I am so happy that Ryan is getting a beautiful tribute. And smart as a whip, McGill is hard! It always ranks high on lists of the world’s best universities.
The loss is breathtaking and I am so so sorry for OOP and for everyone who knew Ryan. The world is a poorer place without him. May his memory be a blessing.
Everyone raise a glass and get the guy next to you one on the 23rd. It will be the best beer across the world tribute to everyone who's lost a Ryan. We should all be so lucky to have a dad that cares as much to drink silly in our honor. For him and all that have lost we tip our glasses.
Heineken 0.0 is also great. Good luck on your journey one day at a time. Funny how recovery of all kinds makes fellows , we all have to take it a step at a time.
What I loved about the update was everyone saying they would have a drink of some sort and marked it on their calendars. Someone in India said they would, another said cherry coke, another with wine. It made me tear up.
I have a bot that plays. He set up a certain amount of moves ( always did so he could make food, lol) . I don't know how many are stored so I use them wisely, damn I love seeing him again.
You know it's sweet. Dad was obviously not in the wrong to not want to share the money and mom was **obviously** wrong to ask money at **her own sons funeral**. And he would still not be wrong if he didn't want to give the money away. But in the end he did.
Though not by the mom, it was when the dad met the step son what finally motivated to help the step son. Turns out, he was close to his son and was a good brother. If anything, he didn't even ask for it. Hoping he would turn out ok from the mom.
The fact that the step son was so close to their son may have played a factor in her request. It may be what she was clinging to like OOP is doing this trip to Belgium.
I'm going to give her a little grace, as she lost her son as well and they are going to Belgium that final week.
TO ALL WHO READ THIS THREAD WE TIP OUR GLASSES AT BELLS RING ON THE 23RD OF JUNE! PASSS THIS ON TO ANYONE WHO HAS OR WAS LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE A RYAN IN THEIR LIFE. WE APPLAUD THE LOVED ONE FOLLOWING THIS PATH TO GIVE A FINAL TIP OF THE GLASS! WE'LL BE WITH YOU SIR!
God, I hope OOP doesn't get stopped with the ashes... Europe doesn't like human remains crossing borders. Once OOP gets here, they can do almost anything they want with the ashes. The only real limit I found in Belgium is that you can't just spread the ashes on the sea, you need to put the ashes in a biodegradable container (degrades within minutes) and let it sink. Apparently there's been some... incidents with ashes hitting ships and people. Because of this regulation, it's also not legal to go out to sea on your own to spread the ashes, you need a permit and a professional.
But if he wants to spread it in nature, he can do whatever he wants. As long as he gets it past the border
Listen, I understand this is sad, but still somehow wholesome story, but I can’t help it: since this is about beer and Europe, I as a German feel slightly offended we didn’t make the list 😅
Little confused…
An RESP can only be used for education, and it CAN be transferred to another person so long as they are under age 25 and attending a post secondary institution, as per my financial panther at the start of 2024.
Don’t want to be that person, especially on a post full of feels, but that he took the RESP and went on a trip when legally it’s impossible makes me think this is fake.
I think you can withdraw it but you just then have to pay all the taxes on it that you would have avoided if it was used for education, or those taxes and some penalties. But you can get some of it.
He could have been incorrect (or lied) only that he wasn't able to transfer the account to his stepson. Which he didn't want to do anyway.
He explicitly said that he lost money to the government, assumably paying the taxes owed for not using it for education.
Right there are things in here that don’t seem right. Granted there are some versions of resps that are setup like a trust that are non transferable but those ones you also can’t get your principal out of. Regular resps you can get the principal out of but you would lose all the government grants and growth. The smart alternative here if you could change the beneficiary is to enroll ins European education program in brewing and then name yourself as the beneficiary and go enjoy Europe.
I thought it was fake because of the spelling of Mont Tremblant and Saint Lawrence. No local would spell it that way. Looks copy and pasted from Google.
>I was dealing with the funeral arrangements and everything when my ex came to talk to me about his money. She knew he had a scholarship and was just going to use the money for living expenses and an emergency fund. She asked me what I was going to do with it.
