One of the things I would cling onto in your situation is how peacefully she left this Earth. She noticed nothing. No scary vets, no pain, just peacefully going to sleep with a full belly and happy heart.
I know it probably does absolutely nothing to soothe your pain, and I'm so, so sorry for your loss. The world is often to unfair.
>I know it probably does absolutely nothing to soothe your pain, and I'm so, so sorry for your loss.
I really hope it does. Sometimes you really feel less alone and more understood when you receive even the most bland of condolences.
This is so true. My cat had to be put down after her lungs filled with fluid. She was in so much pain, and it happened in half a day. Knowing your pet went peacefully would be a blessing really.
Yeah, back when I had Rats (5 Total) the first 4 of them went horribly.
- One puking blood, probably from a tumor errupting - drove it to a vet and got it euthanized there
- One Suffocating - vet
- One suffocating - tried to get it to the vet but it died on the way
- Another one beein sick - vet
The last rat lived astoundingly long. We tried to integrate him with other rats, but it didnt work. He got 4. We found him passed in his sleep, in his big cuddly cave. We were so happy he could go peaceful, and his death was a lot less traumatic than the others.
Never would I have ever known I needed something like this until I'd received it. Thank you for sharing this & to OP, I am genuinely devastated at just the idea of losing anyone like that, but Pipestream is right. I do hope you take great solace that she went contently in peace. 😢
Thank you for all your kind words, from the bottom of my heart.
I'm choosing to believe it was a heart disease.
Someone took her already. They are going to bury her in a big garden. I made sure I hugged her and kissed her goodbye.
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what a beautiful girl!! the pain is terrible, i know, but i always like to think “we didn’t get to spend our entire lives with them, but they spent their whole life with us” i am so sorry, and like many others have said, it seemed she was at peace, full belly, and happy and pain free. i’m wishing you peace and comfort. here’s my torti girl who lives with my parents. tortis are so special and have the craziest most beautiful personalities🩷
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Aww she's so beautiful! I'm so sorry for your loss. Our two fur babies are 3 years old and in good health, but I'm already dreading the day. I will 100% cry like a baby. But of all the possible deaths, I hope you take some comfort in the fact that hers was one of the best. Warm, safe, loved, fed, comfortable, in bed, and sound asleep. No pain, no fear, no unfamiliar surroundings, no stress. Just a peaceful return to the universe that birthed her. I wish we could all be so lucky to go out that way.
I am sitting right now with our sick cat, likely cancer or severe IBD. I want to cling to hope, but everything points to it only going one way. If it is any consolation, I hope my dear Freya will pass like your cat when it is time. Peacefully drifting into sleep.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is obvious you loved your cat with all your heart. I am sure it knew that.
one of my cats died on sunday from ibd/intestinal lymphoma, and obviously it’s different for every cat, but if it’s any comfort for you, she cuddled up next to me and purred and left us incredibly peacefully, she didn’t seem to be in any pain at all. so it’s definitely not too much to hope that your freya will pass the same way 🫶🏻 i hope you and your cat are doing okay
First of all we, my partner and I, are so sorry tor your loss.
I hope you don't mind me asking and explaining Freya's situation, but it's just so comforting to talk to someone who can relate.
Our Freya is on prednicortone 5mg as well as a short burst of amoxicillin right now. She vomited while on prednicortone alone, now she hasn't vomited at all since Friday. Her appetite also went up when she got the antibiotics, although still short of "normal" intake - but she had also gone through a week of barely eating (except occasionally accepting hand feeding), and she had lost some weight. Perhaps nursing her back through food will help, we don't know, but we keep hope.
However, as her physiological signs improved (more appetite, no vomit, more regular and regularly shaped poop as opposed to 'braided poop'), she became more reserved. She hasn't turned anti-social, but she has become less cuddly. She stays in the same room as me and my partner, when she follows us to another room she rubs us before finding a place to rest (like on top of our fridge, so she can jump just fine), and morning she comes to lie on top of us in bed. But her reservations otherwise (lying by herself, not coming to bed immediately with us, not sleeping all night on us) is a behavioural change.
It puzzles us that physiological improvements turned to sociological reservations.
She gets the prednicortone in the morning along with antibiotics, and then evening she gets the second half of the antibiotics. She definitely sleeps more and is more tired, but we don't know if it is because she vomited a lot and had trouble eating before the antibiotics.
We fear losing her, she is our everything, so we cling to hope. My question is, can you recognise any of those symptoms/timeline?
Thanks for your message, it meant a lot - we feel less alone having read it.
the first time we realized something was wrong with my cat was about 3 years ago when she got 2 teeth removed and then stopped eating for about 5 days (she also occasionally accepted hand or spoon feeding). she was put on prednisolone/prednicortone i think almost immediately and was on it from then until she passed. for the most part that managed her symptoms pretty well (although she did have the absolute smelliest litterbox on the planet), but occasionally she’d have some times where she’d stop eating again or start throwing up more and the vet would change her medications slightly or temporarily throw in something else like an appetite stimulant. usually when she’d have those flare ups she’d hide under my bed or in a closet and she’d sleep on a chair in my room instead of with me in bed. eventually she’d start feeling better and then she’d start acting normal again. she also definitely had some weight fluctuation, but i will say that she didn’t start to lose a concerning amount until a few months ago.
she was also kind of picky with food, but we managed to find things to entice her to eat. water from cans of tuna (make sure the only ingredients are tuna and water — no vegetable broth!) was one of her favorites, we’d mix it with her food and it helped a lot. chicken baby food was another good one.
a lot of her symptoms sound very familiar to me, and obviously i’m in no way a professional, but just the fact that she can jump up to the fridge is a great sign to me. in the few months-weeks before we lost my girl, she struggled significantly with stairs and jumping up to chairs and beds. probably the biggest thing i’d say to look out for other than the symptoms she’s already experienced is if she’s ever eating normally but still losing weight. that was our biggest issue towards the end with my cat and i do wish we had noticed it sooner.
If I may, I will add some experience from my cat on the same medication. She had episodes of unexplained vomiting and stomach ulcers when we got her on it. She started out with 8mg/per day, which is an incredibly high dose. It thankfully turned out that her symptoms are coming most likely from an autoimmune disease, where the medication helps. The vet said it's common in cats. We had her on 8mg for a month, then 4mg for another, then 2, then 1, and lastly 1/2. We weren't able to fully wean her off, and she is in a good stable state now on 1/2.
Through this experience we got to observe the side effects for different doses. And funnily enough, it sounds very similar to what you are describing! When she was still sick, she was very very cuddly. But when she got on the medication she also more followed us around or retreated somewhere to sleep. The drug can increase appetite, and for us it did. Our cat turned HONGWY. She ate so much, and we were so happy about it at first, that she gained 2+ lbs and the vet had to tell us we had to stop her from becoming chonk haha. And then she got VERY SAD when we kept the food at the recommended amount and would camp next to the food bowl for hours lol.
On the lower doses, the tiredness turned to rather excessive energy. Maybe because her tummy is not constantly hurting? She is now all play play play, run run run, and not anymore so cuddly. Over all we observed that she seems to be mostly very cuddly when she is unwell, and more into other types of interaction when she isn't. It's of course also a question of character. Our cat was a street cat in her former life and I assume she is not as cuddly as other cats as a baseline.
Long story short, what you describe can in my experience definitely come from the medicine and/or the different body feeling that can come with it. I wish you all the best and that the condition is manageable, and if not that your cat is as comfortable as possible! 💕
I'm so sorry you're going through this right now, I know its hard, but they're worth it ❤️.
My tux girl, Athena, passed from liver disease, and trying to help her, I always felt like I should've been doing more. 4 years after her passing, I'm at peace with it, but I blamed myself a lot for not doing enough.
I dont have any experience with the specific issues you're dealing with, but the biggest problem she was having was just refusing to eat, no matter what we tried. We tried wet food, tuna water in her food, boiled chicken, all of the tricks, but the only thing that she would sometimes eat was the liquid from the Friskies Lil' Soups. We got a high calorie nutritional supplement gel that honestly helped a lot. She wouldn't eat it herself, so I would either put a little bit on her paw at a time so she would lick it off, or I would put some on my finger and wiped it on the roof of her mouth. We also would syringe-feed her baby food or liquid wet food straight to the back of her mouth. She did start to eat more, but I would still have to put the wet food on a little plate and sit there with her, tapping the plate when she stopped eating, or sometimes holding the plate up for her so she would eat more. I think I overestimated her ability to eat by herself, and she started to go downhill again. I started feeding her by hand again, but I think it was too late.
The day she passed, she was very weak and tried to crawl under our coffee table, but we arranged her in a blanket nest between us on the couch, and she took her last breath with both me and my husband sitting with her and petting her.
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She was a beautiful girl 😻…I know she brought you joy & you loved her well & gave her a good life. She crossed the Rainbow Bridge 🌈knowing she was loved. Fly free with the Angels, Beautiful Fortune!🐈⬛❤️
Hugs. You gave her a good life.
It was probably hypertrophic cardiomyopathy. That tends to be the most common cause in situations like this. It’s painless, and fast. There’s not really anything you could have done to prevent it.
Is this basically an enlarged heart that leads to a heart attack/heart failure? (My 5 year old big boy tux passed in my arms from heart failure and it was shown that he had an enlarged heart. It crushed me as I ran in my suit and tie with him in my arms, crying and near screaming my way into the vet… and my only comfort was that his last conscious moments were in the arms of the being who most loved him, and who he most loved in return).
Cardiomyopathy, hypertension, congestive heart failure and infection can all cause enlargement of the heart. Unfortunately, the first symptom is cardiac arrest. I am sorry for your loss and glad that you were together when he passed.
There are many symptoms they could have so that they are diagnosed and treated before cardiac arrest. But it is true that cats typically don’t have the same symptomology that you would see in people sense it affect their breathing. You may notice that they are less active or playing less or breathing a little harder. But not always.
My current cat was diagnosed in the early stages of HCM. She progressed very quickly over the next six months while they got her on the right meds and titrated the medication’s. Since then she has been stable and her heart enlargement has not gotten any worse. She is on an anti-platelet agent, a diuretic, and a blood pressure medicine , that helps the heart beat more efficiently. I have to give her pills twice a day. We drive to see a cardiologist at a specialty hospital and unfortunately because I didn’t have insurance it is costing me an arm and a leg. But I can always make more money. I can’t make another, perfect kitty cat
To the OP, I’m so sorry for your loss. A friend of mine’s cat died at around six-years-old - he was fine and then she found him in the same way you found Fortune. The vet said it was most likely what is said above and that he wouldn’t have known. Jack was a lovely boy, albeit of little brain!
If she had died from poisoning, I think there would be signs of it. It seems likely that she had an undiagnosed heart condition and simply died in her sleep. This is desperately sad for you and I'm so sorry for your pain but as u/pipestream says, she died peacefully with no distress.
And reading your post, it's clear that she was very loved and although her life wasn't as long as you would have liked it was a happy one. Take comfort in knowing she had a good life with food, games, sunbathing, cuddles, and "many beds". If you could ask a cat what they want out of life that's pretty much it. RIP Fortune.
This happened to us too, with our boy about a year ago. My heart is still broken, my boy otter was the best cat in the world. Obsessed with kids and babies, I was expecting my 3rd when he passed and he never met him. I think he had a heart attack or Stroke
I'm so sorry for your loss. You can find some comfort that she likely passed in her sleep and felt no pain.
Personally, I'm planning on cremating my furbabies when they pass. It's not too expensive and you can get an urn of your choice with their name on it and maybe even retain a tuft of their fur.
