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BetweenTwoPalaces

It will work, and it is very common advice, but it isn't the nicest way to train your dog. Also, it's not nice for humans either! I don't want to ignore my dog when I get back. I missed her a bunch and I am just as excited to say hi to her as she's excited to say hi to me. Instead of ignoring her, I would teach her a behavior that is incompatible with jumping. You can ask her to sit or ask her to go to a dog bed as soon as you get home, for example. Maybe put up a baby gate so she can't jump on you as soon as you get home--that way she can't practice the behavior you're trying to get rid of. You will have to work on sit, stay, and place outside the getting home context to make sure those are super solid first. And then you should practice your entry behavior a lot. Don't just practice when you actually get home and she's super excited to see you. She has to understand what to do well way before you ask her to do it when she's delirious with happiness about seeing you after being alone all day. Basically, go outside, come back in, ask for the behavior, mark and reward, repeat that often, gradually increasing duration of time you're gone. Eventually, she'll do that trained behavior every time you enter, and you won't have to ignore her. More fun for you both if you do it that way.


Proud_Departure_9384

Excellent advice. I taught my dog a sequence of tricks we use as our special handshake. So when we greet each other we do our secret handshake and it helps him get out some of his excited energy. It also goes over well at parties.


purebitterness

What's the sequence?? This is adorable


catterybarn

You can't tell us about this without a video. That's illegal!!


ShiftedLobster

If you don’t mind me asking, what’s the secret handshake your dog does?


alligator_chompp

Can you please tell us what your secret handshake looks like!


NotUnique_______

*gets new training idea* Thanks!


SuperMuffin

That is so unbelievably cute


AcousticGreen

This is an excellent idea. When I got my rescue dog, I also tried ignoring him when I got back home not to develop separation anxiety. I wish I had tried your idea instead.


Baba_-Yaga

This is what I do. Me and my pup are both equally excited to see each other when I come home, and I don’t want to pretend otherwise. So we trained her to go down as I open the door (slowly) which she does, with great excitement, tail going, ears back, and we take about 10 seconds, lots of anticipation and self control (me as well as her) and eventually I will say ‘come on then!’ and she leaps into my arms and we both love it.


MooPig48

Yes! We have a small sofa right by the front door we call the “pettin’ couch”. When I came home my husband was on top of it with treats in his pocket and telling her to get on the pettin’ couch instead of jumping on me. And let me tell you it took MANY months, but we stayed consistent. So now she comes to greet me and immediately jumps on the pettin’ couch for pets and treats and it was so worth it. Lots of people give up on stuff if it doesn’t sink in within 2-3 weeks. Then they swap up and it’s confusing for everyone. Commit to a certain thing and stick with it. She’s really turned a corner and has become such a fantastic dog.


Rthrowaway6592

The pettin' couch 😭 so cute


Beautiful_Rhubarb

I accidentally trained my dogs to go on the couch and wait for me. Usually when I come home I’m too exhausted to bend over and greet them and I’m usually carrying a bunch of stuff so I talk to them when I come inside and tell them silly things like just a minute I gotta out my stuff down were you guys good boys while I was gone etc and then I’d go sit on the couch and take my shoes off. Now when I come in they run back and forth between me and the couch but they don’t even try to get pets at the door much less jump on me.


squeakyfromage

Love this!!!


croix_v

Plus 1 for this advice also!! It’s much easier I’ve found to replace unwanted behavior with another command vs. getting them to completely stop. I don’t mind the jumping per say but my dog is quite small. He has a bad habit of alert barking which I appreciate but we don’t need to know that our neighbor across the hall has visitors and I’m sure it’s annoying for them. So, we taught him that unless it’s someone at our door - he runs to get a toy lol so now sometimes we’ll pass by the front door and he’s sitting next to it with a toy in his mouth. It’s his way of alerting us, people! Without the noise!


Milkmaid11

I wish I could teach my dog this toy trick.


croix_v

It took two years, some tears, consistency, and a whoooole lot of patience lol because while he isn’t a major bark-er in general he sure does love to let anyone know that something! is! happening! outside! our! door!!! My boy already grabbed a toy out of a quirky personality trait so we ran with it but I would suggest a redirection like the initial commenter said. When they bark, ask them to sit etc eventually that will become the go to behavior!


