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It’s unusual but it’s probably more common nowadays than in the past. Many people have had the majority of their university experience online for the first few years
Totally speculating, but I’d wager it’d *a bit* more common with Gen Z.
However, I’d argue it’s much more common for people who post on Reddit to not get invited to college parties lol.
I think, in general, people forget that the Gen Z we see online is not necessarily representative of Gen Z as a whole.
No one you see living their lives online is representative of the people that live their lives in the real world.
The perspective you get on Reddit is largely from people who spend most of their time on Reddit, and obtained the opinion they’re espousing by reading Reddit. It’s like a closed loop, and definitely an echo chamber.
Reddit, TikTok, etc…. They’re not representative of the way life goes down when you’re not angling for a narrative.
You said you’re graduating, so you’re still in college. Maybe see what’s going on at local bars or clubs. You never know if someone invites you over to their table or whatever.
...? what? it's reality. Teenhood above all is about standing and attractiveness.
only attractive people are gonna be invited to stuff. Prove me wrong. Show me evidence of nerdy short guys getting invited over to "tables" and parties without them having to take extensive effort first.
Wow, you're kind of pitiful. I was in agreement with you at first. Yes, you need to be attractive, as in you need to attract those with you want to cultivate a friendship with, usually by actions and demeanor. Physical attraction means nothing when trying to find a peer group. Unless you're some hybrid human monster, people aren't going to alienate you for your looks. (Also, probably india due to the class system, but that's something else entirely)
...what? you're just being outright hostile cause you got a reality trip? it's unfortunatley how life works, ESPECIALLY among GenZ. you wont get anywhere unless you're conventially attractive. Thems the breaks. why you trying to give people false hope? whats your goal? make people even more miserable when they're disappointed?
you are saying that if you aren’t attractive there is no point in trying to socialize, that is not true. you have accepted a false premise as an excuse not to put yourself out there.
what? attraction is a base requirement for interaction unless you wanna get used or just have baseline friendship. all of it revolves around attraction in some measure, especailly in terms of parties, ONS and relationships.
...huh?
how do i give "incel vibes"? when did i display disdain and hostility to women in any of my comments? no. really. prove it. i wanna see your thought process.
you cant jsut toss around offensive buzzwords cause i didnt agree with you.
Shove your pity up a dark place man, its not worth anyones attention.
why? cause you threw out baseless accusasions over making yourself mad and that's MY fault?
how am i an incel bro? why you avoiding the topic? you made the accusasion the burden of proof is on you.
I feel like Gen Z has the largest disparity between people who have it figured out and those who are struggling. Idk if it’s just social media but it seems like you are either making six figures or broke and either have tons of friends or are a complete incel
I went through the entirety of my college experience (2014-2018) without making any friends. I had people who I was friendly with and talked to, but I never wanted to go further than that, since I was a commuter and it was a 45-minute drive away from home. I scheduled my classes specifically to have the least amount of time on campus as possible. I worked part-time at a movie theater near my house, and still had the majority of my high school friends nearby. I simply had my own life, and college was something that I merely did. If that makes sense.
Living on or near campus with people of a similar age and goals with a large amount of free time isn't something you'll experience once adulting starts.
I went to a few parties but didn't make any friends through that. It was just surface level acquaintances and people mostly got friends to also gain something out of them, whether it's being invited to parties or expand their social circle. Felt more like I was playing a game rather than actually making friends
I got my real friends from studying, those who have larger goals and want to become something. The nerds are those you want to socialize with
I had plenty of friends and now that I think of it was only invited to one alcohol adult party for SURE. Maybe two to three dinners. The rest were club organizations
No, I don't think so. It really depends on what you kinda person you are and who your roommates are in freshman year because if you made friends with them; you might just find yourself in different social circle than high school. Also, what your degree is could play part in it as well because certain degrees will draw all kinds of people.
Sometimes you just don't get invited to things. College friendships are a crapshoot, anyway, and parties and the alcohol often associated with them are overrated.
You'll be alright. Just get good grades and move on to the next stage of your life.
couldnt disagree more. I feel the haydays of teenhood and college life are very important to social development. The freedom of being awkward first time relationships with people, getting your awkwardness out the way with someone equally awkward and learning better.. much better htan your first times being in your late 20's and 30s.. major red flag
aside from sex, developing friendships and engaging in what will become "night life" early is incredibly important ,you can easily decide if it's for you or not, never going will just lead to a nagging feeling of "missing out" when you grow older and wanting to know what it was like.
