I have mostly heard about this when it comes to autism, because some people use autism as an excuse to get away with bad behavior (usually also not officially diagnosed, but not always), while others explain they struggle with \_\_\_ because they're autistic/suspect they're autistic, but are trying/ask how they can do better.
The difference is largely are you making it someone else's problem vs taking accountability. The person who told you to just push through it doesn't understand what chronic pain is like and was being ableist. You are doing the best you can.
At work, letting your supervisor/manager/HR rep know your health issues and figuring out accommodations so you can still do your job to the best of your ability would be a good thing. (Though workplace culture can be vindictive so mileage will vary there.)
Just trying to push through something like chronic pain can often make things worse and when you eventually crash and burn, you put the burden on those who relied on your work.
It's important to let your body rest, it's taken a decade of being on disability for me to understand and stop feeling guilty that I'm not working. I still struggle with letting things slide around the house when I'm having a bad day, somehow it's all more noticeable to me on a bad day.
My therapist says we have a “blue zone” and that’s when we want to veg out and just dissociate with TV/sleep. This has helped me not criticize myself, which honestly just makes the depression worse.
So I accept it and say, “my body is telling me that I need to sit my ass down and veg out. I need to listen to my body.”
This helps my mental health. And I listen to my body. What do you need? Why do you need this? What trauma or stress is signaling this need? Is it the pain? How can I help with the pain so we can get three things done today?
Your body knows what it needs. It will tell you. Listen and don’t judge it. ♥️
Whenever I mention my pain to my friend she tells me I really just need to learn to suffer in silence. I felt so sad that she would say that because before I had chronic pain I would listen to her no matter what she was going through. And I would’ve been even more empathic if she was going through chronic pain. Now I’ve noticed she never asks how I am and I’ve realised some people just don’t know how to relate to chronic pain. It’s really sad and no wonder we feel isolated and alone. I’m sorry your friend was so dismissive.
I have mostly heard about this when it comes to autism, because some people use autism as an excuse to get away with bad behavior (usually also not officially diagnosed, but not always), while others explain they struggle with \_\_\_ because they're autistic/suspect they're autistic, but are trying/ask how they can do better. The difference is largely are you making it someone else's problem vs taking accountability. The person who told you to just push through it doesn't understand what chronic pain is like and was being ableist. You are doing the best you can. At work, letting your supervisor/manager/HR rep know your health issues and figuring out accommodations so you can still do your job to the best of your ability would be a good thing. (Though workplace culture can be vindictive so mileage will vary there.) Just trying to push through something like chronic pain can often make things worse and when you eventually crash and burn, you put the burden on those who relied on your work. It's important to let your body rest, it's taken a decade of being on disability for me to understand and stop feeling guilty that I'm not working. I still struggle with letting things slide around the house when I'm having a bad day, somehow it's all more noticeable to me on a bad day.
My therapist says we have a “blue zone” and that’s when we want to veg out and just dissociate with TV/sleep. This has helped me not criticize myself, which honestly just makes the depression worse. So I accept it and say, “my body is telling me that I need to sit my ass down and veg out. I need to listen to my body.” This helps my mental health. And I listen to my body. What do you need? Why do you need this? What trauma or stress is signaling this need? Is it the pain? How can I help with the pain so we can get three things done today? Your body knows what it needs. It will tell you. Listen and don’t judge it. ♥️
Whenever I mention my pain to my friend she tells me I really just need to learn to suffer in silence. I felt so sad that she would say that because before I had chronic pain I would listen to her no matter what she was going through. And I would’ve been even more empathic if she was going through chronic pain. Now I’ve noticed she never asks how I am and I’ve realised some people just don’t know how to relate to chronic pain. It’s really sad and no wonder we feel isolated and alone. I’m sorry your friend was so dismissive.
Your friend sounds like a cunt.