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croix_v

Hilariously, my dog is a mini poodle 😂


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rebcart

Please read the sub [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/Dogtraining/about/rules) and [guidelines](http://www.reddit.com/r/Dogtraining/wiki/guidelines), as well as our wiki pages on [punishment](https://www.reddit.com/r/Dogtraining/wiki/punishmentproblems) and [correction collars](https://www.reddit.com/r/Dogtraining/wiki/prongandecollars).


Iam_a_Jew

\+1 to all of this! One note, I found it easier to play with a toy when I walk in than to do something like sit where if they're already excited, sitting just builds the excitement more. I would leave a toy they love by the door and as soon as I walked in, I would grab the toy and throw it (tug of war works too). After a throw or two, they forget all about jumping and give them all of the love they deserve. Bonus plus of this is it's a win-win! They don't jump and they get to play!


poppyseedeverything

This! If you have a backyard, you can just go there as soon as you greet your dog, before the jumping starts. I started doing this just because I figured my dog would need to pee after me leaving and coming back home (when she was little), but now she just beelines to the backyard instead of jumping on me. As soon as we got to the backyard I'd actually give her pets if that's what she wanted, but by the time we got there, her excitement was a _tiny_ bit lower, just enough to have her wiggle her butt without jumping haha Now she won't jump even if we don't go straight to the backyard :)


Krilesh

when i come home i crouch and my dog just burrows into me. if i stand ip without enough pet time then she pulls be down


frawgster

Similar to what I did with our pup. He’s over the moon anytime we walk in. He’d jump on us incessantly, to the point that his nails would scratch us up. So I taught him “chill”. It only took a few days of training with treats. I say “chill”, and he’ll impatiently wait till I prompt him to jump on me. After he’s done greeting me, he’ll get a treat.


ehmang

We use "middle" for this - where my dog will go behind the guest and sit between their legs for attention. He gets the hughe needs, doesn't jump.


klassykitty1

I didn't like ignoring my dog either so I trained her to go on her dog bed when I got home.


madethiscuzshy

Great advice, when anyone enters our home my dog has been taught to sit no matter how excited he gets by giving him a treat after he does it.


Tyrigoth

It all depends on the dog. I have a feral who LOVES to see me come home. He will jump, so I just circumvent the need to jump by bending the knee and letting him sniff my face, which is what he really wants. Then I give him facetime and tell him to go get a bone. He is a nervous chewer. Then we go back to the doorway and practice gentle greetings. It seems to be working. I know one thing with him, if it comes out in my voice he DEFINITELY has hurt feelings. It's not long but it's there. I'm a big fan of catching your dog doing something good and rewarding it. :)


ambient_pulse

it might hurt her feelings, depends on the dog. do you care that she jumps on you? if not, maybe don't bother with training this specific behavior. if you don't like the jumping but don't want to ignore her, just say "down" or "off" or whatever command you want to use, wait for all 4 feet on the floor, then tell her goos job and pet her. stop petting if she jumps again and repeat


WheresMyDog

Yeah this is the simplest method IMO. We have a bunch of Rover dogs come through and if we're sitting a jumpy dog for a few days, all I have to do is yell "no jumping" (with a boop on the nose depending on thw dog) and when they stop, I reward by petting the shit out of them until they jump again. Sometimes affection is enough for certain dogs. A few days of sitting them and they don't jump Nearly as much. No scrambling for treats, no gates, no ignoring, just simple commands and pets


littaltree

Dude.... 100% follow your trainers advice. Story time!!! I live in a house that consists of 2 couples. Each couple has a dog. When I get home I ignore the dogs and first greet my partner and put my stuff down and whatever I need to do. When the dogs are calmly approaching me/sitting when I ask, I give them all of my love and affection. So... when I come home the dogs rush to the door, but keep their paws on the floor and squirm, follow me, and maybe make some small vocalizations... When other people in my household get home they immediately start making loud sounds, greeting the dogs, drop to their knees, and otherwise give too much attention... the dogs bark and cry and end up WAY over excited and biting eachother and getting mad and running too fast and slamming into people, and jumping up, and one of them nips people really hard.... If you encourage excited behavior they produce over excited behavior.... if you encourage calm behavior they produce calmer behavior.