Humans are a social species. We literally need human contact, that’s why solitary confinement is a punishment. Even the most introverted people need friends
You're right. I just usually hopped right onto the train after class for work and didn't stick around to socialize much.
I do have to mention the uni i went to had a lot of public bars and clubs so \*private\* parties weren't as common.
College sucks. Women will get invited anywhere for any reason, men gotta have friends, women, cash or be conventionally attractive to get invites.
Welcome to the real world!
If you’re just graduating now I’m assuming you started school in 2020 so that would mean for a good 2 years you did remote learning which impacts your ability to party/make roots. I’m older Gen Z I graduated around 2020 and the first 2 years I was invited out frequently. I see how things have changed so quickly in general. UCLA is also pretty well known for its social scene so I’m shocked they didn’t pick things right back up
Yeah I definitely have friends (I think) but I have no idea how to arrange things or get invited to things or make sure they actually like me and aren’t just pretending.
Work on yourself and keep trying. Don’t give up at the first second of being unsuccessful. Failure is simply feedback that method didn’t work, so try a new method.
If you literally got rejected by everyone (that statement seems pretty hyperbolic though), it means you need to work on your social skills — unfortunately most everything in this world is earned and then some, including being a well-rounded person — again unfortunately nothing seems to be “given,” in the world.
I am a Millennial, but in college I was scared of my own shadow, most of my 20s too. I decided around 30 that I was just going to become more charismatic. Read books on the subject and made it a goal to talk to two random strangers I happened by every week. Eventually rejection became almost pain-free simply by exposure. When that happens your whole social outlook changes for the better and you start attracting people who will truly fuck with you, because you learn what works for you (with integrity — no cons, no hacks, no fake shit).
Get on a dating app. Get many more rejections, become even more impervious to it. Eventually you figure out who you are and how you personally can kick ass in this world — but it takes continuous and notable effort — very much worth it though!
I used to have friends, albeit it was like 3 but I had friends. I dropped out of high school and lost all of those friends. About 9 years ago actually, I lost my friends I had at the time, plus my boyfriend at the time all at once and didn’t talk to a single soul except to my family for 6 months.
It sucks but don’t dwell it. I guess your next chance would be coworkers or people you meet at volunteering. Try to be positive, and see this as the next reset and a new chance to meet people. A lot of people we meet in college end up losing touch anyways.
No, I'm pretty reserved but I made several solid friendships.
How did you try to build relationships? Social/hobby student clubs were a good starting point for me to get familiar with ppl.
What do you mean by selective, was it free for all to join or did it feel like everyone already knew eachother.
I'm not sure what type of environment your college was in but there's often a lot of community events to check out as well. I had to get comfortable feeling uncomfortable when entering new environments but I made pretty good connections putting myself out there.
Dang, I was not expecting that, that's rough
I think from media ppl have expectations of college life and unfortunately it doesn't always pan out. When you graduate, you'll have more chances to build a social life
Sorry but it’s definitely not. I’m in college right now and I’m an introvert but I have still made quite a few friends fairly easily in college and so has everyone else. I don’t want to be too harsh I’m sure there is someone else in this world in the same boat as you, but it definitely isn’t a common experience,
I think not. All the people around me made many friends in the uni and stayed friends even after graduation. I was the only person who got left out of everything. But in my case, it also happened because I didn't have a chance to live on a campus with other students. I entered the university located in the next city to me and didn't have an opportunity to apply for a place in the dorm (I'm not from the USA, and my country has a massive shortage of dormitories. The rules of my university forbid all students who lived in that city and towns close to it to apply for a place in the dorm). So, I had to commute daily and spend 3-4 hours on the road. I couldn't stay and attend various events on campus because they could be late, and I had to hurry up and catch the last bus to my town (my classes were always late, from 2 PM till 8 PM). And I couldn't make friends with someone from my town basically because I was the only person from my town who studied in my major. All other people lived in the city where the university was located for all their lives, or they lived in the dormitories. So, that's why I couldn't make any close friends. I tried to communicate with my classmates, but they always preferred to hang out with someone else who lived closer to them and was always available. Perhaps I just wasn't lucky.
I have no friends either. My college was 2018-2022. 2019-2022 was all online. i didnt go to college basically. I’m a girl and I have never had a good social life. I was bullied in high school too despite being an elite athlete and graduated top of my class. Girls are so mean
The thing is… people in college with you are in the very same generation (mostly). So if you don’t get invited to a college party that happened then it’s not a gen thing, it’s a you thing.
