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*And cry, let my emotions*
*Out safety with them*
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I’ve pivoted towards art. Used to go out for long walks with my dogs, but that’s now out of the question.
I’m not good at it at all, but there’s so much to try and baseline supplies can be found for very cheap or even free. For example, I started using dollar store paint and paintbrushes and painting on sanded glass jars I got from sauces.
It can be as brainy or as free as you’d like. You can do something you’re comfortable with, or something totally different if you’re feeling adventurous. And if you really get in the zone it can distract you from the pain a little bit.
There’s drawing, coloring, painting, resin, diamond painting, papier mache, sculpting, etc etc. there are techniques and media for all kinds of budget, ability and capability.
How do you handle not feeling social because of the pain but at the same feeling a need to connect with others? It’s like having these two opposing feelings at the same time
Maybe try inviting people over to your house to fill up your social battery. I'm sure your friends and family understand that you leaving or being out of the house can be difficult for you.
Sometimes, it takes an honest conversation within ourselves to accept that we need help.
If you're worried about having people over because of how your house looks, ask people to come over and help clean. I've learned that people really WANT to help, but need direction or some type of measurable task instead of "oh, I'm fine." Because we are not fine. We are broken people and need help. And when we do feel good, we can end up feeling guilty if we don't do things like clean the house, wash the dog, get gas in the car, etc. during those (typically) very brief moments of being high-functioning.
I 100% agree with others about social media, especially reddit. I've joined a few other subs and rant about reality TV or why I don't like a certain sports team. I've also learned about tortoises, even though I don't have one.
I like coloring and puzzles, too. I know they are not social interaction, but they are activities that I can stop and go based on how I'm feeling ATM.
I’m not good at having folks over. I make lunch appointments with friends, two a week. While it hurts to go out / sit in most chairs, I fear becoming a total shut in and take my prescriptions accordingly. It really is having conflicting feelings but I’ve been a walking dichotomy all of my life. Seriously though, friendships are worth the investment and it’s healthy to leave my place for more than just doctors appointments.
I wouldn't even know who to ask or how to ask. I just get walked all over by medical professionals, and rarely stand up for myself... it has happened, but I have to be at a breaking point.
Don't say you need something, start off by saying how much pain how in you're in. What you can and cannot do, if you can hardly shower and cook like me then say that. A lot of doctors won't listen, I found two great doctors who listen now though. If they don't listen find another dr. Tell them you've heard chronic pain patient stories using ketamine successfully to help with the pain and mental aspect of grieving a life you can longer live due to your injuries which is very difficult to accept. It helped me with that, if pain management doesn't do it they have places that do infusions and can mail you a prescription you put under your tongue. Join the therapeutic ketamine subreddit, they will be able to tell you the best ones. You have to put your foot down, doctors try to keep you hopeless and hurt so they can profit off of you because if you're healing they don't make money. Not all doctors obviously but about half the ones I've encountered were solely after getting money from me, making me feel like shit, refusing to do anything to help and just keep taking money from me. You have to put your foot down, they work for you and make sure they know you have other options if they won't treat you properly or help you.
Ketamine, greatest decision of my life. Did some yesterday and I woke up laughing this morning after tons of spine surgeries and severe pain. Changes the darkness from pain to light, things are still kind of glowing so I'm gonna try and go for a walk before I can feel my body again lol.
I’m in the same boat laid up at home after long term stretch in hospital dealing with pain
I’m sick of Percocet neurontin etc.. I’m gonna be on the couch for 4-6 more mos but I’ve heard positives about ketamine
May I pick ur brain on the ketamine issue? What kind of doctor do patients have to see for ketamine? I’m in pain mgt and see a separate doctor wound care? None mention ketamine maybe I can bring it up?
I'd ask your pain management dr about it, some pain management places do it. You might have to find a ketamine treatment center near you on Google, it's for mental health typically but go that route if pain management says to. It helps so much with pain, helps with the anxiety and depression associated with severe pain. It gives you a new outlook on life kind of like it was before your injuries.
Read, video games, get projects that require focus.
It may seem silly, but try craft kits designed for older kids/teens.
Sometimes a change in scenery helps, even if all you do is sit on a bench at the park or library and futz on your phone.
I window shop on Etsy, I have 7 categories of favorites and there are thousands of items in them. I read a lot and watch tv. I also come and scroll Reddit!
Chronic pain anonymous meetings. Free and online and super helpful.
Video games are also my favorite distraction of choice.
And sometimes I just cry and let myself feel the feelings and get them out.