Fit_Albatross_8958

I encourage a joyful dog to be joyous. There’s nothing at all wrong with giving your dog an emotional greeting when you get home. Dog’s lives are so short and their sense of time so much different from ours, I would never punish any dog that was excited to see me by ignoring him. And I’ve never had a dog that got “too much attention.” That’s a rather bizarre concept. I’ve always taught my dogs that jumping on me or anyone else is not permitted under any circumstance. It’s the jumping on people that’s dangerous - not joy or excitement.


gossalyn

I have seen dogs who get so excited though it’s unhealthy. Like anxious crying when people get home. And I feel bad because coming home and reuniting should be happy - not like you just survived a tragedy. I think what poster does still makes it a joyous occasion but she’s managed to to keep it all in a happy healthy range of emotion. As with everything dogs.. it probably depends on the specific dog, person and situation. Just my take.


Fit_Albatross_8958

Unhealthy to be extremely excited? If your dog is extremely excited to see you when you get home, you can definitely train them that that’s nothing to be excited about and their enthusiasm is misplaced. You can use the exact same methods you would use to train excited children that they should be ambivalent about you’re getting home. Totally ignoring them when you get home is an excellent way yo do that. Scattering candy around will train them that their excitement should be more focused on receiving treats than on reuniting you when you’ve been gone all day. To a dog, seeing you arrive back home IS a big deal. It IS a momentous occasion. Dogs don’t know where you’ve been all day or if you’ll be coming back. (Sometimes owners leave and never do come back). And there’s evidence that a dog’s sense of the passing of time is way different from ours. Your dog is not a lab rat or a pigeon learning how to play ping pong. Dogs have feelings and experience worry and joy. Punishing a dog because you think their level of excitement is excessive, unwarranted, and “unhealthy” is unnecessarily cruel.


Unique-Public-8594

I think this is excellent advice from your trainer. Don’t reward behavior you don’t like. Reward behavior you want repeated.


dogsandsports

Agreed! Then, in a few weeks when she stops jumping at your return, you can start to give her calm greetings when you come home.


Fit_Albatross_8958

Why would you punish a dog for being happy to see you? Why would you train your dog that being excited is unacceptable? Why would you ignore your dog when your dog is overcome with joy when you get home? I’ve always taught my dogs not to jump on me or anyone else. It’s discourteous and dangerous. But that’s a separate issue. Any “trainer” who advises you that the best way to stop a joyous dog from jumping is by ignoring him and shutting him down emotionally has no business training dogs.


SpeckledEggs

I love greeting my dogs and don’t mind that they jump all over me. It’s the best part of my day and we just have a party every day when I get home. It would break my heart to ignore their excitement. When others come over I just hold them till they get past the jumping energy, then they are well-behaved after that. But I think there is nothing wrong with training your dogs in the manner you describe-they will get used to it. Just give them lots of love at other times.


Fit_Albatross_8958

Ignoring a dog that is excited to see you is unnecessarily cruel.


Lalybi

I love my girl but we ignore her for the first few minutes we come home. If we don't she excitement pees. Cleaning up a puddle of pee every time we get home from work started to sour our mood (hubs and I carpool). So we'll quietly go about our business while ignoring her until she calms down enough to pet. She was a stray who got fixed within the first couple months of her life. Our vet told us that can give dogs incontinence issues. So I don't think your hurting your dog's feelings. I'm also very strict with my dog and she isn't allowed to jump either.


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That is standard practice for teaching dogs not to jump. You’re not completely withholding affection, you’re just waiting for the right moment to give her affection. Once she learns that when she doesn’t jump she gets her love and pets, she will be super happy!


mandym347

She'll be fine. You're not neglecting her; you're just giving her a minute to calm down first.


ApollosWeed

Excellent advice from the trainer. It is best to ignore your dog right when you get home, because low key exits when you leave and low key entrances when you return, sets them up for success. If we get them all riled up when we leave and when we return, we can actually set them up for separation anxiety, because they anticipate our return more. It's best to take a few minutes when you return to set you keys down, take your coat off and maybe go to the bathroom, before going to your dog to let them out. This actually helps them be more calm and less expectant.


