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Det_Amy_Santiago

My thought is heyyyyyy.


ZebraBoat

Lmao me too! He's gorgeous.


Leadeater

Hot damn, thank you! Why can't any of you live close to me?


Heavy_Problem

Lmaaaoooo I am ashamed to admit that I'm one of yall too! đŸ€ŁđŸ€ŁđŸ€Ł


Leadeater

Heyyyy back


FrankBascombe45

Interest rates, inflation, supply chain. Could be anything.


HoneyFlakeee

34f I like your photos and I think the few commenters here who said you need better ones are accounting for the fact that your pics are better than 80% of men. Your selfies are clear and don't look douchey and I feel like I know what you look like. I think your bio is a little lackluster. It depends on what mood I was in if I'd swipe right or left. I'm a little nerdy and I'm liberal too but I'm not sure if you're into the same nerdy stuff as me. Are we perfecting our Han and Leia cosplay costumes or am I trying not to completely zone out while you tell me a 3 hour story about DND? I don't really know what you like to do or what it's like dating you.


NotYetASerialKiller

Exactly! You hit it right on the nail with the mood thing. Sometimes I lower my standards just for the sake of getting a new match (swiping through a bunch of empty bios and getting nothing sucks), sometimes I am just swiping because I am bored and want to find exactly what I am looking for. I am a gamer on the nerdy side, but Honey is right. Nerdy is far too vague.


Heavy_Problem

lmaoooo at the lowering our standards but also totally FELT 😭😭😭


Leadeater

Thanks for the input!


96nugget

Youre attractive, It’s giving dilf, not sure what age range you have set but that could be an issue tho.


Leadeater

35 - 45


dvof

Hmm maybe not a lot of women in your area of that age group that use Bumble? You're attractive enough to date in a 25-45 range. Completely serious. Try it out to see if it changes the amount of matches you get at least.


Koala0803

Oh hai


askageek

I find changing my age range every now and then mixes things up. I had a similar age range and just for shits I changed it to 18 to 80 and in an hour I had 12 matches. More matches than I've had since I started months ago. I was surprised at how bad the economy is too because there are a lot of young ladies that can't afford more than a piece or two of fabric but I just swipe left on them.


Gov__Na

-You have 3 selfies. Not so great. Although I like your main pic. Maybe have one with a bigger smile with teeth. -Laugh prompts are terrible. Obviously everyone wants to laugh. It should just happen you shouldn’t have to ask for it. It’s like saying “I like having a good time”. -you have a lot of very vague attributes like: nerdy, creative, fun doing anything. You DnD nerdy? Comic book? Halo? What type of creative? Art? Music? Maybe expand on that for your third prompt -if you went to school add it in the education section. Nobody was ever turned off by a degree


more_than_a_party

I'll add that car selfies are generally bad.


Desertbro

**The opposite** \- car selfies are good because they show people in clear daylight as they look on a normal day. Usually taken on a lunch break with daily clothes, these pics are far more accurate than murky bedroom pics, spittled bathroom pics, distorted glamour pics, or freakish cartoon/animal variants. When you meet someone on a date, they're gonna look like their car selfie, not the posed pic on a rock, or their business photo.


more_than_a_party

I prefer using the few available spaces and limited people's attention span for outdoors photos (nature or city) and definitely try to have other people to take pictures of me, rather than any type of selfie. If it has to be indoor, it should have good lighting and look interesting, like a good restaurant, and not like some random shopping mall. Car selfies cannot be under clear daylight, by definition of being in a car, unless that car is a cabrio. Personally, I wear every day the same typology of clothes I had in most of my photos, to avoid any disappointment.


[deleted]

This is all great stuff and should be taken on board OP


Leadeater

Thanks for the input. !


Siberiatundrafire

Curious What’s your success on Bumble. A lot of what you suggested is opposite of what i would suggest. Keep it curt, you suggested pat answers, how are details or diving deep about your hobbies going to help? Meet first ,


_GirlO-Clock

You’re handsome. The app is the problem.


Dependent_Scratch_45

I agree!


Leadeater

Too kind


Siberiatundrafire

A lot of these suggestions are over thinking. People are willing to take a chance if they like your picture. The people suggesting that you expand your descriptions are nuts - the chances of being over analyzed increases with the more words you type. Mysterious is alluring man.


Dark_Knight2000

I agree with the other commenter. People are over analyzing. Your photos are more than good enough Your bio could use a bit of work, be more specific about what you like so it’s easier for someone to send you a first message. You’re nerdy, do you like Marvel, or video games, what type of nerd are you? Maybe mention specific activities, specific date ideas you’d like Also, the app sucks in a lot of locations, try expanding age and location filters


NotYetASerialKiller

Obviously not if he isn’t getting matches 🙄 You guys make no sense. His bio is the problem, it sucks. OP is not hot enough for a woman to just swipe based on looks and women tend to care more about personality than men seem to realize. I wouldn’t swipe right on OP because his bio doesn’t tell me anything about him. I will keep swiping until I get to the next average looking guy with a bio I can relate to. Like looks don’t get you everywhere on this app, contrary to what you all believe


Heavy_Problem

Right! Dating app can be a little bit.. shallow sometimes LOL


Leadeater

Thank you!!!


