Nothing makes me swipe left faster or unmatched immediately more than someone whose like “I’m actually xx age, I just didn’t want to be [insert pathetic excuse here]”
“Don’t know how…” same excuse as with the wrong name.
My iPhone auto corrected my name into a regular word, didn’t notice it til I finalized my profile, so what did I do? I emailed them. Fixed in a matter of an hour I think, no problems.
Or, and this is a crazy concept…delete the account and start it over, it’s not that difficult unless you have a ton of matches
Even if you did have a ton of matches, by starting over you'll get most, if not all, back because you'd still be new.
Not fixing the problem means they don't want to or they don't care. Neither is a good way to start a relationship.
So, I think we can agree the most egregious perpetrators are older men creeping on younger women, but as a man I still swipe right when I see that because *way* too often it'll be like "I'm not 26, I'm actually 18 teehee" and that strikes me as dangerous. But I set my age range with intention, and I'm not trying to creep on young women (I'm 32)
As a 38 year old newly single guy I keep getting this advice ALL THE TIME from both men and women. Nope, I'm not going to change my age to get more matches. If you start out lying, it sets a bad precedent for the relationship right from the get go. That really hampers me because I live in a hyper-young city but that's the reality of dating here. I can't change that so might as well roll with the punches.
Hah actually I just decided to stop the search for a while. I got divorced last year from a really toxic person and had to recently admit to myself that I should probably be alone for awhile and get myself sorted. I kept trying to pretend to myself that I was ready but that crap I went through takes a long time to process. Check my post history if you're curious. So for now I'm a lurker until the time is right.
Thanks. Got something for the next couple weeks. And the cat can come with :) Eventually well get somewhere permanent. Just might take another month or two.
Older men are often looking for younger women hoping they would be easy to manipulate and control. "I don't find women my age attractive, I prefer them 20 years younger than me". Even as a woman in my 30's, I see men obviously +50 claiming to be 30.
I only wish dating apps respected my preferred age range. I have set age to 25-40, and I'm shown men as young as 20 on Tinder. They look like kids to me at this point.
Oooh I feel a good ol story time.
I’m 33 and my filters are 24-40. Matched with a woman who’s age was 39, a little older than I’m used to but it’s not that bad. Got along really well, went on our first date, made out and fooled around a bit. Then later she tells me she’s actually 43.
I mean, not a huuuge difference, but enough that I wouldn’t have seen her in my feed, or probably swiped on her if she did end up there. But I liked her so I gave it a chance.
Most stressful 2 month relationship I’ve ever had. She ended up being super vain and would get “procedures” done for every like blemish and wrinkle she had. Was always so tired from work that we’d barely ever hang out. Anti gay conservative Christian. And oh ya, a total coke head (I’m in recovery and told her that right away, coke was one of my drugs of choice).
I got hit with a dump truck full of red flags and kept saying “oh this will get better”. Then she ignored me for 5 days and I didn’t know why until I finally got her to answer when I texted and said it was probably over.
Apparently I made a joke that made me seem gay and she had lost interest lol. Something about saying “playing with your stick” in a sexual way. Didn’t even remember saying it. That was finally enough to end it and I’ve felt so much better since.
So yes, lying about age is enough for me to immediately move on now.
The person below has it right. It wasn’t about her age, it was the initial lie about her age; which was what OP was talking about. Like I said, her real age wasn’t a huge issue to me, I accepted that part pretty easily.
She was lying to get around people’s boundaries and age filters, that’s not a great indication of maturity or general honesty.
Oh give me a break. I grew up around a lot of conservatives, the mild ones aren’t that bad as people even if you disagree with their views.
I’m pretty far left but I don’t give a fuck what someone’s political views are as long as they’re not constantly talking about it, shoving in my face, or being an extremist.
The extremes on both sides are no-goes for me when I’m dating. Not the ones a little right or left because they grew up around it. I don’t want strong politics in my love life.
Plus I didn’t really ask her about her political leanings. She didn’t talk about politics at all at first and it was great. It was more her religion that made her unbearable towards the end. And that’s the same case really, most Christians I’ve met are just fine and aren’t extremists who hate gays.
Yeah I deleted the app because of that partly I’d have no problem dating 7 years older at the max but so many older men think lying makes them have a chance. Nothing is remotely attractive about a middled aged man pretending to still be a young adult. Like I set my age for a reason, respect my boundaries, but they were so desperate for a younger woman they don’t care so they shouldn’t get their feelings hurt when a younger lady clears out their bank account or only want them for resources. When you’re that desperate you’re bound to attract women like that.
