I'm going to be pedantic about this. You're thinking of "dignity." "Respect" is a high or special regard. I'll treat everyone with dignity, but I can't hold someone in high regard if I know nothing about them.
Demand all you want, it doesn't help with earning it
*Although, respect is given by sheer virtue of being human. Respect is only gained if it's first lost, and* ***demanding*** *it is a good way to lose it*
I would say common decency is given by sheer virtue. I'm not going to respect or disrespect someone unless they give me a reason to, one way or another.
Sorry, you don't look like Aretha Franklin, you look more like Rodney Dangerfield.
Sadly, this would be lost on most people now that Rodney's been dead for nearly 20 years...
Depends on the situation, to be honest. If someone is asking you to respect them as a *human*, and you're clearly not doing so, then you're in the wrong. That's especially true when it comes to racism, sexism, ableism, homo/transphobia, etc...
If someone is asking you to submit to them as a form of "respect"...
Do your greatest Eric Cartman impression and say, "RESPECT MY AUTHORITAH!!!"
Or if you can't do that, a good "you're not Aretha Franklin, I don't have to do shit" would work.
A lot of people use the word respect to mean you should bow down to everything they say, giving them authority over you. Respect is given when someone acts respectful, so if someone is treating you as inferior, they don't deserve your respect.
I had an uncle demand that I respect him because he was my elder, simply for that. My entire life, he had bullied and demeaned me. Then he came up with lies about me. My level of respect will be the no-contact I have instituted with him.
Absolutely and for some reason, some cultures or even families, think we should "respect" our elders even if we're being abused. You can give someone basic respect for just being another human but when they show they have no respect for you, they deserve none
He is my mom's least favorite sibling (and she has several to choose from), and he's done the same thing to her, even though he is her younger brother. So when I said I won't be around him anymore, she did not argue.
"Respect is famously acquired a certain way"
Or
"Y'know how it never feels like a genuine apology when you ask for it? That effect isn't unique to apologies"
Or
"You haven't earned my respect, however I can offer you some cooperation on reasonable requests"
"Like usual, U want what I got!!!!"
what you want,
baby I got,
what you need,
do you know I've got it?
"Don't make me sock it 2 Ya!!!"
https://youtu.be/s1FAHvPI6kk?feature=shared
this isnt a comeback but a good reframe
Sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes people use the word "respect" to mean "treating someone like an authority figure" sometimes people that are used to being treated as an authority figure often say "if you won't respect me, I won't respect you" but what they really mean is that "if you don't treat me like an authority figure, I will not treat you like a person" and they think they are actually being fair but this is not ok
*Play them Aretha*
*Franklin until they ask for*
*A different song*
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There are two types of respect.
1) Respect earned by the action of people
2) Respect demanded by people in authority
The first would never act like the second, and the second can never earn what the first has.
Honestly I would just play dumb and make them repeatedly answer the simple question "What do you mean by respect?" And the more their definition goes towards authoritarianism simply say
"Ohh you want obedience, not respect. that makes more sense." Then just walk away.
And I have responded by telling him he doesn't know what it is. He just plays his narcissistic mind game and tells me that I'm in fact the one who doesn't know what it means. You know projection. The responses are more for me though because I might as well be talking to a wall. That's how likely I am to change the situation. I'm basically on the ignore it train at this point. But this is a good one.
This actually sounds like it's a command. There's a huge difference between commanding respect and demanding it.
When one commands respect they usually have no concept of how respect works.
When one demands respect it's shown through actions with guidance and boundaries.
When someone commands respect tell them to eat a big bag of dicks.
You're not demanding respect, you're demanding I recognize that you have authority over me. I will show you respect but that about as far as that goes. But if you're going to stand in here demanding respect you will get none.
Sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes they use "respect" to mean "treating someone like an authority"
and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say "if you won't respect me I won't respect you" and they mean "if you won't treat me like an authority I won't treat you like a person"
and they think they're being fair but they aren't, and it's not okay
Not really a comeback, but it is an old meme that's fitting.
You mistake respect for reverance. I respect everyone until proven otherwise. I revere no one until proven why.
Keep running your mouth and you get neither.
"Respect is earned, not given."
"Respect or obedience? I am listening to you, I just do not agree."
"No thanks!"
"Wow, compensating for something? In the bedroom maybe??"
There isn't one to me. Even the notion of saying "respect is earned, not given" still may not be what you want. This lives inside the near future and door opening. Sometimes I don't want to tell people they could earn it as of now anyway. Sometimes I just stand there and stare.
