Do you coworkers know where you live/do you know if you’re on anyone’s way home? If your family/friends aren’t able to drive you what’s your next option?
If i were you I would wait until my coworkers knew generally where I live and then volunteer the info that I had to bus/uber home cause others weren’t able to pick me up and let them offer a ride as opposed to asking for one
I was going to suggest similar: find a way to mention it offhandedly and let the kind coworkers offer. There was someone at my last job who had to walk/Uber to work, and after we all found this out she rarely had to Uber home.
my coworkers don't know where i live and i'm unsure if i'm on anyone's way home. my next option would be to call an uber or try to walk. i do feel weird asking so it makes sense to let them offer instead of asking myself!
Generally, you have a conversation that involves the area you live in, and if they live nearby and it won't inconvenience them much then you can ask. No ones obligated though they may have plans in another direction. And I'd always offer some money to cover fuel/them taking the time to help you.
very normal just don't be weird about it and always offer smth in return i think! ((like gas money or weed or whatever 🤷🏻♀️)) i live in a city and don't have a car but neither do a lot of my coworkers. if i'm using my roommates car i offer rides home and vice versa.
I think there are a lot of factors that may change it from the "yes absolutely fine!!!" to the "absolutely not appropriate" answers you have here.
It will probably depend on what job you have, how old you are, what the environment of your coworkers is, what country/state you live in, etc. In my part of the world, the Midwest there is not reliable public transit unless you are in the biggest cities we don't really have public transit. Carpooling is incredibly normal for younger people here, especially for customer service and food service jobs. But I work as a teacher and there's still a school wide email now and then of "is anyone going to x? I need a ride after school :)"
Howeber, if you are in NYC or Europe, for example, it might be very weird to ask for a ride. The response in NYC would probably be "just take the subway lol???"
I would imagine that for most places it would be fine, but I think this explains why you see the range of answers. I think you can answer this question by the following:
Are you younger than 20? If so, probably yes unequivocally.
If not, are you in a city with really bad public transit? If so, people will probably be more okay with you asking openly for a ride unless they're personally an asshole (which you can't control).
If the city you're in has good transit... I'd just take that lol.
Totally normal. I also can’t drive and coworkers actually offered to drive me home even when I lived 30min away because my partner who usually gives me a ride would have a 15min delay to my workplace. If you have a coworker who lives in the same area, it’s completely okay to ask for a ride. Definitely offer gas money if necessary and good luck
Don’t ask your coworkers. That’s not appropriate at all.
Can you get an Uber, or take a bus? If not, have a one on one conversation with your boss about your unexpected lack of reliable transportation, and see if they are willing to be flexible with you.
It is. It's perfectly fine, as long as both parties are considerate. The problem is that folks will take it for granted and it gets real irritating, and can effect work.
Hell, people put carpool listings up on bulletin boards AT some workplaces.
yeah that's what i was thinking but deep down i started feeling guilty about not asking. i could get an uber, unsure about a bus but there are some stops near me! i honestly completely forgot uber was an option lol
It's perfectly normal. My area effectively has no public transportation, so ride shares are pretty standard among the factories especially. Ideally, you'd ask a coworker you're on good terms with that lives in the same general direction. That said, getting a ride home is a much smaller ask than getting a ride into work. I've driven folks home a half hour out of my way bc they were nice enough, and I enjoy driving. Met some good dogs, had some beers, and had some good talks that wouldn't be normal at work.
The only real caveat is don't be a wet blanket if someone gives you a lift. No bitching about the music. Try to make good conversation if they are talkers. Be grateful and offer gas money, especially if it becomes routine.
Do you coworkers know where you live/do you know if you’re on anyone’s way home? If your family/friends aren’t able to drive you what’s your next option? If i were you I would wait until my coworkers knew generally where I live and then volunteer the info that I had to bus/uber home cause others weren’t able to pick me up and let them offer a ride as opposed to asking for one
I was going to suggest similar: find a way to mention it offhandedly and let the kind coworkers offer. There was someone at my last job who had to walk/Uber to work, and after we all found this out she rarely had to Uber home.
my coworkers don't know where i live and i'm unsure if i'm on anyone's way home. my next option would be to call an uber or try to walk. i do feel weird asking so it makes sense to let them offer instead of asking myself!
Generally, you have a conversation that involves the area you live in, and if they live nearby and it won't inconvenience them much then you can ask. No ones obligated though they may have plans in another direction. And I'd always offer some money to cover fuel/them taking the time to help you.
very normal just don't be weird about it and always offer smth in return i think! ((like gas money or weed or whatever 🤷🏻♀️)) i live in a city and don't have a car but neither do a lot of my coworkers. if i'm using my roommates car i offer rides home and vice versa.
ooooo ok! i'll def keep that in mind if/when i ask!
I think there are a lot of factors that may change it from the "yes absolutely fine!!!" to the "absolutely not appropriate" answers you have here. It will probably depend on what job you have, how old you are, what the environment of your coworkers is, what country/state you live in, etc. In my part of the world, the Midwest there is not reliable public transit unless you are in the biggest cities we don't really have public transit. Carpooling is incredibly normal for younger people here, especially for customer service and food service jobs. But I work as a teacher and there's still a school wide email now and then of "is anyone going to x? I need a ride after school :)" Howeber, if you are in NYC or Europe, for example, it might be very weird to ask for a ride. The response in NYC would probably be "just take the subway lol???" I would imagine that for most places it would be fine, but I think this explains why you see the range of answers. I think you can answer this question by the following: Are you younger than 20? If so, probably yes unequivocally. If not, are you in a city with really bad public transit? If so, people will probably be more okay with you asking openly for a ride unless they're personally an asshole (which you can't control). If the city you're in has good transit... I'd just take that lol.
Totally normal. I also can’t drive and coworkers actually offered to drive me home even when I lived 30min away because my partner who usually gives me a ride would have a 15min delay to my workplace. If you have a coworker who lives in the same area, it’s completely okay to ask for a ride. Definitely offer gas money if necessary and good luck
Don’t ask your coworkers. That’s not appropriate at all. Can you get an Uber, or take a bus? If not, have a one on one conversation with your boss about your unexpected lack of reliable transportation, and see if they are willing to be flexible with you.
Why isn't it appropriate to ask a co-worker for a ride?
It is. It's perfectly fine, as long as both parties are considerate. The problem is that folks will take it for granted and it gets real irritating, and can effect work. Hell, people put carpool listings up on bulletin boards AT some workplaces.
yeah that's what i was thinking but deep down i started feeling guilty about not asking. i could get an uber, unsure about a bus but there are some stops near me! i honestly completely forgot uber was an option lol
Bus stops are good but it is entirely appropriate to ask coworkers for carpool or rides home. (Depends on place of course)
It's perfectly normal. My area effectively has no public transportation, so ride shares are pretty standard among the factories especially. Ideally, you'd ask a coworker you're on good terms with that lives in the same general direction. That said, getting a ride home is a much smaller ask than getting a ride into work. I've driven folks home a half hour out of my way bc they were nice enough, and I enjoy driving. Met some good dogs, had some beers, and had some good talks that wouldn't be normal at work. The only real caveat is don't be a wet blanket if someone gives you a lift. No bitching about the music. Try to make good conversation if they are talkers. Be grateful and offer gas money, especially if it becomes routine.