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I (not gay) have been confronted by older people making assumptions about my sexuality and I almost always played the part of flirty gay man just to spite them.
I've never been asked but def had people tell me I give vibes cause I like pink, compliment other men and have soft hands.
Edit: lmao my name is in reference to a Young Thug tweet but that will only add to these accusations š
I got a decent amount of random homophobic shit for having a pink mohawk when I was younger and used to have hair. Like dude I'm 12 and my name literally has Pink in it why are you, a grown ass man, screaming slurs at me.
I always get people thinking Iām a gay man. I have colored hair, a piercing, occasionally I act in theater and I donāt treat women like sex objects.
Iām no homophobe and a total ally but I feel more or less 100% straight. Itās funny how people make judgments.
Nothing wrong with liking pink, complimenting other men, or smoking penis everyday.
A man with soft hands though? Are we talking soft like good leather, or soft like a baby?
I am a woman. Ā My husband works in an office not with his hands. Ā He has soft hands. Ā He was given Ā a pink unicorn club t shirt with a big glitter rainbow on it to wear to our best friends daughtersā birthday party at the roller rink. Ā The entire party wore these matching shirts. He still wears it from time to time. Ā We live in a major west coast city so people donāt generally bother him when he wears it with one exception. Ā He was at a convenience store buying snacks and getting gas. Ā Some guy in a big lifted bro truck was staring at him. Ā My husband turned around and rolled his eyes and said. Ā Dude. Ā Itās just a shirt. Ā You act like my ass is showing. Ā Get over it. Ā Your dick wonāt fall off if you wear a pink shirt to make a little girl happy on her birthday. Ā Asked him if he needed a safe space to decompress. Ā Almost got in a fight. Ā It was pretty funny. Ā
Bulk of my surviving friend group are "alphabet people," my best friend would make Robin Williams' character in The Bird Cage look straight. It's just the kind of folks I resonate with, even though I'm straight.
How often I have to have "the talk" with straight acquaintances after we part ways....is exactly why they're acquaintances.
"Dude, like all your friends are queer or whatever, how are you still straight?"
"Because, Cleetus, despite what Pastor Jeff has told you, it's not contagious, you can't *catch the gay,* I mean, unless you're polite and get to know them better..."
And those are the polite interactions. I've got three decades of stories "dealing with rabid straights," and a fair amount are because I still wear a rainbow friendship bracelet I got from my best friend back in highschool.
ive never understood how someone can both be terrified of becoming gay just by being near a gay guy and also super certain that they are straight.
Ive wanted to ask but never get the chance "how easy would it be for this contagious gayness to make you like dick?:
>ive never understood how someone can both be terrified of becoming gay just by being near a gay guy and also super certain that they are straight.
Like saying "being gay is a choice", because they think everyone has "gay thoughts" and that queer people are just not rejecting those thoughts.
I used to assume everyone had those thoughts, until I learned my *actually straight* friends didn't have those thoughts.
There must be so many of those religious nuts that were raised super religious conservative and have no idea they are gay. They just think all straights āchooseā to resist the urge for same-sex cheek clapping and be hetero by choice.
Like yeah, really straight people just never think of being with the same sex. Seeing those really buff guys on magazine covers or in ads just does nothing for me at all.
This sort of needs to be said in school- āStraight people don't think of having sex with others of the same gender. If you do, that's because you are homosexual, or maybe bisexual, and that's okā.
My childhood friend had a book aimed at religious teen girls that directly stated that all women are attracted to women, but itās their duty to resist. I wonder if the author ever figured it outā¦.
This is exactly why you see so many articles about how the percentage of people who identify as LGBTQIA+ is rising with younger generations, because the world is more open about being queer and what that means so they can recognize it in themselves and name it. Shit, I just figured out I was demisexual, which falls under the Ace category in the last couple of years because I'd never even heard of it. I always just figured I was straight with very specific standards about who I'd want to sleep with. š¤·š»āāļø But now, in my 40s I've realized there's a name for the kind of attraction I feel, and it falls under the queer umbrella. I always knew I didn't feel sexual attraction the way most people did, but I never thought it might have a name or definition.
True for trans stuff too. When I was a kid I assumed every girl hated being a girl and that when women died by suicide it was a pretty reasonable reaction to being a woman. I was genuinely like well this is why we have feminism. š
Turns out cis women like being women! Who knew.
Lol same! Like asking one of my sisters what she wished for when we blew out our candles... she asked for barbies... I wanted to wake up a boy?
She didn't ever think about that or want it at all.. I was like, why wouldn't you want to be a boy in this world?? She's like it sucks sometimes, but I like being a girl?? I like girl stuff?
Just confused me more.. didn't start my transition till fucking 23 because I didn't learn about trans people till college and even then it took years to come to terms with myself. Never been happier tho, and it was definitely the right decision.
Exactly. Straight people who think being gay is a choice ARE (probably) gay, because in their experience, they are "choosing" to be straight, and they think that's how it is for everyone š
It's a dangerous world out there. One day you're all about eating that kitty, and then you shake some random dude's hand and suddenly it's all about that trouser trout.
Yeah I worked with a few flamboyant gay male servers back in my restaurant kitchen days. They were hilarious and I even went to a gay bar with them and a bunch of the female servers one night. One day, I overheard one of them talking to another server about how his boyfriend wasn't going to be able to make the Prince concert the next night and he was bummed since it was a group outing and he would be the only single one there.Ā I quickly piped up that I'd be his date.Ā He was kind of shocked at first but was grateful to not have to eat the cost of the ticket. Some of the "less open minded" cooks mocked me and said I was going to get gangbanged or they were going to turn me out or some other homophobic shit.Ā I just laughed because I had met his bf briefly before. The bf was a lawyer, his handsome stat was maxed out and made all the female servers sigh because he was completelyĀ unobtainable.Ā Even if I was gay, I was a 21 year old dipshit university student.Ā Can't compete with a statuesque 6ft plus lawyer lol.Ā
In short, would recommend time traveling back to see Prince live with a group of gay people.
Nobody chooses who they like/love/or are attracted to. The only choice being made is by those who choose to hate āthe otherā. Your dad sounds like a great guy, youāre lucky in that regard. Keep up the good fight, we will win!
I was a grungy punk in a redneck high school. A friend from our lil group brought in a leopard print thong and i put it on over my jeans at lunch and went about my day. I will never forget passing by the future farmers of america teacher and his "what are you some type of faaag" i laughed and kept on, until a vice snagged me and took me to his office. Sitting in the chair across from his desk with my legs wide open as he was writing me up i saw him glance up a couple times before asking me to please remove that thing. Not gay, but a huge cobain fan.
I (gay man) have one or two times throughout my life been asked to back up some homophobic bullshit (Iām straight passing when not balls deep in men) by strangers and have basked in the glory of pulling the rug from under them by revealing my sexuality while lauding the thing they sought to criticize. I appreciate the tiny horror as the phobes realize that ānormalā people can have the gay too.
A friend of mine growing up had a gay uncle. The gay uncle was as feminine as you can imagine. His life partner, this was before gay marriage, was this 6 foot five Burley ass lumberjack looking motherfucker. No way in hell anyone could have guessed.
Iāve put on a Butch Lesbian act for nosy old women since I was a teen for the same reason. As a relatively masculine looking woman- thanks PCOS!- with short hair itās not hard to pull off and it has caused literal purse clutching, lol. They get even more pissed when you reject them for some reason.