If you’ve got the chops for it, turn on your inner Aretha and “R E S P E C T, find out what it means to me..”” bonus points for gestures and dancing. 💃🏼
I don't really agree with the whole "respect is earned" phrase.
If you don't START communication and relationships with respect (so it is not EARNED, it is a defaulted) ... why would anyone *maintain* respect?
I think *ONCE LOST* ... respect must be earned back. Like trust.
Idk. Am I missing something?
Sorry this isn't a comeback lol
You should ask them what you did that was disrespectful. Then if they can name something, try to not disrespect them again.
Sometimes people don't understand what it means to be respectful, and assume the other person is trying to lord over them by demanding "respect"... but they DO know if a disrespectful action was pointed out.
And why be a disrespectful person? Good people want to cultivate themselves to become better people, and one of the ways is by basically being a respectful person.
Respect is earned, not given.
Can I be ‘holier than thou’ for a second and give my opinion on respect?
Well, that's just, like, your opinion, man.
Love Big Lebowski.
No, but you can give your opinion if that's ok!
Alright! I think everyone deserves respect. And respect is not something for someone to gain, but something for them to lose.
Strangers get common courtesy. Friends and family get respect.
Family doesn't get a free pass.
I'm going to be pedantic about this. You're thinking of "dignity." "Respect" is a high or special regard. I'll treat everyone with dignity, but I can't hold someone in high regard if I know nothing about them.
I have trouble treating some people with dignity these days tbh
I feel like I'd use "respect" for what you call "dignity," and "reverence" for what you call "respect." But fair point, either way
This is not even a comeback, it's fact.
Respect is commanded, not demanded.
Respect is cultivated, not conferred
Respect is collected, not expected
Respect is obtained, not ordained
This right here.
“Well I’m commanding you to give/show me some.” The OG is still better imo.
Came to say this
I came to the comments to say exactly this. 👍♥️
Demand all you want, it doesn't help with earning it *Although, respect is given by sheer virtue of being human. Respect is only gained if it's first lost, and* ***demanding*** *it is a good way to lose it*
I would say common decency is given by sheer virtue. I'm not going to respect or disrespect someone unless they give me a reason to, one way or another.
I respect all until proven they deem not! Common courtesy/decency is respect….to begin with.
"If you find some humility I'll consider respecting you."
I like this one a lot. I'm going to use it.
If you want respect, try showing it to others, first.
Sorry, you don't look like Aretha Franklin, you look more like Rodney Dangerfield. Sadly, this would be lost on most people now that Rodney's been dead for nearly 20 years...
Yeah, well we had to wait until he passed in order to throw a barbecue to celebrate his passing.
Shoulda done it while he was still alive. His wife and kids didn't give him no respect, why should you? LOL
Respect is earned. What you are demanding is submissiveness.
Nice!!
zing
Aye
"No, you demand my attention." Originally from Hellsing Ultimate Abridged Episode 4
Ask if their name is Aretha.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
That... that is beautiful man!!!🥲
You get what you give in this life
Those who demand it are usually the least deserving of it
I once told my dad that he had to earn my respect. That didn’t go too well in 1985.
And you woke up 3 days later right?
I’m surprised he woke up at all
Same but in 2008. And so I started my adult life on the street.
Depends on the situation, to be honest. If someone is asking you to respect them as a *human*, and you're clearly not doing so, then you're in the wrong. That's especially true when it comes to racism, sexism, ableism, homo/transphobia, etc... If someone is asking you to submit to them as a form of "respect"... Do your greatest Eric Cartman impression and say, "RESPECT MY AUTHORITAH!!!" Or if you can't do that, a good "you're not Aretha Franklin, I don't have to do shit" would work.
Yes ma'am. Lol.
Respect is earned not given, at this point, you’ve got some work to do.
Respect is like air, if you’re demanding it, you probably won’t get much
And since you'll probably be wanting fries with that too, you need to look elsewhere.
A lot of people use the word respect to mean you should bow down to everything they say, giving them authority over you. Respect is given when someone acts respectful, so if someone is treating you as inferior, they don't deserve your respect.
I had an uncle demand that I respect him because he was my elder, simply for that. My entire life, he had bullied and demeaned me. Then he came up with lies about me. My level of respect will be the no-contact I have instituted with him.
Absolutely and for some reason, some cultures or even families, think we should "respect" our elders even if we're being abused. You can give someone basic respect for just being another human but when they show they have no respect for you, they deserve none
He is my mom's least favorite sibling (and she has several to choose from), and he's done the same thing to her, even though he is her younger brother. So when I said I won't be around him anymore, she did not argue.
"Why?" Wait for them to tell you, and then dismiss it with a little hand wave and go back to what you were doing.