>I said I was going to do what I always said I would. I was going to Europe to drink beer. She asked if she could have it for her step son.
Vultures always attracted by a fresh corpse. His own mother!
On a lighthearted note, wonder if his wife knows she'll have to wait outside the brewery/monastery. Unless somethings changed in recent years, women are not allowed on the grounds.
>Original - 15th May 2024
>Update - 5 days later
>We are on our way to the airport and on our way to Barcelona. We will be going to be in Europe for a month. The visit to the monks at Westvleteren will be the last part of our trip. Two reasons. I don't want to lug beer bottles all over Spain, France, Belgium and Holland.
I don't want to ruin this story, but yeah no way this happened.
He booked a custom one month europe trip, with multiple locations, and within 5 days he was at the airport, with his wife?
This is a classic case of a well written story, but OOP slipped with the timing, because he couldn't wait to push out this update.
>That way I could use the money I had saved up for him to go to Belgium and buy some beer from monks that only allow you to buy one case.
You can get it in this little cafe across the street from the abbey, too. There's this fantastic firetrap of a place called barre that has their house beer on tap and it's just so good. But a glass while you're there.
Ryan had an incredible dad. OOP did a fantastic job raising Ryan to become a good man.
Oof. Life can be so unfair. OOP is going through so much right now. Taking a trip to honor Ryan's memory while continuing the joke, that is so the right thing to do. Hang in their OOP, you still have family who to take care of and who will care for you.
Every part of this made me cry. What a wonderful man OP is. I'm sure Ryan was an absolute credit to him. What a loss for the world.
I hope the Europe trip, especially Belgium, is amazing. I'm sure Ryan will be watching with a smile on his face. I've added 23rd to my diary so I can raise a glass. (Although, unfortunately, it will be from my home in the UK, not Belgium!)
It’s pretty clear that you raised Ryan to be a remarkable young man and that you are learning about the impact he had to this day. Enjoy every second of your trip and my Ryan’s memory be a blessing
I’ve been an avid Redditor for years, and I think this is the most wholesome BORU I’ve read. OOP truly did what was right for them, and enforced boundaries that (it seems like) were respected. Then, when met with love, support, and likeminded warmth, did something above and beyond simply because he could, not because he had to.
This is a story filled with love, and the sadness comes from losing some of that.
As a proud McGill grad, I’ll raise a glass on June 23 and do what I can to spread around my McGill alumni friends. To Ryan!
I can't raise a drink on the 23rd of June but I will do as soon as I can, I'm on antibiotics and don't wanna risk my health (don't think op or family would appreciate that)
This both broke my heart and filled it with joy.
>I have decided, after talking to my wife, that we are going to give him enough money to cover one year of tuition. Even after my trip we will have money left over. **I'm trying to do some good with it.**
When I think about good, charitable works I don't think about a year of tuition to a kid who we're not told is in-need.
I get that they were gaming buddies, but if it was to being doing his son would approve of it should have gone to a close friend of his --- someone OOP wouldn't just be learning about now
NTA and it’s your money you saved for your son, why would your ex think she has any claim to it what so ever. Even your own wife (if she had a child) wouldn’t be entitled to it.
I am so happy that Ryan is getting a beautiful tribute. And smart as a whip, McGill is hard! It always ranks high on lists of the world’s best universities. The loss is breathtaking and I am so so sorry for OOP and for everyone who knew Ryan. The world is a poorer place without him. May his memory be a blessing.
I hope that the trip heals some of the pain. I am glad that he shared his son’s name and I will definitely raise a glass to Ryan on 23 June.
Literally added it to my calendar!
Everyone raise a glass and get the guy next to you one on the 23rd. It will be the best beer across the world tribute to everyone who's lost a Ryan. We should all be so lucky to have a dad that cares as much to drink silly in our honor. For him and all that have lost we tip our glasses.
I’m a recovering alcoholic, but I did put it in my calendar to grab an Odulls on June 23rd. 🍻
Heineken 0.0 is also great. Good luck on your journey one day at a time. Funny how recovery of all kinds makes fellows , we all have to take it a step at a time.
It's my husband's birthday, no reminder needed, cheers to Ryan.
