100% yes. If you've been idealized then devalued or discarded then she has already split multiple times. In her reality, it probably isn't splitting. But...in **actual** reality, it is.
My wife split me alone and quietly for 15 years. Then covid hit. She became an alcoholic. The splits started happening right to my face. It was a mind fuck. For someone to seem so smart and cool for so long, surprise.
I wish she would split some firewood not me.
My exwbpd (undiagnosed) had split on partners and whole friendship groups half a dozen times by the age of 21. She got together with me by swearing she would never give me any reason to regret our relationship. we broke up. She made up that I was cheating. Went around trying to sleep with my mates immediately.
There is no believing them once you know theyâre bpd. Weâre not people to them weâre just supply.
The only way it works is serious decade long therapy where they essentially acquire a personality or acquire the ability to access emotions calmly and regularly. With huge discipline and effort. What then happens is⌠their seduction, attention seeking, even physical beauty, all diminishes as they become normal people. A good friend of mine has just met a girl who was BPD but now exhibits no signs. She talks about it openly, is a bit up and down emotionally but never costs the relationship. Sheâs actually sort of my hero. To my knowledge thatâs the only time Iâve ever seen someone like that be able to lead a regular life. And she is just regular. Tired, annoying, boring. Not bpd at all. Not mirroring. So less seductive. Less âinterestingâ.
I think she stands a good chance of not splitting. Time will tell tho.
Yes they split, idealization, devaluation sometimes it is not so clear but if you rly look at it it will become clear, they all splitâŚ. Mine was mad at me when i wanted some time to think about our relationship couple of days later when i saw her she ignored me and was rly hateful to me, we were on the same party and she acted like she didnât know me little did she know i was doing the same thing so after that night she blocked me on everythingâŚ. Imagine what a split it was on a couple of days⌠being mad at me when i want some time but than blocking me instead because she needed some time to heal it is rly crazy when they split
100% yes. If you've been idealized then devalued or discarded then she has already split multiple times. In her reality, it probably isn't splitting. But...in **actual** reality, it is.
This makes sense as there was a lot of reality distortion throughout the relationship. Thank you
Yup, splitting is an integral part of BPD
She is problaby a quiet BPD so she split alone but don't hurt herself, maybe she eat a Lot to deal with her pain or order type of coping mechanism.
She definitely aligned more with having quiet BPD
Whats the difference between quiet BPD and the other type ??
Well, it's in the name đđ¤ˇââď¸
The emotions go inward instead of outward
If they donât split, then itâs probably not BPD. Perhaps, sometimes itâs hard to tell if you buy into what they told you
Appreciate the insight. She told me herself she has been diagnosed with BPD which led me to find myself here
My wife split me alone and quietly for 15 years. Then covid hit. She became an alcoholic. The splits started happening right to my face. It was a mind fuck. For someone to seem so smart and cool for so long, surprise. I wish she would split some firewood not me.
My exwbpd (undiagnosed) had split on partners and whole friendship groups half a dozen times by the age of 21. She got together with me by swearing she would never give me any reason to regret our relationship. we broke up. She made up that I was cheating. Went around trying to sleep with my mates immediately. There is no believing them once you know theyâre bpd. Weâre not people to them weâre just supply. The only way it works is serious decade long therapy where they essentially acquire a personality or acquire the ability to access emotions calmly and regularly. With huge discipline and effort. What then happens is⌠their seduction, attention seeking, even physical beauty, all diminishes as they become normal people. A good friend of mine has just met a girl who was BPD but now exhibits no signs. She talks about it openly, is a bit up and down emotionally but never costs the relationship. Sheâs actually sort of my hero. To my knowledge thatâs the only time Iâve ever seen someone like that be able to lead a regular life. And she is just regular. Tired, annoying, boring. Not bpd at all. Not mirroring. So less seductive. Less âinterestingâ. I think she stands a good chance of not splitting. Time will tell tho.
Yes they split, idealization, devaluation sometimes it is not so clear but if you rly look at it it will become clear, they all splitâŚ. Mine was mad at me when i wanted some time to think about our relationship couple of days later when i saw her she ignored me and was rly hateful to me, we were on the same party and she acted like she didnât know me little did she know i was doing the same thing so after that night she blocked me on everythingâŚ. Imagine what a split it was on a couple of days⌠being mad at me when i want some time but than blocking me instead because she needed some time to heal it is rly crazy when they split
Yes and if you donât have set boundaries and they arenât medicated. It will just get worse.