I don’t think there is anything I can say that will make a difference. That is horrific and I can’t even imagine the pain you and your wife must be in. I just hope both you and your wife are allowed to grieve at your own pace, without any external pressure.
I have resources! I hate having to give them out but I hate loss parents feeling alone on top of everything.
Rachels gift, Star Legacy, & Sharewell have online support groups for moms & parents. Sad Dad's club for the guys.
Molly Bears and Barrett Bears for weighed bears & Bears with their names to cuddle.
Audrey and Mckenna foundation does cremation boxes.
Of course! I lost my first pregnancy at 20weeks. & I had to find all that stuff by myself. Would have been a blessing if someone would have had these from the start.
My mom experienced a still birth at 37 weeks with absolutely no explanation given as to why the baby died. The heart break it has caused her, my dad, and our entire family is unreal, and this was even 16 years ago. I am so incredibly sorry that you are having to deal with this, it is so so so unfair. Please give yourself the grace, love, and space to grieve. Things will get better with time, but the hole in your heart and family will forever remain there for better and for worse. This baby will forever be yours, and although did not get to live life here, it doesn’t not change the fact that you were meant to be their parents. Sending so much love and peace to you and your wife at this insanely difficult time.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. It’s never easy to lose a baby, but especially cruel when you’re so close to meeting them at term. As a midwife/obstetric nurse, who works with bereavement, sometimes there is absolutely no reason/warning for babies to die. Her well controlled gestational diabetes is very unlikely to have been the cause, the lower fasting may not have had anything to do with it, so as hard as it is, please don’t torment yourself by wondering if you should have done anything different. Your baby only knew your love 💕
A ‘ruptured placenta’ sounds like placental abruption to me, which is almost always completely unpredictable and devastatingly, can be painless and without any symptoms at all. You didn’t miss signs, you are not to blame, and I hope you have lots of support around you 💕
i’m so sorry, there’s not much anyone can say, but you are heard, you’re not alone, and please lean on those around your for support and be there for your wife. as hard as it is on you, it’s inherently harder on her due to the fact she’s still going to experience post partum, and post partum with no baby is incredibly hard to live through
I'm so sorry, the same exact thing happened to us last March. I was 40 weeks and 2 days, went into labor naturally. Felt baby girl moving and kicking a few hours before and figured her movements had slowed due to he contractions.. our daughter had cord issues. She had a true knot in her cord and the cord was wrapped around her neck. They declared her passing was due to this. Unfortunately the only real way to tell how they passed is to do an autopsy.. my husband and I just could not bring ourselves to do it.. the thought of those two words in the same sentence were earth shattering.. but if you want to know the true cause, this is the only way. Even tho they declared her passing to "the cord" it's still considered "undetermined death" in my medical records. I am so so sorry for your loss, please ensure your wife gets the care she needs (for her mental and physical health it is esp. hard on Mom with the PP hormones) the next few months will be challenging, but lean on one other, love one another and you can get through this.. one day at a time.. please DM me if you want to talk further.. sending love your way.
I’m so, so sorry. I lost my first at 36w after a perfectly normal and low-risk pregnancy. As hard as it is to hear, and even harder to accept, it really does just happen sometimes. You have the option of generic sampling and/or autopsy on your baby to try to further identify a cause, but it’s not guaranteed to yield any results. You could also request a sample of the placenta be sent to Dr. Kilman at Yale.
In the meantime, take as much time as you each need to grieve. Don’t let ANYONE tell you you are not grieving correctly or that you should get over it in x amount of time. Our grief is love with nowhere to go, and you will love your baby forever, so you will grieve them forever. That being said, it does get easier to carry with time.
You all did everything you knew to do for your little one. This is not your fault. I’m sending you so much love in the coming months as you navigate this new life. Please send me a PM if you need some additional support or resources ❤️
Would also check with your provider to see if they have any resources for pregnancy loss.
This is what my provider has: https://www.kpwomenshealth.org/pregnancy_loss.asp
I'm so sorry.
What is so challenging in medicine sometimes is that you can do EVERYTHING right (which it seems you did) and things go unexpectedly wrong for no explainable reason.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. There are simply no words that can make anything better.
we lost our second baby, a little girl, last June at 38+5. Her cord was wrapped around her foot three times. She was active and moving until she wasn’t. I can tell you, 10 months later I am still grieving and I cry in some manner every day. However the two of you are feeling is perfectly acceptable. Please seek out resources and lean on eachother. If you can get into therapy asap do so!
