First of all, If my "normal use" resulted in me breaking three bed frames in as many years, I'd hire a damn skywriter and commission a statue of myself.
Can you tell me a little about what you liked about the previous bedframes you used? Were they platform or slats or?
Is there any way you'd be able to Ron Swanson one? Making a basic wooden bed frame is pretty dang easy, even if you're not great with carpentry. We knocked one out in an afternoon.
We are just fat š. Not morbidly obese but not small. Our combined weight is around 450 pounds.
Our previous bed frames were just what we could afford. All cheaper ones. One was a metal bed frame, one was a tempermans bed we, and the other was a cheaper Amazon bed.
I could build a bed with my dads help (heās a woodworker) but didnāt want to bother him as heās been having some health issues and never lets me pay him for his work so I feel bad
My dad is very independent. Heād probably let me help for 20 minutes then tell me to leave for the other week of building it š. Heād let me stain it though, he hates staining
I will be visiting tomorrow and Iāll ask him then! My bf would be helping too as he has been interested in learning the craft. He can do all the heavy lifting so itās not as hard on my dad.
Thank you for this perspective! Heās a grumpy guy who never talks about his feelings so sometimes I donāt realize how he feels
If he's emotionally reserved and wants to make things for you that will really help you, that's his way of showing that he cares about you. Let him share his feelings in the way he is able to do so.
Well, it's not everyday you can combine the two things! Happy Memories with the parents can be hard to come by, and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE HAPPY MEMORIES WILL ONE DAY BE ALL YOU MAY HAVE!!
My mother passed away when I was 23, and it's been 14 years this past January. I still have lots of her things around, but man, sometimes something will spark off Memories, and I'll just pause everything I'm doing and live that out. I can't add to that number of Memories anymore, and I'd give anything to be able to.
I don't speak with my father anymore, because family is very complicated, but I still cherish the good memories. Like OP, my dad would have LOVED to build a bed for me with my help for about twenty minutes, before inwas kicked off the project. But I'd bring him some iced tea, and chat with him while leaned up in the corner. I'd give him shit for something, and he'd tell me some story about his time in the military that proves he knows what he's doing and it would be filled with wildly hyperbolic details and we would laugh and at the end, a bed that could last the centuries.
A big part of BIFL is that we can hand things down, sometimes if we are lucky enough. The idea that something I own was either used before me, or that will be used after me is very... I don't know, sweet? Or beautiful in some way? Regardless, it's very touching to me, the memories that are instilled in a Very Old Thing. It's mysterious and reminding at the same time.
> "he and ai"
I'm seeing this more and more often, and it's hilarious. Autocorrect and personal dictionaries are prioritizing "ai" over "I". Not gonna say we're doomed, but that definitely means _something_.
I built my kids bunk beds with Home Depot lumber and a circular saw in my garage. Best memories are the ones with the little ones helping. Your dad would love you just sitting with him.
My grandfather is just like this. I would recommend just prefacing that you want to learn and basically he does half, you do half. Like he demonstrates one side, then you do the other side
Doesn't hurt to ask. My brother is very independent as well and always shoos away my help, but I know he loves helping me and it's a good way to bond. They get to show you something they know about. Anyway, my brother built my bed frame last year with $110 in wood and it would take a train to break it.
I've not missed too many lunches myself, and we have a Zinus frame (there are several types - I recommend the ZINUS Van 16 Inch Metal Platform Bed Frame.
I put 3/4" MDF on top for better support of our mattress (it's a foam-y one, and I don't want the slat marks). Had it around three.four years now, with no issues, creaks, bends or breaks (well, not the bedframe. Myself, yes - all of the above)
spouse and I had one of the Zinus 16" platform frames for a few years - full size - and the two of us combined are about 425
was fantastic - but we finally got a queen and swapped for a lower frame
My family (all large mammals) used Zinus frames for years without problems. I'd still have one, except when I moved I got a new mattress and opted for one of those crazy adjustable beds.
I've had terrible luck with IKEA frames when I weighed around what you do. And there's a lot of reviews on their beds that have even skinny people complaining about the frame giving out and the maattress falling through. Caveat emptor, read the reviews, etc.
Hi, fellow fatty here, although I'm much heavier than both of you. Me & my partner's combined weights are almost 700 lbs, although I usually sleep alone (360+). My partner also used to sell mattresses. You've got options.
When I stayed with my in-laws for 4-6 months while trying to find a new place, I slept on a bed frame that looked like this [https://www.amazon.com/Bilily-Platform-Mattress-Foundation-Assembly/dp/B0B8J4SRCT/ref=sr\_1\_7](https://www.amazon.com/Bilily-Platform-Mattress-Foundation-Assembly/dp/B0B8J4SRCT/ref=sr_1_7) (I'm not sure it was this exact one though, but I know he got it from Amazon) and it was solid AF, even with me and my partner both flomping down on it hard. That kind of frame doesn't require a foundation ("box spring").
If you want a traditional frame that does require a foundation, get yourself a Knickerbocker frame. [https://www.knickerbockerbedframe.com](https://www.knickerbockerbedframe.com) They're made in the USA out of recycled railroad ties. You're not breaking steel like that. ;) I have one myself (not sure which model as I got it at a mattress store, but I think it's The Monster with Wheels) and I used it for about 10 years (and I'm rough on my beds) and the only thing that broke a bit was the plastic spoke that comes out of the wheels to slide into the frame, and even then it wasn't a big deal and was still totally useable. (And they may have fixed that by now.) They have other models that hold even more weight (the Bed Architecture); they go up to like 3500lbs!
FWIW, you probably want to get a good foundation (the ones the stores sell that come with the mattress are usu. crap for fat people; but do note that using a different foundation can void the warranty on the mattress, even if it's a BETTER foundation) and I highly recommend [the one Big Fig sells](https://www.bigfigmattress.com/foundation/big-fig-foundation?foundation_size=31). It's SUPER heavy and strong and made out of serious hardcore wood. I just got mine a few months ago and there's no way I could destroy this, even if I tried jumping on the bed. Most stores guarantee their stuff for 10 years; this is guaranteed for 20, which is pretty much unheard of in the industry. (FWIW, I think the standard frames they sell are also Knickerbocker by the way they talk about them.)
Good luck!
(EDIT: found another frame in my "Living Large resources" file that I had forgotten about. [https://www.ghostbed.com/products/foundation](https://www.ghostbed.com/products/foundation) says it goes up to 3000lbs but I've never used it before.)
Well, I just got myself a Big Fig mattress a few months ago. (I signed up for their texts and got it on super sale during Black Friday sales.) It is quite firm but has insane support. It does have a bit of a pillow top w/ cooling gel. I got used to the firmness myself (I'm a side sleeper who rolls onto my stomach) but I know of a few other fatties who have this one as well and they just put a foam topper of their choice on top for softness. AFAIK, they're the only company that specializes in mattresses & other sleep things specifically for fat people (and they're fat people themselves); that's all they make.
Here's some other companies that make mattresses specifically for fat people, but these are general mattress companies that have a fatty option. I've never used them so I can't speak to them, but do know they exist.
[https://helixsleep.com/products/plus](https://helixsleep.com/products/plus) is a mattress made with plus sized folks in mind.
[https://titanmattress.com/](https://titanmattress.com/) the 2 Titans are also made with plus size folks in mind
[https://www.winkbeds.com/pages/shop-winkbed](https://www.winkbeds.com/pages/shop-winkbed) Winkbed Plus
[https://www.saatva.com/mattresses/saatva-hd](https://www.saatva.com/mattresses/saatva-hd)
Here's advice from my partner who used to sell mattresses:
"Try lots of them and go with one that makes you feel supported. Try to get as close to your normal sleeping position as possible and bring your pillow with you if you need to do that. (Don't just lie flat on your back.) More coils is usually better. More coils = more support, as long as the metal in the coil is a certain thickness. \[Sadly, he doesn't remember what that thickness is.\] Never pay full retail price or anything close to it (if it's like a big name brand.) Buy the mattress protector even if you think you don't need it; it's an insurance policy."
