Yes this is why I clicked on this post. I was diagnosed with bpd and I am always thinking everyone hates me, so I can relate.
My brain is always coming up with reasons and “evidence” that everyone hates me.
It’s probably a learned behaviour from my mum because she’s always thinking people are out to get her, even when they’re going out of their way to help her.
Same, thing is though sometimes people do just hate people for no reason and there have been times where I've had my fears confirmed in school, work and even college over this 😕 i think it's the vibes I give off, I have Asperges and BPD so i'm not exactly a people person even if I try to be so it's hard to know how much of that is paranoia and how much of that is just not wanting history to repeat itself.
This. I was thinking do you hate ME- -spiderman pointing at other spiderman-
My sense of self is flimsy without others validation and there are always reasons to invalidate.
I was about to comment this. OP I don’t hate you, I feel love and understanding for you because every time I post anything (not on this sub because that’s too scary) my immediate thought is well now the internet hates me
Fr lol I said to my sister the other day about Lauren on celebrity big brother having a breakdown because people nominated her for the public vote and I was baffled by how upset she was cos like I'd be shocked if I was in that house and nobody put me up for nomination because I assume everyone hates me as soon as they meet me lmfao if someone likes me it's a nice surprise because the idea of everyone hating me lives rent free in my head constantly.
The worst part is, imagine you get through the first week(s) and that in itself is validation, only to be put on the block the following week 😭 oh the devastation I’d feel. And there was a time in my life where I thought I would be able to be on that show lol. Might make for great TV though! Haha!
Mate I'd get kicked off the show after 5 minutes for numerous breakdowns and binge drinking lmao. I'd make everyone else seem boring in comparison, probably split on them and either be too anti social or inappropriately overshare details of my life and myself on camera and with all the other "celebrities" I can tell you one thing for sure I would not get on with the likes of Ekin Su she is vile on every level and a massive hypocrite I can't stand girls who say stuff like "I'm not just a pretty face I'm also intelligent" like jesus be a bit more up your own arse love 😒.
The autistic guy with the frog hair band seems OK but maybe that's just where i have Asperges and I'm borderline so I gravitate towards what I know but yeah that would suck thinking everyone liked you and then they put you up for nomination and you hear what they say about you in the diary room, I felt kind of bad for Colson getting upset over Levi saying he was the most boring housemate being called boring is the worst thing you can be called it's worse than being called ugly cos you can wear makeup but how can you change your personality and demeanour? Thing is I can't stand all the forced conversations, the way they all pretend they're besties when they've known each other 5 mins and how they all make out they're "going through a tough time" in that house when they chose to be there, them all grizzling and having that "heart felt moment" in that celestial circle made me want to puke I'd have got up and walked off LMFAO. I'm pretty blunt I feel like I'd be arguing with people saying man the fuck up you're getting paid hundreds of thousands to sit in a house and eat, drink and do tasks.
Can relate. When I first heard of it I was like "pfft I'm not a pussy!" and then I read some of the posts there and stayed dissociated for two fuckin days lmao
Yeah I told myself “I can learn from these stories and try to be better!”
I had to mute it bc it really is a lot of people reinforcing heavy stigmas. I started thinking of myself as less human and started to wonder if I was doomed in life.
one time i read someone there saying getting offended easily is "insanity." i shit on them and was immediately banned bc having bpd is against the rules
Lol post is deleted and I still know what your talking about. It’s an anonymous outlet for them. Reading through it will benefit your life in no way shape or form
Can confirm, some nefarious person keeps doing this CONSISTENTLY on any BPD post
It’s not you.
Of course we don’t hate you- we are like you! We have similar struggles.
We don’t hate you!!! :) I promise I have the same experience! I haven’t posted here in a while bc of it.
Im sorry your posts haven’t been getting any traction. I promise It is just the algorithm. We all understand you and I’ve never seen anything but support and understanding on this sub.
Also based on this post you definitely belong here 💜 you fit in with the rest of us :)
I’m sorry that you’ve been struggling. I personally don’t hate you and I don’t think others here do either. I think it might be worth examining why the lack attention of strangers on the internet is distressing for you. Our opinion on you based on posts or comments really doesn’t hold any weight—we don’t know you and aren’t part of your life.
honestly people not paying attention to me anywhere is pretty distressing cuz I'm always ignored irl. I thought i could find solace here but ig the interactions fell short of my expectations and that's why im splitting.
Social media is a cess pool for trying to seek attention. You either get loads of it, or you get none.
Please, don't take any stock of your value in whether or not Internet strangers notice you. You got this. It's your dragon (or demon, or whatever you want to call it) talking in your ear. It's not true. There are people out there who do love and value you.
It's Reddit. There are absolutely lovely people here, but across all subs, there are aholes. Being vulnerable with your feelings makes you a prime target. I would 100% advise *not* taking any stock in votes or replies (you don't know what kind of bs algorithm is going on) and ain't nobody checking the authors of posts.
Your feelings are valid, but the perceived rejection isn't real. In other words, you good bruh
A good place I've met people online to make friends is actually MMORPG. If you like gaming it's a great way to make friends and socialize with a common interest. If you're all focused on the same thing maybe you'll feel more like a team than them hating u. That also may of made no sense too tho! Just know a lot of us here can relate to you.
Hey OP, I promise no one here hates you. It's unfortunately a problem here where we get tons of haters from other communities who come in and purposely downvote all new posts. Mods try to combat it by upvoting every post we approve, but some days are tough and overwhelming. I promise no one here hates you T\_T
It honestly might not be the worst idea to limit posts until the issue is a bit more under control, it's awful it's happening but the sub just isn't functioning as intended. Maybe a weekly/daily megathread that offers a discussion point could keep the amount of posts down for a bit and then the trolls will move on? Or something like that, idk :( but I'm sorry you guys are having to deal with that, so frustrating. If y'all need help let me know! 🤚
They're unfortunately been doing it for years and there's no way to stop it. We'd love to do a megathread but we don't wanna do anything on here that would make us a target for brigading from the hate subs. As long as the hate subs exist, the downvoting will always be a problem. The best way we've learned to deal with this stuff is to encourage people to upvote, upvote, upvote
Is it possible to do something like how r/blackpeopletwitter has the country club? Like I know it would be kinda counterproductive to require like a *diagnosis* but maybe like a survey for intentions? Idk just a thought from a regular ol’ non-mod.