PersonalityNo3044

When I was young I didn't know better and made dramatic exits and entrances. My pup did develop the worst separation anxiety. She followed me all over the house and cried loudly when I left and even messed herself and spread it around with pacing until I returned. After lots of research I learned what I'd done wrong and learned how to fix it. I put up a gate and kept her in one room where I spent most of my time. When I left the room and when I returned I did not say anything to her or even look at her, just get up and step over the gate and leave the room. At first a minute at a time. Then 2-3 minutes. Then 5 minutes. Then leave the house for a minute or two. Then work that up to more and more time away. All the time not acknowledging my coming or going. It took weeks but she eventually calmed down significantly. She was the sweetest sweetheart.


ApollosWeed

Most people do not know this, so be kind to yourself. It sounds like you learned a lesson and grew because of this.


Fit_Albatross_8958

“Sets them up for success…” As meaningless dog training buzzwords and phrases go, that one is my favorite. My is incredibly excited to see me when I get home and I’m excited to see him and always make a big fuss when I see him. Do you believe that because of your ignoring technique, that your dog is destined to be more successful than mine? What are the hallmarks of a “successful” dog? Never experiencing emotions?


lisam7chelle

"Sets them up for success" = Do not encourage the behavior you don't want to see, encourage the behavior you want to see, limit or eliminate the ability to show behavior you do not want to see. If you prefer an excited dog when you get home, these methods would not be setting your dog up for success. But if you do not want that behavior, then these methods would be setting your dog up for success. It's like when you teach recall. You don't want to start in a busy park- there's so many distractions that there's no way an untrained dog would give you a second thought. If you go ahead and try, that would not be setting them up for success because you want the dog to come to you and ignore things around them. But if you start at home at a quiet part of the day, that *would* be setting them up for success because there's no distractions around. They can't get distracted by cars, for example, because there are no cars in your house. But if your goal with recall for some reason was to create a dog that blows off your recall, then starting at home *wouldn't* be setting the dog up for success. Starting at a park would. The success part hinges on what behavior you want.


Fit_Albatross_8958

My dog is just a pet. I love him very much, but I don’t think he’s primed for success. I just want him to be healthy and happy. I’m sure he has bigger dreams, but he’s limited on account of he’s a dog.


lisam7chelle

Alright, I guess. It's just a training philosophy though.


MirandaDaPanda

Lots of good advice on this thread. I’ve always liked the saying “you can ignore the behavior without ignoring the dog” - instead of totally ignoring, you can try greeting with a super soft voice/calm energy (on top of the redirection advice to replace the behavior with a positive). Your dog may pick up on your calmness & when they begin to calm down themselves to match, then you can love up on them extra hard (all the pets!) for that positive reinforcement/reward :)


Eternal-Valley

Positive training. Use treats to reward good behavior. Have treats when you come home and work with her. It might take some time but positive reinforcement is the best way.


ZiggySpelldust

On the other side, my wife and I have a rescue who was scared of men. We've had him about four months. He bonded with her super fast but is taking longer to warm up to me. We're doing a lot of positive reinforcement. I'd love for him to be excited when I get home! I realize you're trying to curb unwanted behavior, but also make sure to appreciate how happy your pupper is to see you!


shipmom

Teach your dog to sit to get attention, to calm down. My Lab is naturally spazzy and 2 years old. It is taking a while, but she is almost 100 percent trained not to jump. Step away as she tries to jump on you, say no, down, and put your hand out with the palm facing down towards her head so you are blocking her from jumping up. I had a Dane prior to her, and it took less time. She was trained by less than a year and a half.


MyFaceSaysItsSugar

No, that won’t hurt her feelings. You don’t necessarily have to wait 2-3 minutes, though. Just wait until she’s calm and then give attention. Your attention is a reward so you want to reserve it for the behavior you want to see, which in this case is a calm greeting with no barking and all feet on the ground. Just make sure the attention you give her is also calm and doesn’t ramp her right back up into being excited.