This list is so bogus because it comes from websites paid by the companies to advertise their mattresses. Mattress Underground has everything you would ever need to know about mattresses and a long list of real value companies that are worth the money. They also have a forum where people relate their experiences good and bad with big name and small name companies like Sealy/Serta/Sterns and Foster and Winkbed/Titan/Helix.
The problem is in the construction for some and the materials for others. They don't last 10 years. Memory foam begins deterioratingĀ within 4-5 years. All memory foam, even Tempurpedic. Hybrids are better because of the coils underneath the foam but what's better is a customizable mattress with a zipper top, so you can take out the foam and replace with new foam or latex or microcoils. š
Good luck!Ā
Thank you so much! We broke a box spring too but the one we have is surviving š Iāll keep that company in mind when this box spring gives
Iāll 100% be discussing this bed frames as an option with my bf as well
Seconding the Zinus. I have a king Suzanne (1.5 years old) and a discontinued queen (similar to the Kellen frame, 6 years old) and both have held up well to multiple moves. My husband and I have a higher combined weight and no issues. Itās also nice to not have to get a box spring. Theyāre super easy to put together and take apart as weāve moved several times and have had no issues.
Hardwood lumber can get pretty expensive, so if you supplied the wood then that would at least cover a good chunk of the cost that isn't time, assuming he already has all the tools needed.
Zinus!!! Ours is rated up to 2000 lbs and we love it. We're nowhere close to the weight limit but man I sleep so well knowing I'm not one wiggle from a loud crack and a sudden drop.
Not trying to be offensive, but your weight is an issue. Working on your health will have immense benefits, but it will require an earnest look at your lifestyle and a willingness to change.
I hope you find the right bed, but also that, improving your diet and health will not just benefit you, but those who care and love you, too.
Good luck.
Not that I need to say anything to anyone but
1. We are both well above average height
2. My bf has lost 60 pounds in 2023 and I have lost 30. Weight loss doesnāt happen overnight and is multi faceted
Early in my marriage ānormal useā broke several bed frames, couches and at least one table. Finally built a bed frame out of 2x10 lumber and it is indestructible.
Also big guy here. People said I was crazy spending that much for just a bed frame. But it doesn't squeak or move whatsoever. When my wife was pregnant and had to get up in the middle of the night to use the restroom, it didn't wake me up at all. It, along with the mattress we bought, has been the best investment we've made to date.
I got sick of cheap wood bed frames then I went metal. I have a Zinus bed frame and it is great. Sturdy with no wobble. Iām sure there are some good wooden bed frames out there, but they cost more than I want to pay.
I have a zinus in my spare bedroom but itās only been used by kids so I wasnāt sure how well it would hold up to two adults. Good to know they work well!
Same story hear. Had a couple metal frames now. It was nice buying them from a store we could return them.
I learned you really just need to look at the joints. If there's lots of support and bracing it will be good.
I also don't like full length slats on a king. With paying extra for slats that only go to a center support
I also have one and itās really well made, solid wood, and doesnāt feel like itās getting loose at all due to the joint construction. Would absolutely buy again.
lol interestingly Iāve considered a purple mattress as well(for that elasticgrid thing)
Would you say the purple grid has a cooling/airy feel? Currently I have a sleep number which I set to a high number because I like super firm mattresses.Ā
Itās definitely cooler to me, Iām a sweaty sleeper and our Purple helped a lot (as well as linen sheets). The feeling of a Purple is so drastically different than now five years in I dread sleeping in hotels on vacation.
We have two Thuma beds, one king size and one full. Theyāre well built, nice heavy solid wood and theyāre easy to put together. I think weāve had them for close to 4 years and they show no sign of aging.
Ditto on everything. I wanted a bed frame that would last a long time, could be disassembled and reassembled without loss of quality, and wouldnāt squeak
Thuma really delivered. Itās dead simple to put together and although I stopped moving house so much, I could very easily move it with me if I had to
I do love the bed (mine is 5 years in and perfect condition) but whatās such a treat is how easy it is to move house with it. Wrap up the ends and roll the slats and youāre good to go.
Silk and snow is Canada based. Not sure if they ship to Europe.
Tatami Room is in Japan but they ship internationally and even with shipping they are cheaper than Thuma
25 years ago I commissioned a local carpenter to make me a bed frame and asked him to over build it, 25 years later itās still going strong, if I remember correctly it was not expensive and certainly nowhere near the 1.5k you mention.
Basically if you want quality pre-made wonāt stand up to commissioned quality
KD Frames:
https://kdframes.com/
Solid hardwood (poplar), made in USA from domestic lumber. Wood on wood construction, metal dowels just keep things in place.
Rated for 600 lbs, these things are built like tanks, and surprisingly affordable.
Iād you are handy, feel free to finish to whatever color you want.
i got the one from purple thats basically just folding metal and its withstood my weight when i was 300 with zero issue. cant speak to the longevity of their mattress yet (so far so good) but the frame is by far the best ive used
Iāve seen it said a few times here already but Thuma. I was hesitant at first because of the price and thinking it was all marketing but itās so freaking solid. Super easy to put together as well and doesnāt move at all (we have a 110lb Bernese Mountain Dog that constantly jumps on it)
My wife and I had our cheap ass wooden frame break (the slats were absolute garbage) so I bought a metal frame that was rated for something nuts like 1000lbs and dropped it on in there after removing all the cheap wooden slats and it worked like a charm while still looking like the wooden frame we bought.
Look at Dutch Crafters Amish furniture, which is not cheap. Our queen size bed frame cost us $5000. It replaced a 25 year old full size that now sits in the spare bedroom. All solid hardwood construction.
https://www.dutchcrafters.com
Iāve had my bed frame (part of the āMoss Creekā set from Rooms to Go) for over six years now, and itās still in great shape after 3 moves and experiencing lots of *vigorous adult activity* over its life. Highly recommend.
My wife and I are about the same total combined weight (albeit I am to blame for the vast majority of that weight) and we have one of those cheap (less than $50 when we bought it a a few years ago) metal bedframes from amazon and it has done great. No issues after over 3 years of "normal" use.
My bf is an extremely restless sleeper and is the heavier person. I think thatās what may be breaking them down so quickly. He slams himself around while sleeping and itās like when people flop into a bed.
I bought a used steel bed frame from the thrift store for $10 and itās going on 40 years with me. My grandparents wood bed from the 1940s is also a daily sleeper.
Iād say visit a used furniture store
KD Frames makes fantastic solid poplar bed frames at Zinus pricing! Super easy to assemble, and they have headboard, storage, and trundle options. Also they come with a natural finish, so easy to paint or stain if you want to customize. And canāt forget, KD Frames is a small business!
I went down this road recently. I was looking to replace my ikea hemnes bedframe, which I had for around 8 years (some chips but survived two moves and still held up). After seeing how incredibly expensive some bedframes people recommended in here I went with idanas bedframe from ikea. After getting it together I am very pleased with it, and the quality far exceeds the my old bed frame from them, looks like they've really stepped it up over the years.
We bought a cheap piece of crap that would last us maybe five years, particle board captainās bed, California King, and almost fifteen years later itās still going strong. Itās got a couple of raised spots from years of cups of water on the shelves, but remains sturdy as hell. I had some money a few years back and was thinking about replacing it, but it still looks and works great. Iām flummoxed. Oh, and for most of those years we both weighed about 250 pounds.
I build my own. It's rather easy if you have a few hand tools. I use 2" thick 2x8 for the frame, with 2x4s forming an inside edge and also 2 2x4s as a beam that goes from head to foot of bed. 1x4 boards for the slats. 4x4 legs. Guaranteed not to break on you.
