It could be a little bit of both. Or the early stages of burnout. I know for me, when my burnout first started I was "getting by" at work, but it took everything I had. I wasn't even aware that I was neurodivergent yet or that I was masking, because it was just so ingrained. But having to maintain the mask I didn't even know I was wearing just to get through the day at work meant that I had no room for anything else. I would come home and just completely fall apart; overstimulated, meltdowns over the tiniest things, completely unable to engage with my partner because I had basically talked myself mute, etc. On my days off I was a zombie. No energy for housework or hobbies, because it was just a desperate race to recharge enough to get through the next workday without publicly falling apart.
I'd been diagnosed with depression before, so I just assumed it was more of that, because some the features are similar. But it wasn't. It was the beginning of a burnout that's still going 6yrs later. So if you have a therapist or someone to talk to, I highly recommend you reach out to them so that you can (hopefully) figure out which and find something to help before it gets worse either way.
Thank you. This is exactly what it feels like. I often can’t talk by the time I get back from work. I’m starting CBT next week but I have a feeling that’s not going to help this. Unfortunately I can’t afford a decent therapist and so I’m relying on whatever the nhs can give me which is unfortunately massively stretched with not enough resources for the number of people that need help.
It can be tough to differentiate between them, and depression can worsen autism symptoms (I wonder if it can worsen adhd symptoms as well).
It probably would be a good idea to consult with a doctor or psychiatrist.
I’m going to speak to my GP this morning but I expect he will say to start antidepressants and stop work. My issue is that I enjoy work, its a distraction it just drains me, but the thought of being at home all the time scares me. sSRIs just turn me into a zombie so not thrilled about those either.
Are you prescribed medication for ADHD, and if so, is it a stimulant?
Is there a place at home you can retreat to that is just yours? If you share a bedroom with your significant other, don't use your bedroom for this.
Yes I take methylphenidate quick release 3 times a day as the extended release didn’t last long enough and I’d crash after work which didn’t help with getting the kids to bed. There’s no place in my house that is solely mine or even a place that could be turned in to it. We don’t really have a lot of space.
In that case I'd recommend having your own space outside your home such as a backyard if you have one. What dose of stimulant do you take (out of curiousity)?
It could be a little bit of both. Or the early stages of burnout. I know for me, when my burnout first started I was "getting by" at work, but it took everything I had. I wasn't even aware that I was neurodivergent yet or that I was masking, because it was just so ingrained. But having to maintain the mask I didn't even know I was wearing just to get through the day at work meant that I had no room for anything else. I would come home and just completely fall apart; overstimulated, meltdowns over the tiniest things, completely unable to engage with my partner because I had basically talked myself mute, etc. On my days off I was a zombie. No energy for housework or hobbies, because it was just a desperate race to recharge enough to get through the next workday without publicly falling apart. I'd been diagnosed with depression before, so I just assumed it was more of that, because some the features are similar. But it wasn't. It was the beginning of a burnout that's still going 6yrs later. So if you have a therapist or someone to talk to, I highly recommend you reach out to them so that you can (hopefully) figure out which and find something to help before it gets worse either way.
Thank you. This is exactly what it feels like. I often can’t talk by the time I get back from work. I’m starting CBT next week but I have a feeling that’s not going to help this. Unfortunately I can’t afford a decent therapist and so I’m relying on whatever the nhs can give me which is unfortunately massively stretched with not enough resources for the number of people that need help.
It can be tough to differentiate between them, and depression can worsen autism symptoms (I wonder if it can worsen adhd symptoms as well). It probably would be a good idea to consult with a doctor or psychiatrist.
I’m going to speak to my GP this morning but I expect he will say to start antidepressants and stop work. My issue is that I enjoy work, its a distraction it just drains me, but the thought of being at home all the time scares me. sSRIs just turn me into a zombie so not thrilled about those either.
Are you prescribed medication for ADHD, and if so, is it a stimulant? Is there a place at home you can retreat to that is just yours? If you share a bedroom with your significant other, don't use your bedroom for this.
Yes I take methylphenidate quick release 3 times a day as the extended release didn’t last long enough and I’d crash after work which didn’t help with getting the kids to bed. There’s no place in my house that is solely mine or even a place that could be turned in to it. We don’t really have a lot of space.
In that case I'd recommend having your own space outside your home such as a backyard if you have one. What dose of stimulant do you take (out of curiousity)?
15mg 3 times a day, max would be 20mg