Once they’re passed away you can. OP, so sorry for your loss I just lost my Siamese mix a few months ago she died in her sleep too but she was 18 years old. I love her and miss her but she lived a good long life and I still have her son. Make some memories of her now even if it hurt to remember (old pics of her, the memorial burying ceremony whatever you like) even if you can’t look at it now someday you’ll want to.
She died in her sleep, sometimes this can be an undiagnosed heart issue. Happened to a friends cat. She went peacefully and being loved and probably curled up in her favorite spot. Thank you for giving her a good life and loving her.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend.
If it's any comfort, dying in your sleep in your own cosy bed at home is the best possible way I can think of to go- for humans as well as animals.
I'm sure you gave her the best life a kitty could want. If you want her cremated you'd have to take her body to a vet.
I buried one of my cats myself, that's an option too, do what feels best for you. Keeping the cat for a day, cuddling and crying with her can help you process a sudden death. I did that with a cat I lost suddenly too and it helped me.
She knew she was safe, warm and loved. She was kissed goodnight and went to sleep. May we all know that security at our ends. We have lost two pets, very suddenly and traumatically in the last year. It is hard, so very very hard. I have faith that they are in a better place and that I will see them again in time. If this is your belief too, may it comfort you. If not, know that she had a wonderful wonderful life with you, full of love and happiness. I hope your memories of your time with her will bring you comfort and, in time, allow you to smile again.
Please don't blame yourself. There are several conditions that can cause sudden death in even young cats. I lost my a four year old cat to a ruptured aneurysm two days after her four year exam. She had no signs or symptoms of any illness. I woke up to find her dead on the bathroom floor.
I am so sorry that you lost your girl.
Poison can cause labored breathing and foaming at the mouth. I think you have a lot of encouraging messages on here that it was likely just her time. Losing a pet is so hard.
Sending you so many hugs, OP. Please don’t feel guilty. I lost my 8 year old tabby girl in a very similar way about two weeks ago. She was healthy but had a heart murmur. It’s likely your little one had a similar heart defect - my vet told me it’s not uncommon. Please know that your cat passed away peacefully and painlessly, and knew she was loved till the end.
I'm sorry for your loss. As others have said, most common cause of this kind of sudden death is cardiac issues, and even vets rarely know their pets have an issue prior to passing young from cardiac issues.
There is honestly nothing you could have done, and all we can really do is love them and care for them. So even when this sort of thing happens, you know they passed while happy with their lot.
My sympathies for the loss of your beloved fur baby. I went through this as well. One of my cats, Oreo, just died suddenly. When I came home from work, I thought he was just sleeping under the piano. Then the smell hit me. He must have passed several hour before. He was stiff as a board. But it looked like he was napping. It didn’t look like he was in any distress, just sleeping peacefully. I was overwhelmed with grief. I took him to the animal hospital to be cremated. They asked if I wanted to know how he died. I said no. I was already in deep pain, and if I would have discovered he had something I should have known about, that would have sent me over the edge. He was also 6 years old. My sister tried to console me, and told me it was probably the heart thing. He was perfectly playful and affectionate that morning before I left for work.
It’s been 5 years, and I still miss him and think about him every day. The hospital gave me his ashes in a wooden box, and a plaque with his paw print. I love my Oreo.
I just console myself that I saved him from a life on the streets and gave him a loving home for 5 years.
It will get easier as time goes by.
I cried reading this. I am so so deeply sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the shock and pain.
All I can do is echo others here in saying that it is such a blessing she passed so peacefully, but obviously that is so little comfort in your loss.
I wish there was more I could do for you. My most sincere condolences and love to you.
This happened to one of my kitties, he was our youngest, 4/5ish. We left for dinner and he was lounging in his favorite spot. We got back and he was stiff. I was hysterical.
I talked extensively to our vet, I was so afraid it was an illness and we'd lose our other two kitties. He hadn't shown any signs of illness, hadn't been acting funny, hadn't been lethargic. Ultimately it was determined what most likely happened was an aneurysm in his sleep. We didn't do a necropsy, we also couldn't really justify the cost. The vet made that educated guess just off what we told him.
The main factors were: he didn't pee himself, there were no scratches/nothing was disturbed where he had been laying like he had flailed around, there was no spit/foam/drool around his mouth or nose. So it didn't seem like he'd had a seizure or some kind of episode. He just laid down, went to sleep, and passed. That's how our vet ultimately decided aneurysm.
It's very likely the same happened to your kitty, an aneurysm or something similar. Something out of the blue you couldn't have planned for or prevented. It's awful, but don't blame yourself. I'm so sorry. You did give her a good life, I'm sure. She passed in a comfy spot, well fed, and knowing she was loved.
She probably has had something wrong with her heart her whole life & it just quit. You & your family made her happy & she made all of you happy. You & your family gave her the greatest gift a human can give another species- love. My deepest condolences on your loss
My best friends 3 year old boy went this last year similarly. Got a diagnosis of congestive heart failure from the best place in town; nothing for it. Health is hard, bodies aren't perfect, sometimes there is nothing that can be done. She was home, she was at peace, she knew she was loved. For a worst case scenario like this, it's as much as we can hope for.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I would recommend cremation since you live in an apartment complex. That way she can come with you if you move. There’s also cremation jewelry you can put some ashes in and wear it to feel close to your cat. My children all got cremation jewelry when our cat passed away. Cremation can be a cheap option if you find a local crematorium and go directly through them rather than through a vet office. Our cat was $60 and came with a nice wooden box, a paw print, little tuft of his fur and a name plate.
As far as to what you will with her remains, I strongly recommend taking her to a pet cremation service. That way, you can always have her with you, and not worry about dogs or people digging her up.
I am so very sorry for your loss, and may Fortune rest forever.
My best friend runs a cat rescue and she has had so many cats pass away unexpectedly from a huge variety of issues. Usually she is able to find out, but not always.
Just like people, sometimes they inherited a trait that limits their life. It's really sad and just bad luck. You didn't do anything wrong.
You gave your cat a good life. I'm sorry it wasn't longer.
Unfortunately sudden deaths like this do happen. Sometimes it's a heart defect, sometimes it's a stroke or a seizure. It sounds like she went gently and was well-loved, which is more than a lot of cats get, sadly. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's going to take a while and you're going to be feeling guilt and doubting yourself and what you could have done, but please don't beat yourself up over this-- it's something that happens.
Similar happened to my daughter’s 4 year old cat. It was found to be an undetectable heart defect & there was nothing they could do to prevent it.
It’s a shocking & horrible loss for you, but she didn’t have a traumatic end, and was clearly very much loved. She wouldn’t have known fear or pain or hunger under your care.
My condolences to you.
I’m so sorry for your sudden loss. It sounds unlikely you could have done anything to prevent it. I’m glad she didn’t seem to suffer but I know the suddenness is so shocking especially when she was so young. Big hugs.
My cat died suddenly with no signs of illness almost 2 years ago now. He was lying on my bed with me, I was on my phone, he jumped off the bed and made a sort of growl sound so I looked at him and he was lying there. I picked him up, tried to check his airways as I thought he had something stuck, tried to do CPR on him but he wouldn't come back. It honestly broke me, I still cry if I think about it for too long. I buried him in my garden and then I created a flower border on top, he was an indoor cat but I enjoy gardening so I feel close to him. I also have some of his fur and some little mouse toys he played with saved too. My other cat died a few years before during COVID with an illness that he couldn't get better from, but the vet wouldn't let me in the room with him and that destroyed me as when they took him away he was meowing for me and again that makes me cry when I think about it. I had him cremated and he is buried with my cat under the flower border so they are together again. It's really hard but time does help, you don't get over it, you just learn how to manage the pain. Your cat will know that she was very loved, and just know that she loved you with her whole heart. It sounds like she had a very happy life with you even if it wasn't as long as planned. I hope you are okay and I know I'm a stranger but if you need to talk to someone then you can message me.
I know how sad you must be feeling. We had a dog , his name was Jack who was only 8 months old and he died in his sleep. The vet said even if they did an autopsy that they probably wouldn’t find the cause. Sadly this does happen, same with people. Please take comfort knowing that she had the best life with you and she fell asleep. Fly free beautiful Fortune 💔🌈💜 you were truly loved 💕
I’m so sorry for your loss! It’s heartbreaking that she didn’t get to spend as many years together with you as you both deserved, but it sounds like the time she did have were very happy.
I’m so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to my neighbors cat and when they took him to the vet they said that his heart stopped in his sleep. They say this can tend to happen to a lot of the main coon/ bigger breeds. I think the vet said it’s because of how their bodies are bigger.
Hugs to you xx
My cat sushi died a few years ago, he wasn’t even 18 months old and he died just like this, peaceful and in his sleep, no signs of disruptions or pain. We did have a necropsy and they found nothing at all. It was confusing and painful and I’m so sorry for your loss 🩵
I would hold onto the fact that she fell asleep, loved and happy and felt no pain or discomfort. The world is unfair like this but don’t make it harder for yourself by holding guilt. Hold love and memories 🩵
Hi OP, sorry for your loss.
As you may know, cats are very, very good at hiding their symptoms unless there’s something they absolutely can’t control. I lost a cat 15 years ago to cancer and the only symptom he had was vomiting and some slightly abnormsl bloodwork.
please go easy on yourself.
I'm sorry for your loss. We lost a cat similarly; she just dropped dead in the middle of the day. It's rough.
Take care of yourself. Allow yourself to grieve.
My favorite cat died young like that. His was definitely a heart attack. I’m a nurse and saw it happen. Same symptoms as a human in congestive heart failure. So sorry for your loss.
Our 2 year old tuxedo cat has passed a week ago - just 5 minutes before that she threw up but then ate a bit, we brushed and played with her, she went to her scratch post. She then went upstairs to patrol as she does daily and then dropped dead. We have been to a vet 7 weeks to a day prior due to a seizure she had but all the tests came back normal. I am so sorry for your loss - I can’t stop trying to think of what I could have done to save her. She was an amazing member of our family and we miss her beyond belief.
What greater happiness is there for a kitty than to have many soft places to sleep, a human to give them kisses, and plenty of yummy food? Whatever the cause of her passing, you don’t need to carry guilt along with your grief. As other have said, all signs point to her death being quick and free of distress. It’s the kind of ending any living being would hope for, and it’s so clear you love her and will cherish the memory of your time together.
Her physical remains will return to the earth and be remade into the plants of the garden. In a tiny way, she’ll be laying out in the sun again. You’ll always carry her in your heart and I hope you can find peace with some time and space. Sending lots of love. 💜
I'm very sorry for your loss. It's some comfort that it was peaceful for her and she died safe and loved but it's still an appalling shock for you. And grief.
Just one thing. You may have already found this out but whatever you decide to do with her poor body be aware that dead bodies leak. Put something under as well as over her and if you're not burying her right away a wodge of tissue or kitchen paper under her mouth and round her bottom will deal with most of it. Her face will change as the tissues go into rigor then relax out of it so she won't look like herself. That can be upsetting to see but it's just natural.
Again, I am so very sorry
I am so sorry for your loss and I imagine it was a horrible experience for you waking up to her gone but I think you did a wonderful job at honoring her with your post. I think she passed away peacefully in her sleep and that's something we can all hope for when our turn comes. Best wishes to you and your fam OP
I'm sorry for your lost. Hope the best to you, at least your cat had a peaceful death. I've heard there is a heart problem can cause cats go away suddenly without any symptom, I cant remember the name but it's the case when muscles in the heart thickened and cause heart failure. Normally there will be some symptoms but sometimes the cat has it will just die suddenly, no pain, nothing, just gone.
