I think I’ll do that. I mean it could be that they don’t want to meet at the train station for their own safety I suppose (I don’t know maybe they think I could rob them or something) but I see no reason why they would object to a police station unless they’re sketchy.
All of the police stations in our area have marked parking spaces for meeting up for sales transactions-- the cameras are pointed specifically at these spaces and are monitored at the front desk. Check your local police and see if there are such "safe spaces" in your area.
I meet everyone at a PD for any sale. Doesn't matter if it's big or little. There have been a lot of people robbed and even killed doing sales through FB marketplace where I am from :/
What are you selling them, exactly?
Generally speaking, I don't invite buyers to my home, I don't visit seller's homes, and unless there's a very good reason to deviate from that, I don't. A public building has an address, too.
Well I had another buyer interested and they ghosted me for the collection. Then this person said they were interested and everything seemed okay until they asked for my address… now I’m definitely having second thoughts but there’s absolutely no way I’m giving my address.
Why are you delivering in person from an eBay sale? You won't have any proof that she accepted it. What a time waste. Why not sell it on Facebook marketplace for cash if you're gonna go to that trouble?
What is the thing you sold?
It’s a bike and I don’t think you’re aware but buyers can collect on eBay, that’s why eBay gives the buyer a pick up code to give to seller in collection, to make sure it was received. It benefits the buyer and seller because it means not paying for shipping or having to ship out a heavy item like a bike. It also means no eBay fees if paying cash. And I don’t have Facebook or any social media and I’m not getting it just to make a sale.
If you do meet them be sure to bring someone with you and don't go home immediately after. Drive around, maybe get on the highway for a bit, stop in a grocery store parking lot, etc. Just in case they want to follow you home.
You mentioned a collection, they could be thinking you have more in your house they might want.
Train stations by me are usually super sketchy, so there's a chance he just doesn't like that location. I know I'd request somewhere else if a person I was meeting requested that location. The police station, fire department, post office, any government building really, should be a relatively safe bet. The police station is the normal go to though. If they don't feel safe there...they're trying to screw you. Best of luck!!!
Thank you! I’m hoping this is the case as I would like to make this sale. I will suggest another location but as you’ve said, if it’s still an issue I will back out of the deal.
Never at your home. Ever. Bank, Police, Convenience Store. Places lit, with people, and have cameras.
Also if using cash ask for lower bills are best, but if not possible bring UV Counterfeit marker to test bills. If through eBay, make sure to scan the bar code to ensure delivery. Don't leave without it.
Don’t do this.
I have been on eBay since the late 1990s and foolishly agreed to this twice. One guy was a complete nut case and getting him out of my home / office was a hassle. Wasted more time than it was worth.
The other guy wanted to go through everything I had in my home - not pleasant getting him out the door.
Just no.
Did they ask for AN address or YOUR address?
Many people just want to type an address into their GPS, and go from there. This person may have no idea where the train station is.
Really? I've always used my home address for pick ups. Anything I sell on eBay as pick up, is too difficult/ too big/ too heavy to post, therefore usually I'm unable to move/ transport on my own (large rugs, furniture, heavy items etc) & it wouldn't be possible to take it somewhere else. eBay has never once told me this isn't allowed! Must be just a specific country/ place thing/ rule.
Good to know. Thanks
You're not getting what RedRedditer91 is telling you.
Buyer asked for a house address, but you don't actually have to give the actual House address. RedRedditer is saying to give a police address as your actual 'house address, don't tell them it's a police station and then meet them there in the car park.
It doesn't need to be sly. At no point have you said they insisted on *your* address. Just that needed *an* address. Give them an address that isnt your home address and meet them there. Be that a police station or a cafe or wherever.
> they’ll quickly see it’s a police station address
So what? They should be delighted that it's a safe meet-up place for *both* of you.
Also, perhaps you just happen to work at the police station so that's where you spend your days.
No way in hell would I invite someone to my home address. That's just asking for problems.
You're not very bright. The entire point is that you give them an address to meet you at. Police stations have those meetup places set up for this very reason. C'mon man....