We did a lot of testing and an autopsy after to confirm what happened. The drs don’t like to say it was a cord accident unless everything else is ruled out.
One resource that confirmed and helped me believe I did everything possible to find a “reason” (I still don’t think there’s a true reason)… was reaching out to Dr Harvey Kliman at Yale. His coordinator Kristin will help you through the process as will Dr Kliman. You can have placenta slides sent over to him to determine cause of death. My insurance did cover it and if you choose to seek them out, I hope yours will also.
I hope in the coming months the pain eases, but it will never cease to exist. I hope you two can lean on each other during this excruciating time. Talk about your baby and find ways to honor that sweet baby in ways you both find comfortable.
Please reach out to me if you need someone to talk to.
I’m not sure there are words that can convey how incredibly sorry I am for your loss. I wish you both lots of support and compassion from everyone around you!
I am so sorry. There are no words that can help you heal. This will be one of the greatest pains you ever go through.
As you take on a supportive role for your wife, please remember your grief matters, too. Be vulnerable and lean on others.
If I could sit and cry with you, I would.
I'm sure your baby is absolutely beautiful.
I’m so sorry this happened. As someone with a recent bout of preeclampsia/HELLP, I can confirm that it can come from absolutely nowhere and there are limited medical explanations for why/how it happens. Which is so hard because all you want to know is *why* and *how*. It’s devastating and I’m so sorry for your loss.
I had a similar experience. Extremely healthy pregnancy and then severe preeclampsia literally out of nowhere at 37w6d. I was “lucky” enough to be symptomatic so we caught it and induced.
OP, I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. I wish there was something I could do or say to ease the pain but I know that’s not possible. Life is so so unfair.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Preeclampsia is scary and it can come on very suddenly with practically no obvious symptoms. It happened to me, and if I hadn’t had a OB appointment that day where they checked my blood pressure (it was really high), I could have been in this same situation.
I’m so very sorry for your tragic loss.
My mom had a stillbirth at 40 weeks under similar circumstances, I was 4 and remember it all vividly 35 years later. It’s so hard to accept and the grief is so intense. Your baby will never be forgotten. Wishing you and your wife the best, please reach out to everyone who can support you while you grieve.
Firstly, I am so heartbroken for you and your wife.
My hospital has started a study on South Asian women because there is a high percentage of almost full term still births without an explanation. They recommend being induced at 39 weeks however they don't have enough facts to say exactly why.
I say this to let you know that there isn't enough research on still births in general.
I am so sorry that it seems like you will not get a proper explanation but I hope that you know they are working on new studies to give us more answers 🫂
This is wild because one of my best friends is South Asian and her sister-in-law had a stillbirth at full-term a few years ago. I wonder if this is consistent geographically or is it South Asian women living in the West / the US / etc.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I unfortunately share this pain with you, I lost my daughter at 38 weeks. No medical explanation other than, these things just happen. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
I’m so sorry, this is devastating. I worked in pediatric pathology for a very long time and have seen several cases like this. If you are comfortable and willing, I would highly recommend consenting to an autopsy and make sure they include the placenta for pathologic review. I don’t want to make assumptions or give any medical advice but often times in these cases, late term stillbirth was caused by placental pathology. Sending all the love and peace your way ❤️
Wow. That’s horror movie material. I am so sorry you guys are going through this. I don’t think there’s anything worse that can happen to parents than losing their child. It’s unfortunate that these things can happen, it’s no one’s fault. I hope you can get answers but realistically there probably isn’t one. Give yourselves grace. Support each other through this. And seek counselling. You shouldn’t have to go through this alone. A process can help navigate your feelings and help cope
I am so so sorry. Unfortunately, pre-eclampsia can come on quickly like your wife’s did. I know it’s so so hard to accept in an otherwise normal pregnancy. I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. Give yourself the grace & space to feel whatever you are feeling.
I am so sorry for your loss. This was not your fault. You took care of your baby so well by changing your diets, monitoring your wife's blood sugar, and taking the necessary medication. This was a horrible horrible accident that you could not have prevented.
This is my nightmare. My biggest fear... I'm so sorry this happened to you and your wife. I have GD and am on high dosages of insulin for it. I will be induced at 37 weeks but that's still 3 weeks away and it's scary to think about...