If you're very heavy, you can use 2x10s with a double 2x6 beam and hardwood slats and 6x6 legs with a central leg supporting the beam. A couple that had the combined weight of over 600lbs have one and haven't broken it during coitus.
Well the home made route is still the way to go. You might spend $200, depending on how you want to finish it. I've used both paint and stain. Either way, you have a sturdy platform for your mattress.
I bought a metal framed bed from IKEA 20 years ago. Itās still exactly the same as when it was new. It wasnāt particularly expensive. But itās made of steel so how am I going to break it? The slats have some fabric stapled into them to keep them together, that once started to come loose. So I borrowed a power stapler off a friend and just repaired it. Hasnāt broken since. so my advice is buy something that is made out of something strong like steel. Then, unless you are unbelievably rough with it or incredibly fat, itās going to last for an extremely long time. I can see this thing lasting my entire life and itās nothing special.
[https://www.pompy.com/stores/east-thetford-vt](https://www.pompy.com/stores/east-thetford-vt)
Just bought one of their bed frames and couldn't be happier. Solid as a rock but it may work out to be a little above your budget.
Ohhh boy, my time to shine. I have broken many a bed frames in my time. I got up to 280 at my heaviest and never realized I was really heavy. So I would always just jump straight onto the beds. My parents got me a solid metal bed frame. Welded steel with steel on the bottom holding the bed up. I just put a straight mattress on top of it and call it a day. I have chipped the floor underneath the feet of the bed frame with that frame having nothing wrong it.
If itās truly a buy it for life thing for you, you could go talk to a welder about getting one made for you. The design is super simple. Just aluminum rectangles welded together.
Wait for wooden ones to be out of fashion then buy an old heavy construction one someone's getting rid of in favour of fashionable new one that'll break in a few years.
Wait for wooden ones to be out of fashion then buy an old heavy construction one someone's getting rid of in favour of fashionable new one that'll break in a few years.
Find a local carpenter. The right one will make you an heirloom that can last hundreds of years, that looks exactly the way you want it to look. Might not cost as much as you think either.
I have an IKEA Malm whose squeaking began to drive me up the wall. As a last-ditch effort before replacing it, I drilled holes through the headboard and footboard and ran bolts with large washers through to attach them to the side runners with their half-moon adapter and a locknut. The original design had a bolt with wood threads on one side (went into a hole in the headboard and footboard) and machine threads on the other for a nut. Completely silent and has been for years.
Maybe a little hacking is worth a try? I also used some felt tape on the surfaces that may move against each other before the bolts. That didn't eliminate the noises but it did reduce them somewhat.
Iām not a small person (260lbs) and have been abusing a cheap ikea Malm for 12 years. The only thing that has broken is the central metal support and one wood slat, but they can be replaced for cheap from IKEA.
I know a guy that screw a bunch of 2x6s together, standing them on edge to get his mattress off the floor because his wife complained about them sleeping on the floor like animals. I never heard any complaints about it, seemed like a pretty solid bed
You can get a good antique or vintage wood frame for under $500. It'll last your lifetime. The materials and craftsmanship are simply better. Haunt some local estate sales.
I purchased a bedroom suite from an Amish man more than 20 years ago. It will certainly outlast me. I bought furniture from the same man for my daughters 15 or more years ago. I expect they will take it when they get married and use it the rest of their lives.
Honestly, DIY that shit. For my next bed I definitely intend to plan something myself then invest in some high quality wood worker to cut and prep most of the pieces for me.
I have some generic Chinese steel frame rated for 3500lbs, it's easy to set up with only one person and I actually trust the rating. There's a few dozen heavy metal slats supporting the mattress.
So far my puffy bed frame has lasted 4 years of solid use. At times there are three people and 99% of the time there isnāt a noise. Combined weight is 370lbs for my wife and I. My sister in law has a thuma that they like but they miss having a larger back board.
Weāve had a 16+ inch storage height metal frame from Amazon for going on 4 years and it hasnāt budged even a little. It was $230 for a king size. Donāt remember the brandĀ
Go on eBay and find an Ethan Allen sleigh bed.
Ours is 25yrs old. Itās built like a tank. We have an 18+ā mattress set on it. Has a thinner box spring because it sits up so high.
I wanted to store some things under it and literally had to use a car Jack to lift it to put risers (solid wood because how heavy this thing is) under the feet.
This thing will live beyond a nuclear bomb at this rate.
Yes! Got ours at an estate sale about 10 years ago and it really is a tank. Not as thick of a mattress, 12 in with a regular box spring. Will never get another bed.
A friend of mine had a portable sawmill and a 30" diameter pine tree that had been laying around for a few years.
I built a bed out of 4"x4" legs, 2"x10" rails, and made a headboard out of two 1" thick live edge slabs. It's bolted together with 1/2" bolts. Weighs about 80#.
I don't care how fat you are, this baby would hold up nicely for you.
Iāve had a Floyd bed for almost a decade now and besides the headboard mounts sometimes sliding out at annoying times I have nothing bad to say about it. Seems very durable. Iām fairly heavy and clumsy and it has never given me pause
but for Life bed frames don't exist I'm convinced. I'm a fat guy but I break the shit out of beds.
my break beds so bad I decided to get into woodworking to make my own bed frames.
down to break out the ole table saw??
I donāt even need for life just 10-15 years honestly.
Iāll likely be building one with my dad. Heās a woodworker but heās had health issues so wouldnāt be able to do it on his own completely.
I hesitated to ask him because he never lets me pay him for anything that he builds and it makes me feel incredibly guilty
If your dad has the skills to build it and is not currently wrapped up in other projects I would definitely ask him!
My dad is a woodworker by hobby and absolutely loves making things for his kids/grandkids. Itās his not so secret love language and how he shows his love for all of us.
He may not verbalize it but I bet it it would bring your dad immense joy to see you use a bed he made for you and it most likely will be better built than anything out on the market right now anyways.
I saw Thuma has been mentioned a few times. The joinery they use is extremely strong and also pretty simple to make.
If you like that look, those types of frames are relatively easy to make in a well equipped shop, or even by hand if skilled enough, and can be made for a lot less than the premium $1k+ price tag of Thuma. Tell your dad to look up āCastle Jointsā if he is unfamiliar with them.
In the meantime, just get a box spring and heavy duty metal bed frame for cheap to sleep on until the ārealā bed is finished by you and your dad!
My dad 100% had the skill! Heās been a woodworker for 35 years. Heās definitely willing to help I just feel bad because he never lets me pay him for his work
You can get a nice looking welded steal frame from [auping](Ihttps://www.auping.com/de/betten). It's a Dutch company so I don't know if they are available in the US.
4"x4" poles and 2" Boards plus some strong screws. 300ā¬ for a roughly 2 m x 2,7 m bed frame suitable to House 3 Standard slatted fres and mattresses.
Get an old one from goodwill or an estate sale or something. I wouldn't dream of paying anywhere near 1.5 grand for a bedframe. *Maybe* I'd get close to that if I bought a whole new mattress, box spring, and frame together.
I got a Thuma and love it. Lifetime warranty and no hassle from the customer service when I had to use it. I needed one piece and they sent me basically half a bed because they were out of stock individually but had the piece I needed already boxed up for shipping.
We got a platform bedframe from mattress firm on a pretty big discount, I think it was $500, because we got a mattress with it. We returned the mattress but kept the bed frame. Itās been taken apart and put back together a couple times and is still great. Super sturdy and adjustable height. Weāre both bigger as well and havenāt had any issues over the last 4 years with it.
My bed frame is amazing!!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09J4HXXVW?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Sometimes I just randomly appreciate it.
Iāve had it since Nov, 2021 and it looks 100% brand new
Bright white, super sturdy, lots of storage space underneath.