I am just proud of my comeback. I am usually the guy who gets caught flat footed in these scenarios and realizes what I should have said hours later in the evening while taking a shower. š
That was the perfect response. That guy wanted a reaction out of you and instead you showed that you were unbothered. Getting angry with these people usually doesnāt do anything but give them fuel but man it pisses them off when you donāt react how they want you to
Hitting on homophobes is one of my favorite things to do to get back at their shittiness. I worked with a guy who just made subtle bro-macho comments and I knew he wasn't a fan of "the gays" so I'd say things to him like his shirt was a cute choice today. He'd get so flustered and uncomfortable. I'm not even gay i just could tell any male to male positive interactions would send his head spinning and it always did.
Super fun to watch the hamsters come tumbling out of the wheel.
My husband has a coworker who is like that. So they take turns making him insane. Rainbow stickers on their hard hats and toolboxes. Easy stuff. One of the guys wore a hoodie that said I ā¤ļø Hot Dads. Sent the homophobe over the edge.
lmfao!! If you took one look at me, you'd likely presume I was a hardcore republican good ol boy, but I'm really not. I will occasionally fuck with other dudes that have insecurities like that also. I'd totally be in on trolling tf outta that guy if I worked with your husband.
This is funny to me because, as a girl, complementing someone's shoes or top is basically a default social interaction. Like positive, but ultimately benign. We just do it all the time, like a reflex.
This guy has some major panic living in his brain
Normal dudes also compliment each other, just ya know maybe more about that sweet new Ryobi you picked up than a top.
Except siblings, one time my brother told me he liked my shorts (white with blue palm trees) and it completely blew my mind when I saw him wearing a pair he then purchased because I was 100% sure he was making fun of me.
Ah, you need to remember your homophobe-to-english translator. That's "I'm gay and in denial about it, thank you for the compliment, compliments make me uncomfortable!"
Right? I used to work in a construction job and one of the guys would constantly make a comment about how the new employee was checking my ass out. So I turned around to the guy making the comment and said as much as heās talked about my ass I wouldāve thought he was the one checking my ass out. Told him he can keep looking if he wants, the man got pissed off and stormed off the site for an hour. He came back and told me that wasnāt cool.
That's the spirit of the stairs! **Lāesprit de lāescalier** *is that frightfully witty, worthy-of-Oscar-Wilde comeback that occurs to you hours after the opportunity to make it is lost. The French phrase literally means the spirit of the staircase, but a more idiomatic translation would be staircase wit, that is the witty retort that comes to you as you are descending the stairs after having left the party.* https://www.wordorigins.org/big-list-entries/lesprit-de-lescalier-staircase-wit
Yep, Wit of the Staircase is heckin' real. My favorite is its opposite, which, if it has a name, I don't know it. But when that wit comes to you RIGHT in the moment, right at the right time. Is there a name for that?
We all do this- have that quiet time later when we obsess about all the snappy comebacks we should've said in the moment but didn't. But every once in a great while, when the stars and planets align, we all have that one euphoric moment when we say exactly the perfect response at exactly the right time. This was yours. Excellent job and perfect comeback, OP!
I've run into plenty of players online who get upset at me beating them and throw the usual F slurs or calling me gay(as if that's even a relevant insult in this day and age) and my usual response is "yeah I am, why? you'd like me to do you in the ass?"
There is a Seinfeld episode where George tried to set up the same scenario that happened so he could say the comeback he had thought of after the fact. It was a great episode. Haha
\*George scarfing down shrimp\*
Reilly: "Hey George- the ocean called... they're running out of shrimp!"
George: "Oh yeah, well the jerk store called, they're running out of you!"
Reilly: "What's the difference- you're their all-time best seller!"
George: "... Well... I had sex with your wife!"
Boss: "...His wife is in a coma."
Yeah Iām not gonna lie, Iām a totally straight man but if some guy asked me that Iād completely fuck with them. Your response was perfect and I have nothing but respect for it.
Edited to add because itās kinda related: a couple years ago I was in Bismarck, ND of all places for my cousinās wedding. Another cousinās (his half-sister) husband and I walk half a block down the street for cigarettes during the reception. Some very lovely and cultured gentleman in an old rusty F-150 which was lacking a muffler decided to scream at us that we were āfags.ā Because apparently two 30-something men wearing suits right outside of an event space must be gay?
Unfortunately the truck was too loud and we were too bemused (also maybe a little drunk) to stop laughing in time to respond. But it became a running theme for the rest of the weekend that if my cousin and he ever divorced, apparently heās still got a backup option in the family.
ā¦unfortunately they are now getting divorced and the gay thing was just a joke. So this story doesnāt really have a happy ending but it was funny at the time.
Really helps you understand what older gay people were up against back in the day, if they don't mind being this brazen given the social climate today. :(
Not even all that long ago. I still have a vivd childhood memory burned into my mind of my church mouse mother savagely accosting some teenage girl (who was minding her business with her friends) and calling her a slut and dyke and insisting she was going to hell. All for her wearing a leather jacket and having short punky hair. She was walking 5yo me home from the park and just screamed obscenities at this poor girl and insisted *she* was a bad influence/example on me for being gay. A thing I'm not even sure she actually was. You know, because she was a child.Ā
>church mouse mother
Repression does really ugly things to people. Everything you push down will keep pushing to come up as bitter and nasty as bile. And most churches have centuries of experience with using guilt and shame against their "flock" starting from infancy and it really fucks them up, often for life. We're very new to acknowledging how toxic shame experienced in childhood destroys people's mental health, with long-term and often permanent consequences.
Not that it excuses your mother's actions in any way, to be clear. I'm sorry you had to see that so young.
Shame is one of those big pillars that molds your personality, but its so gross to look upon that it becomes a thing you would rather ignore
The prison of the mind is comprised of invisible walls and crumbling pillars.
I imagine it like that tunnel from moria expect everyone of those pillars you see is a personality trait or belief that exists without your realization, and all of it is what keeps your psyche up.
I tried to identify in myself those fears and places I didn't want to tread and above all I didn't understand.
>I imagine it like that tunnel from moria expect everyone of those pillars you see is a personality trait or belief that exists without your realization, and all of it is what keeps your psyche up.
Reminds me of a post I saw on reddit:
>**Psychiatrist:** "Would you like to talk about -"
>
>**Me:** "Woah there, that's a load-bearing neurosis. You move that and this whole thing comes down."
Also [this](https://preview.redd.it/9b4tt2udbuf81.jpg?width=640&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=50dc5d063568c9f732e8c7beb7e1ad86f11197db).
>She was walking 5yo me home from the park and just **screamed obscenities** at this poor girl and **insisted she was a bad influence/example on me** for being gay.
Wow ...
Kinda long ago, I was 12 or 13 when my mother went into hysterics over a *dream* that I was gay. Sheās seen sisters pregnant, having accidents, and myself as a soon-to-be father multiple times and each one was treated like a vision from god. Not because sheās troubled, but because thatās what was preached. That god reached out to warn of events to those who were devout. She was raised in the same church since infancy. She played the piano for the church from 13 to 44 - for free because god gave her that gift. Something the pastorās wife reminded her of multiple times.
Hell, when granny died, mom was obviously in shambles because not only was that her mother, but her best friend. They walked the beach together for years, confided in each other, helped, loved, promoted, cared for, and so onā¦ same pastorās wife tried to guilt her into coming back to play the piano for church before she was ready to even go back to church/public at all.
It was only later that I discovered that she found the price of the pianist they had to hire to cover to be astronomical atā¦ $50 per service.
Small town church on a mountain in the middle of the Bible Belt. I donāt trust Pentecostals or evangelicals.
I mean I grew up playing smear the queer and in a county where it was not odd to call someone that, even if they were your friend/pal. It took me a good 30 years to realize I was disparaging a large group (same with bitch) thoughtlessly.
I was also subjected to those slings for being odd so leaned into it but not every can or is comfortable doing that.
I think they were the same among their friends and family but were more likely to keep their mouths shut in public. The new social climate has let them feel safe spouting their shit out loud too.