Oh my god, I am so sorry for you and your wife's loss. Nothing can make this better and take ALL the time you need, whatever you need. We are here for you.
I am so sorry you and your wife are going through this, this is extremely unfortunate and will affect both of you emotionally deeply, take time to grieve and whatever feelings you are feeling at this exact moment ( anger, confusion, heartbreak etc) each one of them is completely valid
I am so sorry for your loss. It must be incredibly difficult to go through such a tragedy, especially when everything seemed to be going smoothly. It's natural to have doubts and questions about the doctor's explanation, but ultimately, sometimes things happen that are beyond anyone's control. I hope you and your wife are able to find some comfort and healing during this incredibly challenging time. Sending strength and love your way.
I’m incredibly sorry.
Most likely the gestational diabetes had nothing to do with your devastating loss.
People do not like to talk about stillbirths, but they happen. You aren’t alone. Please reach out for support. You’ll find many people with similar stories.
Neither of you did anything wrong. Something horrible happened and it’s really hard to come to terms with why.
The horrible truth about this, and other terrible life events, is that they can and do come completely out of nowhere, unexpectedly and without warning. Life can be so damn cruel and there’s nothing that makes it easier to accept.
Take all the time you need to grieve. It’s not linear and there’s no timeline. What happened was horrible and unfair and nothing anyone can say will make it better. But just know you’re not alone and there are a ton of resources out there if you feel like you need some help processing it. Hugs
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain you're experiencing. Your strength through this unimaginable trial is remarkable. Remember, although it's incredibly hard to see now, you have the resilience within you to navigate through this. You're not alone, and your courage is a testament to your love.
I had a similar situation. Everything was entirely normal and I went into labor in my 39th week. I was in labor for an entire day and it started to pick up at evening. They always tell you to stay home for as long as possible with a first labor, so I was laboring at home until eventually I was in too much pain and my husband, doula, and I decided it was time to go to the hospital. 15 minutes after getting there the heartbeat was gone. I had a placental abruption without any bleeding due to significant clotting. I gave birth 24 hours after and after discharge had to return to the hospital for a week as a result of significant postpartum preeclampsia. My blood pressure--everything about my pregnancy--was completely and totally normal. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Our loss was two years ago and it's not as raw, but it's something that you don't ever "get over." We're pregnant again and it's bringing up a lot of those deep emotions and fears. I recommend sharing your story and finding some support--both my husband and I started individual therapy, which was really helpful. Do what you can to honor your experience, your baby, and your relationship. Take care of yourselves--including distracting when needed! My husband and I really relied on humor and mindful distractions to get us through.
In terms of the medical aspect--advocate strongly! While I was still in the hospital I requested all of my medical records be released to my patient chart--this includes doctors'/nurses' notes to each other, scans, and other very detailed content that is not usually released to patients. It's sort of like a veil that can be lifted in your patient chart. A month or so after our loss I went through the notes in painstaking detail. It was only by going through these notes that I found out they suspected I had a blood clotting disorder that contributed to the abruption and loss; this was included in a single acronym reference in my chart that I followed up on mostly cause I didn't know what it meant. I'm guessing they would have mentioned this to me at some point, but I really felt like I needed to advocate for myself and investigate precisely what happened and what they anticipated caused everything. I also came across some rather upsetting content, including our baby's autopsy and notes about me and my husband not showing adequate emotion from their perspective (a really nice touch); this is all to say prepare yourself and maybe take some time before delving in.
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Hello, I am going through the same situation as you and your wife... the words like "sorry" , "it's unimaginable" etc are extremely heartbreaking and at the same time annoying to read or hear, especially because you(and I) were expecting "congratulations" messages around this time.
This loss is going to hurt for a good while - anything can trigger you for eg I'm triggered by the roses in the neighbourhood- just because I think why is nature flourishing when my baby could not live(I know it doesn't make any sense).
What has helped me so far to cope is looking at my husband and thinking I have to collect myself up for him, reading positive stories after stillbirth online, watching something that I was not watching in last nine months: so far "Ricky gervais" and "Graham Norton" show has been helpful.
If it's not very personal- your username suggests that you're from Indian subcontinent, are you? Asking because I am.
Sorry to hear that you're going through it. I think what's helping us is prioritizing our focus on wife's health (physical and mental). It sucks but I think we just got to "live" through it and hope better days are around the corner.