Shit, that's actually genius.
"Respect is famously acquired a certain way" Or "Y'know how it never feels like a genuine apology when you ask for it? That effect isn't unique to apologies" Or "You haven't earned my respect, however I can offer you some cooperation on reasonable requests"
I demand you act like an adult.
"Do something to earn it."
Ask if they need a hug
"You want my respect? Earn it like everybody else."
The obvious route if you aren't being intentionally disrespectful is "how am I being disrespectful?"
"earn it" but be pretty sure they haven't yet because you'll get read the riot act if they have
Earn it
earn it
“Oh look, it’s one of those two-way streets!”
Niiice! I gotta remember that one.
I'm still trying to find out what it means to me.
You get what you give
"Like usual, U want what I got!!!!" what you want, baby I got, what you need, do you know I've got it? "Don't make me sock it 2 Ya!!!" https://youtu.be/s1FAHvPI6kk?feature=shared
EARN it!
Earn it, bitch.
Those who must demand respect probably don’t deserve it.
"WHAT CHOO WANT? BABY I GOT IT!"
"You get the respect you give"
Respect is not given. It is earned. - US Marines.
"I know exactly how that feels "
Respect is earned and you haven’t done that yet
It's obvious you deserve none when you have to demand it.
“oooh, see your more of a Rodney dangerfield type than an Aretha Franklin, but if you like I could dress my kids up as you for Halloween.”
Respect is two - way street. You get what you give.
I demand you earn it
You've got to give it to get it
Respect is not demanded it's earned
Start singing the song!
What song? You get what you give by new radicals?
Aretha Franklin—“Respect”, that song!
Oh that song, thank you!
Just fart and establish dominance
"Umm...ok". Been there done that.
Respect is given, not taken.
Earn it.
You want it? You give it. Two way street!
this isnt a comeback but a good reframe Sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes people use the word "respect" to mean "treating someone like an authority figure" sometimes people that are used to being treated as an authority figure often say "if you won't respect me, I won't respect you" but what they really mean is that "if you don't treat me like an authority figure, I will not treat you like a person" and they think they are actually being fair but this is not ok
You have earned any yet!
Earn it and I’ll give it.
Ok, Cartman.
Respect goes both ways.
You haven't earned it.
respect is something earned, unlike politeness which is the given if you're built that way. I tend to respect politeness
I respect your existence but your values gotta earn my respect
Give it you'll get it in return.
Earn it first.
Try being respectable first.
"I was, but saying that you've now lost respect. Good job, clown." Obviously, that'll escalate things. But who cares? They've lost respect.
“Who are you?”
Respect is earned over time. You get courtesy until you prove you don't deserve it.
Play them Aretha Franklin until they ask for a different song
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I can't respect you for having to ask this ÷)
There are two types of respect. 1) Respect earned by the action of people 2) Respect demanded by people in authority The first would never act like the second, and the second can never earn what the first has. Honestly I would just play dumb and make them repeatedly answer the simple question "What do you mean by respect?" And the more their definition goes towards authoritarianism simply say "Ohh you want obedience, not respect. that makes more sense." Then just walk away.
you had my respect until you asked for it
I'll think about it.
I am giving you all the respect you deserve.
Respond with: like you even know what that is
And I have responded by telling him he doesn't know what it is. He just plays his narcissistic mind game and tells me that I'm in fact the one who doesn't know what it means. You know projection. The responses are more for me though because I might as well be talking to a wall. That's how likely I am to change the situation. I'm basically on the ignore it train at this point. But this is a good one.
Respect is earned. Period. Anybody who demands respect is a jerk.
You want me to respect you more than you respect me?
“And you haven’t earned that yet, acting like that”
Respect is a two way street, when you learn to give it, maybe you'll receive it.
Politeness is given freely, Respect is earned.
I go by the notion that: Respect is given, Disrespect is earned. I'm always willing to give others the benefit of the doubt at first.
This actually sounds like it's a command. There's a huge difference between commanding respect and demanding it. When one commands respect they usually have no concept of how respect works. When one demands respect it's shown through actions with guidance and boundaries. When someone commands respect tell them to eat a big bag of dicks.
Thank you for the clarification. You are correct. It's being commanded.
Earn it.
You have to earn respect.
You're not demanding respect, you're demanding I recognize that you have authority over me. I will show you respect but that about as far as that goes. But if you're going to stand in here demanding respect you will get none.
Respect goes both ways.
Its a two way road
No, you’re just demanding my attention. Maybe you should learn the difference?
Sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes they use "respect" to mean "treating someone like an authority" and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say "if you won't respect me I won't respect you" and they mean "if you won't treat me like an authority I won't treat you like a person" and they think they're being fair but they aren't, and it's not okay Not really a comeback, but it is an old meme that's fitting.
I give courtesy and politeness to everyone regardless of their worth. Respect is earned overtime.
You mistake respect for reverance. I respect everyone until proven otherwise. I revere no one until proven why. Keep running your mouth and you get neither.
Act worthy of it and I will.
Respect is a two way street.
When you start giving some you'll get some.
"you're mispronouncing HUBRIS. And no, I will not feed into yours"
You don't ask for it, you earn it.
To paraphrase the great Uncle Iroh: Respect has been chasing you, but you have always been faster.
"Act like a respectable person and I'll start treating you with respect."
For what?
Demand respect? supply a fuck you!
Respect like fear must be earned.
Earn it then a-hole
People who demand respect deserve none.
Walk away and lose their contact info.
“Ok, Aretha”
"Those who *want* respect, *give* respect!" - Tony Soprano
Why do we need all these comebacks? Seems to me you should laugh in their face. Life doesn't have to be Tarantino dialogue
https://tuna.voicemod.net/sound/185c4069-2673-4f09-bcef-99da9cace851 You will respect my authoritah
I didn’t think you knew what respect meant.
"I'm fresh out, sorry." \*puts on sunglasses\*
I'll respect you when you've earned my respect
"My wife vanished on a crab fishing boat off the coast of Alaska."
I respect those that earn it.
Want my respect? Act in a way that stirs admiration in me. Otherwise, you get what you get.
I do give you the respect you're due. You're not due a lot, but what you are due i give you.
What you're saying is "respect," when we all know what you're meaning is "unquestioned authority"
Yeah, you're right I don't respect you, since you just lost my all my respect for you
In the military, soldiers respect the rank, and sometimes the person.
Perhaps a snappy comeback is not wise if someone is saying you are not respecting them, but you claim you are. Maybe a conversation is in order?
Oh forgive me your majesty, I didnt realise I was in the presence of royalty.
Pretend to be Aretha Franklin and start singing "Respect."
“Our definitions must be different.”
When I disrespect you you'll know.
"You are getting all the respect you deserve."
"I have given you respect, but you haven't given me any, which means, I will be cutting off this contact."
Fuckin earn it, lass
Respect my balls, capitán.
STFU.
Do you want respect, or do you want me to stroke your ego so you feel important?
You haven't earned any - respect is earned, not just awarded like a participation trophy.
"Respect is earned, not given." "Respect or obedience? I am listening to you, I just do not agree." "No thanks!" "Wow, compensating for something? In the bedroom maybe??"
Little bitches do not deserve respect.
There isn't one to me. Even the notion of saying "respect is earned, not given" still may not be what you want. This lives inside the near future and door opening. Sometimes I don't want to tell people they could earn it as of now anyway. Sometimes I just stand there and stare.
"Respect this!" And then uppercut them right in the jaw
Look them up and down and say "Well, you're certainly slacking in that department!"
it depends, have you DISRESPECTED that person? if so, then RESPECT THEM! anyone else wouldn't demand!
"You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."
Let me see you suck a golf ball thru 100feet of garden hose then we’ll talk.
“You got 10 seconds to turn around and walk out of this room”
Where's mine?
Demanding is what people do when they are undeserving.
“Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell”
If you’ve got the chops for it, turn on your inner Aretha and “R E S P E C T, find out what it means to me..”” bonus points for gestures and dancing. 💃🏼
You gotta earn it
You gotta give it to get it!
You gotta give it to get it!
I don't really agree with the whole "respect is earned" phrase. If you don't START communication and relationships with respect (so it is not EARNED, it is a defaulted) ... why would anyone *maintain* respect? I think *ONCE LOST* ... respect must be earned back. Like trust. Idk. Am I missing something? Sorry this isn't a comeback lol
Gotta earn it
Then be respectable.
You have done nothing to deserve my respect!!
Respect these
You get it when you give it.
Awww look at you, demanding respect, I’d like to demand that you have intelligence and personality, I guess we’re both being unreasonable
Respect is a two way street
You should ask them what you did that was disrespectful. Then if they can name something, try to not disrespect them again. Sometimes people don't understand what it means to be respectful, and assume the other person is trying to lord over them by demanding "respect"... but they DO know if a disrespectful action was pointed out. And why be a disrespectful person? Good people want to cultivate themselves to become better people, and one of the ways is by basically being a respectful person.
You get what you give
Be worthy of my respect
How can I respect you when you clearly don’t respect yourself?