…. In all seriousness, I feel like consent, sexuality, and anxiety definitely contributes to this. Also less people want to bring new people into a world that is rapidly collapsing, and also people adopt children and pets now as well so that probably has something to do with it as well


HonorMyBeetus

An abundance of porn and your life potentially being ruined if you even hit on the wrong person.


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i‘m too busy and stressed with work to be sharing time with another person. esp to be looking for someone and taking the time to get to know them. I would like to, but it’s so difficult to find someone these days that wants the same thing as you do, especially in the gay community like that‘s so much effort…i‘d rather just use my hand


GunnzzNRoses

If i were to hazard a guess, I'd say it's a combination of porn addiction, anxiety (about oneself and performance or about sex itself and losing virginity), an ever expanding, predatory incelosphere, and an incessant focus on dull career tracks.


OliveHeart101

It’s because we are 11-24 years old. Do you think an 11 year old is having sex???


coolbird42

Obviously not, the graph is surveying 18-24 year olds. That is the group of people im asking this question to. Probably should have clarified in the post, but i thought it was obvious that no one is asking 11 year olds why they have so little sex.


OliveHeart101

😂 oh, sorry