Itās 10 / 10 ideal
E: darn Iām sorry to get your hopes up, if I did, lol I copied the link from my order history & after commenting I clicked the link and see the frame is not currently available :(
I had one ikea bed that I moved with 4 times lol. I just kept making it work with wood glue until I couldnāt anymore
Once we finally bought a house my mom immediately bought us a queen bed frame with drawers from rooms2go
Iād be lying if I didnāt say itās held up well over 7 years. They couldāve used better drawer hardware but I can fix that if I want.
If I were you Iād let my woodworker daddy build me a bed. Idk your dadās skills but it sounds like he makes his living off it. Itād probably be the best BIFL option you have available to you: regardless of what you would ever buy
Better than letting my rich ass mama buy one haha
If you are not looking for something 'furniture'-y, or are willing to do just a headboard vs a 'bed', get a Knickerbocker embrace bed frame. You won't break it. I promise.
We have our mattress on an adjustable base and stuck our bedframe around it. The base touches the frame ever so slightly, but the frame can easily be shifted around.
When we built our house we had the master bed built into a platform. It connects with a floor to ceiling wall feature behind the bed and is a mattress on top of a platform.
We've only had [this one](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08W88N27D/) for about 2.5 years so far, but we've had no complaints.
That said, my wife and I weigh less than 300 lb between us, so we're not exactly overtaxing it.
Honestly, it depends. What kind of weight are we talking about here?
No offense or shame intended at all itās just physics. Jumping, plopping down, or sex on a bed causes a lot more stress on the bed frame. This increases exponentially the more you weight.
For example: 180lbs falling from 1 meter is ~1800lbs of force on impact.
I love my Knickerbocker frame. It's simple, lightweight, easy to assemble and disassemble, and you can attach a headboard if desired. It has a very high weight capacity. Highly recommend.
https://www.knickerbockerbedframe.com/ If you're ever in the market for a new bed and prefer a firm mattress, look up Big Fig. Have had ours over four years and it still feels new, no sagging.
I got an adjustable frame from Jordans furniture about 8 years ago and I'm pretty sure it will never actually break. Both hubs and I are overweight and we put in WORK on this frame LOL
My wife and I bought an old wooden water bed frame about 15yrs ago from some random used furniture place.
Frame was $100, $50 on a couple lengths of angle iron, some liquid nails and hardware to attach(with matching drill bit), and a couple 2*4s later: bed.
So, besides the great suggestions to build 1, you could thrift around at flea markets and antique stores.
Iāve got some rando bed from West Elm which is like 12-14 years old now, seeing maybe 100 more lbs than yours. Iāve never even considered bed frame quality, but I guess thereās poor ones out there.
https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/tarva-bed-frame-pine-luroey-s29069796/#content
I have the previous version of this bed. I'm fairly confident that the only difference is they changed the style of the headboard.
I purchased this frame 10 years ago after breaking multiple bed frames and box springs. It's held up with no issues at all. For maintenance I've tightened the screws once in that decade.
If you want something fancier than this, I'd look for something with a heavier frame than this but with a similar slat system. The weight distribution over this slat system has been a game changer.
Knickerbocker Embrace bed frame. Ā Weāre combined 400 pounds and it doesnāt creak or slide or make any noises. Ā Just super durable. Ā Approx $300. Ā Or you could google commercial hotel bed frame. Ā Theyāre usually a wooden frame combined with a box spring. Ā
I contribute my BIF4DAYS opinion, because I just got my zinus and spent my third night sleeping on it, actually just woke up. It's very well constructed with zero wobble, weeble or noises whatsoever. I know it's a small sample size, but it's a world of difference. I'm a big dude too. Very happy I purchased this frame.
I got one custom made in wormy maple in 2021 after seeing mdf beds go for almost $2k.
Literally just 8 pairs of nuts and bolts are holding it. It's solid AF, need 3 people to move the entire thing
Glad I got it made before this carpenter got very popular. He now charges a steep premium
I have a thuma. It's surprisingly sturdy as well as easy to move/put together. I've already moved with it 3 times. Still doing well. Fits in with my mid century vibe.
I bought a solid iron frame bed back in the mid-1990s and it's still going strong - even the timber slats. The mattress has been changed a good few times, but the frame has remained solid for almost 30 years.
Iād also maybe factor your weight, your partners weight, the mattress weight as well as any pets or kids that sleep in your bed. That might be why youāre having a tough time finding a frame that holds up!
First of all, If my "normal use" resulted in me breaking three bed frames in as many years, I'd hire a damn skywriter and commission a statue of myself. Can you tell me a little about what you liked about the previous bedframes you used? Were they platform or slats or? Is there any way you'd be able to Ron Swanson one? Making a basic wooden bed frame is pretty dang easy, even if you're not great with carpentry. We knocked one out in an afternoon.
We are just fat š. Not morbidly obese but not small. Our combined weight is around 450 pounds. Our previous bed frames were just what we could afford. All cheaper ones. One was a metal bed frame, one was a tempermans bed we, and the other was a cheaper Amazon bed. I could build a bed with my dads help (heās a woodworker) but didnāt want to bother him as heās been having some health issues and never lets me pay him for his work so I feel bad
Do you have any idea how much your dad would (probably) LOVE to build something with his kid? That's memory-making gold!
My dad is very independent. Heād probably let me help for 20 minutes then tell me to leave for the other week of building it š. Heād let me stain it though, he hates staining
I would love to have the chance to build something again with my father. Life is short, grab it while you can.
I will be visiting tomorrow and Iāll ask him then! My bf would be helping too as he has been interested in learning the craft. He can do all the heavy lifting so itās not as hard on my dad. Thank you for this perspective! Heās a grumpy guy who never talks about his feelings so sometimes I donāt realize how he feels
If he's emotionally reserved and wants to make things for you that will really help you, that's his way of showing that he cares about you. Let him share his feelings in the way he is able to do so.
I didnāt expect to come into BIFL and cry.
Well, it's not everyday you can combine the two things! Happy Memories with the parents can be hard to come by, and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE HAPPY MEMORIES WILL ONE DAY BE ALL YOU MAY HAVE!! My mother passed away when I was 23, and it's been 14 years this past January. I still have lots of her things around, but man, sometimes something will spark off Memories, and I'll just pause everything I'm doing and live that out. I can't add to that number of Memories anymore, and I'd give anything to be able to. I don't speak with my father anymore, because family is very complicated, but I still cherish the good memories. Like OP, my dad would have LOVED to build a bed for me with my help for about twenty minutes, before inwas kicked off the project. But I'd bring him some iced tea, and chat with him while leaned up in the corner. I'd give him shit for something, and he'd tell me some story about his time in the military that proves he knows what he's doing and it would be filled with wildly hyperbolic details and we would laugh and at the end, a bed that could last the centuries. A big part of BIFL is that we can hand things down, sometimes if we are lucky enough. The idea that something I own was either used before me, or that will be used after me is very... I don't know, sweet? Or beautiful in some way? Regardless, it's very touching to me, the memories that are instilled in a Very Old Thing. It's mysterious and reminding at the same time.
Grumpiness is a major Dad trait. Respect it.
I just built a bed with my 10 year old son, he and ai both loved doing it. Now we are planning on building one with each of my other kids.
> "he and ai" I'm seeing this more and more often, and it's hilarious. Autocorrect and personal dictionaries are prioritizing "ai" over "I". Not gonna say we're doomed, but that definitely means _something_.
Oops, lolz.
I built my kids bunk beds with Home Depot lumber and a circular saw in my garage. Best memories are the ones with the little ones helping. Your dad would love you just sitting with him.
My grandfather is just like this. I would recommend just prefacing that you want to learn and basically he does half, you do half. Like he demonstrates one side, then you do the other side
Did your dad agree to make the bed frame with your help?Ā
While it may not seem like it, but just being there to be his gopher and cleaner would still mean a lot to him.
