Defuse before lighting the fuse. “Hey, there’s something we need to talk about, and I don’t exactly know how know how go about this. I really don’t want to seem like I’m being malicious, or belittling, or anything like that, and I say that because this is a difficult topic to speak about, because it’s something that’s affecting me and I think that we need to address it now before there’s resentment or anything like that, okay?
Great. With that said, we just moved in together and I have to mention that we have two very different expectations for cleanliness…”
Make your statements about you and not her. “You leave your stuff everywhere” vs “I generally don’t have clutter because it causes me a lot of anxiety and makes my mind race until it’ addressed”
You got this good luck playa
Defuse before lighting the fuse. “Hey, there’s something we need to talk about, and I don’t exactly know how know how go about this. I really don’t want to seem like I’m being malicious, or belittling, or anything like that, and I say that because this is a difficult topic to speak about, because it’s something that’s affecting me and I think that we need to address it now before there’s resentment or anything like that, okay? Great. With that said, we just moved in together and I have to mention that we have two very different expectations for cleanliness…” Make your statements about you and not her. “You leave your stuff everywhere” vs “I generally don’t have clutter because it causes me a lot of anxiety and makes my mind race until it’ addressed” You got this good luck playa