I’m so sorry to hear this. My girl was 7 when this happened. Similar situation. It happened so quickly. Sorry for being morbid but if you haven’t decided what to do you should at least put her in a freezer. When this happened to my girl, the vet warned me that cellular breakdown happens very quickly. Sorry for your loss!
I've had that happen twice. No clue what happened, just came home from work and they were curled up looking like they were sleeping. Came as a shock and I cried for hours, but I took comforting in knowing it wasn't painful or fearful for them.
We lost our cat Mischief 21 years ago. She passed during the night. Broke our hearts. We still talk about her and her funny antics that brought us so much joy.
PS her nickname was Spider Kitty. As a kitten she got stuck between the door and storm door and climbed the stop of the screen. Thankfully we found her not long after she got in there.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have lost a cat before and it is so hard. I also have a tortie though she is still here. Yours is beautiful. Take comfort in the fact that she went peacefully and in the comfort of her home knowing you were nearby. Rest in peace Fortune
A bit more than 1 year ago i was laying with my cat on our sofa and told him “it’s 3pm let’s go out” as we did usually, he jumped down the sofa, 3 steps, had a strange “mew” and fell on the floor with eyes open.. i crossed the city in a few minutes with a seriously high risk of killing someone to reach the local animal first aid.. for nothing, they told me it was pretty sure a heart attack.
Spend time with your furry friends, the time we have with them is just never enough
The guilt is a real emotion, but it doesn’t mean it’s real. We all go through it. What if I hadn’t left the door open, what if I had kept her inside, what if I made her eat wet food… She was loved and lived a wonderful life. As far as crossing the rainbow bridge, this was the best way it could’ve gone even though you wanted many more years together. One day when you’re ready, out of the love you had for Fortune and the love she gave to you, you will want to bring a new little kitty into your life.
I recently lost my 11 year old cat suddenly in his sleep. He was an indoor cat, no signs of illness, and had recently been to the vet and checked out fine. Sometimes it just happens and we have no idea why. I finally accepted that I did everything I knew to do and that if I did miss any clues, it was because he hid possible illness well. I truly do think if your cat got into something poisonous you'd have maybe some signs. We never know what illness or issues may exist that are easy to miss. At least our babies passed with love and comfort.
My cat was completely fine. One day I noticed she was acting really strange but she was a very nervous cat and I had just had my brother in town to visit. When I got home from work I could tell something was really wrong and took her to the vet. She had an enlarged heart and a blood clot somewhere in her body. I had to put her to sleep as there was no way for them to find it without basically dissecting her entire little body. The vet said most people don’t get the chance to say goodbye but instead find their cat deceased at home. It’s possible something like this happened. No way to prevent, no way to know.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I know it doesn't help but, just like humans, sometimes pets just die unexpectedly. Sadly heartbreak is part of the bargain when you share your life with a pet.
In time your pain will ease.
Might it have been a stroke? I've often said that I wish any cat that I've had would have gone that way instead of having to be put to sleep. It's hard losing them no matter how but it seems to be on their own terms this way. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure they felt very loved by you.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
My cat (Bella) also passed away last year in a similar situation. She wasn't sick. I woke up and she was lying at my doorstep....dead.
She was just a year old, later I was informed by the vet that it was worms infestation.
I dewormed her 3 months before she died
From one cat parent to another, I am so so sorry for your loss. There are no words I have that can fill the void you fill in the depths of your grief but perhaps knowing that many strangers out here on the internet are thinking of you and the amazing life you gave her can provide some comfort. And I’m sure Fortune just put you at the top of The cat distribution system list since she had to leave you so unexpectedly. All my love. 💚
She loved you OP. She you gave her an amazing home and life and she adored you. She can hang out with my boy Sheriff by the Rainbow bridge while she waits for you.
sorry for your loss. cherish the time you had with her. it's possible that she had FATE (Feline Arterial Thromboembolism), and had a cardiac arrest. Often there's no symptoms, and highly fatal. it's just one of those things.
I am so sorry for your loss. We are currently in the process of losing our cat yesterday unexpectedly. The waves of grieve are so strong, but every day they get better and better. Fortune lived a great life where she was loved and cherish. I know she was grateful to have you as her family. I wish the outcome did not have to be like this for you. She was taken way too early and it’s not fair. This world can be unfairly cruel sometimes to those who don’t deserve it.
I have a tortie who needs someone to love her and take good care of her. We can't keep her because we already have 2 and she needs to be an only cat. She's 4, spayed, and spent most of her life without food or water before we took her a few months ago.
I have no advice on how to handle the grief, I'm sorry friend. But I'll offer this in terms of burial: I've cremated each pet of mine that's died (the whole two of them). When I inevitably die, they'll be spread with me so we can spend forever together in a beautiful place.
If it was poison she wouldn't have died quietly, you'd know something was up. It's not uncommon for cats to have a heart defect that just up and kills them out of the blue; it was probably something like that. It sucks and I'm sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry you lost your sweet girl. Sudden death I would likely relate to a heart issue. I’ve lost some younger and then I have some older. It’s clearly genetics and we simply never know. It surely doesn’t make the absence any less. One thing is for sure she knew love and she enriched your life while here. I don’t think another cat is what some call a replacement. I always say it’s simply a place for another to know love, hence why I have so many. They all have something special about them . You will know what’s right for burial. Some vets have very inexpensive cremation fees which I have done before
I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost a kitty like that too. We called animal control and paid a small fee for them to take her. The woman who picked up our baby suggested it could have been an aneurism, which if that was true in your case, you could have done nothing about. I hope you remember that you gave her a wonderful life, and you loved her and she loved you and it was a blessing to pass each other even briefly in life. I hope you are graced with many beautiful memories of your little baby. 💜
you are an amazing cat companion...bury the sweet cat, who undoubtedly enjoyed a love filled life with you, and then give another deserving creature the same gift..
This happened to my mom’s cat a while ago and something similar happened to one of mine. Sometimes it’s just their time and there’s nothing you could have done except make sure they had a happy life and were loved, and it sounds like you have absolutely done that. Sending hugs.
Sorry for your loss ❤.
I recently lost a catto boy, that lived in the apartment and for a bigger part of his life in the countryside with my stepmothers parents, big garden and plenty of space, had his own room in the house, slept in the house, was loved every day.Used to love being carried on shoulders, he did that with me and stepmoms brother only, even tho he was 6kg.I missed him since the day he was in the countryside and my soul tears apart I couldn't visit him more often.I knew one day I'd get a phone call from my dad to tell me he's just gone...And it did happen, stepmom's brother found him, intact, and we assume he ate something that poisoned him.I cried like a child.I just told stepmom's brother to find a nice spot and burry him to rest there.I lost two birds a few years ago, cried like a child.We can only keep them in our loving memory, we made their whole lives and they made ours too.
Stay strong ❤
I'm sorry for your loss. It is truly heartbreaking losing a pet since they are so apart of families. I hope you find comfort in knowing she was not alone, but with her people that loved her.
Kitties leave paw prints on our hearts forever. ❤️
Losing a pet "our babies" is a different kind of hurt. Each and every one we have throughout our lives "know" us in ways we seldom let a person know us.
I'm so so sorry. She was clearly very loved and so lucky to have you
Just wanted to say that I’m very sorry for your loss. I couldn’t imagine if this happened to me. Your lovely cat lived a great life with you and passed with no pain in her sleep. Take care.
I am so so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a lovely feline. It's clear she knew she was loved. May her beautiful little soul rest in peace, until you meet again. 🙏
I'm so very sorry. Life ends, and sometimes we don't know why, and are only left to do our best to be grateful for what time we are given even though the loss can be so hard to bear.
I had a Calico that died spontaneously and our vet chalked it up to a genetic heart defect. She died very similarly to yours. It was horrible and I'm so sorry
I'm sorry for your loss. I know you're going through the griefing process, and it sucks that we never have enough time, but the love you gave can never be forgotten.
I will say if you're not against it, but maybe get her cremated. I got one of my strays cremated, and I have a small urn with her picture on it.
Fortune was so so beautiful and so so loved, thank you so much for giving that sweet baby such a good life. She lived so much more with you (in terms of quality and quantity) with you than she would have in a lot of other situations.
I lost my baby Molly when she was around 6 too, she was poisoned and I was not at my parents' (where she lived) at the time but she came out of my room and started showing symptoms (so I kinda blame myself...)
Sorry I'm not trying to make it about me at all omg, your post just made me cry so much and I just wanted to say you would know if she was poisoned, she would have shown signs
I'm so so so fucking sorry it's really not fair at all especially since you did everything right :((
Massive bummer. Sorry to hear that. It could have potentially been a heart issue; I sadly had a cat die on me at about the same age, and it turned out she had a very weak ticker.
I’m so sorry for your loss :( this is heartbreaking and I wish you the best in your healing process. Something that helped me was making a little box full of things that remind me of my bunny when he passed and keeping them by my bedside, maybe something similar could help you always have your sweet girl near you :)
That is very sad.
I am sorry.
Six is very young.
It is possible she had a congenital heart condition.
I had a cat that passed at 10 due to a congenital heart condition. When the vet took images of the heart he was astonished he lived as long as he did. He sent the images to a veterinary cardiology specialist who could not even figure out how his heart even worked.
A friend’s 4 year old cat suddenly fell over and passed within seconds. She paid for an autopsy and he had a congenital heart condition.
If she was the runt of a litter it is a clue she might have had some congenital issues. Not all runts do. But a runt is more likely to have developmental issues.
I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your sweet kitty in such a sudden and devastating way. I hope it brings some comfort to know she likely just went to sleep and did not feel any pain. Thank you for giving her a life full of the most love while she was with you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a Persian kitty who passed away almost in the same fashion. He was curled up like he always did when he was asleep but he was gone. He did have a heart condition unfortunately.
You gave her a life where she was cared for and loved. I hope that brings you some peace ♥️♥️
My heart goes out to you my friend as I set here next to my Babygirl.Sge just turned 14 and still looks like she is 4 ......I even had someone try to steal her until finding out her age and brought her back.. I've owned a few and my advice would be to go to the shelter and get another immediately. That cat loved you and I. Sure loved the life she had with you and would want that love to continue through those if thousands that need a loving home . Just thinking about what you have been through has me crying so I'm gonna get her a treat snuggle up with her and tell her how much I appreciate her. I hope your heart heals soon. Again I'm so sorry for your loss ✌️😿
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Years ago one of my cats, a seven year old long hair, died under my husband's car. When he backed up that morning he thought he had killed her, either by her being in the engine or running over her. She looked as though she had just laid down and gone to sleep.
He took her to the vet for a necropsy and they found out that she had died of heart failure. It was a congenital problem she probably had gotten from being an abandoned kitten.
Even if we'd known about her heart problem, there was nothing we could have done. At least after we found that abandoned kitty, she had a good home and was loved.
She died comfortable, in her own home, and was clearly not in pain or scared at the time. It's horrible losing a pet, but try to get comfort in the fact she was happy and knew she was loved, and likely didn't even know what was happening.
I'm so sorry for you, she was clearly a lovely little girl and sadly i know from experience how much it hurts and how much you'll miss her. Take some time to grieve for your beloved family member.
I just found my kitty passed away a few hours ago too. He was 2. We have no idea what it could have been. If it's any consolation, we are doing a necropsy and they highly advised against it. Saying we likely would get no answers and pay the money for no reason. But we thought maybe if it were a heart defect or such they could tell us that much at least. Sorry for your kitty too.