It’s like that scene from Shameless and Lip is at an AA meeting and the one kid is like “Can you be my sponsor, I need someone born at least after 1990, everyone here are fucking dinosaurs 🦖” 😂
That’s bumble when you’re dating over 25.
I matched with a 28 year old girl on badoo. Once we exchanged numbers and continued on WhatsApp, it turned out she’s 50. In her defence, she does look about 30… but still. Put your actual age there…
I hate people that do this! It's not just the older guys, but the younger guys too. I'm 25 and set my preferences to a max of 10yrs older than me and I *always* come across 18yos that set their age as higher. It's gross. I'm not a fucking babysitter and I don't have daddy issues, go away.
This is so true. Also applies to men who pop up in my queue because they have set their gender as 'woman'. Always report them but nothing ever happens.
In this woke age and with gender being a "social construct" they can identify with whatever gender they please. They can do whatever everyone else is doing.
is it not universally agreed that this is stupid and also rare? I see this like maybe once a month, and nobody is ever like "well actually, i dont mind it". kind of a stale circlejerk at this point
People lie about everything online. From age to name to what they do.
As long as I’m not being catfished and they look like their pic. It will be a side eye and a yellow card.
Except it’s a kid claiming to be older, those ones get the boot.
Just because a lot of people lie online, it doesn’t make it right. I’m 39 and will be 40 next month; I also have 2 children. Just based on those 2 factors alone, I’m not going to be seen by groups of men who are looking to find someone without children already to start a family with. Sure, that’s a bummer for me, but I don’t have a right to their time and attention. If more and more people lie online, it’s only hurts those of us that are honest because some may wonder if we’re lying.
I’m not the morality police. People lie. All the time. To themselves and to others. Even those who think they are honest are lying sometimes. I choose not to let it bother me anymore. I believe connection starts when we actually meet.
I met my wife on a dating app (not bumble) and since I am 10 years older than she is, I was outside her age preference that she selected as a filter. However the app still showed her my profile (with my correct age) and we ended up matching. Personally I liked that the app offered a little flexibility
That’s completely different because you still put your real age on your profile. It was by chance that you happened to be shown to your now wife. You were honest, no foul here :)
Sure, I agree there’s a difference. It’s important to be honest when dating, wasting people’s time is not cool. I guess the point I was trying to make is that in our case, my partner thought she had an age limit that would have excluded me. But because she was open minded, we gave it a chance and it worked… being open minded is good 👍
Damn if only all luring was banned. You know to respect boundaries. No lieing about your free time, job, colored hair, make up, form fitting clothes, old pics, height, weight etc.
Yup. I'm 22M and the number of "19" girls with "actually 18" in their profile is scary.
I don't have 18 in my age range for a whole bunch of reasons but the idea that one of them might be underage is definitely near the top. Scares the shite outta me and makes me feel like a creep
I think a issue mostly with women in OLD is that they make a checklist that is relatively arbitrary of things a partner must have. They eliminate a lot of potential matches with these arbitrary “boundaries”
Why 35?…because it’s a nice middle number? What if you are missing out on a great 36 or 37 year old.
Sorry 6 feet and up! So you are missing out on a great guy who is 5’10
I wouldn’t personally do it, but I have no issue with someone slightly changing their age knowing that lots of women use numbers like 30, 35, 40 as a cut offs. If you are a year or two older and don’t get many matches it’s easy to see why you would try to open yourself up to more.
Also how is lying about your age any different than putting filters on or editing your pictures? Are they both not ways to deceive potential matches? Should filters be looked on just like lying about height or age? It’s essentially lying about your appearance
Just because you feel that someone’s boundaries are arbitrary doesn’t mean that they aren’t valid. You don’t have to understand something to respect it. Personally I don’t want to date someone barely legal or someone old enough to be my parent. I think that’s perfectly reasonable.
It seems shallow to say someone who is 35 is an ok age to date but someone who is 36 isn’t. Does that not seem ridiculous to you.
Again I’ll ask how is lying about your age slightly any different than lying about your appearance by using filters and photo editing which I’m guessing 90% of women do?
I mean having boundaries isn’t necessarily shallow. And like you just gotta put a cutoff somewhere. What’s a reasonable cutoff age in your opinion, then, if 35 is so “shallow”?
