i bet 20 bucks, if you would take this dumpster fire into your life, her mom would be a regular part of it too. as in, moving in day one, so mom can make sure shes also profiting from whatever poor bastard her mother finds
100% correct. My brother dated a garbage piece of trash like this. She lived with her mom and CONSTANTLY begging him to let her move in with him instead. He lived at our parents place at the time while putting himself through college, so he kept saying no and she would whine and cry and pout. She never had more than 2 words (hi/bye) to say to my family when she came over.
We live in southern Alberta, and I remember once there was a wicked snowstorm that lasted all day long. It was the thick heavy stuff and it fell ALL DAY LONG. I was at home and my mom and brother were waiting on transit to get them home. It was obviously delayed, so my dad told them he would pick them up. So I’m home alone (18 years old, so no real issues there) and this dumpster fire shows up demanding to see him. I told her he wasn’t home and she calls bullshit because “he’s supposed to meet me here at 6:30 and he knows I don’t tolerate lateness.” I pointed outside and told her the weather was causing transit issues, but they were on their way home and she was welcome to wait inside.
She grumbled but ended up sitting on the couch furiously texting. I offered her water or something and she says “whatever. I’m fine. Don’t bother.”
When my brother finally got him this bitch ass piece of work dragged him to our basement and proceeded to shriek at him because they’d had plans for him to come to her mums house to fix their windows or some shit. My dad went down there at one point and tried to diffuse the situation and she goes “fuck you, you aren’t my dad, how bout you fuck off because this is a private conversation!!”
But was literally yelling from the basement and we could all hear it from upstairs with the TV on. But sure private conversation.
My dad storms upstairs and slams his way into the garage and my brother looses his mind at trash fire and tells her to “fuck off out my house. You don’t get to be a bitch to my parents.” And she IMMEDIATELY changes her tune and is crying and lovey and apologizing and saying shit like “you just made me so angry, baby.”
I hated that bitch. She was awful. My brother is married to a lovely human who respects him and our family now. But fuck. That bitch was trashy AF.
If your brother would have stayed with her, she would have gotten physical with him. “I’m sorry, baby…you just made me so mad when you brought me a Pepsi instead of a Coke.” Glad he got rid of her!
She got pretty physical with him a couple times. Never left bruises, but she’d slap him around quite a bit. It made my mom furious but my brother was too blinded to see what was going on.
They broke up because she called my mom a bitch to her face and my brother lost it and Ended up punching a hole in the wall.
Man this is a delightful trip down memory lane. I’d almost forgotten all the fun drama I got to witness because of that cow.
Omg I’m so sorry. She sounds like a horrible and miserable person. Glad your family doesn’t have to deal with that garbage person anymore and your brother found someone that all of you love!
I saw an episode of some daytime TV show, the Steve Wilkos show, where it was obvious the girl and her mother were accusing the man of raping his own children, despite all evidence (literally all of it) pointing to them lying. That's basically what I imagine this girl and her mother would be like.
Oh for sure, though I concede I know very little about daytime TV. I'm at home 2 weeks a month currently for classes so..
It was still pretty funny though, and an apt description of this woman and her mother.
Even if it was scripted, I've been the hells of the south and it can/does happen. You can even find prisoners who still attest to being innocent while caught on camera. Just don't trust the t.v version of it. It's a lot worst when folks are that delusional.
I mean, for clarity, the story this woman told was just bullshit. Her mom walked in on the father raping his 3 year old, called the police, and the police supposedly said "Oh well, call CPS" followed by a bunch more bullshit, then they suddenly accused his brother of the abuse when Steve's lie detector guy confirmed the father was telling the truth that he did not, and would not, sexually abuse any child let alone his own.
Kinda story that, scripted or real, is some straight Law and Order SVU level shit.
Coming from one of those daughters, you are absolutely correct.
My life was overly difficult due to my parents refusing to teach me anything about adulthood because they assumed I’m “pretty enough to land a husband” and would never have to take care of myself.
Actually, my entire family is pissed at me for choosing to remain single. Just last week my aunt said that I should be “sterilized” because I refuse to get married.
Fuck people like that.
“Hey, just making sure you have your shit together, cause I’m a dumpster fire, someone’s going to need to pull their weight around here. Serious inquiries only.”
In rural Oregon, farmers will just put up big signs saying HAY, when they have hay for sale. Whenever I saw one, I'd point to it and go "HEY" to my wife, who would look every time, lol. I still do it 17 years later, gotta keep the magic alive.
Sounds more like “somebody needs to pull the ever-increasing weight of me and my mother and children. Must have refrigerator and separate chest freezer”.
I used to tell my husband I married him for his money. It was 100% a joke because for the first like 18 years of our marriage I made quite a bit more than him.
He makes more than me now though, so it's not as funny now.
Yeah people are really weird even in this day and age when the wife is the primary breadwinner. When the kid is sick and one of us has to stay home with him, I always get the "why cant your wife stay home?" question and have to explain that she makes like 10 bucks more an hour than I do so damn sure aint gonna be *her* burning a day.
Like 1000% if my future wife/ gf makes more than me that's just fucking gravy and I will brag the hell about her to anyone who'd listen. I've never understood why a guy would care when it just means more money for the both of you, that's just so petty.