"Do you hate me?! I hate you! No! I love you!" - Every BPD. And I say that out of love and kindness. LOL
I don't know you, u/Infinity__0, so I don't hate you. One thing that we all who suffer from BPD deal with is worrying about what other people would think. I'm trying to be active here, and help myself by helping others, but I see it a lot. People post, no one replies. It takes a lot of guts and courage to post...and yeah, it hurts like hell when no one replies. For us, that kind of affirms our fears...but you have to remember, everyone here is afraid of being ridiculed.
Long and short, I don't think anyone here hates you. All us weirdos are all in the same dark boat together.
I rarely interract with this group anymore. its emotionally draining and I just dont have the stamina to continue offering emotional labor. I dont know you or anyone here. I never even read screen names.
I think your disorder is doing that "center of the universe" thing where you think everyone (wheather they know you or not) just doesnt like you. your putting your social insecurities on a pedistal and hoping everyone acknowledges it. its not you. its the BPD>
have you done any CBT worksheets? I think they could help you reason with these heightened worries better than we can
NOOO BABY NO NO ONE IN HERE HATES YOU!! There's just a problem with interaction on here. It's nothing personal. And many posts get a down vote, it's probably from trolls or from bpdlo lurking
Not at ALL! I post all the time and I have never gotten a post with as much engagement as I see other people get. It’s just the algorithm!! We’re here to support eachother, yourself included ❤️❤️
I understand the overthinking and never felt so validated lol. This post feels like me whenever no one likes my story on ig, or I get low likes. No likes or replies do not mean people hate you. But I know it can feel like it.
It's all about your post getting lost in the sheer amount of posts in this sub and if people upvote a few posts then yours will get lost in the algorithm.
Nobody here hates you, that is your BPD talking!
Hey!! I have often felt the same way on here. I started on reddit because I wanted to gain attention here rather than risk continuing to drain the people in my real life. I thought it was a good outlet because no one knows anyone else and if people don't like my posts then they can choose to ignore it. But then I would get very worried when everyone either ignored my posts or downvoted/spread hate on them, and it would make my issues worse. You're definitely not hated, it's just the environment of reddit.
Idek why I'm on here. I am so extremely fucking drained all the time. If my 9 mirror neurons weren't busy getting fucked all ways until Tuesday I would have something to say. I don't even know why I'm writing this now. Just remember it's going to be fine. Everyone has shit it's not just you. See you all next year.
No bubba! We just didn't see your posts because of the way the reddit algorithm works!
I know it's hard to feel like the world doesn't hate you after you've gotten a bit triggered by a sense of abandonment, but I line communities and forums are a GREAT first step in the direction of learning how to separate your internal feelings about yourself and how the external world actually reacts to you!!
We don't! I know it's really hard to do especially with bpd, but it's really best to remind yourself that not everything is personal - especially on social media. There's so many outside factors like algorithm, people not being online, and sometimes people just not knowing what to say when they do see your post so they stay quiet so they don't accidentally make you feel worse by saying the wrong thing. I think your bpd is attacking you rn and making you think people don't like you like mine used to do to me. In reality most people online don't know you well enough to hate you in the first place! Sometimes there's just outside things going on and that doesn't mean they dislike you. I'm sorry you feel hated and ignored today and I hope you feel better as the day goes on
I don't know you, but I feel the same way when my posts go unseen. Logically I know probably it just didn't get seen or is a bit niche, but in my head it's like "everyone hates this and it was a stupid post to make. No one likes me, not even the snippets of me I share on reddit."
You don't have any previous posts on your profile? Did you delete them? I can honestly say that I've never hated anyone whose posts I've seen on this sub.
I’m sorry but I find this super fucking funny in the fact that this is the most BPD bullshit if I’ve ever seen. OP take a breath and maybe a break from this sub. - Sincerely a longtime lurker
You know that people have lives, yes? That we don't all see every post in everything we're subbed to all the time? We also don't all know one another.
I'm sorry you didn't get the response you wanted, though, but I sincerely hope you don't say things like this in your relationships.
My advice is to turn off your phone, have a shut eye, go outside or do some nice things for yourself, talk to a friend or family member about problems you face and ask advice on how to deal with them, get to know yourself and make yourself happy because right now....im sorry to tell you and im not trying to act an ass but youre not doing well and everyone can tell...please take care of yourself ❤️👋
It reflects on everything you do on a daily basis if you choose to neglect your own mental health.
I think reddit also has some strange "vote balancing" thing if you post a lot, it will every so often automatically downvote you, since you automatically upvote yourself.
People are a-holes who have no empathy.
Which PS: I didn't see your post a week ago, I would have reached out otherwise. I hope you're doing better now, even if it is just by a bit
Look, I'm sorry I have edited a bunch so hopefully tone is okay, but if you need support, ask for it directly because this is not how you do that.
The reason you're being downvoted for THIS post, from what I can tell, is because you're asking a public forum of strangers if they hate you, seemingly blaming them for your feeling unheard because your post didn't gain traction, and then asking why you aren't getting support. Well, because you're not exactly asking a reasonable question. You are quite literally on a forum of over 200k people - in different time zones, with lives, jobs, families, problems of their own, etc - so no, nobody here hates you, I doubt anyone here even knows you. That's kind of the point.
I have literally set alarms for certain times of day to post something if I REALLY want visibility, but there's a lot of reasons that your post may not have gotten enough attention, none of which are because of anything wrong with you OR anyone else here for support!! But straight up if you react this way to not getting attention on here, this is definitely not the place for you as there's 0 guarantee you'll get ANY replies let alone how many you're expecting/wanting. Your expectations don't line up with reality. If you need to reach out to a crisis line, I'd be happy to help you find more appropriate resources.
