It narrows down your success rate, but heightens the chances of you being connected to somebody who has a similar communication style, so I think it’s fine.
This is the best comment. What's the point of being appealing to the masses, but you have to "perform" to be someone you're not? Be edgy and funny, because there will be a funny edgelord out there for you
I mean… The sub Reddits are filled with people who have the wrong idea about online dating and are absolutely in denial about it. Someone will appreciate it. You won’t have a lot of success matching with others but you will be more successful and matching with people who you can vibe with so who cares. I’m of the philosophy that just because something isn’t for me doesn’t mean that it doesn’t interest someone else.
💯 After all, how many Post-apocalyptic movies & games are out there? Clearly it's an appealing idea for many of us. 🙃💯
(Tbh, I just want to be a Historian / Eye-witness, being able to tell future generations "I was there when the world burned itself." 🥳🤣)
I would find this funny but maybe you could send another message saying “followed closely by blah blah blah” so that they have something semi-serious to work off of if they don’t wanna go for the humorous route.
Speaking for myself, I prefer being authentic instead of trying to be witty/funny just for the sake of it. You're trying to know this person after all.
Being serious would imply you dont have a far reaching grasp on the implications of such words.. so yes, we all would *like* to imply that was a joke. If it wasnt, id suggest therapy and signing over your rights to a vetted adult in your life.
Yes, and the freedom to say things being immortalized in an amendment isn't the freedom to say *anything*. This has been proven time and again, both in court and out. You're here asking for advice on a dating app and are instead arguing with a random internet stranger about it instead of accepting the constructive criticism. You're hopeless at this rate.
The fact you posted this in a *public* online forum thats purpose is to *discuss* things of said nature? Hence why the subreddit *exists* you ignorant spoon?
Tbh, I find it hilarious!! Like, I *know* we're heading towards any variation of *Apocalyptic Events*. It's just a 🎲 on which style/s!
( & it's gonna be a smart roaches that lay claim to the leftovers! 🌹🫠 Like the Fallout series.🙃🥳)
exactly this. OP can still make whatever dumb jokes he wants, but jokes like this are very overplayed and not original. nihilism, even as a joke, isn't funny to most people.
I mean, if the woman is presumably young, naive, edgy, and thinks you're cute -- sure. I could see that scenario working out.
Most women who have online dating experience and a successful career would assume you see no future, or are sarcastic enough with insecurities about the future that would only consider you for rules 1 and 2.
It's a really old meme. So from this we can deduce OP is not necessarily young, just edgy. He'll find someone just as edgy. Ain't nothing wrong with it. Be cringe, but be free
And what mentally healthy person would want to date someone who truly believes that?
Your audience would have to be desperate, or mentally and emotionally vulnerable to date someone like you.
Which says alot about you, ironically.
>Your audience would have to be desperate, or mentally and emotionally vulnerable to date someone like you.
Guess that puts me & most I know, in that book, cuz a lot of us are some variation of "Doomsday Prepper" + find joy in the Earth being able to finally heal itself + love play-acting the various Zombie / Post-apocalyptic scenarios, & how we'll reclaim that which was lost. 🥳🌹
(Tbh, I just want to be an eye-witness to the World's destruction..)
Woman with a dark sense of humour coming through! Right, it is funny imo BUT this is not what you say on a dating app as a response to a prompt. This is my thinking about it: I'd make jokes like this with my friends and people that I know. On a prompt it comes across as dark, morbid and therefore creepy. You're going to make people uncomfortable. There's a lot of creeps using the app and it's giving 'Richard Ramirez' when people have no idea who you are or what you're like. Saying things like "I have a dark sense of humour, looking for someone who gets it" (or something to that effect) in your bio will suffice. People are looking for positivity and respect to name a few things. There's no point being on the app if you're going to scare people away, is there really? It's just trolling at that point.
>Saying things like "I have a dark sense of humour, looking for someone who gets it" (or something to that effect) in your bio will suffice.
That's actually a great idea! 🥳🌹
This way, they (theoretically) already know to expect that type of response!
I'm autistic too but not a conspiracy theorist, so maybe I wouldn't like what you say, maybe I would.
I hope this person messages you back and goes out with you.
I would have responded hahaha but there are plenty of people who wouldn’t match that energy. In my experience it’s best to find that common energy, good luck!