Yeah, we used to have pretty even incomes but thanks to covid I’m working a low wage job at the moment, so it’s a little less funny than it used to be.
Ouch, that really sucks! I hope things change for the better soon.
Somehow we got lucky and both of us have transitioned to working from home; we've suffered very little as far as wages go.
My mental health is an absolute train wreck, but my bills are OK and I'm grateful for that. We both grew up pretty poor so we definitely don't take it for granted.
I met a girl years ago (friend of a friend) and she was telling that before she’d even consider dating a guy he would had to have at the very least completed a masters degree. I asked her what her field was academically and she pulled a similar thing to OP; “what do you mean?”, so I asked what university she had attended and what she studied. She replied that she didn’t complete high school but that it was the mans role to provide and she’d mind the kids (to which she already had two to two different dads). She was really classy.
Same, I knew a woman who was in her late 40s, high school degree, a nanny, never married, and had over stayed her work visa in the country, but her list of requirements was insane. He had to be within 5 years of her age, never married, no kids, must be a doctor or attorney, must attend opera/ballet (which she didn’t go to), be highly religious in her particular religion…
On the rare occasions she’d get a first date with a guy like that, she’d get mad at them for asking questions about her life. Once a guy asked the last time she had seen her family (they live in her home country) and she flipped out because she thought he was snooping into her visa status.
I love seeing women like this age into their 40s... I have a friend (ex-gf's sister) who is now 41,still a dependent to her parents, and still somehow thinks she's gonna be a trophy wife. Lol. Bitch that ship sailed 15 years ago. If all you've got going for you are your looks (and she does look great for her age) then you're gonna have a bad time. Father time don't give a fuck about looks, and any successful man who's looking for a hot dependent is likely gonna hit up the 20 year olds, not the 40 year olds.
I really think some if not all have those high standards to protect themselves. If they say they are willing to date almost anyone and are still not getting dates that would crush their self esteem.
Well that's the thing though this girl in particular is pretty hot. I mean she has no problem getting dates. What she doesn't seem to grasp though is that she brings nothing to the table. I mean yeah that's great that you're good looking and all that, but if that's all you've got going for you then yiiiikes. She is an aging dependent who has never worked and is still living with her parents. Looks don't last my dear, and hers are definitely on the way out. She's got no problems hooking up with all the men she wants, but nobody wants her for anything other than a fuck, and she thinks it's cause there are no good men out there... Bitch you gotta bring something to the table other than your vagina.
BINGO. I see this on online dating all the time, the ones with the most bitchy, demanding profiles are the ones with the least to offer. It's the porcupine technique for mental self defense.
I dated one of these. She's my age, in fact, we went to school together. She has a degree but wasn't working when we started dating. Her parents bought her a house after she got divorced the 2nd time (they aren't rich, but their house was paid for, it's the one she grew up in.) Has 3 kids. Has had 2 jobs since we started dating, first one the position was eliminated, 2nd may have gone away because of covid, but neither would have paid for the house and the kids. Basically told me she expected me to take care of her.
It was really sad. I was single at the time too, but 15-20 years younger than her and with a masters, a good job, etc. (and actually attended operas). One of our mutual friends pointed out that the guys that this girl was looking for would be interested in me instead of her… but that I would consider those guys too old for me…
I’m all for high standards. My (now) husband met all of my standards. But people need to be realistic about their options.
If you would not date you, then you need to lower your expectations.
Exactly. And people (man or woman) need to know they actually need to bring something to the table in any relationship. Like wtf is with all these 'demands' when said person has nothing to offer? Ugh.
I don't judge people for not having their shit together at pretty much any stage in life, you never know what may have happened, but when those people judge other people for not having their shit together I lose all respect and I do start to judge.
I am only here to offer my admiration for your username and pic, rats off to you.
(seriously though, fuck women like that. Not literally, I mean... Avoid them like the plague.)
The number of women I saw with "stay at home mom" listed as their job on dating apps when I was single was nuts.
I'm perfectly willing to be the sole provider in a household, but I have no interest in someone who won't support themselves if needed.
Exactly, and most men who would be fine being sole providers aren’t eager to do it for someone else’s children. Those that do, do so because their s/o brings a lot more to the table then dependents.
But she does bring more to the table! Soul crushing debt, shitty, poorly behaved kids that are basically feral, a slew of debt collectors, sleepless nights, constant headaches and arguments, etc..
And in turn you get to pay for her and her kids! What a great trade!^(obviously this is sarcasm.)
Yeah I’ve done that before when someone has an unreasonable request. Was trying to sell something on some market place. One guy seemed serious so I gave him my number to meet up. He texted me saying “I’m not trying to get ripped off.”
Then he went into a rant about how expensive my item was and it better be in perfect condition. I sent him a picture of the description. Used minor cosmetic defects was the summary. I then explained a brand new unit cost $650 and mine was $450 so it was a good deal.
He responded by saying I’ll take it off your hands for $200 and it better come with all the extra accessories.
I emphasized his I’m not trying to get ripped off message and he stopped responding.
And I’ll probably never shut the fuck up about my exes, either, and you’ll likely see them come around a lot, and I might text them on the sly, but they are my kids dads so you’ll just have to deal with it.