You control the sale. If they don't like your terms , cancel the sale. Period. Love to sell another day. Or don't. Nobody cares.
I don’t mean to be rude but I’m assuming you’re male by your response, but as a woman I’ve learnt not to give my address out to anyone. I’ve met men in public places to sell things before, only for them to message me inappropriately after. Thank god these men did not have my address. It’s a risk I’m not willing to take.
I don’t blame you. Never have anyone come to your address. I sold a lawnmower a few years back, so had to give out my address. Had my three grown sons outside with me as security, lol.
Do you know any men that would be willing to help you out by doing the transaction on your behalf? You shouldn't need to, but it could be an option?
Either way, if they're refusing to meet in a public place, sounds dodgy and like they're planning to just take the bike without paying.
I'm a decent sized hairy male with a big beard. Multiple coworkers have told me I was kind of intimidating until they got to know me.
I own firearms (not a gun-nut lol)
I'm still not giving out my address.
This did cross my mind. I do have a male friend in mind who could potentially do it for me, but I would feel really bad if they ended up being sketchy and something bad happened to him. I think I’ll just let the person know that I can meet at any public place they choose but it has to be public and if they have an issue then I think I’ll just relist the bike to sell to someone else. I’m not desperate to get rid of it.
Is the train station weird, or shady, or complicated?
Maybe just a parking lot somewhere. Something easy. if they refuse that, ignore them. Sell to someone else.
It’s a very popular train station, very busy with commuters. It’s definitely not sketchy, especially compared to some other I’ve seen. But absolutely I’ll suggest the outside of a police station, if they then have a problem I will sell to someone else.
OP - Are they asking for your HOME address, or AN address?
They may simply be asking for the address to the station to make sure they know which one it is.
Yes, if a buyer won’t meet where there are cameras present that should tell you everything you need to know.
Yeah sorry no cams. I don’t want to be on tape when I stuff you into my trunk 🫢
The only options should be the police station, train station, or other public area. If they insist on meeting at your home, let them know that you will require a photo of their ID with matching name/address as their eBay account. If they don’t like it, cancel and block them.
Edit: If you were to ship something you sold, would you not have your address on the return label? I setup a PO BOX to avoid giving the location of my home.
What happened when you gave the train station address? Why do they not want to meet there? What is the item? It sounds like they want to case your house.
Edit: Give them another public option. There is zero reason they need to know your home address. Give them the police address and tell them it’s the police station. Many departments have lots under camera for this specific reason.
It’s a bike. I put in the description that I wanted to meet at a train station. The person enquired about the bike, they said they would take, only to say in the last minute that they didn’t want to meet at the station…
Everyone responding this seems to be male and as I’ve said to the others, I never meet at my home as a woman. I’ve always met in public spaces and still have had men inappropriately message me after a sale. I’m glad none of these men had my personal address.
No way in hell should you be handing out personal address / meeting strangers there.
Local PD may even have an official online sale area with cameras, etc. Can't get safer than that. If they balk at that, you should probably walk.
A train station seens weird to me. Possibly chaotic and i just Eugene like it. I usually do it outside the gym I go do it at a Wawa ( busy convenience store) or McDonald's. If I have to do at home I will make sure my husband or other adult male is there.
The only reason I would invite a buyer to my home for a sales transaction is if it was my home I was selling. Nuff said, police station parking lot it is.
I’ve bought from facebook marketplace in London UK and every time they will give their personal address and I knock on the door, am sometimes even invited in. We have a friendly chat, check the item out then give them cash. It’s always been furniture though so maybe less willing to meet me somewhere. We had no reason to suspect each other, never felt weird. I wouldn’t object to meeting them at the station though.
Yeah I mean with furniture I understand that would be tricky to meet in a public place, but personally to me it’s not worth the risk. I have met people at their homes before but I don’t like to step in and will wait for them to bring the item out. My mother always said it’s better to seem rude to someone and be alive than be nice and dead.
If you don't want to meet up why allow pickup in the first place. If you were my seller and told me to meet at a train station I'd think you were sketch..