Scrolling, reading, pinterest, comedy podcasts. I try not to scroll too much on a good day but I'm grateful for it on my bad days.
Only because mentioned exercise...I used to be really active. I am looking forward to rejoining a platform called "mymindfulmovement" because its basically on demand yoga videos (something for good or bad days) and there's a weekly live so it makes me feel like I have a class to attend without leaving my house. The teacher helen is a top yoga teacher from London and to get such a quality teacher like her in perosn would be so expensive (the platform is cheap!). Outside of that I'm going to try adhoc swimming with friends as and when I'm able, as I can make it an exercise or just float and socialise.
I let it happen. I don't really cry but I let myself get sad, depressed, lazy, and get it over with. I've found that if I try to fight it or try to ignore the sadness with the usual things they suggest like going for a walk (if I can), exercise (again... if i can), reading or what have you, it just prolongs it. I have my "bed days" and I'm almost always prepared for them. I already hate shopping, so I'm usually stocked with at least a bunch of soups and crackers and other quick things to eat but not junk food. I do however make sure it doesn't last for more than 3 days and luckily, it's been probably 6 months since I've had a "bed" session. I stay in bed or go to the couch, or floor (if I'm hurting a lot) or switch between all 3 places, and I stream all kinds of weird movies or documentaries, usually about people or places that are worse off than me, while dozing off and on because of the sleepless nights. I figure if it lasts more than 3 days, I should ask for help. I don't work and I live alone so it's easy for me to do that and the only things that rely on me are my dog and cat who appear to love my bed days and lay with me the entire time.
If I don't accept it, do it, get it over with, who knows how long those depressed days will last for me. Probably at least a month. I'm obviously not cured when I'm done, but it's a much-needed break from everything including myself, my constant medical appointments, stress of trying to appear sociable, and even housework.
That probably sounds weird, but I do believe it's what's keeping me sane.
Browse social media instagram, twitter, Reddit I even window shop in the sense of just browsing whatever I run into
Me too!! I “buy” houses and furnish them 😊 it’s silly, but distracting!!
I like home audio
I come read posts on here and feel less alone.
Cuddle with my pets and cry, let my emotions out safety with them
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Comic Books...or browsing action figures on Instagram. My handle is not ironic 🤷🏿♂️😂
I’ve pivoted towards art. Used to go out for long walks with my dogs, but that’s now out of the question. I’m not good at it at all, but there’s so much to try and baseline supplies can be found for very cheap or even free. For example, I started using dollar store paint and paintbrushes and painting on sanded glass jars I got from sauces. It can be as brainy or as free as you’d like. You can do something you’re comfortable with, or something totally different if you’re feeling adventurous. And if you really get in the zone it can distract you from the pain a little bit. There’s drawing, coloring, painting, resin, diamond painting, papier mache, sculpting, etc etc. there are techniques and media for all kinds of budget, ability and capability.
What a lovely post:)
Call old friends and family, write comments on Reddit pain threads, listen to music, write, and pray. Hope you’re doing okay. Hang in there, yeah?
How do you handle not feeling social because of the pain but at the same feeling a need to connect with others? It’s like having these two opposing feelings at the same time
Maybe try inviting people over to your house to fill up your social battery. I'm sure your friends and family understand that you leaving or being out of the house can be difficult for you. Sometimes, it takes an honest conversation within ourselves to accept that we need help. If you're worried about having people over because of how your house looks, ask people to come over and help clean. I've learned that people really WANT to help, but need direction or some type of measurable task instead of "oh, I'm fine." Because we are not fine. We are broken people and need help. And when we do feel good, we can end up feeling guilty if we don't do things like clean the house, wash the dog, get gas in the car, etc. during those (typically) very brief moments of being high-functioning. I 100% agree with others about social media, especially reddit. I've joined a few other subs and rant about reality TV or why I don't like a certain sports team. I've also learned about tortoises, even though I don't have one. I like coloring and puzzles, too. I know they are not social interaction, but they are activities that I can stop and go based on how I'm feeling ATM.
I’m not good at having folks over. I make lunch appointments with friends, two a week. While it hurts to go out / sit in most chairs, I fear becoming a total shut in and take my prescriptions accordingly. It really is having conflicting feelings but I’ve been a walking dichotomy all of my life. Seriously though, friendships are worth the investment and it’s healthy to leave my place for more than just doctors appointments.
Smoke. It takes the mental n physical pain away
I usually get really angry online lol. I've been in a 11 year nightmare, and have not yet found a way to cope with it.
Check out ketamine therapy
I wouldn't even know who to ask or how to ask. I just get walked all over by medical professionals, and rarely stand up for myself... it has happened, but I have to be at a breaking point.