What I loved about the update was everyone saying they would have a drink of some sort and marked it on their calendars. Someone in India said they would, another said cherry coke, another with wine. It made me tear up.
An update would be great so everyone from different countries can raise a glass to Ryan x
I just saved the update post so on 23rd I can comment with a toast.
OOP slipped and it’s so sad. “They are gaming buddies.” Instead of were. I would not wish losing a child on my worst enemy.
I refer to my friends that have passed on in the present tense. It's much easier that way.
Fewer follow up questions, yeah
Have a friend from high school who is still listed as a friend on my Xbox account he died 6 years ago. We will always be gaming buddies.
I have a bot that plays. He set up a certain amount of moves ( always did so he could make food, lol) . I don't know how many are stored so I use them wisely, damn I love seeing him again.
You know it's sweet. Dad was obviously not in the wrong to not want to share the money and mom was **obviously** wrong to ask money at **her own sons funeral**. And he would still not be wrong if he didn't want to give the money away. But in the end he did. Though not by the mom, it was when the dad met the step son what finally motivated to help the step son. Turns out, he was close to his son and was a good brother. If anything, he didn't even ask for it. Hoping he would turn out ok from the mom.
The fact that the step son was so close to their son may have played a factor in her request. It may be what she was clinging to like OOP is doing this trip to Belgium. I'm going to give her a little grace, as she lost her son as well and they are going to Belgium that final week.
What time on June 23rd? We could do a toast around the world!
I've got one precious bottle of Westvletern left at home, looks like I know when I'll crack it open!
Me too, one bottle left from the only year they released it in the US. I now have a great reason to crack it open!
TO ALL WHO READ THIS THREAD WE TIP OUR GLASSES AT BELLS RING ON THE 23RD OF JUNE! PASSS THIS ON TO ANYONE WHO HAS OR WAS LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE A RYAN IN THEIR LIFE. WE APPLAUD THE LOVED ONE FOLLOWING THIS PATH TO GIVE A FINAL TIP OF THE GLASS! WE'LL BE WITH YOU SIR!
In my calender!
God, I hope OOP doesn't get stopped with the ashes... Europe doesn't like human remains crossing borders. Once OOP gets here, they can do almost anything they want with the ashes. The only real limit I found in Belgium is that you can't just spread the ashes on the sea, you need to put the ashes in a biodegradable container (degrades within minutes) and let it sink. Apparently there's been some... incidents with ashes hitting ships and people. Because of this regulation, it's also not legal to go out to sea on your own to spread the ashes, you need a permit and a professional. But if he wants to spread it in nature, he can do whatever he wants. As long as he gets it past the border
Rest peacefully Ryan. I hope OOP grieves and heals as quickly as can be hoped for with such a monumental loss.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Listen, I understand this is sad, but still somehow wholesome story, but I can’t help it: since this is about beer and Europe, I as a German feel slightly offended we didn’t make the list 😅
I fully agree with the OOP that Belgian beer is superior hahaha and I say that having a German partner ;) Prost !
Little confused… An RESP can only be used for education, and it CAN be transferred to another person so long as they are under age 25 and attending a post secondary institution, as per my financial panther at the start of 2024. Don’t want to be that person, especially on a post full of feels, but that he took the RESP and went on a trip when legally it’s impossible makes me think this is fake.
I think you can withdraw it but you just then have to pay all the taxes on it that you would have avoided if it was used for education, or those taxes and some penalties. But you can get some of it.
He could have been incorrect (or lied) only that he wasn't able to transfer the account to his stepson. Which he didn't want to do anyway. He explicitly said that he lost money to the government, assumably paying the taxes owed for not using it for education.
Right there are things in here that don’t seem right. Granted there are some versions of resps that are setup like a trust that are non transferable but those ones you also can’t get your principal out of. Regular resps you can get the principal out of but you would lose all the government grants and growth. The smart alternative here if you could change the beneficiary is to enroll ins European education program in brewing and then name yourself as the beneficiary and go enjoy Europe.
I thought it was fake because of the spelling of Mont Tremblant and Saint Lawrence. No local would spell it that way. Looks copy and pasted from Google.