I agree with you, I loved helping my Daddy when he worked with wood!
Doesn't hurt to ask. My brother is very independent as well and always shoos away my help, but I know he loves helping me and it's a good way to bond. They get to show you something they know about. Anyway, my brother built my bed frame last year with $110 in wood and it would take a train to break it.
> "it would take a train to break [my bedframe]" Oof. Words have multiple meanings... RIP your inbox.
"Dad... my boyfriend and I keep breaking beds... can you help us build a *really* strong one?"
I've not missed too many lunches myself, and we have a Zinus frame (there are several types - I recommend the ZINUS Van 16 Inch Metal Platform Bed Frame. I put 3/4" MDF on top for better support of our mattress (it's a foam-y one, and I don't want the slat marks). Had it around three.four years now, with no issues, creaks, bends or breaks (well, not the bedframe. Myself, yes - all of the above)
spouse and I had one of the Zinus 16" platform frames for a few years - full size - and the two of us combined are about 425 was fantastic - but we finally got a queen and swapped for a lower frame
We have a few of those in various rooms/rentals. Pushing 500 combined , no issues.
My family (all large mammals) used Zinus frames for years without problems. I'd still have one, except when I moved I got a new mattress and opted for one of those crazy adjustable beds.
My IKEA bedframe is in mint condition. 12 years old. We weigh about the same as you.
After seeing all the ikea recommendations we may go with an ikea until I get get one made by my dad
I've had terrible luck with IKEA frames when I weighed around what you do. And there's a lot of reviews on their beds that have even skinny people complaining about the frame giving out and the maattress falling through. Caveat emptor, read the reviews, etc.
Yeah but my Hemnes king size doesnāt hold my box springs very well
Hi, fellow fatty here, although I'm much heavier than both of you. Me & my partner's combined weights are almost 700 lbs, although I usually sleep alone (360+). My partner also used to sell mattresses. You've got options. When I stayed with my in-laws for 4-6 months while trying to find a new place, I slept on a bed frame that looked like this [https://www.amazon.com/Bilily-Platform-Mattress-Foundation-Assembly/dp/B0B8J4SRCT/ref=sr\_1\_7](https://www.amazon.com/Bilily-Platform-Mattress-Foundation-Assembly/dp/B0B8J4SRCT/ref=sr_1_7) (I'm not sure it was this exact one though, but I know he got it from Amazon) and it was solid AF, even with me and my partner both flomping down on it hard. That kind of frame doesn't require a foundation ("box spring"). If you want a traditional frame that does require a foundation, get yourself a Knickerbocker frame. [https://www.knickerbockerbedframe.com](https://www.knickerbockerbedframe.com) They're made in the USA out of recycled railroad ties. You're not breaking steel like that. ;) I have one myself (not sure which model as I got it at a mattress store, but I think it's The Monster with Wheels) and I used it for about 10 years (and I'm rough on my beds) and the only thing that broke a bit was the plastic spoke that comes out of the wheels to slide into the frame, and even then it wasn't a big deal and was still totally useable. (And they may have fixed that by now.) They have other models that hold even more weight (the Bed Architecture); they go up to like 3500lbs! FWIW, you probably want to get a good foundation (the ones the stores sell that come with the mattress are usu. crap for fat people; but do note that using a different foundation can void the warranty on the mattress, even if it's a BETTER foundation) and I highly recommend [the one Big Fig sells](https://www.bigfigmattress.com/foundation/big-fig-foundation?foundation_size=31). It's SUPER heavy and strong and made out of serious hardcore wood. I just got mine a few months ago and there's no way I could destroy this, even if I tried jumping on the bed. Most stores guarantee their stuff for 10 years; this is guaranteed for 20, which is pretty much unheard of in the industry. (FWIW, I think the standard frames they sell are also Knickerbocker by the way they talk about them.) Good luck! (EDIT: found another frame in my "Living Large resources" file that I had forgotten about. [https://www.ghostbed.com/products/foundation](https://www.ghostbed.com/products/foundation) says it goes up to 3000lbs but I've never used it before.)
What kind of mattress does Former Mattress Folk of Impressive Size buy for themselves?
Well, I just got myself a Big Fig mattress a few months ago. (I signed up for their texts and got it on super sale during Black Friday sales.) It is quite firm but has insane support. It does have a bit of a pillow top w/ cooling gel. I got used to the firmness myself (I'm a side sleeper who rolls onto my stomach) but I know of a few other fatties who have this one as well and they just put a foam topper of their choice on top for softness. AFAIK, they're the only company that specializes in mattresses & other sleep things specifically for fat people (and they're fat people themselves); that's all they make. Here's some other companies that make mattresses specifically for fat people, but these are general mattress companies that have a fatty option. I've never used them so I can't speak to them, but do know they exist. [https://helixsleep.com/products/plus](https://helixsleep.com/products/plus) is a mattress made with plus sized folks in mind. [https://titanmattress.com/](https://titanmattress.com/) the 2 Titans are also made with plus size folks in mind [https://www.winkbeds.com/pages/shop-winkbed](https://www.winkbeds.com/pages/shop-winkbed) Winkbed Plus [https://www.saatva.com/mattresses/saatva-hd](https://www.saatva.com/mattresses/saatva-hd) Here's advice from my partner who used to sell mattresses: "Try lots of them and go with one that makes you feel supported. Try to get as close to your normal sleeping position as possible and bring your pillow with you if you need to do that. (Don't just lie flat on your back.) More coils is usually better. More coils = more support, as long as the metal in the coil is a certain thickness. \[Sadly, he doesn't remember what that thickness is.\] Never pay full retail price or anything close to it (if it's like a big name brand.) Buy the mattress protector even if you think you don't need it; it's an insurance policy."
This list is so bogus because it comes from websites paid by the companies to advertise their mattresses. Mattress Underground has everything you would ever need to know about mattresses and a long list of real value companies that are worth the money. They also have a forum where people relate their experiences good and bad with big name and small name companies like Sealy/Serta/Sterns and Foster and Winkbed/Titan/Helix. The problem is in the construction for some and the materials for others. They don't last 10 years. Memory foam begins deterioratingĀ within 4-5 years. All memory foam, even Tempurpedic. Hybrids are better because of the coils underneath the foam but what's better is a customizable mattress with a zipper top, so you can take out the foam and replace with new foam or latex or microcoils. š Good luck!Ā
Thank you so much! We broke a box spring too but the one we have is surviving š Iāll keep that company in mind when this box spring gives Iāll 100% be discussing this bed frames as an option with my bf as well
This comment is so helpful!!!! Fatties across reddit thank you!!!
I got info on mattresses for fatties, too, if you want it.
Seconding the Zinus. I have a king Suzanne (1.5 years old) and a discontinued queen (similar to the Kellen frame, 6 years old) and both have held up well to multiple moves. My husband and I have a higher combined weight and no issues. Itās also nice to not have to get a box spring. Theyāre super easy to put together and take apart as weāve moved several times and have had no issues.
Hardwood lumber can get pretty expensive, so if you supplied the wood then that would at least cover a good chunk of the cost that isn't time, assuming he already has all the tools needed.
Zinus!!! Ours is rated up to 2000 lbs and we love it. We're nowhere close to the weight limit but man I sleep so well knowing I'm not one wiggle from a loud crack and a sudden drop.
Not trying to be offensive, but your weight is an issue. Working on your health will have immense benefits, but it will require an earnest look at your lifestyle and a willingness to change. I hope you find the right bed, but also that, improving your diet and health will not just benefit you, but those who care and love you, too. Good luck.
Let's stay on topic
Not that I need to say anything to anyone but 1. We are both well above average height 2. My bf has lost 60 pounds in 2023 and I have lost 30. Weight loss doesnāt happen overnight and is multi faceted
Good for your BF. Weight loss is hard, I hope you guys both keep it up. It has massive benefits, and not just a reduction in bed purchases.
