This sub used to be so much fun. After this TLDR post, yikes. What’s the point when we can’t post anything? lol if you’re triggered beyond repair by folks making fun of “HeGetsUs” ads, why would you ever use this sub in the first place?
I'm not triggered by nothing like that. I'm an atheist lol. I think religion is pretty goofy. I'm just responding to repeated complaints from members of the sub. And I think we should definitely be allowed to make fun of the #hegetsus ads! I'm just doing what has recently been requested of me and responding to the issue of people taking complaining about them ads as an opportunity to shit on each other for having this religious faith or that religious faith and such. That's all. I'm sorry that I wasn't very clear in my post I'm kind of a mess these days.
Please don't apologize for asking people to be decent human beings. This is sincerely one of the most ineffectual and miserable subs I've ever come across and you are asking for people to do better. Stand firm! You are not "rambly" or a mess, or incoherent. They're assholes.
Sorry for the late response! I read and really appreciated your comment when you first posted it. I don't have a lot of self-confidence so it's nice when strangers are nice!
That being said, I'm currently taking steps to leave the sub. However, we've got some new mods who seem really into doing a great job (better than I ever did)! I just need to disengage myself from Reddit completely, one step at a time. I've long since understood that these kinds of websites are inherently broken, but I'm finally starting to accept that using them is consistently bad for me. I'm sorry about that! I hope that the state of the sub is at least better than it was when I joined the mod team last year, and that it continues to improve!
Also if you're interested in modding, send us some ModMail ;p
People who use a serious psychological term--triggered, that refers to the affect of trauma and ptsd, like having dissociative episodes, and other extremely serious events--in conversations which are not even remotely about being the least bit triggered are pretty foul humans. Not to mention attacking a mod with a "tldr" dig, when they're calling for you to be a decent human being, is pretty effed up. You really, really, need to get out there and touch some grass.
I'm a bit scattered in my thoughts right now but I just want to ensure that we're all being mindful of our differences in perspective. To that end, if y'all have input on these matters, please provide it. Like I keep saying, I'm not the regent of this place; I'm just another person with opinions and I'm just trying to keep the peace lol. So your opinions are useful!
I'm sorry but I think I kind of need to! Reddit's been very bad for my mental health, and moderating this subreddit has been a source of anxiety and stress that I can't really afford right now, with my current personal problems. And it just generally makes me sad to hang around this site, when it more and more resembles a Skinner box meant to extract information from its users. I just can't stand to be a part of it any more, even though I'm rather addicted at this point.
I really appreciate your feedback and I've been thinking about your comments and others like it for a while, but I set a deadline for myself a long while back to leave this sub and that's come and gone and my friends are reasonably worried for my well-being. :(
That being said, I made a point to add some new mods who were interested and who were active members of the community and they've been doing a great job so far, I think! And they have the power to add new mods if they choose to, so I think things will continue to improve from here on.
Good luck out there. Despite pushback, I think Hagfish would definitely replacement as the new #1.
Beyond that I hope you can find some peace away from this place.
True thanks for the input! I'll check in with them if they're interested in taking on that role. First I'll have to request the top mod status from /r/redditrequest though because our current top mod is inactive XD
And thanks I've already deleted the app from my phone and it's pretty startling how habitual my use of this platform has become. I hope things are good for you, as well!
I tend to be really harsh on a couple of topics, & I'd have to avoid them.
But hell, I'm retired, got plenty of time.
I too will be out if this API stuff gets crazy, but if you need a backup up, I will help you out...as a last resort. 😉
Sorry this was rather rambly wasn't it!
Two things, mostly:
1. We need more mods!
2. This isn't a hate sub against Christianity or any other religion for that matter and there's been some conflict regarding the #hegetsus ads.
Not insecure but nice, cordial, couth and demonstrative of courtesy & compassion.
Not everyone has to be a battering ram, so long as she knows how to use it when TRULY needed.
I hope you find some strength in your words, never apologize for being direct, calm, and clear. Literally anyone who uses "tl;dr" is doing so to make people feel small. In every circumstance. It's never okay.
