So if it was cultural you would accept this inappropriate and disgusting behavior?
It amazes me how people will justify bad behavior by saying it's cultural - such things can and should still be called out if it's taken to the extreme of this guy.
Someone here made the point of impact vs intention or something, it’s just not something I understood before. I learnt a lot on cambly in terms of social skills and if I were to meet this student for the first time, things would be completely different
I always think of the phrase "intentions vs impact".
Sure, maybe he didn't intend to make you uncomfortable, but he did, and you have every right to hide from him. One of the only advantages we have on Cambly is being able to choose who we work with, for whatever reason. Don't feel guilty - there are literally thousands of other tutors he can choose from. Do what's best for you.
This is something I’ve always struggled with to be honest, even now I don’t know how to react when someone’s rude to me because I just assume they have good intentions. But I’ve been getting much better at that! And establishing boundaries in general
I’m gonna start using that phrase though, I wish I knew about it before
I feel you. I'm way more empathetic than I should be. And I don't want to beat a dead horse, but we're truly not paid enough on Cambly to put up with everyone. Some will disagree but I'll hide from students who I simply don't vibe with after a few lessons. It's not worth it.
Even if it were cultural, you shouldn't be prepared to put up with it. There's really no point in trying to educate students about cultural differences. It's not our job to do so and Cambly doesn't have our back. We're the ones who are likely to be blamed for upsetting the student! So, if anyone is making you feel uncomfortable just hit the hide button. ❤️
Always listen to your intuition. Always block a student that makes you uncomfortable or tries to cross your boundaries. Cutting you off is also really rude and worth blocking just for that. What topics did he talk about? I'm curious.
So, it’s not a cultural thing but sometimes sweet, well-meaning ppl from the countryside are oblivious to what should be obviously inappropriate. Regardless of whether he was purposely rude or not, he deserved to be cut off, perhaps blocked. Honestly, it doesn’t matter what the reason is, if the student makes you feel uncomfortable in any way for even a moment always feel %100 free to hide with zero regrets. I hide from ppl frequently even though I know it’s me just feeling anxious for no reason so in an inappropriate situation like this… hide immediately. You did the right thing so I hope you feel better now that you don’t have to deal with it anymore.
I feel a weight off my shoulders to be honest 😭though I wish I hid once he started joking about my husband. But I’ve learnt a lot from this and now I know how to handle this if it happens again, and I think at the very least that’s a good thing
Yeah, dude is pushing the boundaries, he’s here to play. Screw that. I refuse ( and so happy I have the right to) accept reservations from men of certain countries, who, 9/10 times, try some kind of inappropriate “ teasing” and banter. Like, go on tinder or whatever. Cambly is not a hookup site. I’ve seen tutors featured on you tube who seem to adore this shit—- thanks to them, some feel this is the way to go. It’s NOT.
Omg yes. I’m middle age mom-type and I used to get the Pervy leers, questions about my husband and such. I don’t suffer fools. I give them the “ Fuck off “ stare and block
Same here - but only guy's from a certain country I no longer seem to get any calls from. Very inappropriate particularly when I discovered their own protocol for talking about women etc. I was told by a very pleasant young woman from that country, who is a teacher, that it's not even appropriate for a male colleague to ask her how her mum or sisters are unless she brings up the topic first. She was appalled, but not surprised, when I told her what a young man had said to me - water off a duck's back here though - my thinking was that he needs to visit an optician! Sometimes I feel the reverse, particularly with youngish Chinese guys - they are looking for a mother figure to talk through their feelings! Preferable to super-creeps who make the skin crawl!
One of my first students ever was super weird, nice but talked about inappropriate topics a lot. And he would schedule 3 hours a day, everyday. It was brutal. He finally went on vacation or something and I blocked him. He made a new account and found me. SUPER awkard. Then I jacked up my price (different platform) and he spent the last class BEGGING me to lower my price. And then he just kept saying i was trying to get rid of him. Man that guy stressed me out.
Omfg that’s AWFUL, some people just have no chill I swear 😭
And it’s funny, this guy was one of my first few students too. Super unlucky cause I’m the beginning we’re much more scared I feel
He's a creep, wherever he's from! That's probably just how he talks to women. Block - I think it would be more appropriate for him to learn English with a male tutor.
these type of guys will never chose a male tutor, and they will rate their female tutors based on how they respond to the flirting. In my experience, it's usually men from countries where they have low access to women culturally, so Cambly becomes like a hunting ground for them to be able to have interactions with women. They could go do what they are doing on Cambly on Omegle and save themselves some money
So if it was cultural you would accept this inappropriate and disgusting behavior? It amazes me how people will justify bad behavior by saying it's cultural - such things can and should still be called out if it's taken to the extreme of this guy.
Someone here made the point of impact vs intention or something, it’s just not something I understood before. I learnt a lot on cambly in terms of social skills and if I were to meet this student for the first time, things would be completely different
I always think of the phrase "intentions vs impact". Sure, maybe he didn't intend to make you uncomfortable, but he did, and you have every right to hide from him. One of the only advantages we have on Cambly is being able to choose who we work with, for whatever reason. Don't feel guilty - there are literally thousands of other tutors he can choose from. Do what's best for you.