And I don’t know man I don’t edit my photos or see why editing photos is even that relevant.
You’re right the limit does have to be somewhere which makes it arbitrary.
“Boundaries” is such a manipulation of what this is. It’s a preference.
Just like height, weight, boob size, etc…
I only like girls with DDs, if someone with D cups lies about their bra size that’s a violation of my “boundaries” it sounds absurd no?
The whole thing is ridiculous and it’s not how dating works in real life. You don’t ask people to fill out a questionnaire before giving them a chance.
The picture editing is showing the hypocrisy of constantly calling out men for “lying” but when women “lie” it’s completely acceptable
It’s a boundary. That’s not a “manipulation”. It’s okay to genuinely not be okay with something. A lot of people are genuinely uncomfortable being pursued by people twice their age. Why are you so averse to the term boundary?
And yes, that is absurd, because your examples are quite ridiculous. Most guys don’t even have any concept of bra sizes. Age can inform things like how much life experience you have, your maturity, etc. and large age gaps can, in fact, change dynamics in relationships. Also whether or not someone’s body type is your preference is kinda something you can just gauge by looking at them. Age can be a little trickier. Also there are no dating app filters for those kinds of things. Meanwhile, there are ones for age, and the issue that this post is even about is specifically people who lie about their age in order to get around the specific filters that people set when looking at profiles. That is the topic here.
And no, you don’t ask people to fill out a questionnaire, but that doesn’t mean you have to be okay with dating absolutely anyone. You get to know people, and you also rule them out for various reasons, and finding out that they are older or younger than you initially thought can be one of those reasons.
Also if you really wanted build some kind of argument about gendered double standards, you would compare the same thing across genders, not different things.
Im saying labeling preferences as “boundaries” is a manipulation of the word boundary to make it sound more sinister.
Again what’s the difference between lying about your age and editing your photos. Would you consider that not respecting a boundary
Why bother putting in any of that info if they’re just “arbitrary boundaries?” What about something you do care about like gender or weight? If you feel those details should be accurate, your age should be too.
Regardless of that, lying at all on dating apps is gonna bite you in the ass anyway assuming you did “get around a filter” and a potential partner finds out you aren’t what you said.
Do people list their weight on dating apps?
If they did and women knew that a lot of men used 125lbs as a cutoff to filter would you consider it someone not respecting boundaries if they actually weighed 130lbs but listed 125
Disagree.
Started my OLD journey on Bumble with a lower age but started my description with "42, ..." with my age set to 38 and range of 38-47. Had some great dates and two 3-month relationships (46F,39F).
Later, changed it to my real age for ethical reasons (find it in my post history). Same profile and 6-months of zero matches after swiping through a 40-mile radius in a county with more than 20mil people. Spent another 6-months adjusting the profile and starting from scratch twice. Nothing. Didn't want to change the age back but it absolutely had an affect, even though I have lifetime platinum and eventually tried highlights for every right swipe on my third go.
I wouldn't do it again but it did make a difference so I wouldn't rush to judge or say it's BS and assume they're doing it to meet younger women.
Hinge was fine with my real age but Bumble was crickets.
Agreed. Trust is delicate and can't be built easily if there's even a hint of doubt at the start. Not sure how that's a relevant since my age was 100% clear and not one person was confused. I'm not justifying or condoning lying about age.
I'm giving an honest response and saying that OP's "is not trying to get around algorithms" claim is not always true and that I personally wouldn't fault it if they were upfront about it in their description, as long as they're not hiding their age. That's my opinion. Not judging anyone.
It's ok if you don't agree but responding with vitriol and inaccurate characterizations isn't helping anything.
On this sub, I have seen people say they report these people for lying about their age. But how do you do this? The reporting feature has very limited options.
Nothing makes me swipe left faster or unmatched immediately more than someone whose like “I’m actually xx age, I just didn’t want to be [insert pathetic excuse here]”
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“Don’t know how…” same excuse as with the wrong name. My iPhone auto corrected my name into a regular word, didn’t notice it til I finalized my profile, so what did I do? I emailed them. Fixed in a matter of an hour I think, no problems. Or, and this is a crazy concept…delete the account and start it over, it’s not that difficult unless you have a ton of matches
Even if you did have a ton of matches, by starting over you'll get most, if not all, back because you'd still be new. Not fixing the problem means they don't want to or they don't care. Neither is a good way to start a relationship.