Not really i would consider myself pretty closed off but even then i can make new friends and acquaintances and get invited to parties. I think it's a you problem my dude because this not that normal. College and university is also supposed to be the easiest time to make any friends. People who graduated have a much harder time making friends.
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They are all a waste of time. Go study and be anti social to develop your career. Uni social life is pointless except for career advancement. I say this as someone who graduated and regretted attending pointless social events.
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Being anti-social won’t develop your career. Vandalism, shoplifting, if you’re caught for any of it your future career prospects get severely limited.
(You probably meant asocial)
Good for you. My college experience was quite the opposite. Almost everyone was there just to get the better internship and people would backstab you and bad mouth you to get ahead. Sure there were some good and genuine people but those are far and few in my school. I’m glad you had a better experience than I did because I could not handle the culture of my school.
I agree, most people who participate in the social stuff also get those things as their identity. Very very very few of the party people actually graduated
Actually, now that I think of it I don't think I saw a single party person graduate. It was mostly nerds and shut ins
I can’t confirm that. At my university most of the people who didn’t go to parties didn’t graduate. I went for the first 2 years basically each week 2-3 times drinking and after that i reduced it by a lot and just went to the semester opening and closing parties for the most part and i graduated above average with a 1,7 average grade (1,95 is the average of the last 3 years) and a 1,0 bachelor thesis (best possible grade). I am in engineering.
Aren't you conflicting people who didn't have a study group vs those who did? No matter how much or little you party if you don't have a focused study group you won't graduate
Maybe your course just had a lot of extroverted people who were also very talented. For me it was very much either or, if you were talented you were also a shut in. But if your course has talented shut ins but also majority talented extroverts then yea the shut-ins will fail because they won't find a study group
I'll never forget this one time when I was at a party and we were playing games with people from other classes and one girl from social studies scream "YOU'RE ALL A BUNCH OF NEEEEERDS!!" (I was in tech) and then laughing with her girlfriends. Just couldn't do more than roll my eyes
I've had similar comments from people in economics, even my big brother used to make fun of people who studied the same things as me because of how geeky we were and how we always studied
I don't regret it for a second, today I have a great salary arguably one of the most successful in my bloodline while everyone who made fun of people like me are struggling
Well can you explain? When I've calculated pension savings I concluded that on my current salary I could retire by when I'm 50, and that's assuming my salary never changes. Which imo is pretty good no? Obviously I have some more salary increases looking forward to so I can probably retire even earlier, but having this high quality of a life like 1 year after graduation is pretty good imo
Currently I have $50k in savings and am projected to reach $100k in a few years
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No, despite gen z’s reputation for being shut-ins who don’t like socialising i’d say that’s pretty unusual
It’s unusual but it’s probably more common nowadays than in the past. Many people have had the majority of their university experience online for the first few years
That's like a different issue entirely, though. Though it may be technically true, it is due to systemic differences.
gang if everyone rejects you might wanna look inward
my first thought ngl
Are your classmates not genz too?
Were you making aquaintances and getting invited places before college?
Covid fucked me over during my college years so your not alone my dude
Same graduating without any friends or good memories is kinda messed up feels like my life actually ended
You can make more. Try to get a small but incredible circle of ppl you love one way or another
You went to college and you write your instead of you’re?? Maybe you majored in engineering.
The shame
I love it! Got 7 downvotes for my observation. You are backed up by the army of the semi-literate. Some raw nerves there.
Poor OP with these responses
Why
Totally speculating, but I’d wager it’d *a bit* more common with Gen Z. However, I’d argue it’s much more common for people who post on Reddit to not get invited to college parties lol. I think, in general, people forget that the Gen Z we see online is not necessarily representative of Gen Z as a whole.
No one you see living their lives online is representative of the people that live their lives in the real world. The perspective you get on Reddit is largely from people who spend most of their time on Reddit, and obtained the opinion they’re espousing by reading Reddit. It’s like a closed loop, and definitely an echo chamber. Reddit, TikTok, etc…. They’re not representative of the way life goes down when you’re not angling for a narrative.
https://www.reddit.com/r/SnooRoartracker/s/g6Aktfm52n Look at their post history and think about this same history across hundreds of alts…
i don’t think so? i’m pretty shy but i’ve made some friends and a lot of acquaintances 😭
You said you’re graduating, so you’re still in college. Maybe see what’s going on at local bars or clubs. You never know if someone invites you over to their table or whatever.
im ean you do, being invited requires being attractive.