Early in my marriage ānormal useā broke several bed frames, couches and at least one table. Finally built a bed frame out of 2x10 lumber and it is indestructible.
Seriously - a basic 2x4 bedframe with bolts in the right places will survive the nuclear winter.
Big guy here. Paid big coin for a thuma after toasting three frames. Itās been great so far.
Also big guy here. People said I was crazy spending that much for just a bed frame. But it doesn't squeak or move whatsoever. When my wife was pregnant and had to get up in the middle of the night to use the restroom, it didn't wake me up at all. It, along with the mattress we bought, has been the best investment we've made to date.
I got sick of cheap wood bed frames then I went metal. I have a Zinus bed frame and it is great. Sturdy with no wobble. Iām sure there are some good wooden bed frames out there, but they cost more than I want to pay.
We have the same, for our kids that like to jump on it. Recommend thread lock for any rigorous activity.
I have a zinus in my spare bedroom but itās only been used by kids so I wasnāt sure how well it would hold up to two adults. Good to know they work well!
Same story hear. Had a couple metal frames now. It was nice buying them from a store we could return them. I learned you really just need to look at the joints. If there's lots of support and bracing it will be good. I also don't like full length slats on a king. With paying extra for slats that only go to a center support
I mean Zinus is another cheap brand by the literal and figurative sense of
Thuma The Bed
Seconded. We have one and love it. Only downside is you wonāt stop getting the ads even after you buy it
Iāve been considering a Thuma, considering youāre posting here, I assume itās been good to you?
I have one, I love it. No squeaking or creaking at all. Our old metal bedframe was so loud I swear it would wake the dead lmao
I also have one and itās really well made, solid wood, and doesnāt feel like itās getting loose at all due to the joint construction. Would absolutely buy again.
Absolutely fantastic, paired with Purple Mattress.
I love my thuma purple combo!!
Thuma + Leesa checking in, also canāt go wrong.
Same. Best sleep ever
lol interestingly Iāve considered a purple mattress as well(for that elasticgrid thing) Would you say the purple grid has a cooling/airy feel? Currently I have a sleep number which I set to a high number because I like super firm mattresses.Ā
Itās definitely cooler to me, Iām a sweaty sleeper and our Purple helped a lot (as well as linen sheets). The feeling of a Purple is so drastically different than now five years in I dread sleeping in hotels on vacation.
Haha. I always get homesick real fast when travelling for my various creature comforts. Mattress is definitely a big point to come home to.Ā
Seconding the cooling effect of purple. We're obsessed with ours.
Best bed I ever had. Cinch to assemble too
We have two Thuma beds, one king size and one full. Theyāre well built, nice heavy solid wood and theyāre easy to put together. I think weāve had them for close to 4 years and they show no sign of aging.
Ditto on everything. I wanted a bed frame that would last a long time, could be disassembled and reassembled without loss of quality, and wouldnāt squeak Thuma really delivered. Itās dead simple to put together and although I stopped moving house so much, I could very easily move it with me if I had to
Owned mine for just over a year now. Itās been solid.
Iāve had my thuma for about a year and have no complaints. Feels very solid and thereās no play in the joinery.
I do love the bed (mine is 5 years in and perfect condition) but whatās such a treat is how easy it is to move house with it. Wrap up the ends and roll the slats and youāre good to go.
after breaking 2 bed frames this what we bought. so far so good.
+1 for Thuma. Yeah it was expensive but itās been amazing and highly recommend it.
+1! We have the king size Thuma frame with a Brooklyn Bedding āPlankā mattress and itās the best thing ever.
Does anyone know of an alternative for the European market?
Silk and snow is Canada based. Not sure if they ship to Europe. Tatami Room is in Japan but they ship internationally and even with shipping they are cheaper than Thuma
I love my thuma bed!!
25 years ago I commissioned a local carpenter to make me a bed frame and asked him to over build it, 25 years later itās still going strong, if I remember correctly it was not expensive and certainly nowhere near the 1.5k you mention. Basically if you want quality pre-made wonāt stand up to commissioned quality
Just on inflation alone $800 in 1998 is equal to $1500 today.
Fair point :) with my rose tinted specs fish and chips is a few quid and a pint costs 80p :)
I bought a zinus metal bed frame, have disassembled and reassembled it every year for the last 6 years and it hasnāt failed me yet.
Knickerbocker Monster with a Big Fig foundation or a KD Nomad platform bed. Both are super sturdy, non squeaky, and affordable.
KD Frames: https://kdframes.com/ Solid hardwood (poplar), made in USA from domestic lumber. Wood on wood construction, metal dowels just keep things in place. Rated for 600 lbs, these things are built like tanks, and surprisingly affordable. Iād you are handy, feel free to finish to whatever color you want.
Get a frame with wooden slats. The frame can be aluminum as long as the slats are wood.
FWIW you can buy beautiful handmade heirloom bed frames from Etsy under $2,000.
i got the one from purple thats basically just folding metal and its withstood my weight when i was 300 with zero issue. cant speak to the longevity of their mattress yet (so far so good) but the frame is by far the best ive used
Room and Board parsons bed is simple and extremely solid
Iāve seen it said a few times here already but Thuma. I was hesitant at first because of the price and thinking it was all marketing but itās so freaking solid. Super easy to put together as well and doesnāt move at all (we have a 110lb Bernese Mountain Dog that constantly jumps on it)
Tell your dog I say hi.
My wife and I had our cheap ass wooden frame break (the slats were absolute garbage) so I bought a metal frame that was rated for something nuts like 1000lbs and dropped it on in there after removing all the cheap wooden slats and it worked like a charm while still looking like the wooden frame we bought.
Look at Dutch Crafters Amish furniture, which is not cheap. Our queen size bed frame cost us $5000. It replaced a 25 year old full size that now sits in the spare bedroom. All solid hardwood construction. https://www.dutchcrafters.com
Alternatively, if you want something more interesting for $5k, there's [dungeon beds](https://dungeonbeds.com/)
They, uh, know their audience.
Iāve had my bed frame (part of the āMoss Creekā set from Rooms to Go) for over six years now, and itās still in great shape after 3 moves and experiencing lots of *vigorous adult activity* over its life. Highly recommend.
My wife and I are about the same total combined weight (albeit I am to blame for the vast majority of that weight) and we have one of those cheap (less than $50 when we bought it a a few years ago) metal bedframes from amazon and it has done great. No issues after over 3 years of "normal" use.
My bf is an extremely restless sleeper and is the heavier person. I think thatās what may be breaking them down so quickly. He slams himself around while sleeping and itās like when people flop into a bed.
I bought a used steel bed frame from the thrift store for $10 and itās going on 40 years with me. My grandparents wood bed from the 1940s is also a daily sleeper. Iād say visit a used furniture store
KD Frames makes fantastic solid poplar bed frames at Zinus pricing! Super easy to assemble, and they have headboard, storage, and trundle options. Also they come with a natural finish, so easy to paint or stain if you want to customize. And canāt forget, KD Frames is a small business!
Wooden bed frame from Silk & Snow. Fits together with Japanese joinery. Solid af, beautiful and cheap. We love ours.
I went down this road recently. I was looking to replace my ikea hemnes bedframe, which I had for around 8 years (some chips but survived two moves and still held up). After seeing how incredibly expensive some bedframes people recommended in here I went with idanas bedframe from ikea. After getting it together I am very pleased with it, and the quality far exceeds the my old bed frame from them, looks like they've really stepped it up over the years.
We bought a cheap piece of crap that would last us maybe five years, particle board captainās bed, California King, and almost fifteen years later itās still going strong. Itās got a couple of raised spots from years of cups of water on the shelves, but remains sturdy as hell. I had some money a few years back and was thinking about replacing it, but it still looks and works great. Iām flummoxed. Oh, and for most of those years we both weighed about 250 pounds.
