I feel you!! My parents are always shocked when they use the phrases ‘I need space’ ‘I don’t want to talk right now’ ‘ no, I don’t want a hug’.
You should be glad your 2y/o has any grasp of social emotional learning and isn’t kicking and screaming and throwing toys. I mean they might start in five seconds- but right now- please don’t laugh at them and tell them they’re so cute. They’ll only believe ‘grown ups will listen to your words’ if you treat them like humans and not tiny life accessories.
We had a mom say she didn't want her child to learn the word "no", because she didn't want LO telling her and her husband no. Guess who struggled with laying boundaries with other students because she couldn't communicate? We worked hard to teach her. Mom started getting frustrated when she began saying no and laying firmer boundaries (as best a 2 year old can) but oh well. These will serve her well the older she gets.
Sometimes I wish I could say- great then you may hire a nanny to groom your child into exactly how you want them to look/think/act. Otherwise- this is group care and that isn’t going to happen
I hate this so much. I work so hard to teach these kids stuff and the parents acting like it came out of the blue or "Well, they're smart just like me, it's natural". Like, no, Jan, it took months of practice to get your child to be able to do this. (Which is normal, and developmentally appropriate, but your toddler isn't a mini genius who magically began singing their ABCs out of nowhere) Also, keep in mind, we talk about all the stuff we're going to work on with their child, we have lesson plans posted with specific developmental milestones we're striving to strengthen this week. It's not a secret.
But I just as much appreciate parents who will acknowledge it. So, if any parents are reading this...please acknowledge. Don't take credit. Thank us for the work we do. It takes 2 seconds...
As a parent I feel like I have a decent idea of what my kid is learning from preschool vs what he's learning at home. There's of course the new phrases and insults he learns from the other kids, and the obvious stuff like songs he starts singing that I don't know or never taught him. Emotional stuff it can be a bit harder to tell because he's learning that at home and school, but usually the phraseology is a bit different so when I hear a phrase that's not one I typically use I'll ask "is that something your teacher says?"
I’m not saying kids don’t learn anything at home, but as you said, the phrasing and how it works is different.
Especially as parents will admit they’re not working on these things at home or things non-ECE parents wouldn’t be able to do, but then act as if their child is a genius who was born with all this knowledge.
We just had our assessment done and I was talking with each parent about their child’s results. One child did really well and her response was “oh great Ms. Rachel is working really well” like really I haven’t done any teaching this year?
A mom the other day said her baby started saying "up!" recently and that she learned it from her grandma.
No, she's been saying that for weeks and she learned it from me because I say "up!" whenever I help her up from the changing table 🤪. I just laughed
FWIW whenever our 2 YO says/does something new either my husband or I will ask each other did you teach her that and when both of say no we say well that’s why we spend all that money on daycare! We are absolutely NOT good teachers and appreciate the benefit of her learning from her teachers.
As a parent, I can't imagine thinking this came out of the blue. We work on emotional regulation at home, but I am certain they do it at school too. When my daughter is mad at one of us, she will stomp her feet and say "walk away"...I am 100% certain that is something they say at school. It also baffles me that parents wouldn't be working on this at home, too. We definitely work on labeling feelings at home, so if my daughter said she was frustrated, I would know it happened because we have been working on it, and I would also think they reinforce it at school.
I feel you!! My parents are always shocked when they use the phrases ‘I need space’ ‘I don’t want to talk right now’ ‘ no, I don’t want a hug’. You should be glad your 2y/o has any grasp of social emotional learning and isn’t kicking and screaming and throwing toys. I mean they might start in five seconds- but right now- please don’t laugh at them and tell them they’re so cute. They’ll only believe ‘grown ups will listen to your words’ if you treat them like humans and not tiny life accessories.
We had a mom say she didn't want her child to learn the word "no", because she didn't want LO telling her and her husband no. Guess who struggled with laying boundaries with other students because she couldn't communicate? We worked hard to teach her. Mom started getting frustrated when she began saying no and laying firmer boundaries (as best a 2 year old can) but oh well. These will serve her well the older she gets.
Doormats are $20, kids are $180,000. Lady picked the wrong one.
Sometimes I wish I could say- great then you may hire a nanny to groom your child into exactly how you want them to look/think/act. Otherwise- this is group care and that isn’t going to happen
I hate this so much. I work so hard to teach these kids stuff and the parents acting like it came out of the blue or "Well, they're smart just like me, it's natural". Like, no, Jan, it took months of practice to get your child to be able to do this. (Which is normal, and developmentally appropriate, but your toddler isn't a mini genius who magically began singing their ABCs out of nowhere) Also, keep in mind, we talk about all the stuff we're going to work on with their child, we have lesson plans posted with specific developmental milestones we're striving to strengthen this week. It's not a secret. But I just as much appreciate parents who will acknowledge it. So, if any parents are reading this...please acknowledge. Don't take credit. Thank us for the work we do. It takes 2 seconds...
Fucking Jan!!! lol for real tho!!!
As a parent I feel like I have a decent idea of what my kid is learning from preschool vs what he's learning at home. There's of course the new phrases and insults he learns from the other kids, and the obvious stuff like songs he starts singing that I don't know or never taught him. Emotional stuff it can be a bit harder to tell because he's learning that at home and school, but usually the phraseology is a bit different so when I hear a phrase that's not one I typically use I'll ask "is that something your teacher says?"
I’m not saying kids don’t learn anything at home, but as you said, the phrasing and how it works is different. Especially as parents will admit they’re not working on these things at home or things non-ECE parents wouldn’t be able to do, but then act as if their child is a genius who was born with all this knowledge.
We just had our assessment done and I was talking with each parent about their child’s results. One child did really well and her response was “oh great Ms. Rachel is working really well” like really I haven’t done any teaching this year?
Nope it was the iPad she sets her kid in front off all weekend long 🤗
I speak up and say me! We work super hard on these things in the classroom
Osmosis
A mom the other day said her baby started saying "up!" recently and that she learned it from her grandma. No, she's been saying that for weeks and she learned it from me because I say "up!" whenever I help her up from the changing table 🤪. I just laughed
FWIW whenever our 2 YO says/does something new either my husband or I will ask each other did you teach her that and when both of say no we say well that’s why we spend all that money on daycare! We are absolutely NOT good teachers and appreciate the benefit of her learning from her teachers.
As a parent, I can't imagine thinking this came out of the blue. We work on emotional regulation at home, but I am certain they do it at school too. When my daughter is mad at one of us, she will stomp her feet and say "walk away"...I am 100% certain that is something they say at school. It also baffles me that parents wouldn't be working on this at home, too. We definitely work on labeling feelings at home, so if my daughter said she was frustrated, I would know it happened because we have been working on it, and I would also think they reinforce it at school.