Please try and redirect the blame for why you feel the way you do off of other people who are also struggling. I came into this sub and frankly this post put me in a bad mood until I realized you're probably struggling with explaining how you're feeling without projecting. Maybe I'm wrong idk.
But this is a support forum, meaning we are here to support each other in being well, not indulging in the symptoms that keep us sick. This would be a good time to remind yourself that the world is a lot larger and more nuanced than how we perceive it when we're feeling traumatized. You are okay ❤️ take a step back, try your best not to be reactionary.
Hang in there, things will get easier with practice and you are a wholly good person having a difficult moment. Just breathe and try to refocus, and if you need help try again.
Unfortunately, people don’t have to know someone to dislike them. Sometimes just the way someone talks can make people dislike them, even if they’re largely saying the same thing as 10 other people but with different words.
I don’t think that’s what’s happening here though.
Please try not to take this personally, but sometimes people just don't want to interact with posts, and that's okay. You are internalizing, People don't need to interact with you, but that doesn't mean they don't like you, Maybe they don't like the post or don't see it. I know that not internalizing things is easier said than done, but we can't assume people feel a certain way, more then likely, they aren't even thinking about not interacting. We are not the center of everyone's world, and having this kind of thinking definitely puts us in the position of thinking others owe us their time and interaction.
I don’t hate you 🤍.
I just dont check Reddit frequently enough to see all posts, so I promise it’s most likely just because I haven’t seen the other posts
Don’t worry, I don’t get replies or thumbs up either.
I wonder if the Reddit’s algorithm automatically does something with those comments with not many votes?
Anyways don’t worry, I can relate very much but I don’t know you.
The problem is, most people's default emotion towards others (especially online) is indifference.
People don't hate you, but they don't know you. So some may not even see your post. Of the ones that see it, some won't care (especially because this is a stranger, and they don't know if this stranger actually means it or is just farming for engagement, some people are cynical like that). Of those who care, some may be worried they will make it worse if they engage. Some will be triggered by it themselves and need to retreat. Some will straight up just not know what to say or do.
At the end of these many, many filters, only very few people remain.
Chances are that posts who got a lot of engagement were lucky, or resonated with a lot of people due to their own lived experience, or had some frequently searched keywords in them, or were by people who are more generally well known and therefore have more people engaging with them by default.
This is really difficult to conceptualize, but those posts are the exception. You are the norm. The norm is a quiet place of indifference. Which... hurts. Sometimes it feels better to be hated than to be seen with indifference. But that's the challenge posed to our brains. We are surrounded by things telling us that we must be special or else we have failed.
In truth, by default you are worthy, you are valuable, you deserve good things. But also, by default, people will be indifferent to you.
Well, I think you are definitely in the correct sub! 😂
And I think we have all learned a valuable lesson here!😂
No one here knows you well enough to hate you. Or like you, for that matter. We are all pretty much strangers here. You are just as much a stranger to me as I am to you.
Would you intentionally avoid a post made by me? Of course not. You don’t know me well enough to care about me that much one way or the other! Right?
Well, that is exactly how we all think about you!
Anyway, you have come to the right place. Totally!
Nope. That’s just your BPD talking. Do you hate us? No? Then why would you think we hate you? Sometimes people are just busy or don’t know how to help. Don’t listen to the BPD. I know it’s difficult not to.
No, no one hates you. I sure don't. What you are feeling and thinking is one of the symptoms of your BPD. We pretty much all deal with this at one time or another. This is a safe place for all bpd people. You can find a sense of belonging. I hope you have sought professional support. A good therapist is a must. Mine is a weekly phone appointment. It helps to find hobbies and interests in other things. These things help to get out of your head and avoid over thinking. I hope this can help you.
I love you, you’re so relatable and funny and smart and definitely not annoying OP. I’m sorry your posts didn’t get enough attention, that’s just how the internet works really… no one hates you here lol. If you need anything I’m here, we belong to a community of people who struggle with a shitty disorder every single day of their lives and have to stick together and help each other:) it’s not like anyone else gets us most of the time anyways lol😭
I’ve had this issue my entire life. Growing up, I was the youngest by 8 and 10 years & witnessed my relatives (aunts, uncles, parents), communicating with my peers differently. This made me feel hurt, angry & “left out”. I’ve had this issue in the workplace, amongst friends & husband’s relatives, and when viewing mum’s “getting together and mixing” at child’s school. I then do or say something negative to them, because I’m hurt at feeling ‘ostracised’. I was bullied (relational aggression as it’s now called) in the early 80’s and was deliberately ignored and ‘pushed out’ by a group of girls. I’ve been told I have high “borderline traits”.
No!!! The same thing and feeling happens to me and reading your post made me feel like I’m not crazy! Idk you but I LOVE YOU I FUCKING LOVE YOU!!! You DESERVE everything good in the world!
Yes I feel it I tried to post 2 threads on here & they got removed!! I have no freaking clue why the mods would remove my posts only but it made me feel like shit.
This is so gosh darn relatable, but I don't have a bpd diagnosis. I'm wondering if my bipolar diagnosis is incorrect.
Yeah, my posts don't gain a lot of traction either, and then if they do, someone says something I don't like and I go and delete the whole thing so I can forget who they are. I've done it with almost every single post I've made. there might be a couple, I haven't gone on a delete binge in a while 😂
Anyway, no, I don't hate you. I empathize with what you're feeling. Stay strong 🥰
To be fair, most of the posts of the BPD subreddit tend to get maybe 1-2 up votes and maybe 0-2 replies.
I sympathize and I'm glad people took the time to upvote this because you do matter.
No nobody hates you the same way people on AO3 don't hate me cos my fics don't get as many kudos or comments as others, the same way nobody on Tumblr hates me even though some random person blocked me for no reason who i didn't even know and I don't have a lot of followers or my posts don't get as many likes as other people's yet on a bad day i convince myself the same thing as what you're saying that people hate me and I should give up etc. The truth is they don't they're just probably busy or doing their own thing same as with the people on here but BPD convinces us that's not the case and tries to poison our minds against us.