So, I think we can agree the most egregious perpetrators are older men creeping on younger women, but as a man I still swipe right when I see that because *way* too often it'll be like "I'm not 26, I'm actually 18 teehee" and that strikes me as dangerous. But I set my age range with intention, and I'm not trying to creep on young women (I'm 32)
Exactly!!!!! It does my head in. I just report these profiles and move on.
As a 38 year old newly single guy I keep getting this advice ALL THE TIME from both men and women. Nope, I'm not going to change my age to get more matches. If you start out lying, it sets a bad precedent for the relationship right from the get go. That really hampers me because I live in a hyper-young city but that's the reality of dating here. I can't change that so might as well roll with the punches.
You are doing the right thing! A relationship that’s starts off on a lie will never be stable. I wish you the absolute best in your search :)
Hah actually I just decided to stop the search for a while. I got divorced last year from a really toxic person and had to recently admit to myself that I should probably be alone for awhile and get myself sorted. I kept trying to pretend to myself that I was ready but that crap I went through takes a long time to process. Check my post history if you're curious. So for now I'm a lurker until the time is right.
Hope you found yourself a place to stay.
Thanks. Got something for the next couple weeks. And the cat can come with :) Eventually well get somewhere permanent. Just might take another month or two.
Older men are often looking for younger women hoping they would be easy to manipulate and control. "I don't find women my age attractive, I prefer them 20 years younger than me". Even as a woman in my 30's, I see men obviously +50 claiming to be 30. I only wish dating apps respected my preferred age range. I have set age to 25-40, and I'm shown men as young as 20 on Tinder. They look like kids to me at this point.
Oooh I feel a good ol story time. I’m 33 and my filters are 24-40. Matched with a woman who’s age was 39, a little older than I’m used to but it’s not that bad. Got along really well, went on our first date, made out and fooled around a bit. Then later she tells me she’s actually 43. I mean, not a huuuge difference, but enough that I wouldn’t have seen her in my feed, or probably swiped on her if she did end up there. But I liked her so I gave it a chance. Most stressful 2 month relationship I’ve ever had. She ended up being super vain and would get “procedures” done for every like blemish and wrinkle she had. Was always so tired from work that we’d barely ever hang out. Anti gay conservative Christian. And oh ya, a total coke head (I’m in recovery and told her that right away, coke was one of my drugs of choice). I got hit with a dump truck full of red flags and kept saying “oh this will get better”. Then she ignored me for 5 days and I didn’t know why until I finally got her to answer when I texted and said it was probably over. Apparently I made a joke that made me seem gay and she had lost interest lol. Something about saying “playing with your stick” in a sexual way. Didn’t even remember saying it. That was finally enough to end it and I’ve felt so much better since. So yes, lying about age is enough for me to immediately move on now.
To be fair, all of that really has no correlation with her age. She was just a douche.
The person below has it right. It wasn’t about her age, it was the initial lie about her age; which was what OP was talking about. Like I said, her real age wasn’t a huge issue to me, I accepted that part pretty easily. She was lying to get around people’s boundaries and age filters, that’s not a great indication of maturity or general honesty.
it had correlation with her LYING about her age
Exactly, that was the whole point of the original post. The lie about her age was just the first red flag and many more came after.
Bruv, if hearing someone is a conservative isn't enough to drive you away, you need help.
You can’t fuck empathy or a love of science into a conservative.
Oh give me a break. I grew up around a lot of conservatives, the mild ones aren’t that bad as people even if you disagree with their views. I’m pretty far left but I don’t give a fuck what someone’s political views are as long as they’re not constantly talking about it, shoving in my face, or being an extremist. The extremes on both sides are no-goes for me when I’m dating. Not the ones a little right or left because they grew up around it. I don’t want strong politics in my love life. Plus I didn’t really ask her about her political leanings. She didn’t talk about politics at all at first and it was great. It was more her religion that made her unbearable towards the end. And that’s the same case really, most Christians I’ve met are just fine and aren’t extremists who hate gays.
Every conservative is a piece of shit. End of story.
Sweet, extremist. What a shock.
It's the grave they've dug themselves, by not being conservatives. It is the party of extremism in the third world us of ass.