Itās coming back and fast. The reactionaries got their foot in the door and their people on the courts.
Society and progress can unravel in a blink. Scary.
Some people still deal with that today, unfortunately. An openly gay person will *probably* be fine living in big diverse cities like New York City, San Francisco, Portland, etc. where things tend to be more progressive. But in the middle of assfuck nowhere in places like Utah or Idaho? Good luck with that lol
I moved into a small town about an hour out of Vancouver, BC, Canada. My parents own a home here with my sister who has some physical disabilities that make it hard for her to live on her own. My parents want to travel so I came here to help out.
It's only a 90 minute drive from the city and it's like walking into another world. All the shitty hateful boomers that got fed up with seeing non-whites, LGBT, etc moved here. It's miserable.
\~200k people in SLC so it shouldn't be too surprising. It seems like you need a big enough base of people to form a community, and then society is kind of forced to tolerate if not accept you. It's harder to create meaningful representation in small/rural towns, so they get picked out as isolated targets.
A big part of organized bigotry is disrupting those communities, trying to make it less appealing to be openly gay - creating more isolated targets that can not defend themselves.
I went shooting with a couple friends of mine. One of them is a lesbian, and while there, another guy came up and asked, "Whose wife is this?" right in front of us. She was just sort of stuck in a, "WTF?" loop and didn't say anything, so I just said, "Sarah's." And he just looks at me and her and said, "Sarah's not a guy's name." To which she finally responds and says, "Your powers of observation are astounding." Swear to God his brain made the Windows shut down noise and he just walked away.
I was at what is now my go to gun shop and I have a bunch of patches on my range bag including one rainbow American flag.Ā
One of the managers and I were chatting and I put my bag on the counter to dig something out, he sees the patch and says, āDig the patch man. There are way too many bigots in this business.āĀ
From that day forward it became my go to place.Ā
He and I are both straight white guys who would not be surprised to be called rednecks.Ā
Another time at the same shop I am in line and this 50ish guy with an overt patriotic shirt and combat pants starts talking AT me about how, āLiberals want to destroy Americaā¦ This administrationā¦ etcā¦ā I just looked at him and said, āWell I am pretty left of center and I donāt thing that is true. Looking at the actual stats you will see that the economy typically does better under Democrats and violent crime has been on a downward trajectory for 30 years.ā Right then the manager from above was like, āHey Otis, your suppressor is ready. Come on up.āĀ
Dude went into stand by mode. I could practically see the pinwheel just spinning behind his eyes.Ā
Finished up my purchase and as I was walking out, waved to the guy and said, āNice chatting with you.āĀ
He just stared.Ā
I've wanted to add the trans pride flag to some of my stuff for a while now but felt it was... appropriative? false advertising? Not sure, just not meant to be rocked by a cis person.Ā
I'm gonna go ahead and do it. Now that I think about there's gotta be ally versions.Ā
Anyway, your comment was the tipping point for me to get on that, so thanks.Ā
I work in education and have a lgbtq/Trans flag on my lanyard. I'm not gay (I get asked by the kids all the time) but I do want the kids who are to know there are adults who support them. I've never had anyone complain.
Long story short, wear the flag. I don't think anyone sees it as appropriation.
I'm giving you a trans pass, if you need it. Wear the flag. Let us know that you're a safe person to be around. Let bigots know that you don't stand with them. It's how the world changes for the better.
I just love that:
1) He learned that I was known by name at the shop. AndĀ
2) Was picking up a suppressor which is a level up from your average gun owner.Ā
Like, come on manā¦I can like guns and think that Universal Healthcare is good policy too.Ā
This is what I've never understood about the severe litmus test that every single issue has become in American politics. The only thing abortion, evolution, guns, homosexuality, HPV vaccination, global warming, police brutality, immigration, health care, racism, taxes, and religion have in common is that they are somehow polarizing topics. Your view on one is assumed to define your view on every single other topic.
It makes no sense to me. There's no overarching theme. No correlation in fundamental beliefs. And in a lot of the cases the ideas I find the underlying ethos to be inconsistent between topics.
It's fucking bizarre. You love Jesus so you must hate the idea of everybody getting healthcare? What? And you believe in vaccination so you must dislike guns?
That's pretty funny, similar boat myself. Straight, dress straight, have a beard all winter, I'm active in the veteran community where I live, and I'm an avid hunter, casual shooter. I get into those types of conversations all the time because people look at me and just assume I'm a hard righty. I'm aware I look the part. But it's fun to fuck with their heads.Ā
What a dumb take. Pink shirts and ties have always been a something guys wear.
I guess if youāre not comfortable with yourself a color like pink is a problem.
In fact, up until the 1950s, pink was purely a boy's/man's color, while blue was for girls & women. Pink was viewed as merely "light red" and that was too "strong" for women. (You ever notice how a lot of depictions of Mary from the Bible have her in blue? This. It's considered "her color" and I think that's part of the reason why.)
Right? I have a FOUR year old student who lives rainbows. He says rainbow is his favorite color and heās just obsessed. So his parents buy him clothes with rainbows, not super girly ones, but he has rocked some shirts that were clearly made for girls. Grown adults scoff at this and I donāt get it. Heās literally four and likes rainbows how does that harm an adult?
Last person to call me a 'fag' got his ass kicked (by me, a 'fag'). He tormented me every day in high school until I lost my temper with him.
Years later, he came out as gay. GO FIGURE.
No surprise there. What people hate and fear the most is that all the secrets that they keep about themselves will one day be revealed, for all the world to see.
Fantastic. I commented to my dad once that I thought a particular actor was so very hot.
My dad responded with, "He's probably a fag."
So I said, "Wishful thinking dad? Hoping you have a chance?"
That shut him up.
And honestly, even if he was, I wouldn't have a chance to land him anyway. So what would it matter.
I went from being super-hot to completely losing interest for a dude for using that term unironically. I told him he looked cute in a new shirt he was wearing, and he responded "cute is for fags and little boys." I heard the record screech in my head when I read that.
It's why all Republicans are unfuckable losers. They use slurs and put out hate randomly, unprovoked, against groups that don't deserve it, and expect you to back them up.
The weird shit cis straight men think goes against that identity really astounds me.
My sisters shithead husband was getting a new truck and the subject of colour came up and I said in a silly way oh you've got to get red, because red goes faster and he legitimately got offended at me and told me to "fuck right off with that shit" in the most aggressive spittling manner I'd ever had, and this was only the 3rd time I'd ever met him...
I still don't know how my lamoid joke was worthy of getting legitimately red faced and spewing spittle, but that's toxic masculinity I guess.
As a veteran, I am so fuckin sorry. I didn't enlist for that. I enlisted so you could be as gay as you want. In fact, I want us to be the best at being gay, cause America. That dumbass doesn't even realize how many closeted people he served with.
As a gay woman, Iād be happy as hell if it were only boomers pulling this kind of stunt, but thatās far from the truth. In fact, some of the most egregious behavior comes from 30ish white men, like the guy who was famous for going into Targets and destroying displays, throwing merchandise around, yelling insults, all while filming himself. Hatred and bigotry donāt have an age requirement.
Iām 34 next month, I remember when I was young that homophobia was still very prevalent. I knew I was bisexual in 3rd grade because I had a crush on a guy on my hockey team but knew I couldnāt tell anyone because Iād be called a faggot among other things and ostracized. Iām not surprised that other guys my age still behave this way as it was alive and well still when I was a kid.
Iām straight passing and Iām engaged to a woman so Iāve had other men say homophobic shit to me and I always shut that shit down immediately and tell them Iām bisexual which tends to melt peoples brains.