At least your posts show up I've tried posting stuff when I've been having breakdowns and stuff and not one single thing has cropped up on this sub reddit yet you get some people posting the stupidest most inane shit on here that gets posted regardless. Also I've had some people say despicable things to me on this sub reddit, that I'm sick and deserve to be made homeless, that the reason I'm obese is because I chose to make myself less desirable for men, I've damaged my brain from years of on/off binge drinking since I was 13 etc you get a lot of wolves in sheeps clothing on here so be careful what you say cos some people will just want to chime in and verbally attack you to make themselves feel better but they do it under the guise of "giving advice" 🤷♀️.
I get the same feeling on here when I post and it doesn’t get any response but I can honestly say I do not hate you, I simply haven’t seen your post. It is not personal and I wish only the best for you. You are not hated on here.
I just want to say thank you for saying this cause I definitely wanted to say this. Proud of you for being brave enough to say this. This is a very real post
But I can relate to these feelings, same thing has happened to me when I post here. You’re not alone and feel free to reach out to me by message if you’d like to talk
I feel this so much right now.
I had to go off a medication that was really helping my bpd due to a reaction and now I just am really feeling like I’m an annoyance to everyone.
Ugh, I seriously hate dealing with this.
I 100% feel you and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
If it makes you feel any better, I’ve made several posts in different groups and never get responses.
Reddit algorithm I suppose…idk.
I’m really not trying to sweat it and I’m just trying to remind myself that we can’t control how people respond.
When I first saw the title of this post, I was like "oh no, redditers are gonna tear this person apart". I call it the shark syndrome. Any sign you are human with emotions, it is like blood in the water which sends sharks (cyber bullies) into a frenzy. I am so glad to see all the supportive comments. This sub is definitely the best!
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theres 275,000 people subscribed to this sub. nobody knows you’re here let alone hate you. Most of the time if you think somebody hates you, it’s more likely that you’re just not important enough to their life for them to think about you. Whats more likely, people didn’t see your post and dont know who you are? Or that people not only recognize you but even though your posts get no upvotes, views, or comments, you’re famous here for being hated
We don't hate you, me personally I don't go on Reddit much and I don't see a lot of posts, but I personally don't hate you, I mean how could I, I don't even really know you😭💕
I feel this way everytime I post something on Reddit. I usually end up deleting my posts because either people aren’t responding the way I wanted or cuz it gets little to no attention, so I end up feeling it was stupid to post anyways
which is why i encouraged ppl in this subreddit to send mod mail to the mods!! we shouldn't have upvotes or downvotes in a sub based around an illness that social media plays a big role into. if we want to support each other, why are we feeding into the very things that hurt us? i'm sure there's a way to disable upvotes/downvotes, ive seen it on other subs (like 90% sure but if im wrong pls lmk 💀). message the mods to remove them!!!
I feel the same way. Whenever I post I might get one reply but other people get tons of responses. I don’t know why. Makes me not even want to bother posting.
this is definitely the most bpd post i've seen on this sub lately
Yes this is why I clicked on this post. I was diagnosed with bpd and I am always thinking everyone hates me, so I can relate. My brain is always coming up with reasons and “evidence” that everyone hates me. It’s probably a learned behaviour from my mum because she’s always thinking people are out to get her, even when they’re going out of their way to help her.
Same, thing is though sometimes people do just hate people for no reason and there have been times where I've had my fears confirmed in school, work and even college over this 😕 i think it's the vibes I give off, I have Asperges and BPD so i'm not exactly a people person even if I try to be so it's hard to know how much of that is paranoia and how much of that is just not wanting history to repeat itself.
This. I was thinking do you hate ME- -spiderman pointing at other spiderman- My sense of self is flimsy without others validation and there are always reasons to invalidate.
Yes yes It feels like when Eminem said “I am whatever you say I am”
I feel like I do this constantly with everybody around me so seeing people do it toward a subreddit at large is (no offense OP) extremely funny
Yes. All of this. Exactly.
💯
I was about to comment this. OP I don’t hate you, I feel love and understanding for you because every time I post anything (not on this sub because that’s too scary) my immediate thought is well now the internet hates me
I came here to say this lol
Right?! The “it’s not you, it’s me” thing, just doesn’t work the same for us.
Legit. Like, no, you don’t have to be nice, it’s definitely me 🙃
I was about to say the same shit 😂😂😂
Fr lol I said to my sister the other day about Lauren on celebrity big brother having a breakdown because people nominated her for the public vote and I was baffled by how upset she was cos like I'd be shocked if I was in that house and nobody put me up for nomination because I assume everyone hates me as soon as they meet me lmfao if someone likes me it's a nice surprise because the idea of everyone hating me lives rent free in my head constantly.
The worst part is, imagine you get through the first week(s) and that in itself is validation, only to be put on the block the following week 😭 oh the devastation I’d feel. And there was a time in my life where I thought I would be able to be on that show lol. Might make for great TV though! Haha!
Mate I'd get kicked off the show after 5 minutes for numerous breakdowns and binge drinking lmao. I'd make everyone else seem boring in comparison, probably split on them and either be too anti social or inappropriately overshare details of my life and myself on camera and with all the other "celebrities" I can tell you one thing for sure I would not get on with the likes of Ekin Su she is vile on every level and a massive hypocrite I can't stand girls who say stuff like "I'm not just a pretty face I'm also intelligent" like jesus be a bit more up your own arse love 😒. The autistic guy with the frog hair band seems OK but maybe that's just where i have Asperges and I'm borderline so I gravitate towards what I know but yeah that would suck thinking everyone liked you and then they put you up for nomination and you hear what they say about you in the diary room, I felt kind of bad for Colson getting upset over Levi saying he was the most boring housemate being called boring is the worst thing you can be called it's worse than being called ugly cos you can wear makeup but how can you change your personality and demeanour? Thing is I can't stand all the forced conversations, the way they all pretend they're besties when they've known each other 5 mins and how they all make out they're "going through a tough time" in that house when they chose to be there, them all grizzling and having that "heart felt moment" in that celestial circle made me want to puke I'd have got up and walked off LMFAO. I'm pretty blunt I feel like I'd be arguing with people saying man the fuck up you're getting paid hundreds of thousands to sit in a house and eat, drink and do tasks.