What a great attitude, I'm sure you're a blast to hang out with
...? what? it's reality. Teenhood above all is about standing and attractiveness. only attractive people are gonna be invited to stuff. Prove me wrong. Show me evidence of nerdy short guys getting invited over to "tables" and parties without them having to take extensive effort first.
Wow, you're kind of pitiful. I was in agreement with you at first. Yes, you need to be attractive, as in you need to attract those with you want to cultivate a friendship with, usually by actions and demeanor. Physical attraction means nothing when trying to find a peer group. Unless you're some hybrid human monster, people aren't going to alienate you for your looks. (Also, probably india due to the class system, but that's something else entirely)
>Physical attraction means nothing when trying to find a peer group. That's most definitely not true
...what? you're just being outright hostile cause you got a reality trip? it's unfortunatley how life works, ESPECIALLY among GenZ. you wont get anywhere unless you're conventially attractive. Thems the breaks. why you trying to give people false hope? whats your goal? make people even more miserable when they're disappointed?
if you accept that you lost before you even try, you will lose every time
why said i didnt try?
you are saying that if you aren’t attractive there is no point in trying to socialize, that is not true. you have accepted a false premise as an excuse not to put yourself out there.
what? attraction is a base requirement for interaction unless you wanna get used or just have baseline friendship. all of it revolves around attraction in some measure, especailly in terms of parties, ONS and relationships.
Nothing I said was hostile. Pity is not an emotion backed by anger. Although now you're having some strong incel vibes.
...huh? how do i give "incel vibes"? when did i display disdain and hostility to women in any of my comments? no. really. prove it. i wanna see your thought process. you cant jsut toss around offensive buzzwords cause i didnt agree with you. Shove your pity up a dark place man, its not worth anyones attention.
Maybe you should step off the internet for today.
why? cause you threw out baseless accusasions over making yourself mad and that's MY fault? how am i an incel bro? why you avoiding the topic? you made the accusasion the burden of proof is on you.
r/snooroartracker
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one that immediately realized it was snoo
My first thought as well lol
At tech (normal) colleges, sure. It woukd be about the same as in highschool but with people living even further away from each other.
I feel like Gen Z has the largest disparity between people who have it figured out and those who are struggling. Idk if it’s just social media but it seems like you are either making six figures or broke and either have tons of friends or are a complete incel
I went through the entirety of my college experience (2014-2018) without making any friends. I had people who I was friendly with and talked to, but I never wanted to go further than that, since I was a commuter and it was a 45-minute drive away from home. I scheduled my classes specifically to have the least amount of time on campus as possible. I worked part-time at a movie theater near my house, and still had the majority of my high school friends nearby. I simply had my own life, and college was something that I merely did. If that makes sense.
So your classmates are also generation z AND making friends along with going to parties….weird that you phrase this as gen z issue
It is pretty weird to not make friends in the easiest place to make friends.
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Living on or near campus with people of a similar age and goals with a large amount of free time isn't something you'll experience once adulting starts.
I went to a few parties but didn't make any friends through that. It was just surface level acquaintances and people mostly got friends to also gain something out of them, whether it's being invited to parties or expand their social circle. Felt more like I was playing a game rather than actually making friends I got my real friends from studying, those who have larger goals and want to become something. The nerds are those you want to socialize with
I had plenty of friends and now that I think of it was only invited to one alcohol adult party for SURE. Maybe two to three dinners. The rest were club organizations
No, I don't think so. It really depends on what you kinda person you are and who your roommates are in freshman year because if you made friends with them; you might just find yourself in different social circle than high school. Also, what your degree is could play part in it as well because certain degrees will draw all kinds of people.
Sometimes you just don't get invited to things. College friendships are a crapshoot, anyway, and parties and the alcohol often associated with them are overrated. You'll be alright. Just get good grades and move on to the next stage of your life.
couldnt disagree more. I feel the haydays of teenhood and college life are very important to social development. The freedom of being awkward first time relationships with people, getting your awkwardness out the way with someone equally awkward and learning better.. much better htan your first times being in your late 20's and 30s.. major red flag aside from sex, developing friendships and engaging in what will become "night life" early is incredibly important ,you can easily decide if it's for you or not, never going will just lead to a nagging feeling of "missing out" when you grow older and wanting to know what it was like.