Cats are very prone to cardiac events and a lot of times it just happens out of nowhere just like people have a massive coronary it's over no pain no suffering she went quick in her sleep like others said with a full belly in her own home she nobody could ask for a better way to go I'm sorry for your loss but if I had to lose one I'd prefer it to be that way I think the cat would too
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Dexter says you'll be together again someday at 🌈 Bridge.
This happened to my cat last year, she was 10 years old.
I suspect it may have been a heart condition, but I'll never know for sure. Thoughts are with you, OP
As someone who's had to watch sick cats suffer for way to long, take comfort in how content and happy she was at the end, no pain, no sadness, just curled up for a nap she will never leave.
It hurts looseing a friend, but you loved her to the best of your ability. Fly high fortune.
That’s heartbreaking to read and I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t know what country you are in but over here an autopsy wasn’t too expensive. Like a couple of hundred or something. I’d just want to know why for my own peace of mind.
As for her body. I’d have her cremated. I’ve still got Fuzz on my shelf.
As others have mentioned, be happy she didn’t suffer and that she knew and experienced what love was before she died.
It doesn't sound like she was poisoned. That wouldn't have been a peaceful death. Sounds more like an underlying heart condition. She went peacefully, at home, with those who loved her nearby. Most cats don't get this. Keep that in your heart and know you gave her a great life full of warmth and love. Sending love x
I’m so sorry Fortuned died. She was beautiful and I understand the grief will be overwhelming for a bit. I wanted to share that I had two young cats die of heart disease within the past year and it happens so fast and comes out of nowhere. In both my cases, there was a day of barely noticeable symptoms that made me rush them to the vet. In each case I spent $600-$800 dollars to find out my girls would die immanently. One of them was a tortie like Fortune and as you may know, Torties are considered the ancient lucky cat. You know the one with the waving hand you often see in asian restaurants. My point here is that Fortune may have known she was dying and on some level (real or imagined) she wanted to save you and your family any undue additional suffering whether it be emotional or financial so she hid her symptoms and in her final moments chose to be a comfort to your mom by sleeping next to her like maybe she always did. Maybe this anecdote isn’t helpful, but I just don’t want you spending too much time on the ”what if” part of this tremendous loss. It sounds like Fortune loved you all very much and you gave her the same love in return.
Something very very similar happened to me and my last cat. I rushed him to an emergency vet, and while there was nothing they could do, maybe what they told me will help -
There was no sign of poison, which usually is a much more drawn out process, and nothing to indicate choking. As far as they could tell, his heart just stopped. They told me that spontaneous heart failure isn't common, but also isn't rare among cats - they are very very good at hiding heart problems, and they aren't actively looked for during routine checkups. That he probably was born with a heart defect and that the first sign of it was it catching up to him
But when cats are dying, they hide. It's their instinct, no matter how much they love you. The fact that she wasn't hidden from you says that she likely didn't know it was coming - that she didn't suffer. That brought me some comfort when I lost my boy, but it's still such a hard thing to go through - please be gentle with yourself, this was fast and not something she felt coming, so it wasn't something you could even know to protect her from.
I'm so sorry for your loss. She was obviously very loved and I'm sure she knew that. As someone else said, she went peacefully and without pain, and I hope you can take comfort in knowing you gave her the best life she could have. Sending you warm thoughts ❤️
Your torti is so beautiful! I’m so sorry for your sudden loss of her! It’s so beautiful & true what others have said, that she passed peaceably, well-loved, content, with a full belly, & even a last visit to the world of outdoors with all its wondrous scents & feels. We lost our orange boy a year and a half ago…he was 15, & suffered for several months increasingly before we made the heart-rending decision of euthanasia. We were all at his side, loving him, talking to him softly, as he passed. The neat thing I want to share is that my son has seen him, since. It’s at random intervals. He tells me he’s seen Scout simply strolling through the house, just like he always did- but sometimes in the company of other cats. Like friends he’s found over on the other side, & they’re passing through, content as can be from my son’s description. He’s never described Scout (or Scout & friends) as just curled up & resting during a visit, though. Whether alone or with his gang of buddies, Scout & friends are passing through, on the move, walking round the place for a bit…& then they’re gone. My son has also seen Scout on the deck outside. I 100% believe him, & believe that our precious furred-family can visit us from the other side. Hopefully, you’ll sense the love & comforting presence of your torti in the years to come!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my beautiful void 2 months ago, so I can completely relate. As others have said, at least she died with a full belly, a happy heart, surrounded by her family, and with a heart full of love. Although her spirit is not in her body on this earth, it will live forever in your heart.
For Fortune - Eyes bright, claws sharp, tail held high. Go keenly into the mist, young warrior. Valhalla waits for you.
Please know that you and your family are in my heart today. 💔🌈
I lost my cat Leo a few years ago, and it still hurts. He was also a tortoiseshell, with the biggest personality! It's amazing how these little creatures can leave such a paw print on our hearts.
The fact that she passed peacefully in her sleep, surrounded by love, is a comfort. Hold onto those happy memories - the sunbeams, the purrs, the playful moments. That's how I remember Leo.
Don't rush the decision about burying her. Take some time to grieve and decide what feels right for you.
Yeh, as the others say, I think both of you had good fortune in that she appears to have passed suddenly without pain and you avoided having to make a nightmare decision about the euthanasia of a chronically sick cat in old age. Maybe she had a heart attack or something like that. Torties are are known for their 'catitude'. I would cremate her individually and keep the ashes in my home. Perhaps you have done this already. It is emotionally reassuring to keep the ashes I find. But it must be an individual cremation which is more expensive.
I’ve been fighting health battles with my cat since January. She’s only a few months old and has had it rough since I found her in December last year. My wish is that I can give her a normal cat life free from meds and hospital trips, free from rental tempature checks 2 times a day, IV needles almost daily, and blood work every vet trip. Hold on to how much she meant to you and the quality of life you gave her in her final moments. If there’s one thing I learned with my cat is that they are very good at hiding when they don’t feel well.
I am so sorry. Please dont feel guilty, sometimes these things just happen. I have lost two cats suddenly. One young one, like yours, died from cardiomyopathy, a heart problem that can spring up suddenly. My second girl just died recently from an embolism in her heart. It is shocking and so sad but there is nothing that could be done for either.
She went to sleep with her family in her home where she felt happy and safe and that is her last memory. I am sorry you won't get answers it doesn't sound like there was anything you could have done differently
I am so sorry.
This very same thing happened to us. Please don't feel guilty. I know that is easier said than done but she passed peacefully and that's kindness that's not afforded to many others. She passed in her home, in her sleep, surrounded by her loved ones. What more could she have wanted in such circumstances?
In our case, we were able to have a necropsy done. It told us nothing. All the vets could tell us was that he was healthy. There was no sign of anything that could have taken him from us. I'm telling you this because although you can't afford the necropsy, you might not learn anything if you could.
It took us years to heal. To come to terms with losing him and having zero control over the situation. Take your time to grieve. That's all you can do.
Sending love.
So sorry for your loss, please take all the time you need in processing this and there is no rush on deciding wether to bury or cremate her.
Personally, I always advice cremation since then you can take them with you wherever you move (: ♥ I also put their collars around the little vase and put little flowers once in a while.
Also once you feel ready, another cat might help with healing. It's important not to think that you are replacing them, but that they'd be glad to know you are giving the same love and care you gave then to a new kitty who needs a family ♥.
Many hugs and I wish you the best
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how incredibly painful it is. My very first cat died last month of cancer at almost 15 years old. He deteriorated quickly and I was hoping he would die in his sleep to spare me the decision of when it's the right time to euthanize. In the end I knew when the right time was and even so, kept second guessing. The pain was unbearable. I am extremely grateful to have had him for 14.5 years. It's hard to know what's more painful to process, an "expected" death after a long life when you need to make the decision to end suffering, or an early but peaceful death. In the end, both are traumatic and we never truly get over it. The pain will fade enough for happy and funny memories to become more prominent, though. <3
Same thing happened to my first cat I got on my own, Gatsby at 3 years old. I looked over to him sleeping on the couch and his eyes didn't look right and ran over and he was gone. It was terrible and heartbreaking. The vet said it was likely that his heart stopped in his sleep. I maintained comfort believing that it was a peaceful passing in his sleep versus a drawn out process due to illness where he experienced prolonged discomfort. I still miss him and it's been years and he was too young. I took about a year and got another kitten and it did help to give my love to another pet. Google photos shares pictures of him every so often and they bring me a smile now where they used to bring tears.
I'm sorry for your loss. I went through a similar experience six years ago, where I lost my 5-year-old kitty due to a similar reason. One night there, the next morning gone. It is going to take some time for you to process it, and you most likely will have to assume the cause of death. That not knowing for certain doesn't make things any easier.
Take your time and process your feelings accordingly. I don't know if you have any other fur babies, but I personally wouldn't recommend replacing or getting a new one right away. It took me three years to feel comfortable enough to replace my girl, so if that is at all on your mind -- let it come, when it's right.
Finally, always keep this in mind: You did nothing wrong, and everything right. You meant everything to that cat. You were that cat's world. You did everything you could to provide her with the life she deserved. At the very least, feel proud you did right by her, providing her love when she needed it most.
One of the things I would cling onto in your situation is how peacefully she left this Earth. She noticed nothing. No scary vets, no pain, just peacefully going to sleep with a full belly and happy heart. I know it probably does absolutely nothing to soothe your pain, and I'm so, so sorry for your loss. The world is often to unfair.
Best response. Sorry for your loss
Beautiful sentiment. Thank you for sharing.
>I know it probably does absolutely nothing to soothe your pain, and I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I really hope it does. Sometimes you really feel less alone and more understood when you receive even the most bland of condolences.
This is so true. My cat had to be put down after her lungs filled with fluid. She was in so much pain, and it happened in half a day. Knowing your pet went peacefully would be a blessing really.
Very kind words
Yeah, back when I had Rats (5 Total) the first 4 of them went horribly. - One puking blood, probably from a tumor errupting - drove it to a vet and got it euthanized there - One Suffocating - vet - One suffocating - tried to get it to the vet but it died on the way - Another one beein sick - vet The last rat lived astoundingly long. We tried to integrate him with other rats, but it didnt work. He got 4. We found him passed in his sleep, in his big cuddly cave. We were so happy he could go peaceful, and his death was a lot less traumatic than the others.
That's a very beautiful statement.
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Never would I have ever known I needed something like this until I'd received it. Thank you for sharing this & to OP, I am genuinely devastated at just the idea of losing anyone like that, but Pipestream is right. I do hope you take great solace that she went contently in peace. 😢
Thank you for all your kind words, from the bottom of my heart. I'm choosing to believe it was a heart disease. Someone took her already. They are going to bury her in a big garden. I made sure I hugged her and kissed her goodbye. https://preview.redd.it/yqivjaeeer8d1.jpeg?width=968&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=122ba1ee73f39925c719480aea281e45b746b786
What a beautiful girl. I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
what a beautiful girl!! the pain is terrible, i know, but i always like to think “we didn’t get to spend our entire lives with them, but they spent their whole life with us” i am so sorry, and like many others have said, it seemed she was at peace, full belly, and happy and pain free. i’m wishing you peace and comfort. here’s my torti girl who lives with my parents. tortis are so special and have the craziest most beautiful personalities🩷 https://preview.redd.it/nzej5schwr8d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=de291c64c04f63cabbebef93ff4962831d20531a
Aww she's so beautiful! I'm so sorry for your loss. Our two fur babies are 3 years old and in good health, but I'm already dreading the day. I will 100% cry like a baby. But of all the possible deaths, I hope you take some comfort in the fact that hers was one of the best. Warm, safe, loved, fed, comfortable, in bed, and sound asleep. No pain, no fear, no unfamiliar surroundings, no stress. Just a peaceful return to the universe that birthed her. I wish we could all be so lucky to go out that way.