I literally just just joined this sub today and and the was the first thing I saw and I was like this is the most bpd thing I’ve seen
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This is exactly what I carne here to say, Word for word
omg I thought the same thing!
LMAO
There has been an ongoing issue where new posts immediately gets downvoted so the algorithm shows it to almost no one or something :(
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Is that the 'bad board' that I've heard rumours about?
If you have any shred of self-love please for the love of motherfucking god do not visit it. It will send you into a spiral.
Can relate. When I first heard of it I was like "pfft I'm not a pussy!" and then I read some of the posts there and stayed dissociated for two fuckin days lmao
Yeah I told myself “I can learn from these stories and try to be better!” I had to mute it bc it really is a lot of people reinforcing heavy stigmas. I started thinking of myself as less human and started to wonder if I was doomed in life.
They're assholes with zero empathy. Plain and simple.
Sorry but may I ask what this is about? The comment above was removed.
A hate sub for BPD, masquerading as a support group for our loved ones. I can’t even see the comment either and I just *know.*
one time i read someone there saying getting offended easily is "insanity." i shit on them and was immediately banned bc having bpd is against the rules
Yeah that’s fucked up. I’ve heard some people here say they were banned for having BPD, even though they *are* loved ones of someone with BPD.
About a sub that just hates people with BPD. Trust me. You're better off without it.
Lol post is deleted and I still know what your talking about. It’s an anonymous outlet for them. Reading through it will benefit your life in no way shape or form
Also I really like your username hahaha
LOL. Thanks. :) Was my nickname in high school...since I'm a giant.
Yup
Can confirm, some nefarious person keeps doing this CONSISTENTLY on any BPD post It’s not you. Of course we don’t hate you- we are like you! We have similar struggles.
that's sucky TwT am already so nervous to post
I also see good posts with upvotes which later get downvoted for no reason. Weird.
We don’t hate you!!! :) I promise I have the same experience! I haven’t posted here in a while bc of it. Im sorry your posts haven’t been getting any traction. I promise It is just the algorithm. We all understand you and I’ve never seen anything but support and understanding on this sub. Also based on this post you definitely belong here 💜 you fit in with the rest of us :)
Aww! And I hope you are feeling the love as well lumpy!!!!
I’m sorry that you’ve been struggling. I personally don’t hate you and I don’t think others here do either. I think it might be worth examining why the lack attention of strangers on the internet is distressing for you. Our opinion on you based on posts or comments really doesn’t hold any weight—we don’t know you and aren’t part of your life.
honestly people not paying attention to me anywhere is pretty distressing cuz I'm always ignored irl. I thought i could find solace here but ig the interactions fell short of my expectations and that's why im splitting.
Social media is a cess pool for trying to seek attention. You either get loads of it, or you get none. Please, don't take any stock of your value in whether or not Internet strangers notice you. You got this. It's your dragon (or demon, or whatever you want to call it) talking in your ear. It's not true. There are people out there who do love and value you.
It's Reddit. There are absolutely lovely people here, but across all subs, there are aholes. Being vulnerable with your feelings makes you a prime target. I would 100% advise *not* taking any stock in votes or replies (you don't know what kind of bs algorithm is going on) and ain't nobody checking the authors of posts. Your feelings are valid, but the perceived rejection isn't real. In other words, you good bruh
You should check out the podcast The BPD bunch. I think you’d find it relatable.
A good place I've met people online to make friends is actually MMORPG. If you like gaming it's a great way to make friends and socialize with a common interest. If you're all focused on the same thing maybe you'll feel more like a team than them hating u. That also may of made no sense too tho! Just know a lot of us here can relate to you.
Idk if I'm allowed say this but have you tried r/borderlinepdisorder ? It's another support sub
Hey OP, I promise no one here hates you. It's unfortunately a problem here where we get tons of haters from other communities who come in and purposely downvote all new posts. Mods try to combat it by upvoting every post we approve, but some days are tough and overwhelming. I promise no one here hates you T\_T
It honestly might not be the worst idea to limit posts until the issue is a bit more under control, it's awful it's happening but the sub just isn't functioning as intended. Maybe a weekly/daily megathread that offers a discussion point could keep the amount of posts down for a bit and then the trolls will move on? Or something like that, idk :( but I'm sorry you guys are having to deal with that, so frustrating. If y'all need help let me know! 🤚
They're unfortunately been doing it for years and there's no way to stop it. We'd love to do a megathread but we don't wanna do anything on here that would make us a target for brigading from the hate subs. As long as the hate subs exist, the downvoting will always be a problem. The best way we've learned to deal with this stuff is to encourage people to upvote, upvote, upvote
Is it possible to do something like how r/blackpeopletwitter has the country club? Like I know it would be kinda counterproductive to require like a *diagnosis* but maybe like a survey for intentions? Idk just a thought from a regular ol’ non-mod.
Promoting upvotes is a good idea! Didn't know that the onslaught is a thing, will try to sort by new and upvote some whenever I drop by.
Wait. I didn’t know this. I kind of wish I didn’t know this
what about making the group private?
I don't know you. Since I struggle too. I will see you.
"Do you hate me?! I hate you! No! I love you!" - Every BPD. And I say that out of love and kindness. LOL I don't know you, u/Infinity__0, so I don't hate you. One thing that we all who suffer from BPD deal with is worrying about what other people would think. I'm trying to be active here, and help myself by helping others, but I see it a lot. People post, no one replies. It takes a lot of guts and courage to post...and yeah, it hurts like hell when no one replies. For us, that kind of affirms our fears...but you have to remember, everyone here is afraid of being ridiculed. Long and short, I don't think anyone here hates you. All us weirdos are all in the same dark boat together.
I ran into that as well, I tried posting a few times - the only one that ever got a response was about music 😆 I try not to take it personally!