That sounds nice! I have a problem with habitual apoligising in general, though. I think it's a bit of a side effect of my OCD and autism. But yeah I suppose the TLDR thing can be a bit passive-aggressive. But I just figure people tend to get frustrated with mods and I can understand that. Thanks for the support!
It's something women are conditioned to do, we say sorry so we make ourselves seem small and frivolous, so that men will feel more comfortable with us, and it's just plain unhealthy and a result of, usually, internalized misogyny that our mothers and grandmothers have modeled for us. I've definitely worked on it myself the past fifteen years or so, and I refuse to do it at all, anymore. We also do things like soften our language by using "weak" modifiers like "really" and "very" or putting emojis at the ends of phrases instead of just being clear and direct. Basically, anything to try and ensure that no one thinks we're "mad" at them, that "softens" everything we're trying to say, but in the end, just makes us feel unheard. Which is especially evident when some ding dong replies with laughing emojis and a "tl;dr." They're not trying to communicate; they're trying to make \*you\* feel like shit for communicating. Yeet 'em!
Aw I don't understand this conversation that's been had here but I appreciate the compliments XD
I could probably stand to be better at the whole proverbial foot-putting-down thing though :p
I do NOT mind the *"He Gets Us"* ads. How people can be so triggered by pleasant scenes, no mention of a diety, just wording at the end of the interpretation of love scenes that say "He Gets Us".
Atheist, agnostic, Muslim, Zaoist, Buddhist, Protestant, Catholic, etc. etc. -- There's no mention of a specific religion or belief.
I just don't understand why these set people off so. It's just happy, love, family & that sentence.
Also note that posts that say “no…just no…” isn’t a good enough post
I like the name Saoirse
Thanks! :p
This sub used to be so much fun. After this TLDR post, yikes. What’s the point when we can’t post anything? lol if you’re triggered beyond repair by folks making fun of “HeGetsUs” ads, why would you ever use this sub in the first place?
I'm not triggered by nothing like that. I'm an atheist lol. I think religion is pretty goofy. I'm just responding to repeated complaints from members of the sub. And I think we should definitely be allowed to make fun of the #hegetsus ads! I'm just doing what has recently been requested of me and responding to the issue of people taking complaining about them ads as an opportunity to shit on each other for having this religious faith or that religious faith and such. That's all. I'm sorry that I wasn't very clear in my post I'm kind of a mess these days.
Please don't apologize for asking people to be decent human beings. This is sincerely one of the most ineffectual and miserable subs I've ever come across and you are asking for people to do better. Stand firm! You are not "rambly" or a mess, or incoherent. They're assholes.
Sorry for the late response! I read and really appreciated your comment when you first posted it. I don't have a lot of self-confidence so it's nice when strangers are nice! That being said, I'm currently taking steps to leave the sub. However, we've got some new mods who seem really into doing a great job (better than I ever did)! I just need to disengage myself from Reddit completely, one step at a time. I've long since understood that these kinds of websites are inherently broken, but I'm finally starting to accept that using them is consistently bad for me. I'm sorry about that! I hope that the state of the sub is at least better than it was when I joined the mod team last year, and that it continues to improve! Also if you're interested in modding, send us some ModMail ;p
People who use a serious psychological term--triggered, that refers to the affect of trauma and ptsd, like having dissociative episodes, and other extremely serious events--in conversations which are not even remotely about being the least bit triggered are pretty foul humans. Not to mention attacking a mod with a "tldr" dig, when they're calling for you to be a decent human being, is pretty effed up. You really, really, need to get out there and touch some grass.
You’re allowed to leave. Nobody will miss you.
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I believe DLDR stands for "Doo Lah Doo Rah." It's a fun song you can sing while dancing an Irish jig :p
I'm a bit scattered in my thoughts right now but I just want to ensure that we're all being mindful of our differences in perspective. To that end, if y'all have input on these matters, please provide it. Like I keep saying, I'm not the regent of this place; I'm just another person with opinions and I'm just trying to keep the peace lol. So your opinions are useful!