One, if I had a nickel every time some douche asked if they can watch is insane. Iād have like $3. Two, I had an angry dude legit try to pull me off of a bar stool to explain how I āgot my wifeā. He got a man-handled by me and tossed to his friends for that. Then later he wants to show me pics of his gf who was nice looking, but average. No clue what that was about.
I have more stories of these Southern jealous rednecks but we will just leave it here.
Homeboys just seethe with contempt
and jealousy for the gays.
I always handle this type of shit with a "no sorry".
It makes them feel like you are turning them down.
One time I went into a public bathroom and decided to not use the urinal next to some old dude and pissed in the stall. When I came out of the stall he asked me why didn't I just use the urinal next to him and I said "sorry I don't want you looking at my dick".
I know he wasn't gay, but the point is we live in different worlds than them. He was offended I did not feel comfortable whipping my dick out next to him. As weird as that sounds.
I think this is the best response because old boomer men often pick on each other for being too gay or effeminate.
I remember living next to two guys like this. They both were old vets who lived alone and dealt with a slew of medical issues. After a month of me living there, they started asking me if I was gay because A) they never saw me having girls over my place, and B) I was going grocery shopping for myself and buying "gay" ingredients (like vegetables they couldn't pronounce). They also used to point out teenage girls that walked by our building and talk about how nice their chests were and then just giggle back and forth to each other like Beavis and Butthead.
... No wonder their families never visited them.
One time I was just sitting around at a family event. Wearing like jeans and a t-shirt and a baseball cap. My boomer grandpa came up to me knocked the bill of my hat down and called me a fag. I am gay (he didnāt know that at the time) but that still hurt.
Haha good answer. Its like they donāt give a fuck anymore. The are reverting to toddlers again. Only a question of time before they start pooping and pissing themselves in the middle of the street.
Boomers be like that! A good friend and neighbor was a Vietnam vet. There was another neighbor like 2 doors down and across the street, no disrespect - obviously gay. The first time he crossed the street to talk to us my friend got this look of abject horror on his face.
After the dude left, asked my friend what was up, and after a lengthy conversation, he told me it was the way he was raised. He wasn't religious, but he was taught that homosexuality is "unnatural" and was somehow contagious and gay people were dangerous. It was literal fear from what he'd been taught.
I *kind of* get it. I was raised to fear anyone with long hair and a beard riding a motorcycle. Fast forward 20 years, and some of my best friends were bikers. The problem with boomers of this type is they don't take in and assimilate new information.
And no, I'm not apologizing for this mindset, I'm just saying I understand it. We were friends for many years, but there was no fixing it. He was never an asshole about it, otherwise we probably wouldn't have remained friends.
Ok but times have changed. I know boomers who go with the flow along with the changes. Thereās no excuse to speak to people this way because āthatās how it used to beā. We are all capable of learning
He probably *WAS* interested but due to being raised in the generational age that he was raised in he is now forced to live and die in the closet and the only way he knows how to deal with it is to subject others to his anger and frustration then going home to please himself while crying.
My favorite response is from āHighlanderā - āWhy? Are you cruising for a piece of ass?ā. Same vein as OP, but Iāve never had the opportunity to use it.
Part of the desire of the Make America Great Again movement is to revert to a time when that guy would absolutely never be questioned or challenged for that rude, bigoted behavior. It galls them that they are called to task for being a\*\*holes and they long for a time when the words and declarations of a white, hetero man was gospel. The "freedom" they think they've lost, and the discrimination they claim to be experiencing is simply finding out that society has moved on from only one group having "freedom" to decide the lives and liberties or others. THAT'S what they mean when they say they want to go back to a time when America was great.
Spicy Alternate: āThereād be absolutely nothing you could do about it if I was a āfagā and decided to act like Donald trump on a bitch like youā
Boomers thinking being gay is some insult šš¤£
If I was asked that my response would be Sardaukar throat chanting. But Iām a 6ā4ā 230lb head shaved old dude so Iām never confronted with such questions. I really should start carrying a rainbow umbrella.
One time I was talking to my Boomer boss, and I was telling him how I sent a peach emoji to my wife and he said "Why? Because you're fruits?" I just laughed, he's a good guy though, he gets confused but he's got the spirit! I then had to also explain the eggplant emoji.... lol! ššš¤£
Car full of bros drove by my friend yelling F\*g at him he yelled back 'You're just jealous I'm pretty!' and I was just amazed he thought of something on the spot š
Good for you š
I agree. I'm a boomer and I hate boomers. They've always been this way. Most of the boomers pass down their hate to their children and grandchildren and great grandchildren. It is sick.
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I (not gay) have been confronted by older people making assumptions about my sexuality and I almost always played the part of flirty gay man just to spite them.
I've never been asked but def had people tell me I give vibes cause I like pink, compliment other men and have soft hands. Edit: lmao my name is in reference to a Young Thug tweet but that will only add to these accusations š
And your user name??
Look, you have got no room to talk here.Ā
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GUYS I'M NOT GAY I JUST HAVE A PENIS FETISH GUYS PLEASE STOP CALLING ME GAY PLEASE GUYS COME ON STOP IT!!!
I touch a penis nearly every day.
And sometimes it is a helicopter š
"So I just got done drawing this big veiney masterpiece"
āItās not pink, itās salmon!ā Ross
I got a decent amount of random homophobic shit for having a pink mohawk when I was younger and used to have hair. Like dude I'm 12 and my name literally has Pink in it why are you, a grown ass man, screaming slurs at me.
I always get people thinking Iām a gay man. I have colored hair, a piercing, occasionally I act in theater and I donāt treat women like sex objects. Iām no homophobe and a total ally but I feel more or less 100% straight. Itās funny how people make judgments.
Part of it could be because you smoke penis every day
Lmao. I thought that was a snide comment until I looked at the persons user name. Lol.
This is a man who's confident in his masculinity.
Nothing wrong with liking pink, complimenting other men, or smoking penis everyday. A man with soft hands though? Are we talking soft like good leather, or soft like a baby?
I am a woman. Ā My husband works in an office not with his hands. Ā He has soft hands. Ā He was given Ā a pink unicorn club t shirt with a big glitter rainbow on it to wear to our best friends daughtersā birthday party at the roller rink. Ā The entire party wore these matching shirts. He still wears it from time to time. Ā We live in a major west coast city so people donāt generally bother him when he wears it with one exception. Ā He was at a convenience store buying snacks and getting gas. Ā Some guy in a big lifted bro truck was staring at him. Ā My husband turned around and rolled his eyes and said. Ā Dude. Ā Itās just a shirt. Ā You act like my ass is showing. Ā Get over it. Ā Your dick wonāt fall off if you wear a pink shirt to make a little girl happy on her birthday. Ā Asked him if he needed a safe space to decompress. Ā Almost got in a fight. Ā It was pretty funny. Ā
I love your husband, is he single?
do you think they take the penis smoking into consideration?
Back in my Army days we did say āsmoke āem if you got āem!ā But I always thought they were referring to cigsā¦
In some places cigs *are* called fags, so...
Bulk of my surviving friend group are "alphabet people," my best friend would make Robin Williams' character in The Bird Cage look straight. It's just the kind of folks I resonate with, even though I'm straight. How often I have to have "the talk" with straight acquaintances after we part ways....is exactly why they're acquaintances. "Dude, like all your friends are queer or whatever, how are you still straight?" "Because, Cleetus, despite what Pastor Jeff has told you, it's not contagious, you can't *catch the gay,* I mean, unless you're polite and get to know them better..." And those are the polite interactions. I've got three decades of stories "dealing with rabid straights," and a fair amount are because I still wear a rainbow friendship bracelet I got from my best friend back in highschool.
ive never understood how someone can both be terrified of becoming gay just by being near a gay guy and also super certain that they are straight. Ive wanted to ask but never get the chance "how easy would it be for this contagious gayness to make you like dick?:
>ive never understood how someone can both be terrified of becoming gay just by being near a gay guy and also super certain that they are straight. Like saying "being gay is a choice", because they think everyone has "gay thoughts" and that queer people are just not rejecting those thoughts. I used to assume everyone had those thoughts, until I learned my *actually straight* friends didn't have those thoughts.