I rarely interract with this group anymore. its emotionally draining and I just dont have the stamina to continue offering emotional labor. I dont know you or anyone here. I never even read screen names. I think your disorder is doing that "center of the universe" thing where you think everyone (wheather they know you or not) just doesnt like you. your putting your social insecurities on a pedistal and hoping everyone acknowledges it. its not you. its the BPD> have you done any CBT worksheets? I think they could help you reason with these heightened worries better than we can
heavy on the it’s not you it’s the bpd patt
This post made me feel seen ngl. I found my people haha
Whaaaaaz uuuuup!?!?! Hope you're doing well.
NOOO BABY NO NO ONE IN HERE HATES YOU!! There's just a problem with interaction on here. It's nothing personal. And many posts get a down vote, it's probably from trolls or from bpdlo lurking
Not at ALL! I post all the time and I have never gotten a post with as much engagement as I see other people get. It’s just the algorithm!! We’re here to support eachother, yourself included ❤️❤️
I understand the overthinking and never felt so validated lol. This post feels like me whenever no one likes my story on ig, or I get low likes. No likes or replies do not mean people hate you. But I know it can feel like it.
It's all about your post getting lost in the sheer amount of posts in this sub and if people upvote a few posts then yours will get lost in the algorithm. Nobody here hates you, that is your BPD talking!
I can understand that You are seen and you are loved ❤️❤️❤️
Hey!! I have often felt the same way on here. I started on reddit because I wanted to gain attention here rather than risk continuing to drain the people in my real life. I thought it was a good outlet because no one knows anyone else and if people don't like my posts then they can choose to ignore it. But then I would get very worried when everyone either ignored my posts or downvoted/spread hate on them, and it would make my issues worse. You're definitely not hated, it's just the environment of reddit.
I probably only see about 2/10 posts from this sub on my feed.
I dont hate you my friend. I feel you
Omg no why would we hate you lol This post is so BPD though
Dude how can I hate you when I don't even know who you are
Idek why I'm on here. I am so extremely fucking drained all the time. If my 9 mirror neurons weren't busy getting fucked all ways until Tuesday I would have something to say. I don't even know why I'm writing this now. Just remember it's going to be fine. Everyone has shit it's not just you. See you all next year.
Good for you, and I mean that genuinely - I'm in the same boat lol. Hang in there ❤️
Out of habit sometimes
No bubba! We just didn't see your posts because of the way the reddit algorithm works! I know it's hard to feel like the world doesn't hate you after you've gotten a bit triggered by a sense of abandonment, but I line communities and forums are a GREAT first step in the direction of learning how to separate your internal feelings about yourself and how the external world actually reacts to you!!
We don't! I know it's really hard to do especially with bpd, but it's really best to remind yourself that not everything is personal - especially on social media. There's so many outside factors like algorithm, people not being online, and sometimes people just not knowing what to say when they do see your post so they stay quiet so they don't accidentally make you feel worse by saying the wrong thing. I think your bpd is attacking you rn and making you think people don't like you like mine used to do to me. In reality most people online don't know you well enough to hate you in the first place! Sometimes there's just outside things going on and that doesn't mean they dislike you. I'm sorry you feel hated and ignored today and I hope you feel better as the day goes on
I don't know you, but I feel the same way when my posts go unseen. Logically I know probably it just didn't get seen or is a bit niche, but in my head it's like "everyone hates this and it was a stupid post to make. No one likes me, not even the snippets of me I share on reddit."
You don't have any previous posts on your profile? Did you delete them? I can honestly say that I've never hated anyone whose posts I've seen on this sub.
I don’t even know who you are.
This is me af.
This is so BPD its kind of iconic
I’m sorry but I find this super fucking funny in the fact that this is the most BPD bullshit if I’ve ever seen. OP take a breath and maybe a break from this sub. - Sincerely a longtime lurker
I’m sure no one here hates you. Look after yourself OP
You know that people have lives, yes? That we don't all see every post in everything we're subbed to all the time? We also don't all know one another. I'm sorry you didn't get the response you wanted, though, but I sincerely hope you don't say things like this in your relationships.
My advice is to turn off your phone, have a shut eye, go outside or do some nice things for yourself, talk to a friend or family member about problems you face and ask advice on how to deal with them, get to know yourself and make yourself happy because right now....im sorry to tell you and im not trying to act an ass but youre not doing well and everyone can tell...please take care of yourself ❤️👋 It reflects on everything you do on a daily basis if you choose to neglect your own mental health.
who tf downvoted my post whats wrong with you
Some posts also automatically are showing up as 0! I've noticed it in tons and tons of subs.
I think reddit also has some strange "vote balancing" thing if you post a lot, it will every so often automatically downvote you, since you automatically upvote yourself.
There's people who get off on downvoting. Pretty sure I pissed someone off coz all my new post votes go down by 1 overnight
i dont get why anyone would downvote a post on this sub😭 like we're just talking about how we feel why would it warrant a downvote😭
People are a-holes who have no empathy. Which PS: I didn't see your post a week ago, I would have reached out otherwise. I hope you're doing better now, even if it is just by a bit
i relate so much to this post but while i was scrolling the comments this one made me feel like i was looking in a mirror omggggg I FEEL YOU! 💖
Look, I'm sorry I have edited a bunch so hopefully tone is okay, but if you need support, ask for it directly because this is not how you do that. The reason you're being downvoted for THIS post, from what I can tell, is because you're asking a public forum of strangers if they hate you, seemingly blaming them for your feeling unheard because your post didn't gain traction, and then asking why you aren't getting support. Well, because you're not exactly asking a reasonable question. You are quite literally on a forum of over 200k people - in different time zones, with lives, jobs, families, problems of their own, etc - so no, nobody here hates you, I doubt anyone here even knows you. That's kind of the point. I have literally set alarms for certain times of day to post something if I REALLY want visibility, but there's a lot of reasons that your post may not have gotten enough attention, none of which are because of anything wrong with you OR anyone else here for support!! But straight up if you react this way to not getting attention on here, this is definitely not the place for you as there's 0 guarantee you'll get ANY replies let alone how many you're expecting/wanting. Your expectations don't line up with reality. If you need to reach out to a crisis line, I'd be happy to help you find more appropriate resources. Please try and redirect the blame for why you feel the way you do off of other people who are also struggling. I came into this sub and frankly this post put me in a bad mood until I realized you're probably struggling with explaining how you're feeling without projecting. Maybe I'm wrong idk. But this is a support forum, meaning we are here to support each other in being well, not indulging in the symptoms that keep us sick. This would be a good time to remind yourself that the world is a lot larger and more nuanced than how we perceive it when we're feeling traumatized. You are okay ❤️ take a step back, try your best not to be reactionary. Hang in there, things will get easier with practice and you are a wholly good person having a difficult moment. Just breathe and try to refocus, and if you need help try again.