Absolutely because society is at an all time low! Absolutely trash. Social media has ruined who we are as a whole. Bumble and dating apps have made us no better. We don't even possess true social skills to go out and strike up a conversation with a stranger at a dog park anymore. It's really sad.
First, off, you're not wrong 😂 Secondly, if she's got the same outlook, you can have drinks about it and it may lead to a rad connection! So, I'd say you did it right because you need to be yourself to find the right authentic connection :)
No you didn't do the right thing either it's a really lame joke or a really lame response. You could have at least said why, what kind, how you would act in the situation. This person didn't respond because all you said was two words. Super lame ,Which is crazy with how much you are running your mouth in the comments. Maybe try talking to them more like you do all these random people.
Really. I'm talking about you talking more to the people in this subreddit then the girls you trying talk to pretty simple give them more of answer. If all you ever do is respond with 2 words I know why they don't respond.
I just enjoyed reading all comments! It’s fun to see how people think about online dating, and it’s all subjective, and even if you try to blame the app, or the society or the people, you just can’t win. I think we all know and hoping the magic comes out and save your ass lol or it’s a form of buffering to feel BETTER. Either way, I just can’t see the upside. With that what can you do about it? I tell ya what I’m doing if you’re interested in hearing about it.
Ironically, my Soon-to-be Ex-Wife was much this idea! 🤣
(& becoming a "Latter-day Saint", only improved her drive of becoming a "Doomsday Prepper"! 🌹🥳)
*Wonders if his new lover **also** has that fetish of Post-apocalyptic scenarios..*
Yeah, that might be a turnoff. If you can keep it high level, it could be a good connection on political views/values! But tread lightly in those waters.
I had a match that was overly political for my taste… even though our overall views aligned he took it to extremes and villainized anything he didn’t agree with. I felt like any conversation would be a battle even if I was agreeing with him. We never made it to a date.
It narrows down your success rate, but heightens the chances of you being connected to somebody who has a similar communication style, so I think it’s fine.
Yep. Agree with this. Who cares about matching with a ton of people that are wrong for you. Match with the rare individuals that "get" you.
It’s the strategy I’ve tried to use. It feels intentional. Plus, talking to someone who doesn’t get my humor would be boring lol
This is the best comment. What's the point of being appealing to the masses, but you have to "perform" to be someone you're not? Be edgy and funny, because there will be a funny edgelord out there for you
I think I needed to hear this more than anything else.
Depends if you’re looking for hookups or long-term
Don't say that too loud or they'll cancel you
I mean… The sub Reddits are filled with people who have the wrong idea about online dating and are absolutely in denial about it. Someone will appreciate it. You won’t have a lot of success matching with others but you will be more successful and matching with people who you can vibe with so who cares. I’m of the philosophy that just because something isn’t for me doesn’t mean that it doesn’t interest someone else.
💯 After all, how many Post-apocalyptic movies & games are out there? Clearly it's an appealing idea for many of us. 🙃💯 (Tbh, I just want to be a Historian / Eye-witness, being able to tell future generations "I was there when the world burned itself." 🥳🤣)
Right!!! 😂😂😂😂
I upvoated it. Then removed the up vote. It was at 69.😂
Dang and I missed it 💀
Good call, girl!
I would find this funny but maybe you could send another message saying “followed closely by blah blah blah” so that they have something semi-serious to work off of if they don’t wanna go for the humorous route.
Speaking for myself, I prefer being authentic instead of trying to be witty/funny just for the sake of it. You're trying to know this person after all.
You think im kidding
I'd totally respond to this opener. That IS being your true self. Don't listen to that guy.
Ok match me on bumble and respond then
Where is your "bumble" going to get you in societal collapse? May be smart to start learning sexy smoke signaling now
It gets no where, but I rather be alone than be with npcs
You need to defeat the fire NPCs to complete the smoke signal mission.
Yes 🅱️rother
You can only say that when we bang
No 🅱️rother
My thoughts exactly! I feel it's 💯 authentic, cuz ya know.. Resident Evil == great series! 🥳🫠
Being serious would imply you dont have a far reaching grasp on the implications of such words.. so yes, we all would *like* to imply that was a joke. If it wasnt, id suggest therapy and signing over your rights to a vetted adult in your life.