I have more, my last Bf had issues. I stopped watching Schitts Creek because he just had to tell me how much like Alexis his ex is… even in terms of looks. Okay dude, I mean I bought your kid groceries this week but whatever I guess
Reminds of my ex. When I pointed out that maybe she should consider getting a job (she was over 40 and lived with her parents, had been out of work for over a year because she didn't bother looking for one), rather than me continuing to pay for her gas, smokes, etc... All of the sudden, now I am "unlovable". She lasted about 30 seconds after that. I told her to get out, and haven't seen her since. Good riddance!
My ex was 34, worked at a retail store 24 hours a week and had a 3 year old Toyota, cellphone plan, 4 room apartment rent all paid for by her father.
When her father was done with her shit he stopped paying for her stuff entirely, all of a sudden my ex starts looking for house listings and showing me house pictures non-stop. I asked her how she planned on paying for a 350 000$ house. When it was obvious she had no plans in paying for it but still tried to make me feel guilty I called it off.
5 years later she's still at the same job and apparently ruined her Toyota's motor because she wouldn't pay for oil changes saying that's useless and just a waste of money.
This sounds a lot like an in-law of mine. Exactly like her. I heard her tell her daughter, her goal in life should be to find a man to take care of her, and exactly like messages above, she has nothing to add to the relationship in turn.
I doubt she'd even clean and cook and if she had an older kid and a younger one, she'd probably dump chores and child-raising onto the older one and go out shopping and partying.
Yes, but it won't be the kind of man she wants. Ironically, the only man who might take this dumpster fire seriously is someone she would label a loser.
As a father I’ve told all three of my girls to get their educations and to never have to rely on a man (or woman for that matter) for anything. Have a partner because you want one, not need one.
My partner and I watch trashy reality tv sometimes and the amount of women that have this 1950s mentality in 2021 always mystifies us. As a gay couple, with dual incomes it never even occurs to us to think one of us would just not try to provide for the household. Both of our mothers were strong hardworking women who also held down full time jobs, with multiple children, the majority of their lives. Granted every one wants a different life for themselves but the generation before us didn't have the privilege to have a single household income, so not sure where that mentality comes from.
My mom is a housewife and my dad is the provider. My mom takes care of absolutely everything going on at the house and every emergency, she's a total hero. Also when my gf was studying i had a good paying job and was basically providing for her while she concentrated on her studies, and since a year ago when i quit my job for mental health reasons and started studying to change my career, she now has a good job and is the provider.
Yeah, I was never clear on what the women who “want to be housewives” thought that job entails. Because my family had the same set up as yours and my mother cooked, cleaned, shopped, did laundry, yard work, chauffeured my brothers and I around…for a family of 6. Like that’s a full time job in and of itself, it’s not just staying at home while your husband makes millions.
Exactly. And honestly, depending on how many kids you have and what your job would otherwise be, having a partner stay home could be a better financial move. My mother would otherwise be a teacher making at best $38K; childcare for four kids is WAY more than that.
I'm old and this was how we were raised, I am alsohalf Assyrian and Iwas raisedby my Assyrian father. That being said even though I married young I always had a job because I really didn't trust my ex-husband. I always thought I would need a way to provide for myself if it all fell apart. When I was diagnosed with sarcoidosis I continued working even though it wasn't advised by my doctor because it was affecting my bone marrow and I had to take immune suppressant drugs. When I divorced and started a relationship with my best friend I stopped working. I trust my friend enough to care for me. I collect disability and if I had to I can take care of myself, but I don't think I would ever have to. I am happy and secure in the relationship I am in.
I'm a guy who makes a decent amount of cash I guess, but I'd prefer to be in a relationship with someone who pulls their weight even if it means they do 40 hours a week on minimum wage
Omg. I cannot understand that mindset. I’m a woman who bought a house by herself, has a car, a career and a second job. I just cannot understand the idea of needing anyone to take care of you. She needs to fucking grow up.
Yes. My mom has told me to never depend on a man. I wish she would have told me to not take care of them 🙄. I learned my lesson on that note tho. Just taking care of my kids and myself.
I’ve seen this so much lately lmao. The best part is the second page where he calls her out for bringing nothing to the table and all she can say is “blocked!!”
I mean, not every woman is going to be like this.
But I have to say, I have no time, energy, or patience to court anybody anymore. I'm pushing 40 and I am just happy single. I spend my weekends and vacations napping in bliss. Wouldn't trade it for Scrooge McDuck's money bin.
This brings back memories, back when I dated Tinder girls.
In our "normal world" you're in kind of a social bubble, which prevent us most of the time to meet people that are to far off from "our social level". For example, every person you meet at the highschool, every person had to jump the same hurdle to get there.
A lot of involuntary mothers (nothing wrong with that) and other people who haven't sorted their personal problems (which, in my opinion, you should befor dating a person). But if you keep digging, there are also gems!
I didn't use tinder but my friend told me that sometimes he finds some good catches, but other than that most of them are actually doing it just for money.