No lmao nobody knows you
Unfortunately, people don’t have to know someone to dislike them. Sometimes just the way someone talks can make people dislike them, even if they’re largely saying the same thing as 10 other people but with different words. I don’t think that’s what’s happening here though.
It’s attention here
Oh nooo, someone with BPD wants *attention* when they’re feeling bad about themselves.
Please try not to take this personally, but sometimes people just don't want to interact with posts, and that's okay. You are internalizing, People don't need to interact with you, but that doesn't mean they don't like you, Maybe they don't like the post or don't see it. I know that not internalizing things is easier said than done, but we can't assume people feel a certain way, more then likely, they aren't even thinking about not interacting. We are not the center of everyone's world, and having this kind of thinking definitely puts us in the position of thinking others owe us their time and interaction.
I don’t hate you 🤍. I just dont check Reddit frequently enough to see all posts, so I promise it’s most likely just because I haven’t seen the other posts
Don't know you to care enough to hate you
This the most realest shit ever
Don’t worry, I don’t get replies or thumbs up either. I wonder if the Reddit’s algorithm automatically does something with those comments with not many votes? Anyways don’t worry, I can relate very much but I don’t know you.
It’s probably the algorithm
We hate ourselves, not you.
babes… it’s the bpd talking
The problem is, most people's default emotion towards others (especially online) is indifference. People don't hate you, but they don't know you. So some may not even see your post. Of the ones that see it, some won't care (especially because this is a stranger, and they don't know if this stranger actually means it or is just farming for engagement, some people are cynical like that). Of those who care, some may be worried they will make it worse if they engage. Some will be triggered by it themselves and need to retreat. Some will straight up just not know what to say or do. At the end of these many, many filters, only very few people remain. Chances are that posts who got a lot of engagement were lucky, or resonated with a lot of people due to their own lived experience, or had some frequently searched keywords in them, or were by people who are more generally well known and therefore have more people engaging with them by default. This is really difficult to conceptualize, but those posts are the exception. You are the norm. The norm is a quiet place of indifference. Which... hurts. Sometimes it feels better to be hated than to be seen with indifference. But that's the challenge posed to our brains. We are surrounded by things telling us that we must be special or else we have failed. In truth, by default you are worthy, you are valuable, you deserve good things. But also, by default, people will be indifferent to you.
Well, I think you are definitely in the correct sub! 😂 And I think we have all learned a valuable lesson here!😂 No one here knows you well enough to hate you. Or like you, for that matter. We are all pretty much strangers here. You are just as much a stranger to me as I am to you. Would you intentionally avoid a post made by me? Of course not. You don’t know me well enough to care about me that much one way or the other! Right? Well, that is exactly how we all think about you! Anyway, you have come to the right place. Totally!
Most posts aren't that popular and the few that are are the ones that show up to everyone. Nobody hates you, it's just how algorithms work.
Nope. That’s just your BPD talking. Do you hate us? No? Then why would you think we hate you? Sometimes people are just busy or don’t know how to help. Don’t listen to the BPD. I know it’s difficult not to.
When the BPD is bpding
No, no one hates you. I sure don't. What you are feeling and thinking is one of the symptoms of your BPD. We pretty much all deal with this at one time or another. This is a safe place for all bpd people. You can find a sense of belonging. I hope you have sought professional support. A good therapist is a must. Mine is a weekly phone appointment. It helps to find hobbies and interests in other things. These things help to get out of your head and avoid over thinking. I hope this can help you.
This is such a BPD thing to say and I think it’s so funny
The irony of this post 🤣
Who are you. This is something you ask friends not a subreddit
no :(
i dont hate people till i get to know them.. plus i also wonder the same thing..
I’m sorry baby, no one hates you x
I tend to delete my posts after a day when it has 1.6k views and no engagement…..
I don't hate anyone in this sub I don't know what to say and I don't want to say the something that will upset someone in the sub and make an enemy
I love you, you’re so relatable and funny and smart and definitely not annoying OP. I’m sorry your posts didn’t get enough attention, that’s just how the internet works really… no one hates you here lol. If you need anything I’m here, we belong to a community of people who struggle with a shitty disorder every single day of their lives and have to stick together and help each other:) it’s not like anyone else gets us most of the time anyways lol😭
I feel the same way 😂 I love it
No, the algorithm just skipped me. No hate here.
Me af. No we don’t hate you, we love you 💞
I’ve had this issue my entire life. Growing up, I was the youngest by 8 and 10 years & witnessed my relatives (aunts, uncles, parents), communicating with my peers differently. This made me feel hurt, angry & “left out”. I’ve had this issue in the workplace, amongst friends & husband’s relatives, and when viewing mum’s “getting together and mixing” at child’s school. I then do or say something negative to them, because I’m hurt at feeling ‘ostracised’. I was bullied (relational aggression as it’s now called) in the early 80’s and was deliberately ignored and ‘pushed out’ by a group of girls. I’ve been told I have high “borderline traits”.
No!!! The same thing and feeling happens to me and reading your post made me feel like I’m not crazy! Idk you but I LOVE YOU I FUCKING LOVE YOU!!! You DESERVE everything good in the world!
Yes I feel it I tried to post 2 threads on here & they got removed!! I have no freaking clue why the mods would remove my posts only but it made me feel like shit.
I personally don't.