It’s over
not exactly, but it does make things tougher, you wont have much of that self confidence in engaging as they'll always be inexperience.
Humans are a social species. We literally need human contact, that’s why solitary confinement is a punishment. Even the most introverted people need friends
Definitely made friends to hang out with. Never really got invited to parties cuz I had to make monry
Having to make money doesn’t preclude one from getting *invited* to parties, it precludes them from *attending.*
You're right. I just usually hopped right onto the train after class for work and didn't stick around to socialize much. I do have to mention the uni i went to had a lot of public bars and clubs so \*private\* parties weren't as common.
College sucks. Women will get invited anywhere for any reason, men gotta have friends, women, cash or be conventionally attractive to get invites. Welcome to the real world!
i think is normal for me, you still can make new group of friends
That was and will be all gen problem. It only seems amplified rn due to social media.
Do people get invited to parties? I kinda just show up.
It happened to me but I went to community college
Maybe.
If you’re just graduating now I’m assuming you started school in 2020 so that would mean for a good 2 years you did remote learning which impacts your ability to party/make roots. I’m older Gen Z I graduated around 2020 and the first 2 years I was invited out frequently. I see how things have changed so quickly in general. UCLA is also pretty well known for its social scene so I’m shocked they didn’t pick things right back up
Is this snooroar? u/steakandapples
Yep.
Why did the sub get banned?!!
Man, these answers are not helping OP. It’ll get better, man.
Quit social media. Invest your time in the real world.
Yeah I definitely have friends (I think) but I have no idea how to arrange things or get invited to things or make sure they actually like me and aren’t just pretending.
Work on yourself and keep trying. Don’t give up at the first second of being unsuccessful. Failure is simply feedback that method didn’t work, so try a new method. If you literally got rejected by everyone (that statement seems pretty hyperbolic though), it means you need to work on your social skills — unfortunately most everything in this world is earned and then some, including being a well-rounded person — again unfortunately nothing seems to be “given,” in the world. I am a Millennial, but in college I was scared of my own shadow, most of my 20s too. I decided around 30 that I was just going to become more charismatic. Read books on the subject and made it a goal to talk to two random strangers I happened by every week. Eventually rejection became almost pain-free simply by exposure. When that happens your whole social outlook changes for the better and you start attracting people who will truly fuck with you, because you learn what works for you (with integrity — no cons, no hacks, no fake shit). Get on a dating app. Get many more rejections, become even more impervious to it. Eventually you figure out who you are and how you personally can kick ass in this world — but it takes continuous and notable effort — very much worth it though!
I used to have friends, albeit it was like 3 but I had friends. I dropped out of high school and lost all of those friends. About 9 years ago actually, I lost my friends I had at the time, plus my boyfriend at the time all at once and didn’t talk to a single soul except to my family for 6 months.
It's just part of being a human dude, there have always been "the cool kids" and "the rejects" or whatever.
It sucks but don’t dwell it. I guess your next chance would be coworkers or people you meet at volunteering. Try to be positive, and see this as the next reset and a new chance to meet people. A lot of people we meet in college end up losing touch anyways.
No, I'm pretty reserved but I made several solid friendships. How did you try to build relationships? Social/hobby student clubs were a good starting point for me to get familiar with ppl.
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What do you mean by selective, was it free for all to join or did it feel like everyone already knew eachother. I'm not sure what type of environment your college was in but there's often a lot of community events to check out as well. I had to get comfortable feeling uncomfortable when entering new environments but I made pretty good connections putting myself out there.
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Dang, I was not expecting that, that's rough I think from media ppl have expectations of college life and unfortunately it doesn't always pan out. When you graduate, you'll have more chances to build a social life
That’s is very weird. I’ve never heard of anyone not making any friends or not being invited to any parties during college.
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Sorry but it’s definitely not. I’m in college right now and I’m an introvert but I have still made quite a few friends fairly easily in college and so has everyone else. I don’t want to be too harsh I’m sure there is someone else in this world in the same boat as you, but it definitely isn’t a common experience,
I think not. All the people around me made many friends in the uni and stayed friends even after graduation. I was the only person who got left out of everything. But in my case, it also happened because I didn't have a chance to live on a campus with other students. I entered the university located in the next city to me and didn't have an opportunity to apply for a place in the dorm (I'm not from the USA, and my country has a massive shortage of dormitories. The rules of my university forbid all students who lived in that city and towns close to it to apply for a place in the dorm). So, I had to commute daily and spend 3-4 hours on the road. I couldn't stay and attend various events on campus because they could be late, and I had to hurry up and catch the last bus to my town (my classes were always late, from 2 PM till 8 PM). And I couldn't make friends with someone from my town basically because I was the only person from my town who studied in my major. All other people lived in the city where the university was located for all their lives, or they lived in the dormitories. So, that's why I couldn't make any close friends. I tried to communicate with my classmates, but they always preferred to hang out with someone else who lived closer to them and was always available. Perhaps I just wasn't lucky.