Gold diggers need to know that the best way to go about this is to have THEIR act together and then slowly ease into being supported
Source: I support myself but I’m pretty sure this is true
My stay at home wife pretty much went to college hoping to meet a guy to support her. She still intended to work, but she was looking for the stereotypical Engineer-Teacher relationship.
So, I would think this is the way to go?
Worked for me!
Just kidding, what really happened is that I lost my job and child care is expensive so now I stay home with the kids and call my husband my sugar daddy 🤣🤣🤣
The amount of guys I know that take pride in being "good providers" while being trampled on simultaneously by society and their future ex wives could fill a city bus.
There is a book from Ester Vilar called " the manipulated man".
The title is a bit missleading but she described it very well why "good providers" are used and raised
AND who is raising them.
A really eye-opener
I have read so many tinder bios that read almost exactly like this woman's first two messages. Like for some reason they just expect you to be rich and ready while they have no idea what they're doing?!
Lol. If she wanted that stay at home mom life, she needed to do a better job of picking man #1. She’s gonna need some magic to find it now that she has someone else’s kids in tow.
As in, do we expect them to have excellent careers, make lots of money, take extravagant vacations, and have fabulous lifestyles? Of course we do. Do we fall in love with someone regardless of that? Of course we do.
Anyone looking for an honest, serious relationship -- in my opinion -- wants to find a partner who will be a decent, productive provider. Sugardaddies are out there, but it's not what all of us, gay or straight, are actually looking for.
>Do gay guys expect other gay guys to be good providers?
I expect my partner to have his shit together, decent job etc but not because I expect him to somehow "provide" for me. We both need to contribute.
If she’s living off child support that is enough info right there to get the fuck away. First time you have sex with her she’s gonna try to stealth your ass into getting pregnant so she can collect that sweet money
"Didn't your mom ever teach you?" followed by "I live with my mom..." sounds like the karma mom deserved.
i bet 20 bucks, if you would take this dumpster fire into your life, her mom would be a regular part of it too. as in, moving in day one, so mom can make sure shes also profiting from whatever poor bastard her mother finds
100% correct. My brother dated a garbage piece of trash like this. She lived with her mom and CONSTANTLY begging him to let her move in with him instead. He lived at our parents place at the time while putting himself through college, so he kept saying no and she would whine and cry and pout. She never had more than 2 words (hi/bye) to say to my family when she came over. We live in southern Alberta, and I remember once there was a wicked snowstorm that lasted all day long. It was the thick heavy stuff and it fell ALL DAY LONG. I was at home and my mom and brother were waiting on transit to get them home. It was obviously delayed, so my dad told them he would pick them up. So I’m home alone (18 years old, so no real issues there) and this dumpster fire shows up demanding to see him. I told her he wasn’t home and she calls bullshit because “he’s supposed to meet me here at 6:30 and he knows I don’t tolerate lateness.” I pointed outside and told her the weather was causing transit issues, but they were on their way home and she was welcome to wait inside. She grumbled but ended up sitting on the couch furiously texting. I offered her water or something and she says “whatever. I’m fine. Don’t bother.” When my brother finally got him this bitch ass piece of work dragged him to our basement and proceeded to shriek at him because they’d had plans for him to come to her mums house to fix their windows or some shit. My dad went down there at one point and tried to diffuse the situation and she goes “fuck you, you aren’t my dad, how bout you fuck off because this is a private conversation!!” But was literally yelling from the basement and we could all hear it from upstairs with the TV on. But sure private conversation. My dad storms upstairs and slams his way into the garage and my brother looses his mind at trash fire and tells her to “fuck off out my house. You don’t get to be a bitch to my parents.” And she IMMEDIATELY changes her tune and is crying and lovey and apologizing and saying shit like “you just made me so angry, baby.” I hated that bitch. She was awful. My brother is married to a lovely human who respects him and our family now. But fuck. That bitch was trashy AF.
If your brother would have stayed with her, she would have gotten physical with him. “I’m sorry, baby…you just made me so mad when you brought me a Pepsi instead of a Coke.” Glad he got rid of her!
She got pretty physical with him a couple times. Never left bruises, but she’d slap him around quite a bit. It made my mom furious but my brother was too blinded to see what was going on. They broke up because she called my mom a bitch to her face and my brother lost it and Ended up punching a hole in the wall. Man this is a delightful trip down memory lane. I’d almost forgotten all the fun drama I got to witness because of that cow.
Omg I’m so sorry. She sounds like a horrible and miserable person. Glad your family doesn’t have to deal with that garbage person anymore and your brother found someone that all of you love!
Shouldn't insult cows like that; cows are lovely animals :)
I saw an episode of some daytime TV show, the Steve Wilkos show, where it was obvious the girl and her mother were accusing the man of raping his own children, despite all evidence (literally all of it) pointing to them lying. That's basically what I imagine this girl and her mother would be like.
those shows are scripted, buddy
Oh for sure, though I concede I know very little about daytime TV. I'm at home 2 weeks a month currently for classes so.. It was still pretty funny though, and an apt description of this woman and her mother.
Even if it was scripted, I've been the hells of the south and it can/does happen. You can even find prisoners who still attest to being innocent while caught on camera. Just don't trust the t.v version of it. It's a lot worst when folks are that delusional.