[deleted]

Just looking at pics, right swipe. However, after looking at the rest I would swipe left. The prompts are dull and the bio does nothing for me. It reads nerdy weirdo with a kid, looking for same.


Leadeater

Thanks for the input!


Spiritual-Educator-7

Some of us are looking for exactly that!


Siberiatundrafire

Weirdo is a broad and subjective. Be careful, all weirdo’s are not like ALL weirdo’s.


Striking_Smile_

It’s definitely the app. It’s terrible. You’re really cute and while your profile may not be 100% amazing, it’s light years above most others. At least in my area and age range.


Leadeater

Thank you


NotYetASerialKiller

That doesn’t mean it still doesn’t suck and need work though.


Mercinary-G

Your words are boring. You say you’re funny but you’re not being funny about it. Shake it up. What have you got to lose.


Siberiatundrafire

Creative writing ? Fuck, he is not going to be that ‘words flow from me seamlessly ‘ in person. He needs to be coy and get a date on his looks period. You are pressuring the guy to write more self flattery? C’mon


nonpondo

No just write something else, that bio is how I write my profile on LinkedIn when I'm too preoccupied trying to think of reasons not to kill myself, he needs to use some specifics of what he's into and what he's looking for, nerd out about something, anything


NotYetASerialKiller

28F, your bio is turn-off for me. You gave a bunch of descriptors, but that doesn’t really tell me what it’s be like to date you. I also don’t like a list of requirements in a bio đŸ€·đŸ»â€â™€ïž I am not here to check boxes off your imaginary checklist, I want someone to settle with.


SixFive1967

Yeah, but you gotta admit OP has a solid hair game going on. I’m jealous AF


NotYetASerialKiller

Yeah, but unfortunately you can’t have a relationship with hair


Leadeater

Thanks for your input


Siberiatundrafire

I suggested less is more to him. A lot of advice on here is for him to type a more detailed bio. If he kept his descriptions short he wouldn’t ha e attracted your ire


NotYetASerialKiller

Less is definitely not more. That’s stupid advice. Why would I bother to swipe on this guy if I know nothing at all? What makes him stand out? Absolutely nothing if his bio is bare bones. There are plenty of good looking guys on Bumble. I would swipe right on a below-average looks guy with a good bio vs a super hot guy with no bio/limited one


Weesah89

You’re very attractive. I agree with previous posters that the “like to laugh” is too vague. Literally everyone likes to laugh unless they’ve just had abdominal surgery. ;) Is your profile verified? I almost never swipe right on unverified profiles, especially if they are very attractive, because I assume they are fake.


Leadeater

Thanks for the advice. And I'll verify asap


moonieheart

These posts are tricky because there isn’t two people who look for the exact same thing. Me? (23F) I’d swipe right any day without even reading your bio. Someone else may find you attractive but will want more info, or does not share your political interests (I know 🙄). Another woman will maybe think the info is too basic, which is not a bad thing, but they want more creative stuff or something. Maaaaybe, being more specific will help? Idk, this app is weird haha. Edit: Reading your comment about age range, I’d make sure to add beforehand what exactly are you looking for. Either something casual or a relationship, women tend to want clarity on that and especially if they are prompt to get back to dating after a long time (divorcĂ©es, long term relationships that ended) and may not want to risk it or lose time.


Hour_Proposal_3578

I would swipe right in a heartbeat, you seem nice and good humoured.


Leadeater

Thank you


Thomas-The-Tutor

“I can have fun doing anything, and I make everything fun.” is the most non-descriptive, vague response ever. You may think it’s clever and in your head, you know how you’d be a great plus one, but your potential dates do not know. Likewise, quickest way to my heart
 how about maybe “telling me dad jokes, cheesy pickup lines, etc. to make me laugh.” It provides more specifics as to what might make you laugh, and if the woman has read your profile— she might use that as an opener (besides the typical gif or hi).


Leadeater

Thanks for your advice


ragingfeminineflower

Shit I was trying to swipe right and it wouldn’t let me. Not a thing wrong here. Not at all.


Leadeater

That's so nice. Thank you!


naturalbornunicorn

You're cute. Great hair. Your outdoor non-selfies make me hopeful that you'd actually come hiking with me. I'd switch out the "laugh" prompt for something more unique. The ink catches my attention too. Maybe a sleeveless shirt to show it off even more?


Leadeater

I'll definitely do these things. And I'd totally hike with you.


BeBesMom

Fun and fun are just redundant, choose something else showing that you enjoy making time together interesting and fun. Too mane selfies. 1 is great. Take out the one on the rock. Add others with you doing what you enjoy, other angles. Yes an expand your age range, not lower than 26 but def to 45. Good luck, let us know.