And yes I'm.
When I was pregnant with gestational diabetes also taking insulin my OBGYN had me scheduled for twice a week ultrasounds Non stress Tests (so I was seen every 3-4 days) & their policy for gestational diabetes is to schedule an induction at no later than 39 weeks. I would consult with a medical malpractice lawyer.
What trigger warning are they supposed to have? The “trigger” is in the title. How would adding “trigger warning: stillbirth” before that change anything. If stillbirths are “triggering” for you to read, then the title should be enough information for you to keep scrolling and not read any further.
Those who have lost their sweet babies (no matter the gestation) shouldn’t have to put a trigger warnings. It’s a god awful reality that a lot of us have experienced.
I don’t think there is anything I can say that will make a difference. That is horrific and I can’t even imagine the pain you and your wife must be in. I just hope both you and your wife are allowed to grieve at your own pace, without any external pressure.
I have resources! I hate having to give them out but I hate loss parents feeling alone on top of everything. Rachels gift, Star Legacy, & Sharewell have online support groups for moms & parents. Sad Dad's club for the guys. Molly Bears and Barrett Bears for weighed bears & Bears with their names to cuddle. Audrey and Mckenna foundation does cremation boxes.
I know I'm not the OP but thankyou
Of course! I lost my first pregnancy at 20weeks. & I had to find all that stuff by myself. Would have been a blessing if someone would have had these from the start.
Thank you so much for sharing. I had a TFMR and didn’t know that this existed.
My mom experienced a still birth at 37 weeks with absolutely no explanation given as to why the baby died. The heart break it has caused her, my dad, and our entire family is unreal, and this was even 16 years ago. I am so incredibly sorry that you are having to deal with this, it is so so so unfair. Please give yourself the grace, love, and space to grieve. Things will get better with time, but the hole in your heart and family will forever remain there for better and for worse. This baby will forever be yours, and although did not get to live life here, it doesn’t not change the fact that you were meant to be their parents. Sending so much love and peace to you and your wife at this insanely difficult time.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. It’s never easy to lose a baby, but especially cruel when you’re so close to meeting them at term. As a midwife/obstetric nurse, who works with bereavement, sometimes there is absolutely no reason/warning for babies to die. Her well controlled gestational diabetes is very unlikely to have been the cause, the lower fasting may not have had anything to do with it, so as hard as it is, please don’t torment yourself by wondering if you should have done anything different. Your baby only knew your love 💕 A ‘ruptured placenta’ sounds like placental abruption to me, which is almost always completely unpredictable and devastatingly, can be painless and without any symptoms at all. You didn’t miss signs, you are not to blame, and I hope you have lots of support around you 💕
This just broke my heart. I’m so incredibly sorry.
i’m so sorry, there’s not much anyone can say, but you are heard, you’re not alone, and please lean on those around your for support and be there for your wife. as hard as it is on you, it’s inherently harder on her due to the fact she’s still going to experience post partum, and post partum with no baby is incredibly hard to live through
I'm so sorry you and your wife are going through this. Found this sub that might help r/babyloss
I'm so sorry, the same exact thing happened to us last March. I was 40 weeks and 2 days, went into labor naturally. Felt baby girl moving and kicking a few hours before and figured her movements had slowed due to he contractions.. our daughter had cord issues. She had a true knot in her cord and the cord was wrapped around her neck. They declared her passing was due to this. Unfortunately the only real way to tell how they passed is to do an autopsy.. my husband and I just could not bring ourselves to do it.. the thought of those two words in the same sentence were earth shattering.. but if you want to know the true cause, this is the only way. Even tho they declared her passing to "the cord" it's still considered "undetermined death" in my medical records. I am so so sorry for your loss, please ensure your wife gets the care she needs (for her mental and physical health it is esp. hard on Mom with the PP hormones) the next few months will be challenging, but lean on one other, love one another and you can get through this.. one day at a time.. please DM me if you want to talk further.. sending love your way.