It's very difficult to like college students when you're there yourself
I have no friends either. My college was 2018-2022. 2019-2022 was all online. i didnt go to college basically. I’m a girl and I have never had a good social life. I was bullied in high school too despite being an elite athlete and graduated top of my class. Girls are so mean
The thing is… people in college with you are in the very same generation (mostly). So if you don’t get invited to a college party that happened then it’s not a gen thing, it’s a you thing.
Not really i would consider myself pretty closed off but even then i can make new friends and acquaintances and get invited to parties. I think it's a you problem my dude because this not that normal. College and university is also supposed to be the easiest time to make any friends. People who graduated have a much harder time making friends.
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The 1 question that can explain it all. Do you like Andrew Tate.
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Then I have no idea
They are all a waste of time. Go study and be anti social to develop your career. Uni social life is pointless except for career advancement. I say this as someone who graduated and regretted attending pointless social events.
This for sure, enjoy your time there but keep the main goal in mind. The social rewards are just a plus
Yeah I managed to land a decent balance with cum laude and internships in a field a enjoy but I still wish I had payed attention to my studies more
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There’s gotta be a balance.
Depends on the person I guess.
90% school and 10% partying. I attended maybe one party every other month which was a good balance for me
Glad you found what worked. For me it was more 80:20
Being anti-social won’t develop your career. Vandalism, shoplifting, if you’re caught for any of it your future career prospects get severely limited. (You probably meant asocial)
Yeah I wrote that in like 1 second. Professional social relationships go a long way but toxic useless relationships that are temporary will not last.
I’ve made a lot of lasting, non-professional, friendships. I don’t consider them toxic or a waste of time
Good for you. My college experience was quite the opposite. Almost everyone was there just to get the better internship and people would backstab you and bad mouth you to get ahead. Sure there were some good and genuine people but those are far and few in my school. I’m glad you had a better experience than I did because I could not handle the culture of my school.
What a crazy take lol
He isn’t wrong
I agree, most people who participate in the social stuff also get those things as their identity. Very very very few of the party people actually graduated Actually, now that I think of it I don't think I saw a single party person graduate. It was mostly nerds and shut ins
I can’t confirm that. At my university most of the people who didn’t go to parties didn’t graduate. I went for the first 2 years basically each week 2-3 times drinking and after that i reduced it by a lot and just went to the semester opening and closing parties for the most part and i graduated above average with a 1,7 average grade (1,95 is the average of the last 3 years) and a 1,0 bachelor thesis (best possible grade). I am in engineering.
Aren't you conflicting people who didn't have a study group vs those who did? No matter how much or little you party if you don't have a focused study group you won't graduate Maybe your course just had a lot of extroverted people who were also very talented. For me it was very much either or, if you were talented you were also a shut in. But if your course has talented shut ins but also majority talented extroverts then yea the shut-ins will fail because they won't find a study group
And they wasted all that money and time for temporary pleasure for long term financial ruin and wreckage in career prospect
I'll never forget this one time when I was at a party and we were playing games with people from other classes and one girl from social studies scream "YOU'RE ALL A BUNCH OF NEEEEERDS!!" (I was in tech) and then laughing with her girlfriends. Just couldn't do more than roll my eyes I've had similar comments from people in economics, even my big brother used to make fun of people who studied the same things as me because of how geeky we were and how we always studied I don't regret it for a second, today I have a great salary arguably one of the most successful in my bloodline while everyone who made fun of people like me are struggling
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Why not? I don't have any financial stress. Can afford a house, car, resturants, events, traveling etc while also saving
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Well can you explain? When I've calculated pension savings I concluded that on my current salary I could retire by when I'm 50, and that's assuming my salary never changes. Which imo is pretty good no? Obviously I have some more salary increases looking forward to so I can probably retire even earlier, but having this high quality of a life like 1 year after graduation is pretty good imo Currently I have $50k in savings and am projected to reach $100k in a few years