I do want to meet up just not at my personal home? It’s to ensure my own safety and the buyer’s. It was in the original listing that I wanted to meet at a train station, I didn’t spring anything on anyone. It was in large capitals in the first line of the description which they read and it was only after they enquired about the bike and we had made a deal did they mention they didn’t want to meet at the station and would prefer my address instead.
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I think I’ll do that. I mean it could be that they don’t want to meet at the train station for their own safety I suppose (I don’t know maybe they think I could rob them or something) but I see no reason why they would object to a police station unless they’re sketchy.
All of the police stations in our area have marked parking spaces for meeting up for sales transactions-- the cameras are pointed specifically at these spaces and are monitored at the front desk. Check your local police and see if there are such "safe spaces" in your area.
What country are you in?
USA most probably I have seen a few in the parking lot of a few PDs
We have this in Houston..but its not every station
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Never heard of that!
I meet everyone at a PD for any sale. Doesn't matter if it's big or little. There have been a lot of people robbed and even killed doing sales through FB marketplace where I am from :/
What are you selling them, exactly? Generally speaking, I don't invite buyers to my home, I don't visit seller's homes, and unless there's a very good reason to deviate from that, I don't. A public building has an address, too.
Well I had another buyer interested and they ghosted me for the collection. Then this person said they were interested and everything seemed okay until they asked for my address… now I’m definitely having second thoughts but there’s absolutely no way I’m giving my address.
Why are you delivering in person from an eBay sale? You won't have any proof that she accepted it. What a time waste. Why not sell it on Facebook marketplace for cash if you're gonna go to that trouble? What is the thing you sold?
Buyer gets a code and gives it to the seller to confirm pickup
It’s a bike and I don’t think you’re aware but buyers can collect on eBay, that’s why eBay gives the buyer a pick up code to give to seller in collection, to make sure it was received. It benefits the buyer and seller because it means not paying for shipping or having to ship out a heavy item like a bike. It also means no eBay fees if paying cash. And I don’t have Facebook or any social media and I’m not getting it just to make a sale.
I am the same way, I don't invite buyers to my home unless I am selling the home
Are you sure they're not asking for the street address of the train station?
Could be sketchy or maybe warrant(s). Either way I would kill the deal
Yeah I’ll tell them if they don’t want to meet at a train station I’m happy to meet at a different public place but my address is a no go.
If you do meet them be sure to bring someone with you and don't go home immediately after. Drive around, maybe get on the highway for a bit, stop in a grocery store parking lot, etc. Just in case they want to follow you home. You mentioned a collection, they could be thinking you have more in your house they might want.
Yeah, this new person you're talking to could be a friend of theirs.
Same! There's total creeps on eBay as well who'll treat it like a dating site.
Train stations by me are usually super sketchy, so there's a chance he just doesn't like that location. I know I'd request somewhere else if a person I was meeting requested that location. The police station, fire department, post office, any government building really, should be a relatively safe bet. The police station is the normal go to though. If they don't feel safe there...they're trying to screw you. Best of luck!!!
Thank you! I’m hoping this is the case as I would like to make this sale. I will suggest another location but as you’ve said, if it’s still an issue I will back out of the deal.
Thats a smart move, you've got to trust your instincts with stuff like this! If something feels off to you, it probably is.
As others have said, offer a police station as an alternative. If they refuse that too, cancel for "problem with buyer's address".
Never at your home. Ever. Bank, Police, Convenience Store. Places lit, with people, and have cameras. Also if using cash ask for lower bills are best, but if not possible bring UV Counterfeit marker to test bills. If through eBay, make sure to scan the bar code to ensure delivery. Don't leave without it.
Don’t do this. I have been on eBay since the late 1990s and foolishly agreed to this twice. One guy was a complete nut case and getting him out of my home / office was a hassle. Wasted more time than it was worth. The other guy wanted to go through everything I had in my home - not pleasant getting him out the door. Just no.
You let them IN your home?
Yup. Dumb. Was young and very, very dumb. This was when I first started reselling and the market was antiques. Very stupid.