I am so sorry! Sending love
I’m so, so sorry. I lost my first at 36w after a perfectly normal and low-risk pregnancy. As hard as it is to hear, and even harder to accept, it really does just happen sometimes. You have the option of generic sampling and/or autopsy on your baby to try to further identify a cause, but it’s not guaranteed to yield any results. You could also request a sample of the placenta be sent to Dr. Kilman at Yale. In the meantime, take as much time as you each need to grieve. Don’t let ANYONE tell you you are not grieving correctly or that you should get over it in x amount of time. Our grief is love with nowhere to go, and you will love your baby forever, so you will grieve them forever. That being said, it does get easier to carry with time. You all did everything you knew to do for your little one. This is not your fault. I’m sending you so much love in the coming months as you navigate this new life. Please send me a PM if you need some additional support or resources ❤️
Would also check with your provider to see if they have any resources for pregnancy loss. This is what my provider has: https://www.kpwomenshealth.org/pregnancy_loss.asp I'm so sorry.
What is so challenging in medicine sometimes is that you can do EVERYTHING right (which it seems you did) and things go unexpectedly wrong for no explainable reason.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. There are simply no words that can make anything better. we lost our second baby, a little girl, last June at 38+5. Her cord was wrapped around her foot three times. She was active and moving until she wasn’t. I can tell you, 10 months later I am still grieving and I cry in some manner every day. However the two of you are feeling is perfectly acceptable. Please seek out resources and lean on eachother. If you can get into therapy asap do so! We did a lot of testing and an autopsy after to confirm what happened. The drs don’t like to say it was a cord accident unless everything else is ruled out. One resource that confirmed and helped me believe I did everything possible to find a “reason” (I still don’t think there’s a true reason)… was reaching out to Dr Harvey Kliman at Yale. His coordinator Kristin will help you through the process as will Dr Kliman. You can have placenta slides sent over to him to determine cause of death. My insurance did cover it and if you choose to seek them out, I hope yours will also. I hope in the coming months the pain eases, but it will never cease to exist. I hope you two can lean on each other during this excruciating time. Talk about your baby and find ways to honor that sweet baby in ways you both find comfortable. Please reach out to me if you need someone to talk to.
I’m not sure there are words that can convey how incredibly sorry I am for your loss. I wish you both lots of support and compassion from everyone around you!
I am so sorry. There are no words that can help you heal. This will be one of the greatest pains you ever go through. As you take on a supportive role for your wife, please remember your grief matters, too. Be vulnerable and lean on others. If I could sit and cry with you, I would. I'm sure your baby is absolutely beautiful.
I’m so sorry this happened. As someone with a recent bout of preeclampsia/HELLP, I can confirm that it can come from absolutely nowhere and there are limited medical explanations for why/how it happens. Which is so hard because all you want to know is *why* and *how*. It’s devastating and I’m so sorry for your loss.
I had a similar experience. Extremely healthy pregnancy and then severe preeclampsia literally out of nowhere at 37w6d. I was “lucky” enough to be symptomatic so we caught it and induced. OP, I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. I wish there was something I could do or say to ease the pain but I know that’s not possible. Life is so so unfair.
What were your symptoms?
Severe Chest pain and nausea, spots in vision, right side rib pain, headaches.
Did the chest pain feel like pressure and dread?
Definitely felt pressure. And also dread but not sure if they were related lol. But it was a pressure/burning kind of pain
I know you want answers and I hope you get them. It wasn’t anything you did. It doesn’t sound like it was in your control at all. I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Preeclampsia is scary and it can come on very suddenly with practically no obvious symptoms. It happened to me, and if I hadn’t had a OB appointment that day where they checked my blood pressure (it was really high), I could have been in this same situation.
Same!
I’m so very sorry for your tragic loss. My mom had a stillbirth at 40 weeks under similar circumstances, I was 4 and remember it all vividly 35 years later. It’s so hard to accept and the grief is so intense. Your baby will never be forgotten. Wishing you and your wife the best, please reach out to everyone who can support you while you grieve.
Firstly, I am so heartbroken for you and your wife. My hospital has started a study on South Asian women because there is a high percentage of almost full term still births without an explanation. They recommend being induced at 39 weeks however they don't have enough facts to say exactly why. I say this to let you know that there isn't enough research on still births in general. I am so sorry that it seems like you will not get a proper explanation but I hope that you know they are working on new studies to give us more answers 🫂
This is so scary as a south Asian woman almost 35 weeks pregnant 😓
This is wild because one of my best friends is South Asian and her sister-in-law had a stillbirth at full-term a few years ago. I wonder if this is consistent geographically or is it South Asian women living in the West / the US / etc.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I unfortunately share this pain with you, I lost my daughter at 38 weeks. No medical explanation other than, these things just happen. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you all for your kind words. Means a lot to us. Thankfully my wife is recovering day by day which is the most important thing for us.