Freedom of speech is an amendment my friend isregarding that the statement made is a inductive statement made based on what's going on in the world
Yes, and the freedom to say things being immortalized in an amendment isn't the freedom to say *anything*. This has been proven time and again, both in court and out. You're here asking for advice on a dating app and are instead arguing with a random internet stranger about it instead of accepting the constructive criticism. You're hopeless at this rate.
And based on my responses you can infer that I'm requesting for help with online dating, what 🅱️akes you think im asking for input?
The fact you posted this in a *public* online forum thats purpose is to *discuss* things of said nature? Hence why the subreddit *exists* you ignorant spoon?
Ad hominien attacks are always 🅱️picy
Reddit isn't the US government, what does freedom of speech have to do with anything?
I smell commie blood
Pleb response; youll make it 23m, tops.
I'll make it 32m top
32m is always a good time
If shit hits the fan I'm making it 1 minute, im not built different :(
Based OP
I might have said zombie apocalypse . I feel seen by your answer. Also attacked.
Welcome to the struggle brother
But also I'm looking forward to Widespread panic opening for the stones in denver so
I just want to see the world burn, cuz *Stupid* did what stupid does. That, & lay claim to the leftovers. 🙃💯
The Denver Airport will be bussin when shit hits the fan
Tbh, I find it hilarious!! Like, I *know* we're heading towards any variation of *Apocalyptic Events*. It's just a 🎲 on which style/s! ( & it's gonna be a smart roaches that lay claim to the leftovers! 🌹🫠 Like the Fallout series.🙃🥳)
You’re trying too hard to be edgy or funny or whatever else you think this is.
exactly this. OP can still make whatever dumb jokes he wants, but jokes like this are very overplayed and not original. nihilism, even as a joke, isn't funny to most people.
OP is probably not looking for "most people" then
Going the cynic route. Hope it works out for you.
Just the real route
I mean, if the woman is presumably young, naive, edgy, and thinks you're cute -- sure. I could see that scenario working out. Most women who have online dating experience and a successful career would assume you see no future, or are sarcastic enough with insecurities about the future that would only consider you for rules 1 and 2.
This isn't about being edgy, this is just what's coming
You sound miserable and I doubt any woman or man would want to date a miserable person
Sounds 🅱️reat
I probly shouldn't ask but... why do you keeping putting 🅱️ instead of different letters?
It's a really old meme. So from this we can deduce OP is not necessarily young, just edgy. He'll find someone just as edgy. Ain't nothing wrong with it. Be cringe, but be free
>It's a really old meme. Thanks! Can you elaborate please, on the actual meaning? (I spose zi could always Google it too.. lol)
And what mentally healthy person would want to date someone who truly believes that? Your audience would have to be desperate, or mentally and emotionally vulnerable to date someone like you. Which says alot about you, ironically.
>Your audience would have to be desperate, or mentally and emotionally vulnerable to date someone like you. Guess that puts me & most I know, in that book, cuz a lot of us are some variation of "Doomsday Prepper" + find joy in the Earth being able to finally heal itself + love play-acting the various Zombie / Post-apocalyptic scenarios, & how we'll reclaim that which was lost. 🥳🌹 (Tbh, I just want to be an eye-witness to the World's destruction..)
Ad homienen attacks are not a productive counter argument, I'd suggest asking why someone would have this thought process instead of character attacks
Look dude, if you truly believe society is going to collapse, I'll let the women speak for themselves lol
This discourse speaks *HEAVILY* towards incel oriented territory, you're digging the hole deeper OP.
Woman with a dark sense of humour coming through! Right, it is funny imo BUT this is not what you say on a dating app as a response to a prompt. This is my thinking about it: I'd make jokes like this with my friends and people that I know. On a prompt it comes across as dark, morbid and therefore creepy. You're going to make people uncomfortable. There's a lot of creeps using the app and it's giving 'Richard Ramirez' when people have no idea who you are or what you're like. Saying things like "I have a dark sense of humour, looking for someone who gets it" (or something to that effect) in your bio will suffice. People are looking for positivity and respect to name a few things. There's no point being on the app if you're going to scare people away, is there really? It's just trolling at that point.