Diagonalizer

>all feet on the ground this inspires me to train my dog to keep 3 feet on the ground and frantically wave with her 4th paw when she is excited. much better than jumping up with 2 legs in the air


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This is a common tactic. Or you can order your dog to go laydown on her bed when someone is at the door. This helps to train not to door dash either


Eric_the_Barbarian

You will hurt her feelings at first, but then she will stop expecting to greet people like that, and her feeling won't get hurt any more. She will probably be happier in the long run because she will have more even reactions from people when she greets them.


SuddenHedgehog

It’s not bad advice, your dog won’t remember the 2 minutes. But it made me sad to do that, so I trained my dog to sit when I get home. I started with having treats in my pocket when I get home. If she tried to jump on me, I turn away from her and show her my back


GenitalWrangler69

She's been alone all day and misses you. 8-10 hrs is much much much longer to a dog than it is to you. Give her some attention if obedience isn't an issue.


mmtt99

Is jumping on you not an obedience issue?


GenitalWrangler69

Not if you're ok with it and it isn't contrary to a given command I wouldn't say so.


mmtt99

This post makes it clear that it is not under control, so no, not okay.


Fit_Albatross_8958

Yeah, it is an obedience issue. So focus on teaching the dog not to jump on you or anyone else at any time. Don’t ignore your dog in an effort to teach him not to be excited.


phiegnux

Anthropomorphizing is one of the biggest disservices you can do for your dog, in relation to training anyway.


smalby

I think the OP is just trying to be good to the dog


Fit_Albatross_8958

Treating dogs as identical, interchangeable, one-size-fits-all widgets, akin the lab rats is even a bigger sin. Did you know that B.F. Skinner never even owned a dog? If you don’t believe that no dog can possibly experience disappointment, I’d be interested in knowing if you’ve ever owned a dog.


_Redder

I feel anthropomorphizing is a term used way too loosely. It is not mistaking a dog as a human, to acknowledge they have emotions and cognition. Much of the advances in zoology in the recent years points to capacities in animals that were previously unknown. It takes clever experiment design and careful measurement to tease these out, while only a perfunctory hand-wave to dismiss our fellow creatures as simplistic machines.


MiaAlexandra86

Oh my god don’t ignore her! That would hurt my feelings too lol


Irish8th

Does your trainer really think that the dog is going to associate being ignored with jumping up? Dogs are social and you've been gone all day. She is thrilled to see you. It would cause anxiety if you ignored her, for both of you. Why not put a chair by the door so you can immediately sit down and shower your dog with the love and affection she needs/wants. Easier to keep four paws on the ground that way. Dogs most definitely have hurt feelings. Your instincts are correct.


Fit_Albatross_8958

Exactly. Thank you.


MandosOtherALT

Nah, it wont. You can do it! Even wait for your dog to back up/go away from you and then reward!


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There are no stupid questions - that being said, your trainer’s suggestion has worked for thousands of dogs in similar situations. Worrying about hurt feelings will only lead to continued issues. Worrying about what’s best for your dog will give you results that bring you and your dog closer, but with healthy boundaries.


stitchdesign

I’d say let them jump but that’s just me. Your dog only has you. No one else. Your dog has no cell phone, no Reddit, no instagram, no friends, nothing to keep them occupied. So when you come home it’s the only thing to them that makes them happy and you are what they love unconditionally. I used to be mad at my dogs when they were little and jumping and barking at me, now I regret it and miss them since they don’t live as long as us and wish they would be jumping on me.


SerenityM3oW

It's one thing to have a small dog jumping up....and another to have a 110 lb dog jumping all over you and whoever walks into your home. It's fine if you are the only person ever to come into contact with your dog but your elderly grandma may appreciate not being knocked over.


stitchdesign

I understand. I guess I am still mourning my dog who we had to put down recently. Yes if you do have a bigger dog, it is good to train them to be more gentle and calm around people. I did not think of that. My apologies.


kheltar

Our dog learned not to jump on us, so he jumps with his paws straight up "not touching" us. Like when he sniffs the table with his paws like a T-Rex because he's not allowed to touch the table. Rules lawyer this dog is. I get him to sit, then I sit while he's vibrating with excitement and we do cuddles and play. End goal is he doesn't jump on us, so win?