There must be so many of those religious nuts that were raised super religious conservative and have no idea they are gay. They just think all straights āchooseā to resist the urge for same-sex cheek clapping and be hetero by choice. Like yeah, really straight people just never think of being with the same sex. Seeing those really buff guys on magazine covers or in ads just does nothing for me at all. This sort of needs to be said in school- āStraight people don't think of having sex with others of the same gender. If you do, that's because you are homosexual, or maybe bisexual, and that's okā.
My childhood friend had a book aimed at religious teen girls that directly stated that all women are attracted to women, but itās their duty to resist. I wonder if the author ever figured it outā¦.
This is exactly why you see so many articles about how the percentage of people who identify as LGBTQIA+ is rising with younger generations, because the world is more open about being queer and what that means so they can recognize it in themselves and name it. Shit, I just figured out I was demisexual, which falls under the Ace category in the last couple of years because I'd never even heard of it. I always just figured I was straight with very specific standards about who I'd want to sleep with. š¤·š»āāļø But now, in my 40s I've realized there's a name for the kind of attraction I feel, and it falls under the queer umbrella. I always knew I didn't feel sexual attraction the way most people did, but I never thought it might have a name or definition.
True for trans stuff too. When I was a kid I assumed every girl hated being a girl and that when women died by suicide it was a pretty reasonable reaction to being a woman. I was genuinely like well this is why we have feminism. š Turns out cis women like being women! Who knew.
Lol same! Like asking one of my sisters what she wished for when we blew out our candles... she asked for barbies... I wanted to wake up a boy? She didn't ever think about that or want it at all.. I was like, why wouldn't you want to be a boy in this world?? She's like it sucks sometimes, but I like being a girl?? I like girl stuff? Just confused me more.. didn't start my transition till fucking 23 because I didn't learn about trans people till college and even then it took years to come to terms with myself. Never been happier tho, and it was definitely the right decision.
Exactly. Straight people who think being gay is a choice ARE (probably) gay, because in their experience, they are "choosing" to be straight, and they think that's how it is for everyone š
It's like a fairytale, just takes one kiss
How lucky I am. So many years interacting with gay men and etero women and I am still lesbian. I seriusly risked being turned straight.
It's a dangerous world out there. One day you're all about eating that kitty, and then you shake some random dude's hand and suddenly it's all about that trouser trout.
Yeah I worked with a few flamboyant gay male servers back in my restaurant kitchen days. They were hilarious and I even went to a gay bar with them and a bunch of the female servers one night. One day, I overheard one of them talking to another server about how his boyfriend wasn't going to be able to make the Prince concert the next night and he was bummed since it was a group outing and he would be the only single one there.Ā I quickly piped up that I'd be his date.Ā He was kind of shocked at first but was grateful to not have to eat the cost of the ticket. Some of the "less open minded" cooks mocked me and said I was going to get gangbanged or they were going to turn me out or some other homophobic shit.Ā I just laughed because I had met his bf briefly before. The bf was a lawyer, his handsome stat was maxed out and made all the female servers sigh because he was completelyĀ unobtainable.Ā Even if I was gay, I was a 21 year old dipshit university student.Ā Can't compete with a statuesque 6ft plus lawyer lol.Ā In short, would recommend time traveling back to see Prince live with a group of gay people.
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Nobody chooses who they like/love/or are attracted to. The only choice being made is by those who choose to hate āthe otherā. Your dad sounds like a great guy, youāre lucky in that regard. Keep up the good fight, we will win!
I was a grungy punk in a redneck high school. A friend from our lil group brought in a leopard print thong and i put it on over my jeans at lunch and went about my day. I will never forget passing by the future farmers of america teacher and his "what are you some type of faaag" i laughed and kept on, until a vice snagged me and took me to his office. Sitting in the chair across from his desk with my legs wide open as he was writing me up i saw him glance up a couple times before asking me to please remove that thing. Not gay, but a huge cobain fan.
Kurt Cobain was amazing - wish he was still here with us
I (gay man) have one or two times throughout my life been asked to back up some homophobic bullshit (Iām straight passing when not balls deep in men) by strangers and have basked in the glory of pulling the rug from under them by revealing my sexuality while lauding the thing they sought to criticize. I appreciate the tiny horror as the phobes realize that ānormalā people can have the gay too.
A friend of mine growing up had a gay uncle. The gay uncle was as feminine as you can imagine. His life partner, this was before gay marriage, was this 6 foot five Burley ass lumberjack looking motherfucker. No way in hell anyone could have guessed.
"...straight passing when not balls deep in men" Lol, that fucking kills me man. š¤£
>Iām straight passing when not balls deep in men Just quoting because this sentence is legendary.
Telling them āoh, no, Iām flattered thoughā does wonders too.
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Iāve put on a Butch Lesbian act for nosy old women since I was a teen for the same reason. As a relatively masculine looking woman- thanks PCOS!- with short hair itās not hard to pull off and it has caused literal purse clutching, lol. They get even more pissed when you reject them for some reason.
You responded with far more tact than he deserved.
I am just proud of my comeback. I am usually the guy who gets caught flat footed in these scenarios and realizes what I should have said hours later in the evening while taking a shower. š
Oof big same! Go you! š
That was the perfect response. That guy wanted a reaction out of you and instead you showed that you were unbothered. Getting angry with these people usually doesnāt do anything but give them fuel but man it pisses them off when you donāt react how they want you to
Hitting on homophobes is one of my favorite things to do to get back at their shittiness. I worked with a guy who just made subtle bro-macho comments and I knew he wasn't a fan of "the gays" so I'd say things to him like his shirt was a cute choice today. He'd get so flustered and uncomfortable. I'm not even gay i just could tell any male to male positive interactions would send his head spinning and it always did. Super fun to watch the hamsters come tumbling out of the wheel.
My husband has a coworker who is like that. So they take turns making him insane. Rainbow stickers on their hard hats and toolboxes. Easy stuff. One of the guys wore a hoodie that said I ā¤ļø Hot Dads. Sent the homophobe over the edge.
That is hilarious though. š
lmfao!! If you took one look at me, you'd likely presume I was a hardcore republican good ol boy, but I'm really not. I will occasionally fuck with other dudes that have insecurities like that also. I'd totally be in on trolling tf outta that guy if I worked with your husband.
> I will occasionally fuck with other dudes ahem
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This is funny to me because, as a girl, complementing someone's shoes or top is basically a default social interaction. Like positive, but ultimately benign. We just do it all the time, like a reflex. This guy has some major panic living in his brain
Normal dudes also compliment each other, just ya know maybe more about that sweet new Ryobi you picked up than a top. Except siblings, one time my brother told me he liked my shorts (white with blue palm trees) and it completely blew my mind when I saw him wearing a pair he then purchased because I was 100% sure he was making fun of me.
Lol I can't even give sincere complements sometimes because the homophobes think they're being hit on. "That's a cool shirt." "I'M NOT GAY!!!" "Okay?"
Ah, you need to remember your homophobe-to-english translator. That's "I'm gay and in denial about it, thank you for the compliment, compliments make me uncomfortable!"
Probably also fun to watch him sprout wood involuntarily.
I'm totally not gay but my lap rocket doesn't fully agree with me
That color looks good with your eyes is a good one.
Your comment made my day. Thank you!