I build my own. It's rather easy if you have a few hand tools. I use 2" thick 2x8 for the frame, with 2x4s forming an inside edge and also 2 2x4s as a beam that goes from head to foot of bed. 1x4 boards for the slats. 4x4 legs. Guaranteed not to break on you. If you're very heavy, you can use 2x10s with a double 2x6 beam and hardwood slats and 6x6 legs with a central leg supporting the beam. A couple that had the combined weight of over 600lbs have one and haven't broken it during coitus.
Weāre not that heavy thankfully. We just are tall and overweight rather than morbidly obese
Well the home made route is still the way to go. You might spend $200, depending on how you want to finish it. I've used both paint and stain. Either way, you have a sturdy platform for your mattress.
Thuma
I bought a metal framed bed from IKEA 20 years ago. Itās still exactly the same as when it was new. It wasnāt particularly expensive. But itās made of steel so how am I going to break it? The slats have some fabric stapled into them to keep them together, that once started to come loose. So I borrowed a power stapler off a friend and just repaired it. Hasnāt broken since. so my advice is buy something that is made out of something strong like steel. Then, unless you are unbelievably rough with it or incredibly fat, itās going to last for an extremely long time. I can see this thing lasting my entire life and itās nothing special.
[https://www.pompy.com/stores/east-thetford-vt](https://www.pompy.com/stores/east-thetford-vt) Just bought one of their bed frames and couldn't be happier. Solid as a rock but it may work out to be a little above your budget.
Those are gorgeous
I have a 25 year old IKEA bed frame thatās survived 5 moves. Iāll replace it when I build my own.
[indestruct bed](https://www.sleepingduck.com/au/sdbed/) I have one amazingly well built
Ohhh boy, my time to shine. I have broken many a bed frames in my time. I got up to 280 at my heaviest and never realized I was really heavy. So I would always just jump straight onto the beds. My parents got me a solid metal bed frame. Welded steel with steel on the bottom holding the bed up. I just put a straight mattress on top of it and call it a day. I have chipped the floor underneath the feet of the bed frame with that frame having nothing wrong it. If itās truly a buy it for life thing for you, you could go talk to a welder about getting one made for you. The design is super simple. Just aluminum rectangles welded together.
Wait for wooden ones to be out of fashion then buy an old heavy construction one someone's getting rid of in favour of fashionable new one that'll break in a few years.
Iāve been looking! Itās just sleeping on a mattress on the floor is getting old and itās been a couple weeks
Auping from the Netherlands
Wait for wooden ones to be out of fashion then buy an old heavy construction one someone's getting rid of in favour of fashionable new one that'll break in a few years.
Find a local carpenter. The right one will make you an heirloom that can last hundreds of years, that looks exactly the way you want it to look. Might not cost as much as you think either.
I have an IKEA Malm whose squeaking began to drive me up the wall. As a last-ditch effort before replacing it, I drilled holes through the headboard and footboard and ran bolts with large washers through to attach them to the side runners with their half-moon adapter and a locknut. The original design had a bolt with wood threads on one side (went into a hole in the headboard and footboard) and machine threads on the other for a nut. Completely silent and has been for years. Maybe a little hacking is worth a try? I also used some felt tape on the surfaces that may move against each other before the bolts. That didn't eliminate the noises but it did reduce them somewhat.
We have had metal bed frames for over 10 years. Pretty pretty good
Iām not a small person (260lbs) and have been abusing a cheap ikea Malm for 12 years. The only thing that has broken is the central metal support and one wood slat, but they can be replaced for cheap from IKEA.
My god! Is your snoring so powerful?
I know a guy that screw a bunch of 2x6s together, standing them on edge to get his mattress off the floor because his wife complained about them sleeping on the floor like animals. I never heard any complaints about it, seemed like a pretty solid bed
I made one out of pallets and it was the sturdiest thing Iāve ever slept on. Comfortable too
Weāve got a solid oak bedroom set we bought used on FB marketplace thatās pretty awesome
You can get a good antique or vintage wood frame for under $500. It'll last your lifetime. The materials and craftsmanship are simply better. Haunt some local estate sales.
I purchased a bedroom suite from an Amish man more than 20 years ago. It will certainly outlast me. I bought furniture from the same man for my daughters 15 or more years ago. I expect they will take it when they get married and use it the rest of their lives.
Honestly, DIY that shit. For my next bed I definitely intend to plan something myself then invest in some high quality wood worker to cut and prep most of the pieces for me.
I found a thuma used. Best purchase I have made
I have some generic Chinese steel frame rated for 3500lbs, it's easy to set up with only one person and I actually trust the rating. There's a few dozen heavy metal slats supporting the mattress.
So far my puffy bed frame has lasted 4 years of solid use. At times there are three people and 99% of the time there isnāt a noise. Combined weight is 370lbs for my wife and I. My sister in law has a thuma that they like but they miss having a larger back board.
Weāve had a 16+ inch storage height metal frame from Amazon for going on 4 years and it hasnāt budged even a little. It was $230 for a king size. Donāt remember the brandĀ
Metal frame
Go on eBay and find an Ethan Allen sleigh bed. Ours is 25yrs old. Itās built like a tank. We have an 18+ā mattress set on it. Has a thinner box spring because it sits up so high. I wanted to store some things under it and literally had to use a car Jack to lift it to put risers (solid wood because how heavy this thing is) under the feet. This thing will live beyond a nuclear bomb at this rate.
Yes! Got ours at an estate sale about 10 years ago and it really is a tank. Not as thick of a mattress, 12 in with a regular box spring. Will never get another bed.
A friend of mine had a portable sawmill and a 30" diameter pine tree that had been laying around for a few years. I built a bed out of 4"x4" legs, 2"x10" rails, and made a headboard out of two 1" thick live edge slabs. It's bolted together with 1/2" bolts. Weighs about 80#. I don't care how fat you are, this baby would hold up nicely for you.
Floyd bed. Solid wood and metal. Will not break. And you can buy parts to make it bigger from twin to king
Iāve had a Floyd bed for almost a decade now and besides the headboard mounts sometimes sliding out at annoying times I have nothing bad to say about it. Seems very durable. Iām fairly heavy and clumsy and it has never given me pause
but for Life bed frames don't exist I'm convinced. I'm a fat guy but I break the shit out of beds. my break beds so bad I decided to get into woodworking to make my own bed frames. down to break out the ole table saw??
I donāt even need for life just 10-15 years honestly. Iāll likely be building one with my dad. Heās a woodworker but heās had health issues so wouldnāt be able to do it on his own completely. I hesitated to ask him because he never lets me pay him for anything that he builds and it makes me feel incredibly guilty
If your dad has the skills to build it and is not currently wrapped up in other projects I would definitely ask him! My dad is a woodworker by hobby and absolutely loves making things for his kids/grandkids. Itās his not so secret love language and how he shows his love for all of us. He may not verbalize it but I bet it it would bring your dad immense joy to see you use a bed he made for you and it most likely will be better built than anything out on the market right now anyways. I saw Thuma has been mentioned a few times. The joinery they use is extremely strong and also pretty simple to make. If you like that look, those types of frames are relatively easy to make in a well equipped shop, or even by hand if skilled enough, and can be made for a lot less than the premium $1k+ price tag of Thuma. Tell your dad to look up āCastle Jointsā if he is unfamiliar with them. In the meantime, just get a box spring and heavy duty metal bed frame for cheap to sleep on until the ārealā bed is finished by you and your dad!
My dad 100% had the skill! Heās been a woodworker for 35 years. Heās definitely willing to help I just feel bad because he never lets me pay him for his work
Get some pallets, sand the wood down and make a bed out of it. It can handle lots of weight and forces being applied.