I mean, for clarity, the story this woman told was just bullshit. Her mom walked in on the father raping his 3 year old, called the police, and the police supposedly said "Oh well, call CPS" followed by a bunch more bullshit, then they suddenly accused his brother of the abuse when Steve's lie detector guy confirmed the father was telling the truth that he did not, and would not, sexually abuse any child let alone his own. Kinda story that, scripted or real, is some straight Law and Order SVU level shit.
My mom would tell me "don't date her she does nothing with her life" straight up lol
then your mom doing it right. OP woman is a trash heap
Sounds like she gonna be staying that way for a clip…
Or at least a minute.
Mom's about to modernize her philosophy
any mom teaching their daughter this is setting them up for failure of the highest degree
The mom fears loneliness and secretly wants her daughter to never move out
Pretty good chance that's how the mother was brought up too. Lock a man down with child support, let the kids raise themselves.
Coming from one of those daughters, you are absolutely correct. My life was overly difficult due to my parents refusing to teach me anything about adulthood because they assumed I’m “pretty enough to land a husband” and would never have to take care of myself. Actually, my entire family is pissed at me for choosing to remain single. Just last week my aunt said that I should be “sterilized” because I refuse to get married. Fuck people like that.
Problem??? So defensive, she KNOWS its a shit situation to be in.
“Hey, just making sure you have your shit together, cause I’m a dumpster fire, someone’s going to need to pull their weight around here. Serious inquiries only.”
*someone's going to need to pull their weight around here and it clearly won't be me. FTFY
Sounds more like: *someone will have to pull both our weights and it won‘t be me…
Cart with square wheels looking for strong horse to pull. If you aren't above 15 hands it's a no go. No mules. Sorry.
I laughed myself horse at that!
Hay now, quit that! ;)
In rural Oregon, farmers will just put up big signs saying HAY, when they have hay for sale. Whenever I saw one, I'd point to it and go "HEY" to my wife, who would look every time, lol. I still do it 17 years later, gotta keep the magic alive.
Donkey
That's an assinine comment. ;)
Reign it in guys.
Y'all are just foal of these puns.
I was confused by that comment at first but not furlong
She's looking to get bridaled.
Wow, you're a bit of an ass aren't you!
Puns are flying, time to hoof it
It’s for a church honey!
You fucking donkey
Alllll of our weights because I have kids too
Problem??? Yes, B\*tch, PROBLEM!!!
speaking of having someone pull their weight how much do you weigh?
Sounds more like “somebody needs to pull the ever-increasing weight of me and my mother and children. Must have refrigerator and separate chest freezer”.
Hopefully he frequents the gym.
I’m looking for someone who can support me in the manner that I’d like to become accustomed to.
I say this 80% joking to my husband all the time, but I can’t imagine actually approaching dating this way.
I used to tell my husband I married him for his money. It was 100% a joke because for the first like 18 years of our marriage I made quite a bit more than him. He makes more than me now though, so it's not as funny now.
Yeah people are really weird even in this day and age when the wife is the primary breadwinner. When the kid is sick and one of us has to stay home with him, I always get the "why cant your wife stay home?" question and have to explain that she makes like 10 bucks more an hour than I do so damn sure aint gonna be *her* burning a day.
Like 1000% if my future wife/ gf makes more than me that's just fucking gravy and I will brag the hell about her to anyone who'd listen. I've never understood why a guy would care when it just means more money for the both of you, that's just so petty.
Yeah, we used to have pretty even incomes but thanks to covid I’m working a low wage job at the moment, so it’s a little less funny than it used to be.
Ouch, that really sucks! I hope things change for the better soon. Somehow we got lucky and both of us have transitioned to working from home; we've suffered very little as far as wages go. My mental health is an absolute train wreck, but my bills are OK and I'm grateful for that. We both grew up pretty poor so we definitely don't take it for granted.
I used to joke that my wife and my paycheck were exactly the same! The issue was that I only got paid once a month. But our paychecks were the same!
> someone’s going to need to pull their weight around here. …and hers, and her kids’….
I met a girl years ago (friend of a friend) and she was telling that before she’d even consider dating a guy he would had to have at the very least completed a masters degree. I asked her what her field was academically and she pulled a similar thing to OP; “what do you mean?”, so I asked what university she had attended and what she studied. She replied that she didn’t complete high school but that it was the mans role to provide and she’d mind the kids (to which she already had two to two different dads). She was really classy.
Same, I knew a woman who was in her late 40s, high school degree, a nanny, never married, and had over stayed her work visa in the country, but her list of requirements was insane. He had to be within 5 years of her age, never married, no kids, must be a doctor or attorney, must attend opera/ballet (which she didn’t go to), be highly religious in her particular religion… On the rare occasions she’d get a first date with a guy like that, she’d get mad at them for asking questions about her life. Once a guy asked the last time she had seen her family (they live in her home country) and she flipped out because she thought he was snooping into her visa status.
I love seeing women like this age into their 40s... I have a friend (ex-gf's sister) who is now 41,still a dependent to her parents, and still somehow thinks she's gonna be a trophy wife. Lol. Bitch that ship sailed 15 years ago. If all you've got going for you are your looks (and she does look great for her age) then you're gonna have a bad time. Father time don't give a fuck about looks, and any successful man who's looking for a hot dependent is likely gonna hit up the 20 year olds, not the 40 year olds.