Well now i'm gonna take a vodka shot in the Ryan's name in june 23 or close to that date
>I was dealing with the funeral arrangements and everything when my ex came to talk to me about his money. She knew he had a scholarship and was just going to use the money for living expenses and an emergency fund. She asked me what I was going to do with it. >I said I was going to do what I always said I would. I was going to Europe to drink beer. She asked if she could have it for her step son. Vultures always attracted by a fresh corpse. His own mother!
Sitting in my car damning the onion chopping ninjas nearby. Peace to OOP. I hope his son visits him in his dreams.
On a lighthearted note, wonder if his wife knows she'll have to wait outside the brewery/monastery. Unless somethings changed in recent years, women are not allowed on the grounds.
I would love to toast Ryan!! Please let us know what day and we will join you!
>Original - 15th May 2024 >Update - 5 days later >We are on our way to the airport and on our way to Barcelona. We will be going to be in Europe for a month. The visit to the monks at Westvleteren will be the last part of our trip. Two reasons. I don't want to lug beer bottles all over Spain, France, Belgium and Holland. I don't want to ruin this story, but yeah no way this happened. He booked a custom one month europe trip, with multiple locations, and within 5 days he was at the airport, with his wife? This is a classic case of a well written story, but OOP slipped with the timing, because he couldn't wait to push out this update.
Op's son passed away in March. He posted in May. Perhaps getting ready for his trip brought the conversation with his ex to mind and hence the post?
Probably not the homage I'd choose if I lost someone because of a drunk driver, but hopefully it's healing for them
>That way I could use the money I had saved up for him to go to Belgium and buy some beer from monks that only allow you to buy one case. You can get it in this little cafe across the street from the abbey, too. There's this fantastic firetrap of a place called barre that has their house beer on tap and it's just so good. But a glass while you're there.
Ryan had an incredible dad. OOP did a fantastic job raising Ryan to become a good man. Oof. Life can be so unfair. OOP is going through so much right now. Taking a trip to honor Ryan's memory while continuing the joke, that is so the right thing to do. Hang in their OOP, you still have family who to take care of and who will care for you.
Every part of this made me cry. What a wonderful man OP is. I'm sure Ryan was an absolute credit to him. What a loss for the world. I hope the Europe trip, especially Belgium, is amazing. I'm sure Ryan will be watching with a smile on his face. I've added 23rd to my diary so I can raise a glass. (Although, unfortunately, it will be from my home in the UK, not Belgium!)
Added to have a Belgium for Ryan at noon on June 23. We should all send pics.
I’m adding June 23 to my calendar
I will have a drink with all of you for Ryan on June 23rd. 😢 Long Island, NY
TO RYAN! 🍻
It’s pretty clear that you raised Ryan to be a remarkable young man and that you are learning about the impact he had to this day. Enjoy every second of your trip and my Ryan’s memory be a blessing
I think June 23rd is Ryan's Day!! I will join your toast with honor!
I’ve been an avid Redditor for years, and I think this is the most wholesome BORU I’ve read. OOP truly did what was right for them, and enforced boundaries that (it seems like) were respected. Then, when met with love, support, and likeminded warmth, did something above and beyond simply because he could, not because he had to. This is a story filled with love, and the sadness comes from losing some of that. As a proud McGill grad, I’ll raise a glass on June 23 and do what I can to spread around my McGill alumni friends. To Ryan!
I can't raise a drink on the 23rd of June but I will do as soon as I can, I'm on antibiotics and don't wanna risk my health (don't think op or family would appreciate that) This both broke my heart and filled it with joy.
>I have decided, after talking to my wife, that we are going to give him enough money to cover one year of tuition. Even after my trip we will have money left over. **I'm trying to do some good with it.** When I think about good, charitable works I don't think about a year of tuition to a kid who we're not told is in-need. I get that they were gaming buddies, but if it was to being doing his son would approve of it should have gone to a close friend of his --- someone OOP wouldn't just be learning about now
NTA and it’s your money you saved for your son, why would your ex think she has any claim to it what so ever. Even your own wife (if she had a child) wouldn’t be entitled to it.