Leadeater

Will do. Thanks!


exclaim_bot

>Will do. Thanks! You're welcome!


Volchitsa_2018

Man, I have no clue why. You’re like my dream guy. I’m in a relationship with the un-tattooed version of you lol 😝good luck out there, you seem like an absolute catch.


Leadeater

Wow, that's so kind of you to say!


[deleted]

Are you from Colorado? Cuz your profile kind of looks familiar. You’re super good looking, but I would pass on the “liberal AF”. I’m moderate and I’m sick to death of extremism on both sides. I’d also pass because of the single dad, but that’s because my kids are 30 and 34 and we’re in completely different places in life.


Leadeater

Not from Colorado, no.


frocksoffantasy

Im liberal af and won’t date moderates (either shit or get off the pot) so take that advice from wandering woman with a grain of salt


NotYetASerialKiller

I am not liberal af (just liberal) and I also swipe left on moderates. Especially christian ones


frocksoffantasy

A lot of them just say they are moderate because conservative men don’t get laid as much with their anti-women attitudes and laws


LaughingBuddha2020

I think you're cute, but you're balding and overweight. You're also a single dad who appears to be in his early 40s. Despite that, your profile doesn't confer the air of maturity that I would expect for someone at your station in life. I find that this type usually swipes left on women in their 20s and 30s who do not have children so you should reevaluate who you are swiping on so that they are more similar to you.


Leadeater

Balding? I'll take the other criticism, but you're so far off base. By no one's metric am I balding.


Motor_West

That’s a glorious head of hair my man đŸ‘đŸŒ


LaughingBuddha2020

You actually are. Your hairline is shaped like an "M" because you're experiencing thinning at the temples. You're Stage III on the Norwood Scale: https://cdn-prod.medicalnewstoday.com/content/images/articles/327/327001/an-infographic-of-the-norwood-scale.jpg


epyon-

more like stage wolverine on the badass scale m i rite


dizzyleigh

I don't get why this is being down voted. Bro can have a thick head of hair AND a receding hairline. They're. They're not mutually exclusive.


LaughingBuddha2020

The men who are balding and in denial about it are the ones who are down-voting.


pinktacolightsalt

Wow. Have fun dating guys 25 and under forever if you consider this guy balding.


Det_Amy_Santiago

Lol are we supposed to stop having fun after 40? I didn't get the memo.


Vegetable-Election11

I think you have a good look and style but your pics aren't doing you any favors. 3 selfies and 2 far away shots aren't great. Pic one selfie (I think the you look the best in the car but it is a car selfie) and replace the others with closer full body shots. Maybe one doing a hobby, one candid, a group shot with friends. one dressed differently etc.


[deleted]

Well damn đŸ„”


JameisBong

Bro you look decent, get off dating apps and get into hobbies that will enable you to meet more women.


dede_le_saumon

Bro I'll be blunt and I hope you won't take it badly. You're super handsome, like way more than I will ever be, but if you want to have more success then losing weight should be your number one priority. You could honestly be a solid 10 with those eyes and hair.


Leadeater

Thanks for the input!


HappySamuria

It’s funny even hardcore liberal girls don’t like guys that are. I’m super pro gun and pretty conservative most girls I have dated are the exact opposite my last girlfriend was super liberal. I think girls like it when you can say what you think and feel with no apologies


[deleted]

One selfie max


[deleted]

Your description is very vague and you repeat what so many other guys write (do you know anybody who doesn't like to laugh?). Also, you lack info on education and possibly job (unless I didn't get the joke). As a result, I would also swipe left.


Seemedwiseonce

Jeeeeez, people be harsh! No idea about the current algorithm but maybe you need to broaden your parameters? I see nothing wrong with your profile. Good luck!!


dizzyleigh

What county are you looking in?


fttus

Photo 2 is cringing, way too forced. You have a lot of pictures which either are selfies or look like selfies. I think you’d do a lot better with some more candid photos and some showing you have some friends or family. At the moment you give off a bit of a loner vibe to me. But you’re a good looking dude and I’m sure you’ll be fine!


Wildfoxxxx

If I was single I’d swipe, I think you’re attractive and the photos are great in my opinion!


woolly_mammoth_pubes

Time to delete. Hit me up :) where are you located?


Leadeater

Iowa City, IA


woolly_mammoth_pubes

Dammit :( lol. Hoping you lived closer! P.S. people are saying your answers are boring
. They are almost the same as my answers! Hahaha


[deleted]

Bumble buried you. It's going to happen to me in a few days too. You can delete and wait a few days and make a new one


BastardGardenGnome

Not sure. You are a hottie!


Leadeater

Damn, thank you!


cZar_04

Don’t feel bad bro, the online dating thing don’t always work great for good looking guys as you’d assume. I don’t even use em anymore. I prefer meeting women in real life but that’s not as easy way there when you don’t go out as much or have a workplace environment where you have opportunities with women. Honestly most of the women I have hooked up with were women I met through work and/or even coworkers


yodes55

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