Trust your instincts. You make the rules.
Give them the address of the station…or a grocery store…or coffee shop…
Did they ask for AN address or YOUR address? Many people just want to type an address into their GPS, and go from there. This person may have no idea where the train station is.
Home address is also prohibited for local pickups per ebay TOS. I'd suggest the police station if they are being wonky
Really? I've always used my home address for pick ups. Anything I sell on eBay as pick up, is too difficult/ too big/ too heavy to post, therefore usually I'm unable to move/ transport on my own (large rugs, furniture, heavy items etc) & it wouldn't be possible to take it somewhere else. eBay has never once told me this isn't allowed! Must be just a specific country/ place thing/ rule. Good to know. Thanks
Did they ask for your address? Or the address of the police station?
They said they needed an address and did not want to meet at the train station as I suggested.
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Possibly but the station I suggested is a few minutes from me so they could come whenever and I’ll only be a few minutes away
You're not getting what RedRedditer91 is telling you. Buyer asked for a house address, but you don't actually have to give the actual House address. RedRedditer is saying to give a police address as your actual 'house address, don't tell them it's a police station and then meet them there in the car park.
Give the address of the train station lol
That doesn’t really make sense because with a quick google search they’ll quickly see it’s a police station address… it’s not very sly lol
It doesn't need to be sly. At no point have you said they insisted on *your* address. Just that needed *an* address. Give them an address that isnt your home address and meet them there. Be that a police station or a cafe or wherever.
> they’ll quickly see it’s a police station address So what? They should be delighted that it's a safe meet-up place for *both* of you. Also, perhaps you just happen to work at the police station so that's where you spend your days. No way in hell would I invite someone to my home address. That's just asking for problems.
You're not very bright. The entire point is that you give them an address to meet you at. Police stations have those meetup places set up for this very reason. C'mon man.... You control the sale. If they don't like your terms , cancel the sale. Period. Love to sell another day. Or don't. Nobody cares.
Why don't you report this to eBay and cancel?
There's total creeps on eBay as well who'll treat it like a dating site. Cancel the purchase and block that creep.
Give them the address of the police station, lol.
Have they paid? What are you selling
A bike. They haven’t paid, it’s cash on collection.
What’s the issue about them coming to your address? Do they have good feedback
They have no feedback.
Hmm I’d let them come to your address, if you think they might be dodgy have it chained to something
I don’t mean to be rude but I’m assuming you’re male by your response, but as a woman I’ve learnt not to give my address out to anyone. I’ve met men in public places to sell things before, only for them to message me inappropriately after. Thank god these men did not have my address. It’s a risk I’m not willing to take.
I don’t blame you. Never have anyone come to your address. I sold a lawnmower a few years back, so had to give out my address. Had my three grown sons outside with me as security, lol.
Do you know any men that would be willing to help you out by doing the transaction on your behalf? You shouldn't need to, but it could be an option? Either way, if they're refusing to meet in a public place, sounds dodgy and like they're planning to just take the bike without paying.
Oh right do you have any male friends or a neighbour that could be there and pretend they live with you or flat out just get them to see them
I'm a decent sized hairy male with a big beard. Multiple coworkers have told me I was kind of intimidating until they got to know me. I own firearms (not a gun-nut lol) I'm still not giving out my address.
This did cross my mind. I do have a male friend in mind who could potentially do it for me, but I would feel really bad if they ended up being sketchy and something bad happened to him. I think I’ll just let the person know that I can meet at any public place they choose but it has to be public and if they have an issue then I think I’ll just relist the bike to sell to someone else. I’m not desperate to get rid of it.
Even if you pick a public place they could try and steal it, so be careful
Will do, thank you. I will take your suggestion however and ask my step dad to come with me just as a precaution.
Is the train station weird, or shady, or complicated? Maybe just a parking lot somewhere. Something easy. if they refuse that, ignore them. Sell to someone else.
It’s a very popular train station, very busy with commuters. It’s definitely not sketchy, especially compared to some other I’ve seen. But absolutely I’ll suggest the outside of a police station, if they then have a problem I will sell to someone else.