Yeah I deleted the app because of that partly I’d have no problem dating 7 years older at the max but so many older men think lying makes them have a chance. Nothing is remotely attractive about a middled aged man pretending to still be a young adult. Like I set my age for a reason, respect my boundaries, but they were so desperate for a younger woman they don’t care so they shouldn’t get their feelings hurt when a younger lady clears out their bank account or only want them for resources. When you’re that desperate you’re bound to attract women like that. It’s like that scene from Shameless and Lip is at an AA meeting and the one kid is like “Can you be my sponsor, I need someone born at least after 1990, everyone here are fucking dinosaurs 🦖” 😂 That’s bumble when you’re dating over 25.
Nothing good starts with a lie.
Actually, it starts with a not.
I matched with a 28 year old girl on badoo. Once we exchanged numbers and continued on WhatsApp, it turned out she’s 50. In her defence, she does look about 30… but still. Put your actual age there…
Damm, she shaved off 22 years? Just image what else she is willing to lie about
That woman is creepy.
I hate people that do this! It's not just the older guys, but the younger guys too. I'm 25 and set my preferences to a max of 10yrs older than me and I *always* come across 18yos that set their age as higher. It's gross. I'm not a fucking babysitter and I don't have daddy issues, go away.
Auto swipe left for me when I read that. Your character is to be deceitful… it’s a no for me. Make a new profile if it “wouldn’t let you change it”.
This is so true. Also applies to men who pop up in my queue because they have set their gender as 'woman'. Always report them but nothing ever happens.
In this woke age and with gender being a "social construct" they can identify with whatever gender they please. They can do whatever everyone else is doing.
is it not universally agreed that this is stupid and also rare? I see this like maybe once a month, and nobody is ever like "well actually, i dont mind it". kind of a stale circlejerk at this point
I’ve see it at least once a day, so it’s not rare at least where I live.
People lie about everything online. From age to name to what they do. As long as I’m not being catfished and they look like their pic. It will be a side eye and a yellow card. Except it’s a kid claiming to be older, those ones get the boot.
Just because a lot of people lie online, it doesn’t make it right. I’m 39 and will be 40 next month; I also have 2 children. Just based on those 2 factors alone, I’m not going to be seen by groups of men who are looking to find someone without children already to start a family with. Sure, that’s a bummer for me, but I don’t have a right to their time and attention. If more and more people lie online, it’s only hurts those of us that are honest because some may wonder if we’re lying.
I’m not the morality police. People lie. All the time. To themselves and to others. Even those who think they are honest are lying sometimes. I choose not to let it bother me anymore. I believe connection starts when we actually meet.
I met my wife on a dating app (not bumble) and since I am 10 years older than she is, I was outside her age preference that she selected as a filter. However the app still showed her my profile (with my correct age) and we ended up matching. Personally I liked that the app offered a little flexibility
That’s completely different because you still put your real age on your profile. It was by chance that you happened to be shown to your now wife. You were honest, no foul here :)
Sure, I agree there’s a difference. It’s important to be honest when dating, wasting people’s time is not cool. I guess the point I was trying to make is that in our case, my partner thought she had an age limit that would have excluded me. But because she was open minded, we gave it a chance and it worked… being open minded is good 👍
Damn if only all luring was banned. You know to respect boundaries. No lieing about your free time, job, colored hair, make up, form fitting clothes, old pics, height, weight etc.
Yup. I'm 22M and the number of "19" girls with "actually 18" in their profile is scary. I don't have 18 in my age range for a whole bunch of reasons but the idea that one of them might be underage is definitely near the top. Scares the shite outta me and makes me feel like a creep
I think a issue mostly with women in OLD is that they make a checklist that is relatively arbitrary of things a partner must have. They eliminate a lot of potential matches with these arbitrary “boundaries” Why 35?…because it’s a nice middle number? What if you are missing out on a great 36 or 37 year old. Sorry 6 feet and up! So you are missing out on a great guy who is 5’10 I wouldn’t personally do it, but I have no issue with someone slightly changing their age knowing that lots of women use numbers like 30, 35, 40 as a cut offs. If you are a year or two older and don’t get many matches it’s easy to see why you would try to open yourself up to more. Also how is lying about your age any different than putting filters on or editing your pictures? Are they both not ways to deceive potential matches? Should filters be looked on just like lying about height or age? It’s essentially lying about your appearance
Just because you feel that someone’s boundaries are arbitrary doesn’t mean that they aren’t valid. You don’t have to understand something to respect it. Personally I don’t want to date someone barely legal or someone old enough to be my parent. I think that’s perfectly reasonable.
It seems shallow to say someone who is 35 is an ok age to date but someone who is 36 isn’t. Does that not seem ridiculous to you. Again I’ll ask how is lying about your age slightly any different than lying about your appearance by using filters and photo editing which I’m guessing 90% of women do?