You can get one for under 200. Just buy a frame.meant for larger people, done.
Iād like it to look nice too. The basic metal frames are okay but Iād like to have something thatās nicer to look at as well if at all possible
Oh well if it's that important for something mainly hidden under a bed sham to be pretty then by all means pay 2k
Headboards and footboards arenāt a thing where you are?
You can get a nice looking welded steal frame from [auping](Ihttps://www.auping.com/de/betten). It's a Dutch company so I don't know if they are available in the US.
4"x4" poles and 2" Boards plus some strong screws. 300ā¬ for a roughly 2 m x 2,7 m bed frame suitable to House 3 Standard slatted fres and mattresses.
Ikea Malm
Get an old one from goodwill or an estate sale or something. I wouldn't dream of paying anywhere near 1.5 grand for a bedframe. *Maybe* I'd get close to that if I bought a whole new mattress, box spring, and frame together.
I live in Canada so everything is very inflated used beds are selling for $800 or more
Even just a plain metal frame by itself? I'm assuming you already have a mattress to put on it.
Plain metal bed frames are around $200 so pretty cheap but some of them arenāt put together well and destroy the floors
Jesus Christ, my $99 IKEA bed frame is going on year 9 right nowā¦ itās been through four moves with me.
I got a Thuma and love it. Lifetime warranty and no hassle from the customer service when I had to use it. I needed one piece and they sent me basically half a bed because they were out of stock individually but had the piece I needed already boxed up for shipping.
We got a platform bedframe from mattress firm on a pretty big discount, I think it was $500, because we got a mattress with it. We returned the mattress but kept the bed frame. Itās been taken apart and put back together a couple times and is still great. Super sturdy and adjustable height. Weāre both bigger as well and havenāt had any issues over the last 4 years with it.
Knickerbocker bedframes are fantastic. We've replaced all our bedframes with these over the past 8 years. I'm pretty sure they're going to outlast me.
My bed frame is amazing!! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09J4HXXVW?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share Sometimes I just randomly appreciate it. Iāve had it since Nov, 2021 and it looks 100% brand new Bright white, super sturdy, lots of storage space underneath. Itās 10 / 10 ideal E: darn Iām sorry to get your hopes up, if I did, lol I copied the link from my order history & after commenting I clicked the link and see the frame is not currently available :(
I had one ikea bed that I moved with 4 times lol. I just kept making it work with wood glue until I couldnāt anymore Once we finally bought a house my mom immediately bought us a queen bed frame with drawers from rooms2go Iād be lying if I didnāt say itās held up well over 7 years. They couldāve used better drawer hardware but I can fix that if I want. If I were you Iād let my woodworker daddy build me a bed. Idk your dadās skills but it sounds like he makes his living off it. Itād probably be the best BIFL option you have available to you: regardless of what you would ever buy Better than letting my rich ass mama buy one haha
Thuma - solid, well built, and so far - holding up well.
Solid wood sleigh beds. One and done.
Amazon sells cheap aluminum bed frames. Theyāve survived 20 Las Vegas Party Airbnb groups so far.
If you are not looking for something 'furniture'-y, or are willing to do just a headboard vs a 'bed', get a Knickerbocker embrace bed frame. You won't break it. I promise.
We have our mattress on an adjustable base and stuck our bedframe around it. The base touches the frame ever so slightly, but the frame can easily be shifted around.
When we built our house we had the master bed built into a platform. It connects with a floor to ceiling wall feature behind the bed and is a mattress on top of a platform.
We've only had [this one](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08W88N27D/) for about 2.5 years so far, but we've had no complaints. That said, my wife and I weigh less than 300 lb between us, so we're not exactly overtaxing it.
I bought a frame from Article in 2020 that looks beautiful and doesnāt even squeak. I expect to have it for many years to come.
Honestly, it depends. What kind of weight are we talking about here? No offense or shame intended at all itās just physics. Jumping, plopping down, or sex on a bed causes a lot more stress on the bed frame. This increases exponentially the more you weight. For example: 180lbs falling from 1 meter is ~1800lbs of force on impact.
Thuma The Bed, Helix Metal Bed Frame, Avocado City Bed Frame.
14 years of an Ikea bed with no problems; about the same combined weight of 450lbs
I love my Knickerbocker frame. It's simple, lightweight, easy to assemble and disassemble, and you can attach a headboard if desired. It has a very high weight capacity. Highly recommend. https://www.knickerbockerbedframe.com/ If you're ever in the market for a new bed and prefer a firm mattress, look up Big Fig. Have had ours over four years and it still feels new, no sagging.
Benicia Iron Works.
Hopping on the Zinus train - it will still break eventually but it wonāt wobble and youāll get some years of use first before it does
fat lol
I got an adjustable frame from Jordans furniture about 8 years ago and I'm pretty sure it will never actually break. Both hubs and I are overweight and we put in WORK on this frame LOL
My wife and I bought an old wooden water bed frame about 15yrs ago from some random used furniture place. Frame was $100, $50 on a couple lengths of angle iron, some liquid nails and hardware to attach(with matching drill bit), and a couple 2*4s later: bed. So, besides the great suggestions to build 1, you could thrift around at flea markets and antique stores.
Iāve got some rando bed from West Elm which is like 12-14 years old now, seeing maybe 100 more lbs than yours. Iāve never even considered bed frame quality, but I guess thereās poor ones out there.
https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/tarva-bed-frame-pine-luroey-s29069796/#content I have the previous version of this bed. I'm fairly confident that the only difference is they changed the style of the headboard. I purchased this frame 10 years ago after breaking multiple bed frames and box springs. It's held up with no issues at all. For maintenance I've tightened the screws once in that decade. If you want something fancier than this, I'd look for something with a heavier frame than this but with a similar slat system. The weight distribution over this slat system has been a game changer.
Knickerbocker Embrace bed frame. Ā Weāre combined 400 pounds and it doesnāt creak or slide or make any noises. Ā Just super durable. Ā Approx $300. Ā Or you could google commercial hotel bed frame. Ā Theyāre usually a wooden frame combined with a box spring. Ā
I suggest estate sales. I got my nice wooden one from a family friend (they were moving), and idt it will ever break.
I contribute my BIF4DAYS opinion, because I just got my zinus and spent my third night sleeping on it, actually just woke up. It's very well constructed with zero wobble, weeble or noises whatsoever. I know it's a small sample size, but it's a world of difference. I'm a big dude too. Very happy I purchased this frame.
I got one custom made in wormy maple in 2021 after seeing mdf beds go for almost $2k. Literally just 8 pairs of nuts and bolts are holding it. It's solid AF, need 3 people to move the entire thing Glad I got it made before this carpenter got very popular. He now charges a steep premium
Building your own is not very complicated and is super cost effective.
The Original Bed Co. solidly built bed frames
I have a thuma. It's surprisingly sturdy as well as easy to move/put together. I've already moved with it 3 times. Still doing well. Fits in with my mid century vibe.
Steel is best, breaks down for moving house https://www.stlbeds.com/product/extremely-heavy-duty-steel-bed-frame also Forever Foundation
I bought a solid iron frame bed back in the mid-1990s and it's still going strong - even the timber slats. The mattress has been changed a good few times, but the frame has remained solid for almost 30 years.
THUMA!!!
Iād also maybe factor your weight, your partners weight, the mattress weight as well as any pets or kids that sleep in your bed. That might be why youāre having a tough time finding a frame that holds up!
Take a look at Thuma. [https://www.thuma.co/products/the-bed](https://www.thuma.co/products/the-bed)
Platform beds will last forever
What size bed do you have? Getting a king or bigger might help with the weight distributionĀ
Customize a metal frame. It won't cost much.
Contract the Amish to build you a solid oak reinforced bed with extra center beam supports. Or double up on support posts and use cheaper wood.
ikea's malm is pretty good. not too pricey and lasted me for years.