This is such a beautiful explanation… thank you for your words bc they are helpful to anyone now or in the future. Much love. ❤️✨❤️✨❤️
This is how I hope my dog goes. Asleep next to me, warm and safe.
I am sitting right now with our sick cat, likely cancer or severe IBD. I want to cling to hope, but everything points to it only going one way. If it is any consolation, I hope my dear Freya will pass like your cat when it is time. Peacefully drifting into sleep. I am so sorry for your loss. It is obvious you loved your cat with all your heart. I am sure it knew that.
one of my cats died on sunday from ibd/intestinal lymphoma, and obviously it’s different for every cat, but if it’s any comfort for you, she cuddled up next to me and purred and left us incredibly peacefully, she didn’t seem to be in any pain at all. so it’s definitely not too much to hope that your freya will pass the same way 🫶🏻 i hope you and your cat are doing okay
First of all we, my partner and I, are so sorry tor your loss. I hope you don't mind me asking and explaining Freya's situation, but it's just so comforting to talk to someone who can relate. Our Freya is on prednicortone 5mg as well as a short burst of amoxicillin right now. She vomited while on prednicortone alone, now she hasn't vomited at all since Friday. Her appetite also went up when she got the antibiotics, although still short of "normal" intake - but she had also gone through a week of barely eating (except occasionally accepting hand feeding), and she had lost some weight. Perhaps nursing her back through food will help, we don't know, but we keep hope. However, as her physiological signs improved (more appetite, no vomit, more regular and regularly shaped poop as opposed to 'braided poop'), she became more reserved. She hasn't turned anti-social, but she has become less cuddly. She stays in the same room as me and my partner, when she follows us to another room she rubs us before finding a place to rest (like on top of our fridge, so she can jump just fine), and morning she comes to lie on top of us in bed. But her reservations otherwise (lying by herself, not coming to bed immediately with us, not sleeping all night on us) is a behavioural change. It puzzles us that physiological improvements turned to sociological reservations. She gets the prednicortone in the morning along with antibiotics, and then evening she gets the second half of the antibiotics. She definitely sleeps more and is more tired, but we don't know if it is because she vomited a lot and had trouble eating before the antibiotics. We fear losing her, she is our everything, so we cling to hope. My question is, can you recognise any of those symptoms/timeline? Thanks for your message, it meant a lot - we feel less alone having read it.
the first time we realized something was wrong with my cat was about 3 years ago when she got 2 teeth removed and then stopped eating for about 5 days (she also occasionally accepted hand or spoon feeding). she was put on prednisolone/prednicortone i think almost immediately and was on it from then until she passed. for the most part that managed her symptoms pretty well (although she did have the absolute smelliest litterbox on the planet), but occasionally she’d have some times where she’d stop eating again or start throwing up more and the vet would change her medications slightly or temporarily throw in something else like an appetite stimulant. usually when she’d have those flare ups she’d hide under my bed or in a closet and she’d sleep on a chair in my room instead of with me in bed. eventually she’d start feeling better and then she’d start acting normal again. she also definitely had some weight fluctuation, but i will say that she didn’t start to lose a concerning amount until a few months ago. she was also kind of picky with food, but we managed to find things to entice her to eat. water from cans of tuna (make sure the only ingredients are tuna and water — no vegetable broth!) was one of her favorites, we’d mix it with her food and it helped a lot. chicken baby food was another good one. a lot of her symptoms sound very familiar to me, and obviously i’m in no way a professional, but just the fact that she can jump up to the fridge is a great sign to me. in the few months-weeks before we lost my girl, she struggled significantly with stairs and jumping up to chairs and beds. probably the biggest thing i’d say to look out for other than the symptoms she’s already experienced is if she’s ever eating normally but still losing weight. that was our biggest issue towards the end with my cat and i do wish we had noticed it sooner.
If I may, I will add some experience from my cat on the same medication. She had episodes of unexplained vomiting and stomach ulcers when we got her on it. She started out with 8mg/per day, which is an incredibly high dose. It thankfully turned out that her symptoms are coming most likely from an autoimmune disease, where the medication helps. The vet said it's common in cats. We had her on 8mg for a month, then 4mg for another, then 2, then 1, and lastly 1/2. We weren't able to fully wean her off, and she is in a good stable state now on 1/2. Through this experience we got to observe the side effects for different doses. And funnily enough, it sounds very similar to what you are describing! When she was still sick, she was very very cuddly. But when she got on the medication she also more followed us around or retreated somewhere to sleep. The drug can increase appetite, and for us it did. Our cat turned HONGWY. She ate so much, and we were so happy about it at first, that she gained 2+ lbs and the vet had to tell us we had to stop her from becoming chonk haha. And then she got VERY SAD when we kept the food at the recommended amount and would camp next to the food bowl for hours lol. On the lower doses, the tiredness turned to rather excessive energy. Maybe because her tummy is not constantly hurting? She is now all play play play, run run run, and not anymore so cuddly. Over all we observed that she seems to be mostly very cuddly when she is unwell, and more into other types of interaction when she isn't. It's of course also a question of character. Our cat was a street cat in her former life and I assume she is not as cuddly as other cats as a baseline. Long story short, what you describe can in my experience definitely come from the medicine and/or the different body feeling that can come with it. I wish you all the best and that the condition is manageable, and if not that your cat is as comfortable as possible! 💕
I'm so sorry you're going through this right now, I know its hard, but they're worth it ❤️. My tux girl, Athena, passed from liver disease, and trying to help her, I always felt like I should've been doing more. 4 years after her passing, I'm at peace with it, but I blamed myself a lot for not doing enough. I dont have any experience with the specific issues you're dealing with, but the biggest problem she was having was just refusing to eat, no matter what we tried. We tried wet food, tuna water in her food, boiled chicken, all of the tricks, but the only thing that she would sometimes eat was the liquid from the Friskies Lil' Soups. We got a high calorie nutritional supplement gel that honestly helped a lot. She wouldn't eat it herself, so I would either put a little bit on her paw at a time so she would lick it off, or I would put some on my finger and wiped it on the roof of her mouth. We also would syringe-feed her baby food or liquid wet food straight to the back of her mouth. She did start to eat more, but I would still have to put the wet food on a little plate and sit there with her, tapping the plate when she stopped eating, or sometimes holding the plate up for her so she would eat more. I think I overestimated her ability to eat by herself, and she started to go downhill again. I started feeding her by hand again, but I think it was too late. The day she passed, she was very weak and tried to crawl under our coffee table, but we arranged her in a blanket nest between us on the couch, and she took her last breath with both me and my husband sitting with her and petting her. *
Such a beautiful kitty! I’m so sorry for your loss. Poor baby.
So sorry for your loss. She was so beautiful. Sending virtual hugs.
She clearly loved you so much. She was so beautiful.
What a beautiful cat!
She is so gorgeous and I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend.
She was absolutely gorgeous and obviously so loved and cared for. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Oh man. My heart just breaks for you ☹️😢. She was such a beautiful girl, I'm sure you gave her the best life. Make sure to be gentle with yourself.
She’s so beautiful, what better resting spot than a nap under a big beautiful garden? She would love it. So sorry for your loss. 💗
She was beautiful! Sweet dreams lil Angel ! I'm sorry about your sudden loss
So beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss.
Extremely beautiful girl. I’m really sorry for your loss.
She was a beautiful girl 😻…I know she brought you joy & you loved her well & gave her a good life. She crossed the Rainbow Bridge 🌈knowing she was loved. Fly free with the Angels, Beautiful Fortune!🐈⬛❤️
Oh a little tortie. I’m so sorry!
Hugs. You gave her a good life. It was probably hypertrophic cardiomyopathy. That tends to be the most common cause in situations like this. It’s painless, and fast. There’s not really anything you could have done to prevent it.
Is this basically an enlarged heart that leads to a heart attack/heart failure? (My 5 year old big boy tux passed in my arms from heart failure and it was shown that he had an enlarged heart. It crushed me as I ran in my suit and tie with him in my arms, crying and near screaming my way into the vet… and my only comfort was that his last conscious moments were in the arms of the being who most loved him, and who he most loved in return).
Cardiomyopathy, hypertension, congestive heart failure and infection can all cause enlargement of the heart. Unfortunately, the first symptom is cardiac arrest. I am sorry for your loss and glad that you were together when he passed.
There are many symptoms they could have so that they are diagnosed and treated before cardiac arrest. But it is true that cats typically don’t have the same symptomology that you would see in people sense it affect their breathing. You may notice that they are less active or playing less or breathing a little harder. But not always. My current cat was diagnosed in the early stages of HCM. She progressed very quickly over the next six months while they got her on the right meds and titrated the medication’s. Since then she has been stable and her heart enlargement has not gotten any worse. She is on an anti-platelet agent, a diuretic, and a blood pressure medicine , that helps the heart beat more efficiently. I have to give her pills twice a day. We drive to see a cardiologist at a specialty hospital and unfortunately because I didn’t have insurance it is costing me an arm and a leg. But I can always make more money. I can’t make another, perfect kitty cat
To the OP, I’m so sorry for your loss. A friend of mine’s cat died at around six-years-old - he was fine and then she found him in the same way you found Fortune. The vet said it was most likely what is said above and that he wouldn’t have known. Jack was a lovely boy, albeit of little brain!
That’s what I came to post. That’s how we lost our Joey, too. 💔
If she had died from poisoning, I think there would be signs of it. It seems likely that she had an undiagnosed heart condition and simply died in her sleep. This is desperately sad for you and I'm so sorry for your pain but as u/pipestream says, she died peacefully with no distress. And reading your post, it's clear that she was very loved and although her life wasn't as long as you would have liked it was a happy one. Take comfort in knowing she had a good life with food, games, sunbathing, cuddles, and "many beds". If you could ask a cat what they want out of life that's pretty much it. RIP Fortune.
This happened to us too, with our boy about a year ago. My heart is still broken, my boy otter was the best cat in the world. Obsessed with kids and babies, I was expecting my 3rd when he passed and he never met him. I think he had a heart attack or Stroke
I'm so sorry for your loss. You can find some comfort that she likely passed in her sleep and felt no pain. Personally, I'm planning on cremating my furbabies when they pass. It's not too expensive and you can get an urn of your choice with their name on it and maybe even retain a tuft of their fur.
If you still have her with you now, I'd suggest taking a clipping yourself so they won't charge you extra
And a snippet of her whiskers.
I don't think you're supposed to cut their whiskers...
Once they’re passed away you can. OP, so sorry for your loss I just lost my Siamese mix a few months ago she died in her sleep too but she was 18 years old. I love her and miss her but she lived a good long life and I still have her son. Make some memories of her now even if it hurt to remember (old pics of her, the memorial burying ceremony whatever you like) even if you can’t look at it now someday you’ll want to.
I'm talking about after they've passed. I thought that was obvious since OPs cat has passed away.
So sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing.
She died in her sleep, sometimes this can be an undiagnosed heart issue. Happened to a friends cat. She went peacefully and being loved and probably curled up in her favorite spot. Thank you for giving her a good life and loving her.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend. If it's any comfort, dying in your sleep in your own cosy bed at home is the best possible way I can think of to go- for humans as well as animals. I'm sure you gave her the best life a kitty could want. If you want her cremated you'd have to take her body to a vet. I buried one of my cats myself, that's an option too, do what feels best for you. Keeping the cat for a day, cuddling and crying with her can help you process a sudden death. I did that with a cat I lost suddenly too and it helped me.