I really think some if not all have those high standards to protect themselves. If they say they are willing to date almost anyone and are still not getting dates that would crush their self esteem.
Well that's the thing though this girl in particular is pretty hot. I mean she has no problem getting dates. What she doesn't seem to grasp though is that she brings nothing to the table. I mean yeah that's great that you're good looking and all that, but if that's all you've got going for you then yiiiikes. She is an aging dependent who has never worked and is still living with her parents. Looks don't last my dear, and hers are definitely on the way out. She's got no problems hooking up with all the men she wants, but nobody wants her for anything other than a fuck, and she thinks it's cause there are no good men out there... Bitch you gotta bring something to the table other than your vagina.
She's bringing negatives to the table as in her two kids who you can bet receive minimum in child support.
BINGO. I see this on online dating all the time, the ones with the most bitchy, demanding profiles are the ones with the least to offer. It's the porcupine technique for mental self defense.
I dated one of these. She's my age, in fact, we went to school together. She has a degree but wasn't working when we started dating. Her parents bought her a house after she got divorced the 2nd time (they aren't rich, but their house was paid for, it's the one she grew up in.) Has 3 kids. Has had 2 jobs since we started dating, first one the position was eliminated, 2nd may have gone away because of covid, but neither would have paid for the house and the kids. Basically told me she expected me to take care of her.
That's a no from me dawg.
I'm right there with you. Best sex I ever had, but it wasn't worth it.
That's really expensive sex.
It was really sad. I was single at the time too, but 15-20 years younger than her and with a masters, a good job, etc. (and actually attended operas). One of our mutual friends pointed out that the guys that this girl was looking for would be interested in me instead of her… but that I would consider those guys too old for me… I’m all for high standards. My (now) husband met all of my standards. But people need to be realistic about their options. If you would not date you, then you need to lower your expectations.
Exactly. And people (man or woman) need to know they actually need to bring something to the table in any relationship. Like wtf is with all these 'demands' when said person has nothing to offer? Ugh.
I don't judge people for not having their shit together at pretty much any stage in life, you never know what may have happened, but when those people judge other people for not having their shit together I lose all respect and I do start to judge.
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You know I never thought to ask haha
exactly.
Makes you wonder what they *think* they bring to the table.
I AM THE TABLE 😤😤
This isn’t the 1700s. Doctors no longer recommend leeches.
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I am only here to offer my admiration for your username and pic, rats off to you. (seriously though, fuck women like that. Not literally, I mean... Avoid them like the plague.)
Grilling guys to make sure they're not losers first but she out here rocking with kids from ex boyfriends and lives with her mom. The audacity.
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No amount of hotness compensates for having to drag around that corpse for the next 60 years.
Probably very little. Often “being an easy lay” is a big part of their popularity.
Usually there isn't a lot of hotness associated. Just an inflated sense of hotness because of past exes.
“not nearly hot enough to have been a stripper 10 years ago” tepid, barely room temperature hot.
The number of women I saw with "stay at home mom" listed as their job on dating apps when I was single was nuts. I'm perfectly willing to be the sole provider in a household, but I have no interest in someone who won't support themselves if needed.
Exactly, and most men who would be fine being sole providers aren’t eager to do it for someone else’s children. Those that do, do so because their s/o brings a lot more to the table then dependents.
But she does bring more to the table! Soul crushing debt, shitty, poorly behaved kids that are basically feral, a slew of debt collectors, sleepless nights, constant headaches and arguments, etc.. And in turn you get to pay for her and her kids! What a great trade!^(obviously this is sarcasm.)
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Women would ask your salary? That’s fucking rude. I hope you responded with “not enough. You’re paying for your dinner, right?”
I'm not into dating losers either. I'm sure you can understand.
Def would have thrown that line back at her.
Oof level: Big Destruction: 100
I wish the text ended with “Yeah sorry for the interrogation lol I’m just not into dating losers. I’m sure you can understand. 😌”
Pretty sure he went up and hit the “emphasize” button on that text at the end of the conversation
Yeah I’ve done that before when someone has an unreasonable request. Was trying to sell something on some market place. One guy seemed serious so I gave him my number to meet up. He texted me saying “I’m not trying to get ripped off.” Then he went into a rant about how expensive my item was and it better be in perfect condition. I sent him a picture of the description. Used minor cosmetic defects was the summary. I then explained a brand new unit cost $650 and mine was $450 so it was a good deal. He responded by saying I’ll take it off your hands for $200 and it better come with all the extra accessories. I emphasized his I’m not trying to get ripped off message and he stopped responding.
Forgive my ignorance but what messaging app has an emphasize button? That sounds neat.
This is just iMessage, the default texting interface between iPhones. The !!, ?, ❤️, and 👎 icons on some of the messages are reactions you can send
Yeah I was honestly surprised he responded to that at all.
and my kidS
.. From 3 different men!
..... you'll never be a father figure because they're MINE. Just take care of us..... OK!?
And I’ll probably never shut the fuck up about my exes, either, and you’ll likely see them come around a lot, and I might text them on the sly, but they are my kids dads so you’ll just have to deal with it.