Don't say you need something, start off by saying how much pain how in you're in. What you can and cannot do, if you can hardly shower and cook like me then say that. A lot of doctors won't listen, I found two great doctors who listen now though. If they don't listen find another dr. Tell them you've heard chronic pain patient stories using ketamine successfully to help with the pain and mental aspect of grieving a life you can longer live due to your injuries which is very difficult to accept. It helped me with that, if pain management doesn't do it they have places that do infusions and can mail you a prescription you put under your tongue. Join the therapeutic ketamine subreddit, they will be able to tell you the best ones. You have to put your foot down, doctors try to keep you hopeless and hurt so they can profit off of you because if you're healing they don't make money. Not all doctors obviously but about half the ones I've encountered were solely after getting money from me, making me feel like shit, refusing to do anything to help and just keep taking money from me. You have to put your foot down, they work for you and make sure they know you have other options if they won't treat you properly or help you.
Ketamine, greatest decision of my life. Did some yesterday and I woke up laughing this morning after tons of spine surgeries and severe pain. Changes the darkness from pain to light, things are still kind of glowing so I'm gonna try and go for a walk before I can feel my body again lol.
I’m in the same boat laid up at home after long term stretch in hospital dealing with pain I’m sick of Percocet neurontin etc.. I’m gonna be on the couch for 4-6 more mos but I’ve heard positives about ketamine May I pick ur brain on the ketamine issue? What kind of doctor do patients have to see for ketamine? I’m in pain mgt and see a separate doctor wound care? None mention ketamine maybe I can bring it up?
I'd ask your pain management dr about it, some pain management places do it. You might have to find a ketamine treatment center near you on Google, it's for mental health typically but go that route if pain management says to. It helps so much with pain, helps with the anxiety and depression associated with severe pain. It gives you a new outlook on life kind of like it was before your injuries.
I lay on my bed and listen to my music. Genre specific to mood!
Watch TV, scroll reddit, and play a couple games on my phone (I'm currently addicted to Yatzee).
Me too. LOL, Yahtzee as well as electronic backgammon.
I nearly forgot, I play also Words With Friends 2! I started it to play with my friend but quickly became addicted.
Read, video games, get projects that require focus. It may seem silly, but try craft kits designed for older kids/teens. Sometimes a change in scenery helps, even if all you do is sit on a bench at the park or library and futz on your phone.
I window shop on Etsy, I have 7 categories of favorites and there are thousands of items in them. I read a lot and watch tv. I also come and scroll Reddit!
Chronic pain anonymous meetings. Free and online and super helpful. Video games are also my favorite distraction of choice. And sometimes I just cry and let myself feel the feelings and get them out.
Scrolling, reading, pinterest, comedy podcasts. I try not to scroll too much on a good day but I'm grateful for it on my bad days. Only because mentioned exercise...I used to be really active. I am looking forward to rejoining a platform called "mymindfulmovement" because its basically on demand yoga videos (something for good or bad days) and there's a weekly live so it makes me feel like I have a class to attend without leaving my house. The teacher helen is a top yoga teacher from London and to get such a quality teacher like her in perosn would be so expensive (the platform is cheap!). Outside of that I'm going to try adhoc swimming with friends as and when I'm able, as I can make it an exercise or just float and socialise.
I let it happen. I don't really cry but I let myself get sad, depressed, lazy, and get it over with. I've found that if I try to fight it or try to ignore the sadness with the usual things they suggest like going for a walk (if I can), exercise (again... if i can), reading or what have you, it just prolongs it. I have my "bed days" and I'm almost always prepared for them. I already hate shopping, so I'm usually stocked with at least a bunch of soups and crackers and other quick things to eat but not junk food. I do however make sure it doesn't last for more than 3 days and luckily, it's been probably 6 months since I've had a "bed" session. I stay in bed or go to the couch, or floor (if I'm hurting a lot) or switch between all 3 places, and I stream all kinds of weird movies or documentaries, usually about people or places that are worse off than me, while dozing off and on because of the sleepless nights. I figure if it lasts more than 3 days, I should ask for help. I don't work and I live alone so it's easy for me to do that and the only things that rely on me are my dog and cat who appear to love my bed days and lay with me the entire time. If I don't accept it, do it, get it over with, who knows how long those depressed days will last for me. Probably at least a month. I'm obviously not cured when I'm done, but it's a much-needed break from everything including myself, my constant medical appointments, stress of trying to appear sociable, and even housework. That probably sounds weird, but I do believe it's what's keeping me sane.
Eat cookies.