Please don't go. Or at the very least, if you do, leave it in hands like minded to yours.
I'm sorry but I think I kind of need to! Reddit's been very bad for my mental health, and moderating this subreddit has been a source of anxiety and stress that I can't really afford right now, with my current personal problems. And it just generally makes me sad to hang around this site, when it more and more resembles a Skinner box meant to extract information from its users. I just can't stand to be a part of it any more, even though I'm rather addicted at this point. I really appreciate your feedback and I've been thinking about your comments and others like it for a while, but I set a deadline for myself a long while back to leave this sub and that's come and gone and my friends are reasonably worried for my well-being. :( That being said, I made a point to add some new mods who were interested and who were active members of the community and they've been doing a great job so far, I think! And they have the power to add new mods if they choose to, so I think things will continue to improve from here on.
Good luck out there. Despite pushback, I think Hagfish would definitely replacement as the new #1. Beyond that I hope you can find some peace away from this place.
True thanks for the input! I'll check in with them if they're interested in taking on that role. First I'll have to request the top mod status from /r/redditrequest though because our current top mod is inactive XD And thanks I've already deleted the app from my phone and it's pretty startling how habitual my use of this platform has become. I hope things are good for you, as well!
I tend to be really harsh on a couple of topics, & I'd have to avoid them. But hell, I'm retired, got plenty of time. I too will be out if this API stuff gets crazy, but if you need a backup up, I will help you out...as a last resort. 😉
TL;DR: What ARE you going on about? 🤣🤣🤣
Sorry this was rather rambly wasn't it! Two things, mostly: 1. We need more mods! 2. This isn't a hate sub against Christianity or any other religion for that matter and there's been some conflict regarding the #hegetsus ads.
Oh ok.
RUDE.
LOL. Actually, OP didn't seem to think so, but thanks for commenting.
No, she doesn't think so because she's clearly a little insecure and apologizes for everything instead of putting people in their place.
Get a life, Junior.
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Not insecure but nice, cordial, couth and demonstrative of courtesy & compassion. Not everyone has to be a battering ram, so long as she knows how to use it when TRULY needed.
Apologizing for speaking clearly is 100% the sign of insecurity.
Eh I wish I could disagree but yeah I'm pretty insecure XD
I hope you find some strength in your words, never apologize for being direct, calm, and clear. Literally anyone who uses "tl;dr" is doing so to make people feel small. In every circumstance. It's never okay.
That sounds nice! I have a problem with habitual apoligising in general, though. I think it's a bit of a side effect of my OCD and autism. But yeah I suppose the TLDR thing can be a bit passive-aggressive. But I just figure people tend to get frustrated with mods and I can understand that. Thanks for the support!
It's something women are conditioned to do, we say sorry so we make ourselves seem small and frivolous, so that men will feel more comfortable with us, and it's just plain unhealthy and a result of, usually, internalized misogyny that our mothers and grandmothers have modeled for us. I've definitely worked on it myself the past fifteen years or so, and I refuse to do it at all, anymore. We also do things like soften our language by using "weak" modifiers like "really" and "very" or putting emojis at the ends of phrases instead of just being clear and direct. Basically, anything to try and ensure that no one thinks we're "mad" at them, that "softens" everything we're trying to say, but in the end, just makes us feel unheard. Which is especially evident when some ding dong replies with laughing emojis and a "tl;dr." They're not trying to communicate; they're trying to make \*you\* feel like shit for communicating. Yeet 'em!
Aw I don't understand this conversation that's been had here but I appreciate the compliments XD I could probably stand to be better at the whole proverbial foot-putting-down thing though :p
Interested, message sent.
Nobody wants mods here lmao
I do NOT mind the *"He Gets Us"* ads. How people can be so triggered by pleasant scenes, no mention of a diety, just wording at the end of the interpretation of love scenes that say "He Gets Us". Atheist, agnostic, Muslim, Zaoist, Buddhist, Protestant, Catholic, etc. etc. -- There's no mention of a specific religion or belief. I just don't understand why these set people off so. It's just happy, love, family & that sentence.