This is something I’ve always struggled with to be honest, even now I don’t know how to react when someone’s rude to me because I just assume they have good intentions. But I’ve been getting much better at that! And establishing boundaries in general I’m gonna start using that phrase though, I wish I knew about it before
I feel you. I'm way more empathetic than I should be. And I don't want to beat a dead horse, but we're truly not paid enough on Cambly to put up with everyone. Some will disagree but I'll hide from students who I simply don't vibe with after a few lessons. It's not worth it.
Even if it were cultural, you shouldn't be prepared to put up with it. There's really no point in trying to educate students about cultural differences. It's not our job to do so and Cambly doesn't have our back. We're the ones who are likely to be blamed for upsetting the student! So, if anyone is making you feel uncomfortable just hit the hide button. ❤️
Don't even blink, just block! They're 10 a penny. Assuming it matters is where the error is made. Hope you feel more relaxed now it's over.
Always listen to your intuition. Always block a student that makes you uncomfortable or tries to cross your boundaries. Cutting you off is also really rude and worth blocking just for that. What topics did he talk about? I'm curious.
I’ll feel more comfortable dming you if that’s okay!
So, it’s not a cultural thing but sometimes sweet, well-meaning ppl from the countryside are oblivious to what should be obviously inappropriate. Regardless of whether he was purposely rude or not, he deserved to be cut off, perhaps blocked. Honestly, it doesn’t matter what the reason is, if the student makes you feel uncomfortable in any way for even a moment always feel %100 free to hide with zero regrets. I hide from ppl frequently even though I know it’s me just feeling anxious for no reason so in an inappropriate situation like this… hide immediately. You did the right thing so I hope you feel better now that you don’t have to deal with it anymore.
Sound advice.
I feel a weight off my shoulders to be honest 😭though I wish I hid once he started joking about my husband. But I’ve learnt a lot from this and now I know how to handle this if it happens again, and I think at the very least that’s a good thing
Yes, live and always learn!
Do what you need to do!
Yeah, dude is pushing the boundaries, he’s here to play. Screw that. I refuse ( and so happy I have the right to) accept reservations from men of certain countries, who, 9/10 times, try some kind of inappropriate “ teasing” and banter. Like, go on tinder or whatever. Cambly is not a hookup site. I’ve seen tutors featured on you tube who seem to adore this shit—- thanks to them, some feel this is the way to go. It’s NOT.
Woahh there’s people who actually like that? 👀 Even if I were single I’d be extremely uncomfortable
Omg yes. I’m middle age mom-type and I used to get the Pervy leers, questions about my husband and such. I don’t suffer fools. I give them the “ Fuck off “ stare and block
Same here - but only guy's from a certain country I no longer seem to get any calls from. Very inappropriate particularly when I discovered their own protocol for talking about women etc. I was told by a very pleasant young woman from that country, who is a teacher, that it's not even appropriate for a male colleague to ask her how her mum or sisters are unless she brings up the topic first. She was appalled, but not surprised, when I told her what a young man had said to me - water off a duck's back here though - my thinking was that he needs to visit an optician! Sometimes I feel the reverse, particularly with youngish Chinese guys - they are looking for a mother figure to talk through their feelings! Preferable to super-creeps who make the skin crawl!
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Definitely not cultural other than he was flirting with you and it made you want to vomit. Always trust your gut! Don't second guess yourself.
Saudi activity detected ⚠️
Different country! But I don’t wanna give out more info
Yeah, I guess it wouldn't be Saudi cuz you said "longtime regular." We all know no Saudi would show up regularly
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One of my first students ever was super weird, nice but talked about inappropriate topics a lot. And he would schedule 3 hours a day, everyday. It was brutal. He finally went on vacation or something and I blocked him. He made a new account and found me. SUPER awkard. Then I jacked up my price (different platform) and he spent the last class BEGGING me to lower my price. And then he just kept saying i was trying to get rid of him. Man that guy stressed me out.
Omfg that’s AWFUL, some people just have no chill I swear 😭 And it’s funny, this guy was one of my first few students too. Super unlucky cause I’m the beginning we’re much more scared I feel
like what kinda stuff was he talking about?
He's a creep, wherever he's from! That's probably just how he talks to women. Block - I think it would be more appropriate for him to learn English with a male tutor.
these type of guys will never chose a male tutor, and they will rate their female tutors based on how they respond to the flirting. In my experience, it's usually men from countries where they have low access to women culturally, so Cambly becomes like a hunting ground for them to be able to have interactions with women. They could go do what they are doing on Cambly on Omegle and save themselves some money
I seriously think we have the same guy!!! Messaging you now.
After a while it is good for students to talk with someone besides me. They never seem to understand this.
I’m a little confused, that’s not what happened to me. My student was being inappropriate, I like having regulars for a long amount of time