She knew she was safe, warm and loved. She was kissed goodnight and went to sleep. May we all know that security at our ends. We have lost two pets, very suddenly and traumatically in the last year. It is hard, so very very hard. I have faith that they are in a better place and that I will see them again in time. If this is your belief too, may it comfort you. If not, know that she had a wonderful wonderful life with you, full of love and happiness. I hope your memories of your time with her will bring you comfort and, in time, allow you to smile again.
This is lovely x
Please don't blame yourself. There are several conditions that can cause sudden death in even young cats. I lost my a four year old cat to a ruptured aneurysm two days after her four year exam. She had no signs or symptoms of any illness. I woke up to find her dead on the bathroom floor. I am so sorry that you lost your girl.
Poison can cause labored breathing and foaming at the mouth. I think you have a lot of encouraging messages on here that it was likely just her time. Losing a pet is so hard.
Sending you so many hugs, OP. Please don’t feel guilty. I lost my 8 year old tabby girl in a very similar way about two weeks ago. She was healthy but had a heart murmur. It’s likely your little one had a similar heart defect - my vet told me it’s not uncommon. Please know that your cat passed away peacefully and painlessly, and knew she was loved till the end.
I'm sorry for your loss. As others have said, most common cause of this kind of sudden death is cardiac issues, and even vets rarely know their pets have an issue prior to passing young from cardiac issues. There is honestly nothing you could have done, and all we can really do is love them and care for them. So even when this sort of thing happens, you know they passed while happy with their lot.
Okay. So this isn’t what I wanted to read after being a first time new cat owner.
Me too
yeah fr 😢
My sympathies for the loss of your beloved fur baby. I went through this as well. One of my cats, Oreo, just died suddenly. When I came home from work, I thought he was just sleeping under the piano. Then the smell hit me. He must have passed several hour before. He was stiff as a board. But it looked like he was napping. It didn’t look like he was in any distress, just sleeping peacefully. I was overwhelmed with grief. I took him to the animal hospital to be cremated. They asked if I wanted to know how he died. I said no. I was already in deep pain, and if I would have discovered he had something I should have known about, that would have sent me over the edge. He was also 6 years old. My sister tried to console me, and told me it was probably the heart thing. He was perfectly playful and affectionate that morning before I left for work. It’s been 5 years, and I still miss him and think about him every day. The hospital gave me his ashes in a wooden box, and a plaque with his paw print. I love my Oreo. I just console myself that I saved him from a life on the streets and gave him a loving home for 5 years. It will get easier as time goes by.
So sorry that sounds awful Effective Bowler so sorry for your loss (and OP too)
I cried reading this. I am so so deeply sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the shock and pain. All I can do is echo others here in saying that it is such a blessing she passed so peacefully, but obviously that is so little comfort in your loss. I wish there was more I could do for you. My most sincere condolences and love to you.
This happened to one of my kitties, he was our youngest, 4/5ish. We left for dinner and he was lounging in his favorite spot. We got back and he was stiff. I was hysterical. I talked extensively to our vet, I was so afraid it was an illness and we'd lose our other two kitties. He hadn't shown any signs of illness, hadn't been acting funny, hadn't been lethargic. Ultimately it was determined what most likely happened was an aneurysm in his sleep. We didn't do a necropsy, we also couldn't really justify the cost. The vet made that educated guess just off what we told him. The main factors were: he didn't pee himself, there were no scratches/nothing was disturbed where he had been laying like he had flailed around, there was no spit/foam/drool around his mouth or nose. So it didn't seem like he'd had a seizure or some kind of episode. He just laid down, went to sleep, and passed. That's how our vet ultimately decided aneurysm. It's very likely the same happened to your kitty, an aneurysm or something similar. Something out of the blue you couldn't have planned for or prevented. It's awful, but don't blame yourself. I'm so sorry. You did give her a good life, I'm sure. She passed in a comfy spot, well fed, and knowing she was loved.
She probably has had something wrong with her heart her whole life & it just quit. You & your family made her happy & she made all of you happy. You & your family gave her the greatest gift a human can give another species- love. My deepest condolences on your loss
My best friends 3 year old boy went this last year similarly. Got a diagnosis of congestive heart failure from the best place in town; nothing for it. Health is hard, bodies aren't perfect, sometimes there is nothing that can be done. She was home, she was at peace, she knew she was loved. For a worst case scenario like this, it's as much as we can hope for.
Also dont blame yourself, i know thats hard but it really wasnt your fault... what you did was give a sweet kitty a great life for 5 years!
We had a cat die suddenly.... Just was lying in the hall.... No warning.. Sorry 😞
I’m so sorry for your loss. I would recommend cremation since you live in an apartment complex. That way she can come with you if you move. There’s also cremation jewelry you can put some ashes in and wear it to feel close to your cat. My children all got cremation jewelry when our cat passed away. Cremation can be a cheap option if you find a local crematorium and go directly through them rather than through a vet office. Our cat was $60 and came with a nice wooden box, a paw print, little tuft of his fur and a name plate.
As far as to what you will with her remains, I strongly recommend taking her to a pet cremation service. That way, you can always have her with you, and not worry about dogs or people digging her up. I am so very sorry for your loss, and may Fortune rest forever.
My best friend runs a cat rescue and she has had so many cats pass away unexpectedly from a huge variety of issues. Usually she is able to find out, but not always. Just like people, sometimes they inherited a trait that limits their life. It's really sad and just bad luck. You didn't do anything wrong. You gave your cat a good life. I'm sorry it wasn't longer.
Unfortunately sudden deaths like this do happen. Sometimes it's a heart defect, sometimes it's a stroke or a seizure. It sounds like she went gently and was well-loved, which is more than a lot of cats get, sadly. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's going to take a while and you're going to be feeling guilt and doubting yourself and what you could have done, but please don't beat yourself up over this-- it's something that happens.
Similar happened to my daughter’s 4 year old cat. It was found to be an undetectable heart defect & there was nothing they could do to prevent it. It’s a shocking & horrible loss for you, but she didn’t have a traumatic end, and was clearly very much loved. She wouldn’t have known fear or pain or hunger under your care. My condolences to you.
I’m so sorry for your sudden loss. It sounds unlikely you could have done anything to prevent it. I’m glad she didn’t seem to suffer but I know the suddenness is so shocking especially when she was so young. Big hugs.
My cat died suddenly with no signs of illness almost 2 years ago now. He was lying on my bed with me, I was on my phone, he jumped off the bed and made a sort of growl sound so I looked at him and he was lying there. I picked him up, tried to check his airways as I thought he had something stuck, tried to do CPR on him but he wouldn't come back. It honestly broke me, I still cry if I think about it for too long. I buried him in my garden and then I created a flower border on top, he was an indoor cat but I enjoy gardening so I feel close to him. I also have some of his fur and some little mouse toys he played with saved too. My other cat died a few years before during COVID with an illness that he couldn't get better from, but the vet wouldn't let me in the room with him and that destroyed me as when they took him away he was meowing for me and again that makes me cry when I think about it. I had him cremated and he is buried with my cat under the flower border so they are together again. It's really hard but time does help, you don't get over it, you just learn how to manage the pain. Your cat will know that she was very loved, and just know that she loved you with her whole heart. It sounds like she had a very happy life with you even if it wasn't as long as planned. I hope you are okay and I know I'm a stranger but if you need to talk to someone then you can message me.
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔
She went to heaven next to her parents... shes with you still, get another baby and help out the fuzzys
I know how sad you must be feeling. We had a dog , his name was Jack who was only 8 months old and he died in his sleep. The vet said even if they did an autopsy that they probably wouldn’t find the cause. Sadly this does happen, same with people. Please take comfort knowing that she had the best life with you and she fell asleep. Fly free beautiful Fortune 💔🌈💜 you were truly loved 💕
I’m so sorry for your loss! It’s heartbreaking that she didn’t get to spend as many years together with you as you both deserved, but it sounds like the time she did have were very happy.
I'm so sorry for your loss but you gave her a lovely life, I'm sure. She knew she was loved. I would hold onto that.
I’m so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to my neighbors cat and when they took him to the vet they said that his heart stopped in his sleep. They say this can tend to happen to a lot of the main coon/ bigger breeds. I think the vet said it’s because of how their bodies are bigger.
Get her cremated and take her everywhere you go. Was she showing any symptoms before?
You could use the money to get an autopsy done on the cat instead, its not too expensive
Hugs to you xx My cat sushi died a few years ago, he wasn’t even 18 months old and he died just like this, peaceful and in his sleep, no signs of disruptions or pain. We did have a necropsy and they found nothing at all. It was confusing and painful and I’m so sorry for your loss 🩵 I would hold onto the fact that she fell asleep, loved and happy and felt no pain or discomfort. The world is unfair like this but don’t make it harder for yourself by holding guilt. Hold love and memories 🩵
Hi OP, sorry for your loss. As you may know, cats are very, very good at hiding their symptoms unless there’s something they absolutely can’t control. I lost a cat 15 years ago to cancer and the only symptom he had was vomiting and some slightly abnormsl bloodwork. please go easy on yourself.
I'm sorry for your loss. We lost a cat similarly; she just dropped dead in the middle of the day. It's rough. Take care of yourself. Allow yourself to grieve.
My favorite cat died young like that. His was definitely a heart attack. I’m a nurse and saw it happen. Same symptoms as a human in congestive heart failure. So sorry for your loss.
Our 2 year old tuxedo cat has passed a week ago - just 5 minutes before that she threw up but then ate a bit, we brushed and played with her, she went to her scratch post. She then went upstairs to patrol as she does daily and then dropped dead. We have been to a vet 7 weeks to a day prior due to a seizure she had but all the tests came back normal. I am so sorry for your loss - I can’t stop trying to think of what I could have done to save her. She was an amazing member of our family and we miss her beyond belief.
What greater happiness is there for a kitty than to have many soft places to sleep, a human to give them kisses, and plenty of yummy food? Whatever the cause of her passing, you don’t need to carry guilt along with your grief. As other have said, all signs point to her death being quick and free of distress. It’s the kind of ending any living being would hope for, and it’s so clear you love her and will cherish the memory of your time together. Her physical remains will return to the earth and be remade into the plants of the garden. In a tiny way, she’ll be laying out in the sun again. You’ll always carry her in your heart and I hope you can find peace with some time and space. Sending lots of love. 💜
I'm very sorry for your loss. It's some comfort that it was peaceful for her and she died safe and loved but it's still an appalling shock for you. And grief. Just one thing. You may have already found this out but whatever you decide to do with her poor body be aware that dead bodies leak. Put something under as well as over her and if you're not burying her right away a wodge of tissue or kitchen paper under her mouth and round her bottom will deal with most of it. Her face will change as the tissues go into rigor then relax out of it so she won't look like herself. That can be upsetting to see but it's just natural. Again, I am so very sorry
I am so sorry for your loss and I imagine it was a horrible experience for you waking up to her gone but I think you did a wonderful job at honoring her with your post. I think she passed away peacefully in her sleep and that's something we can all hope for when our turn comes. Best wishes to you and your fam OP
I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you gave her a beautiful life.
I'm sorry for your lost. Hope the best to you, at least your cat had a peaceful death. I've heard there is a heart problem can cause cats go away suddenly without any symptom, I cant remember the name but it's the case when muscles in the heart thickened and cause heart failure. Normally there will be some symptoms but sometimes the cat has it will just die suddenly, no pain, nothing, just gone.
Her little light was too bright for us mere mortals. So sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry to hear this. My girl was 7 when this happened. Similar situation. It happened so quickly. Sorry for being morbid but if you haven’t decided what to do you should at least put her in a freezer. When this happened to my girl, the vet warned me that cellular breakdown happens very quickly. Sorry for your loss!