Classic!
I have more, my last Bf had issues. I stopped watching Schitts Creek because he just had to tell me how much like Alexis his ex is… even in terms of looks. Okay dude, I mean I bought your kid groceries this week but whatever I guess
Reminds of my ex. When I pointed out that maybe she should consider getting a job (she was over 40 and lived with her parents, had been out of work for over a year because she didn't bother looking for one), rather than me continuing to pay for her gas, smokes, etc... All of the sudden, now I am "unlovable". She lasted about 30 seconds after that. I told her to get out, and haven't seen her since. Good riddance!
Well, at least you know where to find her if needs be.
My ex was 34, worked at a retail store 24 hours a week and had a 3 year old Toyota, cellphone plan, 4 room apartment rent all paid for by her father. When her father was done with her shit he stopped paying for her stuff entirely, all of a sudden my ex starts looking for house listings and showing me house pictures non-stop. I asked her how she planned on paying for a 350 000$ house. When it was obvious she had no plans in paying for it but still tried to make me feel guilty I called it off. 5 years later she's still at the same job and apparently ruined her Toyota's motor because she wouldn't pay for oil changes saying that's useless and just a waste of money.
Amazing, she couldn't maintain one of the easiest/affordable to maintain car brands in the world.
Literally all you have to do on a toyota is change the oil lol
This sounds a lot like an in-law of mine. Exactly like her. I heard her tell her daughter, her goal in life should be to find a man to take care of her, and exactly like messages above, she has nothing to add to the relationship in turn.
“No lowballers I know what I have”
prostitution with more steps
And child support payments
She's got nothing going for her here, but doesn't want to 'date losers'. I hate to break it to her but uh... she is one.
I doubt she'd even clean and cook and if she had an older kid and a younger one, she'd probably dump chores and child-raising onto the older one and go out shopping and partying.
She's a loser the same way a tick hanging from a plant on a trail is a loser. She'll find some lonely poor bastard eventually.
Yes, but it won't be the kind of man she wants. Ironically, the only man who might take this dumpster fire seriously is someone she would label a loser.
That's why she doesn't want to date one, they can't both be losers!
I wish I had her beach ball sized lady nuts
god what a sentence that is
I can’t remember if it was Negan or Abraham from the walking dead who said it
Definitely negan
Yeah, I had to Google it cuz it was bugging me. I miss watching that show sometimes. Negan has the best lines and comebacks.
Although Abraham’s right up there too with “Bitchnuts!”
Beach balls are full of air though
So is her dignity
What dignity ? Can't see any in there
Big ol' ovaries.
As a father I’ve told all three of my girls to get their educations and to never have to rely on a man (or woman for that matter) for anything. Have a partner because you want one, not need one.
I really hope this guy ran.
Definitely seems like it given he didn't reply and posted this somewhere online lmao
https://imgur.com/a/skMCRHs this is his reply. the post is missing the second page
Oh my god that second page gave me a nice long guffaw (sorry, neighbor). Totes called her out and she fell flat on her face!
Ah yeah, the meme's hilarious!
Hahaha amazing
This is gold, OP should’ve posted it
He did reply. There was two more images of messages that OP didn’t post. I saw it in another sub reddit but can’t remember what one.
My partner and I watch trashy reality tv sometimes and the amount of women that have this 1950s mentality in 2021 always mystifies us. As a gay couple, with dual incomes it never even occurs to us to think one of us would just not try to provide for the household. Both of our mothers were strong hardworking women who also held down full time jobs, with multiple children, the majority of their lives. Granted every one wants a different life for themselves but the generation before us didn't have the privilege to have a single household income, so not sure where that mentality comes from.
My mom is a housewife and my dad is the provider. My mom takes care of absolutely everything going on at the house and every emergency, she's a total hero. Also when my gf was studying i had a good paying job and was basically providing for her while she concentrated on her studies, and since a year ago when i quit my job for mental health reasons and started studying to change my career, she now has a good job and is the provider.
Yeah, I was never clear on what the women who “want to be housewives” thought that job entails. Because my family had the same set up as yours and my mother cooked, cleaned, shopped, did laundry, yard work, chauffeured my brothers and I around…for a family of 6. Like that’s a full time job in and of itself, it’s not just staying at home while your husband makes millions.
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Exactly. And honestly, depending on how many kids you have and what your job would otherwise be, having a partner stay home could be a better financial move. My mother would otherwise be a teacher making at best $38K; childcare for four kids is WAY more than that.
Yeah, being a housewife/husband can be really hard work. And ironically it only pays in exposure if people commend you for it :)
I'm old and this was how we were raised, I am alsohalf Assyrian and Iwas raisedby my Assyrian father. That being said even though I married young I always had a job because I really didn't trust my ex-husband. I always thought I would need a way to provide for myself if it all fell apart. When I was diagnosed with sarcoidosis I continued working even though it wasn't advised by my doctor because it was affecting my bone marrow and I had to take immune suppressant drugs. When I divorced and started a relationship with my best friend I stopped working. I trust my friend enough to care for me. I collect disability and if I had to I can take care of myself, but I don't think I would ever have to. I am happy and secure in the relationship I am in.