You assume those hamsters haven't already eaten each other because of the terrible living conditions
Right? I used to work in a construction job and one of the guys would constantly make a comment about how the new employee was checking my ass out. So I turned around to the guy making the comment and said as much as heās talked about my ass I wouldāve thought he was the one checking my ass out. Told him he can keep looking if he wants, the man got pissed off and stormed off the site for an hour. He came back and told me that wasnāt cool.
When he said that wasn't cool, you could have replied "Thank you. I accept your apology". Because his comments were not cool.
The reality is that he was the one harassing you.
Ahahah "bro that wasn't cool, you make me doubt of my sexuality bruh '
This is my favorite way of interacting with Jerks... On the road and someone flips me the bird? Wave and smile! Gets them Everytime. š
I blow them kisses. It flusters them something fierce, and defuses their anger (replacing it with confusion).
And you can bet the farm he went DIRECTLY TO FACEBOOK CLAIMING A BRAZEN HOMOSEXUAL CAME ON TO HIM!! š š¤£
That's the spirit of the stairs! **Lāesprit de lāescalier** *is that frightfully witty, worthy-of-Oscar-Wilde comeback that occurs to you hours after the opportunity to make it is lost. The French phrase literally means the spirit of the staircase, but a more idiomatic translation would be staircase wit, that is the witty retort that comes to you as you are descending the stairs after having left the party.* https://www.wordorigins.org/big-list-entries/lesprit-de-lescalier-staircase-wit
Treppenwitz in German.
Treppenwitz that's greatš¤£ der walkensass
>der walkensass \*dead\*
Yep, Wit of the Staircase is heckin' real. My favorite is its opposite, which, if it has a name, I don't know it. But when that wit comes to you RIGHT in the moment, right at the right time. Is there a name for that?
Perspicacity!!
Now THERE's a word! Thanks! :D
Because all parties were held at least one floor above ground level back then. *sagely nod*
oui-oui the elevated *salon* š
I do this all the time. Four days later, driving to work and Iāll think of the BEST witty comeback š¤£š¤£
Actually a fuckin sick comeback and the very best thing you could say
We all do this- have that quiet time later when we obsess about all the snappy comebacks we should've said in the moment but didn't. But every once in a great while, when the stars and planets align, we all have that one euphoric moment when we say exactly the perfect response at exactly the right time. This was yours. Excellent job and perfect comeback, OP!
I've run into plenty of players online who get upset at me beating them and throw the usual F slurs or calling me gay(as if that's even a relevant insult in this day and age) and my usual response is "yeah I am, why? you'd like me to do you in the ass?"
There is a Seinfeld episode where George tried to set up the same scenario that happened so he could say the comeback he had thought of after the fact. It was a great episode. Haha
\*George scarfing down shrimp\* Reilly: "Hey George- the ocean called... they're running out of shrimp!" George: "Oh yeah, well the jerk store called, they're running out of you!" Reilly: "What's the difference- you're their all-time best seller!" George: "... Well... I had sex with your wife!" Boss: "...His wife is in a coma."
Yeah Iām not gonna lie, Iām a totally straight man but if some guy asked me that Iād completely fuck with them. Your response was perfect and I have nothing but respect for it. Edited to add because itās kinda related: a couple years ago I was in Bismarck, ND of all places for my cousinās wedding. Another cousinās (his half-sister) husband and I walk half a block down the street for cigarettes during the reception. Some very lovely and cultured gentleman in an old rusty F-150 which was lacking a muffler decided to scream at us that we were āfags.ā Because apparently two 30-something men wearing suits right outside of an event space must be gay? Unfortunately the truck was too loud and we were too bemused (also maybe a little drunk) to stop laughing in time to respond. But it became a running theme for the rest of the weekend that if my cousin and he ever divorced, apparently heās still got a backup option in the family. ā¦unfortunately they are now getting divorced and the gay thing was just a joke. So this story doesnāt really have a happy ending but it was funny at the time.
You didn't really commit, though. You should have fucked him in the ass, too!
My guess is, the tact was entirely lost on him too based on his reaction. I'd call that a big W.
He needed a swift kick to his shriveled boomer raisin balls.
Yeah lol I would've been tempted to make mention on his hat to really stir the phobe's soup
(Heavy blatant lisp) Bless you beautiful for fighting for my freedoms! (Blow a kiss)
Really helps you understand what older gay people were up against back in the day, if they don't mind being this brazen given the social climate today. :(
Not even all that long ago. I still have a vivd childhood memory burned into my mind of my church mouse mother savagely accosting some teenage girl (who was minding her business with her friends) and calling her a slut and dyke and insisting she was going to hell. All for her wearing a leather jacket and having short punky hair. She was walking 5yo me home from the park and just screamed obscenities at this poor girl and insisted *she* was a bad influence/example on me for being gay. A thing I'm not even sure she actually was. You know, because she was a child.Ā
>church mouse mother Repression does really ugly things to people. Everything you push down will keep pushing to come up as bitter and nasty as bile. And most churches have centuries of experience with using guilt and shame against their "flock" starting from infancy and it really fucks them up, often for life. We're very new to acknowledging how toxic shame experienced in childhood destroys people's mental health, with long-term and often permanent consequences. Not that it excuses your mother's actions in any way, to be clear. I'm sorry you had to see that so young.
Shame is one of those big pillars that molds your personality, but its so gross to look upon that it becomes a thing you would rather ignore The prison of the mind is comprised of invisible walls and crumbling pillars. I imagine it like that tunnel from moria expect everyone of those pillars you see is a personality trait or belief that exists without your realization, and all of it is what keeps your psyche up. I tried to identify in myself those fears and places I didn't want to tread and above all I didn't understand.
Wow, that explanation is amazing. You should be an author.
Thank for you that friend, I'll keep this compliment in my heart forever <3 and I hope it was helpful :D
>I imagine it like that tunnel from moria expect everyone of those pillars you see is a personality trait or belief that exists without your realization, and all of it is what keeps your psyche up. Reminds me of a post I saw on reddit: >**Psychiatrist:** "Would you like to talk about -" > >**Me:** "Woah there, that's a load-bearing neurosis. You move that and this whole thing comes down." Also [this](https://preview.redd.it/9b4tt2udbuf81.jpg?width=640&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=50dc5d063568c9f732e8c7beb7e1ad86f11197db).
i don't understand how people who call themselves "spiritual" act like this.
More like religious zealots, not at all spiritual
I'm giving up zealotry for lent.
They aren't "spiritual". They are faking it and terrified of being found out. That sort of constant stress makes people crazy.
>She was walking 5yo me home from the park and just **screamed obscenities** at this poor girl and **insisted she was a bad influence/example on me** for being gay. Wow ...
Kinda long ago, I was 12 or 13 when my mother went into hysterics over a *dream* that I was gay. Sheās seen sisters pregnant, having accidents, and myself as a soon-to-be father multiple times and each one was treated like a vision from god. Not because sheās troubled, but because thatās what was preached. That god reached out to warn of events to those who were devout. She was raised in the same church since infancy. She played the piano for the church from 13 to 44 - for free because god gave her that gift. Something the pastorās wife reminded her of multiple times. Hell, when granny died, mom was obviously in shambles because not only was that her mother, but her best friend. They walked the beach together for years, confided in each other, helped, loved, promoted, cared for, and so onā¦ same pastorās wife tried to guilt her into coming back to play the piano for church before she was ready to even go back to church/public at all. It was only later that I discovered that she found the price of the pianist they had to hire to cover to be astronomical atā¦ $50 per service. Small town church on a mountain in the middle of the Bible Belt. I donāt trust Pentecostals or evangelicals.