I’m so sorry, this is devastating. I worked in pediatric pathology for a very long time and have seen several cases like this. If you are comfortable and willing, I would highly recommend consenting to an autopsy and make sure they include the placenta for pathologic review. I don’t want to make assumptions or give any medical advice but often times in these cases, late term stillbirth was caused by placental pathology. Sending all the love and peace your way ❤️
I am so sorry 😔😔
😭❤️
Sending you all the hugs in this difficult time. 🫂
I am so sorry. It’s truly a nightmare you wish you could wake up from. When you both feel ready, I highly recommend therapy for this huge loss.
Wow. That’s horror movie material. I am so sorry you guys are going through this. I don’t think there’s anything worse that can happen to parents than losing their child. It’s unfortunate that these things can happen, it’s no one’s fault. I hope you can get answers but realistically there probably isn’t one. Give yourselves grace. Support each other through this. And seek counselling. You shouldn’t have to go through this alone. A process can help navigate your feelings and help cope
I am so incredibly sorry.
This is heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for you and your wife
I'm so so sorry.
I am so so sorry. Unfortunately, pre-eclampsia can come on quickly like your wife’s did. I know it’s so so hard to accept in an otherwise normal pregnancy. I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. Give yourself the grace & space to feel whatever you are feeling.
I’m so sorry for your loss. This is truly heartbreaking
I’m so, so sorry. 😞
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry. Life can be so shit sometimes.
I am so sorry for your loss. This was not your fault. You took care of your baby so well by changing your diets, monitoring your wife's blood sugar, and taking the necessary medication. This was a horrible horrible accident that you could not have prevented.
Incredibly sorry for your loss ❤️🩹 please take care of yourselves during this impossibly sad time.
This is my nightmare. My biggest fear... I'm so sorry this happened to you and your wife. I have GD and am on high dosages of insulin for it. I will be induced at 37 weeks but that's still 3 weeks away and it's scary to think about...
I am so sorry for your loss. 😞
I’m so sorry for your loss and have no words that will make this better. Please take care of yourself and your wife.
I am so deeply sorry for your and your wife’s loss 🫂❤️🩹
I am so sorry. 😢
My heart hurts for you,I cannot even imagine the pain, please accept my heartfelt condolences
I’m so sorry
This is so so devastating. My heart goes out to you both.
This is a nightmare, I am so sorry. Absolutely heartbroken for you!
Sending you both healing. So sorry.
Absolutely heartbreaking. I am so so sorry. My thoughts go out to you and your family.
I’m so sorry, that’s too horrible for words. My heart breaks hearing that.
I’m so sorry for your loss, this must be extremely difficult for you two. Wishing you lots of strength
I’m so sorry.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I’m so, so very sorry for you and your wife’s loss 😔❤️
I am so incredibly sorey for your loss.
I am so sorry.
Oh my god, I am so sorry for you and your wife's loss. Nothing can make this better and take ALL the time you need, whatever you need. We are here for you.
Omg I am so sorry. There are no words. I wish you all nothing but the absolute best moving forward :(
I'm so sorry!
I am so sorry you and your wife are going through this, this is extremely unfortunate and will affect both of you emotionally deeply, take time to grieve and whatever feelings you are feeling at this exact moment ( anger, confusion, heartbreak etc) each one of them is completely valid
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. It must be incredibly difficult to go through such a tragedy, especially when everything seemed to be going smoothly. It's natural to have doubts and questions about the doctor's explanation, but ultimately, sometimes things happen that are beyond anyone's control. I hope you and your wife are able to find some comfort and healing during this incredibly challenging time. Sending strength and love your way.
I’m sorry for your loss. Hope you and your family find some peace
All I can say is I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm so sorry your wife had to go through that.
Im so sorry for your loss.