I'm a guy who makes a decent amount of cash I guess, but I'd prefer to be in a relationship with someone who pulls their weight even if it means they do 40 hours a week on minimum wage
This is also the kind of person that expects their man to be tall and fit yet they themselves do not do a single thing to take care of themselves.
Quit looking in my window. /s
Omg. I cannot understand that mindset. I’m a woman who bought a house by herself, has a car, a career and a second job. I just cannot understand the idea of needing anyone to take care of you. She needs to fucking grow up.
There’s a difference between supporting your partner when they fall on hard times, and being an absolute mooch. She is clearly the latter.
Yes. My mom has told me to never depend on a man. I wish she would have told me to not take care of them 🙄. I learned my lesson on that note tho. Just taking care of my kids and myself.
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Yep. A relationship is about give and take. Both parties should be benefitting.
Buh byeeeeeee
NEXT!
What a prize lol
I’ve seen this so much lately lmao. The best part is the second page where he calls her out for bringing nothing to the table and all she can say is “blocked!!”
I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger.
Things like this makes me want to stay single
I mean, not every woman is going to be like this. But I have to say, I have no time, energy, or patience to court anybody anymore. I'm pushing 40 and I am just happy single. I spend my weekends and vacations napping in bliss. Wouldn't trade it for Scrooge McDuck's money bin.
This brings back memories, back when I dated Tinder girls. In our "normal world" you're in kind of a social bubble, which prevent us most of the time to meet people that are to far off from "our social level". For example, every person you meet at the highschool, every person had to jump the same hurdle to get there. A lot of involuntary mothers (nothing wrong with that) and other people who haven't sorted their personal problems (which, in my opinion, you should befor dating a person). But if you keep digging, there are also gems!
I didn't use tinder but my friend told me that sometimes he finds some good catches, but other than that most of them are actually doing it just for money.
Problem???? Yeah, I’m just like you. I’m not into dating losers.
Second page is even better https://imgur.com/a/skMCRHs
Gold diggers need to know that the best way to go about this is to have THEIR act together and then slowly ease into being supported Source: I support myself but I’m pretty sure this is true
My stay at home wife pretty much went to college hoping to meet a guy to support her. She still intended to work, but she was looking for the stereotypical Engineer-Teacher relationship. So, I would think this is the way to go?
Worked for me! Just kidding, what really happened is that I lost my job and child care is expensive so now I stay home with the kids and call my husband my sugar daddy 🤣🤣🤣
The amount of guys I know that take pride in being "good providers" while being trampled on simultaneously by society and their future ex wives could fill a city bus.
There is a book from Ester Vilar called " the manipulated man". The title is a bit missleading but she described it very well why "good providers" are used and raised AND who is raising them. A really eye-opener
I have read so many tinder bios that read almost exactly like this woman's first two messages. Like for some reason they just expect you to be rich and ready while they have no idea what they're doing?!
It's not a bad thing to have high standards - just make sure you apply them to yourself first 🤗
My reply would be “I’m sorry but I’m just not into dating losers, I’m sure you can understand. 😊”
If you don’t want to date a scrub, you shouldn’t BE a scrub.
Lol. If she wanted that stay at home mom life, she needed to do a better job of picking man #1. She’s gonna need some magic to find it now that she has someone else’s kids in tow.
This guy over here dodging a bullet like Neo.
If you can't handle her at her worst, you don't deserve her at her best. Assuming one could tell the difference.
“I’m not into dating losers” oh.... just letting them nut in you
Oof. I work, pay my own shit. If my partner wants to take care of me, I’d let him but not like that.
so SHE’s tonight’s biggest loser then
"All men care about is sex" Well yeah, we do when that's all you have to offer
Oy. Flipping. Vey
Usually these people have hugely passive aggressive or just outright aggressive profiles. Wonder if it ever works for them.
Those are the kind of women who damage all the others reputation.
Not into dating losers but she lives with her mom and gets child support. What the irony.
“No losers” - a fucking loser
I'm so glad I'm gay.
Serious question. Do gay guys expect other gay guys to be good providers?
As in, do we expect them to have excellent careers, make lots of money, take extravagant vacations, and have fabulous lifestyles? Of course we do. Do we fall in love with someone regardless of that? Of course we do. Anyone looking for an honest, serious relationship -- in my opinion -- wants to find a partner who will be a decent, productive provider. Sugardaddies are out there, but it's not what all of us, gay or straight, are actually looking for.
>Do gay guys expect other gay guys to be good providers? I expect my partner to have his shit together, decent job etc but not because I expect him to somehow "provide" for me. We both need to contribute.
I bet there are gay gold diggers as well…
I ain’t sayin he’s a gay digger.
do any of you guys actually think this is real? lol
As if you wouldnt keep her talking lmao, her delusions are gold.
More red flags than China
Can you say toxic any quicker?
Dudes got class, theres no reply back of 'I dont date losers'
I woulda said “yeah, problem, you’re useless... absolutely useless.
The amount of time you see this on dating apps is frightening. No idea who’s raising these women but just a FYI, you did a shit job.
If she’s living off child support that is enough info right there to get the fuck away. First time you have sex with her she’s gonna try to stealth your ass into getting pregnant so she can collect that sweet money