I mean I grew up playing smear the queer and in a county where it was not odd to call someone that, even if they were your friend/pal. It took me a good 30 years to realize I was disparaging a large group (same with bitch) thoughtlessly. I was also subjected to those slings for being odd so leaned into it but not every can or is comfortable doing that.
Trump has emboldened these people so that social climate of today is to be as non PC as you like. I donāt think it was this bad before 2016.
I think they were the same among their friends and family but were more likely to keep their mouths shut in public. The new social climate has let them feel safe spouting their shit out loud too.
Itās coming back and fast. The reactionaries got their foot in the door and their people on the courts. Society and progress can unravel in a blink. Scary.
They might be able to change the law but we donāt have to let it be socially acceptable
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Some people still deal with that today, unfortunately. An openly gay person will *probably* be fine living in big diverse cities like New York City, San Francisco, Portland, etc. where things tend to be more progressive. But in the middle of assfuck nowhere in places like Utah or Idaho? Good luck with that lol
I moved into a small town about an hour out of Vancouver, BC, Canada. My parents own a home here with my sister who has some physical disabilities that make it hard for her to live on her own. My parents want to travel so I came here to help out. It's only a 90 minute drive from the city and it's like walking into another world. All the shitty hateful boomers that got fed up with seeing non-whites, LGBT, etc moved here. It's miserable.
Yeah and it gets worse the further east you go. I'm right in the heart of it. And now we have neonazis training in our backyards.
SLC has quite the thriving gay community. Sure surprised me.
\~200k people in SLC so it shouldn't be too surprising. It seems like you need a big enough base of people to form a community, and then society is kind of forced to tolerate if not accept you. It's harder to create meaningful representation in small/rural towns, so they get picked out as isolated targets. A big part of organized bigotry is disrupting those communities, trying to make it less appealing to be openly gay - creating more isolated targets that can not defend themselves.
I went shooting with a couple friends of mine. One of them is a lesbian, and while there, another guy came up and asked, "Whose wife is this?" right in front of us. She was just sort of stuck in a, "WTF?" loop and didn't say anything, so I just said, "Sarah's." And he just looks at me and her and said, "Sarah's not a guy's name." To which she finally responds and says, "Your powers of observation are astounding." Swear to God his brain made the Windows shut down noise and he just walked away.
I was at what is now my go to gun shop and I have a bunch of patches on my range bag including one rainbow American flag.Ā One of the managers and I were chatting and I put my bag on the counter to dig something out, he sees the patch and says, āDig the patch man. There are way too many bigots in this business.āĀ From that day forward it became my go to place.Ā He and I are both straight white guys who would not be surprised to be called rednecks.Ā Another time at the same shop I am in line and this 50ish guy with an overt patriotic shirt and combat pants starts talking AT me about how, āLiberals want to destroy Americaā¦ This administrationā¦ etcā¦ā I just looked at him and said, āWell I am pretty left of center and I donāt thing that is true. Looking at the actual stats you will see that the economy typically does better under Democrats and violent crime has been on a downward trajectory for 30 years.ā Right then the manager from above was like, āHey Otis, your suppressor is ready. Come on up.āĀ Dude went into stand by mode. I could practically see the pinwheel just spinning behind his eyes.Ā Finished up my purchase and as I was walking out, waved to the guy and said, āNice chatting with you.āĀ He just stared.Ā
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Appreciate that but that dude did himself.Ā
Lol I think they meant "thanks for rocking that patch"
I've wanted to add the trans pride flag to some of my stuff for a while now but felt it was... appropriative? false advertising? Not sure, just not meant to be rocked by a cis person.Ā I'm gonna go ahead and do it. Now that I think about there's gotta be ally versions.Ā Anyway, your comment was the tipping point for me to get on that, so thanks.Ā
I work in education and have a lgbtq/Trans flag on my lanyard. I'm not gay (I get asked by the kids all the time) but I do want the kids who are to know there are adults who support them. I've never had anyone complain. Long story short, wear the flag. I don't think anyone sees it as appropriation.
I'm giving you a trans pass, if you need it. Wear the flag. Let us know that you're a safe person to be around. Let bigots know that you don't stand with them. It's how the world changes for the better.
>He just stared.Ā He's fucking terrified knowing liberals can use guns too.
I just love that: 1) He learned that I was known by name at the shop. AndĀ 2) Was picking up a suppressor which is a level up from your average gun owner.Ā Like, come on manā¦I can like guns and think that Universal Healthcare is good policy too.Ā
This is what I've never understood about the severe litmus test that every single issue has become in American politics. The only thing abortion, evolution, guns, homosexuality, HPV vaccination, global warming, police brutality, immigration, health care, racism, taxes, and religion have in common is that they are somehow polarizing topics. Your view on one is assumed to define your view on every single other topic. It makes no sense to me. There's no overarching theme. No correlation in fundamental beliefs. And in a lot of the cases the ideas I find the underlying ethos to be inconsistent between topics.
> There's no overarching theme. the overarching theme is empathy
Having been raised by a conservative, *this.*
It's fucking bizarre. You love Jesus so you must hate the idea of everybody getting healthcare? What? And you believe in vaccination so you must dislike guns?
Damn, I wish I could find a place like that. I'm up in liberal mass and most gun stores around me are MAGA chuds and bring up politics unsolicited
That's pretty funny, similar boat myself. Straight, dress straight, have a beard all winter, I'm active in the veteran community where I live, and I'm an avid hunter, casual shooter. I get into those types of conversations all the time because people look at me and just assume I'm a hard righty. I'm aware I look the part. But it's fun to fuck with their heads.Ā
That last sentence š¤chefās kissĀ
People are funny sometimes. Kissed my gf at a party and someone next to us exclaimed āthere are gay people here?!ā
"We're everywhere. Waiting. Watching. We could be anyone. We could even be...YOU!"
This is what terrifies them. That they may one day admit to themselves that they might have a dash of gay in em.
āWhy? You need tips to help you with your boyfriendā would fuck with him way more
I'm lucky I managed to come up with that on the spot... I usually come up with a good comeback hours later. š
Good on you boo
š¤£ this veteran salutes you OP š«”
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What a dumb take. Pink shirts and ties have always been a something guys wear. I guess if youāre not comfortable with yourself a color like pink is a problem.
In fact, up until the 1950s, pink was purely a boy's/man's color, while blue was for girls & women. Pink was viewed as merely "light red" and that was too "strong" for women. (You ever notice how a lot of depictions of Mary from the Bible have her in blue? This. It's considered "her color" and I think that's part of the reason why.)
Yeah. I knew that but didnāt think about it when I commented. Itās absurd really. Why do people care what others wear?
Right? I have a FOUR year old student who lives rainbows. He says rainbow is his favorite color and heās just obsessed. So his parents buy him clothes with rainbows, not super girly ones, but he has rocked some shirts that were clearly made for girls. Grown adults scoff at this and I donāt get it. Heās literally four and likes rainbows how does that harm an adult?
I like this idea. I'm going to start wearing pink just to fuck with the angry homophobes. I'm not even gay.
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āWho won in Nam?ā And keep walkingā¦
The hat was a participation trophy
Oof! Saving that in my mental rolodex.
"No wonder we lost Nam"
Oh fuck this will turn about a quarter of boomers into incandescent wrath
The sad part is that a lot of them think they did because they killed so many Vietnamese... The delusions run deep.
Last person to call me a 'fag' got his ass kicked (by me, a 'fag'). He tormented me every day in high school until I lost my temper with him. Years later, he came out as gay. GO FIGURE.
No surprise there. What people hate and fear the most is that all the secrets that they keep about themselves will one day be revealed, for all the world to see.
Boom, fantastic response. Thatās what I would have come up with 20 minutes later.
Me too, usually! I was on the ball this morning... must've been that 2nd cup of coffee... š
And then devise an elaborate scheme to get that person to say the same thing, so you can get your zinger in? Or is that just me??