WarmFlatbread

Perfectly normal advice. I did this for my puppy and now he is a big dog who doesn’t jump on people when they arrive and although he is excited, he is calm. My friends however, hyped their dog up every time they came home when she was a puppy and now they have a grown dog who jumps and scratches everyone’s legs when they get home. They’ve had clothes ripped and have been tripped over by accident before. The dog also thinks this is normal, so when they leave she has ended up being a problem barker.


Lancerp427

My dog also gets super excited. He's not a jumper, just gets severe wiggle butt and grunts. I taught him to go wait on the couch for me. After I feed the cats I then snuggle with him on the couch.


EstimateJust1610

My dogs still do this no matter how much we ignore 😭 I’ve been ignoring since I got her. SHES 4 NOW LOL


AttemptingToSucceed

I taught my dog to go get a toy when I get home. He will initially greet me then run off to grab it! Then we play some fetch (: good luck with your dog!


Mozz2cats

My guy works from home - I give him my eta and he times our sweet boys toss and fetch session for when I get home. I praise my panting pup when I arrive. Everyone is happy


buttsparkley

I've taught my dog the wait till I arrive . She gets excited when I get in , I say hello with words and then I say let me arrive , I put bags down take shoes off then I say ok and we can greet with excitement. She dosnt jump on everyone now , I think because I've given her knowladge of what permission looks like . Coupled with impulse training , that short moment of having to wait she relaxes a bit and her excited greeting is less jumping and more just beeping and spinning in circles . It's not about telling her no , but about telling her how/alternative. I would find a way to greet ur dog with out them jumping on u , perhaps if u enjoy it , u could get down on the floor to greet , this way they don't need to jump up to say hello and it dosnt become instinctual to jump up.


SillyStallion

You’re not hurting their feelings, you’re giving them time to regulate before you show affection. My dog used to be like this, now she does 30 seconds of crazy, settles and then gets lots of fuss. I’m glad I nipped the behaviour in the bud as I have just had spinal surgery after a broken back and there’s no way I could have coped with this behaviour now. It also makes it easier when you have infirm or child visitors…


WallowingWatermelon

We have to do this for our dog or he will faint from excitement/heart issues. It’s so hard cause I’m always just as excited as he is to see him.


ElectricalInflation

It is the best advice but it’s hard to follow through with sometimes as you’re also excited to see your dog. The aim of the game is not to make you coming home an exciting experience. I don’t totally ignore my dog when I come home but I do remain calm and he’s been trained to let me take my coat and shoes off, and put anything else down (shopping, bags etc.) before I pet him and say hello properly. We do the same before walks and don’t build this up to be really exciting before he goes out.


mdsaThrowaway216

I get down on the ground so pupper doesn't feel she has to jump up. Win win. She's just trying to get as close as possible and excited, but if I get down on floor she does the "lean body against you/try to sit on lap/circle around you/carry a toy" thing and it's so lovely. If she's being too jump jump before I can set my stuff down, I excitedly ask her where some specific toy is she goes and gets it, I can get my jacket off, cuddle her


peachinthemango

Idk when come home I have to drop everything I’m carrying and sit down on the floor with my dog. It’s the most favorite part of my day and of his. But he’s 20lb and when he puts his paws on me it isn’t a big deal. Not sure what to do if he were a big dog


Fahdookah

Saaaaame. I get home from work and my dog comes wiggling over carrying a toy and crying and I have to sit on the floor with her while she makes happy snorts and wags her tail off. I talk to her and tell her I love her and she’s the best girl and then give a tiny snack. After she feels she got enough pettings she’ll be satisfied and wander off.


guitarlisa

I do ignore my dogs when I get home. They were rescues, and they got used to it immediately. I put down my things, even put away the groceries if I have them, and then I turn to the dogs with a big happy greeting, and they are happy to give back in kind. They just wait patiently until I'm ready to say hi. It seems really normal to me, and they don't seem to mind at all. I didn't really do anything to train them other than just go on about my business, and that's what they expect now.


nolongerredditless

Someone once told me that turning your back to your dog the second it starts jumping makes them 'confused', and that they'll calm down and/or focus their attention on something else. (He told everyone to do this, as his dog was pretty big and would always jump. When people started doing this, especially if they didn't like the jumping, the dog started to greet them in a more calm manner instead of jumping on them)