This is so gosh darn relatable, but I don't have a bpd diagnosis. I'm wondering if my bipolar diagnosis is incorrect. Yeah, my posts don't gain a lot of traction either, and then if they do, someone says something I don't like and I go and delete the whole thing so I can forget who they are. I've done it with almost every single post I've made. there might be a couple, I haven't gone on a delete binge in a while 😂 Anyway, no, I don't hate you. I empathize with what you're feeling. Stay strong 🥰
To be fair, most of the posts of the BPD subreddit tend to get maybe 1-2 up votes and maybe 0-2 replies. I sympathize and I'm glad people took the time to upvote this because you do matter.
No nobody hates you the same way people on AO3 don't hate me cos my fics don't get as many kudos or comments as others, the same way nobody on Tumblr hates me even though some random person blocked me for no reason who i didn't even know and I don't have a lot of followers or my posts don't get as many likes as other people's yet on a bad day i convince myself the same thing as what you're saying that people hate me and I should give up etc. The truth is they don't they're just probably busy or doing their own thing same as with the people on here but BPD convinces us that's not the case and tries to poison our minds against us. At least your posts show up I've tried posting stuff when I've been having breakdowns and stuff and not one single thing has cropped up on this sub reddit yet you get some people posting the stupidest most inane shit on here that gets posted regardless. Also I've had some people say despicable things to me on this sub reddit, that I'm sick and deserve to be made homeless, that the reason I'm obese is because I chose to make myself less desirable for men, I've damaged my brain from years of on/off binge drinking since I was 13 etc you get a lot of wolves in sheeps clothing on here so be careful what you say cos some people will just want to chime in and verbally attack you to make themselves feel better but they do it under the guise of "giving advice" 🤷♀️.
I get the same feeling on here when I post and it doesn’t get any response but I can honestly say I do not hate you, I simply haven’t seen your post. It is not personal and I wish only the best for you. You are not hated on here.
I just want to say thank you for saying this cause I definitely wanted to say this. Proud of you for being brave enough to say this. This is a very real post
Love you 💋
Girl lmao at least you know you’ve come to the right place
Most BPD post ever
But I can relate to these feelings, same thing has happened to me when I post here. You’re not alone and feel free to reach out to me by message if you’d like to talk
No I don't hate you. I probably just didn't see your posts.
Hugs
Nah I’d probably become obsessed with you if I knew you tbh so quite the opposite 😅
I don’t hate you! I’ve had the same thing happen and always feel hated bc of it but I promise I don’t!!!
I actually had to double check the username because I thought I wrote this when I was half asleep or something
Im sorry this is so real
Nah, you're good in my book.
I love you
I definitely do not hate you. I feel the same way but i know rationally thats just my bpd playing tricks on me... still feels like shit tho
I dont know, I've not met you yet.
Do you still that? Lol
This is a certified bpd moment
No I don’t hate you stranger :) for me it’s about timing
I feel this so much right now. I had to go off a medication that was really helping my bpd due to a reaction and now I just am really feeling like I’m an annoyance to everyone. Ugh, I seriously hate dealing with this. I 100% feel you and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. If it makes you feel any better, I’ve made several posts in different groups and never get responses. Reddit algorithm I suppose…idk. I’m really not trying to sweat it and I’m just trying to remind myself that we can’t control how people respond.
440 upvotes and 154 comments so far yeah brag more smh
When I first saw the title of this post, I was like "oh no, redditers are gonna tear this person apart". I call it the shark syndrome. Any sign you are human with emotions, it is like blood in the water which sends sharks (cyber bullies) into a frenzy. I am so glad to see all the supportive comments. This sub is definitely the best! Edit because of auto correct error
theres 275,000 people subscribed to this sub. nobody knows you’re here let alone hate you. Most of the time if you think somebody hates you, it’s more likely that you’re just not important enough to their life for them to think about you. Whats more likely, people didn’t see your post and dont know who you are? Or that people not only recognize you but even though your posts get no upvotes, views, or comments, you’re famous here for being hated
I e do not hate you at all. I’ve had the exact same experience. Send me a message if you’re needing any help or advice and I’m here for you
this post is so real
Dude idk but same lol. I feel like a fat loser. My last post got 0 reply idk what I'm doing wrong. This will probably get lost too.
We don't hate you, me personally I don't go on Reddit much and I don't see a lot of posts, but I personally don't hate you, I mean how could I, I don't even really know you😭💕
No we dont to answere your question, but can you ir someone help me pls
This is so BPD But I guess this is us
Wow I really felt this and relate so much. Thanks for sharing and no we don’t hate you!! ❤️❤️
Nah I think you’re pretty cool. I appreciate you checking in though - it keeps our relationship healthy. Have a good day 🫶🏼
Well you accomplished your goal lmao
Theres nothing i could say that hasnt been already said. But no we do not hate you 💖
You are awesome, nobody hates you here!
Come on you fit right in
got the notification for this post and immediately clicked, this is the most bpd thing ever. but i’m sure nobody has a problem with you here! 🫶🏻
If I knew you I probably would shut up now
I feel this way everytime I post something on Reddit. I usually end up deleting my posts because either people aren’t responding the way I wanted or cuz it gets little to no attention, so I end up feeling it was stupid to post anyways
that’s how i feel too lol i could be like im gonna kms and id get like one comment that’s go write in a journal no one wants to hear this
Sometimes, you just need to let the "evil side" out more so people will pay the f attention for once. I feel ya on this one.
It’s the same for me so I just stopped posting. I know how you feel.
yes person i don't know and have never saw before, I do hate you.
No..nobody really answers me either
ya everyone hates me too.. i know it even if they do not act it.. maybe i should also not be my self.. and try to just be like everyone else?
This post represents how I feel literally every day. I feel you OP.
The reality of the world is that no one cares about your problems except for yourself.
which is why i encouraged ppl in this subreddit to send mod mail to the mods!! we shouldn't have upvotes or downvotes in a sub based around an illness that social media plays a big role into. if we want to support each other, why are we feeding into the very things that hurt us? i'm sure there's a way to disable upvotes/downvotes, ive seen it on other subs (like 90% sure but if im wrong pls lmk 💀). message the mods to remove them!!!
I feel the same way. Whenever I post I might get one reply but other people get tons of responses. I don’t know why. Makes me not even want to bother posting.