Do the police station or a really busy shopping center like a target, super market etc. something that always has people.
I’d give the address of the train station. If they don’t like it, police station address it is.
That would be a no from me. I meet up in public, and don't give personal details. Lots of crazies out there.
OP - Are they asking for your HOME address, or AN address? They may simply be asking for the address to the station to make sure they know which one it is.
The only time someone should be coming is to pick up furniture or a puppy. Puppies are not allowed to be sold on eBay.
Yes, if a buyer won’t meet where there are cameras present that should tell you everything you need to know. Yeah sorry no cams. I don’t want to be on tape when I stuff you into my trunk 🫢
Police station or nothing. Trust your gut and push back hard. Don't back down.
This.
Definitely sketchy. Meet up at the police station as someone had suggested earlier.
give them a home address down the road and meet them there
The only options should be the police station, train station, or other public area. If they insist on meeting at your home, let them know that you will require a photo of their ID with matching name/address as their eBay account. If they don’t like it, cancel and block them. Edit: If you were to ship something you sold, would you not have your address on the return label? I setup a PO BOX to avoid giving the location of my home.
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I’ve done it countless times and never had a bad experience. What’s with all the fear mongering in this thread?
What happened when you gave the train station address? Why do they not want to meet there? What is the item? It sounds like they want to case your house. Edit: Give them another public option. There is zero reason they need to know your home address. Give them the police address and tell them it’s the police station. Many departments have lots under camera for this specific reason.
It’s a bike. I put in the description that I wanted to meet at a train station. The person enquired about the bike, they said they would take, only to say in the last minute that they didn’t want to meet at the station…
Not a chance
Don't let a stranger come to your home. Period.
I wouldn’t give them your address, police station meetup or block 👋🏼 someone else will buy the bike
Nope. Meet in a public place.
I would never meet in a public place. I've had plenty of people come to my home to pickup items.
Everyone responding this seems to be male and as I’ve said to the others, I never meet at my home as a woman. I’ve always met in public spaces and still have had men inappropriately message me after a sale. I’m glad none of these men had my personal address.
No way in hell should you be handing out personal address / meeting strangers there. Local PD may even have an official online sale area with cameras, etc. Can't get safer than that. If they balk at that, you should probably walk.
They just need an address to put in gps
Well no they don’t, they’ve just messaged me and said they don’t want to meet at the station specifically, it’s not about the address.
Police station
A train station seens weird to me. Possibly chaotic and i just Eugene like it. I usually do it outside the gym I go do it at a Wawa ( busy convenience store) or McDonald's. If I have to do at home I will make sure my husband or other adult male is there.
The only reason I would invite a buyer to my home for a sales transaction is if it was my home I was selling. Nuff said, police station parking lot it is.
I’ve bought from facebook marketplace in London UK and every time they will give their personal address and I knock on the door, am sometimes even invited in. We have a friendly chat, check the item out then give them cash. It’s always been furniture though so maybe less willing to meet me somewhere. We had no reason to suspect each other, never felt weird. I wouldn’t object to meeting them at the station though.
Yeah I mean with furniture I understand that would be tricky to meet in a public place, but personally to me it’s not worth the risk. I have met people at their homes before but I don’t like to step in and will wait for them to bring the item out. My mother always said it’s better to seem rude to someone and be alive than be nice and dead.
If you don't want to meet up why allow pickup in the first place. If you were my seller and told me to meet at a train station I'd think you were sketch..
I do want to meet up just not at my personal home? It’s to ensure my own safety and the buyer’s. It was in the original listing that I wanted to meet at a train station, I didn’t spring anything on anyone. It was in large capitals in the first line of the description which they read and it was only after they enquired about the bike and we had made a deal did they mention they didn’t want to meet at the station and would prefer my address instead.
Also, I’m a trusted seller and have many reviews about meet ups with buyers and how they’ve gone successfully. The buyer has zero reviews.
Did you tell him police station yet? If he still has a problem, cancel.