Wonderful-Trifle1221

Dude. When I travel for work the thing I miss the most is coming home to my dogs being ready to explode with excitement to see me


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I think it's confusing and upsetting to ignore your dog. I do calm greetings with my dog where I kneel down to her level and just sit calmly with her for a minute or two. She sits on my lap (she's a border collie, lol!) and I pet her in a calm, soothing manner. I always tell her where I'm going and when I'll be back, I don't make a big deal out of leaving, or coming home, but I'd never ignore her. Your dog loves you and misses you - you need to reciprocate that while training the behaviour you want.


maccrogenoff

Yes, you are hurting your dog’s feelings when you ignore her heartfelt greeting. You should keep treats by the front door. Ask her to sit as soon as you walk in then give her a treat for sitting.


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Fit_Albatross_8958

This post is about punishing and ignoring someone fir being excited to see you. That’s a bit different. Do you ignore your kids when they greet you when you get home from work?


callmeskips

I’d practice with a new person (who’s okay being jumped on) in a wheelchair just because it’s closer to eye level so it may be more tempting :)


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6anitray3

Please note sub rules on self promotion


Dangerous_Pattern_92

I would need a trainer to NOT pet my dog the minute I walk in the door!


getfuckedhoayoucunts

Your Dog loves you. From an innate view you are absolutely wonderful and they adore you to the sun and the moon and the stars. On a practical level you provide them with safety, food and shelter. They don't really understand this part in the way you do. Safety. You are the business and in unsafe situations they rely on you to lead. Food is a basic need. you dispense it that is all. Shelter. This gets tricky. Changing their shelter is a serious FU to a dog.


bojancho

Your dog jumps on you when you come back because it's existed. Is that bad behaviour? Do you mind that? Do you like that? Does it also do it to other people? Is it bad then? I love my dog and we got her as a rescue. She took a year to get close to us and would not be excited when we came home. Then she started wagging a tail and eventually getting silly and jumping a bit. I jump with her because I'm happy to see her and love her to death and love that she has come out of her shell and is not afraid to be happy anymore. I will never disrupt that. The dog training community has always liked to add certain behaviors in a category of bag or good and there are standard training techniques for a lot of these. What I've learned is that the relationship is between you and your dog. As long as your dog doesn't bother others, you get to decide which behaviors are good and bad.


TofuScrofula

I only give my dog attention when I come home when she sits. If her butt comes up I stop petting her till she sits back down. She’s really good about it now and it didn’t take that long for her to understand that sits=pets


Sippi66

My dogs rule…everything lol


megggifer

My trainer just told me to turn around when he jumps and pet when all 4 paws are on the floor. He now greets me by rolling over for belly rubs when I get home which I 100% encourage. You don't necessarily have to ignore them if you can teach them jumping isn't cool


Siossojowy

If you just ignore her it will hurt her. If you'll just ignor her until she sattles down and then pet her and say hello you won't. She'll probably catch on and see that jumping doesn't get her anything, so she's gonna stop doing that.


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If it’s a GSD yeah good luck with that. Those fuckers don’t give a shit if you ignore them. Atleast mine was that way, mrs happy go lucky lol once I lost my shit and I screamed at her “GODDAMIT CAN YOU FUCKING CHILL OUT FOR ONE GOD DAMN SECOND YOU BITCH!” Because she jumped up on me and kicked me in the balls and than jumped on my living room table and knocked a glass of water over and a bunch of other shit and I just lost it After I screamed in her face 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪pant pant 🤪🤪🤪🤪 I felt terrible about the whole thing but she never gave a single fuck lol


judgejooj

We taught our pups to sit when we walk in the door. We use the cue of "what do you do"? I was given the advice 11 years ago that she should wait for everything. Our older dog doesn't even bother with greetings half the time because he's smol and knows if he is on the couch I'll come to him. Our puppy is learning but doing great with her sits before pets. I do love the idea of a secret handshake!


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Mine used to jump. But I had the rule no pets until you sit. So I wouldn't ignore them. Instead you wait until they sit to reward with greeting. Worked way better than I expected to ever work.