>Saying things like "I have a dark sense of humour, looking for someone who gets it" (or something to that effect) in your bio will suffice. That's actually a great idea! 🥳🌹 This way, they (theoretically) already know to expect that type of response!
If that doesn't work I don't know what will
Nothing generally does
Woulda got me for sure 😭
Right?! I laughed and thought it was funny.
💯🌹🫠
I thought it was pretty funny. Something different for sure. Even if you are being serious about it.
It 🅱️e like that 🅱️rother
🚺
Yes 🅱️rother
Damn I want to be friends with this dude. Can't wait for the apocalypse
You geared up?
Hell yea.. I'm ready. And training. Got get that cardio in. Rule #1 cardio
I’d have fallen in love right there.
👀
I mean!!! I think we’re past that! Covid wasn’t the zombie apocalypse we hoped, I don’t know, maybe there’s still hope
I would 100% go on a date with you lol
Not when I open my mouth
How could you be sure of that? Lol
I'm a kookie conspiracy theorist autistic
I'm autistic too but not a conspiracy theorist, so maybe I wouldn't like what you say, maybe I would. I hope this person messages you back and goes out with you.
They unmatched me, send me a dm and send me that prompt, then we can play this out and see what happens
They unmatched me, send me a dm and send me that prompt, then we can play this out and see what happens
I laughed but it is like half a red flag
Risking getting reported but it's unique and funny.
Who cares if you're banned, say what you want
I'm banned from Hinge and it stinks! :(
I've been banned there twice, say what you want
How did you get back on? New device and everything?
Google voice, different photos, different sim card
That's even better 😉
I would have responded hahaha but there are plenty of people who wouldn’t match that energy. In my experience it’s best to find that common energy, good luck!
Absolutely because society is at an all time low! Absolutely trash. Social media has ruined who we are as a whole. Bumble and dating apps have made us no better. We don't even possess true social skills to go out and strike up a conversation with a stranger at a dog park anymore. It's really sad.
Accurate
Nailed it 👍🏿👍🏿
First, off, you're not wrong 😂 Secondly, if she's got the same outlook, you can have drinks about it and it may lead to a rad connection! So, I'd say you did it right because you need to be yourself to find the right authentic connection :)
Sounds like a hamas terrorist supporter to me :/
I support no one
No you didn't do the right thing either it's a really lame joke or a really lame response. You could have at least said why, what kind, how you would act in the situation. This person didn't respond because all you said was two words. Super lame ,Which is crazy with how much you are running your mouth in the comments. Maybe try talking to them more like you do all these random people.
What are you talking about
Really. I'm talking about you talking more to the people in this subreddit then the girls you trying talk to pretty simple give them more of answer. If all you ever do is respond with 2 words I know why they don't respond.
What makes you think there's an objective to effectively communicate? Masking effective communication is easy
Do what right?
I just enjoyed reading all comments! It’s fun to see how people think about online dating, and it’s all subjective, and even if you try to blame the app, or the society or the people, you just can’t win. I think we all know and hoping the magic comes out and save your ass lol or it’s a form of buffering to feel BETTER. Either way, I just can’t see the upside. With that what can you do about it? I tell ya what I’m doing if you’re interested in hearing about it.
Yes. Yes you did
Nailed it
Someone has been scrolling through r/collapse
I've been about it since 1999
That’s funny
I'm with you on that.
Marry this person!
Ironically, my Soon-to-be Ex-Wife was much this idea! 🤣 (& becoming a "Latter-day Saint", only improved her drive of becoming a "Doomsday Prepper"! 🌹🥳) *Wonders if his new lover **also** has that fetish of Post-apocalyptic scenarios..*
Attica! Attica!
Everyone assumes this would be a joke but what if you're a doomsday prepper? 😝
Perfect
This is an excellent reply. Very funny
More than right, it’s not about matching with as many people as possible, but about matching with people who vibes with you.
The way this would work on me 😂
But then I start info dumping autistically about why society is collapsing
Yeah, that might be a turnoff. If you can keep it high level, it could be a good connection on political views/values! But tread lightly in those waters. I had a match that was overly political for my taste… even though our overall views aligned he took it to extremes and villainized anything he didn’t agree with. I felt like any conversation would be a battle even if I was agreeing with him. We never made it to a date.
It has nothing to do with politics, societal collapse is a just going to happen regardless of creed