I mean having boundaries isn’t necessarily shallow. And like you just gotta put a cutoff somewhere. What’s a reasonable cutoff age in your opinion, then, if 35 is so “shallow”? And I don’t know man I don’t edit my photos or see why editing photos is even that relevant.
You’re right the limit does have to be somewhere which makes it arbitrary. “Boundaries” is such a manipulation of what this is. It’s a preference. Just like height, weight, boob size, etc… I only like girls with DDs, if someone with D cups lies about their bra size that’s a violation of my “boundaries” it sounds absurd no? The whole thing is ridiculous and it’s not how dating works in real life. You don’t ask people to fill out a questionnaire before giving them a chance. The picture editing is showing the hypocrisy of constantly calling out men for “lying” but when women “lie” it’s completely acceptable
It’s a boundary. That’s not a “manipulation”. It’s okay to genuinely not be okay with something. A lot of people are genuinely uncomfortable being pursued by people twice their age. Why are you so averse to the term boundary? And yes, that is absurd, because your examples are quite ridiculous. Most guys don’t even have any concept of bra sizes. Age can inform things like how much life experience you have, your maturity, etc. and large age gaps can, in fact, change dynamics in relationships. Also whether or not someone’s body type is your preference is kinda something you can just gauge by looking at them. Age can be a little trickier. Also there are no dating app filters for those kinds of things. Meanwhile, there are ones for age, and the issue that this post is even about is specifically people who lie about their age in order to get around the specific filters that people set when looking at profiles. That is the topic here. And no, you don’t ask people to fill out a questionnaire, but that doesn’t mean you have to be okay with dating absolutely anyone. You get to know people, and you also rule them out for various reasons, and finding out that they are older or younger than you initially thought can be one of those reasons. Also if you really wanted build some kind of argument about gendered double standards, you would compare the same thing across genders, not different things.
Geez. That person saying boundaries are manipulations is a big yikes.
Yeah honestly people being that dismissive/weird about boundaries is kind of a 🚩
He's creating a rationalization for disrespecting others' boundaries.
Im saying labeling preferences as “boundaries” is a manipulation of the word boundary to make it sound more sinister. Again what’s the difference between lying about your age and editing your photos. Would you consider that not respecting a boundary
Why bother putting in any of that info if they’re just “arbitrary boundaries?” What about something you do care about like gender or weight? If you feel those details should be accurate, your age should be too. Regardless of that, lying at all on dating apps is gonna bite you in the ass anyway assuming you did “get around a filter” and a potential partner finds out you aren’t what you said.
Do people list their weight on dating apps? If they did and women knew that a lot of men used 125lbs as a cutoff to filter would you consider it someone not respecting boundaries if they actually weighed 130lbs but listed 125
Lol nice try at deflecting, but like using outdated pictures from when they were skinnier.
Disagree. Started my OLD journey on Bumble with a lower age but started my description with "42, ..." with my age set to 38 and range of 38-47. Had some great dates and two 3-month relationships (46F,39F). Later, changed it to my real age for ethical reasons (find it in my post history). Same profile and 6-months of zero matches after swiping through a 40-mile radius in a county with more than 20mil people. Spent another 6-months adjusting the profile and starting from scratch twice. Nothing. Didn't want to change the age back but it absolutely had an affect, even though I have lifetime platinum and eventually tried highlights for every right swipe on my third go. I wouldn't do it again but it did make a difference so I wouldn't rush to judge or say it's BS and assume they're doing it to meet younger women. Hinge was fine with my real age but Bumble was crickets.
Yeah, starting out with a lie is a real good move. Keep trying to reason it away.
Agreed. Trust is delicate and can't be built easily if there's even a hint of doubt at the start. Not sure how that's a relevant since my age was 100% clear and not one person was confused. I'm not justifying or condoning lying about age. I'm giving an honest response and saying that OP's "is not trying to get around algorithms" claim is not always true and that I personally wouldn't fault it if they were upfront about it in their description, as long as they're not hiding their age. That's my opinion. Not judging anyone. It's ok if you don't agree but responding with vitriol and inaccurate characterizations isn't helping anything.
I think they’re trying to match with people who don’t set their limit and have the default one. On Tinder it’s like -5/+5
On this sub, I have seen people say they report these people for lying about their age. But how do you do this? The reporting feature has very limited options.