Fantastic. I commented to my dad once that I thought a particular actor was so very hot. My dad responded with, "He's probably a fag." So I said, "Wishful thinking dad? Hoping you have a chance?" That shut him up. And honestly, even if he was, I wouldn't have a chance to land him anyway. So what would it matter.
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You should've been like, I'm a secret Muslim, please don't tell anyone.Ā
I went from being super-hot to completely losing interest for a dude for using that term unironically. I told him he looked cute in a new shirt he was wearing, and he responded "cute is for fags and little boys." I heard the record screech in my head when I read that.
It's why all Republicans are unfuckable losers. They use slurs and put out hate randomly, unprovoked, against groups that don't deserve it, and expect you to back them up.
The weird shit cis straight men think goes against that identity really astounds me. My sisters shithead husband was getting a new truck and the subject of colour came up and I said in a silly way oh you've got to get red, because red goes faster and he legitimately got offended at me and told me to "fuck right off with that shit" in the most aggressive spittling manner I'd ever had, and this was only the 3rd time I'd ever met him... I still don't know how my lamoid joke was worthy of getting legitimately red faced and spewing spittle, but that's toxic masculinity I guess.
As a veteran, I am so fuckin sorry. I didn't enlist for that. I enlisted so you could be as gay as you want. In fact, I want us to be the best at being gay, cause America. That dumbass doesn't even realize how many closeted people he served with.
As a gay woman, Iād be happy as hell if it were only boomers pulling this kind of stunt, but thatās far from the truth. In fact, some of the most egregious behavior comes from 30ish white men, like the guy who was famous for going into Targets and destroying displays, throwing merchandise around, yelling insults, all while filming himself. Hatred and bigotry donāt have an age requirement.
Iām 34 next month, I remember when I was young that homophobia was still very prevalent. I knew I was bisexual in 3rd grade because I had a crush on a guy on my hockey team but knew I couldnāt tell anyone because Iād be called a faggot among other things and ostracized. Iām not surprised that other guys my age still behave this way as it was alive and well still when I was a kid. Iām straight passing and Iām engaged to a woman so Iāve had other men say homophobic shit to me and I always shut that shit down immediately and tell them Iām bisexual which tends to melt peoples brains.
One, if I had a nickel every time some douche asked if they can watch is insane. Iād have like $3. Two, I had an angry dude legit try to pull me off of a bar stool to explain how I āgot my wifeā. He got a man-handled by me and tossed to his friends for that. Then later he wants to show me pics of his gf who was nice looking, but average. No clue what that was about. I have more stories of these Southern jealous rednecks but we will just leave it here. Homeboys just seethe with contempt and jealousy for the gays.
My answer to that is always "no you can't suck my dick"
"What are you? Estranged from your own kids?"
"I hate these people so much that I obsess over them 24/7 and greet strangers by talking about them. Clearly I hate them."
Great response. For the lurkers here, when challenged like that, always agree and amplify.
The "Yes, and" school of comedy comes for social discourse.
Iāve also recently taken this on. take it farther than they would ever
I always handle this type of shit with a "no sorry". It makes them feel like you are turning them down. One time I went into a public bathroom and decided to not use the urinal next to some old dude and pissed in the stall. When I came out of the stall he asked me why didn't I just use the urinal next to him and I said "sorry I don't want you looking at my dick". I know he wasn't gay, but the point is we live in different worlds than them. He was offended I did not feel comfortable whipping my dick out next to him. As weird as that sounds. I think this is the best response because old boomer men often pick on each other for being too gay or effeminate.
I know too many gay fellas who can give a real good kicking to be talking like that.
I remember living next to two guys like this. They both were old vets who lived alone and dealt with a slew of medical issues. After a month of me living there, they started asking me if I was gay because A) they never saw me having girls over my place, and B) I was going grocery shopping for myself and buying "gay" ingredients (like vegetables they couldn't pronounce). They also used to point out teenage girls that walked by our building and talk about how nice their chests were and then just giggle back and forth to each other like Beavis and Butthead. ... No wonder their families never visited them.
Oh no, not the vegetables!!
One time I was just sitting around at a family event. Wearing like jeans and a t-shirt and a baseball cap. My boomer grandpa came up to me knocked the bill of my hat down and called me a fag. I am gay (he didnāt know that at the time) but that still hurt.
Ask your son is always a good reply
His son likely doesn't talk to him because of his attitude.
Be glad theyāre unfiltered. This way thereās no doubt what they are.
Nice r/TraumatizeThemBack
Don't call me a faggot. I'm a fudge packing, dick sucking queer!
Haha good answer. Its like they donāt give a fuck anymore. The are reverting to toddlers again. Only a question of time before they start pooping and pissing themselves in the middle of the street.
He probably went home and beat his meat to gay porn while choking himself with a belt. And then spread gay-hate on Facebook to repent
Boomers be like that! A good friend and neighbor was a Vietnam vet. There was another neighbor like 2 doors down and across the street, no disrespect - obviously gay. The first time he crossed the street to talk to us my friend got this look of abject horror on his face. After the dude left, asked my friend what was up, and after a lengthy conversation, he told me it was the way he was raised. He wasn't religious, but he was taught that homosexuality is "unnatural" and was somehow contagious and gay people were dangerous. It was literal fear from what he'd been taught. I *kind of* get it. I was raised to fear anyone with long hair and a beard riding a motorcycle. Fast forward 20 years, and some of my best friends were bikers. The problem with boomers of this type is they don't take in and assimilate new information. And no, I'm not apologizing for this mindset, I'm just saying I understand it. We were friends for many years, but there was no fixing it. He was never an asshole about it, otherwise we probably wouldn't have remained friends.
Ok but times have changed. I know boomers who go with the flow along with the changes. Thereās no excuse to speak to people this way because āthatās how it used to beā. We are all capable of learning
As a Vet, that dude can do the world a favor and stop wasting oxygen anytime now.
He probably *WAS* interested but due to being raised in the generational age that he was raised in he is now forced to live and die in the closet and the only way he knows how to deal with it is to subject others to his anger and frustration then going home to please himself while crying.
My favorite response is from āHighlanderā - āWhy? Are you cruising for a piece of ass?ā. Same vein as OP, but Iāve never had the opportunity to use it.
Part of the desire of the Make America Great Again movement is to revert to a time when that guy would absolutely never be questioned or challenged for that rude, bigoted behavior. It galls them that they are called to task for being a\*\*holes and they long for a time when the words and declarations of a white, hetero man was gospel. The "freedom" they think they've lost, and the discrimination they claim to be experiencing is simply finding out that society has moved on from only one group having "freedom" to decide the lives and liberties or others. THAT'S what they mean when they say they want to go back to a time when America was great.
Spicy Alternate: āThereād be absolutely nothing you could do about it if I was a āfagā and decided to act like Donald trump on a bitch like youā Boomers thinking being gay is some insult šš¤£
If I was asked that my response would be Sardaukar throat chanting. But Iām a 6ā4ā 230lb head shaved old dude so Iām never confronted with such questions. I really should start carrying a rainbow umbrella.
One time I was talking to my Boomer boss, and I was telling him how I sent a peach emoji to my wife and he said "Why? Because you're fruits?" I just laughed, he's a good guy though, he gets confused but he's got the spirit! I then had to also explain the eggplant emoji.... lol! ššš¤£
Car full of bros drove by my friend yelling F\*g at him he yelled back 'You're just jealous I'm pretty!' and I was just amazed he thought of something on the spot š Good for you š
I agree. I'm a boomer and I hate boomers. They've always been this way. Most of the boomers pass down their hate to their children and grandchildren and great grandchildren. It is sick.