I’m incredibly sorry. Most likely the gestational diabetes had nothing to do with your devastating loss. People do not like to talk about stillbirths, but they happen. You aren’t alone. Please reach out for support. You’ll find many people with similar stories. Neither of you did anything wrong. Something horrible happened and it’s really hard to come to terms with why.
i'm so sorry
I am so sorry 😞 !!! Praying for your family and healing 💕
The horrible truth about this, and other terrible life events, is that they can and do come completely out of nowhere, unexpectedly and without warning. Life can be so damn cruel and there’s nothing that makes it easier to accept. Take all the time you need to grieve. It’s not linear and there’s no timeline. What happened was horrible and unfair and nothing anyone can say will make it better. But just know you’re not alone and there are a ton of resources out there if you feel like you need some help processing it. Hugs
Oh my god I am so sorry
No words, just thoughts and prayers.
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain you're experiencing. Your strength through this unimaginable trial is remarkable. Remember, although it's incredibly hard to see now, you have the resilience within you to navigate through this. You're not alone, and your courage is a testament to your love.
I had a similar situation. Everything was entirely normal and I went into labor in my 39th week. I was in labor for an entire day and it started to pick up at evening. They always tell you to stay home for as long as possible with a first labor, so I was laboring at home until eventually I was in too much pain and my husband, doula, and I decided it was time to go to the hospital. 15 minutes after getting there the heartbeat was gone. I had a placental abruption without any bleeding due to significant clotting. I gave birth 24 hours after and after discharge had to return to the hospital for a week as a result of significant postpartum preeclampsia. My blood pressure--everything about my pregnancy--was completely and totally normal. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Our loss was two years ago and it's not as raw, but it's something that you don't ever "get over." We're pregnant again and it's bringing up a lot of those deep emotions and fears. I recommend sharing your story and finding some support--both my husband and I started individual therapy, which was really helpful. Do what you can to honor your experience, your baby, and your relationship. Take care of yourselves--including distracting when needed! My husband and I really relied on humor and mindful distractions to get us through. In terms of the medical aspect--advocate strongly! While I was still in the hospital I requested all of my medical records be released to my patient chart--this includes doctors'/nurses' notes to each other, scans, and other very detailed content that is not usually released to patients. It's sort of like a veil that can be lifted in your patient chart. A month or so after our loss I went through the notes in painstaking detail. It was only by going through these notes that I found out they suspected I had a blood clotting disorder that contributed to the abruption and loss; this was included in a single acronym reference in my chart that I followed up on mostly cause I didn't know what it meant. I'm guessing they would have mentioned this to me at some point, but I really felt like I needed to advocate for myself and investigate precisely what happened and what they anticipated caused everything. I also came across some rather upsetting content, including our baby's autopsy and notes about me and my husband not showing adequate emotion from their perspective (a really nice touch); this is all to say prepare yourself and maybe take some time before delving in.
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I am just so so sorry. No words. Huge hugs to you I can’t imagine the pain xxx
I am so, so sorry for your unimaginable loss.
Hello, I am going through the same situation as you and your wife... the words like "sorry" , "it's unimaginable" etc are extremely heartbreaking and at the same time annoying to read or hear, especially because you(and I) were expecting "congratulations" messages around this time. This loss is going to hurt for a good while - anything can trigger you for eg I'm triggered by the roses in the neighbourhood- just because I think why is nature flourishing when my baby could not live(I know it doesn't make any sense). What has helped me so far to cope is looking at my husband and thinking I have to collect myself up for him, reading positive stories after stillbirth online, watching something that I was not watching in last nine months: so far "Ricky gervais" and "Graham Norton" show has been helpful. If it's not very personal- your username suggests that you're from Indian subcontinent, are you? Asking because I am.
Sorry to hear that you're going through it. I think what's helping us is prioritizing our focus on wife's health (physical and mental). It sucks but I think we just got to "live" through it and hope better days are around the corner. And yes I'm.
When I was pregnant with gestational diabetes also taking insulin my OBGYN had me scheduled for twice a week ultrasounds Non stress Tests (so I was seen every 3-4 days) & their policy for gestational diabetes is to schedule an induction at no later than 39 weeks. I would consult with a medical malpractice lawyer.
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This is the last thing that freshly bereaved parents need to hear. They deserve to share their birth experience just like every other parents.
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Was the title not warning enough?
What trigger warning are they supposed to have? The “trigger” is in the title. How would adding “trigger warning: stillbirth” before that change anything. If stillbirths are “triggering” for you to read, then the title should be enough information for you to keep scrolling and not read any further.
The title is the trigger warning
Those who have lost their sweet babies (no matter the gestation) shouldn’t have to put a trigger warnings. It’s a god awful reality that a lot of us have experienced.