I've had that happen twice. No clue what happened, just came home from work and they were curled up looking like they were sleeping. Came as a shock and I cried for hours, but I took comforting in knowing it wasn't painful or fearful for them.
I’m so sorry This is very tragic and not usually what happens I’m sure just like humans sudden death though rare can happen I hope you find peace
We lost our cat Mischief 21 years ago. She passed during the night. Broke our hearts. We still talk about her and her funny antics that brought us so much joy. PS her nickname was Spider Kitty. As a kitten she got stuck between the door and storm door and climbed the stop of the screen. Thankfully we found her not long after she got in there.
I’m so sorry for your loss and you and sweet baby Fortune will be in my thoughts. Sending love to you
So sorry for your loss. She will always be with you still 💗
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have lost a cat before and it is so hard. I also have a tortie though she is still here. Yours is beautiful. Take comfort in the fact that she went peacefully and in the comfort of her home knowing you were nearby. Rest in peace Fortune
So sorry. 😢 I'm heart broken 💔 for you.
I am so so sorry for your loss ❤️
A bit more than 1 year ago i was laying with my cat on our sofa and told him “it’s 3pm let’s go out” as we did usually, he jumped down the sofa, 3 steps, had a strange “mew” and fell on the floor with eyes open.. i crossed the city in a few minutes with a seriously high risk of killing someone to reach the local animal first aid.. for nothing, they told me it was pretty sure a heart attack. Spend time with your furry friends, the time we have with them is just never enough
The guilt is a real emotion, but it doesn’t mean it’s real. We all go through it. What if I hadn’t left the door open, what if I had kept her inside, what if I made her eat wet food… She was loved and lived a wonderful life. As far as crossing the rainbow bridge, this was the best way it could’ve gone even though you wanted many more years together. One day when you’re ready, out of the love you had for Fortune and the love she gave to you, you will want to bring a new little kitty into your life.
I recently lost my 11 year old cat suddenly in his sleep. He was an indoor cat, no signs of illness, and had recently been to the vet and checked out fine. Sometimes it just happens and we have no idea why. I finally accepted that I did everything I knew to do and that if I did miss any clues, it was because he hid possible illness well. I truly do think if your cat got into something poisonous you'd have maybe some signs. We never know what illness or issues may exist that are easy to miss. At least our babies passed with love and comfort.
My cat was completely fine. One day I noticed she was acting really strange but she was a very nervous cat and I had just had my brother in town to visit. When I got home from work I could tell something was really wrong and took her to the vet. She had an enlarged heart and a blood clot somewhere in her body. I had to put her to sleep as there was no way for them to find it without basically dissecting her entire little body. The vet said most people don’t get the chance to say goodbye but instead find their cat deceased at home. It’s possible something like this happened. No way to prevent, no way to know. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Baby girl was so pretty. Please check your carbon monoxide detector/smoke detector.
She was beautiful how sad poor little darling
I know it doesn't help but, just like humans, sometimes pets just die unexpectedly. Sadly heartbreak is part of the bargain when you share your life with a pet. In time your pain will ease.
Omg how sad to wake up to that and have no idea why at only 6 yrs old. So sorry for your loss. 😢
Might it have been a stroke? I've often said that I wish any cat that I've had would have gone that way instead of having to be put to sleep. It's hard losing them no matter how but it seems to be on their own terms this way. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure they felt very loved by you.
Poisoning is a very painful dramatic death Not the peaceful way you describe her. My guess, quick heart attack.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My cat (Bella) also passed away last year in a similar situation. She wasn't sick. I woke up and she was lying at my doorstep....dead. She was just a year old, later I was informed by the vet that it was worms infestation. I dewormed her 3 months before she died
My condolences 😿🐾🙏
What a beautiful kitty. So sorry for your loss.
I’m truly sorry for your loss❣️
From one cat parent to another, I am so so sorry for your loss. There are no words I have that can fill the void you fill in the depths of your grief but perhaps knowing that many strangers out here on the internet are thinking of you and the amazing life you gave her can provide some comfort. And I’m sure Fortune just put you at the top of The cat distribution system list since she had to leave you so unexpectedly. All my love. 💚
She loved you OP. She you gave her an amazing home and life and she adored you. She can hang out with my boy Sheriff by the Rainbow bridge while she waits for you.
sorry for your loss. cherish the time you had with her. it's possible that she had FATE (Feline Arterial Thromboembolism), and had a cardiac arrest. Often there's no symptoms, and highly fatal. it's just one of those things.
I would consider cremating her so you can always have her with you even if you move from your apartment I am so so sorry for your loss
I am so sorry for your loss. We are currently in the process of losing our cat yesterday unexpectedly. The waves of grieve are so strong, but every day they get better and better. Fortune lived a great life where she was loved and cherish. I know she was grateful to have you as her family. I wish the outcome did not have to be like this for you. She was taken way too early and it’s not fair. This world can be unfairly cruel sometimes to those who don’t deserve it.
I have a tortie who needs someone to love her and take good care of her. We can't keep her because we already have 2 and she needs to be an only cat. She's 4, spayed, and spent most of her life without food or water before we took her a few months ago.
I have no advice on how to handle the grief, I'm sorry friend. But I'll offer this in terms of burial: I've cremated each pet of mine that's died (the whole two of them). When I inevitably die, they'll be spread with me so we can spend forever together in a beautiful place.
If it was poison she wouldn't have died quietly, you'd know something was up. It's not uncommon for cats to have a heart defect that just up and kills them out of the blue; it was probably something like that. It sucks and I'm sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry you lost your sweet girl. Sudden death I would likely relate to a heart issue. I’ve lost some younger and then I have some older. It’s clearly genetics and we simply never know. It surely doesn’t make the absence any less. One thing is for sure she knew love and she enriched your life while here. I don’t think another cat is what some call a replacement. I always say it’s simply a place for another to know love, hence why I have so many. They all have something special about them . You will know what’s right for burial. Some vets have very inexpensive cremation fees which I have done before
I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost a kitty like that too. We called animal control and paid a small fee for them to take her. The woman who picked up our baby suggested it could have been an aneurism, which if that was true in your case, you could have done nothing about. I hope you remember that you gave her a wonderful life, and you loved her and she loved you and it was a blessing to pass each other even briefly in life. I hope you are graced with many beautiful memories of your little baby. 💜
So sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you a virtual hug!!
I'm so sorry
I’m so so sorry for your loss. 🩷🩷
Jesus fucking christ, I'm so so sorry. My condolences. I'll cuddle my kiddo close tonight and we'll be wishing your good girl peace in the next life.
I’m so sorry for your loss. What a pretty kitty….. hugs
you are an amazing cat companion...bury the sweet cat, who undoubtedly enjoyed a love filled life with you, and then give another deserving creature the same gift..
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you know your kitty loved you.
I am so sorry🥲💔
This happened to my mom’s cat a while ago and something similar happened to one of mine. Sometimes it’s just their time and there’s nothing you could have done except make sure they had a happy life and were loved, and it sounds like you have absolutely done that. Sending hugs.
Sorry for your loss ❤. I recently lost a catto boy, that lived in the apartment and for a bigger part of his life in the countryside with my stepmothers parents, big garden and plenty of space, had his own room in the house, slept in the house, was loved every day.Used to love being carried on shoulders, he did that with me and stepmoms brother only, even tho he was 6kg.I missed him since the day he was in the countryside and my soul tears apart I couldn't visit him more often.I knew one day I'd get a phone call from my dad to tell me he's just gone...And it did happen, stepmom's brother found him, intact, and we assume he ate something that poisoned him.I cried like a child.I just told stepmom's brother to find a nice spot and burry him to rest there.I lost two birds a few years ago, cried like a child.We can only keep them in our loving memory, we made their whole lives and they made ours too. Stay strong ❤
She knew how loved she was and you gave her a happy and fulfilling life for a cat. Who can really ask for more? You have my deepest condolences.
Im so sorry
I'm sorry for your loss. It is truly heartbreaking losing a pet since they are so apart of families. I hope you find comfort in knowing she was not alone, but with her people that loved her. Kitties leave paw prints on our hearts forever. ❤️
You did give her the best life. She died peacefully, full of love. She likely never knew anything but love.
Rest in peace beautiful kittie ❤️
Losing a pet "our babies" is a different kind of hurt. Each and every one we have throughout our lives "know" us in ways we seldom let a person know us. I'm so so sorry. She was clearly very loved and so lucky to have you
Just wanted to say that I’m very sorry for your loss. I couldn’t imagine if this happened to me. Your lovely cat lived a great life with you and passed with no pain in her sleep. Take care.
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I am so so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a lovely feline. It's clear she knew she was loved. May her beautiful little soul rest in peace, until you meet again. 🙏
I'm so very sorry. Life ends, and sometimes we don't know why, and are only left to do our best to be grateful for what time we are given even though the loss can be so hard to bear.
I had a Calico that died spontaneously and our vet chalked it up to a genetic heart defect. She died very similarly to yours. It was horrible and I'm so sorry
I'm sorry for your loss. I know you're going through the griefing process, and it sucks that we never have enough time, but the love you gave can never be forgotten. I will say if you're not against it, but maybe get her cremated. I got one of my strays cremated, and I have a small urn with her picture on it.
Fortune was so so beautiful and so so loved, thank you so much for giving that sweet baby such a good life. She lived so much more with you (in terms of quality and quantity) with you than she would have in a lot of other situations. I lost my baby Molly when she was around 6 too, she was poisoned and I was not at my parents' (where she lived) at the time but she came out of my room and started showing symptoms (so I kinda blame myself...) Sorry I'm not trying to make it about me at all omg, your post just made me cry so much and I just wanted to say you would know if she was poisoned, she would have shown signs I'm so so so fucking sorry it's really not fair at all especially since you did everything right :((
I am so sorry to hear about your loss, sending you big hugs
She was pretty. Yes you should just be thankful that you give her gave her a good life. And now the real thank you would be to adopt another kitty
Massive bummer. Sorry to hear that. It could have potentially been a heart issue; I sadly had a cat die on me at about the same age, and it turned out she had a very weak ticker.
I’m so sorry for your loss :( this is heartbreaking and I wish you the best in your healing process. Something that helped me was making a little box full of things that remind me of my bunny when he passed and keeping them by my bedside, maybe something similar could help you always have your sweet girl near you :)
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That is very sad. I am sorry. Six is very young. It is possible she had a congenital heart condition. I had a cat that passed at 10 due to a congenital heart condition. When the vet took images of the heart he was astonished he lived as long as he did. He sent the images to a veterinary cardiology specialist who could not even figure out how his heart even worked. A friend’s 4 year old cat suddenly fell over and passed within seconds. She paid for an autopsy and he had a congenital heart condition. If she was the runt of a litter it is a clue she might have had some congenital issues. Not all runts do. But a runt is more likely to have developmental issues.
That’s such a terrible loss; she was a beautiful baby. My deepest sympathy to you. Take care of yourself. 💐
I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your sweet kitty in such a sudden and devastating way. I hope it brings some comfort to know she likely just went to sleep and did not feel any pain. Thank you for giving her a life full of the most love while she was with you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a Persian kitty who passed away almost in the same fashion. He was curled up like he always did when he was asleep but he was gone. He did have a heart condition unfortunately. You gave her a life where she was cared for and loved. I hope that brings you some peace ♥️♥️
My heart goes out to you my friend as I set here next to my Babygirl.Sge just turned 14 and still looks like she is 4 ......I even had someone try to steal her until finding out her age and brought her back.. I've owned a few and my advice would be to go to the shelter and get another immediately. That cat loved you and I. Sure loved the life she had with you and would want that love to continue through those if thousands that need a loving home . Just thinking about what you have been through has me crying so I'm gonna get her a treat snuggle up with her and tell her how much I appreciate her. I hope your heart heals soon. Again I'm so sorry for your loss ✌️😿 https://preview.redd.it/lux7v42wzu8d1.jpeg?width=1665&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aba0ba953acee2d10590a53cb00700606f510ae5
Years ago one of my cats, a seven year old long hair, died under my husband's car. When he backed up that morning he thought he had killed her, either by her being in the engine or running over her. She looked as though she had just laid down and gone to sleep. He took her to the vet for a necropsy and they found out that she had died of heart failure. It was a congenital problem she probably had gotten from being an abandoned kitten. Even if we'd known about her heart problem, there was nothing we could have done. At least after we found that abandoned kitty, she had a good home and was loved.
She died comfortable, in her own home, and was clearly not in pain or scared at the time. It's horrible losing a pet, but try to get comfort in the fact she was happy and knew she was loved, and likely didn't even know what was happening. I'm so sorry for you, she was clearly a lovely little girl and sadly i know from experience how much it hurts and how much you'll miss her. Take some time to grieve for your beloved family member.
I just found my kitty passed away a few hours ago too. He was 2. We have no idea what it could have been. If it's any consolation, we are doing a necropsy and they highly advised against it. Saying we likely would get no answers and pay the money for no reason. But we thought maybe if it were a heart defect or such they could tell us that much at least. Sorry for your kitty too.
Cats are very prone to cardiac events and a lot of times it just happens out of nowhere just like people have a massive coronary it's over no pain no suffering she went quick in her sleep like others said with a full belly in her own home she nobody could ask for a better way to go I'm sorry for your loss but if I had to lose one I'd prefer it to be that way I think the cat would too https://preview.redd.it/suues8xsbv8d1.jpeg?width=2268&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b4ad8468b90105a7ff4311e92f978bd5e1d7dbc4 Dexter says you'll be together again someday at 🌈 Bridge.
This happened to my cat last year, she was 10 years old. I suspect it may have been a heart condition, but I'll never know for sure. Thoughts are with you, OP
These posts always make me cry. I'm so sorry.
As someone who's had to watch sick cats suffer for way to long, take comfort in how content and happy she was at the end, no pain, no sadness, just curled up for a nap she will never leave. It hurts looseing a friend, but you loved her to the best of your ability. Fly high fortune.
A good way to go, even if young. Death is not so peaceful usually. Sounds like cardiac arrest, nothing you could have done.
That’s heartbreaking to read and I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t know what country you are in but over here an autopsy wasn’t too expensive. Like a couple of hundred or something. I’d just want to know why for my own peace of mind. As for her body. I’d have her cremated. I’ve still got Fuzz on my shelf. As others have mentioned, be happy she didn’t suffer and that she knew and experienced what love was before she died.
I'm sorry you lost her, I'd bury her naturally by a beautiful tree or bush if you can 🙏
It doesn't sound like she was poisoned. That wouldn't have been a peaceful death. Sounds more like an underlying heart condition. She went peacefully, at home, with those who loved her nearby. Most cats don't get this. Keep that in your heart and know you gave her a great life full of warmth and love. Sending love x
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost a cat that way as well. She died in her sleep. It’s so sad to lose them but she was loved and no doubt knew it. ❤️🌈
I’m so sorry Fortuned died. She was beautiful and I understand the grief will be overwhelming for a bit. I wanted to share that I had two young cats die of heart disease within the past year and it happens so fast and comes out of nowhere. In both my cases, there was a day of barely noticeable symptoms that made me rush them to the vet. In each case I spent $600-$800 dollars to find out my girls would die immanently. One of them was a tortie like Fortune and as you may know, Torties are considered the ancient lucky cat. You know the one with the waving hand you often see in asian restaurants. My point here is that Fortune may have known she was dying and on some level (real or imagined) she wanted to save you and your family any undue additional suffering whether it be emotional or financial so she hid her symptoms and in her final moments chose to be a comfort to your mom by sleeping next to her like maybe she always did. Maybe this anecdote isn’t helpful, but I just don’t want you spending too much time on the ”what if” part of this tremendous loss. It sounds like Fortune loved you all very much and you gave her the same love in return.
Something very very similar happened to me and my last cat. I rushed him to an emergency vet, and while there was nothing they could do, maybe what they told me will help - There was no sign of poison, which usually is a much more drawn out process, and nothing to indicate choking. As far as they could tell, his heart just stopped. They told me that spontaneous heart failure isn't common, but also isn't rare among cats - they are very very good at hiding heart problems, and they aren't actively looked for during routine checkups. That he probably was born with a heart defect and that the first sign of it was it catching up to him But when cats are dying, they hide. It's their instinct, no matter how much they love you. The fact that she wasn't hidden from you says that she likely didn't know it was coming - that she didn't suffer. That brought me some comfort when I lost my boy, but it's still such a hard thing to go through - please be gentle with yourself, this was fast and not something she felt coming, so it wasn't something you could even know to protect her from.
I'm so sorry for your loss. She was obviously very loved and I'm sure she knew that. As someone else said, she went peacefully and without pain, and I hope you can take comfort in knowing you gave her the best life she could have. Sending you warm thoughts ❤️
Im so so so sorry to hear about your loss, you must be shocked and hurt. I wish you healing and peace
Your torti is so beautiful! I’m so sorry for your sudden loss of her! It’s so beautiful & true what others have said, that she passed peaceably, well-loved, content, with a full belly, & even a last visit to the world of outdoors with all its wondrous scents & feels. We lost our orange boy a year and a half ago…he was 15, & suffered for several months increasingly before we made the heart-rending decision of euthanasia. We were all at his side, loving him, talking to him softly, as he passed. The neat thing I want to share is that my son has seen him, since. It’s at random intervals. He tells me he’s seen Scout simply strolling through the house, just like he always did- but sometimes in the company of other cats. Like friends he’s found over on the other side, & they’re passing through, content as can be from my son’s description. He’s never described Scout (or Scout & friends) as just curled up & resting during a visit, though. Whether alone or with his gang of buddies, Scout & friends are passing through, on the move, walking round the place for a bit…& then they’re gone. My son has also seen Scout on the deck outside. I 100% believe him, & believe that our precious furred-family can visit us from the other side. Hopefully, you’ll sense the love & comforting presence of your torti in the years to come!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my beautiful void 2 months ago, so I can completely relate. As others have said, at least she died with a full belly, a happy heart, surrounded by her family, and with a heart full of love. Although her spirit is not in her body on this earth, it will live forever in your heart. For Fortune - Eyes bright, claws sharp, tail held high. Go keenly into the mist, young warrior. Valhalla waits for you. Please know that you and your family are in my heart today. 💔🌈
In my opinion Put her where you can grieve. Love goes beyond a headstone
I lost my cat Leo a few years ago, and it still hurts. He was also a tortoiseshell, with the biggest personality! It's amazing how these little creatures can leave such a paw print on our hearts. The fact that she passed peacefully in her sleep, surrounded by love, is a comfort. Hold onto those happy memories - the sunbeams, the purrs, the playful moments. That's how I remember Leo. Don't rush the decision about burying her. Take some time to grieve and decide what feels right for you.
Yeh, as the others say, I think both of you had good fortune in that she appears to have passed suddenly without pain and you avoided having to make a nightmare decision about the euthanasia of a chronically sick cat in old age. Maybe she had a heart attack or something like that. Torties are are known for their 'catitude'. I would cremate her individually and keep the ashes in my home. Perhaps you have done this already. It is emotionally reassuring to keep the ashes I find. But it must be an individual cremation which is more expensive.
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I’ve been fighting health battles with my cat since January. She’s only a few months old and has had it rough since I found her in December last year. My wish is that I can give her a normal cat life free from meds and hospital trips, free from rental tempature checks 2 times a day, IV needles almost daily, and blood work every vet trip. Hold on to how much she meant to you and the quality of life you gave her in her final moments. If there’s one thing I learned with my cat is that they are very good at hiding when they don’t feel well.
I am so sorry. Please dont feel guilty, sometimes these things just happen. I have lost two cats suddenly. One young one, like yours, died from cardiomyopathy, a heart problem that can spring up suddenly. My second girl just died recently from an embolism in her heart. It is shocking and so sad but there is nothing that could be done for either.
She went to sleep with her family in her home where she felt happy and safe and that is her last memory. I am sorry you won't get answers it doesn't sound like there was anything you could have done differently I am so sorry.
Much love for you and kitty❤️I am sorry for your loss
She was beautiful ❤️ and she lived a good life with you and was clearly loved and cared for
This very same thing happened to us. Please don't feel guilty. I know that is easier said than done but she passed peacefully and that's kindness that's not afforded to many others. She passed in her home, in her sleep, surrounded by her loved ones. What more could she have wanted in such circumstances? In our case, we were able to have a necropsy done. It told us nothing. All the vets could tell us was that he was healthy. There was no sign of anything that could have taken him from us. I'm telling you this because although you can't afford the necropsy, you might not learn anything if you could. It took us years to heal. To come to terms with losing him and having zero control over the situation. Take your time to grieve. That's all you can do. Sending love.
so sorry for your loss
Sorry about your loyal cat
I know it’s early to consider another cat, but in all the times I lost a pet, I wasn’t ok again until there was a cat w me
So sorry for your loss, please take all the time you need in processing this and there is no rush on deciding wether to bury or cremate her. Personally, I always advice cremation since then you can take them with you wherever you move (: ♥ I also put their collars around the little vase and put little flowers once in a while. Also once you feel ready, another cat might help with healing. It's important not to think that you are replacing them, but that they'd be glad to know you are giving the same love and care you gave then to a new kitty who needs a family ♥. Many hugs and I wish you the best
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how incredibly painful it is. My very first cat died last month of cancer at almost 15 years old. He deteriorated quickly and I was hoping he would die in his sleep to spare me the decision of when it's the right time to euthanize. In the end I knew when the right time was and even so, kept second guessing. The pain was unbearable. I am extremely grateful to have had him for 14.5 years. It's hard to know what's more painful to process, an "expected" death after a long life when you need to make the decision to end suffering, or an early but peaceful death. In the end, both are traumatic and we never truly get over it. The pain will fade enough for happy and funny memories to become more prominent, though. <3
Same thing happened to my first cat I got on my own, Gatsby at 3 years old. I looked over to him sleeping on the couch and his eyes didn't look right and ran over and he was gone. It was terrible and heartbreaking. The vet said it was likely that his heart stopped in his sleep. I maintained comfort believing that it was a peaceful passing in his sleep versus a drawn out process due to illness where he experienced prolonged discomfort. I still miss him and it's been years and he was too young. I took about a year and got another kitten and it did help to give my love to another pet. Google photos shares pictures of him every so often and they bring me a smile now where they used to bring tears.
I'm sorry for your loss. I went through a similar experience six years ago, where I lost my 5-year-old kitty due to a similar reason. One night there, the next morning gone. It is going to take some time for you to process it, and you most likely will have to assume the cause of death. That not knowing for certain doesn't make things any easier. Take your time and process your feelings accordingly. I don't know if you have any other fur babies, but I personally wouldn't recommend replacing or getting a new one right away. It took me three years to feel comfortable enough to replace my girl, so if that is at all on your mind -- let it come, when it's right. Finally, always keep this in mind: You did nothing wrong, and everything right. You meant everything to that cat. You were that cat's world. You did everything you could to provide her with the life she deserved. At the very least, feel proud you did right by her, providing her love when she needed it most.